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CC: Radical Permission with Hayden Dawes Feb 06, 2021

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Hayden Dawes is a licensed social worker whose practice experience includes hospital social work, mental health, and addiction treatment, in addition to people involved in the legal system. Although grounded in relational-experiential approaches to mental health treatment, Hayden has been trained in advanced trauma modalities and remains curious about all forms of mental health treatments. Hayden is currently a Ph.D. student at the University of North Carolina-Chapel Hill's School of Social Work. His research is in examining the psychosocial challenges impacting people of color and LGBTQIA+ individuals. He is also interested in seeking advanced methods to intervene on providers' implicit and explicit biases. In response to racial injustice within the mental health practitioner community, Hayden wrote an article that was featured on Medium titled "An Invitation to White Therapists" it has since been widely used in direct practice education, consultation, and supervision. Hayden currently resides in Greensboro NC with his partner of 10 years. Hayden is an avid crossfitter, traveler, dance partner, and reality-tv specialist. During the COVID pandemic, Hayden expanded his personal "radical permission"practice to create a #radicalpermission project for the greater community across social media platforms, to encourage people to set intentions with grace.

EP 282: Feeling Enough No Matter What with Jessie Feb 03, 2021

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This call is about feeling safe and feeling enough. Today's caller, Jessie, has been struggling with childhood trauma and is self-soothing by buying things she doesn't need. Any of you who struggle with not-enoughness, or have been labeled as having ADD, or are not sure if you have dealt with your childhood trauma, this is a great episode for you.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode282]

The unconscious drives about 90-95% of our behavior. We come from our past trauma or our limiting beliefs until we reach a point where we are aware of it and choose and attract something differently.

Often, people who struggle with low self-worth or of not-enoughness are constantly trying to compensate by doing, talking, and proving. They are not great at reaching out for support because there is a level of trauma that still is running the show. There comes a point when trauma becomes part of our learning and part of the things that helped us grow and part of the things that have evolved our soul but before it gets there it becomes the thing to create our reality until we shift it.

For coaches and therapists, when you have a client who seems to dart around and doesn't land on one thing for very long, it indicates that they just don't feel safe, and feeling safe is everything.

Remember, we attract at the level of our issues until we heal those and move into a different frequency.

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

Do you shop too much or have some kind of behavior you know is not healthy but you just can't stop yourself from doing it?
Do you struggle with feeling not enough?
Do you have a lot of childhood trauma or chaos you have done your best to cope with but don't know if you are totally free?
Have you and do you accept all parts of yourself?

Jessie's Question:

Jesse struggles with childhood trauma and not-enoughness. She wants to feel safe and enough.

Jessie's Key Insights and Ahas:

She buys things she feels will make her look a certain way.
Her mother is overly critical.
She self-soothes with shopping.
She doesn't feel safe.
She lost her brother and her dad early in life.
She has been labeled as having ADD.
She lived in fear as a child due to her dad's abusiveness.
She has done talk therapy.
She is overwhelmed when she has to do adult things.
She feels alone.
There was chaos in her childhood.
Her nervous system is delicate.
She is trying to handle too much at once.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

Grieve the relationship she hasn't had.
Invoke the loving mother inside herself.
Stop judging herself for doing something she is trying to transform.
Stop dating for a while.
Find a source for trauma or somatic therapy with whom she feels safe.
Understand there is nothing wrong with her.

Takeaways For You:

Ask your body, which is connected to your inner child, what it needs?
If you are a parent, one of the best things you can do is do your own work. Invest in yourself. If you are a great parent to your inner child, you will be a better parent to your own child.
Join the inner child workshop.
Seek out support and get help.
Sign up for the group call or join the Inner Child Workshop.

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Resources:

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CC: Get Unstuck and Design your Dream Career with Ashley Stahl Jan 30, 2021

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If you are feeling confused, frustrated or stuck regarding your career, this is the interview for you. Ashley Stahl joins Christine to talk about the ways you can get clarity on your next career move, learn the 10 core skill sets that exist in the workforce and more!

Ashley is counter-terrorism professional turned career coach and author of the book You Turn: Get Unstuck, Discover Your Direction, Design Your Dream Career, and she's on a mission to help you step into a career you're excited about and aligned with. She supports clients in 31 countries in discovering their best career path, upgrading their confidence and landing more job offers. Her book-- along with $2,000 worth of free courses on money mindset, getting clarity on your career, and starting your side hustle -- is available now at YouTurnBook.com.

EP 281: Has Your Relationship Hit a Rut? With Jasmine Jan 27, 2021

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This call is about being the change you want to see in a relationship. Today's caller, Jasmine, would like more intimacy and connection in her marriage. We work through how the relationship dynamics have changed and the childhood wounding that may be affecting her and her husband. Whether you are in a relationship or not, if you are someone who wishes someone else would change or wish someone would be different, this is an episode you should listen to.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode281]

Both men and women have masculine and feminine energy in us. It is like the Yin and Yang. They go together in balance. Most of us have one energetic that sits in front of the other. The feminine yearns for presence, affection, and intimacy. The masculine energy is focused. It is responsible, but it can be in the shadow masculine if it is focused to the point that it is ignoring emotional availability.

I am making a massive generalization here, but I see women, for a while, putting more work into a relationship. Then, after learning to drop into their feminine they often expect something to change in the other person. If you decide to be more into your feminine energy, be sure to do it freely, without expectation.

When we are the invitation; when we are the change that we want to see... that is truly the only way change is created. Are you the invitation without expectation? Or, are you being the invitation because you want something to happen?

Connecting to your inner child is February's topic for the Virtual Group Coaching Call. $20 is all it cost to connect with your inner child and other like-minded people.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

Are you in a bit of a relationship rut? Has a relationship, marriage, or even a friendship been going along for years and it's good but there's something you would like to change?
Have responsibilities in your life made you grow apart from your partner?
Are you the more conscious one in a relationship and feel like you are constantly wanting your partner to grow or be conscious with you and they just seem to stay where they are?
Are you aware that the most intimate relationships in your life often trigger your childhood issues?

Jasmine's Question:

Jasmine wants more connection and intimacy from her husband of 11 years.

Jasmine's Key Insights and Ahas:

She has been married for 11 years.
She and her husband lead a busy life.
She would like more emotional intimacy from her husband.
She is doing consciousness work.
She has shifted the relationship dynamic.
She has tried initiating physical contact.
She has childhood wounding with regard to her father.
She loves small quiet moments.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

Create what she wants in the relationship.
Acknowledge her husband more.
Be vulnerable to create intimacy.
Step into her feminine energy and be the invitation.
Do not try to get Dad's love from her husband.
Be inspired to move toward love.
Download the Sacred Union process and possibly share it with her husband.

Takeaways For You:

Are there patterns in your relationship where you may be breeding resentment based on old stories that need to be updated?
Would a little bit of relationship detoxing shift your relationship to the next level?
If you want something to change be the invitation for it.
Consider joining us for our Inner Child Workshop.
Download our free guided Sacred Union process.

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

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CC: The Art of the Impossible with Steven Kotler Jan 23, 2021

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In this episode you'll learn why everyone (even you!!) is wired for peak performance. Steven Kotler New York Times bestselling author and peak performance expert—on a science-based approach to unleash our full potential and succeed against all odds. During a time when it's easy to give up, Kotler teaches us how to exceed our limitations with his newest book, The Art of the Impossible. Kotler decodes the secrets of elite performers, including top CEOs, Olympic athletes, and respected artists—many of whom his organization Flow Research Collective trains. Listen and learn the role of flow in pulling off the impossible, how to become exponentially more productive, and how to innovate in mind and matter. Grab Steven's book here: https://www.stevenkotler.com/ Learn more about him here: https://www.harpercollins.com/products/the-art-of-impossible-steven-kotler?variant=32126584881186

EP 280: How Working Too Hard on Yourself is a Block to What You Desire with Dani Jan 20, 2021

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This call is about self-acceptance and leading a fully-expressed life. Dani calls in looking for guidance on how to get out of the funk she is in. She feels unmotivated and burned out. But, as we discuss, the beautiful thing about burnout is that it is a wake-up call to tell us we are living in an unsustainable way. It is in the unknown that magical opportunities present themselves. When we plan and control everything there is little room for the universe to surprise us.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode280]

A lot of us are committed to personal growth. But, we must be aware of when we are working on ourselves a little too much and sometimes just let it be. Be in radical self-acceptance. Be in a place of just accepting where we are and shifting our energy into one of love and gratitude. It is the balance between not brushing stuff under the rug and living in denial but not overworking ourselves so we are always a personal growth project.

When we grew up in a house where there was a lot of uncertainty or chaos there is a frenetic energy that happens. It is constantly looking for safety and certainty. It can keep us very busy. If you relate to that, I encourage you just to stop and slow down. Because our soul, or the universe, does not give us much momentum on something when it comes from a place of lack. Sometimes we just need to stop and be with ourselves.

Dani's Question:

Dani feels a loss of identity, burned out, and unmotivated and would like guidance on how to break free of her funk.

Dani's Key Insights and Ahas:

She was a full-time musician who started a life coaching business last year.
She feels she has a block around her career.
Her focus on her career is a coping strategy.
She puts a lot of pressure on herself.
She wants to live a balanced life.
She's done a lot of personal development work.
She is always searching for something and pushing herself.
She hasn't felt safe in her life.
She has no anticipation for the future.
She feels uncertain.
She has taken many risks in her life.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

Resist the habit of trying to figure everything out.
Embrace uncertainty.
Give herself the gift of feeling safe in the present moment.
Permit herself to just be.
Move out of distraction and into stillness and safety.

Takeaways For You:

Sit in the safety of uncertainty.
Sign up for the Inner Child Workshop.

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

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CC: Compassion is a Requirement for Health with Dr. Nzinga Harrison Jan 16, 2021

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This episode is a hug for your mind and your heart. Well-respected physician and educator, Dr. Nzing Harrison joins Christine to speak about how to cope with all the stress of this year, why compassion is a requirement for your brain and health, how to identify and deal with addiction or unhealthy coping strategies and SO much more. Dr. Harrison is the Chief Medical Officer and Co-Founder of Eleanor Health, a value-based provider of compassionate, comprehensive, outpatient addiction treatment. Approachable and energetic, she has been known to explain medical concepts with an ease and humor that results in her audiences developing understanding of difficult material while having a good time doing it! She has written and presented several articles and workshops on the medical aspects of addiction and other psychiatric disorders, and has consulted on the same topics both nationally and internationally. Despite the credentials, she prides herself on being a regular ol' person who loves regular ol' people. She will tell you the most important accomplishment of her life is her husband and two teenage sons. Nzinga (yes, first name basis!) is excited to embark on this podcast journey, and can't wait to answer any and all questions you may have about addictive or other psychiatric disorders. Learn more here: https://www.eleanorhealth.com/team

EP 279: Moving from Unhealthy to Healthy Relationships with Elizabeth Jan 13, 2021

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This call is about breaking out of patterns and unhealthy relationships. Elizabeth calls in asking for daily mantras, actions, and tools to help her feel worthy of a loving relationship. She is struggling with enoughness. She wants to get over a "toxic" relationship from her past and truly embrace, rather than sabotage, the healthy relationship she is in now. We get to the fundamental ouch or significant life event that created the misunderstanding that perpetuates her feelings of not being enough.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode279]

The feeling of not-enoughness is a major human problem. Eventually, we will evolve out of this not-enoughness thinking and raise children differently so we all don't have to have this major human epidemic. Know that by listening to this show, doing inner work, and feeding yourself the truth, you are doing your part to evolve human consciousness.

Nothing outside of you can fulfill you and nothing external comes to you until you truly know that you are worthy and enough. That being said, we live in an interdependent world. And, although we cannot look to the outside world to make us happy, it is important to feel connected to others and attract and nurture healthy relationships, no matter where we are in our journey.

The brain may confuse familiarity with love because it was wired from an early age to make love an equation. Many learn that if they act a certain way they will get love. Conditional love can feel familiar. But, worthiness is not conditional.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

Do you struggle with not feeling enough?
Have you ever had a "toxic" relationship?
Do you doubt that the people in your life really love you and see you? Do you fear that you will not measure up in some way?
Is there a fierce inner critic that lives inside your head? And, even though you know you should be nicer to yourself, you can't seem to change your self-talk?

Elizabeth's Question:

Elizabeth is searching for some daily mantras or actions that will make her feel enough and worthy.

Elizabeth's Key Insights and Ahas:

She is having difficulty connecting her intellect with her heart.
She feels not enough and that her life is pointless.
She verbalizes the chaos she feels in her mind.
She was in an eight-year "toxic" relationship.
She has "love" attached to feeling a certain way.
She has trouble quieting her inner critic.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

Be in the present moment and feel her feelings.
Stop and breathe when her mind starts racing.
Realize nothing is wrong with her.
Forgive herself for confusing familiarity with love.
Give her inner critic a new job description.
Practice release writing when her inner critic is bratty.

Takeaways For You:

If you struggle with not-enoughness, when you feel it coming on, stop and think that you are hungry for the truth. And then, feed yourself some truth.
Watch your language and watch what you are affirming.
Slow down! Drop in and breathe.
Give things you want to shift a new job description and a new role.
If you want some additional help join my Personal Mastery Course.
Join us for the Be the Queen program.

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

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Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.