Make Your Damn Bed

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1639 || 10 ways to connect to your purpose Dec 15, 2025

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Today I share 10 scientifically backed ways to connect with your personal (subjective) sense of purpose. You can watch the original video that I quoted in today's episode here.

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you're not running late (rerelease) Dec 14, 2025

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You haven't peaked. You haven't plateaued. You aren't "cooked" or "spent" or "done". You may actually be suffering from something called "hurry sickness" and it can be managed with some conscious effort.

Psych Central's Hurry Sickness Article

Healthline on Hurry Sickness

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the end result of chronic stress (re-release) Dec 13, 2025

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Originally posted on day 1375

Stage 1 – Honeymoon

Initial commitment and excitement to engage in tasks. For example, when you first start your journey in a new activism group.

Stage 2 – Onset of stress

Common symptoms of stress start being felt, such as fatigue, lower productivity and sleep disturbances.

Stage 3 – Chronic Stress

Lack of motivation + more intense symptoms felt on a very frequent basis. At this stage, bad habits such as smoking, drinking etc may begin

Stage 4 – Burnout

Difficulty even to cope with the minimum of daily tasks. Everything seems dull and ugly, and the person starts feeling either numb or else always overwhelmed.

Stage 5 – Habitual burnout

Symptoms of burnout become incorporated into normal life and person experiences chronic fatigue, depression and apathy.

The Resource: https://commonslibrary.org/activist-burnout-guide-with-videos/

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1638 || breaking up with your phone Dec 12, 2025

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Instead of trying to get rid of dopamine, focus on stepping away from habits and behaviors that no longer serve you.

Read the Harvard Article on Dopamine Fasting here.

Read the Cleveland Clinic's: Dopamine Detoxes Don’t Work: Here’s What To Do Instead

Read Can the ‘Dopamine Detox’ Trend Break a Digital Addiction?

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1637 || how to stop scrolling so damn much Dec 11, 2025

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How to stop scrolling.

Start from where you are.
Recognize what is a systemic issue.
Practice "deciding" with intention when scrolling.
Practice staying focused and catching yourself when you get distracted on your phone.
Decouple your association of "dopamine" with "scrolling.
Practice the standard addiction coping strategies: Make the desired habits more accessible + attractive. Make the habit you'd like to change less attractive + accessible.
Practice mindful breathing work while you scroll.
Practice ENGAGING with what you consume, instead of mindlessly consuming.
Remember problem isn't the dopamine, it's typically the source... so make the sources you'd rather engage with more accessible + attractive for yourself.

You don't have to climb out of the hole today - but you can celebrate the fact that you finally stopped digging.

Watch the Newel of Knowledge video "

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1636 || dopamine detoxes are useless Dec 10, 2025

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Why would you want to disconnect from your joy, when trying to restore your sense of joy?

You can't go on a T-break for pleasure. Instead, focus on the modifying the way you get your pleasure, instead of eliminating the pleasure itself.

Dopamine is just one neurotransmitter responsible for our sense of pleasure + joy. We can't and shouldn't want to detox our dopamine levels. Dopamine is essential to motivating us to do everything from moving our bodies, to sleeping properly. This is why people with dopamine issues, depression, ADHD, etc. often struggle with physical and executive functioning.

The problem isn't the dopamine, it's typically the source.

Read The Cleveland clinic's Dopamine Detox Article.

Read NPR's article on Dopamine Detoxing.

Read The Cleveland Clinic's description of Anhedonia.

Read the Anhedonia Coping Tips from UCI Health.

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1635 || it really is these damn phones Dec 09, 2025

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I've been working on my relationship with my phone, on and off, for years. Sometimes, I use it as a tool. Sometimes, it feels like it's using me as a tool.

Genuine + deeply rooted ad fatigue, traumatic events sprung upon me, most content is some form of engagement/rage/anxiety/fear bait, brain rot + ai slop, trolls + bot accounts. Misinformation + disinformation campaigns financed by literal government entities.

It's disheartening to feel like I am the tool being used, and I think I am finally ready to confront this toxic relationship.

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1634 || when nothing sounds fun anymore Dec 08, 2025

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People associate the feeling of feeling the most alive when they’re laughing and playing and goofing off. People feel the most connected with their purpose and life and future and desire to make the world a better place, when they are connected to joy + their ability to have fun once in a while.

But for some reason, as we get older - we make less and less time for play. We find it frivolous and silly and a waste of time... but that means some us have lost our joie de vivre because we forgot how to play.

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1633 || analyzing the fun out of it Dec 07, 2025

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I overthink things that don't require second thought. I suck the fun out of joyful activities by worrying about doing it "correctly" or "perfectly" or performing "well enough to not embarrass myself" yet...

even when there is no audience, I find myself performing.

The expectations take away the true joy that comes from "creating" and "play" and "love" and "fun" and I'm trying to pay attention to this tendency so I can sit with the discomfort of not knowing if I will do a good job or not, but committing anyway.

Watch the Junk Journaling video that I referenced here.

Play the video game: Life is Strange.

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1632 || allergic to wondering Dec 06, 2025

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We love answers. We love conclusions. We tend to steer clear of open ended problems and tasks, because of this.

But there are so many things that leave us with open ended problems that we will never be able to solve.

Learning to tolerate that discomfort is an important skill to practice.

The "right" answers don't exist. Let go of your "need" to know. Embrace the wholeness of the human experience; which means, we must learn to embrace the discomfort of wondering.

Listen to the "I Hate Mysteries" episode of This American Life.

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