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3. Sexual Desire: What to Do When You’re Not on the Same Page Feb 21, 2023

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Does one of you want more sex than the other? Sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma offers ideas and insight to work through differences in sexual desire.

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For more from Shaunti Feldhahn, visit Shaunti.com.
Grab Shaunti and Dr. Sytsma’s book in our shop: Secrets of Sex and Marriage: 8 Surprises That Make All the Difference.

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2. What if My Spouse Doesn’t Want Me? Sex Drive in Your Marriage Feb 14, 2023

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Does one of you want more sex than the other? Sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma offers ideas and insight to work through differences in sexual desire.
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1. When It Comes to Sex Drive–What’s Normal? Feb 07, 2023

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When it comes to sex…what’s normal? Sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma and Shaunti Feldhahn discuss research about drive, initiative, and other questions.
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13: Rapid-Fire: Questions (a lot of) Other Husbands are Asking Jul 13, 2020

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Gathered from a live audience at FamilyLife's Love Like You Mean It cruise, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn and Brian Goins answer a variety of questions from husbands--like, "Why does she ask for my opinion, then do her own thing?" "Why does she pick on my tone of voice?" "Why doesn't she say what she means?" "How can I convince her I think she looks good?" "How am I supposed to avoid fix-it mode when she talks?"
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For more from Shaunti Feldhahn, visit Shaunti.com. https://shaunti.com
Sign up for the "I Do Every Day" devotional series. https://www.familylife.com/ido/
Come join us for romance and relaxation in 2021 on FamilyLife's Love Like You Mean It® marriage cruise. https://www.lovelikeyoumeanitcruise.com/
Check out all that's available on the FamilyLife Podcast Network. https://www.familylife.com/familylife-podcast-network/
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12: Why Does My Wife Expect Me to Read Her Mind? Jul 06, 2020

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Trying to figure out why your wife expects you to know what she's thinking? Does trying to interpret all that mystery feel frustrating, even exhausting? Brian, Shaunti, and guest Jim Mitchell explore how to uncover what's whirring beneath the surface in a way that makes your wife feel known--and significantly improve your relationship.
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For more from Shaunti Feldhahn, visit Shaunti.com. https://shaunti.com
Sign up for the "I Do Every Day" devotional series. https://www.familylife.com/ido/
For Men Only by Shaunti Feldhahn. https://shop.familylife.com/product/for-men-only-revised-and-updated/
For Women Only by Shaunti Feldhahn. https://shop.familylife.com/product/for-women-only-revised-and-updated/
Check out all that's available on the FamilyLife Podcast Network. https://www.familylife.com/familylife-podcast-network/
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11: When Conflict with Your Wife Leaves You Defeated Jun 29, 2020

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In this episode, Brian, Jen, and Shaunti address the common insecurities husbands experience in conflict with their wives. At work they feel they can tackle anything, but everything changes at home when emotions enter the scene. Are you curious why late-night arguments leave you feeling outmatched? Or why you'd rather withdraw to think before processing together? Listen for the reasons behind your feelings and for some healthy conflict management tips.

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For more from Shaunti Feldhahn, visit Shaunti.com. https://shaunti.com
Shaunti's book The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages. The little things that make a BIG difference! https://shaunti.com/tb-books/surprising-secrets-highly-happy-marriages/
From Season 1: Why Is He So Touchy? https://www.familylife.com/podcast/married-with-benefits/2-why-is-he-so-touchy/
Sign up for the "I Do Every Day" devotional series. https://www.familylife.com/ido/
"When Sinners Say 'I Do': Discovering the Power of the Gospel for Marriage" by Dave Harvey. https://www.amazon.com/When-Sinners-Say-Do-Discovering/dp/0976758261
Check out all that's available on the FamilyLife Podcast Network. https://www.familylife.com/familylife-podcast-network/
Your generous support of FamilyLife helps create podcasts like Married With Benefits™. https://donate.familylife.com/married-with-benefits/

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10: My Wife Cries A Lot…Help! Jun 29, 2020

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Husbands all over the world struggle to understand and respond to their wife's tears. Considering two thirds of women admit to crying for no reason, they have good reason to. Curious why women cry so much? Shaunti and Brian, joined by Brian's wife Jen, dig into the "why" behind women's tears and some helpful "dos" and "don'ts" as you move towards your wife. Also learn how God responds to our tears.
Show Notes and Resources

For more from Shaunti Feldhahn, visit Shaunti.com. https://shaunti.com
Sign up for the "I Do Every Day" devotional series. https://www.familylife.com/ido/
For Men Only by Shaunti Feldhahn. https://shop.familylife.com/product/for-men-only-revised-and-updated/
For Women Only by Shaunti Feldhahn. https://shop.familylife.com/p-2937-for-women-only-revised-and-updated.aspx
Check out all that's available on the FamilyLife Podcast Network. https://www.familylife.com/familylife-podcast-network/
Your generous support of FamilyLife helps create podcasts like Married With Benefits™. https://donate.familylife.com/married-with-benefits/

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9: Every Hallmark Movie Is The Same. Why Does She Still Watch Those? Jun 16, 2020

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In season #1 of Married With Benefits we explained what a wife can learn about the mind of her husband from watching ESPN. Here Brian and Shaunti explain the heart of most wives as revealed in Hallmark movies. What core question is she asking that a good love story answers? What insecurities does she carry that she's hoping you will cover? Good news: You don't need to go ice skating or build a rocking chair out of raw cedar to win her heart every day.
Show Notes and Resources

For more from Shaunti Feldhahn, visit Shaunti.com. https://shaunti.com
Hallmark Christmas Movie Plot Generator: https://wronghands1.com/2019/11/29/hallmark-christmas-movie-plot-generator/
From Season 1: "Why Doesn’t My Marriage Look Anything Like a Hallmark Movie?" https://www.familylife.com/podcast/married-with-benefits/14-why-doesnt-my-marriage-look-anything-like-a-hallmark-movie/
Sign up for the "I Do Every Day" devotional series. https://www.familylife.com/ido/
For Men Only by Shaunti Feldhahn. https://www.familylife.com/podcast/married-with-benefits/9-every-hallmark-movie-is-the-same-why-does-she-still-watch-those/
Check out all that's available on the FamilyLife Podcast Network. https://www.familylife.com/familylife-podcast-network/
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8: Why Aren’t Decisions Ever Final For My Wife? Jun 08, 2020

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Does it feel like decisions are never final with your wife? Does she like to "taaaaaaaaaalk" things thru way too long? And what should you do when it feels like she's questioning a decision you've made and felt was final? Host Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn explore this common experience with humor, wisdom, and insight on how to finally "lock in" her answer.
Show Notes and Resources

For more from Shaunti Feldhahn, visit Shaunti.com. https://shaunti.com
For Men Only by Shaunti Feldhahn. https://www.familylife.com/podcast/married-with-benefits/8-why-arent-decisions-ever-final-for-my-wife/
For Women Only by Shaunti Feldhahn. https://shop.familylife.com/product/for-women-only-revised-and-updated/
Check out all that's available on the FamilyLife Podcast Network. https://www.familylife.com/familylife-podcast-network/
Your generous support of FamilyLife helps create podcasts like Married With Benefits™. https://donate.familylife.com/married-with-benefits/

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7. How can I restore trust after pornography or an affair? Jun 01, 2020

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How can a couple restore trust in the area of sexual brokenness (pornography, affairs, etc.)? Licensed sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma joins host Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn to instruct husbands and wives on the necessary steps to take to bring the darkness into the light and tenaciously hold on to the God of hope.
Show Notes and Resources

From season 1: "Questions Every Wife is Asking: How Can A Good Man Be Tempted By Porn?" https://www.familylife.com/podcast/married-with-benefits/3-how-can-a-good-man-be-tempted-by-porn/
Meet our guest today, Dr. Mike Sytsma. https://intimatemarriage.org/project/dr-mike/
Are you looking to invest in your marriage or repair broken trust? https://www.familylife.com/weekend-to-remember/
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