Loving On Purpose

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Self-Pity Is Never Helpful Apr 27, 2022

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It can become so easy to feel some self-pity when we are not having the relationship we would like to have with our adult children. We justify having these pity parties but they never help us feel better. They just add "fuel to the fire". Why? Because feeling sorry for ourselves keeps us stuck in the cycle of thinking negative thoughts, especially when it comes to our thoughts about our relationship with our adult child. Tune in to learn how to get out of self-pity.
I help you stop struggling in your relationship with your adult children.
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*Book a free, 60 minute consult with me
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You can also follow me on or DM me on Instagram @bonnielymancoaching.
Questions? Suggestions for podcast topics. Email me at bonnie@bonnielyman.com

I am no longer offering my 8-week coaching program, but I remain fully committed to supporting parents of adult children. If you have questions or need guidance, you’re welcome to reach out to me directly at bonnie@bonnielyman.com.

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

Life Is Like A Puzzle Waiting to Be Solved Apr 20, 2022

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Have you ever done a zig saw puzzle before and you just knew when they cut the puzzle they left a piece out? Sometimes our problems in life feel the same. Sometimes we create problems that aren't even problems. It's so much easier to whine about a problem than to embrace it. We know they are coming but we still avoid or neglect them. What if we thought about them as being a part of living a full life? Did you know our brains love to solve problems so much that it will create a problem if they cannot find one? It is easier to solve a problem when we choose to be a part of the solution to the problem rather than a part of the problem.
I help you fix your relationship with your adult children so you can feel connected to them.
If you want to know more about me go to bonnielyman.com
Book a free, 60 minute consult with me
Sign up for my weekly email
Receive my free resource, on Three Remedies to Connect with Your Adult Children,.
You can also follow me on or DM me on Instagram @bonnielymancoaching.
Questions? Suggestions for podcast topics. Email me at bonnie@bonnielyman.com

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

Who Do You Want To Be? Apr 13, 2022

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Who do you want to be? This podcast will help you become that person. I will give you step be step instructions on how to become this person. It's one of the best uses of the Model you will ever use, but we work backwards.
Action: Kind Person
Feeling: Compassionate, loving
Thought: People are doing the best they can at this moment in their life.
You can reprogram your brain to default to this thought every time you are dealing with difficult people. (well, not every time: we after all human). I will show you how. If you are unfamiliar with the Model, listen to Episode 7, the Model Is The Magic Sauce.
I help moms navigate life with their adult children. If you want to know more about me go to bonnielyman.com . And to sign up for any of the free resourceslisted below:
Book a free, 60 minute consult with me
Sign up for my weekly email
Receive my free resource, on Three Remedies to Connect with Your Adult Children,.
You can also follow me on or DM me on Instagram @bonnielymancoaching.
Questions? Suggestions for podcast topics. Email me at bonnie@bonnielyman.com

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

Curiosity: A Behavior Worth Practicing Apr 06, 2022

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The land of being curious is safe, compassionate, and loving. We can be judgmental, or loving is best, but to get there we might need sometimes to go through being curious. Curious about our thoughts and whether they are good thoughts to focus on; curious about why our adult children make some of the choices they make; curious about who you want to be to your adult children and the world when unfulfilled expectations show up; and curious, genuinely curious, lovingly curious, curiosity that causes you to understand and show interest and love to your child when he goes against all of your most important values.
I help moms navigate life with their adult children. If you want to know more about me go to bonnielyman.com . And to sign up for any of the free resourceslisted below:
Book a free, 60 minute consult with me
Sign up for my weekly email
Receive my free resource, on Three Remedies to Connect with Your Adult Children,.
You can also follow me on or DM me on Instagram @bonnielymancoaching.
Questions? Suggestions for podcast topics. Email me at bonnie@bonnielyman.com

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

Why Adversity Is A Blessing In Our Lives Mar 30, 2022

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Instead of hiding and running from adversity, why not welcome it. Adversity can teach us lessons, strengthen us, and show us how God is the the details of our lives like nothing else can. We are dependent upon having adversity in our lives to have those amazing moments be so amazing. It is part of living a well lived life so let us give a big welcome to adversity. After listening to this episode you may not seek it it but hopefully when it comes, you will not fear it.
I help moms navigate life with their adult children. If you want to know more about me go to bonnielyman.com . And to sign up for any of the free resourceslisted below:
Book a free, 60 minute consult with me
Sign up for my weekly email
Receive my free resource, on Three Remedies to Connect with Your Adult Children,.
You can also follow me on or DM me on Instagram @bonnielymancoaching.
Questions? Suggestions for podcast topics. Email me at bonnie@bonnielyman.com

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

Practice Feeling Your Negative Emotions Mar 23, 2022

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We are impatient beings, we human beings are. It is so uncomfortable being uncomfortable. What if we welcomed the negative emotions that come on a daily basis. Those negative experiences make the good experiences even better. It is when we are feeling discomfort that we go to work to solve some of our most important decisions. It is in the midst of hard things that we grow strong and resilient . Even learning to manage our thoughts to feel the feelings we want to feel can cause us to feel some negative emotions. Don't miss out on living a full life by not getting really good at feeling the negative feelings along with the positive ones.
I help moms navigate life with their adult children. If you want to know more about me go to bonnielyman.com . And to sign up for any of the free resourceslisted below:
Book a free, 60 minute consult with me
Sign up for my weekly email
Receive my free resource, on Three Remedies to Connect with Your Adult Children,.
You can also follow me on or DM me on Instagram @bonnielymancoaching.
Questions? Suggestions for podcast topics. Email me at bonnie@bonnielyman.com

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

When Your Children Leave the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints Mar 16, 2022

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It upsets our lives when our children stray from what we tried so diligently and purposely to teach them. We grieve over our heartbrokenness ..... which is a very healthy and repairing thing to do. But then what? Sometimes we get so stuck in our despair and disappointment that it has a major impact on our lives. We want to accept what they have done and move on with our lives but we don't know how to. If we can view what's going on in our children's lives from a different perspective, we can begin to grow away from judgment, inching our way to acceptance and then love. Part of Heavenly Father's plan was that we would all make mistakes; some of life's lessons are best learned from mistakes. We are either judging each other or loving each other.....judgement never feels good; love always feels best. Tune in to learn how to get out of despair and into acceptance, peace, and love.
I help moms navigate life with their adult children. If you want to know more about me go to bonnielyman.com . And to sign up for any of the free resources listed below:
Book a free, 60 minute consult with me
Sign up for my weekly email
Receive my free resource, on Three Remedies to Connect with Your Adult Children,.
You can also follow me on or DM me on Instagram @bonnielymancoaching.
Questions? Suggestions for podcast topics. Email me at bonnie@bonnielyman.com

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

When We Think Our Children Are Making the Wrong Choice Mar 09, 2022

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Our brains do not like change. So it hangs on tight to thoughts that often times don't serve us. They hang onto thoughts that want us to keep believing that when our adult children make choices contrary to our values, they are making the wrong choice. But maybe exercising their agency the very way they choose to, offers them opportunities to figure out who they want to be in this life. Our job is not to judge them because judgement only brings pain to us.....Our job is to figure out who we want to be. Do we want to be the parent that unconditionally loves despite our children's behavior; like the Savior loves us despite our behavior? Tune in to learn why "it's all good"
I help moms navigate life with their adult children. If you want to know more about me go to bonnielyman.com to book a consult with me, sign up for my weekly email, and/or receive my free resource on three ways to connect with your adult children,.
You can also follow me on or DM me on Instagram @bonnielymancoaching.
Questions? Suggestions for podcast topics. Email me at bonnie@bonnielyman.com

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

Life with Adult Children Struggling with Independence with Jodi Schilling Mar 02, 2022

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I am excited to be interviewing Jodi Schilling today. She is a certified Life Coach who works with moms who are navigating raising children with neuro diversity. A neuro divergent child is a child that is born with significant challenges in learning and in communicating their needs.
She doesn't view being neuro divergent as being negative. After all, we all struggle with learning and communicating. These children were born with more severe neuro disabilities, jeopardizing their ability to learn at the same ability as many other children.
Jodi helps moms first grieve; then start transforming themselves from being a broken mom to one that is happy and confident. She helps them feel confident enough to know when to assist and when to let their children exercise their own independence.
Tune in to listen to her perspective on what your role as a mom is when children with neuro diversity become adults.
Here is how you can follow or contact Jodi Schilling:
Website;
https://www.goodmomcoach.com/
Instagram;
https://www.instagram.com/goodmomcoach
Facebook;
https://www.facebook.com/goodmomcoach
The Good Mom Podcast with Jodi Schilling
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-good-mom-podcast/id1540467867
https://open.spotify.com/show/4yOL8IcK8ACraxtg1qPZ3h?si=s4PpRkVqTK2bTaZh9KNVwA
If you enjoyed this podcast, share it with someone who is struggling.
I help moms navigate life with their adult children. If you want to know more about me go to bonnielyman.com to book a consult with me, to sign up for my weekly email, to receive my free resource, Three Ways to Connect with Your Adult Children, and to read my blog posts.
You can also follow me on .
Follow me on Instagram @bonnielymancoaching.
Email: bonnie@bonnielyman.com

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

People That Hurt Others Are Hurting Feb 23, 2022

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This has been the most influential, amazing concept I have learned from being trained as a life coach. I need to give credit where credit is due, to my mentor and instructor Brooke Castillo. Responsible adults do not intentionally wake up in the morning with the intention to make someone feel bad. When your adult children say things to that are unkind, do things that are hurtful, or seemingly ignore you, they are not intentionally wanting to cause you to have thoughts that cause you to feel hurt. They are hurting; there is something in their life with which they are struggling. We all struggle with something. When you can embody this concept, you are on the threshold of learning how to love and have compassion for your adult children. Tune in to learn how to be a kinder, compassionate person.
I ask you to please share this episode with anyone who is struggling in their relationship with their adult children who you feel might benefit from listening to this episode.
I help moms navigate life with their adult children. If you want to know more about me go to bonnielyman.com to book a consult with me, sign up for my weekly email, receive my free resource on three ways to connect with your adult children, and read my blog posts
You can also follow me on Instagram @bonnielymancoaching.

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

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