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Life Check Yourself 446 – Overcome jealousy in 3 minutes with Shanenn Bryant Apr 10, 2024

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Marni welcomes Shanenn Bryant to the Life Check Yourself studio where the duo discusses how to crack the control code and transform the way we view jealousy. Shanenn is a jealousy and relationship confidence expert. She's also the host of the Top Self podcast and founder of self-development company, Top Self. It's not just about eradicating jealousy but understanding that this feeling isn't the problem, but rather a symptom of it. And the answers can be found by examining yourself.

* Focus on yourself

* Lengthen the space between trigger and response

* How to foster self-awareness

What's Jealousy Got to Do With it? [05:35]

Jealous stems from somewhere internal, from a place of insecurity. And that could either be because of some type of dysfunction in your childhood or because you went through a bad experience in a romantic relationship. Either way, to understand the feeling itself, you need to look at yourself and ask the right questions.

It doesn't necessarily have to always be that it was a cheating incident. I felt like I was insecure and jealous before that ever happened.

Make Room for Accountability [14:49]

While it may be difficult to do so in certain situations, it's important to take responsibility rather than blame your partner straight away. Self-awareness is key.

You cannot change something that is blocking you, unless you really take a look at what you think, do, and say.

Boundaries, Boundaries, Boundaries [21:10]

Before getting into a relationship, it's important to have an open and honest conversation about boundaries, particularly those regarding interactions with exes. It allows both partners to understand each other's expectations.

Have that conversation to figure out what that relationship is like beforehand and then you make the decision if that's a relationship you want to be in.

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Life Check Yourself 445 – How to VISUALIZE correctly so you can MANIFEST Faster with Paget Kagy Apr 03, 2024

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Marni welcomes Paget Kagy to the Life Check Yourself studio. A Korean-American actress, writer, and empowerment coach, Paget is fueled by her passion for challenging societal norms. Paget, a frequency healer and spiritual coach, discusses the significance of operating from a deeper level rather than superficially judging oneself and as a consequence, others as well. The duo speak about the power of detachment and embracing uncertainty to connect with one's higher self.

* How to dream bigger

* How to identify your blind spot

* Step out of your comfort zone

Are you Hitting a Wall? [11:04]

Energy blocks or energy patterns are basically patterns where you keep hitting up against the same situation. Sometimes, it might be different people or situations but it's the same pattern over and over again.

It doesn't matter what you try to do, you end up attracted to those things. And they end up attracted to you.

Un-stuck [14:12]

Sometimes, we don't even realize that we're stuck. And that's the case for a lot of us. But once you identify that you are stuck, you can begin to release patterns that have been keeping you stunted.

Everything is open to us at all times.

Connecting with Yourself [21:40]

To connect with someone else on a deeper level, you need to first connect with yourself. Understand that it's not about the outcome. It's about you taking the necessary steps from a place of worthiness.

The universe delivers it to you in a way that you can't predict or plan for.

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Life Check Yourself 444 – The 3 NICE GIRL habits ALL women must break with Lily Womble Mar 27, 2024

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Marni welcomes Lily Womble to the Life Check Yourself studio where the duo discusses what holds successful women back from truly flourishing in the dating world? Lily, who shot to fame after a viral TikTok video is the founder and CEO of DateBrazen.com. She's helped women overcome personal obstacles to achieve confidence and whole dating lives. It's not just about finding the right relationship but about understanding what is keeping you stagnating.

* How to live in your main character energy

* You're not too anything

* Ask for what you want out loud

The Slot Machines of Dating [10:59]

Dating apps are built like slot machines; they're designed to keep you wanting a little more. They give you just enough of what you need so that you come back for more.

It's going to give you enough of the good stuff to keep you coming back, but not enough of the good stuff to get you in a relationship.

How to Really Move Forward [18:08]

Getting into the relationship isn't the prize for healing. Healing is for you. And once you've done that, the relationship comes. Don't compare your own dating life or relationship to others because you don't know what is actually happening behind closed doors. None of us do.

The only thing separating people, I believe from finding the right relationship is giving themselves permission to want what they want.

Trust Yourself [23:44]

It seems obvious but self-trust is at the root of healing. Trust yourself to bless and release the people who are wrong for you. And don't look back.

The more swiftly you bless and release the wrong people, the more swiftly you'll find yourself in the best relationship.

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Life Check Yourself 443 – The 5 Signs Your Relationship is Over with Dr. Heidi Brocke Mar 20, 2024

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Marni welcomes Dr.Heidi Brocke to the Life Check Yourself studio where the duo delves into what being toxic actually means. It's a buzz word that gets thrown around a lot but does anyone really know how to detect a toxic person? Heidi is a toxic relationship awareness and healing specialist. With a podcast that has over 1 million downloads, Heidi has worked with hundreds of people to help them get out of and heal from toxic relationships.

* What does toxic actually mean?

* How to decode unhealthy dynamics

* How to clean up your social circle

Narcissistic Much? [09:27]

We've gotten used to throwing around certain labels and terms without ever actually understanding what they mean. And that includes the word toxic and narcissistic. However, they're different. Many actually have narcissistic personality disorders because of something in their upbringing or something in their lives that has left them with that insecurity. Knowing the distinction between a disorder and an adjective is imperative.

I chose the word toxic because it's not a diagnosis. Toxic is an adjective. .

You Define What's Healthy for You [14:19]

Instead of seeking validation for your decisions when it comes to who to include or exclude in your life by labeling them toxic, embrace that you have the agency to curate your own social circles. You decide who stays and who leaves. You don't need to make excuses or throw around labels.

We're all just trying to make sure that there's something wrong with that person so that we can be validated in changing the relationship.

Your Normal Isn't Everyone's Normal [21:57]

Not everyone sees the world the same way. Sometimes when someone does something that doesn't align with you, you'll describe it as not being normal. It's because that person isn't acting like you would and as such it is out of the norm for you.

In reality, we are looking at them through our emotionally wired eyes.

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Life Check Yourself 442 – "How to Reinvent Your Life Starting Today" with Anya Chernyshova Mar 13, 2024

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Marni welcomes Anya Chernyshova to the Life Check Yourself studio where the duo delves into the process of reinvention. What does it take to completely transform your life? It begins by letting go of the negative beliefs you have about yourself. Anya, who is one of Marni's long-time clients, went through a reinvention herself where she managed to alter her life to adapt her vision. Understanding that you actually have the power to do it is empowering.

* Don't keep it festering

* How to let go of blame

* Forgiveness is key.

Are You Just Being Immature? [10:26]

Change begins when you start loving yourself. This mantra repeated to us over and over again because it's true. But it's not enough to just say it, you need to truly believe it. Let go of these negative beliefs you were told about yourself.

It's such a different way of being when you truly love yourself.

Embracing Self-Advocacy [18:52]

Overcoming your fear and learning to ask for what you need not only helps you overcome challenges but it also fosters holistic sense of well-being. By embracing self-advocacy, you have the power to shape your career, relationships, and overall life with confidence and resilience.

Things really changed for me because I felt really powerful and I felt like I could advocate for myself.

An Evolving Soul [27:22]

Embrace life's changes, prioritize self-care, and remain open to unforeseen opportunities for profound personal and professional growth. Always listen to what your body is telling you. It knows what it's talking about.

My body is the greatest gift that I have because she tells me when I need to pay attention immediately.

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What's the Biggest Mistake Successful Women Make on the First Date with Anapaula Corral Mar 06, 2024

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Marni welcomes Anapaula Corral to the Life Check Yourself studio where the duo delves into feminine energy, recognizing the dating mistakes and letting go of deep-rooted beliefs that may be doing more harm than good. Marni and Anapaula, who is an author, met on Instagram. After that meeting, Anapaula started doing the work with Marni and gaining insight on what it is that she was doing wrong in her dating life. The conversation between the two women explores notions of regained self-confidence, mindful dating, and the journey of self-love.

* How to define your rules

* Prioritize self-love

* How to embrace your feminine energy

It Starts with a Strong Foundation [11:07]

Regain your self-confidence through self-reflection. Recognize the trauma that you've been holding onto and that has been affecting your life. Once you do that, you can begin to work on it and find your way back to your self-confidence.

Deep underneath there's a shame that needs to be healed.

Own Your Feminine Energy [15:10]

You need to fall in love with yourself in order to be able to fall in love with someone else. Open yourself up and hold on to your self-worth. That's where all the magic happens.

Being able to sit down with my feminine energy has definitely not only changed my life, but it has improved every area of my life.

Uncomfortable Conversations [27:54]

Relationships take time and patience. It's not always smooth sailing. It is important to have uncomfortable conversations, to be honest, and to be transparent. That is what leads to growth and ultimately a more meaningful connection.

You need the map and the person that follows the map.

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How to be Happy, Even If Your Partner Won't Do a Thing with Dr.Abby Medcalf Feb 28, 2024

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Marni welcomes Dr.Abby Mecalf to the Life Check Yourself studio where the duo dismantle pre-held beliefs about the secret to a successful relationship. Abby is a psychologist and a relationship maven who also happens to be a podcast host. Throughout this episode, they look into one of the leading causes for the failure of a relationship. And it's not communication, it's competition that influences the dynamics within a relationship.

* Why do so many relationships fail?

* How to stop Comparing

* Find common ground

It's Actually Not Just About Communication [06:42]

We've been told over and over again that the main reason relationships fail is bad communication. But there's another cancer under that. And it's a competition.

This is competition for resources, for time, for money, for things in the family. If you're in competition with someone, you don't want them to win.

That Sounds Like a We Problem [12:59]

Instead of viewing an issue as one partner's problem, look at it as a shared problem. When you do that, you both actively engage in shared problem solving. And rather than blame each other, you manage to actually find a solution that works for both of you.

Everything is a we.

Set Your Boundaries Right [28:12]

Merely expressing a preference is not setting a boundary. A boundary needs to have consequences if it is not respected. When you set a boundary, it doesn't mean you're more important than your partner. It just means you're as important.

'I feel upset when you talk to me that way.' That's your feeling. A Boundary has to have teeth.

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Life Check Yourself 439 – 10 Examples of What Gaslighting Looks Like (Hidden Signals) with Dr. Amelia Kelley Feb 21, 2024

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Marni welcomes Dr. Amelia Kelley to the Life Check Yourself studio where the duo delves into the notion of gaslighting and how to spot it when it's happening. Amelia who is a hypnotherapist and an art therapist, discusses the prototypes that are most likely to get gaslit. Dissecting the different types of gaslighting, she explains the personality traits that can play a role in whether or not a person will get gaslit as well as how to avoid a gas-lighter.

* How to know when you're being gaslit.

* Stand firm in your truth

* How to distance yourself

Are You Just Being Immature? [07:18]

The term gaslighting gets thrown around lightly, and a lot. However, there are times where it is not a gaslighting situation. You're just having a disagreement. Gaslighting is a form of emotional manipulation and abuse that is intended to control, contort and alter your sense of reality and your sense of self.

There are so many ways it can impact your self-esteem, your interpersonal relationships, your goals and just everything.

Confuse and Conquer [13:27]

Gaslighting thrives on keeping the person at the receiving end confused and doubting their own reality. Good news is the first step to avoid being gaslit is understanding and detecting when it happens. It's about being aware of it.

Distancing yourself from gaslighting is the only true way to cut yourself off from its impact.

A Never-Ending Cycle [19:10]

One of the psychological aspects of gaslighting is that it's a cycle that can be gratifying but it's important to set boundaries. More so, practicing emotional individuation and not letting others rewrite your personal experiences are all steps you can take towards dealing with gaslighting.

The whole purpose is to cut down your self-esteem or your confidence. They don't want you to have self-confidence.

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What Women Don't Understand About Men with Dr.Ricky Arenson Feb 14, 2024

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Marni welcomes endocrinologist and author Dr.Ricky Arenson to the Life Check Yourself studio where the duo discuss the dynamics between men and women in a partnership. The duo delves into the differences between both genders and how the things that set them apart actually become their strength when combined. While men and women may function on opposing wavelengths, that is actually the key to the success of a relationship. And a happy relationship means a longer life. Longevity isn't just about eating those berries and that OJ.

* Uncover your innate qualities

* Why do you keep having the same fights?

* Stop scrolling past everything IRL

Make Love Not War [18:18]

We live in a society where everyone is seeking conflict. And it's amplified by social media. At the end of the day though, what unites us is our humanity regardless of our race or gender.

We all want to come together and see each other as human beings, and see the value and the beauty of being human rather than dividing up by race, gender, and sexual preference.

Women are From Venus, Men are From… [23:36]

The way a man and a woman's brain function are actually very different. Whereas men tend to get hyper focused on the task at hand, women have a more diverse thinking pattern. A woman's brain activity shows that there could be a lot going on everywhere.

Because men, when they focus on something, they become very unique, focused. You can't distract them.

Modern Day Romance [34:28]

The issue with modern day romances is that we've all become impatient. We've gotten accustomed to just scrolling past anything we don't like on our phone. And it seems to be a habit we've taken in our daily lives.

But relationships don't work like that. Relationships are a long-term process.

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Life Check Yourself 437 – How to Radiate Feminine Energy to Live a Soft Life: habits, dating tips and healing *Life Changing with Julie Hakim Feb 07, 2024

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Marni welcomes Julie Hakim to the Life Check Yourself studio for a live coaching session. Julie is a physician who works at Texas Children's Hospital. For Julie, it is vital for her to step into her power especially since she's been struggling to feel seen recently. During the session, the duo tackle what it actually means to feel seen and how to regain control in situations that feel unpredictable.

* What's your external avatar?

* How to be Seen

* What are energy influencers?

Are You Seen? [01:37]

When you are seen there is a sense of alignment and flow that accompanies that feeling. What are the areas in your life where you feel flow? You recognize it because it is a space of emotional safety.

I think the most immediate response is that I feel I don't feel vulnerable.

How to Adult [06:40]

Part of becoming an adult is developing roles that you need to fulfill. Those roles differ from person to person. For some, it could be the role of a caregiver, while for others it's the role of a friend.

Becoming an adult is reframing the perspective that one had as a child and developing into the role as I'm no longer a child, I'm no longer a teenager.

How to Prepare for the Unpredictable [11:10]

It's difficult going into something not knowing the outcome. But there are certain things you can do to put yourself at ease when in a situation that brings you discomfort, for whatever reason. And that could be anything from not going on a date hungry to taking some space for yourself beforehand. It's about your energy influencers and those differ from one person to the next.

For your physical self, it might be stuff like I need to make sure that I sleep or maybe hearing music to make me feel empowered.

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