Make Your Damn Bed

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892 || a few adhd "hacks" Aug 11, 2023

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ADHD is not an easy thing to cope with, but there are people out there sharing what's worked for them, and that works for me. And as the famous @the-majestic-cheese-turtle once advised: "waterproof clock in the shower, trash can with automatic lids, wall hooks for your regular hoodie, and clear bins so that things can be stored but aren't invisible." may be a great place to start. Also @earthtokk suggests we reframe our thinking of the process of chores as a thing to finish, and consider it a cycle we can jump in and out of as needed, and I really appreciated that.

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891 || a few adhd studies Aug 10, 2023

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Women have been chronically left out of important conversations for generations, but the science community is finally putting some effort into studying ADHD and the effects of a late-stage diagnosis. Today, I highlight a few of those.

RESOURCES: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7422602/

https://neurodivergentinsights.com/misdiagnosis-monday/adhd-vs-autism

https://www.therapyden.com/blog/adhd-statistics

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890 || rewriting rules Aug 09, 2023

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key to challenging negative core beliefs is to start by identifying them, so we can understand them and critique them for their inconsistencies or harmful perpetuation of behaviors. Uncovering the hidden influences can help us remember our power against their impact!

RESOURCES + LINKS: https://positivepsychology.com/socratic-questioning/

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889 || assumption soup Aug 08, 2023

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when we make assumptions, we are living within the walls of those assumptions. when we choose black and white, all or nothing thinking, we don’t account for the magic that lies in the color, and the gray. these deeply rooted interpretation of ourselves cause us to assume things are true when often they are not, but they also limit us to the (often bleak) filter we’ve been interpreting the world through.

RESOURCES + LINKS:https://www.verywellmind.com/how-to-challenge-your-negative-core-beliefs-7554706

https://positivepsychology.com/core-beliefs-worksheets/

https://positive.b-cdn.net/wp-content/uploads/2020/06/Table-of-Common-Core-Beliefs.pdf

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888 || a core beliefs filter Aug 07, 2023

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For our entire lives, every single one of us has been developing a filter through which we see and interpret the world. This filter dictates the stories we tell ourselves about ourselves, about other people, and the world around us, but because we’ve carried this narrator with us our entire lives, it can be hard to tell which stories are actually fiction, and it can be even more difficult to remember that we can sometimes rewrite happier through line, for certain stories that aren’t as helpful anymore.

LINK:https://www.verywellmind.com/how-to-challenge-your-negative-core-beliefs-7554706

https://positivepsychology.com/core-beliefs-worksheets/

https://positive.b-cdn.net/wp-content/uploads/2020/06/Table-of-Common-Core-Beliefs.pdf

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887 || dealing with intentional incompetence Aug 06, 2023

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Weaponized incompetence refers to the deliberate use of ignorance, incompetence, or lack of skill in a relationship as a manipulative tactic to avoid responsibility, gain control, or shift blame onto the other person. This form of manipulation can be harmful and destructive to the dynamics of a relationship, leading to frustration, resentment, and a lack of trust. Understanding how weaponized incompetence manifests itself is crucial in identifying and addressing such behaviors.

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886 || discussing emotional labor finale Aug 05, 2023

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balancing the gap between partners can be tricky because it's not going to be a 50/50, simple, black and white split down the center. there may be times when one partner is picking up more slack than the other, but because our lil ecosystems (homes) will need different things at different times, we need to figure out HOW. So today, we talk about potential ways to approach discussing the mental load with your partner.

RESOURCES: https://english.emmaclit.com/2017/05/20/you-shouldve-asked/ and https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/what-is-the-mental-load

https://camillestyles.com/wellness/mental-load/

https://behavioralscientist.org/how-couples-share-cognitive-labor-and-why-it-matters/

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885 || how to talk about it Aug 04, 2023

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LINK: https://english.emmaclit.com/2017/05/20/you-shouldve-asked/

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884 || fair play method Aug 03, 2023

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fair play method by eve rodsky is a badass way to approach the imbalance of cognitive labor that needs to keep a household running. It may be hard to ask others to contribute, but if they're able - they should be pulling their weight. and addressing it doesn't have to be a conflict, with the right approach.

RESOURCES: https://english.emmaclit.com/2017/05/20/you-shouldve-asked/ and https://camillestyles.com/wellness/mental-load/ and

https://behavioralscientist.org/how-couples-share-cognitive-labor-and-why-it-matters/

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883 || balancing the worry gap || patreon Aug 02, 2023

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there may be times when one partner is picking up more slack than the other, but because our lil ecosystems (homes) will need different things at different times, I felt it important to rant about the heteronormative piece of the pie for a few minutes, today.

LINK: https://english.emmaclit.com/2017/05/20/you-shouldve-asked/

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