Life Coaching with Christine Hassler

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EP 457: Dealing with Difficult People with Melissa Jun 26, 2024

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In this 2017 re-air, we delve into dealing with difficult people, setting boundaries, and compensatory strategies. Melissa shares her struggles with her in-laws' criticism and lack of support, revealing the challenge of maintaining her self-worth and confidence.

Melissa moved away from her family and friends to be with her husband. Over time, her in-laws' criticism and lack of support have worn her down. They accuse her of controlling her husband and ruining his life, leading her to question her decisions and struggle with asserting herself. Christine helps Melissa explore her compensatory strategy of people-pleasing and the deeper issues stemming from her past that contribute to her difficulties.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

Are there difficult people in your life who hurt you, yet you seek their approval?
Do you struggle to set boundaries and stand up for yourself?
Are you a caretaker who prioritizes others' happiness over your own?

Guest Insights:

Melissa moved to be with her husband and now regrets leaving her support system.
Her in-laws criticize her, causing her to doubt herself and feel unconfident.
After seeing how deeply it affects her, her husband has started to stand up for her.
Melissa has a history of being a caretaker and seeks approval from others.

A-Ha Moments:

Melissa realizes her lack of confidence stems from trying to fit in and please others.
Christine highlights that her in-laws' behavior mirrors Melissa's self-doubt.
The episode emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries and standing firm in truth.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

Acknowledge your emotions and release pent-up feelings through writing or physical activity.
Limit time with unsupportive people and seek out supportive friends.
Practice assertive communication by setting clear, respectful boundaries.
Focus on self-acceptance and authenticity rather than trying to fit in or please others.

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CC: Un-Addiction with Dr. Nzinga Harrison Jun 22, 2024

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Dr. Harrison is passionate and outspoken about the need to expand the addiction medicine workforce. She is the Co-Founder and Chief Medical Officer for Eleanor Health, an innovative mental health and addiction treatment company, and has more than 20 years of experience practicing medicine. She is a double-board certified physician with specialties in general adult psychiatry and addiction medicine. She is an advocate for stigma reduction and is passionate about the necessity for whole-person care as individuals and communities seek to recover from and prevent substance use disorders. You can read more about these issues in her new book, Un-Addiction: 6 Mind-Changing Conversations That Could Save a Life.

EP 456: Breaking the Negative Cycle You Have With Your Body With Alexa Jun 19, 2024

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In this episode, Christine Hassler coaches Alexa, who has struggled with body image, self-esteem, and her relationship with food her entire life. Alexa shares her journey from childhood, where she was surrounded by family members who perpetuated negative body images, to her recent progress post-divorce. Christine helps Alexa uncover the underlying emotional causes of her issues, focusing on unexpressed anger and rage towards her parents and ex-husband. Through the session, Christine guides Alexa to recognize and release these pent-up emotions to transform her relationship with her body and herself.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

Do you struggle with body image and self-esteem issues?
Have you experienced negative influences from family or significant others regarding your body?
Do you find yourself turning to food for comfort or as an enemy?
Are there unexpressed emotions, particularly anger, that might affect your well-being?

Guest Insights:

Alexa's body image issues stem from childhood influences and family dynamics.
Her negative relationship with food is tied to emotional comfort and self-punishment.
Unexpressed anger towards her parents and ex-husband has been internalized, affecting her body and self-esteem.
Recognizing and expressing her anger is crucial for her healing process.

A-Ha Moments:

Alexa realizes that her negative self-talk and body hatred are survival strategies she adopted from her environment.
Understanding that unexpressed emotions, especially anger, can manifest physically, contributing to weight issues.
The importance of finding her voice and expressing her true feelings is to release emotional baggage and transform her relationship with her body.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

Express Your Anger: Allow yourself to feel and express your anger healthily. This could be through journaling, therapy, or physical activities.
Compassion for Yourself: Shift the narrative from self-loathing to self-compassion. Understand that you did the best you could to survive.
Inner Child Work: Connect with your inner child and provide the love and support that were missing during your upbringing.
Find Your Fierceness: Embrace your anger and fierceness as power sources to make transformative changes.

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CC: Why We Remember with Dr. Charan Ranganath Jun 15, 2024

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In this interview we talk about our memories. What and how we remember and how we can improve our memory. Dr. Ranganath is one of the world's top memory researchers. He is a Professor of Psychology and Neuroscience at UC Davis, where he leads their Dynamic Memory Lab. His book WHY WE REMEMBER radically reframes the way we think about the everyday act of remembering and reveals the role memory plays in every aspect of our lives, from recalling faces and names to learning, decision-making, trauma and healing.

EP 455: Breaking Cycles with Your Child with Sabrina Jun 12, 2024

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In this episode, Christine Hassler speaks with Sabrina, a single mom struggling to break the cycle of emotional unavailability that has plagued her family for generations. They discuss the importance of self-awareness, healing past wounds, and creating a safe and supportive environment for Sabrina's son.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

Did you have a parent who was unavailable, and does feeling disconnected or dismissed trigger you?
Are you a parent struggling with your child's independence and need for space?
Do you know that healing starts within, but you're unsure how to begin?

Guest Insights:

Sabrina's Background: Sabrina is a single mom whose parents were emotionally unavailable. She recognizes that her father's drinking and her mother's choice of a similarly unavailable partner impacted her.
Current Struggle: Sabrina wants to break this cycle with her 12-year-old son, who is becoming more distant as he grows older.
Coaching Challenges: Sabrina's tendency to over-coach and talk too much pushes her son away. Her unresolved anger towards men and trust issues further complicate her relationship with her son.

A-Ha Moments:

Mirror Effect: Children reflect on their parents' unresolved issues. Sabrina's son is mirroring her feelings of being dismissed and not prioritized.
Generational Patterns: Breaking the cycle starts with addressing her inner child wounds and not projecting unmet needs onto her son.
Letting Go: Sabrina needs to let her son navigate his relationship with his father on his terms and provide unconditional support without overstepping.

How to Get Over It:

Self-Compassion: Acknowledge and be proud of the effort and awareness in tackling tough parental questions.
Inner Child Work: Engage in healing work to address unresolved anger and grief towards men and her childhood experiences.
Space and Support: Allow her son to explore his relationship with his father while being a supportive presence, not an overprotective one.
Professional Help: Consider working with a coach or therapist to navigate the challenges of parenting a tween and personal healing.

Social Media and Resources:

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Join us next week for another insightful episode where we help you get over it and on with the life you love.

CC: The Game Has Changed Jun 08, 2024

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If you are considering becoming an entrepreneur or want to take your business to the next level, don't miss this episode. Between AI, new technology, inflation, the economy, and all the crazy stuff in the outside world… it's clear the rules of success have changed drastically from even just last year. And this has created a massive opportunity to accelerate ahead or fall way behind. Jill Esplin, who has worked with me for nearly 15 years, and I talk about what we are noticing in the industry and how to overcome inner and outer roadblocks. We also discuss how the game has changed and invite you to join us at a free event June 13--15 hosted by Tony Robbins and Dean Graziosi: www.christinehassler.com/game

EP 454: Navigating the Father Wound with Mariel Jun 05, 2024

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In this episode, Christine helps Mariel navigate the complex feelings following a breakup that has left her struggling to move on. Despite ending the relationship almost a year ago, Mariel finds herself still emotionally entangled and unable to let go. Christine delves into the deeper issues stemming from Mariel's childhood, particularly her relationship with her father, to uncover the root causes of her emotional struggle.

Mariel ended a relationship due to her partner's addiction issues, but she is finding it disproportionately challenging to move on. Christine explores the more profound emotional wounds from Mariel's childhood, especially those related to her father, which may be contributing to her current emotional state. The conversation reveals the importance of addressing and healing childhood wounds to move forward in adult relationships.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

Is there something on your mind you can't let go of, whether it's a relationship or something else?
Have you been in a relationship with someone with many good qualities but one primary deal breaker?
Do you often project your feelings or handling of situations onto others?
Do you genuinely believe you deserve the kind of love you desire?

Guest Insights:

Mariel feels confused about why she is struggling so much to move on from a relatively short relationship.
The relationship ended due to her partner's addiction, a pattern familiar from her previous marriage.
Despite setting boundaries and ending the relationship, Mariel finds herself still emotionally attached and missing her ex-partner.
Mariel has a history of attracting men who cannot process their emotions healthily, reflecting unresolved issues with her father.

A-Ha Moments:

Christine points out the importance of addressing the deeper issues from Mariel's childhood in order to move on.
Mariel recognizes that her ex-partner's addiction and avoidance are reminiscent of her father's emotional unavailability and anger.
Understanding that her struggle is more about her unresolved issues than about the ex-partner helps Mariel see the situation more clearly.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

Identify and confront the truths about the past relationship to move on from the fantasy.
Work on healing the "father wound" and improving self-worth.
Focus on developing a nurturing relationship with the inner child to address unmet emotional needs.
Prioritize self-love and boundaries to avoid falling into similar patterns in future relationships.

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Join us next week for another insightful episode where we help you get over and on with the life you love.

CC: How to Build The Life, Career and Business You Love with Dean Graziosi Jun 01, 2024

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If you're feeling boxed in by your current path, maybe it's time to think about how your skills can open new doors—not just for others, but for yourself too. If you've ever thought about what it might be like to teach others what you know or create a business doing what you love, don't miss this episode.

Your skills can be the key to unlocking new doors, not just for others, but for you too.

Tune in as my guest Dean Graziosi, New York Times bestselling author and esteemed entrepreneur, and I discuss what it takes to become an entrepreneur…how to overcome the fears and limiting beliefs and step into your legacy.

Together, Dean and Tony Robbins are hosting a FREE 3-day workshop on June 13th - 15th called "The Game Has Changed" with some amazing special guests. In this 3 day event they are going to reveal for the first time their "2024 roadmap to more" in today's crazy economy. More freedom, more time, more joy, more income… more whatever makes YOU happy.

Go here to register: www.christinehassler.com/game

EP 453: How to Make Changes When You Don't Have Certainty or a Plan with Liv May 29, 2024

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In this episode, Christine Hassler coaches Liv, who is experiencing a significant life transition and is unsure about her career and future. Liv has worked with children as a teacher, babysitter, and nanny, but now she wants to explore other professional paths. She struggles with guilt over leaving her current line of work and fears the uncertainty of pursuing new opportunities.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

Are you feeling the urge to change, or has a change been forced upon you?
How did your upbringing shape your views on failure and success?
Do you rely on your job as a safety net?
What is your relationship with uncertainty, and are you willing to change your beliefs to improve it?

Guest Insights:

Liv is transitioning from a familiar career working with children to exploring new professional opportunities.
She feels overwhelmed by the thought of leaving a job she loves but also wants to pursue personal growth.
Liv struggles with balancing her desire to serve others with her need for self-fulfillment.
She feels a deep need for control and certainty, which stems from her upbringing, where failure had severe consequences.
Liv's primary challenge is to reprogram her beliefs and embrace uncertainty as part of her growth.

A-Ha Moments:

Liv recognized that her current job should not be seen as a safety net but as a stepping stone to new opportunities.
She identified the need to create a new relationship with uncertainty and develop an internal sense of safety.
Liv realized that her belief that she cannot make money doing what she loves is a limiting belief that needs updating.

How to Get Over It:

Liv should focus on updating her limiting beliefs, such as "I can't make money doing what I love" to "People are interested in what I have to offer, and it adds value to their lives."
Embrace the belief that prioritizing her growth is not selfish but essential for serving others more effectively.
Take one step at a time and recognize that safety and certainty come from within, not from external jobs or situations.
Engage in pattern interrupt techniques to shift from fear-based decisions to ones based on authenticity and alignment.

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Social Media Info:

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Join us next week for another insightful episode in which we help you overcome your challenges and move on with the life you love.

CC: Is it infatuation or Limerence with Thais Gibson May 25, 2024

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Thais and Christine talk about what exactly "limerence" is and how it is different from the infatuation stage of a relationship. We go deep into what caused it and how we can get out of it. Thais Gibson has a Ph.D. and over 13 certifications in modalities such as CBT, NLP, somatic experiencing, internal family systems, and shadow work. She has nearly a decade of experience running a successful private practice. This diverse background has culminated in creating Gibson Integrated Attachment Theory™, an innovative framework uniting traditional attachment theory, developmental psychology insights, and potent subconscious reprogramming techniques that are woven throughout the course material within The Personal Development School, taught within our innovative coach training program and in her most recent book, Learning Love. You can get 25% off the price of enrollment at The Personal Development School (https://university.personaldevelopmentschool.com/) if you use the promo code christine25off

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