Make Your Damn Bed

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1631 || are you becoming the morality police? Dec 05, 2025

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have been trying to stop thinking of every single decision I make as some deep moral test. Every time I stay in the shower a little too long, or support a shitty company, or buy a product wrapped in single use plastic, isn’t a condemnation of all of my character. I am not going to hell. I am not broken. I am not a piece of shit. I am a human being, set up to fail, but doing my best any-damn-way.

It’s not your job to save the world, but don’t let yourself forget how fulfilling and important it can be to inconvenience yourself, on behalf of love, when the time is right.

I try to only focus on doing the next, right thing. Which, naturally, will be based on the context, the situation, the energy, the capacity of everyone involved, etc.

The key is balance and discretion, which I will call: alignment.

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1630 || the swiss cheese method Dec 04, 2025

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I have complex feelings about our personal responsibility. As we know the richest 1% cause more climate damage than over half of humanity. 57 companies are linked to 80% of greenhouse emissions, but our society has pushed us into the thinking its ALL our personal responsibility OR it's not at all. But all or nothing thinking is counter-productive and self-defeating.

Instead think of every single imperfect (but inspired) action as a slice of swiss cheese.

Sure, some harms may still make their way through the holes. But the more slices you stack on top of each other, the less those holes line up. And eventually, you create a pretty impenetrable block of actions that remind you that the holes were not a problem to begin with.

Imperfect action > no action.

Read the Inner Self Article on How to Make the World a Better Place.

Read about the Swiss Cheese Method.

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1629 || shifting from apathy to agency Dec 03, 2025

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We can actually build a better world, but we have to break the cycle of cynicism, first.

THE CYCLE OF CYNICISM

1. Finding out about a problem

2. Wanting to do something to help

3. Not seeing how you can help

4. Not doing anything about it

5. Feeling sad, powerless, angry

6. Deciding that nothing can be done

7. Beginning to shut down

8. Wanting to know less about problems

9. Repeat until apathy results.

THE CYCLE OF HOPE

1. Taking personal responsibility for being a good person

2. Creating a vision of a better world based on your values

3. Seeking out quality information about the world's problems

4. Discovering practical options for action

5. Acting in line with your values

6. Recognizing you can't do everything

7. Repeat until better world results.

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1628 || shifting from a cycle of cynicism to a cycle of hope Dec 02, 2025

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We can actually build a better world, but we have to break the cycle of cynicism, first.

THE CYCLE OF CYNICISM

1. Finding out about a problem

2. Wanting to do something to help

3. Not seeing how you can help

4. Not doing anything about it

5. Feeling sad, powerless, angry

6. Deciding that nothing can be done

7. Beginning to shut down

8. Wanting to know less about problems

9. Repeat until apathy results.

THE CYCLE OF HOPE

1. Taking personal responsibility for being a good person

2. Creating a vision of a better world based on your values

3. Seeking out quality information about the world's problems

4. Discovering practical options for action

5. Acting in line with your values

6. Recognizing you can't do everything

7. Repeat until better world results.

Read the Inner Self Article on How to Make the World a Better Place.

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1627 || but we're all so cynical Dec 01, 2025

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We can actually build a better world, but we have to break the cycle of cynicism, first.

Read the Inner Self Article on How to Make the World a Better Place.

Watch a video about Kinesin (motor protein).

Read the report on Violent Crime And Media Coverage In One City: A Statistical Snapshot

Read the American Military University article on media coverage of violent crime.

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1626 || time worship Nov 30, 2025

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The invention of the modern clock has turned time into a commodity. It's something you can spend, save, waste, lose, or trade for money directly.

Clocks should be a tool, not a box. Yet we have curated our entire lives around the 24 hour clock, sometimes to the detriment of our natural biology.

World Atlas on the History of Time

The philosophy institute on Tribal Calendars

University of New Mexico on Time Keepers.

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1625 || one must imagine sisyphus happy Nov 29, 2025

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“Do you think that the trees grow tired every winter of having to shed their leaves and think to themselves, I don’t want to go through another bitter winter? And when it comes time to regrow them in the spring, do you think they say “I don’t want to push new buds out, I don’t want to form new growth and bear new fruits.”

“You don’t have to struggle your way to a state of perfection, you just have to surrender to the cycles and let yourself begin to enjoy the unfolding process of your life.” - Eliza Day

Access the free version of the original Camus text,

Access the Myth of Sisyphus wikipedia.

Watch the Eliza Day video from Tiktok.

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1624 || longtermism Nov 28, 2025

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A society grows great when old men plant trees under whose shade they know they’ll never sit.

Yesterday we discussed the difficult task of creating Long-term nuclear waste warning messages, today I want to talk about longtermism, or the idea of doing the right thing for the future generations.

William MacAskill on Longtermism
Read about Long Term Nuclear Waste Warning Messages at BBC.
Listen to 99% Invisible's Podcast or the Stuff You Should Know podcast on the long term messages.
More reading: https://longtermism.com/
And: https://80000hours.org/articles/future-generations/
And: https://www.forethought.org/longtermism

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1623 || what to talk about, after the arguing (the nuclear waste problem) Nov 27, 2025

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If you need a conversation starter to break the awkward lulls and post-fight silences at your Thanksgiving dinner, I HIGHLY suggest looking up the wikipedia page for Long-term nuclear waste warning messages + discussing it with any and everyone who will engage.

The question: How can we effectively communicate a truly DEADLY danger 10,000 years in the future?

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1622 || the limiting nature of overthinking Nov 26, 2025

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"If we focus [too much] on ourselves and how we feel, then we are limiting our experiences by definition." Victoria Spratt wrote, in her article: "You’re Thinking About Yourself Too Much"

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