Mastermind Parenting Podcast

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A Mastermind Parenting Masterclass (with Avery Rubenstein) Nov 26, 2024

Show notes

My daughter, Avery, is first-gen Mastermind Parenting, (once removed:) .

The “once removed” was her description - “the MMP recipe was still being perfected:)”.

She’s grown and flown now, but it’s been fascinating to watch her put Mastermind principles into practice. These days she probably teaches me more than vice versa.

Avery is on the pod this week to share some wisdom that I think you’re gonna eat right up.

She shares a few real life stories - what the “how” looks like - how to talk to kids when they are about to flip out. It’s an empathy masterclass.

As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-308

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein coaches parents raising strong willed kids. Randi searched endlessly to find the magical resource that would help her own highly sensitive, strong-willed child. (He’s now 26, healthy and happy-ish:). She’s been passionate about helping other “cycle-breaker” parents like herself for almost two decades.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma, by Pete A. Levine https://www.amazon.com/Waking-Tiger-Healing-Peter-Levine/dp/155643233X

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Helping Kids Through A Messy Divorce Nov 12, 2024

Show notes

Divorce is a reality for lots of families, and it’s a gigantic emotional challenge. As you’re struggling to realign your life, you’re also managing a lot of big feelings. You want to make things as easy as possible for your kiddos, but how can you do that when things get messy?

How do you help your kids understand what’s happening? How do you support them as they process the fear, sadness, and uncertainty they’re sure to feel?

My guest this time understands these questions, and she’s here to educate us. Rachel King is an experienced family law attorney, legal commentator, and author of an upcoming book called “Getting Divorced: Now What?”

Rachel has seen the messiest divorces up close. She know what the law says, and she understands the heartbreak and anxiety families go through. But she also know that there’s a way through it, and how to help yourself and your kids come out the other side of it.

If you’re worried about supporting your kids as you navigate a divorce, this is the episode for you.

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-307

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

About Rachel King:

Attorney Rachel King is a powerhouse in the world of family law. With over a decade of experience, she has become a force to be reckoned with in the courtroom, guiding countless families through some of the most complex and emotionally charged divorce and parenting disputes. Rachel’s unmatched determination to resolve conflicts has made her a standout in the family law arena, where she believes that the quicker a family can move forward, the sooner they can find peace.

But Rachel’s influence doesn’t stop there. She’s also the owner of Budget Legal Services, a company dedicated to making family law document preparation more accessible. And this October, she’s releasing a new book designed to help those facing divorce navigate the turbulent waters with confidence and a clear path forward.

Resources Discussed/Links

Rachel King’s website is https://rachelkingattorney.com/

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Conscious Bedtime Stories (with Andrew Newman) Oct 29, 2024

Show notes

Humans learn through story. It’s been this way for thousands of years.

For realz:).

And when you’re raising strong-willed kids, no script or tip has ever had the same impact as saying “Hey, remember in that story when...”

I think we need to take a step back from memorizing the words of the latest social media parenting professional and get back to simpler times.

Dare I say, indigenous times.

This week I have the gifted and delightful Andrew Newman, author of the Conscious Bedtime series, on the pod. Andrew writes the kind of stories I wish I had had as a kid.

Andrew helps kids and parents bond more deeply at bedtime. His conscious stories help kids learn how to regulate their emotions, by using relatable stories and beautiful illustrations that your kids will remember.

On this episode, Andrew shares one of his amazing conscious bedtime stories, and we workshop together how to utilize a story like this to deepen your relationship with your kids.

This is a teaching episode that I just think you’re going to love love love!

Here is the Youtube link if you’d like to see Andrew’s screenshare as he reads his beautiful book to us. https://youtu.be/Ospq-HCA6R0

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-306

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

About Andrew Newman:

Andrew Newman is the award-winning author and founder of www.ConsciousStories.com, a growing series of bedtime stories purpose-built to support parent-child connection in the last 20 minutes of the day.

Andrew’s TEDx Why the last 20 minutes of the day matter, weaves trauma-informed awareness and attachment bonding into the wonders of storytelling, outlining the importance of quality connection before sleep for your child's ability to regulate, rest deeply, and awake confident.

WEBSITE: www.consciousstories.com

Get your kids started with Conscious Stories using Coupon Code : PODCAST for 20% discount

INSTAGRAM @consciousbedtimestories https://www.instagram.com/consciousbedtimestories/

FACEBOOK Consciousbedtimestories https://www.facebook.com/consciousstories

Resources Discussed/Links

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Helpful Kids Without Power Struggles (a conversation with Michaeleen Doucleff) Oct 08, 2024

Show notes

Kids are naturally motivated to feel purposeful. In other words, kids want to feel like they bring value to the pack. It’s primal actually.

You see, bringing value/ helping out/ feeling as if “these people might be lost without the amazing me and my mad sweeping skillz:)”, are all ways kids feel when they are given purpose.

Purpose can be a tiny thing (clearing their plate from the table)…

Or it can be much bigger like, (reading to a younger sibling and helping to care for them).

Unfortunately, many of the ways we are taught to motivate kids do the exact opposite.

Michaeleen Doucleff, author of the parenting phenom book, Hunt Gather Parent, learned and shared a ton of wisdom from cultures that do it differently than many traditional “Western Worlders” are practicing.

We can learn to recognize the ways kids express their helpful instincts, and encourage them to feel the sense of purpose they’re seeking.

This week on the podcast this is what we are discussing. We also talk about how technology is making it harder than ever on families and why fostering that sense of purpose is more important than ever. You don’t want to miss it!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-305

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

About Michaleen Doucleff:

Michaleen Doucleff is an award-winning global health correspondent and the author of Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans. https://michaeleendoucleff.com/hunt-gather-parent/

Resources Discussed/Links

Part one of my conversation with Michaeleen: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-304

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment

What Your Kid Might Need More Than a Therapist (a conversation with Michaeleen Doucleff) Oct 02, 2024

Show notes

I’m a fan of good therapy. But I also see so many moms, who are trying to help their strong-willed ones, in the wrong order imo…they look for a therapist first, before changing anything at home.

Well this is what I’m talking about today with our fave author, Michaeleen Doucleff.

In part one of this conversation, we discuss why pack leadership seems so natural for some folks, and so elusive for others. We also get into the topic of purpose, attention seeking, attachment styles and even disagree on a few things!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-304

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

About Michaleen Doucleff:

Resources Discussed/Links

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Parenting Through Big Changes and Big Feelings (with Eli Harwood) Sep 18, 2024

Show notes

Big changes mean big feelings, and as my youngest heads off to college, I’ve been deep in them.

I’m so glad I got to talk to psychologist and attachment expert Eli Harwood about this. Eli literally calls herself The Attachment Nerd, and she totally gets it.

This one was vulnerable and raw and felt like a therapy session for me.

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-303

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

About Eli Harwood

Eli Harwood is a licensed therapist who lives in Colorado with her husband, Trevor, and their three children. Eli has been nerding out on attachment research for the past two decades and is on a mission to help make the world a better place, one relationship at a time. She continues this mission in her clinical work, her writing, and running her mouth about attachment on social media. When she isn't working to make the world a more secure place, she is playing dress-up with her kids, obsessing about her sourdough starter, and reminiscing about that one time she won a set of globes as a Price is Right contestant. Visit her at AttachmentNerd.com.

https://www.instagram.com/attachmentnerd

https://www.facebook.com/attachmentnerd/

https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentnerd?lang=en

Resources Discussed/Links

Raising Securely Attached Kids: Using Connection-Focused Parenting To Create Confidence, Empathy, And Resilience https://attachmentnerd.com/books/raising-securely-attached-kids

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Bratty Little Baby Moments and Sneaky Perfectionism Sep 05, 2024

Show notes

You know those moments, when a little deal feels like a much bigger deal?

And even though you tell yourself Don’t sweat the small stuff or Settle down, Sister…

You just can’t help it.

I call these Bratty Little Baby moments, and guess what? We all have them.

Big people. Little people.

All the people have Bratty Little Baby moments.

Why you may ask?

Cuz…

Human-ing is hard. And messy. And and and.

And the more we understand this, the less Bratty Little Baby hijacks happen.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

How suppressing meltdown moments in kids leads to self-criticism in adulthood.
The questions to ask when you’ve had a bratty moment and you’re convinced you’re a terrible parent.
Why it’s okay to lose control sometimes, even if you feel like you should know better.

And much more!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-302

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

What Your Kid Wants You To Understand Aug 21, 2024

Show notes

Have you ever met someone who is doing the thing you wish “younger you” had known?

Recently, I met Esther and wow…Just. Wow.

In many ways she reminded me of “younger me” but better.

Way. Better.

(And with a cool accent to boot:)

She’s been a mom on a mission to turn her household around. And she has implemented so much in such a short amount of time - literal lightning speed.

I feel like what took me decades to figure out has taken Esther minutes.

She’s inspiring to say the least…especially if you have an extra spicy strong willed one.

Esther started as a podcast listener and became a self-directed learner. Now she’s a committed and super impressive, pack-leading Mama Bear.

Take a listen, and imagine all the ways you can transform your family with the right support!

In this episode, you’ll learn:

How we can use tech tools and old-fashioned compassion to support moms wherever they are in their pack leadership journeys.
Why well-meaning parents mistakenly see conformity and obedience as kid-raising goals.
What I really think of the performative perfection standards too many of us hold ourselves to as parents.

And much more!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-301

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

The Highly Sensitive Child, by Elaine Aron, Ph.D. https://hsperson.com/books/the-highly-sensitive-child/

Dr. William Sears’ Attachment Parenting https://www.askdrsears.com/topics/parenting/attachment-parenting/

No Bad Parts, by Richard C. Schwartz, Ph.D. https://ifs-institute.com/nobadparts

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Masterminding Mornings Aug 13, 2024

Show notes

Getting the kids out the door in the morning…

I don’t think most parents would describe this simple daily process as simple.

But what if it could be?

When I was thinking about what to share with you on the podcast this week, I remembered this resource, and had to share it with you to help simplify the mornings and set your family up for a super successful school year.

If you need help with the morning madness, this is the episode for you.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

Why nurturing your child’s agency is so critical to making mornings less of a fight.
The top five morning tasks a kiddo needs to accomplish before they’re ready to take on the day.
How to develop a plan for morning success, and how to get your child onboard with it.

And much more!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-300

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment

Does Your Partner Acknowledge All That You Do As A Mom? Aug 06, 2024

Show notes

You listen to parenting podcasts. You read books. You are a student of how to be the best mom for your kids.

You work your tushie off for your kids…maybe even to be the parent you would’ve wanted.

I see you.

And I know you beat yourself up about the hard moments when you just can’t hold it together anymore.

And wouldn’t it be amazing to have a partner that sees all of you? All that you do. All that you are as a mom.

Would it help you to not be so hard on yourself for those “oops” moments with your kids, if your partner was there to remind you:

Remind you that you are beautiful inside and out.
Remind you that a few unproud moments don’t make you a bad mom.
Remind you that so many things are working!
Remind you that your kids are lucky to have a mom like you.

Enjoy this little back and forth convo between a dad and me about exactly this.

And if you want to start Masterminding your house, come and join us!

In this episode, you’ll learn:

How to recognize and ride the cycle of times where you feel like you’re winning, and times when you feel like you can’t do anything right.
What to do when you’re in the Messy Middle and feeling guilt over parenting mistakes you’ve made in the past.
To give yourself grace when you feel like things suck, so you don’t make yourself feel bad for feeling bad.

And much more!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-299

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links