Language of Love with Dr. Laura Berman

In Law Dramas? Then Listen to This One! Oct 30, 2024

Even when we love our in laws, we all also love our space, right? But what do you do when your mother-in-law starts showing up unannounced like she’s got her own set of keys?

In this Language of Love session, I dive into a challenge so many couples face: how to set healthy boundaries with in-laws. Shannon, one of my listeners, writes in to share her frustrations about her mother-in-law's frequent, unannounced visits since moving close to her husband’s hometown. While she appreciates her mother-in-law's help, it’s starting to affect her personal space and her relationship. Shannon's husband doesn't see an issue, and she’s unsure how to navigate this tricky situation without hurting anyone's feelings.

We tackle:

Why it’s your partner’s job to set boundaries with their family
How to lovingly ask for space without causing tension
The importance of being a united front in your marriage
Simple steps for creating healthy boundaries that honor both relationships
Why it’s okay to say no to unannounced visits and still maintain a loving connection

If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by a well-meaning but over-involved family member, this episode is for you. And remember, the most important relationship in your family is between you and your partner—it’s the foundation for everything else.

I also share my own experiences with grief and how it’s transformed my life, offering insights and resources from my Good Grief course, available on my website.

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Why Is Sex Painful? Let’s Talk About It Oct 28, 2024

Have you ever wondered why something meant to be pleasurable can sometimes feel uncomfortable or even painful? In this Language of Love Bite, I tackle an important issue we don’t discuss nearly enough—pain during sex. This common experience affects up to 75% of women at some point in their lives, but the good news is that you don’t have to just live with it. There are real reasons behind it, and more importantly, real solutions!

I walk you through the top causes of painful sex, from dryness and pelvic floor issues to more complex conditions like endometriosis. By the end of this episode, you gain the tools and knowledge to address the pain and rediscover pleasure.

We break down the different types of sexual pain and explore what triggers them. Whether it’s hormonal shifts, skeleton-muscular issues , or underlying medical conditions, I provide tips and treatments to help you take back control and enjoy intimacy without discomfort.

In this Bite I share:

Common causes of sexual pain
The role of hormonal changes in causing vaginal dryness and discomfort
Vaginismus and how involuntary muscle contractions make intercourse painful
Various medical conditions like endometriosis and interstitial cystitis that can lead to sexual pain
Effective treatments such as pelvic floor physical therapy, hormone therapy, and medical evaluations
Why using the right lubricants can make all the difference
Need for medical evaluation to identify underlying issues

Struggling with pain during sex? You don’t have to suffer in silence. Explore APTA (American Physical Therapy Association) to find pelvic floor therapists. Want to deepen your connection with your partner? Check out my course on Quantum Sex to learn how to elevate your love life.

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Creating and Cultivating True Soul Friendships with Sah D’Simone Oct 23, 2024

Have you ever met someone and felt an instant connection, like you’ve known them forever? Isn’t it amazing how some people seem to resonate with your very soul? That magical feeling isn’t just coincidence; it’s what we call a “soul friend,” and trust me, it’s more enchanting than you might think!

In this episode of The Language of Love Conversation, I’m excited to sit down with the incredible Sah D'Simone—meditation teacher, artist, and bestselling author of Spiritually Sassy. Together, we’re diving deep into the power of community and connection. But here’s a thought: can you really grow without a support system? Sah introduces his transformative "SAH Method," focusing on somatic activated healing, and shares insights from his latest book, Spiritually We: The Art of Relating and Connecting to the Heart.

Here’s what you can expect from this enlightening conversation:

The magic of soul friends and how they help us grow
Why social media can’t replace real, meaningful connections
Sitting with discomfort and why ‘cancel culture’ doesn’t help
How vulnerability and somatic healing practices make us stronger
The link between emotional well-being and physical health
How loneliness impacts personal growth and relationships
Tips for deepening your connections with others
The importance of radical honesty and authenticity in friendships
How to start meaningful conversations that lead to real connection

Make sure to grab a copy of Sah’s new book! You can also connect with Sah through his website or find him on Instagram for more inspiration and insights.

Looking for more support on your healing journey? Head over to my website for courses, including the popular Good Grief course. Remember, you’re never alone in this journey.

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After Baby: How to Rekindle the Spark Oct 16, 2024

Postpartum sexuality—how often do we actually talk about it? Probably not enough. You’re healing, emotions are high, and intimacy might feel like a distant thought. Meanwhile, your partner might be quietly wondering how to approach it too. So, how do you bring up such a sensitive topic without making it feel like walking on eggshells? And how do you open up when you’re still figuring things out yourself?

In this episode of The Language of Love Sessions, I tackle a heartfelt question from a listener, Jessica, a listener who’s six months postpartum and trying to navigate intimacy in her marriage after a traumatic birth. I offer some compassionate advice on how to communicate openly with her husband and emphasize that honesty and vulnerability are key.

Don’t forget to check out my website for personalized courses like “Quantum Sex,” designed to support your unique journey.

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Unpacking the Hidden Impact of Trauma Oct 14, 2024

We’ve all been there—life throws us a curveball, and we’re left dealing with trauma. And as much as we’d love just to hit the "ignore" button, trauma has this sneaky way of creeping into our relationships.

In this Language of Love Bite, I dive into the deep end of trauma. We're talking all kinds here—sexual, physical, emotional, rejection, humiliation, abandonment, and betrayal trauma. It's a lot, I know, but recognizing these traumas is the first step to healing.

Here is what we explore:

A deeper understanding of sexual trauma and common misconceptions about consent
The many faces of emotional abuse and how it shows up
How trauma impacts your self-worth, trust, and intimacy
Why professional support is key to recovering from trauma

Be sure to check out TraumaHealing.org, where you can find a list of somatic experiencing therapists in your area, and start exploring the support you deserve. Visit my new platform, Grief Healing Collective, for resources designed to help you release grief and loss in a nurturing, transformative environment. Also, don’t forget to check out my website for courses, products, and books that will help you in the realm of love and healing.

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Confessions of a Midlife Muse with Dr. Amanda Hanson Oct 09, 2024

A lot of people, especially women, still freak out about a few gray hairs or a new wrinkle. So, why not flip the script?

In this episode of The Language of Love Conversation, I sit down with the "Midlife Muse," clinical psychologist, speaker, and author Dr. Amanda Hanson, to dive into the tricky subject of aging—especially for women. Society pushes us to stay forever youthful, but Amanda’s here to remind us that aging can be a beautiful spiritual journey filled with wisdom. Why should our looks stay frozen in time while everything else changes?

Together, Amanda and I encourage women to stop chasing unrealistic beauty standards and embrace their own unique beauty. It’s time to age on our own terms, with more self-love, a little humor, and a community of women who lift each other up!

Here is a sneak peek of what we talk about:

Unrealistic expectations regarding women's appearances as they age
The impact of societal pressures on self-image and self-worth
What’s behind the normalization of cosmetic procedures among younger women
The manipulative marketing tactics of the beauty industry and their implications
The importance of self-love, self-respect, and confidence in aging
The influence of family dynamics and childhood experiences on perceptions of beauty
Strategies for cultivating self-awareness and fortitude in the face of media consumption
The disparity in how aging affects women compared to men in various industries

Check out Amanda’s work on her website! Also, visit my website for more resources such as books, courses, and products aimed to help you learn to love and be loved better.

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Confessions of the Heart: How to Share Your Past Without Fear Oct 02, 2024

Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you’re unsure how to come clean with your partner about something from your past? It’s uncomfortable, right?

In this episode of The Language of Love Sessions, one of my listeners, Sasha, finds herself in a tough spot—she’s not sure how to come clean to her partner after being less than honest about her sexual history. We’ve all had moments where telling the truth feels scary, right? How do you face that kind of conversation? I help Sasha navigate the importance of being open and real with her partner. After all, isn’t love about embracing each other’s pasts, imperfections and all? We also discuss how self-worth and emotional growth can create a deeper, more genuine connection.

In this session, we cover:

The importance of honesty in relationships
How to approach difficult conversations about past sexual history
The implications of hiding personal information from a partner
Discussing emotional and psychological aspects of past relationships
Affirmation of self-worth beyond sexual history

Are you ready to explore deeper connections and transformative experiences? Visit my website for personalized courses like 'Quantum Sex' and more, each thoughtfully crafted to support your unique journey.

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What it Takes to Build and Maintain Trust in Relationships Sep 30, 2024

Trust issues are the sneaky villains behind many relationship troubles. Those past betrayals and broken promises make it hard to open up again. But here’s the bright side: rebuilding trust isn’t just about fixing what’s broken; it’s about turning old wounds into a fresh start. In this Language of Love Bite, I give my advice on how to build trust in relationships, especially for those dealing with past betrayals or trust issues from their upbringing.

Remember to visit my website where you can explore my diverse collection of books and courses on love, sex, and relationships. Don't forget to tune in regularly to the Language of Love podcast for insightful discussions and expert advice designed to help you love more deeply and be loved more fully.

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Finding Meaning After Loss with David Kessler Sep 25, 2024

Are you grappling with the profound weight of grief and wondering if you'll ever find your way through? Have you ever felt overwhelmed by the idea that healing from loss should follow a straightforward path, only to be met with the unpredictable twists and turns of your emotions?

In this episode of The Language of Love Conversation, I’m chatting with the incredible David Kessler—one of the world’s top experts on grief and loss. With his decades of experience and six impactful books under his belt, David brings a wealth of wisdom to our conversation.

We explore how grief isn’t this neat, linear process but rather a winding, sometimes messy road. David’s insights remind us that acceptance isn’t a single moment but a continuous journey, and finding meaning often comes from those small, everyday moments rather than grand gestures.

We also have a real talk about the importance of community and support, especially how connecting with others who get it can be a total game-changer. David’s new companion workbook is a treasure trove of practical tips and exercises to help process grief and find light in the dark. Plus, we touch on tackling those tricky feelings of guilt and shame, with David guiding me through some eye-opening exercises.

Here is a sneak peek:

Personal experiences with grief, particularly the loss of a child
The non-linear nature of the grieving process
Importance of finding meaning after a tragedy
Emotional complexities and stages of grief
The role of community and support in healing
Challenges of managing practical matters during grief
The impact of guilt and self-blame in the grieving process
The societal perceptions and stigma surrounding prolonged grief

Don’t forget to explore Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Griefworkbook. Also, check out prolongedgrieftalk.com and the Tender Hearts Grief Support Group.

Visit my website for additional grief courses, including the 'Good Grief' course. Remember, you’re not alone in this journey.

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How to Approach “The Talk” with Your Growing Kids Sep 18, 2024

Many parents feel uneasy when it comes to talking to their kids about sex—it’s a tricky subject, and you’re not alone if it makes you uncomfortable. But the question is: when’s the right time to start? Should you bring it up before they hit adolescence or wait until they’re teenagers?

In this Language of Love Session, I’m chatting with Linda, a listener who recently found herself knowing she needs to have the long-overdue “talk” with her 16-year-old daughter, but she’s torn. How do you start that kind of conversation without sounding judgmental or making it super awkward? We dive into how to navigate these critical conversations with care, respect, and a little bit of humor—because, let’s face it, we all need a bit of that when it comes to talking about sex with our kids!

In this session, we cover:

The importance of early conversations about sex with kids
My tips and tools for how and what to cover in sex ed with your kids
Effective approaches for parents to address sexual health and safety
Creating the kind of dialogue with kids that keep them confiding in and talking to you
Empowering children to understand their sexual desires as part of healthy sexuality

My book, Talking to Your Kids About Sex: Turning “The Talk” Into a Conversation for Life is an invaluable resource for having those important discussions with your kids. Also, be sure to visit my website for tailored courses like “Quantum Sex” and others that are designed to meet your needs.

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What Really Excites a Woman Sep 16, 2024

We’ve all heard debates about what really excites a woman intimately — whether it’s the clitoris, kisses, nipples, or other sensations. But what if I told you the real secret might surprise you?

In this Language of Love Bite, I dive into how to excite the vagina and keep the passion alive in ways you might not expect. I explore some of the best exercises and tips that can work wonders and add an extra spark in the bedroom. I also share a little something you might not have considered that can play a huge role in arousal, building that emotional connection and setting the stage for deeper pleasure. Ready to discover what really makes a difference?

Remember to visit my website and unlock your free Quantum Sex course, designed to help you elevate your sex life to new heights!

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Briefly Perfectly Human with Alua Arthur Sep 11, 2024

One of the few absolute truths for every one of us is that death is inevitable, yet it’s a taboo topic that many of us avoid discussing. But can planning for your own death actually bring peace of mind and even make you live a more fulfilling life?

In this eye-opening episode of The Language of Love Conversation, I sit down with Alua Arthur—a New York Times bestselling author, death doula, and founder of Going with Grace. We dive into those often avoided but unavoidable topics: death, dying, and grief. Drawing from her book Briefly Perfectly Human, she reveals how confronting our mortality can actually lead to a richer, more intentional life. Tune in to discover why facing these tough topics can be transformative and how a death doula plays a pivotal role in navigating the end of life with grace and meaning.

Let’s dive in and learn:

What does a death doula do?
The nine contemplations on death
How to use grief as a catalyst for growth
The vision of a peaceful death and practical preparations
Communication dynamics between the dying and their loved ones
Accepting the reality of mortality through meditation

Remember to explore Briefly Perfectly Human by Alua Arthur for even more insights. You can follow Alua on Instagram and LinkedIn, or visit her website to stay updated on her latest projects. Also, don’t forget to check out my website for courses and books tailored just for you.

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Unpacking the Love Map: How Childhood Experiences Influence Adult Desires Sep 04, 2024

Ever felt like your past is casting a shadow over your love life? Childhood experiences, including trauma, are intricately woven into the nature and the challenges we face in relationships.

In this Language of Love Session, I delve into a heartfelt email from Muhammad, a courageous 21-year-old man from Iran. He’s grappling with his sexual orientation and OCD, sharing his attraction to abusive middle-aged men and connecting it to the emotional wounds inflicted by his abusive father. We tackle these heavy topics together, exploring the concept of the "love map"—a psychological framework that reveals how our past, particularly trauma, influences our romantic desires.

Here’s what we explore:

The impact of childhood trauma and abusive parental relationships on emotional well-being
The connection between OCD and unmanaged anxiety
The "love map" concept and how early experiences shape our attractions
Understanding a "vandalized lovemap" and its effects on sexual desires and relationships
Distinguishing between healthy and harmful relationships
The importance of self-discovery and fostering healthy relationship dynamics

Don't forget to visit my website for customized courses like 'Good Grief,' 'Quantum Sex,' and more. Let’s embrace our authentic selves and make every moment count!

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The Surprising Benefits of Scheduling Sex Sep 02, 2024

What if we’ve got it all wrong that the best sex is spontaneous? Could planning for intimacy actually light up a new spark in your relationship? With work stress, bills, and endless errands already filling our calendars, isn’t it worth a shot to see if scheduling sex might just be the secret to keeping the flame burning bright?

In this Language of Love Bite, I’m diving into and vouching for a topic that might raise a few eyebrows: scheduling sex! Yes, you heard me right. While surprise moments can be thrilling, regular, planned encounters can also work wonders. Listen in to hear my tips on how to make scheduled sex exciting and add a little extra magic to your routine.

Remember to visit my website and access my free Quantum Sex course if you’re looking to take your sex life to the next level. Also, check out my video on building desire on YouTube!

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Living a More Connected Life with Radha Agrawal Aug 28, 2024

I think we can all agree we are in an epidemic of loneliness. Most of us are craving deeper relationships, a genuine sense of belonging, and a community that feels like home.

In this episode of "The Language of Love Conversation," I sit down with Radha Agrawal, a nine-figure entrepreneur and community-building expert. Together, we delve into the art of forging meaningful connections and share powerful strategies for cultivating relationships that truly matter. We also get into how storytelling, rituals, and even a bit of aesthetic magic can transform your community? Radha brings these insights straight from her book, Belong: Find Your People, Create Community, and Live a More Connected Life. Collaboration and the strength of community can help us overcome life’s toughest challenges.

Here’s a sneak peek of what you’ll discover:

The crucial role of social connections in our lives
The growing epidemic of loneliness and its impact on mental health
Practical strategies for fostering meaningful friendships
The idea of "FYF" (Fuck Yes) friendships
The CRAWL method for community building
How social media can facilitate real-life connections
The importance of aligning personal values and interests in building community
Navigating the friendship life cycle and overcoming challenges
How rituals can foster a deeper sense of belonging
The transformative power of storytelling in creating supportive networks

Don’t miss out—check out Radha’s book,Belong: Find Your People, Create Community, and Live a More Connected Life, for even more awesome tips. Connect with her on her website, LinkedIn, or Instagram. And while you’re at it, swing by my website for courses made just for you!

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Reaching New Heights in Intimacy Aug 21, 2024

In this Language of Love Session, I’m excited to catch up with Marla and Ken, a couple who turned their love story around and are now absolutely glowing. Having embraced Quantum Love, they’re reaching new heights in intimacy. They both share how the guidance and homework I gave them helped create a nurturing, affectionate space between them, and deeply transformed their connection. We get into all the tips and tools that work. It’s amazing how these small, thoughtful gestures can make such a significant difference!

Here is what we explore:

How to cultivate emotional connection for greater intimacy in relationships
How to stop external stressors from sabotaging your love life
Easy tips to improve communication with your partner
The role of compassion and understanding as relationship game-changers
How to explore personal histories with generosity

If you missed previous episodes, now’s the perfect time to catch up and get the full picture of Marla and Ken’s inspiring journey.

Remember to check out my complimentary course on Quantum Sex! Unlock new levels of sexual response and experience a transformation like never before. Head to my website for all the details.

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The Most Powerful Skill You Can Learn For Your Relationship Aug 19, 2024

There’s an art to listening to your partner in a way that will change everything in the energy between you.

In this Language of Love Bite, I dive into why listening matters so much in relationships. Truly listening—without interrupting or planning your next witty comeback— can work wonders for intimacy and trust. In addition to advice and guidance on the art of listening, I share some of my own story as I used to be a terrible listener, always thinking of my return argument, instead of really tuning in. That is until I tried this one quirky hack. Tune in to find out what it is!

Remember to visit my website and explore my free Quantum Sex course—an opportunity to elevate your intimacy to the next level!

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Shadow Work: How Facing Your Inner Demons Can Set You Free with Kristan Sargeant Aug 14, 2024

Have you ever felt shocked at how strongly you react to something? Feeling stuck in the same patterns you know don’t serve you? Well it may be your Shadow at work. And understanding your shadows leads to transformation and sets you free. The path to that freedom lies in the parts of yourself you've been ignoring.

Joining me in this Language of Love Conversation is the amazing business consultant and psychotherapist Kristan Sargeant. Together, we dive into a fascinating conversation about the shadow—those hidden parts of ourselves shaped by societal pressures and intense experiences. It’s incredible how these buried aspects can impact our lives in unexpected ways.

Kristan breaks down the whole concept of Shadow, explaining how it forms and why it's so important to bring it out into the light. We even do a mini shadow session with a my producer, Sam! Kristan also shares some of her own personal insights and gives tips on how to build a relationship with your shadow for some serious personal growth and transformation.

This is what we explore:

What is shadow and shadow work?
Practical steps for engaging with the shadow to stop negative patterns
How to negotiate with your shadow and consistently show up for it
The importance of shadow wisdom

Remember to check out The Tools: 5 Tools to Help You Find Courage, Creativity, and Willpower--and Inspire You to Live Life in Forward Motion by Phil Stutz and Barry Michaels for insights on Shadow work. Follow Kristan on Instagram, LinkedIn or visit her website for her latest projects. Also, remember to visit my website for courses and books designed for you and more.

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Unmasking Your Inner Child: The Key to Authentic Living Aug 07, 2024

They say the secret to deeper, more authentic relationships might be hidden in your childhood. What if the love languages you speak today are echoes from a younger version of yourself?

In this Language of Love session, I’m reconnecting with Carmen, a caller I advised on the show nearly two years! Time really does fly, doesn’t it?

Carmen has been on quite a journey since we last spoke. Remember when she was grappling with hiding her personal values from her partner and dealing with people-pleasing and codependency? It’s a struggle many of us can relate to, seeking validation from others while keeping parts of ourselves hidden. For Carmen, that meant concealing her spiritual beliefs from her partner—a recipe for tension in any relationship!

Fast forward to today, and Carmen’s life is buzzing with change. She’s moved to a new town with her partner, left her decade-long job, and embarked on a new career path. Quite a whirlwind, right? On top of that, her father, who struggles with alcoholism, is coming to visit.

In this session, we dive into these major transitions and explore how Carmen can stay true to herself amid it all.

Let's delve into what we uncover:

Carmen's journey of self-discovery and embracing her spirituality
The impact of upbringing on self-expression and fear of judgment
The power of self-acceptance and being authentic in personal growth
The emotional rollercoaster of opening up and being vulnerable
What "soul retrieval" is and how it heals past traumas
Transitions in life and the associated fears and pressures
How working with our inner child can ease fears and boost self-love
Why a supportive environment is key for being vulnerable

I recommend Teal Swan’s book The Completion Process and her course on revisiting and healing those parts of ourselves we often resist—the inner child work, if you will. After all, the inner child is often the first step in spiritual awakening.

Remember to visit my website for tailor-made courses like the "Good Grief" course, "Quantum Sex," and more. Let’s embrace being unapologetically authentic and make every moment count!

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How to Fight For Love Aug 05, 2024

Let's be real—every couple has their moments. Fights are just part of the deal in relationships. Having healthy disagreements and working through them in a respectful way can actually make your bond stronger.

In this Language of Love Bite, I bust the myth that happy couples never fight. I'm all about how fighting can be good—if you do it right. I share easy tips on staying calm when things heat up, understanding what’s really bugging you both, and communicating effectively.

Let’s break down:

Why fighting can actually be healthy for love
How to build relationship resilience through disagreements
The steps to a healthy resolution
The importance of calming your nerves before a fight
Practical tips to regulate your nervous system
How to find clarity when emotions are running high
Three questions that can help you see things more clearly

And once your fight is lovingly resolved, take your sex life to the next level and dive into Quantum Sex on my website for game-changing insights and techniques. Don't miss out on unlocking your full potential!

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The New Rules of Attachment with Dr. Judy Ho Jul 31, 2024

Did you know that your self-talk could be the sneaky culprit affecting your relationships more than you think? Maybe you've found yourself stuck in a relationship rut, scratching your head, wondering why things just aren't clicking with your partner. What if the secret to unlocking those mysteries might just lie within you and your partner's attachment style?

In this Language of Love Conversation, I’m joined by the amazing Dr. Judy Ho, a triple board-certified neuropsychologist and author of “The New Rules of Attachment.” Her book is full of insights into how our attachment styles shape, well, pretty much everything we do.

Attachment styles are essentially the blueprints that guide how we connect with others, pursue our dreams, and see ourselves. They influence everything from our love lives to our careers and even our self-perception. Dr. Judy breaks down the four main attachment styles and we chat about how they often have their roots in our childhood experiences.

We discuss:

Why it is important to know your attachment style
How negative self-talk is everywhere these days and what it's doing to our mental well-being
The connection between always expecting the worst and your attachment style
The influence of childhood experiences on attachment styles
Strategies for healing and re-parenting oneself to develop a secure attachment
The magic of self-compassion and why validating your feelings is key
The impact of cultural expectations on women and the need for self-permission to prioritize their own needs
The practice of embracing mistakes with humor and self-compassion

Remember to check out Dr. Judy's book, “The New Rules of Attachment!” Also, follow Dr. Judy on Instagram for insights and find free resources on her website. And as always, you can check out my books and courses that can help level-up your love life on my website.

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Is Stress Taking a Toll on Your Relationship? Jul 24, 2024

Ever felt like stress could be the invisible third wheel in your relationship? It's not just you. Stress has this uncanny ability to seep into our lives like an uninvited guest at a party—especially when it comes to relationships.

In this Language of Love Session, we catch up with Marla and Ken. Since our last chat they have been on quite a journey together through some major stresses, and they are learning to accept each others bids for connection which resulted in discovering a new hobby! It has not only led to “sprouting” some beautiful blooms, but also deepened their connection.

Marla opens up about her experiences with hormone therapy and the hurdles she's faced during intimate moments. But here's the kicker: with a bit of guidance on from me and a positive mindset, they're tackling these challenges head-on. It's clear these two are committed to not just surviving but thriving in their relationship journey.

For those who might have missed our previous episodes, I highly recommend going back and checking them out to get the full context of Marla and Ken's journey. It's been an enlightening experience, not just for them but for all of us listening in. So many of you tell me you’ve been learning along with them.

So, let's delve into how things have been progressing since our last conversation including:

How to recognize stress triggers in relationships
The overall impact of stress on relationships
Role kf hormone therapy in relationships and intimacy
Exploration of self-stimulation and overcoming resistance
Importance of approaching challenges with an open mind and curiosity

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Do Women Really Want a Good Guy? Jul 22, 2024

Why does it seem like the nice guys finish last? Women say they want one, but they always seem to go for the bad boy in the end.

In this Language of Love Bite, I uncover the truth about why women often find themselves captivated by the so-called "jerks," leaving nice guys in the dust and overlooked in favor of these "bad boys." It's not about advocating for guys to mistreat women, but rather understanding the complexities of attraction.

I am exploring:

The complex interplay of psychological and emotional factors in relationships
Women's past trauma and its impact on relationship preferences
The discrepancy between women's stated desires and their actual attraction
Women's self-worth and self-esteem affecting their acceptance of love and kindness
Guidance for nice guys to assert their opinions, desires, and boundaries in relationships

If you're ready to elevate your love life, check out my website, the Seven Days To Better Sex Life and Quantum Sex for game-changing insights. Don't miss out on unlocking your full potential!

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Parenting a Struggling Child with Kristina Kuzmic Jul 17, 2024

The saying goes, “A parent is only as happy as their least happy child.” While this may be a bit of a codependent edict, it’s true that when your child is struggling with anxiety, depression or in any other way it takes a deep toll on the family system. And as parents we try everything we can think of to help, but often those efforts don’t create any substantive change.

In this episode of the Language of Love, I welcome back my good friend Kristina Kuzmic, a writer, creator, and mother, to discuss her new book, I Can Fix This and Other Lies I Told Myself While Parenting My Struggling Child. If you're a regular listener, you'll likely recall our in-depth chat in 2023 about her book 'Hold On, But Don't Hold Still,' where we explored personalized parenting and supporting our children through mental health challenges.

Today, Kristina shares her journey of parenting Luca, her son who battled depression, ADHD, and anxiety. At a certain point he became suicidal and a danger to himself and others. Kristina’s journey and the amazingly authentic way she shares it is inspiring and instructive.

We have a heart-to-heart chat about the importance of empathy and connection over trying to fix or control their struggles. She shares important and effective lessons she learned the hard way about how to best to support our kids through their toughest times.

Kristina and I deep dive into:

What it takes to parent children who are struggling
Kristina's backstory that led her to write her book
Why we should embrace empathy over control with struggling children
The ways our Children's struggles require that we address our unhealed parts
The importance of self-care for parents to better support struggling children
Redefining “good motherhood”

Check out Kristina's new book, I Can Fix This and Other Lies I Told Myself While Parenting My Struggling Child, as well as her previous bestseller, Hold On, But Don't Hold Still, for valuable insights. Follow her on LinkedIn, Website, Facebook, or Instagram for updates on her projects. And don’t forget, you can visit my website for helpful courses and resources designed for you.

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Unleashing Your Inner Strength: Healing After Narcissistic Abuse Jul 10, 2024

Have you ever thought about what it's like to live under the same roof with someone who once promised to love and protect you, but now subjects you to a relentless storm of emotional jabs, verbal assaults, gaslighting and manipulation?

Welcome back to another Language of Love Session. Today, I'm chatting with Mia, who's on a journey of healing and self-discovery after leaving an emotionally abusive relationship with a narcissist. We're diving into her journey of self-discovery and navigating the challenges of sharing space with her ex while sorting out the drama of divorce.

Setting boundaries is a big part of our conversation today—so crucial for reclaiming your confidence after a rough patch. I'm reminding Mia (and you, too!) about the power of letting those pent-up emotions out. It's like clearing out your closet—you've got to make space for the new by letting go of the old!

Here is what we explore:

The emotional toll of narcissistic relationships
How to recover from codependency and reclaim your own truth (again and again)
The steps to leaving an abusive relationship
Expressing and releasing emotions in a safe and non-destructive manner
Encouragement to allow oneself to feel and release sadness without suppression
Creating a safe space for holding your own boundaries
Importance of ongoing support and guidance during the transition out of the relationship

Remember, if you're going through a tough time, swing by my website for resources and courses. Let's tackle this healing journey together and come out stronger!

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Seven Keys to Building Sexual Confidence Jul 08, 2024

Are you ever uncertain about your sexual confidence? Whether it's feeling self-conscious with your partner or nerves about your first time, rest assured, you're not alone. No matter your level of experience, I'm here to help you feel more comfortable with your sexuality.

In this Language of Love Bite, I dive into a topic that many people shy away from discussing—sexual confidence. Strengthening your sexual confidence can greatly enhance both your mental well-being and your relationships. It might feel like opening Pandora's box, but fear not! I'll guide you through how to cultivate that crucial sexual confidence, unveiling the seven keys to mastering it. I'll reveal what it takes to bring your A-game to the bedroom, leaving your partner craving more. Get ready to feel empowered and equipped with everything you need to excel between the sheets!

Looking to spice up your sex life? Start by prioritizing open communication, experimenting with the fantasy box technique, joining my Seven Days to Better Sex program, and exploring Quantum Sex. Visit my website to learn more about how you can reignite the passion and create a deeply fulfilling sex life with your partner.

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Embracing Sacred Ceremony with Cynthia Ruiz Jul 03, 2024

We can add so much to our existence in this modern world by tapping into the ancient traditions that have so much to teach us. When it comes to grief and loss, rituals can provide opportunities for profound healing, connection and community.

Cynthia Ruiz, a professor, bestselling author, executive coach, and leadership expert joins us in this Language of Love Conversation to explore the transformative power of sacred ceremonies and rituals in today's busy world. Her latest book, “Sacred Ceremony and Rituals for Today's World,” is a cornerstone for our discussion. Drawing from her Cherokee heritage, Cynthia illuminates the purpose and practice of sacred ceremonies, a cornerstone of human experience across cultures and time. These rituals, she explains, are not just relics of the past but vital tools for personal growth and healing in our contemporary lives.

Here is what we unravel:

Importance of self-protection rituals and protecting one's energy
Significance of rituals and ceremonies in Native American culture
The importance of incorporating sacred ceremony into everyday life
Elements involved in creating a sacred ceremony
Use of the four elements - fire, water, earth, and air - for release and cleansing
Letting go of toxic relationships and making room for positive energy

Cynthia's wisdom is readily accessible in her book “Sacred Ceremony and Rituals for Today's World,” You can also connect with her on LinkedIn, Facebook, or Website. Visit my website to explore courses designed to enhance your relationships.

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Menopause, Stress, and Sexual Desire Jun 26, 2024

It’s time for another Language of Love Session where I get to sit down with one of my listeners and help them with their love life. I love these episodes because each time you ask your questions (and I give the answer), I know we are helping 100s of thousands of other people with the same query!

In this episode I’m helping Mary who, like way too many of us, has been living in a sexless marriage with her husband for some time. Much of her low desire is due to the daily grind and work-related stress, but was compounded by premature menopause in her thirties. If you are struggling in a sexless relationship or with low desire, listen in for important tips and tools for addressing the symptoms from a mind, body and relationship perspective.

In this episode I help Mary unravel:

Challenges in sexual relationships due to menopause and work-related stress
Effects of stress on men's sexual desire and decline of testosterone with age
Importance of understanding hormonal changes and their impact on sexual health
Practical suggestions for improving sexual communication and exploring alternative approaches to intimacy
Options for improving sexual response and desire, particularly for women
Insurance coverage for treatments such as testosterone replacement and locally delivered estrogen
Reassurance about the normalcy of reduced sexual activity in long-term relationships
The importance of maintaining a strong emotional connection in a relationship

Join us on this journey to better understanding and improving our intimate lives. Visit my website to explore courses designed to enhance your relationships.

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Losing Sammy: A Very Personal Update on My Grief Journey Jun 24, 2024

What if the most impossible loss turns out to set you free in ways you couldn’t imagine?

What if instead of going through loss you could grow through it?

What if you become a more self-actualized, tapped-in and tuned-in empowered version of yourself, because of what you’ve been through (not in spite of it)?

What if love really lives forever and you can learn to continue a relationship with your loved ones on the other side?

What if you didn’t have to go through terrible loss alone or struggle to find the right kind of support or community who understands?

These are questions I couldn’t imagine having, much less answering over three years ago when my son Sammy was killed. Grief became my unwelcome companion, but strangely, it also became my greatest teacher. Healing from loss is messy, unpredictable, and deeply personal. Now, I'm on a mission fueled by passion—to help others like me find their own paths through grief and toward spiritual renewal. Join me as I share my story, the hard-won lessons, and how we can all navigate the stormy seas of grief with grace and resilience.

This is what we explore:

The transformative power of allowing oneself to fully experience and process pain
The interconnectedness of grief and spirituality
The importance of embodiment, nature exposure, spirit connection, tribe, creative expression, and cognitive thinking in the grief healing journey
The therapeutic value of creative expression and cognitive thinking in understanding the stages of grief
My personal journey of grief and the resources and programs I offer for individuals seeking support and guidance

For those in need of more support and guidance, check out the Good Grief course on my website along with other resources and programs aimed at assisting individuals through their grief journey. Remember, grief is not merely a destination but a transformative journey.

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Sovereign Love with Dene Logan Jun 19, 2024

What does it take to achieve true harmony in our relationships? Regardless of your gender or sexual identity or role in your relationships, understanding the balance of masculine and feminine energies is crucial for intimacy, connection and personal power in love.

In this Language of Love conversation, I have a heart-to-heart with therapist and author, Dene Logan. Dene’s new book, “Sovereign Love,” delves into finding the perfect mix of masculine and feminine energies in our relationships. We discuss the challenges of navigating societal expectations, especially for moms juggling responsibilities and managing dynamics within their relationships.

We explore the question of how we can lean on each other in love without losing ourselves and how we can work as a team with our partners to heal what isn’t working in love. It's all about getting to know yourself, embracing what makes us different, being real with each other, and keeping that spark alive while staying true to yourself.

We unpack:

Reclaiming healthy masculine and feminine energies in love and partnership
Balancing masculine and feminine energies in work and home life
Societal norms and their impact on relationships
Challenges faced by couples, particularly in the context of motherhood
Embracing interdependence in relationships
The vulnerability and authenticity that lies within communication

Check out Dene's book, "Sovereign Love: A Guide to Healing Relationships by Reclaiming the Masculine and Feminine Within," for more insights, and tune into her podcast, “Cheaper Than Therapy” too! As always, visit my website to explore my available courses to improve your relationship.

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Hormone Therapy and the Path to Renewed Passion Jun 12, 2024

In this episode of the Language of Love Session, I continue my conversation with Marla and Ken, a couple I've been helping to understand the hurdles they've faced and the strides they've made in enhancing their emotional and physical intimacy.

We delve into the details of their physical intimacy and sexual relationship. Ken opens up about his struggle with sexual energy and desire, which he feels is lacking, describing it as "flat." Although his testosterone levels have been normal in past tests, we get into how misleading the wide range of “normal” is, and how important it is to have results read by someone who’s really trained in anti-aging medicine and hormone therapy. I also cover the important role testosterone plays, not only for sexual desire but also for overall well-being, and we discuss various hormone replacement options.

Marla shares her perspective as well, and together we reflect on how Ken's recent retirement might be influencing his energy and motivation. I advise them to consult with a specialist in sexual medicine to address these concerns, with the hope of enhancing their relationship.

Here is what we explore:

Importance of initiating physical intimacy in the relationship
Emphasis on sensual and erotic touch to strengthen the connection
Retirement and its impact on confidence and sense of purpose
Testosterone therapy and its potential impact on sexual energy and general well-bein

Remember, the journey to rekindling intimacy is both personal and universal. Check out my website for books and courses like Quantum Sex to improve your sex life, along with many others.

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Size Matters... or Does It? Jun 10, 2024

In this Language of Love Bite, I'm diving into a topic that seems to be on a lot of men's minds: penis size. I know it's a sensitive subject, but it's important to talk about the concerns and misconceptions that surround it.

Let's get one thing straight: the myths about what's considered "average" size are pervasive. I came across a study that really puts things into perspective—50% of men weren't happy with their size, yet a staggering 80% of women were actually content with their partner's size. This discrepancy shows that the pressure men feel is often internal and not based on the reality of their partners' satisfaction.

I want to caution you against making comparisons to what you see in pornography. Porn is not real life, and it's certainly not a benchmark for your own body. And when it comes to treatments that promise to increase size, please be wary. There are countless products and procedures out there, from penis extenders to surgery, but they come with limited benefits and significant risks.

I want to reassure you that in most cases, your size is more than adequate. What's truly important in a sexual relationship is technique and the emotional connection you share with your partner.

Remember, if you're seeking to elevate your sex life, visit my website and explore my course on quantum sex.

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Unleashing the Power of Emotional Parenting with Cassidy Callan Jun 05, 2024

As parents, we play a critical role of being a safe container for our children's emotions. It's so important for us to understand that our kids need us to be their emotional anchors. And let's be honest, that's not always easy. It means we have to do the hard work of unlearning some of our own past conditioning so we can better co-regulate with our little ones.

In this episode of The Language of Love, I'm joined by the wonderful parenting coach Cassidy Callan. Together, we're diving into the intricate world of parenting, with a special focus on emotional intelligence. Cassidy is here to offer some invaluable advice on how to handle those inevitable emotional outbursts. She's a pro at guiding parents on the importance of grounding, empathy, and validation. It's not just about managing the outbursts—it's about understanding them and using those moments as opportunities for connection and growth.

We're also going to emphasize the significance of being present and empathetic. I can't stress enough how modeling emotional regulation is key. Creating a nurturing environment is essential for children to develop their emotional intelligence. Our kids learn from watching us, so it's up to us to show them what it looks like to handle emotions in a healthy way.

We explore:

Creating a safe and empathetic environment for emotional expression and regulation
The impact of parents' emotional state on children
Collaborative and cooperative parenting
Supporting children's emotional development and nurturing their unique abilities and gifts
The challenges of regulating emotions in public settings
Validating and empathizing with children's emotions

Be sure to check out my website for my courses, books, and products that can help you love and be loved better.

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Finding Balance in the Wake of Cancer May 29, 2024

In this Language of Love Session, I have the privilege of reconnecting with Victoria, a courageous soul navigating the turbulent waters of her relationship after her partner's cancer diagnosis. Her story is one of love, resilience, and the quest for balance amidst life's unexpected challenges.

Victoria's experience is a reminder of how illness can transform not only the life of the person diagnosed but also that of their partner. She bravely shares her frustrations about feeling lost in the role of a caretaker, a sentiment that many can relate to. The balance between supporting a loved one and maintaining one's sense of self is delicate and often difficult to achieve.

Here's a sneak peek of what we discuss:

Victoria's struggles in her relationship after her partner's cancer diagnosis and treatment
The intricate balance of healing and growth within a relationship affected by illness
The complexities of confronting uncertainty and the allure of looking for answers externally
The importance of open communication and seeking professional help

Remember that relationships are a dance of give and take, especially in times of crisis. It's through our challenges that we often find our greatest strengths and learn the most about ourselves and our partners. Don't forget to check out my website for courses designed to improve your sex life and relationships!

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The Five Secrets to Capture Your Partner's Heart May 27, 2024

Do you find yourself in a place where you feel less attractive or irresistible to your partner? You're not alone. It's a common challenge that many people face in their relationships. The good news is that there are strategies and actions you can take to become truly irresistible to your partner.

In this Language of Love Bite, I share some golden nuggets to make you absolutely irresistible to your partner. Together, we dive into these transformative insights that can sprinkle some magic into your relationship. From cherishing your independence to keeping that flame of desire alive with little gestures of love, each tip is like a spark igniting deeper connections and joy.

As we journey through the importance of loving yourself, looking after your appearance, and daring to explore new adventures together, a path unfolds. It's not just about spicing things up for a moment; it's about nurturing a love that's lasting and electrifying. With these simple yet powerful principles of independence, desire, appearance, exploration, and self-love, you will be on your way to crafting a relationship that's irresistibly beautiful.

Remember, if you're seeking to elevate your sex life, visit my website and explore my course on quantum sex.

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The Kitchen Healer with Jules Davis May 22, 2024

Did you know your kitchen is like a special sanctuary where you can nourish your body and soul, and even find a way to cope with loss and grief through cooking?

In this Language of Love Conversation, I'm joined by the amazing Jules Davis, also known as the Kitchen Healer, and the author of “The Kitchen Healer: The Journey to Becoming You.”

Jules and I talk about how cooking and food aren't just about filling our bellies but also key ingredients in self-care, personal growth, and nurturing our emotional health. Jules has some incredible insights on the power of cooking with intention and how being mindful in the kitchen can transform the whole experience. As for me, I'm sharing a bit about how I have had to redefine my own relationship with food over the years. It's been a path of discovery, not just about what I'm eating, but also understanding my deeper hungers – those emotional needs that we often try to satisfy with a snack or a meal.

Together, we’re challenging some of those traditional views on nourishment. We are all about embracing a more nurturing, expressive, and yes, delicious approach to cooking and eating. So, let's get ready to stir the pot and spice things up in this episode!

Curious about what's on the menu? Here's a sneak peek:

Jules’ expertise as the Kitchen Healer and her work on women's healing
The concept of nourishment and its connection to emotional well-being
Recognizing cooking as a meditative and nurturing practice
The emotional and spiritual dimensions of cooking
Slowing down and creating intention around nourishing oneself
Nourishment beyond just food, encompassing connection, love, and passion

Don't forget to explore Jules Davis' book, The Kitchen Healer, to discover how turning on the fire in the kitchen and in your life can bring you freedom. Connect with her on Facebook, LinkedIn, and Instagram or Website. Also, If you are going through grief, please remember to visit my website to explore my good grief course because no one should go through grief alone.

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Navigating the Tides of Intimacy May 15, 2024

In this Language of Love Session, I catch up with the amazing couple, Marla and Ken, who have been married for 38 years, to discuss the challenges and triumphs of maintaining intimacy in a long-term relationship.

If you have been following Ken and Marla's journey, you're probably eager to hear about their progress. And if you're new to their story, I highly recommend catching up on their previous episodes—it's been quite a ride!

Marla and Ken open up about their emotional highs and lows, including the impact of losing a close friend and struggles with finding the right therapist and committing to daily connection exercises. We also delve into their struggles with self-criticism and their pursuit of joy within their partnership. So, let's dive right in and see how things have been unfolding since our last session.

We discuss:

Challenges in expressing love and connection in the relationship
Importance of foundational activities for maintaining a strong connection
Suggestions for building physical and emotional intimacy
Identifying specific actions to nurture emotional bonds and self-care

Don't forget to explore my free course on Quantum Sex! It's designed to elevate your sexual experience to new heights. Simply visit the homepage of my website to get started. Until next time!

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Exploring the Peaks of Female Pleasure May 13, 2024

Are you tired of the same old snooze fest in the bedroom? Are you craving a wild, spine-tingling adventure that will leave you breathless and begging for more? Well, my friend, you've come to the right place!

In this Language of Love Bite, I'm excited to dive into a topic that's both fun and informative. I'm going to share with you my insights on five sexual positions that women find enjoyable. We also get cozy with spooning, discussing the intimacy it brings to your connection with your partner. And let's not forget the Yab Yum and Cat Technique – I explain how these positions can enhance your connection and really activate the G-spot.

Let’s dive in!

I'm all about experimentation and finding what works best for you and your body, so visit my website for all my courses, books, and products that will definitely heighten your pleasure. I even have a course on quantum sex to help you explore further!

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The Path to Liberated Love with Mark Groves and Kylie McBeath May 08, 2024

Imagine having a blueprint for love that empowers you to design the kind of love that fulfills you, lifts you up, and sets you free.

In this Language of Love Conversation, I’m sitting down with two remarkable guests. Joining me is Mark Groves, a human connection specialist and founder of Create the Love, and Kylie McBeath, a certified health coach and host of the Journey Home podcast. Together, they form a powerhouse couple who have co-authored the book “Liberated Love.”

Mark and Kylie introduce us to the concept of liberated love, a term that encapsulates a commitment to truth, transparency, and honoring each other's individual paths in a relationship. This approach to love is about not trying to fix or control one another but rather supporting each other's growth and authenticity.

Their personal journey, which they candidly share, took them from a phase they refer to as relationship 1.0—a time marked by unconscious dynamics and codependency—to a transformative period they call the sacred pause. This mutual uncoupling allowed them to embark on a journey of self-discovery and growth, which eventually led them back to each other, ready to begin relationship 2.0, a renewed and more conscious partnership.

Here is what we unpack with Kylie and Mark:

The concept of “liberated love” and its principles
The significance of the “sacred pause” in relationships
An exploration of codependency in relationships
Recognition of blind spots and masks in relationships
Self-awareness, healing from codependency, and personal growth before entering new relationships
Intergenerational patterns and societal influences in shaping beliefs about relationships

Check out Liberated Loveby Mark Groves and Kylie McBeath. Whether you're single, in a relationship, exploring a transition, or seeking growth, this book is for you. You can also find Mark on Create the Love and Kylie on Instagram for more inspiring content. Also, do not forget to check my website for more resources to take your intimacy to the next level.

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Near-Death Experience Insights on Love and Being with Anita Moorjani May 01, 2024

In this episode of Language of Love, I am featuring another session from the Good Grief Day event, and this time we have speaker and author Anita Moorjani. Anita's story is nothing short of miraculous. She was grappling with end-stage cancer, her body riddled with tumors, and she was on the verge of what seemed like an inevitable end. But it was in this moment of extreme physical depletion that Anita experienced something extraordinary—a near-death experience that would change her life forever.

She also explores the significance of joy in our lives and the comforting idea that our departed loved ones are still with us in some form. During the Q&A segment, she offers her perspective on what the afterlife might hold for controversial figures, discussing the notion of personal growth beyond the traditional view of eternal punishment.

We explore:

Cultural conditioning and societal expectations impacting Anita's illness
Anita's miraculous recovery and the importance of finding joy and uplifting energy
Communicating with deceased loved ones and the signs they send
Addressing the belief that grieving may keep loved ones trapped
The choice to operate from the highest version of oneself

Please remember to check Anita's website to learn more about her latest projects. Don't forget to grab a copy of her book "Dying to Be Me" for more insights. You can also connect with her on LinkedIn. As usual, you can visit my website for more amazing resources and courses.

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The Hidden Impact of Trauma on Love and Relationships May 01, 2024

In this Language of Love Bite, we're going to dive deep into a topic that's both incredibly personal and universally relevant – the five common types of trauma and how they impact our love lives and relationships.

As a sex and relationship therapist, I've seen firsthand how trauma can really shake the foundation of our self-worth and trust. We're talking about sexual trauma, physical trauma, emotional trauma, and those gut-wrenching experiences of rejection, humiliation, abandonment, and betrayal. Each one of these can leave scars that might not be visible to the eye but can be felt deeply in the heart.

I want to walk you through how these traumas can hinder us, and how they can make us put up walls where we should be building bridges. It's about understanding that when we're hurt, our instincts tell us to protect ourselves, sometimes to the point where we might push away the things we desire most – connection, intimacy, and love.

But here's the thing – and this is so important – healing is possible. I can't stress enough the value of trauma-informed therapy. Techniques like somatic experiencing can be game-changers, helping us to reconnect with our bodies and process those deep-seated emotions that we've been carrying around.

If you’re struggling, don’t hesitate to seek professional help. It's not a sign of weakness; it's a step towards recovery. And I want you to know that you're not alone in this. We're in it together, and I'm here to support you on your journey towards healthier, more fulfilling relationships.

Remember to visit my website for tips on revitalizing your sex life: prioritize open communication, try the fantasy box, take my “Seven Days to Better Sex” course, and explore “Quantum Love.”

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The Impact of Trauma in our Body with Dr. Sara Gottfried May 01, 2024

Did you know that 50 million Americans have some form of dysregulated immune system? But here's the catch - you may not even realize that you are one of them. Perhaps you've been given a diagnosis that you don't fully understand or have been told that you have an autoimmune disorder. The truth is, it's not just a medical issue, it's also an emotional one.

In this Language of Love Conversation, I'm excited to be joined by Dr. Sara Gottfried, a Harvard-educated medical doctor, scientist, researcher, and author of four New York Times best-selling books.

We dive into the connections between trauma, autoimmune diseases, and how our bodies keep everything in check. We are chatting about how trauma can throw our systems out of whack, messing with our immune system and sometimes leading to autoimmune issues. Dr. Gottfried is here to shed light on why catching these autoimmune diseases early is so crucial, especially when the signs can be pretty vague.

In this conversation, we break down:

The connection between trauma and dysregulation in the body
The pine system and its role in responding to trauma
Understanding autoimmune diseases and the immune system
Potential treatments for autoimmune conditions

To learn more about Dr. Gottfried's latest projects and to read her latest book, Hormone Cure, visit her website. Explore the connections between trauma, autoimmune diseases, and how our bodies keep everything in check.

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The Most Heartwarming Messages from Beyond with Susan Grau Apr 17, 2024

This Language of Love episode is a special one! I'm sharing another talk from my Good Grief Day event, and this time I’m featuring the incredibly gifted medium and author, Susan Grau. She has an extraordinary ability to connect with the other side, and she reached out to our audience members, delivering messages that are sure to touch the heart.

During the event, Susan brought comfort offering apologies, expressions of love, and even signs from their departed loved ones. They’re truly powerful moments, and you can feel the love reaching out from beyond. It's moments like these that remind us of the unbreakable bonds of love.

As we delve into these connections, I can't help but relate to the profound sense of grief that comes with losing someone we love. I've been there, and I understand how hard it is. But I also know the solace and closure that can come from feeling that connection to our loved ones who have passed on. It's a reminder that love transcends all, even death.

Be sure to check out my website for my online course, Good Grief: Healing from Loss with Love, for more guidance and support on your healing journey. And, remember to grab a copy of Susan’s book “Infinite Life, Infinite Lessons.” Happy reading!

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The Art of Synchronized Satisfaction Apr 15, 2024

Have you ever imagined how you can achieve simultaneous orgasms with your partner? Many people find it challenging to experience this together. However, some techniques can be employed in your sex life to achieve this shared climax.

In this episode of the Language of Love Bite, I dive into a subject that is often whispered about in the corners of our most private conversations: the art of achieving simultaneous orgasms with your partner.

I explore:

How to achieve simultaneous orgasms with a partner
The importance of individual and mutual orgasms
The beauty of incorporating oral stimulation alongside self-stimulation
Significance of open communication and intuition during sexual exchanges
The stepwise approach to practicing simultaneous orgasms
The differences in time to reach orgasm for men and women

Don't forget to visit my website and explore the free Quantum Sex course. It will help you elevate your sexual response to new heights.

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The Definitive Guide to Menopause with Dr Louise Newson Apr 10, 2024

If you or a woman you love is in her 40s or beyond, this episode is for you! Going through menopause can feel like walking through a big, confusing and uncomfortable maze with no guidance. The good news is there is help and guidance available!

In this Language of Love Conversation, I sit down with Dr. Louise Newson, a renowned medical expert on menopause and author of "The Definitive Guide to the Perimenopause and Menopause," to unravel the complexities of menopause, perimenopause, and hormone therapy. Our conversation is not only enlightening but also deeply personal, as we delve into the evolutionary context of menopause and the myriad of symptoms and treatments associated with this life stage. We chat about the incredible benefits of hormone therapy, and yes, that includes vaginal hormones. It's all about finding what works for you because, let's face it, every woman's journey is unique. Personalized treatment? Absolutely essential.

This episode is all about empowering you with knowledge and compassion because navigating menopause is a journey that no woman should have to walk alone. Let's get informed and support each other every step of the way.

Here is a summary of what we unpack:

The evolutionary context of menopause
The different symptoms and treatments associated with menopause
The misdiagnosis of menopausal symptoms as depression
The impact of menopausal symptoms on sexual desire and intimacy
A holistic approach to menopause care and caution against sensationalized or over-medicalized approaches

Remember to check out Dr Louise Newson’s book, The Definitive Guide to the Perimenopause and Menopause, for more insights. You can also visit her website or connect with her on LinkedIn.

Additionally, don't forget to explore my brand new course that aims to unleash the passion within and help you enjoy a better sex life.

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How to Transform Grief into Growth with Biet Simkin Apr 03, 2024

This episode of the Language of Love is a special one! I’m thrilled to share with you the beautiful talk Biet Simkin gave at our Good Grief Day event. Biet is a spiritual teacher and musician whose life story is a profound testament to the resilience of the human spirit. She shares her journey of healing and takes us through her powerful breathwork practice (make sure you aren’t driving or operating heavy machinery when you do it!).

Biet opens her heart to us, sharing her personal narrative of navigating through the darkest valleys of loss and emerging into the light of purpose and spiritual awakening. She speaks candidly about her descent into depression and self-destructive behavior, a tumultuous period exacerbated by the vibrant yet chaotic New York City art scene. The story takes a heartbreaking turn when she recounts the unimaginable loss of her infant daughter to sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS). That tragedy was only compounded by the subsequent deaths of her father and the loss of her home. It's at her breaking point that Biet surrenders to a higher power, marking the beginning of her transformation. She leads us in a grief meditation and discusses her unique breathwork technique. I have personally experienced the benefits of breathwork and can't wait for you to try it.

You will learn:

Biet’s personal story of loss; her struggles with depression, substance abuse, and grief, and how it transformed her
Biet's insights on grief and leading the audience through a grief meditation exercise
Recommendations for practicing breathwork at home
Personal stories of loss and healing shared by the audience

I invite you to join us on this journey. Whether you're seeking solace, understanding, or a new perspective on your own path of healing, this episode is for you.

Don't forget to visit my website for my grief course. Check out Biet Simkin's book, "Don't Just Sit There!: 44 Insights to Get Your Meditation Practice Off the Cushion and Into the Real World." It's amazing! For updates on Biet Simkin's latest projects and to connect with her, visit her website or reach out on LinkedIn.

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The Secrets to Female Orgasm Apr 01, 2024

Did you know that most women fake their orgasms? It's a shocking reality that brings to light the underlying issues surrounding female pleasure. However, amidst the discussions on faking orgasms, there's a lesser-known side to the story. What happens when a woman actually cannot reach an orgasm?

This Language of Love Bite is all about a topic that is both captivating and incredibly important for women – achieving orgasm. I acknowledge that it can sometimes be a difficult subject to discuss, but let's have an honest conversation about it. Understanding our bodies is essential, and this includes becoming comfortable with self-stimulation. Ultimately, it's about being self-aware, right?

Here is a glimpse of what I unpack:

What happens when a woman can't reach orgasm
The common causes for an orgasm, or difficulty or inability to reach orgasm
The most common myths about women reaching orgasm
Importance of self-exploration and understanding one's body
Why many women fake orgasm
The guilt and shame around sexuality
The impact of attention deficit disorder on orgasm
The lack of enough foreplay among couples
The physiological aspects that influence a woman's ability to orgasm.
Debunk the myth that mutual orgasm is the ultimate goal
The significance of intimacy and connection in sexual satisfaction

Please remember to visit my website where you can find my free course on Quantum Sex. This course is designed to help you enhance your sexual response and experience full-body orgasms. It will also teach you how to use sex magic to manifest your dreams and establish a deeper sexual connection with your partner.

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Love and Translation with Sangita Patel Mar 27, 2024

Can love truly transcend language barriers? Is it possible for two souls to connect in the absence of a shared vocabulary? These questions have puzzled philosophers, poets, and love-struck individuals for centuries.

In this Language of Love Conversation, I am thrilled to be joined by Sangita Patel, Canadian TV personality from Love and Translation, to discuss the complexities of finding love across language barriers. Love and Translation is a social experiment reality show where American men and women, who don't speak English, try to form connections without a common language. The women have translators, but the men must use nonverbal cues, engaging in activities like eye gazing and smelling competitions to see if love can grow without words.

We dive into:

Nonverbal communication and cultural differences in relationships
The impact of hormonal contraceptives on attraction
Importance of maintaining emotional and physical connection in relationships
Importance of communication and affection in relationships, and especially in parenting
The power of nonverbal communication and the potential for love to transcend linguistic and cultural boundaries

Remember to watch the Love and Translation show to discover more about Sangita's work. Follow her on LinkedIn, Instagram, and Facebook to learn more about her projects. And don't forget to visit my website for a free 30-day challenge that will elevate your intimacy to the next level!

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Hormonal Imbalances: The Invisible Culprit Mar 20, 2024

In this episode, we're continuing our conversation with Ken and Marla, who have been kind enough to share their intimacy journey with us. If you've been following their story, you know that we've been exploring some of the challenges they've been facing in their relationship, particularly around intimacy and sexual health.

For those who might have missed our previous episodes, I highly recommend going back and checking them out to get the full context of Ken and Marla's journey. It's been an enlightening experience, not just for them but for all of us listening in.

Now, picking up from where we left off last time, Marla was opening up about her struggles with a lack of sexual response, which she suspects might be linked to hormonal imbalances. And Ken has been dealing with low energy and sleep problems, which can certainly take a toll on intimacy.

I want to stress the significance of hormones in sexual health. They play such a crucial role, and it's important that we don't overlook them. It's not uncommon for sleep issues and low energy to be connected to hormonal imbalances, and identifying any issues there is vital for overall well-being and, by extension, Ken’s relationship with Marla.

So, let's dive in and see how things have been going since our last conversation.

In this episode, we’re diving into:

Marla's concerns about her lack of sexual response and arousal
Ken’s struggles with low energy levels and poor sleep quality
The role of estrogen, progesterone, and testosterone in sexual response and overall well-being
Marla's previous experience with hormone replacement therapy and concerns about family history of breast cancer.
Recommendations for personalized hormone therapy and regular monitoring
The potential risks and side effects of hormone therapy

Remember to check out my free course on Quantum Sex. It's going to teach you how to take your sexual response to the next level. Just go to my website’s homepage. Until next time!

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The Art of Cultivating Soul Friendships Mar 18, 2024

Welcome back to another Language of Love Bite!

This week we explore a topic that resonates deeply with many of us: the making and maintaining of soul friendships.You know, those deep, meaningful connections that just light up your life?

I'm going to share with you the emotional healing necessary to make room for these kinds of friendships. We'll also chat about why knowing your worth and setting boundaries isn't just good for you, but it's essential for nurturing healthy, soulful friendships.

I've got some stories from my own life to share, too, because let's face it, we've all been there when a friendship ends. It's tough, but I'll give you some tips on how to handle it with grace and how to spot the real deal soul friends in your life.

Try out any of my guided meditations to ground your system and regulate your energy, and then check out my book Quantum Love for a deeper dive into this topic.

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My First Ever Interview with a Spirit Guide with Riz Mirza Mar 13, 2024

In this Language of Love Conversation, I'm chatting with Riz Mirza. He may look like a heavy metal rocker (he is by the way), but he’s also a trance-medium psychic channel. We dive into the supernatural (and even spooky) stuff is a part of our natural world that we don't always see. Riz says that thanks to the limitations of our 5 senses, most of us have filters on that only let us catch a glimpse of all the info out there.

Riz opens up about his own story, how he went from pushing away his psychic abilities to totally embracing (and yes rocking) them. He's all about embracing that sensitivity and the strength it brings. And me? I'm sharing some of my heartache and messages I’ve been receiving since loosing my son.

Plus, get this – In addition to a mediumship reading with some wild messages from my departed son, Sammy, Riz channeled a spirit named Red Eagle and I interviewed him!! I’ve never interviewed a spirit guide before. It was wild. He's passing on messages about the state of the world, how to move through these crazy times, and giving a sense of validation that was so comforting. Listen in, it's going to be an incredible show!

In this episode, Riz (and Red Eagle) and I dive into:

Understanding the limitations of human perception and processing of information
The concept of suspending disbelief and being open to new ideas
Why hope actually may work against you.
How to find joyful navigation through chaos
Dealing with grief and finding meaning in loss
Mediumship and channeling as tools for healing and connection with loved ones
The power of sensitivity and self-expression
Overcoming judgments and living authentically
The transformative potential of navigating loss with grace

Be sure to connect with Riz on Instagram and his website to delve deeper into his work. You'll find a wealth of content and insights waiting for you.

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Overcoming Trauma Reactions in Relationships Mar 06, 2024

In this Language of Love Session, we continue our conversation with Ken and Marla, a couple who has been going through some sexual struggles, and we really got into the nitty-gritty of how stress and trauma can mess with your love life.

Ken's been feeling super stressed and it's been hitting their intimacy hard. He's distracted, tired, and just not in the mood, which has been causing some tension between them. Marla, on her end, is experiencing PTSD symptoms in response to Ken’s anger, even though it’s not directed at her. This is not at all uncommon for those with a trauma background. But the dynamic is making her pull away and shut down emotionally. It's like they're stuck in this loop where they just keep triggering each other.

So, I suggest they try somatic experiencing therapy. It's a game-changer for understanding and dealing with trauma responses. And one big thing I emphasized was the need to separate their actions from their reactions. It's not easy, but it's so important for healing and moving forward together.

I'm confident that this session will not only provide you with a deeper understanding of the complexities of trauma in intimate relationships but also arm you with practical guidance to face similar challenges head-on. Remember to check out my recommended books The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma and Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma and let's keep growing together.

Keep pushing forward, and don't be afraid to ask for help when you need it. Here's to healing and growing stronger together!

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Healing from Friendship Breakups Mar 04, 2024

Welcome back to another Language of Love Bite!

Today, I want to share something deeply personal and universally relatable – the often-overlooked pain of friendship breakups. I totally get how losing a friend can feel just like you've lost a member of your family, and with everything going on with the pandemic, those feelings are even more intense.

I'm opening up about my own experiences with losing friends and I'm right here with you, guiding you through those complex emotions. We're going to talk about how to pick yourself up and build that resilience to move forward. It's all about looking inward, reflecting on the friendships we've had, and being brave enough to make new connections.

But here's a heads up – trying to get closure from that former friend might not be the best move. It can actually set you back on your healing journey. So, let's navigate this together and find our way to a place of peace and new beginnings.

I talk about:

Friendship breakups and grief that can bring
Impact of pandemic on friendship breakups
Complex emotions during the grieving process
Navigating loss with grace and resilience
Guidance on navigating the aftermath of friendship breakups
Importance of self-reflection and identifying valued qualities in friendships
Accessing new, more aligned connections to emerge
Practical advice and support for individuals navigating friendship breakups

Have you experienced the pain of loss and found it difficult to cope and heal? If so, I invite you to visit my website and explore the resources available, including a grief course that may help you navigate through your journey of healing.

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Diary of a Human Lie Detector with Annie Särnblad Feb 28, 2024

You ever wonder if someone is telling the truth? It turns out each of us can be a human lie detector! There's no magic involved, only science. It's all about understanding the language of micro facial expressions. By paying attention to small changes in a person's face, we can uncover the truth and strengthen our relationships with others. Whether it's picking up on tiny expressions to see if someone’s into you, understanding the hidden meaning behind a friend's smile, or determining if someone is telling you the truth, knowing the language of facial expressions can make all the difference.

In this Language of Love Conversation, I sit down with Annie Särnblad, a global speaker and certified expert in the Facial Action Coding System (FACS), to learn all about the art of reading micro expressions.

Annie's journey into the realm of facial expressions is as personal as it is professional. Stemming from a childhood marked by abuse, she developed a heightened sensitivity to non-verbal cues as a survival mechanism. This hyper-awareness evolved into a passion for understanding the subtle signals conveyed through our facial expressions, particularly microexpressions—those fleeting, involuntary movements that can betray our true feelings.

We break down:

Annie's personal and professional background in understanding facial expressions, especially microexpressions
The universality of facial expressions across different cultures and languages
How to read micro expression to identify genuine emotions and building trust
Physiological connections to facial expressions, such as the link between disgust and sense of smell
Challenging misconceptions about empathy in individuals with autism
The importance of cultural awareness and considering cultural variations in non-verbal communication
The significance of non-verbal cues in creating authentic connections in various types of relationships

Check out Annie’s book “Diary of a Human Lie Detector: Facial Expressions in Love, Lust, and Lies.” You can also visit her website and follow her on LinkedIn and Instagram to learn more about her work.

Make sure to visit my website to check out my books on love, sex and relationships and explore my available courses. Tune in regularly to The Language of Love for great discussions and thought-provoking conversations with accomplished individuals and experts offering invaluable advice on how to love and be loved better.

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The Body as the Boss Feb 21, 2024

In this Language of Love session, I sit down with Regine, a listener facing the dual challenges of a partner with PTSD and her journey through grief and caregiving. She's navigating the delicate balance between her social desires and her partner's need for solitude due to PTSD. It's a dance many couples know all too well – the push and pull of togetherness and independence. This has put a strain on their relationship, as Regine longs for shared social experiences and support, especially after the loss of her son and the emotional toll of caring for her mother with Alzheimer's. We also touch on something incredibly profound – the connection between our bodies and our emotional well-being. Regine shares her journey of caregiving and personal loss, and together, we discuss the transformative power of tuning into our bodies to find healing and peace.

We deep dive into:

Life's fragility and the desire to cherish every moment
The roles of victim and villain in relationship dynamics
The importance of understanding love languages in a relationship
The importance of having a supportive community outside the relationship
The impact of grief and loss on relationships
Finding the middle ground and compromising in relationships
Why you should be listening to your body and use your heart as a compass

Don't forget to check out my website for helpful meditations on the Quantum Love page that can assist you with your relationships. Take a look at the list of available meditations and see which ones resonate with you.

Also, if you are a mother who has lost a child in any way, join my retreat for grieving mamas at 1440 Multiversity in Santa Cruz, California. Experience healing, community, and workshops with experts like David Kessler and Paul Selig. Visit 1440.org for more information and join us in the beautiful redwoods for four amazing days.

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Overcoming Codependency Feb 19, 2024

Have you ever found yourself constantly prioritizing the needs of others while neglecting your own? Do you get anxious when those you care about are anxious or angry? Do you find arguments leave you contorted, desperately seeking forgiveness and acceptance from your partner? If this sounds like you or someone you love, its time to confront the possibility that you may be trapped in the clutches of codependency.

This Language of Love Bite, I dive into the complex world of codependency, its roots, its effects on our relationships, and the path to healing. The origin of codependency can be traced back to traumatic childhood experiences, such as being raised by an addict, a narcissist, or enduring emotional or physical abuse. These early life challenges often lead to "parentification," where children assume the emotional and sometimes physical responsibilities of caring for their parents, setting the stage for codependent behaviors later in life.

Despite the challenges, I acknowledge the positive aspects of codependency, such as the innate desire to give and receive love. Join me in exploring these insights further and taking the steps toward healing and growth.

In this Bite, I explain:

Codependency as an addiction and a lifetime of recovery
The role of traumatic childhood experiences in developing codependency
Codependents' fear of abandonment and susceptibility to toxic partners
The struggle to discern authentic love from manipulation
The positive and manipulative elements of codependency
How to heal from codependency through inner child work and setting boundaries
The challenges codependents may face when setting boundaries and standing up for themselves

Remember, if you're looking to enhance both your love life and sex life, whether you're in a relationship or not, I highly recommend checking out my free course on Quantum Sex.

Additionally, if you're seeking to break free from codependency, there are some valuable resources I suggest exploring. Co-dependents Anonymous is a great program that can provide the guidance you need. Another excellent resource is Melodie Beattie's influential book, "Codependent No More."

These resources can offer invaluable insights and support on your journey towards personal growth and independence.

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Breaking the Cycle of Intergenerational Trauma with Dr. Mariel Buque Feb 14, 2024

What if I told you that your ancestors' traumas could be actively influencing your life today? What if the pain they endured, generations ago, could still shape your relationships, behaviors, and even your DNA? It's a thought-provoking concept, isn't it? Welcome to the world of intergenerational trauma.

In this Language of Love Conversation, I am excited to be joined by Dr. Mariel Buque, a Columbia-trained mystic psychologist, professor, sound bath meditation healer, and intergenerational trauma expert. Dr. Mariel brings a wealth of knowledge to our discussion, which centers around her new book, “Break the Cycle: A Guide to Healing Intergenerational Trauma.” Together, we dive deep into the heart of what it means to carry emotional burdens from our past and how we can liberate ourselves and our future generations from these invisible chains.

Here's a glimpse of what we discuss:

The impact of healing from intergenerational trauma on family dynamics and relationships
The energetic perspective and the impact of past family members on our lives
How to handle family members who resist or deny their trauma
The concept of “parenting back, parenting forward” and intergenerational re-parenting
Seven key areas for fostering growth and healing from intergenerational trauma
The potential consequences of anxious-attachment parenting
How to impart legacies to future generations and learn to apologize to our kids

Remember to check out Dr. Mariel’s book, Break the Cycle: A Guide to Healing Intergenerational Trauma, for more tools, techniques, suggestions, and guidance on intergenerational trauma.

Also, if you are experiencing grief, know that you are not alone in this journey. Consider checking out my course, Good Grief: Healing from Loss with Love, on my website for additional support and guidance.

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A Journey of Exploration and Connection Feb 07, 2024

In today's episode we’re continuing our journey with Ken and Marla, a couple I've been helping to boost their intimacy. Their story is like so many others. Marla has been opening up about her shyness around masturbation, and I've got to say, I'm proud of her for being so honest. Ken has been amazing, too—totally supportive of Marla's journey into self-exploration.

I always tell people how crucial masturbation is for your personal health and really getting to know your body. It's a game-changer, especially for your sex life together. I've recommended a vibrator that I think could be a great fit for Marla, and I'm all about them experimenting to find out what feels good.

And it's not just about those intimate moments in the bedroom. Ken and Marla have been finding ways to connect in their everyday lives, which is just beautiful. They're on this path to achieving orgasm together during sex, and let me tell you, they're making some fantastic progress.

Here is a glimpse of what we explore:

Ken and Marla's relationship update and experiences with intimacy
Incorporating a vibrator into sexual activities
Guidance on enhancing physical intimacy
Ken and Marla's efforts to maintain physical connection
Prioritizing Marla's pleasure during intimate moments
Recommendations for exploring new ways of intimacy
Masturbation and its role in understanding one's body and enhancing comfort
Advice on using a specific vibrator and experimenting with different options
The importance of consistent physical intimacy and building intimacy in different moments
The goal of achieving an orgasm during a sexual encounter and inspiring others through their journey

This episode is a big one because it's not just their story—they inspire so many others dealing with the same issues. Stick with me, and let's see where their journey takes us next!

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Monogamy Ain't Natural Feb 05, 2024

Lifelong monogamy can be quite a challenge in our world today. We're living longer, our needs are evolving, and there are so many different factors at play. You see, we humans are kind of wired to be what you could call "serially monogamous." It's like we're designed to form temporary relationships for the purpose of raising children. And interestingly, this ancient instinct still seems to influence our modern relationships. Just look at the stats – divorce rates tend to spike when the youngest child is about 2 or 3 years old. It's a complex topic that's worth exploring, and that's exactly what we'll do in this Language of Love bite.

While monogamy may not be our natural state, it's a choice that many of us make for various reasons. Whether it's for the sake of raising children, maintaining stability, or simply because of personal preference, monogamy requires effort and commitment. But with the right approach, it's a choice that can lead to fulfilling and lasting relationships.

Visit my website to explore my range of books and courses on love, sex, and relationships, and be sure to tune in regularly to the Language of Love podcast for thought-provoking discussions and invaluable advice aimed at helping you love and be loved better.

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Taming Your Inner Critic with Neal Allen Jan 31, 2024

We all grapple with an inner critic, incessantly whispering that we're not good enough or worthy of success and love, fostering a cycle of self-criticism. What if we could tame this relentless voice, breaking free from its grip and embracing our authentic selves? The good news is, we can.

In this Language of Love Conversation, I sit down with Neal Allen, the author of Better Days: Tame Your Inner Critic. Neal takes us on an enlightening journey exploring the human psyche and the often-ignored superego. He shares his expertise on how the inner critic develops, its intentions, its impact on our lives, and fantastic strategies for recognizing and dealing with it. Taming the inner critic isn't just about finding peace; it's a path towards something more profound, something spiritual.

We unpack:

How to recognize and address the inner critic's impact on our lives
The role of compassion in understanding the inner critic
The paradox of perfection and productivity
The "Peter Pan Kid" analogy
The connection between releasing the inner critic and experiencing moments of grace and divine presence

Make sure to visit Neal Allen's website to learn more about the great work he does. You can connect with him on social media too, like Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter(X) for updates. If you want to improve yourself and conquer that negative voice inside you, you should definitely read his amazing book "Better Days: Tame Your Inner Critic.

Make sure to visit my website to check out my books on love, sex and relationships and explore my available courses. Tune in regularly to The Language of Love for great discussions and thought-provoking conversations with accomplished individuals and experts offering invaluable advice on how to love and be loved better.

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The Struggle with Self-Sabotage Jan 24, 2024

Have you ever found yourself caught in the complicated dance of self-sabotage, where the haunting echoes of past trauma manifest as destructive behavior, over using substances and withdrawal from the world? In this Language of Love Session, Pamela opens up about her struggles with self-sabotaging behavior and past trauma, including excessive drinking and withdrawing from people due to past abuse.

In this episode, we’re diving into:

Maintaining self-love and overcoming self-sabotaging behavior
The impact of past trauma on self-perception and behavior
The importance of acknowledging and speaking about past trauma
The role of somatic experiencing therapy in healing trauma
The physical symptoms and coping mechanisms associated with unresolved trauma
Finding peace, love, and happiness within oneself

Remember, the journey toward self-love and healing is a continuous process, but with the right tools and support, it is indeed possible.

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Healing Your Inner Child Jan 22, 2024

Welcome back to another Language of Love Bite! This week I'm going to explore the concept of inner child work and how it can heal past traumas and improve relationships. So, what exactly is inner child work? Well, it's all about connecting with those wounded parts of ourselves that were hurt during our childhood. These parts often carry unresolved emotions and traumas that can impact our adult lives and relationships.

One key aspect of inner child work is recognizing that these emotions are just parts of us, not our entire being. By understanding that these wounded parts are separate from our true selves, we can approach them with compassion and create space for healing.

Embark on a journey of healing and self-discovery as we explore the transformative power of inner child work. Let's heal our inner wounds and nurture healthier relationships. Check out Richard Schwartz's book, No Bad Parts, along with my course, Good Grief: Healing from Loss with Love.

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Harnessing Joy Through Life’s Great Labors with Brandi Sellers Jackson Jan 17, 2024

Heart aches and and heart breaks will happen for each of us—trust being broken, losing someone we love, or wounds from the past—can shape our lives in significant ways. But the good news is that we can grow through adversity into even better versions of ourselves.

In this Language of Love Conversation, I have the honor of hosting the incredible Brandi Sellers-Jackson. Brandi, a masterful storyteller, birth and postpartum doula, and the creative force behind "Not So Private Parts," joins me to discuss her profound new book, "On Thriving: Harnessing Joy Through Life's Great Labors." We dive deep into the heart of trauma, infidelity, grief, and the powerful journey of healing.

We unpack:

The four “labors”: relationship, mental health, grief and loss, and feeling bothered
The path to and power of finding gratitude even in the darkest times
The impact of childhood trauma on adult relationships and mental health
The concept of re-parenting oneself for healing from childhood trauma
The courage it takes to harness self-intimacy and truly know oneself
The strength it takes to move forward after betrayal

Remember to check out Brandi’s book, On Thriving: Harnessing Joy Through Life's Great Labors, and to connect with her on Linkedin.

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Rewriting the Dating Myths with Damona Hoffman Jan 10, 2024

Are you tired of hearing the same old advice about love and dating? Are you finding it difficult to navigate the dating world, or finding love in a world of swipes, catfishing and ghosting?

If you are looking for love and want some advice that will change your whole dating game for the better, tune into this episode of Language of Love Conversation, I sit down with Damona Hoffman, a celebrity dating coach and author of "F the Fairy Tale: Rewrite the Dating Myths and Live Your Own Love Story". In our conversation, we debunk the common myths about love and dating and how these misconceptions can hinder the process of finding love.

We talk about:

The common myths and misconceptions about finding love
Understanding the concept of "butterflies" in relationships
The importance of curiosity and attraction in dating
Mindful dating and finding partners on a similar level of awareness
Exploring different avenues for dating, including online dating, setups, and communities

For more insights and advice from Damona, check out her podcast,Dates and Mates, and her book, F the Fairy Tale, which offers hope and actionable advice for navigating the challenges of modern dating. You can find more information about her book and testimonials from satisfied readers on her website, damonahoffman.com.

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Infinite Life, Infinite Lessons with Susan Grau Jan 03, 2024

In this episode, I have the pleasure of sitting down with my lovely friend Susan Grau, an incredible intuitive medium who has gained international recognition for her work. We'll be diving into her new book, Infinite Life, Infinite Lessons, as well as exploring her journey and the fascinating experiences she's had along the way.

Susan's story is truly remarkable. She has faced and overcome immense challenges which helped her to discover her intuitive abilities and connect with the other side. She believes that there is hope in eternal life and love and that by understanding our own experiences, we can find healing and growth.

We explore so many fascinating topics including how to connect with loved ones on the other side, how to tell the difference between spirit guides and passed loved ones who are coming through, and so much more. Susan sheds light on how to recognize the constant support available to us from the angelic realms and how to invite it more actively into our lives.

I hope you're as excited as I am to delve into this conversation with Susan Grau. Her wisdom and experiences are sure to inspire and enlighten us all.

Susan and I dive into:

How Susan's near-death experience made an impact on her perspective on life
Susan's early childhood experiences with intuitive abilities
Susan's experiences as a medium and helping others through grief
How to connect with the other side and find hope in eternal life and love
The difference between spirit guides and loved ones who have passed away
How to develop a strong connection to our divine and intuitive skills

Remember to grab a copy of Susan’s book Infinite Life, Infinite Lessons. Happy reading!

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The Secrets to a Sizzling Sex Life Dec 27, 2023

It’s time for a follow-up session! In a previous Language of Love Session, Marla and Ken opened up about their struggles with intimacy. Ken's performance fears and feelings of inadequacy had led to a dwindling sex life.

This week, we’re doing a follow-up session, and I continue my work with Marla and Ken to spice up their love life. And guess what? They're on a roll! I gave them some homework, you know, the fun kind – daily hugs and weekly heart-to-hearts. And guess what? It's working like magic!

Marla and Ken are like my relationship rockstars. They've been sharing how these little exercises have turned up the heat and brought them even closer. Can you believe it? Hugs and chats, people – that's the secret sauce!

I gave them a virtual high-five for sticking to it. I mean, commitment level: expert! But you know me, always looking for ways to level up. So, I threw in a few more suggestions to keep the love train chugging along.

We got into a cool chat about communication and trust – the real MVPs in any relationship. They're totally vibing with the idea and are all in to keep the good vibes flowing. It's like they've unlocked a new level of emotional and sensual connection.

So, there you have it – Marla and Ken are the dynamic duo, taking on the world one hug at a time. Can't wait to see what other relationship adventures we'll embark on together

This journey with Marla and Ken has been a testament to the power of open communication, commitment, and the willingness to work on a relationship. Their story serves as an inspiration for couples facing similar issues, reminding us all that with the right guidance and effort, we can rebuild and strengthen our relationships.

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Debunking Big O Myths! Dec 25, 2023

It’s time for another Language of Love Bite! Let’s delve into the heart of human connection, breaking down barriers, and challenging long-standing misconceptions surrounding one of the most intimate aspects of our lives.

In this episode, we shed light on a topic that's been shrouded in myths for far too long. Join us as we navigate the landscape of pleasure, discussing and debunking the top five orgasm myths that have lingered in our collective consciousness for years. From the misconceptions about how women reach orgasm to the truth behind vibrators and the surprising revelation that men are not immune to faking it— we're leaving no stone unturned.

Let’s continue to explore, learn, and debunk myths about our love lives. Keep the conversation going, and remember, there's no such thing as a silly question when it comes to love and intimacy.

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Healing Dependency on Crisis and Chaos with Dr. Scott Lyons Dec 20, 2023

Did you know there’s such a thing as Drama Addiction? Today in the Language of Love Conversation, I'm joined by Dr. Scott Lyons, and we're tackling this intriguing topic. From genetics and biochemistry to environmental triggers, we're exploring the roots of this addiction, often linked to trauma and a need to fill emotional voids. Picture drama addicts as thrill-seekers, creating chaos to dodge anxiety and boredom. The catch? This addiction doesn't just affect individuals; it's a relationship wrecking ball.

Dr. Scott and I discuss the unsettling impact of drama addiction on connections and share strategies for breaking free. We're big on self-awareness and somatic experiencing as tools to understand and overcome this addiction. By addressing the root causes head-on, we believe in fostering effective recovery.

While these techniques are helpful, it's important to address the core issues and underlying causes of drama addiction. When looking for a clinician or support for drama addiction, I suggest seeking someone who specializes in trauma and addiction. A clinician who is trained in somatic experiencing can be very effective in treating drama addiction.

Here is a sneak peek at the episode:

Drama addiction and its prevalence in our culture
Explanation of drama addiction as unnecessary turmoil and intensification of emotions
The connection between drama addiction and trauma, dissociation, and filling a void
Characteristics of drama addicts, such as focusing on external stimuli and seeking chaos
Dynamics of drama addiction in relationships and the role of co-regulation
Discussion on drama addicts as energy vampires and fear of intimacy
Importance of recognizing and breaking the addiction cycle of drama and stress
Strategies for breaking the addiction cycle, including observing reactions and exploring underlying feelings and needs
Techniques for managing drama addiction, such as the "step back" and "taking the silverware back" techniques

Visit Dr. Scott's website to learn more about the cool stuff he does. Take a look at his book "Addicted to Drama: Healing Dependency on Crisis and Chaos in Yourself and Others" by Dr. Scott Lyons. You can also connect with Dr. Scott on LinkedIn.

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Power, Culture, and Love's Dance Dec 13, 2023

This week, I’m sitting down for a Language of Love Session with a listener who's dealing with some serious relationship hurdles. Picture this: cultural clashes, power struggles, and a partner who's not exactly a cheerleader for her spiritual journey.

Theresa reached out to me for advice on navigating cultural differences and power dynamics with her husband. It turns out that her husband isn't very supportive of her spiritual pursuits and often blames her for their son's misbehavior. Not an easy situation to be in, right?

In this episode, we’re discussing:

Why sticking to traditional gender roles and gender expectations in a relationship doesn’t always work
The importance of staying true to your passions and beliefs even if they differ from your partner's
How to deal with a partner's critical behavior with healthy conflict resolution and boundaries
The challenges of navigating new dynamics and expectations after having children
How a relationship can impact a child and why it's crucial to provide a healthy relationship model for them

Remember, you deserve to be in a relationship where you're supported and respected. Don't be afraid to prioritize your own happiness and growth. You've got this!

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Reigniting The Spark Dec 11, 2023

Let’s dive into a topic that many couples can relate to: bringing back that spark when sex starts to feel predictable. We all know that at the beginning of a relationship, everything is new and exciting. But as time goes on, it's natural for things to become a bit routine. So, how can we inject some much-needed excitement back into the bedroom?

It's all about shifting our mindset and energy during intimate moments. It's about being fully present, letting go of any distractions or worries, and truly immersing ourselves in the experience. When we approach sex with this kind of intention and focus, it can lead to mind-blowing connections and experiences. And with a little effort and creativity, you can reignite that fire and create a passionate and fulfilling sex life with your partner. Listen in for some of my tips that you can try out with your partner!

Check out my Seven Days to Better Sex program! It’s a fantastic resource that provides you with practical tools and exercises to help you reconnect on a deeper level, perfect for couples who want to reignite their passion and take their sex life to the next level.

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Out Of Your Mind, Into Your Body with Annmarie Chereso Dec 06, 2023

The idea of “masculine” and “feminine” goes way beyond gender. We all have masculine and feminine within us, we just lean in one direction or another. The energies of the masculine is more directive, organized and containing. The feminine is more emotional, creative and flowing.

In this Language of Love Conversation, I'm joined by my good friend, transformational coach AnnMarie Chereso. Together, we're exploring the intriguing dynamics of masculine and feminine energies within relationships. AnnMarie, with her expertise in guiding personal transformations, is here to offer valuable insights into how understanding and balancing these energies can significantly influence the quality of our connections with others. AnnMarie's wisdom promises to shed light on the mysteries surrounding these energies, providing a thoughtful perspective on navigating relationships with heightened awareness and deeper connection.

We unpack:

The transformative power of choosing love over fear and how it can positively impact your relationships
How tuning more deeply into your feminine energy as a woman can bring balance and harmony to your love life
Why receptivity is crucial in creating fulfilling and meaningful connections
How your romantic partnerships can become powerful tools for personal growth and healing
Steps you can take to move out of fear, especially in relationships

If you're ready to unlock the secrets of masculine and feminine energies and create a love life that's truly fulfilling, check out AnnMarie’s courses on her website!

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When Roots Become Toxic Nov 29, 2023

Welcome back to another Language of Love Session! In this episode, I chat with a caller from Australia, Fatima, who is currently going through a tough divorce and grappling with a challenging relationship with her narcissistic mother. Fatima opens up about her struggles with codependency and anger regulation, which she believes are deeply rooted in her traumatic upbringing. I offer her guidance on setting clear boundaries with toxic individuals, including her mother, to protect her emotional well-being and create a healthier environment. Additionally, I discuss the importance of seeking therapy to address unresolved trauma, gain a deeper understanding of herself, and develop effective strategies for managing codependency and anger.

We discuss:

How unresolved childhood trauma can affect an individual’s parenting style
The importance of self-preservation and creating distance from toxic individuals
The “splitting” behavior and manipulation tactics used by borderlines
How to use somatic experiencing for trauma recovery

Remember, if you're going through a difficult time, it's important to seek help and support. You don't have to face these challenges alone. Reach out to a therapist, counselor, or trusted friend who can provide guidance and a listening ear. You deserve to live a happy and fulfilling life, and with the right support, you can achieve it. I also recommend you check out Codependent No More by Melody Beattie.

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The Naked Truth Nov 27, 2023

In this Language of Love Bite, I'm going there. We are talking about the impact of pornography on our love lives.

One of the main concerns I discuss in this episode is the accessibility of porn to young people. With the internet being so readily available, it's easier than ever for children and teens to stumble upon explicit content. It turns out that newer research is demonstrating porn can have a profound long-term effect on the developing brain, impacting one’s ability to get aroused without using it. Another issue we are covering is the addictive nature of porn. It's not uncommon for individuals to become hooked on watching porn, spending hours upon hours consuming it.

We also get into the ways porn is being misused as a poor form of sex education, setting couples back who have a skewed perception of what pleasurable sex looks and feels like. This can lead to a distorted view of what constitutes a healthy sexual relationship, as porn often portrays unrealistic scenarios and expectations.

I’m also sharing:

Why porn is not all bad, and how it can be used in a healthy way
The digital distortion of porn and how it affects how your brain perceives what it sees
How porn can negatively affect your dopamine levels
The misrepresentation of sexual relationships by porn
The pressure on women to engage in activities influenced by porn
Why porn is not a substitute for intimacy

If you or someone you know is struggling with the impact of porn on their relationship, I encourage you to seek professional help — a therapist who specializes in sex addiction can provide guidance and support in navigating these complex issues.

Also, if you’re looking to heighten the intensity and connection in your sex life, don’t forget to check out my Seven Days to Better Sex program!

Visit my website to explore my range of books and courses on love, sex, and relationships, and be sure to tune in regularly to the Language of Love podcast for thought-provoking discussions and invaluable advice aimed at helping you love and be loved better.

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Finding Magic in the Missing with Kelsey Chittick Nov 22, 2023

The biggest fear for many of us is losing someone we love; of facing unexpected tragedies that change the course of our lives forever. For comedian and author Kelsey Chittick, her worst fear became her reality, and it tested her resilience, shattered her world, and ultimately transformed her.

In today’s Language of Love Conversation, we dive into Kelsey's personal journey of grief and healing after the sudden loss of her husband, NFL veteran Nate Hobgood-Chittick. She opens up about her experiences with loss, anxiety, and even her spiritual exploration during this challenging time. She also shares her unique approach to parenting while dealing with grief, which is truly transformative and inspiring. We also get to chat about her incredible book “Second Half: Surviving Loss and Finding Magic in the Missing.”

We break down:

The profound impact of losing loved ones and finding strength in the face of grief
The physical and emotional toll of grief on an individual
The spiritual side of grief that opens us up to connecting with the other side
Finding joy and happiness again after loss

This one is a conversation that will give you deep insights into dealing with loss, personal growth, and finding joy even in the midst of pain.

You can connect with Kelsey on Instagram and also visit her website to stay updated with her latest content and projects. And don't forget to check out her book, Second Half: Surviving Loss and Finding Magic in the Missing. It's definitely a must-read!

My course, Good Grief: Healing From Loss with Love, is packed with insights and practical tips to help you navigate the journey of grief and loss. And, on December 2nd, I will be holding a live in-person event, Good Grief Day, at Hermosa Beach, CA along with amazing healers and teachers who will shine a light and guide us in our grieving journey. Tickets are limited so make sure you grab yours!

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Breaking Free from Shame Nov 15, 2023

In this Language of Love session, I have a chat with Trina, who has been through some really tough times in her past relationships, facing big losses and struggles. She opens up about the toxic relationships and challenges she's been dealing with as she tries to rebuild her life.

I emphasized how important it is for Trina to take the time to be single, rebuild and move deeper into love and accept herself before thinking about jumping into a new relationship. It's like building a strong foundation for a house - if you rush past this phase of post-relationship healing, you just make the same mistakes again and again. I suggest that she goes on a journey of self-discovery and self-love, one that's all about what she wants, not what others expect. After all, loving ourselves and understanding our own worth is the first step toward attracting the love we truly deserve.

In this episode, we’re diving into:

The concept of vibrational frequency and how embracing our divine feminine power can attract the right kind of partner into our lives
The impact of deep-rooted traumas and subconscious fears in our interpersonal relationships
The importance of having a support system and holding oneself accountable
Why setting boundaries is a vital component in healthy relationships

Be sure to explore Calling in the One by my good friend Katherine Woodward Thomas! It's a fantastic resource for anyone looking to prepare themselves for love.

Visit my website to explore my range of books and courses on love, sex, and relationships, and be sure to tune in regularly to the Language of Love podcast for thought-provoking discussions and invaluable advice aimed at helping you love and be loved better.

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Why Is Grief Misunderstood? Nov 14, 2023

Welcome back to another Language of Love Bite! I'm here to dive into a topic that often gets misunderstood: grief and loss.

The truth is that everyone's grief journey is unique. There's no one-size-fits-all timeline for healing. So, if you're going through it, remember to be gentle with yourself and allow yourself the space to feel and heal.

Now, let's talk about the importance of emotional support during this time. It's crucial to have a strong support system in place - friends, family, or even a therapist who can provide that safe space for you to express your emotions. And don't forget about somatic experiencing techniques! These can help you release any trapped emotions in your body and promote healing from within.

But, most importantly, here's something interesting to consider: what if our relationships continue even after death? Obviously it’s not the same, and we’d do anything to have our loved ones with us. But wd are all made of pure atomic energy, and energy can’t be created or destroyed. It can only change form. We can learn to connect to our loved ones’ energies, even after their beloved bodies are no longer here.

In this bite, I dive into:

The importance of emotional support and professional help in navigating grief
Somatic experiencing techniques like breathwork and grief yoga as tools for healing
Incorporating mindfulness practices to rewire the brain and prevent trauma from becoming the default mode
The idea that relationships don't end when someone dies, and ways to stay connected with loved ones through energy

I encourage you to keep an open mind when it comes to these concepts. It's okay to question and explore new ideas. And if you're interested in diving deeper into this topic, I've got just the thing for you! My course, Good Grief: Healing From Loss with Love, is packed with insights and practical tips to help you navigate the journey of grief and loss. And, on December 2nd, I will be holding a live in-person event that will be uplifting and inspiring, Good Grief Day, at Hermosa Beach, CA along with amazing healers and teachers who will shine a light and guide us on our grieving journey. Tickets are limited so make sure you grab yours!

Grief is a natural part of life, and it's okay to feel it. Just know that you're not alone. Take care of yourself, and remember to be kind to yourself throughout this process.

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The Love Storm with AnnaLynne McCord Nov 08, 2023

In today’s Language of Love Conversation, I have a very special guest with me, AnnaLynne McCord! AnnaLynne is not only a talented, well-known actress, but a passionate advocate for survivors of trauma and a fierce supporter in the fight against sex trafficking. She shares her personal experiences of trauma and how they affected her life (and sexuality), as well as her incredible work in supporting survivors. We also talk about the importance of mental health and self-love. AnnaLynne emphasizes the need to break the cycle of abuse and how crucial it is to address the root causes of mass violence and radicalized religion. One thing that stood out to me was her vision for a movement called Love Storm. It's all about spreading love and healing to those who have been through unimaginable pain.

AnnaLynne also gives us some insight into her new film, "Condition of Return". It's a thought-provoking movie that explores the consequences of trauma and the dangers of blind faith. It's a must-watch for anyone interested in understanding the complexities of trauma and its long-lasting effects.

I'm so grateful to have this conversation with AnnaLynne. Her passion and dedication to making a difference are truly inspiring. So, grab a cup of tea, sit back, and get ready to be moved by this incredible discussion. Let's dive in!

In this episode, AnnaLyne and I explore:

The importance of embracing uniqueness and not being afraid to be different
The power that can be found in recognizing and integrating the parts of ourselves that carry shame from the past.
Why true peace starts within ourselves and extends to our surroundings
AnnaLynne's involvement in fighting human trafficking and modern-day slavery
How to break the cycle of abuse and underreporting of sexual abuse
The impact of trauma on sexual preferences

You can connect with AnnaLynne on Instagram! Don't forget to explore The Love Storm website for guidance on ending sex slavery.

Check out The Map of Consciousness and Power vs. Force by David Hawkins for deep perspectives on consciousness and human behavior. Bessel van der Kolk's The Body Keeps the Scoreis also an essential read for understanding trauma's impact.

Lastly secure your tickets for Good Grief Day: Healing from Loss with Love happening in December at Hermosa Beach, CA for a day of profound healing, guided by me and some incredible healers and teachers!

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Rocky Roads to Climax Nov 01, 2023

Welcome to another Language of Love Session! I’ve got a truly engaging conversation lined up for you. But first, let me pose a thought-provoking question: Have you ever felt that the path to reaching an orgasm has become rocky?

Meet Marla and Ken, a couple in their 60s, deeply in love. Here's the deal: they've been facing challenges reaching climax, and it's been putting a strain on their love life. Marla often takes the initiative, but Ken feels he isn't fully satisfying her.

No matter how passionate a lover you are, age can throw in a few curveballs, like changes in hormones and blood flow. So hang tight, because this is one session you won't want to miss!

In this episode, we’re diving into:

The importance of open communication and discussing intimacy issues with your partner
Why men often avoid addressing problems related to sexual performance
How a lack of sexual intimacy can impact other aspects of the relationship, leading to emotional disconnection
Ways to be intimate without the sole focus on reaching climax
The magic of spending just 15 minutes each week on kissing, cuddling, and deep conversations to build emotional intimacy

Don't forget to take a look at my books, Real Sex for Real Women and Loving Sex, as well as my program, Seven Days to Better Sex, which you can find on my website along with the rest of my books and courses on love, sex, and relationships. Be sure to tune in regularly to the Language of Love podcast for thought-provoking discussions and invaluable advice aimed at helping you love and be loved better.

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The Art of Kissing Oct 30, 2023

A kiss is so much more than a fleeting expression of affection. It's a silent language that can speak volumes, not to mention plays a huge role in maintaining healthy long-term attraction in love.

This Language of Love Bite is all about the power of a simple kiss. I shed light on the often-overlooked importance of kissing in intimate relationships. I also introduce the concept of non-demand kissing and a kissing practice that you can try with your partner to heighten your connection and intimacy.

Try the four-time-a-day, ten-second kiss practice for a week, and let me know how your experience goes! You might be surprised at the power of this simple yet impactful gesture.

Don’t forget to check out my Seven Days to Better Sex program for more practical strategies and tips to spice up your sex life!

Visit my website to explore my range of books and courses on love, sex, and relationships, and be sure to tune in regularly to the Language of Love podcast for thought-provoking discussions and invaluable advice aimed at helping you love and be loved better.

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Conscious Grieving with Claire Bidwell Smith Oct 25, 2023

Grief, in its myriad of forms, touches us all at some point in our lives. And when it comes, it can often bring along an uninvited guest: anxiety.

In this Language of Love Conversation, I talk with author and grief therapist Claire Bidwell Smith. When Claire was in her early twenties, she lost her parents, which deeply impacted her life. After her she began having panic attacks, Claire decided to learn more about grief-related anxiety. In fact, we now know that the kind of anxiety experienced with grief is a very unique sort.

In this conversation, Claire and I unpack:

Grief-related anxiety, its unique manifestations, and how it differs from typical anxiety
The different ways different cultures create space for grief
Why it is important to allow oneself to fully experience and release emotions in the grieving process
The transformative nature of grief and the ways it can impact on every aspect of a person's being
Different kinds of losses and their ability to change us and lead to a pared-down version of ourselves
The importance of being present for someone in their pain without needing to have all the right words or solutions
How to maintain a strong connection to loved ones who have passed away and find ways to honor their memory

If you or someone you love is going through grief right now, or you've been there before, you're going to find this conversation really eye-opening. So, let's dive in!

Remember to check out Claire Bidwell Smith's website to learn more about her work, especially her online support group retreats and podcast. You can also connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter. Don't forget to preorder her new book, “Anxiety: The Missing Stage of Grief,” and grab her other titles like “The Rules of Inheritance” and “After This: When Life is Over, Where Do We Go?” Plus, stay tuned for her upcoming release, “Conscious Grieving: A Transformative Approach to Healing from Loss.”

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Remembering Love in Tender Times with Cleo Wade Oct 18, 2023

Life can be a rollercoaster, often catching us off guard. But what if I told you that there's a way to turn these moments, both good and bad, into something truly valuable? It all starts with the incredible power of self-love, learning from life's twists and turns, and the art of setting boundaries to find inner peace.

In today’s Language of Love Conversation, I'm so excited to have a chat with New York Times bestselling author and poet, Cleo Wade. Cleo’s work dives deep into themes like love, hope, and resilience. And today, she gives us a sneak peek into her brand-new book, Remember Love: Words for Tender Times.

We cover some really inspiring topics in our chat. Cleo shares her thoughts on self-love and personal growth – two things we could all use a bit more of in our lives. We also talk about how all relationships naturally evolve and sometimes need to be shed, just like a snake sheds its skin.

In this episode, Cleo and I deep dive into:

The power of self-love and its role in vulnerable moments
The idea of turning life experiences into life lessons
The importance of setting boundaries and letting go for personal freedom and peace
The significance of emotional wisdom and its role in personal growth
Why shedding relationships is part of personal growth
How to recognize and break free from codependent tendencies
How childhood experiences shape our understanding of love and approval
The power of poetry to unite people from different walks of life
The dynamics of love as a collaborative effort, challenging the notion of one-sided devotion
The art of effective conflict resolution through the transformative power of apology and humility
Why rebirth is a transformative phase and requires care and support
How to overcome self-doubt and take steps towards growth

If you're interested in preordering Cleo Wade's latest book, Remember Love: Words for Tender Times, you should visit her website. You can also grab some of her other fantastic books like Heart Talk: Poetic Wisdom for a Better Life, What the Road Said, Heart Talk: The Journal: 52 Weeks of Self-Love, Self-Care, and Self-Discovery, Where to Begin, and more. And don't forget to stay connected with Cleo on Facebook and Instagram!

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The Journey of a Wounded Healer Oct 11, 2023

Therapists are people too! And just like anyone else, therapists have their own unique struggles, fears, and insecurities.

In this Language of Love Session, I speak with therapist and PhD candidate, Mary, who opens up about her money fears and shame. In this session, we explore:

Mary's recent experience of fear and shame around money and finances
Dispelling the notion that therapists should be perfect and have it all figured out
The concept that therapists as wounded healers (the desire to heal our own wounds drives us to become healers ourselves)
Strategies for healing and integrating different parts of ourselves, including self-talk and mindfulness practices
The concept of physiological and energetic responses to triggers
Grounding and calming the nervous system during acute moments of agitation
Trust and faith in relation to overcoming scarcity
The importance of daily spiritual practice and connecting with a higher self and guidance
Cultivating coherence and peace within oneself to attract positive experiences and manifestations
The value of staying grounded, calming our nerves, building trust and faith, and having a daily spiritual routine.

Remember to take a look at my book Quantum Love for some fascinating insights. In the book, I show you how our emotional states can actually impact our energy levels, and this has been scientifically proven. It affects what we attract into our lives and how people around us respond. It's pretty mind-blowing stuff!

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When She Has Low Desire Oct 09, 2023

What do you do when she’s not in the mood, but you are? Thirty percent of women under the age of 59 suffer from low libido and that number continues to increase after the age of 60! But it’s not just older women who experience low desire. Younger women struggle too due to stress, exhaustion caring for young children, depression, body image, and a host of other issues, younger women can experience low libido too.

On this Language of Love Bite, we’ll discuss low sex drive in women and uncover the variety of issues that are at the heart of the matter. When sex is working in a relationship it’s just one part of it. But when sex isn’t working, it can definitely take a toll on the connection between you. We’ll discuss ways to understand and overcome low desire with the goal of bringing the passion back where it belongs! If your bedroom has been lacking, tune in to this episode!

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Dr. Laura Berman

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Unlocking the Mysteries of Sacred Contracts with Caroline Myss Oct 04, 2023

Have you ever wondered about the deeper meaning of life or the purpose behind our existence and the journey of our souls? If so, you're not alone. Many of us ponder these, seeking guidance and understanding.

Caroline Myss, renowned author, speaker, and spiritual teacher sat down with me during this week’s Language of Love Conversation to discuss the intriguing concept of sacred contracts, the different levels of consciousness, and the unexpected power that can be found in love and integrity.

During our conversation, Caroline and I dive into:

The concept of sacred contracts and its relation to different levels of consciousness
The role of archetypes in our lives and how they influence our choices and manifestations
The cosmic dynamic of life and the predetermined nature of our entry and exit points
The transformative power of love and the need for a bio-spiritual ecological evolution
Why collective participation in awakening and supporting others is crucial through Global events we’ve all been experiencing
The stages of inner self-development and the importance of moving beyond narcissism
The wounded healer journey and the significance of discernment in personal growth
The power of intuition and the consequences of ignoring it
The importance of integrity and the normalization of lying in society
The impact of honesty and the consequences of not being truthful in relationships

Please feel free to access Caroline's workshops by downloading them or exploring her upcoming autumn schedule on her website. Additionally, you can find her books, "The Anatomy of Spirit" "Sacred Contracts," and others available for purchase on Amazon.

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In the Mood for Love Sep 27, 2023

We’re back for another Language of Love Session, where I speak to listeners like you and give my expert advice. In this session, I sat down with someone who's been a longtime listener and has been following my advice ever since my days on Oprah. She reached out to me for guidance, and her story is bound to hit close to home for many of us. Picture this: she escaped a five-year marriage that felt more like a chore than a fairytale. But now, she's in a sizzling new relationship, sparks are flying and things are heating up for her in all the right ways. The twist? Her partner's got a case of the “low desire and low testosterone blues” and she's grappling with feelings of rejection and neglect. Together, we explore the complexities of reigniting intimacy and desire.

In this episode, you will learn about:

How stress and anxiety can negatively affect sexual desire in men
The different physical, emotional, hormonal and medical factors that can create difficulty with male sexual response and sensation
Why low desire does not necessarily mean they are no longer attracted to you
The importance of having a “cost-benefit analysis” in a long-term relationship
How men often dismiss sexual issues because it emasculates them and the steps you can take to address the problem

Remember, issues of sexual desire are common in relationships and can be tackled with open communication and professional help. If you are looking for a sex therapist, you can find a clinician near you by visiting the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists website at https://aasect.org/.

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Pushing the Limits of Monogamy Sep 25, 2023

The world is changing on so many levels, including a pretty seismic shift in which many of us are defining relationships. Most of us grew up in a society where monogamy was the unquestioned expectation in love. But now, more and more individuals and couples are pushing against those expectations and exploring non monogamy or polyamory.

On this Language of Love Bite, we dive headfirst into this topic covering the things you should know if you’re like to explore polyamory:

-What is polyamory and what forms can it take?

-Tips on how to navigate a non monogamous relationship

-Common pitfalls you may encounter

- How to tell if this lifestyle is right for you.

If you’re curious and feel like you and your partner might be ready, take some time to listen to this episode before making this important life and relationship decision.

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Dr. Laura Berman

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I'm Not a Mourning Person with Kris Carr Sep 20, 2023

One of the hardest things any of us will ever do is say goodbye to someone we love. This is something wellness leader and best selling author, Kris Carr, knows all too well.

On this Language of Love Conversation, we discuss her newest book, I’m Not a Mourning Person, where she chronicles her long goodbye to her beloved father who passed away from pancreatic cancer after a several year battle. This is a powerful conversation so be sure to tune in.

In this episode we discuss:

The fact that grieving for a loved one often begins long before they’re gone and comes in a variety of forms.
The power of training your eyes to see the presence of the energy of the one you lost and not simply living with their absence.
How losing it or having a meltdown can actually be a good thing.
Understanding that there truly is a difference between dying and leaving.
Why finding the courage to have conversations about dying is necessary.
strategies for having the often hard, but always necessary, end of life conversations with loved ones that can help you move through their passing.
The power of (and when to) begin assuring your loved one that it’s ok to let go.

Resources and Links

Dr. Laura Berman

Kris Carr

About Kris Carr

Kris Carr is a New York Times bestselling author and wellness leader who’s been thriving with stage IV cancer for more than 20 years. Over these past two decades, she’s learned some big lessons about how to take care of herself, live life to the fullest and continue making an impact in the process. She is a true champion of people, and she is honored to have shaped and impacted the lives of millions throughout the world.

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The Caregiver's Turn Sep 13, 2023

Most people know or love someone who’s a cancer survivor. But it’s not just the cancer patient who survives and hopefully recovers from this kind of medical trauma. Caregivers, while they didn’t have to personally weather the life-threatening illness and its treatment, they did so by proxy, holding the patient up emotionally, physically and logistically while still managing and usually repressing their own fears and exhaustion.

Most caregivers put their own needs, and even their lives, on hold when their loved ones are suffering or undergoing treatment. And then, when the worst is over and it’s time to move forward, it’s not just the patient who must recover. The caregiver needs and deserves time, grace and support to do so as well. This journey can be especially complex in the case of romantic relationships as it becomes necessary to shift out of caregiver and patient roles back to partners and lovers…

In this Language of Love Session, I have a follow up chat with a listener, Veronica, whose boyfriend has now finally finished cancer treatment. Against all odds, he’s now in remission. But instead of the celebration she was expecting, Veronica finds her life remaining on pause as she waits for her love to come back to the relationship they were building at the time of his diagnosis. Instead of excitement about enjoying their lives after their harrowing year, he’s been depressed, angry and distant. And Veronica is feeling resentful and abandoned.

In this episode we discuss:

The ways medical trauma compares to other kinds when it comes to healing.
Steps one can take to assist and inspire a loved one to move forward when the worst is over after trauma.
Some of my own struggles I had as a cancer survivor when my treatment was finally over and my caregiving husband was ready for me to come back to life.
How the caregiving journey can be an opportunity to learn to hold our own peace (or even happiness) in the face of those we love remaining stuck in frustration and sadness.
What’s realistic to expect from a partner after a traumatic illness, and when it may or may not be time to throw in the towel.

If you’ve been a caregiver or you love one, you will get so much from this healing conversation!

Resources and Links

Dr. Laura Berman

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The Trouble with Faking It Sep 11, 2023

Have you ever faked the “Big O?” If so, you aren’t alone! Studies have shown that the majority of women, and even a large proportion of men have faked it…regularly! But, even if it’s a “mercy fake” (because your partner is trying so hard and you know it’s just not happening but you don’t want to make them feel bad) is it really a good idea ? What happens when you find out that your partner has been faking? What kind of fracture does that create and how do you repair that? And what happens if you’ve been the one faking it, but you’re now tired of not receiving the pleasure you desire. How to let your partner know the truth? Finally, what’s standing in the way of your “Big O” pleasure and how can you have more of them?

I’m answering these questions and many other juicy ones on this episode of Language of Love Bite!

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Dr. Laura Berman

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What’s Your Relationship Magnetics Pattern? with Robert Ohotto Sep 06, 2023

Take a moment to look at the circle of people closest to you. They are there because you energetically attracted them into your world. We’re all living, breathing magnets. Understanding your unique relationship magnetics puts you in the driver's seat when it comes to creating the love life you most desire.

On this episode of Language of Love Conversation, I talk with the amazing Robert Ohotto, one of the foremost voices in psycho-spirituality, about understanding our unique relationship magnetics, where they come from and how to change them in service to creating a healthy and fulfilling love life. Robert shares how to harness the relationship abundance magnet that thrives inside each of us.

In this episode, we’ll discuss:

How to cultivate acceptance as a key to changing relationship magnetics patterns that don’t serve us.
The keys to breaking the cycle of being codependent (and how codependency affects your relationship magnetics)
How to use relationship magnetics to call the love in you most desire
How to navigate and shift relationship magnetics to a more positive place in an existing relationship
The importance of separating from (unconsciously) identifying as a victim so we don’t carry forward the magnet for trauma
Preparing for the ways your life (including your circle) will change when you shift out of negative relationship magnetics

Resources and Links

Dr. Laura Berman

Robert Ohotto

About Robert Ohotto

Robert Ohotto is recognized as a trailblazing presence within the field of psycho-spirituality, multi-sensory development, and human consciousness. Robert’s popular radio show, “Soul Connexions Radio”, is currently one of the most listened to and downloaded podcasts on iTunes. He has been featured by Fortune Magazine for his work as an Intuitive Strategies with Fortune 500 Companies and numerous times on Oprah Radio. He is highly sought after for his dynamic lectures, intuitive consultations, and unique astrological expertise. His leading-edge work challenges the conventions of mind-body-spirit paradigms by integrating intuitive perception, archetypes, and life cycles.

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Breaking the Hold of Parent-Child Codependency Aug 31, 2023

Parent-child relationships can be loaded at every age, especially when there is codependency involved. This can lead to complicated and draining dynamics that last well into adulthood.

In this Language of Love Session, I speak with a listener who also happens to be my college roomate, Maryanne!. Maryanne is stuck in the cycle of trying to navigate a co-dependent relationship with her aging mother who is entering dementia and impossible to emotionally satisfy. For years she has struggled with this situation, feeling compelled to drop everything and put her own needs aside to be there for her mother. Now that Marianne’s father (and her mother’s caretaker) has passed away, the burden of emotionally caring for her mom has fallen solely to a Marianne. And her mother’s endless need for soothing and company is taking over Marianne’s life. In this Language of Love Session, we’ll talk candidly about how Marianne’s past relationship with her parents is impacting her current relationship with her mother. I give her direction on how to finally set boundaries, stand up for her inner child who still longs for an advocate, and begin embracing the life (and peace) she deserves. If you’re a child and find yourself struggling to set healthy boundaries with your own aging parent(s), tune in as this show is just for you! You can still be a wonderful child and caretaker to aging parents without losing yourself in the process.

Resources and Links

Dr. Laura Berman

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When You (Or Your Partner) Can’t Communicate Aug 28, 2023

Communication is an important part of any relationship and crucial to building and sustaining a lasting, long-term relationship where you and your partner are connected and passionate allies in love.

In this Language of Love Bite, will help! We’ll discuss:

The three reasons why people refuse to communicate: humiliation, societal constraints, and disassociation.
Methods for making your partner feel comfortable expressing their feelings.
How to create a judgment-free zone between you.
Difference between most men and women in their communication needs.
Getting clear on how you want to be supported in sharing feelings with your partner.
Identifying the cues of the body to understand what you (or your partner) are feeling.
Embodiment tools for facilitating emotional expression.

If you want better emotional intimacy in your relationship, longing for your partner to share more, or struggling in your communication, this episode is for you!

Resources and Links

Dr. Laura Berman

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Moving Through Loss with Barri Leiner Grant Aug 23, 2023

Every one of us has experienced loss at some point, whether it is the loss of a loved one, a relationship you thought would last forever, a pet, or even a job. Loss is inevitable, and with loss comes grief. Grieving is one of the hardest and quite honestly, most misunderstood parts of life. But here’s the thing, when you find the strength to work through the process, a new more powerful version of yourself emerges.

On this episode of The Language of Love, I sat down with Barri Leiner Grant. Barri is the Founder of The Memory Circle, an organization that helps those who have lost a loved one through the power of writing. We discuss the healing power of writing and the role it plays in helping us move to the next phase of life. If you’ve lost someone and find yourself mired in the muck of grief, unsure of how to move forward, pick up a pen and pad and listen as Barri shows us how to write your way through it!

In this episode, we’ll discuss:

Grief is not just limited to the loss of a loved one or family member.
Embracing the ways that loss can define and redfine you.
Make time for and be willing to tend to your grief garden.
The power of words to help heal us.

Resources and Links

Dr. Laura Berman

Barri Leiner Grant

About Barri Leiner Grant

Barri Leiner Grant is a certified grief coach (ICF) and founder of The Memory Circle. Born from a desire to make the grief cycle a shared experience, The Memory Circle is a place to gather, remember, and celebrate those we lost and love. As a coach, Barri helps facilitate and explore ways to remember and reflect on loss in both one-on-one sessions and grief support groups. Her passion for helping others share their grief stories became a personal mission when her mother, Ellen Jane died of a brain aneurism in 1993 at just 50 years old. Barri also works with firms of all sizes to develop best practices and policies around bereavement leave and employee grief support.

1. CONNECTING

Automatic writing prompt:

Get quiet and ask...

What would you have me know?

Allow the words to pass through you to the page.

2. DELIGHTS

Create a journal of delights. Prompted by The Book of Delights by Ross Gay

At the end of the day, write down 10 things that have delighted you.

The Book of Delights, by Ross Gay

https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-book-of-delights-essays-ross-gay/12566058?ean=9781616207922

3. Adapted from Julia Cameron’s morning pages.

MOURNING PAGES

Three long hand pages upon waking.

The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron

https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-artist-s-way-30th-anniversary-edition-julia-cameron/6665657?ean=9780143129257

4. The Quad Exercise as share by memoirist Dani Shapiro

Divide the paper in four with a big plus sign...

Upper left quadrant.

Seven things you saw.

Upper right quadrant:

Seven things you did.

Lower left

One thing you heard.

Lower right

And a doodle that represents the day.

Dani Shapiro’s Slow Motion

https://bookshop.org/p/books/slow-motion-a-memoir-of-a-life-rescued-by-tragedy-dani-shapiro/9024419?ean=9780061826696

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Your Body is Your Beauty Aug 16, 2023

More people than ever before are struggling with body image issues as they compare themselves to the endless stream of perfect, filtered and photo edited images of what seem to be perfect bodies that confront them on social media.

In this Language of Love session, I speak to Laura. Laura is a mother of four who is dealing with the recent diagnosis of MS as well as the lingering physical scars of a Cesarian Section. The scars the surgery left behind are adversely affecting her body image, causing her to shut down from Sex with her partner. Listen in as I help Laura unpack her body image struggles , confront the misconceptions she’s been carrying, and begin to have a new conversation with her body and herself that’s rooted in love and appreciation for the miraculous vessel it truly is!

Resources and Links

Dr. Laura Berman

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Trust and Faith Aug 14, 2023

Trust is an essential part of loving someone. Once it’s gone, once that trust has been breached, it can be hard to regain. In some instances, losing trust in a partner can spill over into your future relationships. When this happens, finding love, the kind of love where you and your partner can flourish and grow becomes difficult to attain.

On this Language of Love Bite, we’ll discuss the issue of trust, how it can conjure up old wounds and the importance of getting to the root of a betrayal. Falling in love is a wonderful thing, but trusting the one you love makes it all the more incredible. If you’ve been betrayed and find yourself looking to put the pieces together and want to start down the path of trusting and loving again, this episode is for you!

In this episode, we’ll discuss:

Why we tend not to want to lose whoever it is we fall in love with
A past that is filled with abandonment and the role it plays in love and trust
How to rebuild trust once it’s been broken
The importance of understanding and healing the why behind the breach
Why rebuilding trust is a team effort

Resources and Links

Dr. Laura Berman

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The Love Thief with Arielle Ford Aug 09, 2023

Have you ever felt a calling in your heart or mind that you just really don’t want to answer? You know, the kind of nudge that just won’t go away despite all your efforts to ignore it? More often than not running, hiding or pushing it away just doesn’t do the trick because in truth, that calling is probably part of your higher, divine purpose.

On this episode of The Language of Love, I speak with renowned author Arielle Ford. Arielle is a woman who made her name writing non-fiction advice books on love. That is, until she started feeling called to write a fictional story she had zero interest in writing! Her journey to ultimately answer the call resulted in The Love Thief. Arielle and I discuss the journey that led her to write this story of healing and redemption, the miracles and manifestations that made it impossible not to write it, and the lessons she wants every reader to take from this book, including powerful lessons on narcissism, codependency, mother-father wounds, spiritual awakening and so much more. If you’ve been running or hiding from a calling in your own heart, or if you just want a great beach read, Arielle and her story will inspire you.

Resources and Links

Dr. Laura Berman

Our Guest

Arielle Ford is a leading personality in the personal growth and contemporary spirituality movement. For the past 30 years she has been living, teaching, and promoting consciousness through all forms of media. She is a celebrated love and relationship expert, author, speaker, and is the co-creator and host of Evolving Wisdom’s Art of Love series. Her mission is to help women Find Love, Keep Love and Be Love.

Arielle Ford

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Unleash Your Magic with David Lion Aug 02, 2023

What if I told you that living inside of each one of us is the ability to create pure magic? I’m not talking about pulling rabbits out of hats or making people dissapear; I’m talking about the kind of magic that allows you to heal from past traumas and live the abundant life you’ve always hoped for!

This week on the Language of Love, I welcome David Lion. David is a hypnotist and magician who has mastered the art of healing and manifestation. Today, David and I will dig deep to help you unlock the door that leads to your magic. We’ll also spend time discussing some personal challenges I have been facing as he offers valuable insights that can help you too deal with your past and help lay a foundation for your incredible future!

In this episode you’ll learn:

How to build a two-way co-creative relationship with spirit
The value of parents who support magic in their children
The balance of not losing who you truly are as you try to become who you think want to be
The multiple ways authenticity can the door to connection
The two stations each of us has in our consciousness and how to access them in service to magic

Resources and Links

Dr. Laura Berman

David Lion

About David Lion

David Lion is a renowned hypnotist who is passionate about helping others find the clarity they need to live life to the fullest. He offers direction and guidance that speaks to the heart and resonates deeply within your soul. From energy healing to spiritual guidance, he truly believes that there is magic living inside of each of us and that impossible is simply a mindset waiting to be changed.

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This Too Shall Pass Jul 26, 2023

Loss in life comes in a lot of different shapes, sizes, and forms and each one of us will experience multiple losses over a lifetime. And how we process those losses makes all the difference.

In this Language of Love Session, I get into the loss of the empty nest, when our children leave home. I spend time with Charisse, who is facing the loss of her youngest as he prepares to go to college. She’s struggling as it is, but also feeling pulled deeper into grief because this loss is triggering old losses that are now coming to the surface. We get into the complexities of the “empty nest,” how to navigate the complexities of that loss, and what to do when old losses are triggering and complicating new ones.

In this episode you’ll learn:

Understanding loss in whatever way it manifests
How new losses can trigger old ones
How to transition as our children leave home, remaining their parent, but also learning how to become their friend.

Dr. Laura Berman

Charise Instagram

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Perception Isn’t Always Reality Jul 24, 2023

There’s this long-held and much belief that all narcissists are evil people bent on destruction who take pleasure in delivering pain. And that pain is often delivered to vulnerable and meek codependents who are viewed as meek, sweet souls whose sole purpose in life is to please others. But what if I told you that while on the surface, they seem totally different, operating from completely opposite ends of the spectrum narcissists and codependents are actually opposite sides of the same coin?

On this episode of Language of Love Bites, we’ll discuss the similarities between narcissists and codependents and how they originate from the same place. Chances are we’ve all dealt with one at some point in our lives and understanding why they behave in a certain way could help us, help them, and in the process, help our relationships. There’s a lot to unpack here including some of the myths out there about codependents and narcissists!

Resources and Links

Dr. Laura Berman

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The Art of Listening to Your Body with Kayla Osterhoff Jul 19, 2023

Men and women aren’t alike. This statement sounds simple enough, but for far too long, women have been asked to live, work, and grow in a world that is set up for men. The truth is throughout the month a woman’s hormonal cycle is changing in very subtle ways that impact her energy, focus and mood. This isn’t a bad thing at all. But when we learn to work with our hormonal cycles, life gets so much easier and much more productive.

In this Language of Love Conversation, I sit down with Kayla Osterhoff, a renowned Neuropsychophysiologist who understands the importance of recognizing the unique needs of a woman and her body. She has dedicated her life to helping women to get in touch with themselves, manage the various physiological phases, and unleash the power each stage offers. If you’re a woman or someone who loves one, this episode will inspire you to make some small changes that make a huge difference!

In this episode, we’ll discuss:

The importance of understanding your body’s biorhythm
The four phases of physiological shifting.
Why PMS is actually a symptom of being out of alignment with your biorhythm.
How to hack your biorhythm for more consistent peace, power, and productivity.

Resources and Links

Dr. Laura Berman

Kayla Osterhoff

About Kayla Osterhoff

Kayla Osterhoff is a globally recognized women’s health expert, lauded for her groundbreaking research and insights. She is dedicated to helping women the world over to get in touch with their bodies and teach them how to manage the various phases. Her innovative, forward-thinking approach has been throughout the world and resonates with females of all generations and stages of life

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And a Child Still Leads You Jul 12, 2023

Do you ever find it hard to express love to your partner? You know you love them and how important they are in your life, but for some reason, you can’t bring yourself to express it out loud. In most cases, it’s not the present that’s holding you back … it’s your past, specifically the things you experienced as a child.

In this Language of Love session, I spent time speaking with Connie. She loves her partner, but can’t express it to them. She grew up in a home where trauma was a constant companion, leading her to emotionally shut down to feel safe. We get into her past, revealing the little girl who still resides inside the grown woman, too scared to love out loud. And we begin charting a course for healing.

In this episode, we’ll discuss:

The many ways the expression of love is modeled (or not) in our families growing up.
The lingering effects of a childhood without reciprocal love on difficulty with attachment.
How being raised by an addict affects self expression in love and fosters insecure or avoidant attachment.
The path to healing attachment wounds

Resources and Links

Dr. Laura Berman

Additional Resources

You’ve tried and tried, but you’re not getting the answers you need. Here’s the good news, the world is full of valuable resources. If you’re looking for someone specializing in Talk Therapy or Family of Origin of Family Addiction Issues, visit Psychology Today (www.psychologytoday.com), to find a provider in your area. If you’re interested in Somatic Healing, visit Trauma Healing (www.traumahealing.org) or Hakomi Institute (www.hakomiinstitute.com). Both of these websites will guide you to resources near you.

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Help, I’m Catching Feels… Jul 10, 2023

Friends with benefits…it’s common in our dating vernacular now. A friendship where sex happens and no commitment beyond friendship. It can seem modern and cool and a great idea. But I find in most cases, one person is benefiting while the other person is (probably secretly) hoping it’ll turn into more.

On this Language of Love Bite I discuss the hidden costs of being a friend with benefits and why it may not be as beneficial as it appears to be on the surface. Intimacy is one of life’s most pleasurable experiences and one we all deserve. But when the clothes come off, the lines can often become blurred. There are so many things to consider before embarking on this kind of relationship journey … So let's talk about it!

Resources and Links

Dr. Laura Berman

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Tough Times Don’t Last, Tough People Do with Steven Washington Jul 05, 2023

Regardless of whether or not we’re brave enough to admit it, most of us have been addicted to one thing or another during our lifetime. When it comes to this topic, drugs and alcohol are the first things that come to mind, but you’d be surprised to learn there are so many more. You’d be even more surprised to learn what these addictions really represent.

In this Language of Love conversation, I sit down with Steven Washington as he discusses his experiences with addiction and his journey toward recovery. Steven is a movement master and also the author of Recovering You: Soulful and Mindful Movement For Overcoming Addiction. Join us today as we discuss the importance of connections, the power of touch, self-care and much more. If you’re serious about understanding your addiction and charting a course for recovery, you’ve come to the right place.

Resources and Links

Dr. Laura Berman

Steven Washington

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Springing Back Into Action Jun 28, 2023

Dating can be a challenging proposition no matter which stage of life you find yourself walking through, but especially if you’ve been out of the game for some time. Setting standards and knowing what you’re looking for in a mate are critical steps.

In this Language of Love session, I spend time with Mary, a woman trying to navigate the often-complicated dating terrain to find her person. The challenge she faces is she thinks she knows what she wants, but I help her realize she’s actually focusing too much on what she doesn’t want! Listen in as I walk her through the process everyone should get clear on if they are seeking to manifest the love they most desire.

Resources and Links

Dr. Laura Berman

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How to Heal the Father Wound Jun 26, 2023

Fathers play such an important role in the life of all children, but especially their daughters. Whether he knows it or not, how a father treats his daughter determines if she’s fortified and ready to take on the world, or carrying unhealed wounds affecting all areas of her life as an adult. If your relationship with your father was lacking, less than ideal or has left you wounded, it’s time to start healing.

In this Language of Love Bite, I discuss the father wound and how it can impact a woman, her relationships and life choices. It doesn’t have to have been an abusive relationship. A fathers’ neglect, criticism, indifference or abandonment can also create trauma that all too often goes unaddressed. I’ll also cover the signs of a father wound, and how you can recognize them. Lastly, I’ll help you begin walking down the path toward healing, leading to you becoming the best version of yourself!

In this episode you’ll learn:

Why parent (in particular father) relationships are the foundation for life relationships
How healing begins with recognition but doesn’t always lead to rejection or confrontation
How to learn to stand by your truth and not be afraid to re-parent yourself

Resources and Links

Dr. Laura Berman

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Honey, Baby, Mine, Laura Dern and Diane Ladd Jun 21, 2023

For most of us, we avoid the hard conversations. And if we have them, we wait until the end is near to sit down, ask questions and get the answers we need before saying our final goodbyes. But the truth is we don’t have to wait until we are about to loose someone to clear the air. Those hard conversations can actually be the beginnings of beautiful new chapters of life.

In this Language of Love session, I speak to renowned actress Laura Dern. We’ll discuss the new book she recently completed with her mother, the legendary Diane Ladd entitled, Honey, Baby, Mine: A Mother and Daughter Talk Life, Death, Love (and Banana Pudding).Listen in to our heartfelt, insightful, & eye opening conversation about hope, honesty and the important conversations we shouldn’t wait to have. Because healing only comes with being brave enough to get honest with those who’ve hurt us, especially our loved ones. I hope you are as inspired by this conversation as I am.

Resources and Links

Dr. Laura Berman

Laura Dern

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Nick Cannon: The Mother of All Fathers Jun 14, 2023

Unless you’ve been living under a rock for the last few years, you’ve probably heard the name Nick Cannon. From his courageous health battle to his career that continues on a seemingly endless ascent, to the multitude of children he’s fathered through several different women, everyone has an opinion. He’s one of the most enigmatic figures in entertainment, an undeniably incredible talent … and an even more incredible person!

In this Language of Love Conversation, I sit down with Nick as he dispels myths, exposes us to some of the life and love lessons he’s learned along the way, and sets the record straight. We talk about the children and how to the outside it appears reckless, but to him, it’s the manifestation of a vision that at the time it was revealed, even he didn’t quite understand.

Nothing is off limits as we dive deep into his views on parenting, relationships, and the role past trauma plays in his current life. You’ve read the clippings and heard all the gossip, but today you’ll hear from the man himself as I get candid with the one and only … Nick Cannon!

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Nick Cannon

About Nick Cannon

Actor, comedian, musician, television and radio personality, Nick Cannon is a man who knows no limits. He’s a source of energy and one whose indelible, creative imprint can be seen etched all across the entertainment world. As he continues evolving and unveiling new layers of his brand, he remains committed to opening doors for those that follow while championing their efforts to make their dreams become reality.

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Can you heal yourself with Quantum Energy? with Tom Paladino Jun 07, 2023

I am very excited about this week’s Language of Love Conversation because we are talking about something that I have always been curious to explore and learn more about. It is a very exciting form of alternative healing that is known to improve health and vitality.

Scalar energy researcher, Tom Paladino, is joining me today to talk about how scalar light therapy can be used in healing the body and mind.

What’s scalar light you ask? Well listen in as Tom elaborates on how scalar light therapy works and how it can be used to improve human health and vitality. It’s a fascinating new holistic approach to healing that I will be learning about alongside you. This week on Language of Love. This is one episode you don’t want to miss.

https://www.scalarlight.com/

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Grow Your Soul and Call in Fuller Love May 31, 2023

If you long for soul filling love or care about someone who does, this episode is for you!

When you commit to personal growth, you come to love the person you flourish into. And if you’re looking for love, you’ll be much more likely to attract in the kind of love you most desire. After all, the more healed and whole you are, the more you are a magnet for others who are the same!

This Language of Love Session, I talk to listener Kathleen about how to navigate the path to the best version of yourself, even while finding beautiful love along the way. We’ll discuss projecting the right energy, living in the right frequency, and a few things you can start doing right now to attract the love you deserve.

In this episode you’ll learn about:

Discovering what language is your body speaking
The Accidental Alpha Woman Syndrome and the fine line between power and control.
How your energy is your best date outfit.
If you want to attract masculine, ways to build up your feminine to attract.

Resources and Links

Dr. Laura Berman

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Collateral Damage: The Hidden Cost of Revenge May 29, 2023

Have you ever wished harm on another person? Someone who did you wrong in some form or fashion?

Maybe it’s an ex, a co-worker, or a neighbor who crossed you. The truth is most everyone has felt this

way a time or two. But have you ever thought about the cost of vengeance?

In this Language of Love Bite, we’ll uncover the hidden costs of vengeance, fury, anger and what they

can potentially cost you. There’s a healthier way to express your disdain for a situation or a choice that

doesn't align with your core values or desires. It doesn’t cost you anything and allows you to feel

complete. Listen to this episode to learn more!

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The Language of Love for great discussions and thought-provoking conversations with accomplished

individuals and experts offering invaluable advice on how to love and be loved better.

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Who Do You Think You Are? with Joe Dispenza May 24, 2023

So many of us struggle with low self worth. But, if you’re not happy with the person looking

back at you in the mirror, you can actually change everything by changing your thoughts,

especially your habitual thoughts.

This week on The Language of Love, I’m so excited to share with you my conversation with Dr.

Joe Dispenza. He is revolutionizing the hearts and souls of millions with his teachings around

making what seems impossible, possible through the focused power of thought. In this

conversation we discuss how the mind, and memories from our past can affect our health even

shape our reality. The truth is an amazing life is waiting for each of us. It just requires a shift of

mind.

In this episode, we’ll also discuss:

● How to change your mind to change your health for the better.

● The power of using daily reminders of the person you want to be

● Key question to ask yourself that changes everything in your dating life.

● How to end addiction to negative thoughts

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regularly to The Language of Love for great discussions and thought-provoking conversations

with accomplished individuals and experts offering invaluable advice on how to love and be

loved better.

Dr. Joe Dispenza

● Joe Dispenza – Official Website

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Ready, Willing, but Unable May 17, 2023

Sex … it gets easy with marriage, right? In a perfect world, this is how things work, but our world is far from perfect, and those imperfections often follow us into the bedroom. As much as we’d like to think otherwise, when you “put a ring on it” you won’t necessarily spontaneously release any predisposed inhibitions you have around sex.

This week, our Language of Love Session dives into this topic with a listener who is ready, willing, but unable to enjoy sex with her husband due to core inhibitions she didn’t realize she was still carrying. I help her get to the root of her aversion to being sexual and share insights and tools that will get her and her sex life back on track.

In today’s episode you will learn:

How to find the missing piece of your sex life.
How to come back to your body and stay there for true intimacy and pleasure.
When and how outside help can make all the difference
Ways to make intimacy feel safe.
How to build a better sex life without making sex feel like work.

Sex is one of the most pleasurable experiences life has to offer. If you find yourself stranded at a bedroom impasse, the good news is that help is available.

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Should You Give Your Daughter a Vibrator? May 15, 2023

Yes, you read that right! On this week’s Language of Love bite, we are talking about whether you should give your daughter the power to take her pleasure into her own hands. I first brought this up a long time ago on the Oprah Winfrey Show and while Oprah agreed with me, Gayle King and much of America didn’t.

This episode, I elaborate explicitly on why teaching your daughter self-stimulation has long-term benefits to her safety, self-advocacy, and ultimate sexual and romantic pleasure and satisfaction. Listen in as I talk about how giving your daughter a sex toy can positively affect her sexual development.

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Finding Your Own Magic with Anna Kloots May 10, 2023

Have you ever found yourself bending over backward to please others and losing sight of your own needs and desires?

Anna Kloots, bestselling author and content creator, is joining me today during Language of Love’s conversation to discuss how you can cultivate your inner relationship with a fear of the unknown, the beautiful process, and finding your own magic. She talks about how to thrive in unknown scenarios and create new comfort zones.

Anna's journey of self-discovery and self-love is a true testament to the power of resilience and hope. She sheds light on the idea that the problems we experience in love aren’t about giving away too much of ourselves to someone, but about not knowing our true worth and thus giving it to the wrong people who can’t or won’t reciprocate.

Listen in as Anna shares the lessons she’s learned through her own journey of heartbreak that woke her up, led her back to her own magic, and allowed her to manifest the beautiful life and love of her dreams.

If you’ve been struggling to claim your worth or take that big leap your soul is calling you to make, this episode will inspire you to go for it all.

Visit Anna’s website, and check out her upcoming book My Own Magic: A Reappearing Act releasing May 16th, and follow her to check out the amazing journeys she’s on.

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Stop Accidentally Attracting Narcissists May 03, 2023

Ever wonder why you are always drawn to partners who have the same personality traits? Some people call it having a type, I call it being a frequency match for a certain kind of character or quality. Depending on the type, this can be a good thing, a bad thing or a very bad thing.

In this Language of Love Session, I talk with a listener named Kim. She has been in a toxic narcissistic-codependent relationship for 4 years and she’s seeking guidance on whether or not she should throw in the towel.

In this episode you’ll learn:

How to reach the calm and presence necessary for an honest conversation
The two tipping points of pain that ultimately allow us to leave a toxic relationship
How much narcissists and codependents actually have in common (hint: codependents can be gaslighters too!)
A roadmap for healing successfully with action items

Visit my website and check out my books on love, sex and relationships. Be sure to tune in regularly to The Language of Love for great discussions and thought-provoking conversations with accomplished individuals and experts offering invaluable advice on how to love and be loved better.

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Why Men and Women are Sexually Different May 01, 2023

On this week’s Language of Love bite, we are talking sexual relationships and how men and women approach sex from different angles. Guys and gals, young and old, whether you are single, married or it’s complicated, if you love sex, this episode is for you!

Listen to this short and pointed discussion (pun intended) as I explain why we are the way we are. Why men are so focused and driven? Why women are so amazing at multi-tasking? And how you can enjoy your sex life to the fullest despite the difference in approach. At the end of this Language of Love Bite, I will tell you some things you can do to attend to those differences, so be sure to listen to the whole episode!

Visit my website and check out my books on love, sex and relationships. Be sure to tune in regularly to The Language of Love for great discussions and thought-provoking conversations with accomplished individuals and experts offering invaluable advice on how to love and be loved better.

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Building the Faith Muscle with Bobbi Vogel Apr 26, 2023

This week on Language of Love Conversation, I am joined by my friend and Clairvoyant Healer, Bobbi Vogel and our conversation goes deep! I am very excited to share her wisdom on the Language of Love. Listen in as Bobbi tells of the near death experience that was the catalyst of her awakening. She shares the secrets she’s discovered for building Faith as a path to healing the body and mind. And we even take some of your questions live, on the topic of faith, connecting with our deepest selves and unlocking our fullest potential.

Learn more about Bobbi on her Instagram page or website, Etheric Medicine.

Visit my website and check out my books on love, sex and relationships. Be sure to tune in regularly to The Language of Love for great discussions and thought-provoking conversations with accomplished individuals and experts offering invaluable advice on how to love and be loved better.

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My Husband Is Addicted to Porn, Not Me Apr 19, 2023

Like it or not, this is a very common issue couples face. One in five men suffer from low desire, and one of the most common causes is that they are investing too much sexual energy and time into watching porn.

On this episode of Language of Love Session, I am speaking with Isabel whose husband has a porn addiction. I explain to her why her husband is being unresponsive to sex, the reasons behind his immense fascination to porn and more importantly, some of the things they can do as a couple (I assign her homework!) to counter that.

If you are wanting your partner to be less on his laptop and more on you, listen to this Language of Love session!

Visit my website and check out my books on love, sex and relationships. Be sure to tune in regularly to The Language of Love for great discussions and thought-provoking conversations with accomplished individuals and experts offering invaluable advice on how to love and be loved better.

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Closing the Orgasm Gap Apr 17, 2023

One of the biggest bedroom complaints I get from couples is around closing what I call the Orgasm Gap. It takes the average man seven and a half minutes to get there and the average woman 20! On this week's Language of Love bite, we are packing into 10 minutes everything you need to know about sex, orgasms, and how to close the gap so you can both get the pleasure you deserve. Whether you are a man or woman, young or mature, single or in a relationship, you are going to love this one.

From practical tips that you can implement immediately to specific products that you can use that actually work, we are closing the orgasm gap today and it’s all happening on this week’s Language of Love Bite. Be sure to listen in and share with someone you love!

Visit my website and check out my books on love, sex and relationships. Be sure to tune in regularly to The Language of Love for great discussions and thought-provoking conversations with accomplished individuals and experts offering invaluable advice on how to love and be loved better.

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Agape Love is at the Center of Health, Healing, & Inclusion with Glodean Champion Apr 12, 2023

Life coach, light worker, and author Glodean Champion joins me for this week’s Language of Love Conversation. We talk about a myriad of topics relating to gender identity, race, self-acceptance, and more. All these topics are tackled in her recent fictional book, Salmon Croquettes. We also explore how her trip down south during the Black Lives Matter protests shaped her understanding of love, and how it helped her remember that she is a beacon of light in this world!

In this Conversation, Glodean and I discuss:

How to become a leader by using unconditional love
The three lessons Glodean learned from her trip to the South during the BLM protests
Powerful lessons from upbringing as an adopted child of a single mother
Glodean’s TEDx Talk on her suicidal thoughts and how one town saved her life.

Visit Glodean’s website for more information on her career, mission, and leadership resources. You can also read her beautiful debut novel Salmon Croquettes and listen to her TEDx Talk!

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Finding Humility Apr 05, 2023

This Language of Love session is very special to me because I am joined by my college roommate and bestie since the 1980s, Dana Lathrop. The two of us reminisce a bit (including recounting some of the crazier antics we got up to in our youth). But we also dig into the issue of humility; is it ever real? Is it required for social acceptance? Is there something wrong with you if you have too much or too little humility?

If you struggle with self promotion, celebrating your accomplishments out loud or claiming your gifts, this episode will definitely inspire you.

Dana is definitely someone who is committed to humility. Dana is a very talented and accomplished artist, but she is uncomfortable stepping into the spotlight. In this week’s Language of Love session, I help her identify where that is coming from and more importantly, what she should do about it.

Join me as we tackle this topic from our differing perspectives; why is it important to sometimes toot your own horn? Is it ok for someone to be their own cheerleader? Is false humility worse or better than honest pride?

Learn more about Dana Lathrop’s art on her instagram page

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What’s Your Number? To Tell or Not to Tell? Apr 03, 2023

Should you tell each other your “number” in a new relationship?

In this Language of Love Bite we are tackling this age old question: How many sexual partners have you had? I’m helping you navigate through this conversation with your partner and, even more importantly, understand the implications of even asking the question in the first place! The asking (and the answer) both can have far reaching implications for the future of your relationship.

I’m always here helping you love and be loved better! So make sure to visit my website and check out my books on love, sex and relationships. Be sure to tune in regularly to The Language of Love for great discussions and thought-provoking conversations with accomplished individuals and experts offering invaluable advice on how to love and be loved better.

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Finding Magic in the Mess with Dr. Neeta Bhushan Mar 29, 2023

On this week’s episode of the Language of Love, I am sitting down with wellness and emotional health advocate Dr. Neeta Bhushan, the author of the acclaimed book, That Sucked Now What? At a very young age Neeta experienced the loss of her brother and both her parents, leading her into a spiral of grief, an abusive relationship and struggles with codependency.

In this conversation, we talk about the ways that magical moments that can grow out of our deepest pain, as well as the many powerful strategies Dr Neetha shared to “sit with the suck” in order to move through it and thrive.

Visit my website and check out my books on love, sex and relationships. Be sure to tune in regularly to The Language of Love for great discussions and thought-provoking conversations with accomplished individuals and experts offering invaluable advice on how to love and be loved better.

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Healing Trauma with Somatic Therapy Mar 22, 2023

On this week’s episode of the Language of Love session, I sat down with Amanda who’s going through some heavy life changes and is struggling with organization and clarity. A veteran of the armed forces and a recovering alcoholic, Amanda is a fighter, an abuse survivor, and a mom with two beautiful children. She’s seeking some help putting her life back on track. In this session, we talk about:

How somatic therapy can be beneficial for Amanda in her recovery from sexual and emotional trauma.
Looking to her kids for motivation and how her healing can give her children a better life.
How to build trust and a relationship with your body.
Specific action steps that I lay out, the A, B and C to healing from trauma and abuse.

This must-listen episode is a very emotional one, as Amanda recalls the abuse and trauma she has endured. Listen as I share specific action steps she can take to heal, and lay out a path that she can follow to reach full recovery.

Visit my website and check out my books on love, sex and relationships. Be sure to tune in regularly to The Language of Love for great discussions and thought-provoking conversations with accomplished individuals and experts offering invaluable advice on how to love and be loved better.

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The Keys to Helping Kids Thrive Through Divorce Mar 20, 2023

If you are a child of divorce, or a parent going through it, this episode is for you!

Let’s face it. Divorce is never easy, especially when kids are involved. But the key to surviving it, and more importantly helping children thrive through it, comes down to the parents’ behavior… specifically around coparenting.

In this Language of Love Bite we get into the crucial things parents must focus on to help their kids move through a divorce as unscathed as possible, including my #1 indicator that predicts how children are going to manage through the process.

Visit my website and check out my books on love, sex and relationships. Be sure to tune in regularly to The Language of Love for great discussions and thought-provoking conversations with accomplished individuals and experts offering invaluable advice on how to love and be loved better.

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The Journey to Self-Love & Self-Discovery Through Creative Expression with IN-Q Mar 15, 2023

Songwriter, poet, speaker, and bestselling author IN-Q is joining me on this week’s Language of Love Conversation to discuss the process of self-exploration through art and the journey to transformation and self-love. Through Inquire Within, his recent book, he shares the role that poetry has played in his life as he’s walked through a life of grief, joy, fear, love, and everything in between.

In this Conversation, we unpack:

How to move beyond fear to fully express our authentic selves
Ways art can be a path to self discovery
The fact that everyone is a poet of some sort and how to begin your own creative expression
When you know your own creative expression is complete

Visit IN-Q’s website, follow him on Instagram, and check out his book, Inquire Within, for more information on his story as an artist and the storytelling workshops that he holds for individuals around the globe.

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Navigating Finances as a Couple Mar 08, 2023

Money. Sex. Kids. Religion. These are four big kahunas that can make or break a relationship. On todaysLanguage of Love Session I’m speaking with Victoria about money issues coming up in her relationship.

Navigating finances can be a minefield for relationships. Moving in is one thing, but sharing expenses is quite another. In this Language of Love session, I sit down with Victoria who reports she and her boyfriend are struggling with different view on spending. Listen as I talk to her about financial burden

sharing and how each partner can accommodate the other person’s spending and saving preferences

while still honoring their own.

It’s all about meeting in the middle. Can you create space and grace to support each other’s different

desires to spend or save money? Be sure to listen to this week’s Love session to find out!

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The Language of Love for great discussions and thought-provoking conversations with accomplished

individuals and experts offering invaluable advice on how to love and be loved better.

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Life and Love After Herpes Mar 06, 2023

Even though 1 in 4 people have Herpes, 80% of those who have it don’t even know it! Yet despite how common it is, I still find that a diagnosis with Herpes sends people reeling, all too often fills them with shame, and even keeps them stuck in unhealthy relationships they would otherwise leave if they didn’t feel like “damaged goods.”

In this Language of Love Bite I’m getting into it with you; the precautions to take to prevent transmission , ways to bring it up in a new relationship and methods to manage it. Most of all we get into the fact that this is simply a skin condition and not a death sentence for your love or sex life!

Are you ready to learn how to protect yourself and the ones you love, release the shame and step into your sexual power? Well this episode is for you!

Visit Dr. my website and check out my books on love, sex and relationships. Be sure to tune in regularly to The Language of Love for great discussions and thought-provoking conversations with accomplished individuals and experts offering invaluable advice on how to love and be loved better.

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When Our Childhood Wounds Wound our Children: The Parenting Map With Dr. Shefali Mar 01, 2023

Whether you are a parent or not, this episode is going to open your eyes! This week on Language of Love, I sit down with one of my faves, Dr. Shefali. She is a renowned author, psychologist, and parenting expert. Her book The Conscious Parent really changed my life. Now we sit down to talk about her newest endeavor, The Parenting Map.

In this episode we get into it all, including:

All the unconscious ways our own wounds play out in our parenting style
The specific ways our triggers in adulthood actually developed in childhood and how we can stop the cycle with our own kids
How our attempts to raise “successful” and “happy” kids is actually misguided
The secret guilt I’ve been carrying about a mistake I made with my son Sammy

Do you want to know how you can be there for your kids in a more fulfilling, meaningful, and loving way that will serve them and aid in their development? This episode is for you!

Make sure to check out Dr Shefali’s website and grab a copy of her new book The Parenting Map: Step-by-Step Solutions to Consciously Create the Ultimate Parent-Child Relationship.

Visit my website and check out my books on love, sex and relationships. Be sure to tune in regularly to The Language of Love for great discussions and thought-provoking conversations with accomplished individuals and experts offering invaluable advice on how to love and be loved better.

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Experiencing a New Level of Healing with Gabby Bernstein Feb 22, 2023

Today’s episode is a special one as my guest today is someone with whom I share both a professional and personal connection. Gabby Bernstein is a New York times bestselling author with 8 books. She is also a motivational speaker and host of the “Dear Gabby” podcast. Her latest book, Happy Days, is her most personal work to date. Gabby shares her healing journey after recovering traumatic memories of sexual abuse

In this week’s Language of Love Conversation, Gabby takes us along on her deep and personal journey of healing, sharing with us the resources she discovers that have helped her heal, and the tough lessons she learned along the way. We even get into an event we co-facilitated and I (lovingly) confront Gabby about a hurt I suffered at her hands close to a decade ago!

If you are someone or love someone who’s suffered any kind of trauma, this is not an episode to miss!

In this LOL Conversation we talk about:

The difference between “Big T” Trauma and “little t” trauma
The surprising secret Gabby shares about the difference between the Gabby on-stage and Gabby in her personal life
The 2 major events that were the catalysts that launched Gabby into a major AFGE (Another Frickin’ Growth Experience)
How to feel safe enough in your own body to go deeper into therapy
Strategies for facing trauma head on while being supported in your healing

Visit Gabby Bernstein’s website and check out her latest New York times best seller book, Happy Days: The Guided Path from Trauma to Profound Freedom and Inner Peace. You can also watch her on her podcast Dear Gabby.

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Friendship is Your Stepping Stone to Romance Feb 15, 2023

We’re back with another Language of Love session! In this episode, I chat with a 40-something-year-old listener who wants to find love but feels an aversion to dating. She’s never dated and never been physically intimate with someone.

As we explore some of her childhood and current attitude toward men, we unpack the things that might have landed her where she is today. I also break down some tools to begin practicing to open her heart to love vulnerability, like fostering your friendships first!

In this session, we discuss:

How our parents’ marriage can deeply affect our perception of love and care
What we are really craving in the search for emotional and physical intimacy
Why friendship can be a wonderful stepping stone to romance
How vulnerability and open heartedness with our pets can heal some of the wounds blocking us from love
The power of somatic experiencing in healing our blocks to love

If you’re curious about somatic experiences, check out the Hakomi Institute or Somatic Experiencing International for more information.

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When You want to Go But Your Partner Threatens to Hurt Themselves if You Do! Feb 13, 2023

Have you ever been in a relationship where your partner has threatened to hurt themselves if you leave?

Unfortunately, this is a surprisingly common situation that I hear from a lot of you. In today’s Language of Love Bite, I want to equip you with a few tools to navigate a situation with someone who is either genuinely at risk or might be using suicidal thoughts as emotional blackmail. The tips I outline will hopefully give you some comfort and peace when navigating a stressful situation such as this.

In this Bite, I explore:

What emotional manipulation looks like
The important difference between Suicidal thoughts/ideation vs. a suicidal plan
How to spot some of the red flags in someone at risk
Steps to take to leave the relationship in a way that leaves your partner protected.

If you’re afraid that your partner is going to hurt themselves and don’t know what to do, call a clinician, 1-800-273-8255, or dial the suicide hot line 988. Erring on the side of caution will give you the peace of mind that you need. No matter what happens, remember that no one is entitled to hold you emotional (or any kind of) hostage.

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Breaking Down Barriers to Healthy Love with Stefanos Sifandos Feb 08, 2023

What is healthy love, and what can stand in the way of achieving it?

Transformational relationship coach Stefanos Sifandos is joining me for this week’s Language of Love Conversation to discuss the characteristics of healthy love and the five barriers that can stand in the way. He also shares his own journey from childhood trauma to struggling in relationships and the turning points in his life that led to healing.

In this episode, we dive into:

The turning point in Stef’s life that led to healing
The 5 Blocks to Love
When to throw in the towel in love
Divine femininity vs divine masculinity
The qualities of a healthy relationship

Stefanos Sifandos and his wife run a Breathwork for the Feminine event every month, but he also has a variety of coaching options for those looking to take that first step toward opening their heart to love. You can also follow him on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube to stay up-to-date on his work!

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Healing from Assault & Abuse in a Relationship Feb 01, 2023

TRIGGER WARNING: This episode includes references to sexual assault and abuse.

This week’s Language of Love Session is with a listener facing a devastating situation in her marriage. After recently sustaining sexual abuse by her husband, this listener and I sit in this heartbreaking situation together as she considers her next move in this marriage. We also discuss trauma she has not yet healed from and how she carries it with her every day.

If you’ve experienced assault or abuse, please know that those experiences are not your fault. You are deserving of safety, respect, and solid boundaries.

In this Session, we break down:

What assault is at its core
The ways narcissistic partners hurt us
How trauma in childhood informs our romantic choices
How to begin moving forward with somatic therapy

If you’re interested in finding a somatic therapist in your area, visit Somatic Experiencing International or The Hakomi Institute. For information and resources regarding sexual assault, visit RAINN.

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Female Ejaculation: Real or a Myth? Jan 30, 2023

This week’s Language of Love Bite is all about female ejaculation. Some people believe it’s a myth, so I’m breaking down that misconception in today’s episode! A common belief is that your body releases urine when you orgasm, but that is not the case. There is a specific compound found in male and female ejaculation, and today, I want to talk about what’s actually happening in our bodies when we experience this.

In this Bite, I break down:

The difference between male and female ejaculation
The process of retrograde ejaculation
A few tips to ejaculate when you orgasm

You can always reach me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com or leave me a voicemail if you have any questions!

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Parenting in the Darkest Seasons with Kristina Kuzmic Jan 25, 2023

How do we manage negativity and misery while still finding things to be grateful for? How do we pass these skills on to our children?

Kristina Kuzmic, writer, creator, and mother, is joining me today during today’s Language of Love Conversation to discuss personalized parenting for our children, how we can support them through their mental health struggles, and how to combat insecurity and uncertainty with grace. She is a big believer, as am I, in the power of authenticity and vulnerability in developing close relationships and unity.

She also unpacks her journey through her current profession, her early projects, the impact of her Wednesday Night Dinners, how she fosters gratitude through her “Yeah, but…” game, and her son’s dark season of depression.

In today’s episode, we discuss:

Why there is no “one size fits all” model for parenting
The subtle ways we label our children
Reframing traits that are categorized as “negative”
The power of authenticity
The impact of focusing on the things you CAN do
The “Yeah, but…” Game
Why shame is the shittiest motivator
Encouraging our children to prioritize their mental health
Parenting children who are struggling

Visit Kristina Kuzmic’s website, check out her book, Hold On, But Don’t Hold Still, and watch her YouTube video with her son to learn more about how they moved through that challenging and scary season.

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Assessing Your Inner Child’s Wants & Needs Jan 18, 2023

What does it mean to shift a relationship that’s just not working? How do we reestablish independence and access our gifts while carrying childhood trauma?

This listener and I are breaking down these questions and assessing the state of her marriage in today’s Language of Love Session. It’s not uncommon for some people in long-term relationships to feel like their independence is tied to the presence of a partner – we almost revert to a child-like sense of ourselves. But we must teach our inner child to speak up for their wants and needs, so tune in to discover the valuable tips I offer this listener!

In today’s Session, we explore:

The state of her marriage
The trauma we carry into our relationships
Reestablishing independence as adults
How to integrate the wants and needs of our inner child into our lives
Why a somatic therapist can help
Releasing generational trauma
How our souls choose our family of origin
Tips to cultivate connection and access our gifts

We have to work through our fear and resistance to move toward love and intimacy. Check out my website for more information on how you can begin this journey!

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Why Do Women Fake Their Orgasms? Jan 16, 2023

OK, let’s be honest. How many of you have faked or known someone who regularly fakes orgasms?

If you’re in this boat, I get it. There are plenty of reasons women fake it, and I’m shedding some light on these motivators in today’s Language of Love Bite. Whether it’s a presumed act of mercy, you haven’t had an orgasm before, or you’re unsure how to replicate the orgasm you experience on your own, I want to help you reach a point where you can be honest with your partner.

In this Bite, I’m explaining:

The mercy fake
The stages of an orgasm
How to tackle shame as the secret orgasm killer
Why some women don’t advocate for their pleasure
Ideal ingredients for sexual pleasure
How best to tackle it with your partner if you’ve been faking it!

Remember that orgasms and arousal depend on several different factors. If you’re not reaching an orgasm every time you have sex, that’s completely normal! But pleasure is your birthright. Let go of those expectations and enjoy the process!

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How to Ground Yourself When The World Around You Seems Crazy with Christina Lopes Jan 11, 2023

It can seem like the world is going a little crazy these days. Everything is in an upheaval around the world, and in our personal lives.

Christina Lopes, the author of Walking With the Masters and spiritual healer, is chatting with me during this week’s Language of Love Conversation to discuss her wild ride through a spiritual awakening. Christina shares much of the wisdom she gained in her journey including how to ground yourself during times of chaos.

During our Conversation, Christina and I dive into:

The divorce crisis and out of body experience that began her spiritual awakeningHow our tendency to keep busy negatively affects our sense of equilibrium
Christina’s Kundalini awakening (along with what the hell that means), and the rising of what she experiences as a Dynamic Feminine Force of Consciousness
The limitations of the Western medical system to explain so many of the physical experiences that come with spiritual awakening
The powerful thing that happens when you actually ask your spirit guides for help
The importance of protecting your energy and finding play

Visit Christina Lopes’ website to learn more about her journey, spiritual awakening, and healing. You can also watch her videos and read her wonderful new book Walking With the Masters!

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Raising Boys as Sensitive and Intuitive Humans with Justin Baldoni Jan 04, 2023

If you are raising a man, identify as a man or love a man this episode will mean the world to you! I know it means the world to me as a mom of 3 boys and a wife of one man.

In today’s Language of Love Conversation, actor, director, author, and father Justin Baldoni unpacks how this question motivated him to write his recent book, Boys Will Be Human. Justin shares the insights and clarity he wishes he had been given as a young man. We connect over our experiences as parents as we struggle through trying to

help our own children become the people they’re destined to be.

In this conversation, we break down:

How social pressure and our own unconscious conditioning can act as a barrier to helping our boys grow into healthy men
Tips for teaching boys to move through feelings rather than ignore or hide them
How to tackle bullies and bystanders who squelch our boys’ creativity and self expression
The unexpected effects Porn has on developing brains and how the idea of sexual consent plays out in boys’ sex education.

Check out Justin’s podcast, Man Enough, and be sure to read his book, Boys Will Be Human, with your kiddos!

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Discovering Wholeness Through Healing with Dr. Gabor Maté Dec 28, 2022

I’m beyond excited to welcome Dr. Gabor Maté to this Language of Love Conversation. As an author, physician, and renowned addiction expert, Gabor has spent years working to break down societal norms and traditional ideals about the connection between trauma and illness. His book, The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, & Healing in a Toxic Culture, explores the relationship between and influences of mind and body.

Together we get into the many ways our current physical and mental health is rooted in childhood.

In today’s Conversation, we talk about:

Ways in which our mind and body are interconnected
The unique ways stress impacts women’s physical health
Why ‘no’is crucial to physical health
How to understand the feeling of guilt and what it means
The gifts of sensitive children and why society doesn’t always recognize them
How healing is the natural movement toward wholeness
Two different kinds of pain

Check out Dr. Gabor Maté’s website for more information on his career, books, and courses available. They are chock-full of valuable information regarding addiction, ADHD, trauma, mind/body, and more.

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There's Hope in the Unknown Dec 21, 2022

This week, I’m sitting down for a Language of Love Session with a listener that’s currently navigating a divorce and feeling like the world before her is pretty unclear. As she fights to trust her own instincts and desires, I offer her some helpful techniques to hold on to her clarity in the face of external pressure and doubt.

Her story is a good reminder that we have to honor our truth in the face of great pain, change, and divine timing. We also discuss the power of therapy and working through childhood trauma in uncovering the possibilities that are available to us after loss.

In this episode, we’re diving into:

The reasons why a marriage ends
Deal breakers in a relationship and unmet expectations
Families of origin and the shadows that follow us into adulthood
Understanding divine timing and living in the present
The importance of inner child work and assessing what our inner child wants
How to claim what you want for your life

Remember, you don’t need a reason to want what you want. You are the author of every chapter of your life, so find your peace, open your imagination, and forge your path!

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Why The Lens You View Life Through is Everything Dec 19, 2022

This Language of Love Bite is all about the lens through which we view our world and our reality! Everyone has a unique perspective on life, but how does yours influence your emotions, your energy, and your state of being?

During this episode, I share some thoughts on how our view of the world and our reality can shape our feelings and perspectives on, well, everything! Beyond this, I offer some tips to reprocess, regulate, and ground yourself when you’re feeling stuck in a certain narrative.

This week, I highlight:

How the lens through which we view the world is unique to us
The impact of preconceived narratives on our relationships
Why we have to avoid spiritual bypassing
Clearing our lens to live in love

We all attract that which matches our frequency, so pay attention to the lens that colors your world. When you clear your lens, you might find that you’re more able to lead with love, and the door to greater joy and positivity in your life opens!

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Reframing Love, Sex, and Potential Partners with Biet Simkin Dec 14, 2022

After our vibrant and memorable introduction at an Association for Transformational Leaders event, I knew I had to have Biet Simkin on the podcast for a Language of Love Conversation. She’s a meditation, breathwork, and spiritual teacher that believes in the power of meditative practices and wrote a book called Don’t Just Sit There! During our chat, Biet shares her unusual upbringing, her journey into music industry and celebrity she found there, her struggle with addiction, and then her return to Fourth Way work.

Biet also unpacks how we can reframe things in the dating world and reframe our understanding of soulmates, falling in love, and what it means to genuinely invest in relationships.

In this episode, Biet and I dive into:

How death presenting itself in early in life changed Burt’s journey and led her to be the spiritual leader she is today
What the “Fourth Way”is, and how you can use it to bring a spiritual perspective into your daily life
How failure can serve us in achieving our true potential
What's really happening when we fall in love
The surprising way that seeing potential your partner as a child can serve us
How to use the power of sex energy
The keys to nurturing a monogamous, long-term relationship

Visit Biet Simkin’s website for more information on her guided meditations and spiritual direction, check out her book, Don’t Just Sit There!, to learn about the power of meditation and breathwork, and follow her on Instagram to stay up-to-date on her practices and events.

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Finding Support and Boundaries in the chaos of cancer Dec 07, 2022

How do we love our partners through some of the scariest seasons of our lives?

In this Language of Love Session, I chat with a listener juggling a newer relationship with a partner that was recently diagnosed with colon cancer. After watching my loved ones walk through cancer and moving through my own cancer journey, I know the ups and downs of this experience well. In this open-ended season of life, we discuss how this listener and their partner can navigate this illness together, how to build a foundation for their relationship through this diagnosis, and how cancer offers us an invitation to grow spiritually and emotionally.

Today, this Language of Love listener and I unravel:

How cancer forces us to grow through intense stress and fear
Embracing the challenge as a couple rather than forgoing all boundaries
How to encourage healthy regulation in yourself and your partner
Accepting your partner’s flaws and missteps
The importance of defining what you will and will not do
How to find clarity in the chaos

The bottom line? Ask for help, and remember that this is not all on you. Your partner is still your partner even though the dynamic is shifting, and support for a caregiver is just as important as support for the individual battling cancer.

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Your Life is a Result of Energetic Frequency Dec 05, 2022

Welcome back to another Language of Love Bite!

This week I’m taking a few minutes to talk about frequencies, manifestations, and how the two are related. We’re all like human tuning forks, which means that sometimes our moods can be brought up or down just by being near others. This experience is very human, but I want to help you learn how to adjust, maintain a higher frequency, and attract abundance with a few of my tried-and-true tips.

In this episode, I’m sharing:

How your frequency and ability to manifest your desires are related
The different levels of frequency and how they relate to your mood and the moods of others
Why holding your own energetic frequency is necessary to reach your desires and manifestations
Tips to raise and maintain your frequency
How to create room for sadness, loss, anger, frustration, etc. and then move beyond

Try out any of my guided meditations to ground your system and regulate your energy, and then check out my book Quantum Love for a deeper dive into this topic.

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The Power of Our Past Lives with Ainslie MacLeod Nov 30, 2022

Have you ever had that inkling that your past life may be affecting your present moment?

During this week’s Language of Love Session, past life psychic, spiritual teacher, and author Ainslie MacLeod and I are unpacking reincarnation and the basics of past lives. We break down the relationship between the body and soul, how learning about our past lives can set us free, and how our past lives impact our ability to love. Ainslie also reveals his journey to this profession, his recent book, The Old Soul’s Guidebook, how he refined his psychic ability, and how he came to know the spiritual guides that instruct him.

In this conversation, Ainslie Macleod and I discuss:

The Basics: What is a past life? What does it mean?
The healing power and purpose that can come with learning about your unique past life
How Ainslie developed his psychic connection in the early days of his profession
The concept of twin flames and how misconception can fortify toxic relationships
The experience of losing my son and how that devastation helped me foster stricter boundaries
The thread between death, grief, teaching, and healing

Visit Ainslie MacLeod’s website to learn more about his psychic journey, services, and recent book, The Old Soul’s Guidebook: Who You Are, Why You’re Here, and How to Navigate Life on Earth.

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Moving Through Grief Nov 23, 2022

In this language of Love Session, I’m talking with a divorced woman named Liz who lost the son she shares with her ex-husband. We talk about the prolonged grief she is experiencing and how it is impacting her current relationship and causing mixed emotions about her ex. While Liz has unique issues in her relationships, the impact of her grief and feeling torn between two people is very relatable to many of my listeners.

In this Language of Love Session, we unpack several of the common challenges Liz is facing, including:

How to avoid getting stuck in the middle of the grieving process, begin to heal and learn to live your life without guilt
How prolonged grief can can calcify and become part of your fiber if ignored
The type of grief therapist I recommend to help move through your pain in a healthy way
How to manage relationships and mixed emotions that may surface in the face of unexpected loss
How to sort out feelings when you feel torn between two lovers, especially when you’re in the middle of healing from a traumatic loss

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Quantum Sex Nov 21, 2022

The number one question I get from couples is: How do we spice up our sex life? So in this episode of Language of Love Bites I’m diving into the secret to creating the intensity and connection we all crave; Quantum Sex. It’s a system I developed to teach couples how to channel their sexual energy and create an even more exciting, intense sex life than they imagined was possible.

In this episode I explain:

How to use your body's energy, your physical sensations, your atomic energy, and your conscious awareness to enhance arousal
The difference between feminine and masculine sexual energy
How to create a deeper heart centered connection with your partners
How to use visualization to channel your sexual energy to your partner
The power of the “Pink Sparkly Vagina” technique

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Never Argue with a Dead Person with Manhattan Medium, Thomas John Nov 16, 2022

As most of you know, I believe we’re all psychic. But in this episode of the Language of Love, I’m talking to a professional psychic medium who has a lot to teach us all!

Known to his fans and celebrity clients as the, ‘Manhattan Medium’, Thomas John and I talk about his new book, Never Argue with a Dead Person: True and Unbelievable Stories from the Other Side. He shares thoughts on whether he thinks people have trouble crossing over to the spiritual side as well as ways being psychic has shaped his life, including:

How his psychic and medium abilities developed
What it was like growing up psychic in a home filled with skeptics
How to choose a medium that’s right for you
Does he believe there are such things as evil spirits?
What role he thinks Covid has played in our spiritual evolution

Thomas John even did a reading on me! He connected with several of my loved ones on the other side, including my sweet son, Sammy. One relative he contacted, and called out by name, left me speechless.

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Little White Lies Nov 09, 2022

Are little white lies in love ok? If your partner omits details or information, is it a warning sign that you should run for the hills? In this Language of Love Session, I’m talking with a listener who has some concerns about lies in love and how to determine if they are deal breakers for your relationship. I also go into how your past plays into the problems you face in your current relationships and how you may unknowingly be contributing to the issue.

In this Session, we talk about:

How to identify whether past wounds are seeping into your current relationship
The importance of setting the stage, identifying boundaries and getting the changes you want to see in your relationship
Recognizing codependent behavior and how to manage it
Identifying how easy you make it (or not) for someone to be honest with you
A 90-Day exercise to reset and prove that you can both change your habits to create healthier communication and a more trusting bond between the two of you

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Genital Self Image Matters Nov 07, 2022

In this Language of Love Bite, I’m talking about female genital self-image. Just like our bodies, women’s vaginas and vulvas come in all different shapes and sizes. And, we get caught up in how we think our vulvas should look based on images we see portraying them.

Did you know that I have researched genital self-image (and published results in a scientific journal)? How you feel about the shape and appearance of your genitals directly affects how willing you are to be sexual with someone! The truth is, your vulva is PERFECT the way it is. I’m truly concerned with how many women feel self-conscious about how their vaginas look and are going under the knife to change the shape, size, and appearance of their genitals, to make them tighter or more desirable.

I’m not telling women they are wrong for wanting these surgeries, but as a medical professional, I want to make sure women understand the risks and complications that can happen as a result of nipping and tucking down there from a physical as well as emotional standpoint.

In this episode I address:

The WHY behind your need to change the appearance of your genitals. Did someone make a comment about it being “too loose” or not attractive that left you feeling self-conscious?
Physical Changes you don’t expect like sensations during sex that may change
The anatomy of your vagina, your vulva, g-spot and how it all really works … and how your vagina can adapt to different size penises.
I also give you exercises to strengthen your vaginal muscles. Which you need to do whether you have surgery or not.

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Finding Your Cup of Happy With Joss Stone Nov 02, 2022

This episode is so meaningful to me! Today I am interviewing Joss Stone, one of my favorite singers and a truly amazing human being. She is such a soulful, thoughtful, and wise woman, and she has so many powerful tips about how we can stay happy even in this crazy world. Joss is best known for her beautiful music but she is a deeply inspiring person who hosts a podcast called “The Cup of Happy,” which is filled with lovely advice about how you can get the most out of your life and create more peace and joy in your daily life.

Today, Joss and I will talk about:

• Her podcast “The Cup of Happy:” What she has learned from leading researchers and philosophers about how to create more peace and happiness in your daily life

• The difference between having fun and being happy

• How she dealt with the loss of her baby and the pain of the miscarriage

• Welcoming her rainbow baby

• How she balances her career goals and creative urges with the day-to-day life of motherhood

• Making decisions that feel right for you while still keeping in mind the needs of other people in your family and on your team

• Creating peace for yourself and leaning into your ‘full body yes’

Give it a listen and let me know what you think! I know you will fall in love with Joss the same way I have.

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How to Save Your Marriage When You Have Outgrown Your Partner Oct 26, 2022

Today on “The Language of Love,” I am sitting down for a ‘Sessions’ episode. This is where I get to sit down and do a real-time session with a caller just like you!

Today I am speaking with a caller who says that she has found that she is growing away from her husband. Although she deeply loves her husband, she is finding that they just aren’t connecting the way they used to. She feels herself being called to a more soulful, meaningful existence, and she is being pulled out of her comfort zone into a place of magical transformation and self-growth. But while this can be a beautiful space of healing and wisdom, it can also be frightening and uncomfortable, especially if your partner isn’t on that same wavelength with you.

My caller says that her husband very much wants things to stay at the ‘status quo.’ He doesn’t want to see their relationship change or his wife grow into new directions. So what do you do when this happens? Can one partner ‘ascend’ to a higher state of consciousness and healing while the other partner stays in their comfort zone and clings to their old ways? How do you keep your marriage tight and intimate when you feel like you and your partner are vibrating at completely wavelengths?

This is a very important episode because this is an issue that is coming up more and more lately among my clients. As I discuss in my new e-book about Ascension, many people are undergoing massive spiritual transformations right now. As a result, their relationships are changing and they are moving away from people and situations that no longer serve them. But if you deeply love your partner and don’t want to lose that relationship, how can you safeguard that bond when you are no longer on the same energetic frequency? Tune in right now to hear my advice!

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You Aren't Crazy You're Just Ascending! Oct 24, 2022

Have you been experiencing mysterious and unexplained physical, mental, and emotional symptoms over the past few years? Have you gone to doctors and specialists who, perhaps along with family and friends, are telling you it’s all in your head? Have you heard of Ascension Syndrome? In this Language of Love Bite, I’m giving you some answers that will help it all make sense. Ascension Syndrome is impacting all of us.

I am so fascinated by Ascension Syndrome and want to help as many people as possible understand what’s happening in the world right now. So, In this Love Bite, I share what I learned through my research for my new eBook, You're Not Crazy, You’re Just Ascending, a guidebook where I share advice from renowned experts, guided meditations, and other tools to help you stay centered in this mass awakening.

In this episode you’ll learn:

-what ascension is, how it’s impacting you and why this is actually a magical time

-why spending time in nature is so beneficial and helps keep your mood and body healthy

- simple ways you can keep your own energetic frequency at a higher level to create more ease in the chaos. .

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Dr. Drew Calls In! Oct 19, 2022

I am so excited about today’s episode of “The Language of Love”! I am sitting down with the one and only Dr. Drew! I have known Dr. Drew for 25 years, and I remember sitting in his audience in “Loveline” way back in the 90’s and just being amazed at how deeply intuitive and wise he was (and still is).

Dr. Drew and I are talking about one of the topics that make me geek out the most: Intuition! Our brains are only able to process a tiny percentage of the information that we are being exposed to at any given moment. Our brains have evolved this way to help ensure our survival: To give us the most pertinent information and filter out everything else. But, here’s the thing: If you are an intuitive person, you likely may sense or feel these ‘hidden’ messages all the time.

It wasn’t until very late in my career that I realized I had these intuitive powers I could use to help really elevate my clients’ healing. I began tapping into all the signals the universe had been sending me my whole life, signals I have learned to ignore or dismiss because they weren’t easily explainable or ‘rational.’ But in learning more about quantum physics, I found that these experiences actually are deeply rooted in science and what we know to be true about the universe. Einstein himself said “The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant.”

On this episode you will learn:

• How to engage in ‘whole-body listening’ and really cue in what is happening around you, even beyond the words you are hearing

• How to start paying attention to your ‘inner perceivers’ and start picking up on more of the information around you

• Ways to use your intuition to improve your love and sex life

Listen to this very special episode and let me know what you think!

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Is Your Partner a Narcissist? Here's What You Need to Do Oct 12, 2022

Today on “The Language of Love,” I am sitting down to talk to a woman who says she is struggling in her long-term marriage. As the mother of 3 young kids, my caller says that she is beginning to examine her past and her current relationship and now realizes that she is co-dependent. As a child, her father was emotionally available and displayed narcissistic behaviour, and her mother always had to keep him happy and calm in order for the house to run smoothly. As a result, my caller also learned to fill this role of being a people-pleaser, always seeking to keep the peace and hide her own needs.

Now, in her marriage, my caller says that she is tired of having her boundaries ignored and her emotional needs go unmet. Although she loves her husband dearly, she feels like she has minimized her own needs and go along with whatever he wants, even if it makes her unhappy. She is stuck in a pattern of placating him and always putting him first when she doesn’t feel that same support from him.

These emotions have come to a head lately as she recently lost her mother and is not feeling supported by her husband in her grief. So what should she do? Is her husband a narcissist and is such a diagnosis even useful?

On this episode I teach listeners:

• How our early family systems shape the roles we take on in life (like being a people-pleaser or hiding our own needs to make other people happy)

• How the universe offers us soul-mates that will encourage us to face these unhealthy patterns

• What to do when you and your partner are stuck in a negative loop of fighting, silent treatments, and unspoken resentments

• Why I think we are all a little narcissistic deep down…and why that is okay

Check out this episode and let me know your thoughts!

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This is the Biggest Lie We All Believe about Men and Sex Oct 10, 2022

I come across a lot of misconceptions about sex and sexual desire in my work as a sex therapist. But perhaps one of the most harmful of them all is about men and sexual desire. Most people believe that men should always be in the mood. We expect men to have much higher desires than women, and that they are always ready and up for sex. This is such a harmful misconception.

It is actually incredibly common for men to struggle with low desire, for many of the same reasons that women struggle with low desire sometimes. Medications can impact desire (like anti-depressants) as can hormones (such as low testosterone). Illness, stress, fatherhood, relationship issues, and financial issues can also wreak havoc on a man’s libido.

Unfortunately, treating male sexual desire can be very complicated. Many men don’t seek help until low desire has been going on for months or even years. They are ashamed to talk to their doctor because we often associate sexual desire with virility and ‘manliness.’ Hence men often feel emasculated if they aren’t in the mood for sex.

In this episode of “The Language of Love,” you will learn:

• The common causes for male sexual desire and why low desire in men may be on the rise in our current economic climate

• What people can do to support their male partner when low desire becomes an issue

• How to talk about male sexual desire in a way that is more compassionate

• Tips and tools for increasing desire that you can start implementing in your bedroom tonight

• How to safeguard your bond when sexual connection is off the table

Listen to the episode and let me know your thoughts! If you are a man struggling with low desire, I am here to say: This is normal and not shameful. You are still a man even if you don’t feel in the mood for sex all the time or if you are currently experiencing low to no desire. But, there are many things you can do to start building up your desire again, and I am here to help!

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Don't Text Your Ex with Nick Viall Oct 05, 2022

Is The Bachelor’s Nick Viall ready to pop the question to his girlfriend of two years, Natalie Joy? Why does he think he was so unlucky in love TWICE on The Bachelorette? And what is his hopeful versus grateful list? I’m covering all of that and more in my heartwarming, inspiring, and really honest Language of Love Conversation with former reality star, Nick Viall.

He is dishing about it all from looking for love in front of the camera – to healing from being cheated on by his ex-fiance. We talk about how, for many years, Nick’s ego and insecurities led to the decisions he made in his relationships and how he learned to recognize when he was fighting for love versus fighting to continue to be in a toxic relationship. We discuss how he learned to put his own ego in check when it comes to dating.

We also talk about Nick’s new book “Don’t Text Your Ex Happy Birthday,” where he shares the best advice he’s picked up in his dating life through the years. And Nick answers whether he thinks you can really be friends with your exes.

In this conversation, we talk a lot about Nick’s new love, what he's learned through that relationship, how it's different from his past relationships, and what the future might hold. He shares how keeping a hopeful vs. grateful list helps remind him of all the wonderful things about his relationship. We also get the skinny on the Bachelor Nation and whether or not it’s realistic to expect an engagement on the show.

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Seeing Beyond 3-D with Lee Harris Sep 28, 2022

I am so excited about this episode of “The Language of Love”! Today I am honored to sit down for an intimate and meaningful chat with Lee Harris. Lee Harris is a transformation teacher and energy intuitive who is known around the globe for his inspirational wisdom. Every time I get the chance to talk with Lee, I walk away with some profound bit of knowledge or awareness that I didn’t even realizing I was looking for.

Today, Lee and I are talking about how we can travel past viewing the world in ‘3D density,’ which might sound like a complicated term, but it simply means that when we are locked into viewing the world in 3D (rather than 4D or 5D), we lose our ability to see beyond our perspective. The world feels tight and constricted. We are operating out of a sense of ego, out of a need to control the decisions and thoughts of other people in order to make ourselves feel safer.

This episode will teach you:

• How to have harmonious and even productive conversations with people who have completely different viewpoints than you

• How to shift out of 3D glasses and to begin viewing the world in a multi-layered, multidimensional way

Harris and I also speak about how grief and trauma can deeply shape us, and how everyone around us has a unique story of loss and pain. Learning about people’s past can be crucial in understanding their core story and how inspirational the lives of ‘ordinary people’ can be.

But it is only by stepping out of our 3D worldview that we can begin to see beyond the superficial and begin to understand the beautiful truths of the universe. Are you ready to get started?

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Tune in and let me know what you think!

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How to Hold Your Own Energy: A Recovering People-Pleaser Calls In Sep 21, 2022

Today on “The Language of Love,” I am doing a ‘Sessions’ episode! This is when I get to sit down with a caller just like you and do an in-depth session with them about anything and everything related to sex, love, soul, and more.

This week, I am talking to Carmen. Carmen is struggling to recover from a lifelong problem with people-pleasing. Carmen has set the intention to live her life differently and stop putting herself on the bottom of her to-do list. The problem now is that when she is with her family, her friends, or her romantic partners, she can slip into her old people-pleasing behavior or worry that she is harming her loved ones by not catering to them enough.

I talk to Carmen about how people-pleasing can lead us to ‘accommodate’ other people’s energies. We instantly switch to their energy frequency because we want to be on the same page as them and because people-pleasers have the instinctive, ingrained need to put their own needs and energies underneath that of everyone else around them. As a recovering people pleaser, she is learning how to ‘hold’ her own energy, which can be a difficult skill to master at first, especially if you have spent your whole life switching to other people’s energy.

So how can you learn to hold your own energy rather than accommodating everyone else’s energy? And what happens when your personal changes lead your loved ones to resist or push back against your transformation? Listen to this episode to hear my advice for Carmen, and for you!

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The Surprising Reason You Can't Let Go Of Your Past Sep 19, 2022

Do you ever feel like you are being haunted by your past? If so, you need to tune into “The Language of Love” to hear how you can heal your wounds so that you can finally let the past go.

We all experienced trauma as children, even if you fortunately didn’t have hugely disturbing experiences like sexual assault, physical abuse, or extreme poverty in your childhood. I call these kind of traumas “Big T” traumas, because they’re easily identifiable to all of us as areas of pain and terror.

However, there are also “little t” traumas, traumas that aren’t as easily identified as wounds. These events might include an overly critical parent, religious fear-mongering, bullying at school, weight struggles, learning difficulties, and sibling rivalry, just to name a few.

All of these experiences impact our self-worth, our beliefs about ourselves, our beliefs about how we should be treated, and about how the world works. They may not feel as worthy of healing and attention as other major wounds like abuse, but this kind of thinking only allows your ‘little t’ traumas to bury deeper into your psyche and bleed into all areas of your life.

That shame and embarrassment you feel about being gentle with your past wounds is in fact PART of your wound talking: If you feel like your pain isn’t serious enough or that you’re being too sensitive or that you don’t have the ‘right’ to feel upset about something that happened 20 years ago, guess what? That’s your core wound talking. Your core wound that tells you that you aren’t strong enough or that your pain isn’t worthy of tenderness or that other people have it worse than you, so you should just ‘get over it’….these are all messages we got from our family systems when our pain triggered them. They weren’t able to address our needs so they shamed us for having them: Now we as adults do the same thing. But we can change the pattern. This isn’t about wallowing in the past, it’s about healing it so we can finally move on.

If you can’t bring attention and tenderness to these parts of you that need healing, you will forever be dominated and controlled by your past. You won’t be able to expertly manifest your dreams and work towards your goals, because your energy is being sapped by these invisible wounds that just won’t heal. Listen to this episode to find out how you can begin to let go of the past right now.

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Embracing the Erotic Creature in You with Sheila Kelley Sep 14, 2022

What does it mean to embrace yourself as an erotic creature? Why is sexual empowerment still such a taboo for so many women? How can you awaken your sensuality, eroticism, and emotions in order to discover who you are and how you approach love – and life?

On this episode of “Language of Love,” I’m joined by body whisperer, speaker, and actress Sheila Kelley, who’s helping women reconnect to their vitality, sensuality, and true selves through an embodiment and movement practice called S Factor.

Started when Sheila realized as a young woman that she had “no idea who she was as a sexually empowered woman,” S Factor helps women heal their body’s relationship with society and celebrates the feminine essence within all of us.

In this episode, you’ll learn about:

The five different feminine powers we all possess
How to discover your unique type
The power of getting out of your head and into your body’s full erotic expression

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Healing Your Deepest Wounds: Why You Can't Let Yourself Be Loved Sep 07, 2022

When we talk about abusive relationships, we tend to focus on physical abuse. That is why leaving a purely emotionally abusive relationship that doesn’t have any physical abuse can be very confusing. If you don’t have a black eye, is it abuse? If he doesn’t push you down or slap you, is it abuse? If she doesn’t throw things at you or put her hands around your throat, is it abuse?

YES. Even if your partner never lays their hands on you, emotional abuse is STILL abuse. Emotional abuse is incredibly damaging and traumatic. Even after you leave the relationship, emotional abuse leaves its mark. It shakes your view of yourself and it threatens your ability to visualize a better future for yourself. It keeps you stuck in a pattern of being wounded and unable to move forward to healing.

Today on “The Language of Love,” I am talking with a woman who bravely left an emotionally abusive relationship. Now, she is looking for ways to heal, but also for ways to co-parent with her ex.

During our discussion, we uncover that my caller routinely finds herself in relationships in which the other partner is the one holding all the cards. She always feels more invested in relationship or as though she is an embarrassment to her partners. She was made to feel demanding or nagging, and as though she has unforgivable flaws that she has to hide or modify if she wants her partner to tolerate her.

I can tell that this is a core wound that is stemming from her childhood, and we peel back the layers of her relationships to find out when these patterns first began in her life. Throughout our discussion, we also talk about how she can heal from her abusive past and effectively co-parent with the ex who tried to destroy her self-worth.

Be sure to tune in to hear my advice, and then share your thoughts with me on social media.

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Are You Settling Instead of Searching for Your Soulmate? Sep 05, 2022

This week on “The Language of Love,” I am doing a “Bite” episode. These are my short and sweet episodes in which I distill my best sex, love, and relationships advice into concise, actionable steps. These episodes are less than 10 minutes long so they are perfect for those times when you are running short on time but still want a boost for your mind, body, and soul.

For today’s “Bite” episode, I am addressing one of the most common questions I get asked as a relationship therapist: How do I know if my partner is ‘the one’?

Many times, people stay with partners that don’t necessarily tick all of their boxes, but being with someone is better than being alone. Does this sound familiar? If you have every stayed in a relationship that is far from ideal just because you would rather be with someone than be alone, then you need to listen to this “Bite.”

On this episode, you will learn how to:

• Find out if your romantic choices are being driven by fear or by a need to find someone to ‘complete’ you

• How to lean into your intuition to see if you are really in love or if you just don’t want to be alone

• Discover your key childhood wounds that might be playing a role in your fear of being alone or not having a partner

• Stand in your own power and feel complete on your own, whether you are with a partner or you are single

Give this “Bite” episode of “The Language of Love” a listen and then reach out to me on social media to let me know your thoughts! Have you ever stayed in an unhappy relationship just because you are afraid of being alone? Do you ever fear that you are settling just so you don’t have to be single? Reach out to me and let me know your thoughts!

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Talking to the Dead wtih Rebecca Rosen Aug 31, 2022

Today, on “The Language of Love,” it’s me and Rebecca Rosen teaming up to talk about people who have passed on…and how we can continue to connect with our loved ones even after they have transitioned out of this realm. Rebecca is an internationally acclaimed medium who has helped countless people communicate with the spirit world and exchange messages with people who are no longer here in physical form.

As soon as one of my friends told me about Rebecca, I instantly knew I needed to connect with her right away. It was as if something just called me to reached out to her right away, and Rebecca had the same experience with me. After seeing me on television one day, she told her husband that she knew I would reach out to her one day…and she was right, I did!

Since we connected, Rebecca has been receiving messages from my son Sammy. Sammy died a little over a year ago, and throughout my grief process, I haven’t been fully ready to connect with him in spiritual form. My pain was so raw and overwhelming, that I wasn’t able to be in a space where I could receive messages from him. But now, I am in a space where I can enter a spiritual relationship with him.

As a medium, Rebecca serves as a neutral conduit that can help people connect to their loved ones who have passed on, and ever since I opened myself up to the possibility of receiving these messages, Rebecca says that Sammy has been a very persistent communicator with her.

On this episode, you will learn how you can open yourself up to these messages from the spiritual realm and why Rebecca says we ALL have the ability to be a medium. So how can you start getting messages from your loved ones who have moved on? And how can we become ‘soul-partners’ with those people we have so deeply loved and tragically lost in this lifetime? Listen to find out…and to hear what Rebecca says that Sammy has been saying to her for the last several weeks.

You can find Rebecca Rosen’s beautiful books such as “What the Dead Have Taught Me About Living Well” and “Awaken the Spirit Within: 10 Steps to Ignite Your Life and Fulfill Your Divine Purpose” on Amazon here.

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Married to a Narcissist: Can You Save a Marriage on the Brink? Aug 24, 2022

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” I am talking with a caller about her struggles with low libido throughout her life. As we discuss her low desire, I uncover what I find to be troubling abuse in her current marriage.

For reasons she didn’t quite understand, my caller never felt deep desire for her husband, even before they got married. She always assumed she just had low desire, or that she might have trouble feeling passion because of the negative messaging she received about sex as a child.

But, over time, she realized it was simply that she didn’t feel desire for her husband in that way. Finally, they made the decision to divorce, and she moved on to a new marriage…this time with her ‘soulmate’ who was her old high school sweetheart.

Although the intimacy and desire are there with her old flame/current husband, the trouble is that her husband becomes quite volatile during arguments. From yelling to name-calling to physical altercations, he is very defensive and easily angered. He lashes out, sometimes pushing her or covering her hand with his mouth. Is this abuse? And what should my caller do to protect herself and save her marriage? And should she try to save her marriage when things are so destructive between them? Listen to this episode to find out and hear my advice.

During these “Sessions” episode of “The Language of Love,” I am able to talk callers just like you about their sex, love, and relationship issues. If you want a chance to talk to me live on-air about your issues, reach out to me on my social media accounts or email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com

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Why You Need to Befriend Your Shadow Side Aug 22, 2022

Today on “The Language of Love,” I am doing a “Bites” episode! These are my quick, informative little episodes that I created for those times when you don’t have time to listen to a whole podcast but you need a little boost and inspiration during your day.

For this “Bite,” I am talking about something that I think is so, so important: Befriending your own shadow. All of us have a shadow. And this shadow doesn’t have to be a negative thing. Our darkness is what can help us to reveal our light. Our wounds can be our way of healing the world.

But if we aren’t aware of our shadows, if we don’t embrace and befriend our shadow sides, guess what happens? That shadow side is what drives the bus. As they say in recovery, ‘our secrets keep us sick,’ but I would take that one step further and say it’s the secrets we keep from ourselves that keep us sick. If there are parts of you that you find shameful or unlovable, and you try to hide them away and ignore them, that only gives them more power. That gives your shadow side an insidious environment of shame and fear in which to grow.

When we befriend our shadow side, we take back some of its power. We put our whole selves back in the driver’s seat, instead of letting fear and shame drive the bus. But, that being said, befriending your shadow side is not just about taking back control. I truly believe our shadows are here to serve us. I know this might be difficult to accept or even consider, but if you look deeply within and ask yourself how that shadow side has served you in your life, you might be shocked to see that there was a true purpose and even a protective energy in this shadow side.

Listen to this “Bite” to get my take on how we can begin to befriend our shadow and why it is so important to do so!

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Human Design with Erin Claire Aug 17, 2022

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” I am joined by Erin Claire. Erin is a human design expert. Human design is based on your time, date, and place of birth, and it offers you a roadmap and operating model that can help you learn more about yourself and how you can be most effective in love and life.

Unlike astrology, which is predictive, human design isn’t meant to tell you your future. And human design doesn’t just rely on your natal chart. It combines things like your chakras, your energy, and other philosophical and spiritual systems. It’s a very in-depth system and a tool that you can use to help amplify your life.

Using a powerful algorithm, the concept of human design is an incredibly interesting way to get to your where you came from, who you are, and where you are being pulled to. On this episode you will learn:

• What human design is and how it can be relevant or useful to you

• What are the 5 main human design types

• How you can get your own human design reading

• Understanding the meaning of your human design result

• How your human design result will attract certain people into your field

• Discovering your ‘full body yes’ and using your body’s intuition to learn how to prioritize yourself

• Why holding your own boundaries is not just good for you, but good for everyone around you

As you listen to this episode and learn more about the human design types, you are probably going to find out your result right away. Get your free report on the human design website here.

If you have ever wondered about what makes you tick or how your unique energy system can impact your life, this is a must-listen episode.

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How to Heal Your Inner Wounded Child Aug 10, 2022

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” I am sitting down for a very special Sessions conversation. During Sessions, I get to talk to real listeners just like you and give them personalized, real-time advice to help address all of their questions about sex, love, and relationships.

Today I am speaking with Mary. Mary reached out to me after seeing a post I made on social media about the wounded child that can often lives within many of us. If you have trauma in your past (who doesn’t?) and you haven’t fully addressed and processed that trauma, you might too have an inner wounded child who is crying out for attention and healing.

Mary shares with me some of the things that deeply traumatized her as a child, including how her mother would prioritize men over raising her children. Mary still carries that trauma with her into her own romantic life and beyond. I help her to understand how she can meet her inner wounded child and help that child heal.

If the concept of an inner wounded child sounds familiar, here are some signs that you might have an inner wounded child:

⧿ Fear of abandonment and/or the belief that no one will ever stay with you if they see the ‘real’ you

⧿ Problematic boundaries: You let people walk all over you and reveal all your deepest secrets and vulnerabilities right away…or the flip side, you never truly let people in, even those who have known you for years

⧿ You are ashamed of expressing your own emotions: People with a traumatic or troubled childhood may have learned that it was important to hide their fear or sadness or anger from the adults in their lives, and this behavior can carry on into your own adulthood

⧿ You never trust anyone. You have a subconscious (or conscious) suspicion of everyone, even you: You struggle to trust your own judgement or believe your own recollections of events.

⧿ Conflict avoidant: You run from conflict and bury your head in the sand when people mistreat you or those you love. You want to stand up for yourself but you don’t have the tools or resources to do so.

Listen to this episode and let me know your thoughts!

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How to stop being a 'people pleaser' in the bedroom Aug 08, 2022

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” I am doing a “Bites” episode! These are my short-and-sweet episodes in which I answer listeners’ most pressing questions.

For this “Bite,” I tackle a question from a viewer who wants to know how to deal with people-pleasing in the bedroom. Being a people-pleaser might sound like a good thing, but it is often very self-destructive for the person who is being the pleaser. They often give up their boundaries and their truth in order to satisfy the needs of everyone around them, and as my caller points out, this can even occur inside the bedroom too.

So what happens if you are stuck in people-pleaser mode in the bedroom, or if your partner displays this behavior during intimacy? How can you ensure that BOTH of you are feeling valued and respected, and that each of you are truly enjoying sexual pleasure instead of just going through the motions or faking orgasms?

In my own experience as a sex therapist, I have found that people who struggle with people-pleasing behaviors and codependent behaviors often have a very hard time being honest about how they really feel and what they really want. They are so used to saying “It’s okay” or “I’m fine” that they end up becoming truly isolated from what is happening inside of them. It’s easy to see how truly problematic this can be for sexual pleasure! If you are not comfortable asking for what you want, or if you don’t even know how to tune into your own body and pay attention to what is happening for you (instead of trying to feel how your partner might be feeling or wondering what they might be thinking or needing from you), it’s going to be super hard for you to get to a place where you can have fulfilling, passionate sex.

So what can you do? How can you move on from people-pleasing behavior and become more vulnerable and connected in the bedroom? Tune in right now to listen to my advice for this caller.

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How to Lean Into Your Intuitive Intelligence with Sonia Choquette, and Sonia and Sabrina Tully Aug 03, 2022

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” I am sitting down with Sonia Choquette. Sonia is a spiritual teacher and visionary guide, as well as the author of multiple New York Times bestsellers. Her latest book “Trust Your Vibes (Revised Edition): Live an Extraordinary Life by Using Your Intuitive Intelligence” is a crash course for anyone who wants to tap into their inner wisdom and call in their higher guides.

Also joining us are Sonia’s two daughters. Like their mother, these women are also highly gifted and talented, and they have also recently written a book together. Called “You Are Amazing,” this self-help book is meant to help readers trust their inner magic and discover their true power.

In this episode, you will learn:

• What is the ‘sixth’ sense and how can we allow ourselves to be spiritually informed, even if we don’t fully trust the whole process

• Understanding ‘intuitive intelligence’ and realizing that the purpose of this intelligence is to help us move forward and advance our gifts

• The different ways we experience intuition and how this can be unique to each person

• Learning to hear and trust your angels and spiritual guides

• How to act on your intuitive guidance in a way that will build confidence and self-worth

If you have ever struggled to trust your own mind or believe in your own truth, this is a very powerful episode that can help you to realize how much intelligence your spirit really has. You have an internal guide inside of you that wants to help you achieve your soul-work, and you have angels and spirits around you that want to connect with you and help you to fulfill your mission here. We just have to get out of our own way and learn how to connect with this intuitive intelligence.

Take a listen and let me know your thoughts!

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Codependency and Narcissism: Breaking the Cycle Jul 27, 2022

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” I am doing a “Sessions” episode! These are some of my absolutely favorite episodes because I get to sit down with listeners like you and offer my real-time advice on your love, sex, and relationship questions.

For today’s session, I am talking to a caller named Lisa. Lisa is struggling with issues with her partner, who she believes could be a narcissist. Lisa’s partner has kept her trapped in a toxic marriage (over 18 years) in which he has threatened her with financial consequences or alienating their kids if she leaves him. Although Lisa is desperate to leave, she is frightened to exit the relationship.

Lisa is a self-described codependent who has always struggled with expressing her needs and standing up for herself. Although she reports that her childhood was relatively happy, as I explain to her, codependency is not a trait we develop in adulthood. It’s a trait we establish in childhood as a way to survive and cope in our family systems. In discussing her childhood with Lisa, we discover that her mother and father had a similar marriage to the one Lisa now finds herself in. Her mother spent her life serving her father and ensuring that his every need was met, and now Lisa finds herself in a similar situation.

On this “Sessions” episode, I delve into codependency and the fundamental wound which can lead to codependency. I also reveal how codependency and narcissism can be two sides of the same coin. Although this might sound shocking, people who struggle with codependency can often have shades of narcissism, just as people who struggle with narcissism can also have shades of codependency.

Tune into this episode of “The Language of Love” to learn more about what causes codependency and why I feel it is related to narcissism. Check out the advice I have for Lisa about leaving her marriage and healing her fundamental wounds, then shoot me your opinions on social media! I love to hear from you: And, remember, you too can do a “Sessions” episode with me if you email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com or private message me on Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram.

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Dating after Divorce: When Should Your New Partner Meet Your Kids? Jul 25, 2022

On today’s “The Language of Love,” we are doing a “Bites” episode! These “Bites” are short, pithy, bite-sized takes that are based on questions listeners like you send into me.

For this episode, I am talking about love after divorce. Dating after divorce can be really tricky, not only because you and your ex might still be raw and dealing with your own complicated feelings, but also because we know that our kids are watching us and being impacted by every decision we make. As parents, our love lives don’t occur in a vacuum. Our kids are being influenced by our romantic choices, and they will use our relationships as a model for their own romantic relationships when they become adults. So, it’s no wonder that so many parents get really stressed about dating after divorce or dating as a single parent in general.

No wonder concerns about dating after divorce are some of the most common questions I get from clients, friends, acquaintances, and more. We all want the best for our children, especially when we are going through something traumatic like divorce. On this episode of “Bites,” you will learn:

• When is the right time to start dating after divorce

• How should you introduce your kids to a new partner

• How can you deal with feelings of jealousy or insecurity when your ex starts dating someone new and bringing them around your kids

• How to co-parent in a conscious, informed way even when going through something as difficult as divorce and shared custody

• Making sure that your new partner is the right fit for your family and a safe person to bring into your family home

The good news is that it is truly possible for you to find love again after divorce, and for your kids’ lives to be positively impacted by you bringing a new partner into your life who is a wonderful role model. Divorce is far from the end of your love life, even if you are a parent. Listen to this “Bites” episode to get all my best advice for dating after divorce!

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Radical Confidence with Lisa Bilyeu Jul 20, 2022

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” I am joined by Lisa Bilyeu. Lisa is the cofounder of Quest Nutrition, a billion-dollar corporation which produces health-conscious meals and snacks. She is also the President of “Impact Theory” and the host of “Women of Impact,” a web series you can find on YouTube or listen to online. On her show, Lisa interviews women who have overcome massive difficulties and tragedies in order to make their dreams come true.

I adore Lisa’s new book “Radical Confidence,” and I have recommended it to so many of my girlfriends. If you haven’t read it yet, be sure and grab a copy, because it is truly transformative and inspirational. Whether you are struggling to feel confident in your career, in your romantic life, or just in general, her book will inspire you to live authentically and chase after your wildest dreams.

On this episode, I talk with Lisa about what inspired her to write this book and what she wants readers to take from it. You will learn:

• How to overcome disappointment and keep showing up, even when you aren’t seeing the results you desire

• How to stop ‘acting from your trigger’ and instead lead your emotions, rather than being led by them

• How to create a game plan that is practical and solution-based, so that you don’t get stuck in a cloud of anger or bitterness

I found this episode so inspiring and full of really actionable advice that you can begin applying to your life right now. If you’re in the need of a boost of motivation, this episode is for you!

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When You Fear Success: Getting Out Of Your Own Way Jul 13, 2022

It’s time for another one of our ‘sessions’ on “The Language of Love”! On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” I am doing a session with a caller named Martha. Martha shares with me a story that I think will sound very familiar to many of you: Whenever she sets a goal, she has lots of energy and motivation at first, but then she quickly finds herself getting ‘stuck’ and not having anymore forward momentum.

I talk to Martha about how she can un-stuck and achieve her goals, particularly from an energetic standpoint. How can you align your energy so that you are attracting the success and abundance you desire? And why is it that we find ourselves winding up in dead-end situations where we can’t accomplish our dreams no matter how much we try?

In speaking with Martha, I also find that she tends to choose men who don’t support her dreams and actively desire her success. I believe this is one of her primary wounds: Not that she has a fear of failure, but a fear of success!

Does this sound familiar? Tune in and listen to my advice for Martha and join us as I do a grounding exercise that helps her to unlock the secret pain that is keeping her stuck in these dead-end relationships and unable to get her business up and flourishing.

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Sex after Baby: How to Find Your Sexual Pleausre Again After Giving Birth Jul 11, 2022

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” I am doing another “Language of Love Bite.” That means I answer your questions and tackle the most common issues I hear during my work as a sex, love, and relationship expert.

So what’s today’s Language of Love Bite all about? Sex after baby! How can you reclaim your sexual pleasure after you give birth? There are many issues which can arise after giving birth, even if you have a normal and healthy pregnancy and birth. Creating life takes a massive toll on a woman’s body, from her hormones to her sleep to her stress levels. So it is no wonder that many people struggle to find their pleasure again in the bedroom if they have a newborn at home.

This is especially true if you are breastfeeding. While breastfeeding is natural and wonderful, it also can do a number on a woman’s hormones: In order to make breastmilk, women’s bodies essentially have to shut off their estrogen, which can mimic what happens to the female body during menopause. Even if you don’t breastfeed, it can still take a few months for your hormones to return to normal after you welcome a new baby into the world, as new moms have much lower estrogen in the following months after giving birth.

Here is the good news: There are many things you can do to safeguard your sexual pleasure and enhance your intimacy, even if you have a little one at home and even if you’re still breastfeeding. Listen to this Language of Love Bite to get all of my best advice for how new moms and dads can reclaim their sexual pleasure and learn how to enjoy sex again, even when they have a newborn and limited time and energy. Give this episode a listen and then let me know your thoughts!

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Writing Love Letters to the Universe With Sarah D Little Jul 06, 2022

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” I sit down with Sarah D. Little. Sarah is a dear friend of mine. She is a beautiful, passionate writer who knows firsthand how painful trauma and loss can be. Sarah has an amazing story that I know will inspire and empower all of you.

Sarah has dealt with everything from heartbreak to depression to financial loss to suicide attempts. Sarah shares with me how her love for literature, writing, and the work of authors like Cormac McCarthy helped her to endure even as her life seemingly unraveled. You can watch Sarah’s YouTube channel called Love Letters from Sarah to learn more about her origin story.

Her history is painful, but relatable. From being cheated on by her partner to losing her beautiful home and garden, Sarah has endured so much turmoil and heartbreak, but has come through with her soul and her purpose intact. After losing her relationship and all of those external things which made her feel strong and protected, Sarah had to turn within and find her own power and talent in order to survive.

Sarah is living proof that there is nothing that we cannot live through, nothing that we are not strong enough to endure. And, most importantly, that our pain can often deepen our creative expression and our purpose here. Her story is truly poetically beautiful and inspiring, and I am so honored to have such a strong and powerful friend. She has taught me so much about how to live with appreciation and strength, even when it seems like everything has been taken away from you.

If you have ever struggled with depression, loss, or thoughts of suicide, I urge you to listen to this episode and listen to how Sarah dealt with her pain and not only survived, but thrived.

You can find Sarah's Youtube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC2xtHp-0DTZ2fGFPLa4PswA

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Overgiving and Control Issues: Why People-Pleasing Can Often Stem from A Desire to Hide Ourselves and Fix Other People Jun 29, 2022

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” I am doing a session with a caller who says she’s afraid of abandonment and builds walls to protect herself. In her friendships and romantic relationships, she has trouble letting people in, and she believes this fear stems from past trauma. However, she is ready for a change: As a lifelong people pleaser who tends to overextend herself, my caller says that she often gives, and gives, and gives, until she gets emotionally exhausted and resentful and chooses to end the relationship.

Does this sound familiar to you? It certainly does to me. As a recovering people pleaser, what I have come to realize is that sometimes we actually are givers because it’s a way for us to maintain control over the relationship. It makes us feel like we have agency and we can protect ourselves, because we think we are choosing to be the bigger person and sacrifice the most in the relationship. But in the end, all our needs go un-met, because we have chosen to never express them.

By not admitting our needs or asking for love, we are protecting ourselves in a little bubble of isolation. We make a conscious choice to be a giver, but in such a way that it also prevents us from being a receiver. Love is supposed to be a two-way street, whether we are talking about platonic or romantic love. When we choose instead to make it a one-way street and not allow ourselves to make space for people to give to us in return, it is often a symptom of past trauma or energetic blockage.

So how can my caller learn to bring down her walls and start allowing herself to receive as much love as she gives? Listen to this episode for my advice to her and then share your thoughts with me on social media!

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How to Get Your Partner to Show Up for You in the Way You Most Desire Jun 27, 2022

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” we are doing another episode of “Language of Love Bites.” These extra-special short episodes are meant to be direct, simple, and to the point, so you can easily apply my advice to your love life and start seeing results right away.

For this installment of my “Language of Love Bites,” I am talking about how you can get your partner to show up for you in the way you desire. I often get questions with these theme for my callers and clients, and even strangers on the street. They want to know how they can get their partner to behave differently or show up for them differently than they currently are—maybe they want their partner to be more romantic, to be more passionate, to be more helpful around the house, or to be more patient and joyful.

On this “Bite,” I reveal how you can start to see this shift, not by changing your partner, but by changing yourself. The secret to getting more of what we want from our partner is to bring more of that energy into the relationship ourselves. This might sound complicated or as though I am asking you to do all the work, but I am not: In fact, I am asking you to do LESS work. Because instead of trying to fix, manage, or control your partner’s energy or state of mind, you fully step into your power and instead just focus on your own energy.

Let me explain how to go about this so you can start enjoying this meaningful shift in your relationship right away. Listen to this episode to understand what I mean and how you can master the art of creating the energy you want in your relationship.

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Calling in the One with Katherine Woodward Thomas Jun 22, 2022

I am so honored on this episode of “The Language of Love” that I get to sit down with Katherine Woodward Thomas. Katherine is not just a New York Times bestselling author, master teacher, and a marriage and family therapist: She is also a dear, dear friend and someone I often turn to for advice and support.

If you have ever heard the term ‘conscious uncoupling’ (made popular a few years ago when Gwyneth Paltrow when she divorced her partner Chris Martin), you know Katherine. “Conscious Uncoupling” is one of her most beloved books and truly a game-changer when it comes to how to approach breakups and divorce.

Her latest book “Calling In the One” is a must-read for anyone who is looking for love, or anyone feeling as though they don’t have the passion and romance in their life that they so deeply desire.

On this episode, Katherine and I get a chance to talk about some of my favorite things. Here are some crucial life lessons you will learn in this episode:

• Resigned to Loneliness: Learning how to hold the possibility for love even when you are dating in what feels like a ‘meat market’ and are feeling bitter and hopeless after fruitless online dating

• Overcoming the Four Main Obstacles to Love, including your ‘False Love Identity’

• Healing Your Past Wounds: Finding your ‘source fracture’ story which has lodged into your identity and made you feel unlovable and ‘not good enough

• Feeling it, Not Thinking it: How somatic experiencing can help you ‘feel’ the love you deserve

• Getting Free from the Past: How to recognize and release old stories and wounds

• Becoming Future-Focused: Learning how to lean into your evolution and your possibility for powerful growth

I am so excited for you to tune into this episode. Give it a listen and let me know your thoughts!

One more thing! Are you interested in becoming a love coach and helping others call love into their lives? Or maybe you want to learn for yourself! My dear friend and wonderful teacher and therapist, Katherine Woodward Thomas is inviting us all to a free 90-minute webinar to learn more about calling in the ONE!

https://webinars.kwt.online/lb-coaching-sacred-calling

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The Resurgence of Feminine Energy with Christina Lopes Jun 15, 2022

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” I sit down with one of favorite people: Christina Lopes. Christina is a former clinician who is now a spiritual teacher and healer. Christina bridges together science and spirituality to help people heal their lives and unlock their true potential.

On this episode, I talk with Christina about how the universe is evolving right now and how our global consciousness is changing. Due to the pandemic and other social and cultural crises happening across the world, many of us are going through what is being called “Ascension,” and if you don’t know what is happening, it can be very overwhelming and confusing.

That is why I am so excited to sit down with Christina and talk about some of these very important things, like:

• Ascension: What is going on in the universe right now and what are the symptoms of “ascension”? How do you know if you are going through ascension and how can you get the most of this experience?

• Synchronicity: Is it is a coincidence or is your soul trying to receive a message from the universe? From feathers to special numbers to patterns, many of us receive messages in the form of synchronicity (even if we don’t realize it!) Christina helps explain what synchronicity is all about and how we can lean into these experiences, even if we don’t fully believe or understand what is happening.

• Entering (and Exiting) the Void: Why do some of us experience a ‘void’ in which we feel like our lives are stagnant and not moving forward, no matter how hard we are trying to create a shift? This stage can sometimes be known as a “Void,” and it can even happen after a spiritual awakening. What is the point of the “Void” stage and how can we learn from it?

• Following Your Joy: Why you should follow your joy, and how you can lean into your intuition and soul’s wisdom when you are faced with challenging decisions. If you lead with joy and what makes your soul happy, you’re going to find abundance that goes far beyond material things (but it can often be quite fruitful on that level as well!).

Listen now to learn more about these topics and so much more!

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All for Love with Matt Kahn: Learning How to Hold Space Jun 08, 2022

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” I am joined by Matt Kahn. Matt is an empath, speaker, healer, and bestselling author of books like “Whatever Arises, Love That” and “The Universe Always Has a Plan.” I love Matt’s work and I am a HUGE fan of his books. That is why I am so honored and grateful he is sharing his brilliance on “The Language of Love.”

Today, we will learn about:

• Your “Third Eye”: Is there really such a thing as a third eye and what the heck is it?

• Trusting Your Visions: Matt shares his history of connection with the unseen world and how he has received messages from Source. How can you learn to trust messages from your angels or higher beings?

• Channeling Your Intuition: We all have spiritual gifts and we all have the ability to tap into the unseen and receive messages from the beyond. Yet, many of us don’t know how to trust that process or get of our own way. How can you start accessing this power and letting yourself be comfortable with the mystery of the unknown?

• Holding Space: How can you learn to be more compassionate and patient with the people in your life who are acting out or behaving poorly? How can you hold space for another person’s pain while still honoring your own right to be treated well? Matt teaches us how we can stand up for ourselves without getting caught in an argumentative back-and-forth with our loved ones that often goes nowhere.

• The Unconscious Masculine: Why our inner protector can actually block our path of transformation, and how we can switch into the part of our minds that does not speak from pain or fear. Matt illustrates how we can move beyond a predator-prey mindset and stop taking sides and getting stuck in our own narratives.

• How to Access Your Empath Abilities: Matt is a true empath can deeply feel and sense other people’s pain. If you are an empath as well, it’s important to learn how to use your abilities and also how to ground and protect yourself from low vibrational energy that could be destructive.

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Afraid to Be Loved Jun 01, 2022

On this special episode of “The Language of Love,” I am doing what I love the most: Talking directly with listeners just like you about their sex, love, and relationship issues and offering real-time advice to help them learn how to love and be loved better. (And, yes, you too could be selected for these special “Language of Love” sessions…just reach out to me on social media or send me an email to languageoflovepod@gmail.com).

For this episode, I sit down with a woman who is struggling with a fear of abandonment in her romantic relationships. Although she has been divorced for many years, she has struggled to find lasting love in the following years. She recently ended a long-term relationship in which she was left broken-hearted when her partner left her for someone else. This is an ongoing pattern for my caller, and she says that she is constantly in ‘service mode’ with her partners and that she is always trying to get love by giving, giving, giving…but she never is able to receive.

As I explain to this lovely caller, our greatest fears can often become our strongest magnets. Due to the childhood trauma of being abandoned by her biological father, I could instantly see that she was recreating this same trauma again and again by picking partners who would make her feel not good enough and then inevitably leave her, often for another woman.

So how can my caller break this cycle and learn to open her heart to the love she so desperately desires and deserves? Listen to this “Language of Love” session to find out!

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How To Manifest Love May 30, 2022

Manifesting has been a buzz word for decades now. Many people think they know what it means to manifest and how to go about it, but the truth is that you may be going about it all wrong. On this special “Love Bites” episode of “The Language of Love,” I reveal why many people approach manifesting the wrong way, and how to change it. If you're trying to manifest the love life you desire, you need to stop thinking about what you want and instead start thinking about how you want to feel.

Yes, manifesting all comes down to getting aligned with the emotions you want to experience in your love life. Emotions are energy in motion, and the universe is fueled by energy. All of our experiences are created by energy, so if you want to create more passion and romance, you need to get your energy in the right place. But how? Listen to this episode to find out and start manifesting your dream love life now!

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Coming Back to Life with Stephanie Arnold May 25, 2022

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” I sit down with Stephanie Arnold. Stephanie has an incredibly powerful story which she shared in her international bestseller, “37 Seconds: Dying Revealed Heaven’s Help—A Mother’s Journey.”

The title of the book comes from Stephanie’s real-life experience in which she died for 37 seconds. That’s right: She died and came back to life, and what she learned in those 37 seconds is so unforgettably powerful. I am so honored to speak with her today and learn what dying taught her, and I think you will find it to be so uplifting and informative.

You will learn about:

• The truth about your ‘sixth sense’ and how it can save your life

• What scientists, medical experts, and philosophers have learned from studying clinical death (a.k.a. ‘near-death experiences’)

• Stephanie’s premonition that she was going to die, and how she learned to advocate for herself after her fears were not taken seriously by her medical team

• What Stephanie saw and heard when she died

• How you can key into your sixth sense and tap into your divine intuition

Stephanie’s story is so important for all of us to hear, especially those of us who have trusting our own truths and advocating for own safety. Learning how to apply this wisdom may end up literally saving your own life, but also help you learn how to deeply connect with the powerful source within you and make your days more meaningful and magical. Listen now and share your thoughts with me--I love to hear from my listeners!

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Why Orgasm Equality Matters with Dr. Mintz May 18, 2022

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” I sit down with Dr. Laurie Mintz. Dr. Laurie is a sex therapist and a professor who has written two amazing books about sexual pleasure: “A Tired Woman’s Guide to Passionate Sex” and “Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters and How to Get It.”

I was thrilled to sit down with Dr. Laurie because we have a lot in common: Like me, she originally was going to school for psychology, but when she became her studies, she realized that there was a huge lack of focus on sexual pleasure. Also like me, she grew up in a house where sexuality was not a shameful topic or something to be afraid of, and so she was innately comfortable tackling these topics with her clients and being a trailblazer in what was then a very new field.

On this episode of the “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laurie and I will help you discover:

• What Orgasm Equality Means (Hint: It’s the exact opposite of the Orgasm Gap)

• Why Orgasm Equality Can Lead to Gender Equality Outside the Bedroom as Well

• How Women Can Begin to Find their Orgasmic Power

• Why I Believe that We Won’t Have Political Equality for Men and Women Until We Can Have Orgasm Equality in the Bedroom First

If you’re struggling with orgasm or any love, sex, and relationship issues, please reach out to me. I would love to help you begin your journey to feeling more empowered in the bedroom. Send your questions here or reach out to me on social media (Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, or TikTok), or email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com.

You can also leave me a voice message on Speakpipe, or book a private appointment with me at Appointments@LauraBerman.com.

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Size Queens, Faking It, and Fantasies: I Take Your Calls Live! May 11, 2022

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” I am taking YOUR calls and giving love, sex and relationship advice live on the air.

First up, I talk to a caller who wants to know if it is normal for a man to fantasize about other women when he is being intimate with his partner. Is it okay to think about other people during sex or is that a form of betrayal and infidelity? And, if you need to think about someone else during sex in order to achieve orgasm, is that a red flag that you aren’t with the right person or your relationship is stale? Listen to the episode to find out my advice on what to do if your mind wanders during sex.

Next, I talk to a woman who says her husband doesn’t know what he is doing in the bedroom. Although he is a wonderful partner in many ways, he doesn’t have much experience. So, she’s been faking orgasm for years. How do you STOP faking orgasm once you have been doing it for so long, and how can you explain your subterfuge to your partner without hurting their feelings? And, more importantly, how can you teach a man how to pleasure you so that you both get to enjoy sex and have your needs met?

Then, I speak with a man who is worried about the size of his penis and wants to know if there is a safe way to make your penis bigger. After comparing his penis to the penises of men he’s seen in porn, he is wracked with insecurity that he is too small and that he will be rejected if he gets close to a woman. Listen to this episode to find out:

• Does size really matter?

• How can a man with a smaller than average penis be confident in the bedroom?

• And why porn can ruin your perception of actual intimacy

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Cheryl Strayed Talks about Her "Inner Terrible Someone" And Learning to Love Fear May 04, 2022

I am so excited about today’s episode! I finally got to sit down and interview Cheryl Strayed, one of my favorite authors and a true inspiration for so many. Cheryl, of course, is the NYT best-selling author of “Wild,” which was later made into a beautiful Oscar-nominated movie.

Cheryl and I have known each other for years, and I have always been a massive fan of her work. Cheryl has a hilarious anecdote about the first time we met, which you will have to listen to the episode to hear, but let me just say, it ends with Cheryl asking me: “Laura, do I make you sick?”

HA! Not at all, girl.

This led us to talking about your “ITS”! This is Cheryl’s name for your “inner terrible someone,” that voice in your head that always offers up the cruelest self-criticism and narrates the worst possible version of scenarios. Sadly, we all have that “inner terrible someone” who is quick to heap on the shame, doubt, fear and self-loathing that keeps us from accessing our true worthiness and our true mission here.

On this episode you will learn:

• How Cheryl silences her inner critic when she’s writing and creating, and how other creative folks can use her wisdom to welcome their inner critics without fear

• How to access the wise, true, loving voice inside of yourself (yes, I promise, it is there! And it is longing to be heard and listened to by you)

• How we can heal from our negative thoughts while realizing that our “inner terrible someone” can also be a catalyst for growth and curiosity about ourselves

• How you can learn to love fear instead of repelling it, and how our “ITS” are a valuable way to connect with other people

Take a listen to this very special episode and let me know what you think!

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Every Rose Has its Thorn Apr 27, 2022

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman talks about one of her favorite topics: How our emotional wounds impact the way we love and receive love in our relationships.

Dr. Berman explains that most of us are carrying “thorns” within our souls from our earliest experiences onward. These include not only our own thorns, but the thorns of unworthiness that our family also passed down to us. Many families carry a legacy of unworthiness that they unintentionally pass down generation to generation.

On this episode you will learn:

• How to identify your thorns and trace their origins

• How to identify common thorns in your family line and connect them back to your present struggles

• How to learn your partner’s thorns and find how your thorns may complement or exacerbate each other’s pain

• How to undo these stories of unworthiness, and how to reclaim our birthright of love and forgiveness.

• How our thorns often give us the greatest possible opportunity for growth and meaning here on this earth

Most importantly, says Dr. Berman, we don’t have to be ashamed of our thorns or wish them away. In fact, our thorns are often the places where we can find the most light and purpose, provided we are willing to excavate those wounds and do the soul-work needed to heal these hurts.

“Healing from these thorny stories will not be simple,” says Dr. Laura Berman. “It is often the work of a lifetime. But, here’s the amazing thing: Our thorns can often end up being our secret superpower.”

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Talking Masculinity with Justin Baldoni Apr 20, 2022

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman sits down for an intimate talk with Justin Baldoni, best known for his role as Rafael Solano on “Jane the Virgin.” Baldoni is also a director (“Five Feet Apart” and “Clouds”) and a podcaster (listen to “The Man Enough” podcast here).

Solano is also the author of “Man Enough: Undefining My Masculinity,” an engaging and daring exploration into what it means to be a ‘man’ in today’s society, and how we are failing boys and men in many ways.

On this episode, you will learn:

• Why the term ‘toxic masculinity’ can be harmful

• How the definition of manhood has shifted in the last few decades, leaving many men struggling to find role models or clear examples of the kind of man they want to be

• How dangerous gender roles can be when it comes to young boys who are encouraged to never cry or ask for help

• How we can create gender equality without demonizing men or masculinity

• How you can find your own definition for masculinity

• Why women seem to be attracted to a certain type of masculinity, and how we can reconfigure our desires so that we don’t always go for the ‘bad boys’

Check out Justin Baldoni’s Man Enough book here, and keep an eye out for his new guide for middle-schoolers which will be published soon!

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Romance In a Post-Covid World Apr 13, 2022

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman talks about how Covid has changed the way we date and the way we connect the people around us. Now that Covid sanctions are lifting in many places and we are almost entering a ‘post-pandemic’ lifestyle, Dr. Berman has great advice for anyone looking to heal and to find love after a long, lonely 2 years of isolation.

On this episode you will learn:

• How the pandemic has changed us on a deep level, even if we are not fully aware of it

• How the hidden blessing of the pandemic was that it led people to find what wasn’t working in their life (whether it was their job, their marriage, etc.) and led them to branch out in new and exciting ways

• How many people are dealing with emotional and physical changes related to the pandemic, and how we can lean into that discomfort and learn from our experiences

• How the pandemic also led many of us to fear human touch and companionship, leaving many people “touch-starved” and longing for cuddling and affection

• How you date again in a post-Covid world without forgetting all the important lessons you learned during the pandemic

Listen now for Dr. Berman’s timely advice about love in the time of Covid.

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Learning Radical Self- Acceptance with Tara Brach Apr 06, 2022

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman sits down with psychologist and bestselling author Tara Brach. Brach is an incredible thought-leader in the field of radical self-acceptance, emotional healing, and Buddhist mediation.

During their special talk, Brach explains to listeners how you can deepen your practice of self-love and self-acceptance so that you aren’t just working around the edges of unconditional love and surrender, but that you are living and nurturing that state of mind on a moment-by-moment basis.

After you have listened to this episode, you will know how to:

• Embark on a journey of self-love that goes so much deeper than our culture’s current understanding of self-care and self-esteem

• Begin a meditation practice that will be accessible, enjoyable, and a natural part of your daily life

• Identify unhealthy thought patterns that undermine your ability to wholly love yourself and accept your whole being

• Heal and release toxic family programming that is keeping you from accessing your real power

If you liked this episode, you can check out Tara Brach’s books Radical Self-Acceptance, Radical Compassion, and Trusting the Gold: Uncovering Your Natural Goodness to help you as you continue your journey of loving and healing yourself.

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The Truth About Triggers Mar 30, 2022

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman talks about triggers. You’ve probably heard the words “triggered” or “trigger warning” a lot in recent years. And, for good reason: As a nation we are becoming more aware of mental health battles and the importance of being compassionate and supportive when it comes to people’s ‘triggers,’ i.e. those hidden trauma wounds that can be opened up by certain conversations or experiences.

But in this episode, Dr. Berman challenges everything you *think* you know about triggers. She will teach listeners:

• The difference between being triggered and simply being irritated or upset.

• The value of paying attention to our triggers. While we have a knee-jerk reaction to run away from pain or discomfort, Dr. Berman says that our triggers often hold our deepest opportunities for growth and healing.

• Realizing that we sometimes use “triggers” as an excuse to avoid difficult conversations or moving out of our comfort zones.

• How we can learn our partner’s triggers and navigate those tricky waters as we support them without forcing them to accept help or healing before they are ready.

Make sure to tune into this timely episode so you can learn the truth about triggers and how you can better control as well as learn from your ‘trigger’ points.

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How to Heal Your Heart with Katie and Gay Hendricks Mar 23, 2022

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman sits down with Katie and Gay Hendricks. This husband-and-wife duo have transformed the lives of thousands of people with their iconic self-help books, including their New York Times bestseller “Conscious Loving: The Journey to Co-Commitment.”

In this episode you will learn:

• How to identify and break negative thought patterns that are keeping you from finding love

• How to find healing and purpose even when the world feels chaotic and dangerous

• How to communicate with your partner in a way that resolves fights rather than amplifies them

• How you can influence your partner’s behavior with nothing more than your own energy

Listen now to hear this inspiring interview with self-help gurus Katie and Gay Hendricks!

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This Common Self-Esteem Issue Can Ruin Your Sex Life Mar 16, 2022

Have you ever thought about how your body image might be impacting your sex life? Most people don’t realize that the thoughts we have about our bodies can actually inhibit or even prevent us from being able to enjoy sex or reach orgasm.

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman connects the dots between body image and sex, explaining why the pressures of our current society have complicated sexual pleasure for the average person.

After listening to this episode, you will know:

• How porn has warped our ideas of how naked bodies should look

• How negative beliefs about our bodies and genitalia can poison our pleasure in the bedroom

• That even men can greatly suffer from poor body image, especially when it comes to the size of their penis or how long they can last in the bedroom

• How to begin to release your negative self-talk and create an environment of a compassion and self-love in the bedroom

• How studies have shown that our feelings about our genitals and sexual pleasure can prevent women from reaching orgasm

Sexual pleasure often starts in the mind, so if you want to amplify your intimacy, we often need to begin by addressing our expectations and beliefs about ourselves.

To talk to Dr. Laura Berman about your sex, love, or body image issues, contact her on social media or send her an email at languageoflovepod@gmail.com

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Maria Menounos and the Caregiving Crisis Mar 09, 2022

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” media mogul and television star Maria Menounos joins Dr. Laura Berman for an intimate talk about healing, transformation, and whole-body health.

Menounos is a cancer survivor who battled brain cancer alongside her mother. She shares how her mother’s brain cancer deeply impacted her life, and how the diagnosis completely shifted her focus and changed her career.

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” you will learn:

• How caregiving can be depleting and demanding, and how you can lose yourself entirely as you devote yourself to caring for your sick loved one

• How women, in particular, can lose their passion, their wellness, and their power as they selflessly care for both their aging parents and their young children

• How caregivers often forgo their own medical appointments and their own health because caregiving take everything out of you

• How the Covid-19 crisis left so many people struggling to care for their sick loved ones without any support or assistance for themselves

• How you can recapture your lost identity and find space for joy, peace, and even sex even during times when you are holding the weight of the world on your shoulder

• How grief can come in waves and leave you feeling guilty, or lost, or even empty after your caregiving role has been taken away and your loved one is gone

• How you can look to the universe for support and resources even when you’re at your lowest

• How you can lose your faith and struggle to feel your loved one after they are gone

This episode will teach you how to find light even in your darkest moments and begin to build joy and magic and passion in your life. Listen now!

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How to Get Over Your Ex Mar 02, 2022

Heartbreak is often an unavoidable part of dating and falling in love. Even the strongest relationships will sometimes falter and fail, leaving us broken-hearted and wondering how we can ever get over the pain and move on.

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman will teach you how to get over a breakup the RIGHT way, so that you can gain wisdom from the experience and move forward to new relationships without bringing baggage or having the same issues in the future:

• Learn how long you should wait after a breakup before you start dating again

• Find out why ‘sex with the ex’ can be so traumatic for you on a emotional and energetic level

• Discover how to energetically ‘release’ your ex so that you don’t feel as entwined with them

• Examine your role in the relationship’s breakup

• Find out why you may have a pattern of picking partners who routinely let you down

Often our romantic partners trigger our most deep-seated wounds, and when we break up, these wounds can feel very raw and overwhelming. In this episode, Dr. Berman will teach you how to honor that pain and grieve the relationship, WITHOUT clinging to the past and getting stuck in the ‘What if’s’?

If you have any questions for Dr. Laura Berman about love, sex, or life, reach out to her on her social media pages or send a email to languageoflovepod@gmail.com

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Beyond Sorrow: Nick Cannon Speaks about Life after His Son's Death Feb 23, 2022

It’s time for Part 2 of Dr. Berman’s intimate chat with television superstar Nick Cannon. On Part 1 of this special interview, Dr. Berman and Nick talked about everything from monogamy to sex toys to how Nick’s fear of germs keeps him going back to his baby mamas instead of finding new partners.

But, on this second installment, Nick and Dr. Berman tackle something much deeper and darker: The loss of Nick’s infant son, Zen, and how he is coping with that grief. Zen died of a brain tumor in December 2021 when he was just five months old. Since then, Nick has grappled with every parent’s worst nightmare: Losing a child. It’s a nightmare Dr. Berman knows well, as she also lost her son in 2021.

On this episode you will learn:

• How Nick and Zen’s mother have celebrated their son’s short life

• How you can stay connected to lost loved ones even after they are gone

• How you can present with grief without being overwhelmed by the waves of sadness and anger

• Why grief is such an important process that has so much to teach us about love and life

• How you can become better resourced to deal with your own grief

You can always reach out to Dr. Laura Berman on her social media pages or by emailing languageoflovepod@gmail.com with any questions or comments.

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Nick Cannon Opens Up About His Love Life Feb 16, 2022

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman sits down with television personality Nick Cannon. As you may know, Dr. Berman has appeared on “The Nick Cannon Show” multiple times, both to help him recover from the grief of losing his infant son, as well as to help him explore the idea of temporary celibacy. Nick’s love life has been very complicated as he has multiple on-and-off relationships with the mothers of his children, and he comes to Dr. Berman seeking some clarity and direction around his romantic future.

Nick has fathered 7 kids with four different women, and now he is expecting his 8th child with former Wild ‘N Out colleague Bre Tiesi. While many have been critical of Nick’s decisions, he has made the intentional choice to be more conscious about his love life and the choices he makes when it comes to sex. There’s just one problem: Due to his fears about STIs and unsafe sex, he prefers to be intimate with the women he knows and trusts (the mothers of his children), but this inevitably leads to jealousy and anger.

“I just don’t feel like monogamy is healthy,” Nick confesses. “I feel like that gets into the states of selfishness and ownership.”

Nick says that in all of his relationships, he expects that the woman will eventually get tired of his ‘sh*#” and leave him, which Dr. Berman encourages him to explore. Could it be that his fear of being left or discarded is contributing to his fear of monogamy and true, lasting commitment?

“I am the guy that your mom warned you about,” he admits. “I am a better friend and companion, then I am boyfriend, relationship, husband, all of those things.”

In the end, Nick says his ultimate goal is to the best father he can be, and to continue maturing and learning on his journey though love and life.

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How to Turn Up the Heat this Valentine's Day...Even if You're Single! Feb 09, 2022

Love is in the air! Whether you are single or coupled up, Valentine’s Day offer us a special opportunity to pause and celebrate love, romance, and passion. On this episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman will teach you how you can make this V-Day your most memorable yet, even if you normally approach the day with dread.

On this episode you will discover:

• Why Valentine’s Day is so much more than just a “Hallmark holiday”

• What gift(s) your partner REALLY wants for Valentine’s Day – surprise, it’s not necessarily jewelry or lingerie!

• The best date night ideas for V-day that are affordable and approachable for couples of all budgets

• How you can use Feb. 14 as an invitation from the universe to deepen your bond with your partner

• How to celebrate YOURSELF this Valentine’s Day, whether you are single or with a partner

Listen in to this special Valentine’s Day episode and get ready to make this Feb. 14 as passionate and magical as you desire.

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Having Sex After Baby: Yes, Birth PTSD is Real! Feb 02, 2022

"On this episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman talks about Birth PTSD. This is a rarely discussed topic that impacts men and women alike.

“Going through labor and delivery is a massive experience that can take a physical, emotional, and spiritual toll,” says Dr. Berman. “Even if you had a ‘normal’ birth (using the word normal loosely, as all births are different and special in their own way), you might find that you are having a hard time getting back into sex. Once the doctor gives you the green light to have sex again, you might find that one or both of you are having a hard time getting back to your old sex life.”

That’s because, says Dr. Berman, your sex life likely won’t ever be exactly the same…and that’s okay.

“Sex after childbirth is different, and that doesn’t have to be a bad thing at all. On the contrary, many parents can find that their sex lives will deepen and improve over the years, but often times there is also a period of adjustment where one or both of you may struggle to get back into the saddle,” says Dr. Berman. “Men are often nervous or even frightened to have sex with their partners after they have given birth, especially if they witnessed their partner giving birth. They may be afraid of hurting their partner, and they may even fear that they won’t be able to satisfy her.”

Dr. Berman also says that new moms often struggle with feelings of discomfort or shame around their bodies after childbirth, especially if they had a difficult labor.

“If you didn’t feel respected or safe during labor, or you felt as though you ‘failed’ in some way to deliver in the manner in which you hoped, you might no longer trust your body as you once did,” says Dr. Berman. “You might have feelings of resentment or anger about the way your birth was handled and you might be afraid to feel vulnerable or exposed after that experience.”

Dr. Berman talks about therapy can help to heal trauma and what couples should do if they are struggling from birth PTSD.

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Healing through Yoga with Paul Denniston Jan 26, 2022

On this very special episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman sits down with her friend and yoga expert, Paul Denniston. Author of the groundbreaking book “Healing through Yoga,” Denniston has personally helped Dr. Berman through the grief of her son’s death and showed her ways that yoga can help us to channel, heal, and process our deepest wounds.

Denniston is the founder of Grief Yoga and has built his practice around the five fundamental keys of healing: Awareness, Expression, Connection, Surrender, and Evolution. With each of these stages, yoga positions and meditations can help you to further your spiritual practice and unblock energy channels so that you can live your most fulfilling, love-filled existence.

In this episode, Denniston and Dr. Berman also talk about how anger can actually be one of our greatest teachers, and how tapping into our anger in a healthy way can help to free us from unwanted experiences and negative thought patterns. While we often run away from anger or try to deny its existence, Denniston and Dr. Berman both share how the expression of anger can be revolutionary for both personal and collective healing.

“We all need to share our stories. Being heard is one of the most fundamental needs of human beings,” says Dr. Berman. “And that includes anger. Grief can bring up so much anger, and I have times where I just need to beat a cushion with a bat, or scream into a pillow, and paint angrily until I can move that emotion through me. We need to honor our anger and give it freedom to move and be expressed.”

In his book, Denniston shares over 75 meditations and yoga positions that can help even beginner yogis tap into the connection between the body and the spirit. With yoga, we can train our bodies to be more resilient, more present, and more able to withstand the ebbs and flows of life.

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How to Increase Desire in the Bedroom Jan 19, 2022

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” sex therapist Dr. Laura Berman talks about the trouble with mismatched libidos and why so many couples struggle to establish complementary sex drives.

“One of the most common issues my clients have is that one partner wants more sex than the other,” says Dr. Berman. “Generally, this is an issue that presents early on in a relationship, but over time the issue grows and grows…as does the resentment.”

Dr. Berman explains that mismatched libidos can often trigger a vicious cycle, a cycle which couples may not even be aware of or realizing that they are perpetuating.

“Here is what often happens: The partner who keeps getting turned down for sex becomes resentful and insecure. They start to pull away, sometimes intentionally, sometimes unconsciously. The pet names and romance and affection start to disappear. As these things fall by the wayside, the sex drive only continues to plummet and both partners grow apart bit by bit. This is why mismatched libidos can end up derailing your entire marriage, if the issue is left untreated.”

So what can couples do?

In this episode, Dr. Berman explains how you can naturally increase your libido, such as by doing something dangerous together.

“If you go on a roller coaster, or go skydiving, or even just watch a scary movie together, it can increase adrenaline and dopamine which will mimic that excitement you first felt for each other when you began dating,” says Dr. Berman.

Dr. Berman also discusses how couples can start to find moments for spontaneity and create more eroticism and novelty in the bedroom.

“You can have the sex life of your dreams,” says Dr. Berman. “But you’re the one responsible for making that happen. It won’t just occur overnight, and you have to be willing to get of your comfort zone and really challenge yourself to take ownership of your sexuality.”

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The Truth about Manifesting Your Desires: A Conversation with Maureen Riley Jan 12, 2022

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman sits down with intuitive consultant, life coach, and mindfulness-based psychotherapist Maureen Riley. Dr. Berman has been a longtime client of Maureen Riley, and she reveals that Riley’s wisdom and intuition has helped her deeply.

Riley is committed to teaching people how to unlock their own potential and get out of their own way. If you’re starting 2022 with a list of daring resolutions and hopes for the New Year, this is a must-listen episode that will teach you what you need to know in order to make your resolutions a reality.

“Imagine being able track back to the hidden source of what’s blocking you while you simultaneously access the power within that unlocks, opens and shifts you into a new reality- one that’s aligned with your Wholeness, well Being, and Source of inner guidance,” Riley states. “Once activated, this energy and intelligence can repair your health, put your life into alignment with your true purpose and then, by sacred law, activates your personal stream of abundance. Imagine having what it REALLY takes to re-ignite and flourish, trusting yourself and life again.”

On this episode, Riley explains what manifesting really is, and challenges some of the misconceptions people may have about manifesting and how to apply it your own life.

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Here's What Your Partner Really Wishes You Would Do in the Bedroom Jan 05, 2022

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman talks about what men and women really want in the bedroom. Do men and women really have such vastly different needs and desires in the bedroom? Is it true that men have much higher libidos than women, or that women can’t have sex without getting emotionally attached?

Dr. Berman gets real about these intimacy questions and more, first explaining what truly makes a person desirable in the bedroom. And believe it or not, it has nothing to do with how big your breasts are or how long you can last during sex.

“Think back to the best sex you’ve ever had,” says Dr. Berman. “The sex that made you feel the most turned on, desired, and powerfully connected to your partner. What made that sex so amazing? It probably had nothing to do with your partner’s penis size or whether or not they had a 6-pack or double D cups. It was probably about the emotional connection and the excitement you felt at being seen and loved and treasured for exactly who you are, and being able to give that same unconditional love back to your partner in return.”

So knowing that passionate sex is more than skin deep, how can you apply this wisdom to your sex life right now to make yourself an even better sex partner?

“Don’t assume that your partner wants what you want,” says Dr. Berman. “Be willing to stay open and curious about what things might make your partner feel desired and turned on. Ask questions. Pay attention. Don’t make it all about your assumptions or what your past partners might have liked. And, even if you have been with your partner for a long time, their tastes or desires might have changed. Sex needs to be ongoing conversation we are having if we want to ensure that both partners are getting their needs met.”

Listen to this episode to learn more about how you can become a better partner in the bedroom.

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After Death: How to Connect With Our Lost Loved Ones with Susan Grau Dec 29, 2021

On this very special episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman sits down with Susan Grau. Have you ever wondered it means to be a medium, or have you ever felt as though you have a ‘sixth sense’ or an ability to see or feel people who are no longer here? Then this episode is for you:

Susan Grau is an Internationally recognized Intuitive Medium, Life Path Intuitive, Life Coach, & Hypnotherapist / Past Life Regressionist. Susan is known for bringing her genuine, benevolent, and down-to-earth style to her clients and sessions. Susan works with the spirit world using her “Clair Senses” as a means to communicate with your loved ones. She has been offering her professional and spiritual services to the public for over three decades.

“You are made of light. You are good, kind, and filled with the spiritual beauty of the afterlife. Never forget where you came from. Never allow anyone to make you feel less than what you are. Always know your value. You are from the light,” says Susan.

On this episode, Dr. Berman talks with Susan about the near-death experience she had when she was 4 years old. Susan says she didn’t see bright lights or the traditional light at the end of the tunnel, but she had an incredible experience in the afterlife that she shares with Dr. Berman in this thrilling episode.

Dr. Berman also shares how she has been able to connect with her son Sammy and her mother after their deaths, and how she uses her deep pain as a gateway to creating these incredible channels of connection.

If you have ever wondered about the afterlife or how to cope with grief or the loss of your loved ones, this is an episode that will bring you enlightenment and comfort.

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Stop Making this Mistake in the Bedroom Dec 22, 2021

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman talks about the most common mistakes that people make in the bedroom. How can you create passion and meaningful sexual intimacy even when you have been together for years? How can you make sex special on a regular weeknight when the kids are down the hall and there are still dirty dishes in the sink?

From understanding the different ways that men and women approach sexual pleasure to getting in touch with what you really want in the bedroom, Dr. Berman explains that the most fulfilling and passionate sex is often born out of self-knowledge and a willing to go beyond the surface.

“When we think of exciting sexual encounters or passionate hookups, we tend to imagine a very Hollywood image of what that kind of sex looks like. We picture a couple stumbling home from their date night or a night out at the bar, pulling each other’s clothes off as they trip down the hallway and then land in bed together. The sex feels very spontaneous and unplanned,” says Dr. Berman.

“But what I have found throughout my years as a sex therapist is that the best sex really happens when couples consciously do the work necessary to make uninhibited, whole-hearted sex possible. It’s not about a drunken hookup where you’re struggling to pull off each other’s close as fast as possible. It’s about slowing down, feeling what’s really happening inside, and knowing that you are safe enough and loved enough to show your whole self.”

Dr. Berman explains that this type of sex is also so special because it requires no preparation or extra window dressing.

“You don’t need the lingerie or the date nights or the candles,” says Dr. Berman. “Those things are wonderful and special, but if you’re having conscious, whole-hearted, enlightened sex, or some form of conscious physical connection (even if it’s just for 10 minutes), that means more than a whole night of bells and whistles without any emotional depth or real intimacy.”

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A Conversation about Love, Divinity, and Meaning with Neal Allen and Anne Lamott Dec 15, 2021

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman sits down for an intimate conversation with husband Neal Allen. Neal Allen is a coach and writer who studies and practices traditional and contemporary spiritual paths. His book “Shapes of Truth: Discover God Inside You,” is one of Dr. Berman’s favorite new books and she is eager to share how you can apply the deep wisdom within this book to your life.

Neal Allen will help listeners discover how to find the divinity within, including what divinity means and how even a non-believer can connect with a deeper meaning and purpose. Allen explains how his time at the Hameed Ali's Diamond Heart group helped to awake him to the false stories about himself and his reality that he had been stuck in, and how he was able to ‘burn down his house’ discover how to see the many colors of divinity within them.

“There are 35 colors that you can find within yourself,” says Allen. “And each of them has to do a way in which you are divine.”

Allen explains what these colors mean and how you can learn to find your colors in yourself and in others.

During the episode, Dr. Berman also gets a chance to speak with Neal Allen’s wife Anne Lamott. Anne Lamott is the New York Times bestselling author of “Bird by Bird,” “Help, Thanks, Wow,” and “Stiches.” She is also a public speaker and writing teacher, and one of Dr. Berman’s favorite writers.

Lamott talks to Dr. Berman about dating when you’re middle-aged, and how one should approach the process of looking for love. How do you know when he’s “the one” or when he just ticks most of your boxes?

“Hold out for the person you would want to be best friends with, even if they aren’t going to your romantic partner,” says Lamott.

You can find Neal Allen’s “Shapes of Truth: Finding the Divinity Within” on Amazon.

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How to Have More (and Better) Orgasms Dec 08, 2021

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman discusses one of the most common issues she sees in her sex therapy practice: Mismatched libidos.

“Whenever one partner has more desire than the other partner, you’re looking at a powder keg,” says Dr. Berman. “It may not seem so at first. But as one partner keeps saying ‘no’ and the other partner keeps dealing with that rejection, over time it can really become an explosive situation.”

Dr. Berman says one of the main reasons mismatched libido can lead to divorce is because lack of sex often leads to lack of physical intimacy and then lack of emotional intimacy as well.

“When sex falls by the wayside, what often happens is that cuddling, kissing, hand-holding, and snuggling often go away too,” says Dr. Berman. “A woman may reject being cuddled or getting massaged because she fears it is going to lead to sex, and if she’s not in the mood, she may just want to shut down any physical intimacy altogether.”

Dr. Berman says that when cuddling and physical touch disappear, then romance tends to follow suit.

“Then, the pet names disappear and the little signs of affection, like bringing home flowers or going on date nights or making her a special dinner just to surprise her,” says Dr. Berman. “His needs are getting met in the bedroom so he can’t meet her needs outside the bedroom. It becomes a vicious circle.”

Dr. Berman says it’s not just women who suffer from low libido, but men as well.

“When men have low desire, it presents differently from women,” says the sex therapist. “Oftentimes, stress or shame or fear of performance issues can lead a man to avoid sex. If he is struggling with erectile dysfunction, he may try to avoid sex because it is humiliating for him. Or if he is out of work or not able to provide for his family, I find that this kind of stress also leads men to shut down in the bedroom. When men feel stressed or emasculated, they often cope by turning to porn and masturbation instead of wanting to connect with their actual partner in the bedroom.”

So what can couples do to address mismatched libidos and ensure that both sex and romance stay alive in their relationship? Listen to this very important episode of “The Language of Love” to find out!

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Loving Consciously with Lee Harris Part 2 Dec 01, 2021

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman continues her conversation with the transformative author and energy guide, Lee Harris. (See the previous episode for Part One of her interview with Harris).

In this episode, Dr. Berman and Harris talk about how you can heal from a breakup and find self-care. What does self-care really mean? Is it about splurging on a massage or taking a hot bath with expensive bath bombs? Or is there more to self-care than meets the eye? Harris and Dr. Berman look beyond the commodification of self-care and our current understanding of how self-care often means external things (like shopping or going on vacation), and how self-care can actually be much deeper than that.

Harris suggests spending 10 minutes a day with yourself, and how this simple, easily applied practice can totally overhaul you whole day and our whole mood. The truest form of self-care is about being with yourself, honoring yourself with your whole awareness and consciousness. And then without judgment or condemnation or allowing anyone else’s needs or desires overtake you, you sit for that 10 minutes and honor what is happening right now inside of you. It’s a small but powerfully significant way to change your life.

“If you are trying to recover from something or replenish yourself, place a hand on your heart and say to yourself, “I give myself my own love.” It is a powerful statement. I give myself my own love. Some of you will feel it going through the hand back into the heart recycling what it is you send out. A lot of love escapes your body from this point, so send it back in. The heart is a magnet when it is full,” writes Harris.

Later in the episode, Harris and Dr. Berman talk about how our challenges and setbacks actually hide our most important invitations from the universe, and how our darkest times can offer us the chance for finding the true light within.

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Listening to Your Spirit Guides with Lee Harris Part 1 Nov 24, 2021

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman sits down with energy expert and transformation guide Lee Harris. Harris is the author of “Energy Speaks: Messages from Spirit on Living, Loving, and Awakening,” and on today’s episode, he talks about how we can get in tune with our energy and help use our consciousness not only to heal ourselves but to heal the world.

Harris explains to Dr. Berman how we can better raise boys and help them to get in touch with their emotions. Since our society encourages men to be stoic and never cry or show weakness, many boys grow up being unable to cope with or even identify their emotions.

On this episode, Harris shares his important insights on raising emotionally healthy boys, but also emotionally healthy kids in general. How can you better tap into your child’s emotions? How can you parent in a conscious, vulnerable way? These questions are so complex, but the answers are already within us, if we can just let our egos and expectations get out of the way our intuition and our inner wisdom.

When we connect to the source of unconditional love and our true power, we can parent in a way that allows our children to break free from painful family patterns, even those that may have existed in our family legacy for generations.

“The heartbreak of this planet is healing. It may not seem so, but it is. Heartbreak is healing on a planetary level. That is why hearts are breaking. So, lead with your hearts both for yourself and for others,” says Harris. “Where you share your love with others, you lead with your hearts. None of you acknowledge yourselves enough for this. And where you lead with your hearts, you the lead the way for others to open their hearts.”

Don’t miss this insightful episode!

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What Men Want in the Bedroom (And What They Don't) Nov 17, 2021

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman talks about what men really want in the bedroom, and why men seem to have higher desire than women when it comes to intimacy.

Dr. Berman reveals that the most common issue that she sees in her clients is the fact that men want more sex than their partners, and how those mismatched libidos can wreak havoc on your relationship. When sex falls by the wayside, it can lead to less affection, less physical touch, and less romance in general. When a woman doesn’t want sex, she may brush off her partner if he tries to cuddle her or kiss her, because she thinks “Oh no, he is just going to want sex, and I don’t even want to go there right now.” Or maybe she even feels guilty accepting affectionate touch since she isn’t ‘keeping up her end of the bargain’ and being the passionate, hands-on partner that she knows her partner wants her to be.

Yet the more these things disappear (the cuddling, the hand-holding, the pet names, the snuggling under the sheets) in a relationship, the more her desire will continue to plummet as well because she needs these forms of affection to help fuel her libido. So, it becomes a vicious cycle in which less sex means less romance, and less romance means less sex, and in the end, both partners end up feeling very isolated and disconnected.

Dr. Berman’s advice for couples is simple: Start by being honest about the fact that you each have different levels of desire, but make room for the possibility that this can change in the future. Every sex life has ebbs and flows, so even if you are not currently where you want to be in the bedroom, make room for the possibility that this can change and that you and your partner have the power to create the passion, fulfilling sex lives you both desire and deserve. Listen to today’s episode of “The Language of Love” to hear Dr. Berman’s best sex tips for couples struggling with mismatched libidos.

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Embracing Your Wild: Janne Robinson and the Secrets to a Liberated Life Nov 10, 2021

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman sits down with Janne Robinson, a feminist beat poet, speaker, and visionary. The two women talk about life, love, trauma, open-heartedness, and finding ‘the one.’

How do you know when you have found your forever soulmate? And how do you know when you have found someone who is just here temporarily to help you deepen your journey and continue your soul-work?

They also delve into the idea of “you spot it, you got it” and how you can claim those parts of yourselves that might scare you or even trigger. How can you claim your ‘wild’ and embrace your shadow-self? Robinson explains that most of us constantly live in a state of conformity, always trying to blend in and achieve concrete milestones in order to prove our worth.

Robinson also talks about the feelings of jealousy and inferiority that can plague us when we don’t feel as ‘enlightened’ or as ‘free’ as other people around us who are living consciously and seemingly fearlessly. She explains that the best way to get over that envy is to actually spend time with those we admire and wish to emulate, because it will help to draw out that energy and what we wish to create in our own lives.

They also talk about body wisdom and how you can tap into your body’s innate needs and desires. How can movement and physical activity help us unlock our self-worth and intuition? How can you ‘be in the body’ even when you are dealing with deep grief and trauma, and are frightened to face those feelings buried within you.

“If we must have milestones—mine will be measured by how much joy I have collected at the end of each day and how often in this life I have truly, deeply, opened,” writes Robinson. “Seek, see, love, do.”

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Love Yourself to Heal Yourself Nov 03, 2021

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman talks about self-love and how self-love can help to heal the world. She tackles the difference between self-esteem and self-worth, explaining that self-esteem is conditional. Self-esteem is often based on other people’s perceptions of us and that external validation, such as whether you can perform well enough or achieve enough in the world’s eyes. Only then can you have pride in your accomplishments and feel confident in yourself.

But, as the sex therapist explains, self-worth is completely different. It is totally unconditional love that you never have to compete for or earn.

“Self-worth is ultimately, at its core, the understanding that you are worthy of abundant love, simply because you exist. You don’t have to do anything or be anything, you’re actually perfectly imperfect exactly as you are and perfectly lovable exactly as you are. You are the unique, one-of-a-kind expression of spirit,” says Dr. Berman.

So how can you begin to establish self-love? What are some ways you can create a self-love practice that will help you to elevate your energy and receive the abundance you deserve? And, for parents, how can you create a household in which self-love radiates throughout the family and your children feel loved and celebrated by you simply for existing?

Dr. Berman also talks to a caller who wants to know how she can support her adult child who is going through a difficult time. How can parents of adult children help to model self-love and encourage their children to make smart decisions without being a helicopter parent?

A caller also asks Dr. Berman about how to overcome childhood abuse and self-destructive coping mechanisms that are interfering with his ability to establish healthy self-love in the present and create positive relationships. How can you build self-love when your childhood was traumatic?

Listen to Dr. Berman’s advice on self-love and how to create it on her this newest episode “The Language of Love.”

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Getting Your Head Out of the Sand: A Talk with Marianne Williamson Oct 27, 2021

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman sits down with internationally acclaimed author and lecturer Marianne Williamson.

Dr. Berman’s grief journey following the death of her son Sammy has been greatly illuminated and shaped by Williamson’s past works, such as “A Return to Love” and “Tears to Triumph,” so sitting down for an interview with such a beloved soul-guide has been a longtime plan of hers.

In today’s interview, Dr. Berman and Williamson talk about this incredibly difficult time that we are living in, and how crucial it is for us to stay present and engaged, rather than hiding our heads in the sand. How can you find your voice and help to promote peace and integrity when you just want to hide away from the ugliness of the world?

Williamson says we must start acknowledging our own power and refusing to be silenced.

In particular, Williamson believes that empaths and spiritually-minded people have a huge responsibility right now in helping to heal the world. She urges listeners to find a way to overcome the ‘overwhelm’ and tap into their amazing powers, because sitting by idly will only lead to further spiritual and physical destruction of our country and climate.

“The effects of love are maximal,” says Williamson. “We [need to] stop disengaging from the political system.”

Dr. Berman and Williamson also talk about ‘The Course in Miracles,” which Dr. Berman is working through and which Williamson narrates for the audiobook. Listen to this inspiring episode and let Dr. Berman know your thoughts on Instagram, Twitter, or Facebook.

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Ecstatic Dancing Oct 20, 2021

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman talks about her newfound hobby, Ecstatic Dancing. This unique form of dance is often misunderstood, and many people may not even know about this amazing, transformative form of body movement. So, together with Robin Parrish (Co-Founder and Managing Director of Ecstatic Dance LA), Dr. Berman discusses what ecstatic dancing is really all about, as well as how she has been using ecstatic dancing to cope as she moves through her grief journey after her son’s death.

Ecstatic dancing isn’t about learning choreography or having the best rhythm: It’s about leaning into the changing waves of our lives, and learning how to dance and move with these ups and downs. Ecstatic dancing is all about listening to the wisdom of your body, and moving through any fears or doubts as you embrace the music within you.

Ecstatic dancing has been said to lead to feelings of ecstasy or pure joy, and whether you do it alone in your backyard or with a group of friends or fellow dancers, you may find that this dance feels meditative, rejuvenating, or that it promotes feelings of serenity. In fact, ecstatic dancing has its roots in religious rituals that reach back thousands of years into human history. Listen to today’s episode to hear about the benefits and history of ecstatic dance, and how you can start grooving like Dr. Berman.

Click here to learn more about Robin Parrish and Ecstatic Dance LA.

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Kicking Ass in a Corset with Andrea Kayne Oct 13, 2021

Today on the “Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman sits down for an intimate talk with Andrea Kayne. Andrea Kayne is a leadership coach and an author who recently wrote “Kicking Ass in a Corset: Jane Austen’s 6 Principles of Living and Leading from the Inside Out.”

Kayne draws insights and life lessons from the works of the 18th-century novelist. Austen’s classics like “Emma” and “Pride and Prejudice” are as rich with meaning now as they were then. Yes, surprising as it may sound, these centuries-old books have a lot to teach us about self-knowledge, intuition, and learning to trust and embrace your power.

In this episode, Dr. Berman and Kayne talk about what it means to know yourself, how to release old habits and self-defeating beliefs, and how to come really know and LOVE yourself, flaws and all.

Whether you are an Austen lover or someone simply to find your purpose, this episode is a must-listen!

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Losing Sammy Part 3 Oct 06, 2021

On today’s extra-special episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman brings us up-to-date on the latest in her son Sammy Chapman’s case. As many of you know, her 16-year-old was fatally poisoned by fentanyl earlier this year. In the months following, Dr. Berman and her husband Sam Chapman (along with their sons Ethan and Jackson) have seen their world turn upside down as they try to grieve while also advocating for real, impactful legislative change that will ensure no other child falls victim to these online drug dealers and no other family has to suffer as theirs has.

In today’s “Losing Sammy, part 3,” Dr. Berman reveals what her life has been like since the loss of her son, how she laid him to rest, how grief has impacted her marriage, and how her and her husband’s differing views on the after-life have sometimes left them struggling to understand each other’s motivations.

Tune in for this very important episode to learn how even during your most painful and heart-wrenching time, you can still consciously create Quantum Love.

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Debunking Sex Toy Myths Sep 29, 2021

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman talks about the history of sex aids, from primitive sex toys to the invention of the first vibrator. From G-spot stimulators to dilators to penis rings, there are so many sex aids which you can use to improve your connection with yourself and your partner(s). As Dr. Berman explains, the sex aid industry has really changed in the last 2 decades: Now sex aids are female-friendly and easily found online or in cozy boutiques, rather than in scary dimly-lit rooms at truck stops.

So how can you find out which sex aid is right for you? Which sex is best for single folks or for use during intercourse? Dr. Berman gives her top tips to help you shop smart when you enter the world of sex aids.

Then, she talks about how you can introduce sex aids into their relationship. What should you do if your suggestion of using a sex aid offends your partner or makes them jealous? It’s not uncommon for men to feel insecure when women want to bring vibrators or sex toys into their relationship, so how can you suggest sex aids without making your man feel like he is being replaced?

Dr. Berman also challenges common sex toy myths, like the idea that you can get addicted to your vibrator or that vibrators are dangerous to your genitals or sexual response.

Tune into this episode of “The Language of Love” to get your FAQs about sex toys answered.

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Should You Get Back Together with an Ex? Sep 22, 2021

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman talks about Bennifer and whether or not it’s ever a good idea to get back together with an ex. Getting back together with an ex is extremely tempting, and for some, the urge can even feel downright addictive. If you’re going to get back together with an ex, you have to really make sure that you’re doing so in a conscious, intentional way. You need to be willing to examine what you did to contribute to the breakup in the first place, and what steps you both need to take to ensure that you don’t make the same mistakes this go-around.

Next, Dr. Berman talks to couples who have been stuck at home together for a year and a half due to Covid. After so much togetherness during the pandemic, how can you and your partner start to bring more magic and passion back into your relationship? If you are feeling more like roommates and less like lovers, don’t despair: There are ways you can reignite the flame after this difficult year.

Then, Dr. Berman talks to a woman who recently broke up with her longtime partner. He says he still loves her and misses her, but he claims he needs time to ‘find himself’ and have time alone. How can you move on from a ex-partner who still isn’t fully letting you go? When do you determine that the relationship is completely unsalvageable and quit taking your ex’s calls?

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What is Sexual Healing? Sep 16, 2021

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman talks about ‘sexual healing,’ and what that term means to her. How can you use sexual intercourse to elevate your energetic consciousness and use sexual pleasure as a tool to help you heal your life?

Then, Dr. Berman talks about another kind of sexual healing: Healing physical issues in the bedroom which prevent people from enjoying intimacy. From lack of desire to erection issues to painful sex to an inability to reach orgasm, there are many common sexual complaints that can complicate your experience in the bedroom. However, there are also many tools that can help you overcome these issues and create the sex life you desire.

Dr. Berman also addresses how you can heal from past sexual trauma. In many cases, people with a history of sexual abuse may struggle to feel safe in the bedroom and avoid sex altogether, or they might use sex in a self-destructive way and have unsafe sex or make promiscuous choices even if they really aren’t wanting to do so.

As Dr. Berman explains, being ‘sex positive’ doesn’t have to mean that you have to be ready to have threesomes or be ready to swing from the chandeliers: You can still be conservative about your fantasies or desires, but you are nonjudgmental and realize that sex is an important and healthy part of being human.

And, if you are single, how can you initiate sexual healing when you don’t currently have a partner? Dr. Berman talks about how you can use self-stimulation as a tool for healing.

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The Body Keeps the Score: How Trauma Can Impact Our Physical Forms and Sexual Pleasure Sep 09, 2021

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman talks about the most common challenges that couples report. She reveals that the top complaint that partners have is uneven desire when one partner has a higher libido than the other, and how that can lead to trouble throughout their relationship. She says one issue is that even though many women struggle with some form of sexual dysfunction, whether that is lack of desire, difficulty reaching orgasm, or pain during intercourse, the medical community has only just begun to put attention into addressing female sexual pleasure. Hence, while men can turn to options like Viagra or Cialis, women are left with few, if any options, for improved sexual response, and most are too ashamed to even raise the issue with their doctor.

So, what should women with low desire do? First, Dr. Berman says women need to go to their doctor for a hormone panel as well as to investigate whether any medications they are on may cause sexual side effects (popular prescriptions like anti-depressants and hormonal contraceptives can have downsides in the bedroom). After investigating possible physical causes and troubleshooting possible solutions, Dr. Berman says she would also want to delve into a woman’s past and look at issues like body image, past sexual trauma, sexual shame related to religious or cultural upbringing. Our bodies can carry cellular trauma which can be passed on genetically and Dr. Berman explains that unless we get in touch with our physical selves and where we might be carrying tension or dis-ease, we won’t be able to fully release, whether we are in or out of the bedroom. Hear her reveal how she uses somatic therapy to tap into her physical body and how you can start ‘being in body’ right now.

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Learning to Love without Conditions: A Conversation with Don Miguel Ruiz, Jr. Sep 01, 2021

On today’s episode of the “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman sits down with guest Don Miguel Ruiz, Jr. The world-renowned Toltec spiritual teacher and New York Times best-selling author of books like “The Five Levels of Attachment” recently hosted a shaman retreat which Dr. Berman attended, and on this new episode, they sit down to reconnect and reflect on love, healing, and living wholeheartedly and consciously even during this difficult time.

Don Miguel Jr. (son of Don Miguel Ruiz, author of "The Four Agreements) recently wrote a groundbreaking book titled “The Seven Secrets to Healthy Happy Relationships,” and as he explains to Dr. Berman, the foundation of all of these secrets is unconditional love.

“The difference between conditional and unconditional love, to me, is that conditional love only sees what it wants to see, and unconditional love is willing us to see life as it is, it is willing us to see the whole,” says Don Miguel.

Don Miguel and Dr. Berman then delve into communication and the common issues that arise between couples, such as fights about money, parenting, sex, and other stressors. How can one apply the wisdom of unconditional love to rise above these arguments and instead approach their relationship in a more wholehearted and enlightened way? How can unconditional love be applied to these situations in a real, applicable way that couples can use in their daily lives?

Don Miguel shares his wisdom and his tips for couples who are seeking to build a healthier and happier marriage, and how people can ‘defuse their triggers’ and learn to separate these arguments from their love for one another and the security of their relationship as a whole. Listen to his life-changing advice now!

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Different Words, Different Worlds: Male and Female Communication Aug 25, 2021

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman talks about how communication is a muscle that couples have to learn to exercise throughout their relationship. She explains that many of us operate under the assumption that our partners can read our minds and hear our inner monologue, thereby understanding our motivations and our needs as we move throughout the day. But, she warns, our partners often understand our inner lives much less than we actually imagine, which leads to misunderstandings, hurt feelings, and unnecessary arguments.

Then, Dr. Berman talks about the difference between the way men and women communicate, and how this can lead to issues between male partners and female partners. Dr. Berman explains that when men communicate, they often have a competitive stance, looking for subtle or not-so-subtle ways to ‘one-up’ each other or be the alpha dog in the room. On the other hand, when women communicate, they generally seek out opportunities for connection rather than competition. Hence, they are not aware of the fact that when they talk to their male partner about a household issue such as forgetting to empty the dishwasher, he is already primed and prepared to be in that defensive stance due to male communication patterns. Hence, even the criticism can feel like an attack on his very character or even his worth, which is why a simple complaint about dishes can blow up into a massive argument.

Next, Dr. Berman talks about how communication in the bedroom is positively crucial, especially when it comes to women speaking up about what turns them on and what they need from their partners when it comes to sex.

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Sexual Shame & The Myth of the Perfect Labia Aug 17, 2021

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman talks about sexual shame and why so many people are uncomfortable talking about sex. Why is something so natural and so fundamental to the human species so taboo in our culture? And how can we start to break down those barriers and normalize human sexuality?

Next, Dr. Berman talks about how aging can impact our bodies and our sexual response. Although there is no such thing as a ‘sexpiration date,’ and older people can desire and benefit from sexual intimacy even in their golden years, the truth is that as we age, our sexual response can become complicated.

Your genitals will change in appearance as you age, but this doesn’t have to be a source of shame or low self-worth. Many women may be tempted by the idea of ‘vaginal rejuvenation,’ especially as they age and notice changes to their labia, but these operations come with lots of potential downsides.

Not only are these vaginal rejuvenation surgeries totally unnecessary, but Dr. Berman says they can actually harm the nerve-rich tissue in your labia and actually detract from your sexual pleasure in the future as well as cause physical pain and dryness.

The bottom line is that genitals come in all different sizes and shapes, and it’s time we start empowering women to love and cherish their vulvas rather than judge or critique them.

“What’s most attractive to men is that sense of confidence and comfort that a woman has in her own body and her sexuality,” Dr. Berman says. “They are not analyzing the length of your labia or how they’re sticking out or not sticking out.”

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Quantum Love Aug 11, 2021

On this episode of "The Language of Love," Dr. Laura Berman talks about the meaning of Quantum Love and how to implement Quantum Love principles in your own life, both inside and outside the bedroom. Scientific discoveries over the past 25-50 years have established that at our core, we are all pure energy. Our bodies have an energetic frequency that is always shifting and changing as a result of our thoughts and feeling states. That energy doesn’t stay within our bodies, but emanates out, impacting everyone around us, most especially our romantic partners.

Dr. Berman says that couples are like human tuning forks, constantly matching one another’s frequency. You and your mate are constantly entraining your energy to one another. Most of this happens outside conscious awareness, but not when you are practicing Quantum Love. In this episode, Dr. Berman teaches you how to consciously take charge of your body’s energetic frequency so that your partner matches to you; your wants, your desires, and the love you want to experience. You have everything you need to create the love life you desire right here, right now.

After you listen to this episode, go to Dr. Berman's website to find her Guided Quantum Love Meditations that will help you get grounded and open your heart so you can create the love you deeply desire and deserve.

Find Quantum Love on Amazon.

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Beyond Bullying: Jeffrey Marsh and the Power of Radical Self-Love Aug 05, 2021

On today's episode of "The Language of Love," Dr. Laura Berman sits down with Jeffrey Marsh. Marsh is an LGBTQ+ activist and social media personality known for their uplifting videos on TikTok. The genderqueer, genderfluid nonbinary author was dubbed "the internet's most beloved anti-bully," and on this episode, Marsh lives up to their reputation as one of the most inspiring and educational voices in the LGBTQ+ community. Marsh is a visionary who coaches people to learn to love and accept themselves, especially the parts of themselves that might feel wrong or flawed, or unlovable.

Dr. Berman sits down with Marsh to discuss everything from gender identity to pronouns to what it really means to live a fully authentic life. Marsh explains how they are able to live so bravely even in a world that can sometimes feel so filled with hate. As Marsh discusses their traumatic experiences with bullying as a child, Dr. Berman digs into the topic of childhood bullying from her perspective as a mom who struggled with watching her own kids being bullied.

Dr. Berman asks Marsh how parents can better support their children when they're enduring bullying, as her own efforts to intervene were often not successful. When school can feel like a warzone, it can lead kids to make tragic choices that can have devastating consequences. Marsh explains what they think parents should do to protect their kids and also how to teach kids to stand in their own power even as they're being judged and mocked for their differences.

Don't miss this inspiring episode that will educate, uplift, and empower you on your journey to wholehearted living.

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The Danger of Dead Bedrooms Jul 27, 2021

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman talks about the very real danger that comes from ‘dead bedrooms.’ As she explains, the longer you go without sex, the more difficult it is to reawaken that desire and save that sexual connection. From physical concerns like the decline of sexual response and atrophy in the genital region to the emotional valley that can grow between couples when sex falls by the wayside, Dr. Berman explains why it’s so important to get the flames going in the bedroom, because once that fire is doused, it becomes that much harder to reignite once again.

Next, Dr. Berman talks about how older women can grow into their sexual prowess as they age. She explains that while older men can be seen as ‘debonair’ or getting better with age, older women tend to be seen as unattractive or simply not seen at all. She explains why this myth is simply false and why sex can be enjoyable and life-affirming for baby boomers and beyond, and how to deal with common issues like vaginal dryness and body image issues as they arise. She explains how older women can lean into their wisdom and embrace life and sexuality both during and after menopause. “I’m really interested in helping women understand what a powerful, innervating, freeing and exciting time this can be,” she says about life after menopause.

If you have a question for Dr. Berman you can send a voice message to her on Speakpipe or send an email to languageoflovepod@gmail.com. She might answer your question on the next podcast!

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Why Vulnerability is So Sexy Jul 21, 2021

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman talks about demisexuality. This term is used to describe someone who only feels an attraction to someone after they have built an emotional connection with them. In other words, they generally don’t feel attraction to celebrities or attractive people they see walking down the street: First, they need to get to know a person before desire develops.

In a similar vein, Dr. Berman discusses arranged marriages and whether it is possible to create a sexual connection with someone you only meet on your wedding day. What happens if the person standing at the altar isn’t physically attracted to you, or vice versa? Is there a way you can build desire and attraction if the feelings aren’t there, or if they have diminished over time? Additionally, how can you build an emotional connection when someone when you feel completely distanced from your partner?

Next, Dr. Berman talks to a woman who discusses how the lockdown has changed her dating behavior. How was love changed post-pandemic? Dr. Berman acknowledges how being in quarantine has led to us feeling awkward and a bit uncomfortable with eye contact. Moving out from behind our screens and back into the real world can feel very daunting, and lead to feelings of vulnerability and uncertainty. How can we ease back into social activities and find our groove again, after so many months of being shut up at home with Zoom as our main social contact?

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Surrendering to your partner, Long-distance relationships, & Spiritual Transformation Jul 14, 2021

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman talks about the experience that catapulted her into a spiritual transformation, and ultimately led her to write her book “Quantum Love.” Dr. Berman discusses how the science of energy and the way energy moves in the body led her to deepen her practice as a sex therapist and focus her practice on ‘sex, body, and soul.’

Then, Dr. Berman talks to a woman who wants to know whether long-distance relationships are worth entertaining when the person lives thousands and thousands of miles away. How can you build an energetic connection with someone when they live many time zones away? She also talks with a man who has a history of long-distance relationships who says he struggles with giving himself self-care during his alone time, and finding a way to acknowledge his own worth and sexuality after being solo in the Covid shutdown for so long.

Dr. Berman talks with a woman who says she struggles with ‘masculine energy,’ and feeling like she is too aggressive or domineering with her partners. She feels like she takes on a position of power in her relationship in which she’s always deciding where they eat, what they do, and how they connect with each other. Dr. Berman advises she tries a ‘surrender date,’ in which she intentionally hands over power to her partner and he gets to decide everything on date night. He can pick the outfit she wears, the jewelry she puts on, the route they take to dinner, the place they eat and even what she orders! Essentially, she goes ‘cold turkey’ when it comes to giving up her dominant side and lets her partner completely take the reins.

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Waiting for 'The One' Jul 07, 2021

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman tackles the concept of a ‘new normal’ and the fundamental invitation the pandemic offered each of us: The opportunity to go inward and begin prioritizing connection over distraction, and quality over quantity when it comes to our relationships.

For many of us, the pandemic has put a pause on our sex lives. On today’s episode, Dr. Berman talks to a woman who says she hasn’t had sex for a year… and now has decided she wants to wait to have sex until she meets ‘the one.’ She is hesitant to be intimate with a partner too early because she knows it will create feelings of attachment even if the partner isn’t right for her or if the partner isn’t seeking a relationship. So how can she manage her feelings of desire while patiently waiting for ‘the one,’ and how can she explain to her dates that she isn’t going to be open to hookups or casual sexual connection?

Dr. Berman also talks about how masculine and feminine energy can impact our desire in the bedroom and the way we sexually respond to our partners. Many women are multi-taskers who have a difficult time letting go and being wholly present in the bedroom, as they are worried about the dirty dishes in the kitchen sink or the presentation they have to give at the office the next day. Dr. Berman discusses the concept of ‘choreplay’ and how being a more engaged and helpful partner around the house can create space for women to feel more relaxation and desire, leading to more sexual pleasure for both partners!

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Putting Love First, Even During Traumatic Times Jun 30, 2021

On today's episode of the "Language of Love," Dr. Laura Berman talks to a woman who wants to know how she can prioritize and nurture her relationship, even as she is dealing with the great trauma and terror of knowing that many of her loved ones are across the world living in a very dangerous situation. She wants to know: “How can you maintain physical and emotional intimacy when you are terrified for your family members who are living in a warzone?”

Dr. Berman’s advice is applicable for anyone who is grappling with loss and fear during this time of social upheaval. Prioritizing our love lives and maintaining intimacy can feel impossible and even shallow when there is so much pain all around us, but Dr. Berman helps reveal how safeguarding our bond and nurturing our relationship needs can actually serve us and helps us be of service in return.

Next up, Dr. Berman talks to a woman who wants to know how to tell when she is ready to date after a breakup. When is it time to put yourself back out there, especially as we slowly nudge our way out of the pandemic? How do you deal with feelings of anxiety and trepidation about dating again after heartache?

Then, Dr. Berman talks to a woman who asks what you should do when you and your partner have differing viewpoints on the virus. If one of you is pro-mask and pro-vaccine, but the other is afraid of the jab or is ready to stop wearing a mask and social distancing, how can you bridge that divide and ensure that you find a fair compromise that keeps you both feeling safe and respected?

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The Beautiful No and Beyond - Sheri Salata Jun 23, 2021

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman sits down with one of her dear friends Sheri Salata. Salata was an executive producer for “The Oprah Show” as well as the president of the Oprah Winfrey Network and Harpo Productions. Since leaving Oprah, Salata began to focus more intentionally on her own personal growth and leaned into the power of ‘the beautiful no.’

What is the beautiful no? Salata says that her people-pleasing nature and her desire to excel in her career and her personal relationships led her to struggle with setting boundaries and saying no, whether it was to opportunities or favors or constantly giving to those around her. Like many people, especially women, Salata says she struggled with codependence and was unable to prioritize her own needs and emotional health. This left her always feeling unfulfilled and disconnected from her own self-worth.

On this episode, Salata and Dr. Berman talk about Salata’s book “The Beautiful No,” and what led her to finally grow into the power of no and learn to not only be comfortable setting boundaries, but for it to come naturally and easily, without feelings of guilt or regret. This is an episode that is a must-listen for anyone who ever struggles with setting boundaries or putting themselves first!

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How to Get More Sex in Your Relationship Jun 16, 2021

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Berman talks live with callers on Clubhouse and gives real-time advice on sex, love, and relationships.

First, she helps a woman in a long-term relationship who says things have slowed down in the bedroom. Dr. Berman explains why ‘scheduled sex’ can actually be very beneficial in both re-igniting passion as well as increasing libidos that may have stalled once the honeymoon phase ended.

Next, Dr. Berman has an impromptu’s couples’ session with a young entrepreneur and his girlfriend who says their hectic schedules keep them from finding time to connect and enjoy their relationship. Dr. Berman explains how they can find ‘bite-sized’ intimacy throughout the day and ensure that they are prioritizing each other even as they pursue their career goals.

Later, Dr. Berman helps a man who spent years stuck in a sexless marriage. Since he wasn’t getting his needs met, he focused all of his energy into his work and let his sexual side disappear. After getting divorced, he wound up finding another partner who was also not able to meet his sexual needs due to her obsession with her phone.

Using her intuition and clinical training, Dr. Berman is able to peel back the layers on this caller’s pain and trace his trauma back to rejection from his mother in his childhood. “I think a big part of the answer is in you doing that healing work so that you stop attracting in and being attracted to women who withhold love, connection, acceptance, approval, intimacy from you. And in one way or another, you keep calling that into your life,” she explains.

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Radical Awakening with Dr. Shefali Tsabary Jun 09, 2021

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman sits down with one of her favorite writers and thinkers, Dr. Shefali Tsabary. They discuss Dr. Shefali’s latest book “A Radical Awakening,” and what she wants women to know about stepping into their power as well as owning the fact that they are often unconscious co-creators of their own suffering.

Together Dr. Berman and Dr. Shefali break down the differences between men and women and how institutions like marriage can contribute to these power imbalances. Dr. Shefali offers actionable tips on how women can begin to lean into their feminine gifts and awaken to their true power.

They tackle the idea of how rigid social expectations and an obsession of success and wealth has led to generations of suffering and disconnect. How can we get back to our true source and find lasting peace and worth, while still achieving our goals, and while still loving and parenting and living in a way that aligns with our core values?

Listen in to hear this powerhouse of a speaker and author share her deep wisdom with Dr.

Berman on this must-listen episode.

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Should You Be Friends with an Ex? Jun 02, 2021

On today’s episode of the “Language of Love,” Dr. Berman is talking sex, love, and relationships with callers on Clubhouse.

First, Dr. Berman helps a woman in a 16-year relationship who is feeling like the stress of the pandemic is finally taking its toll on her marriage. She says that while she is a very intuitive and sensitive person, her partner is much more stoic and pragmatic. He often talks to her in a cold tone or in a way she finds hurtful, but when she points this out to him, he doesn’t really understand what she is talking about. How can a sensitive partner help their spouse understand that their tone and body language can come across as rude or aggressive even if that is not their intention?

Next, Dr. Berman helps a woman who wants to know if it is ever okay to be friends with an ex. What do you do if you want to stay friends with an ex-partner, but your current partner thinks it is inappropriate?

Then, Dr. Berman helps a man who was suffering in an abusive relationship for years before he reached out for help. Although we may not realize that men can be victims of abuse and harassment, this caller’s story proves that women aren’t the only ones who can be abused by their intimate partners. Although the abusive relationship has now ended, the ex is still stalking him and trying to harm him. What can he do to protect himself, and how can we better support male victims of violence?

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Martha Beck and the Way of Integrity May 26, 2021

On today's episode of the "Language of Love," Dr. Berman sits down with the acclaimed author, coach, and speaker Martha Beck. Known as "Oprah's life coach," Beck's thought-provoking wisdom has helped thousands of people learn how to lean into their self-worth and carve out a life that is meaningful and joy-inducing.

Martha Beck (who authored "The Way of Integrity" and "Finding Your Own North Star") is one of Dr. Berman's personal favorites. On this episode, Beck talks to Dr. Berman about how to "get into integrity," and what integrity means when it comes to love, sex, and relationships.

Beck also talks with Dr. Berman about the Dark Wood of Error, which is a place many of us might be right now, without even realizing it. How can you tell when you are in the Dark Wood of Error, and how can you get out of it?

Listen in to find out what Martha Beck has to say and how her wisdom can help you to fulfill your life's purpose and find the love you deserve.

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How to Get Out of the Friendzone May 19, 2021

On this episode of the “Language of Love,” Dr. Berman talks to a woman in a 35-year relationship. Now that their kids are grown and out of the house, she and her husband are struggling to connect and figure out their new relationship as partners outside of their roles as parents. How can empty-nesters lean into their new freedom and figure out their identities as lovers outside of being parents and teammates in raising a family?

Next, Dr. Berman talks to a woman who wants to know how to figure out if a new partner is sexually compatible before you even enter the bedroom. If your kink is BDSM, how do you find a partner who shares the same desires? What is the right way to broach your kink to new partners, and how soon is too soon? Dr. Berman weighs in.

Then, Dr. Berman tackles the subject of “friends with benefits.” How can you get your friend to view you in a more romantic light, and is there really such a thing as the ‘friendzone’?

Dr. Berman also gives advice on how to ‘shoot your shot’ to a divorcee who is dating for the first time since her marriage ended, and is struggling to figure out how to put herself out there and meet guys without seeming desperate or being too forward. Should you wait for a guy to approach you, or do men like it when women are assertive and ask them out? Dr. Berman reveals what she thinks and gives advice to daters who are scared to put themselves out there.

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The Truth about Death, Loss, and the Taboo of Grief with Anita Moorjani May 12, 2021

On this very powerful episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Berman talks to Anita Moorjani about the loss of her son Sammy and how her grief makes people uncomfortable. If you have ever lost someone you love or you are struggling to cope with grief, this is a must-hear episode that will bring comfort and clarity to your grief journey.

Moorjani has a unique perspective on death and dying, as she had a near-death experience in which she almost died from terminal cancer, only to be brought back to life and make a miraculous full recovery. (You can read about this amazing journey in Moorjani’s book, “Dying to Be Me,” which is one of Dr. Berman’s favorite books).

Having been to the ‘other side,’ Moorjani offers her wisdom and perspective about what happens we die and what we can do here in the present to cope with loss. And is it possible to find connection with people who have passed on, to communicate with those who are no longer with us in physical form? Moorjani thinks we can, but we have to be sure that we are vibrating at a high frequency and in a space of lightness and openness in order to be able to receive these messages from our loved ones.

Dr. Berman also delves into how difficult these past weeks have been. “Grief isn’t a straight line,” she says, explaining that while she had been previously feeling peace and comfort, she has lately been struggling with great despair. With Moorjani’s help, Dr. Berman explores these new depths of loss and offers guidance and light to anyone listening who may be dealing with the same pain and trauma.

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When Sex is in the Way of Love May 05, 2021

On today’s unique episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Berman talks about what to do when sex gets in the way of love. Yes, while normally Dr. Berman addresses issues like lack of libido or lack of sexual pleasure, today she is talking about what happens when TOO much sexual pleasure gets in the way of the love you want.

First, Dr. Berman helps a woman who says that she is tired of men who seem to only view her as a sexual object. While she dates a lot and has no problem meeting men, she says that she is constantly dealing with guys who are too overtly sexual at first and don’t seem interested in her beyond sexual gratification. How can she attract a man who is actually interested in a relationship and not just hooking up? How can you create a dating profile that is flirty and fun, while still making it clear that you are only looking for monogamy and serious relationships, not casual sex?

Next, Dr. Berman helps a man who is dating a woman 20 years his junior. While their sex life is fantastic and he is having a great time, he is tired of his friends and family assuming that he is just her sugar daddy and that this isn’t a real relationship. How can he get people to take their relationship seriously, and what should he do about the fact that she is currently in financial distress and could use his monetary support? Is it ever possible for May-December relationships to last, especially when there is a power imbalance and one person has all the money, while the other has the youth and beauty? And what do you if your friends aren’t respectful of your romantic choices or don’t take your younger partner seriously?

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The Empath's Survival Guide with Anita Moorjani Apr 28, 2021

Have you ever been told you are too sensitive? On today's episode of "The Language of Love," Dr. Laura Berman talks with the incomparable Anita Moorjani, author of "Sensitive is the New Strong” about what it means to be highly sensitive. What careers are best suited for highly sensitive? How can you tell if you are highly sensitive or if your child is?

Dr. Berman and Anita Moorjani also discuss the difference between being an empath and being highly sensitive. Turns out they are not the same thing, and it is very important for people to realize the difference between the two, especially if they suspect that they might have empath qualities.

Although being an empath can be very powerful and very meaningful, it also comes with risks, especially if you aren’t aware of how to harness your empath abilities. Empaths take on the emotions and energy of other people around them, literally experiencing their sorrow and anger and fear as if it is happening to them. So empaths can very easily become ungrounded and lose their connection to their own energetic state and therefore become unable to access their own personal power. And many times empaths struggle with codependency and a need to ‘fix’ other people, believing as Dr. Berman says, “If you need me, you won’t leave me.”

Learn how empaths can tap into their unique strengths without falling prey to these common pitfalls on this special episode of “The Language of Love” with Anita Moorjani…and stay tuned for part two of Dr. Berman’s interview with Moorjani coming soon!

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Breaking Down Barriers to Sexual Pleasure Apr 21, 2021

On today's episode of "The Language of Love," Dr. Berman helps people who are facing physical roadblocks on their journey to sexual pleasure, in particular women who are suffering the loss of desire and arousal due to menopause.

Dr. Berman first helps a woman going through menopause who is dealing with unpleasant symptoms like rashes after intimacy and difficulty reaching orgasm. She says she feels as though her clitoris is difficult to find and that things are dry and uncomfortable down there. Is diminishing estrogen causing her rashes and dryness? How can older women protect their sexual health when faced with these unique challenges? And how can you talk to your doctor about these sexual symptoms in a proactive way without feeling embarrassed?

Next, Dr. Berman helps a woman with lichen sclerosis who has extreme pain and discomfort during sex. Around 1 in 80 women suffer from lichen sclerosis, but it is most common among middle-aged and elderly women. This inflammatory condition can be very painful and it often takes a toll on a woman’s sex life. Is there any way to preserve sexual pleasure when pain makes you afraid to be touched? And how can she help her partner feel loved and desired even when sexual intimacy sometimes has to take a back seat due to her condition?

Even when sexual challenges can complicate your ability to reach orgasm or achieve pleasure, on this episode, Dr. Berman shows that is still possible to find treatments and options that can help to support your journey back to sexual wellness. Often this will require treatment, sex therapy, or talking to your doctor, but as Dr. Berman reveals, with small mindful changes, you can continue having passionate sex even as you age or face medical conditions. Most importantly, however, you have to continue communicating with your partner, and seek ways to keep that physical connection and romance alive, even when sexual intimacy isn’t always possible. There is no such thing as a ‘sexpiration’ date, as long as couples are willing to keep prioritizing sexual pleasure and working together to create great sex.

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Mismatched Libidos Apr 14, 2021

This episode of "The Language of Love" is all about mismatched libidos and what to do when you and your partner don't have the same level of desire. Mismatched libidos are one of the most common issues that couples face and it often leads to the end of relationships, so this very special episode can be invaluable in helping to preserve your marriage and your sexual pleasure.

First, a woman asks for help restoring her lost libido, as her sex drive tanked after she began anti-depressants. Anti-depressants are notorious for sexual side effects, yet they are invaluable in treating depression and anxiety. Luckily, it is possible to continue taking your medications without sacrificing passion and pleasure. Dr. Berman offers advice for how to sex-proof your relationship even when you are taking SSRIs and other psychiatric medications, as well as how to talk to your partner about your decreased libido and help them to still feel loved and desired even when you are not in the mood.

Then, a caller reaches out because her husband is rarely interested in sex, and when they do have intimacy, he seems distracted and stressed out. She is eager to have more sex, but not if he is doing so out of duress and his heart isn’t really in it. But could it be that his history of ED is making him scared to have sex? Dr. Berman discusses how erectile dysfunction can make men afraid to engage in intimacy, even if they actually desire sex because they fear appearing less masculine or displeasing their partner. Over time, this becomes problematic because the less sex you have, the more accustomed you will be to not having it, decreasing your libido and harming your sexual response.

So how can this couple get their sex life back on track and help to decrease his fear of performance issues?

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Living Your Most Authentic Life In and Out of the Bedroom Apr 07, 2021

On today's episode of "The Language of Love," Dr. Berman helps listeners find out what may be holding them back from living their most authentic life, inside and outside the bedroom. From gender identity to sexual fantasies to finding love, Dr. Berman helps listeners create their most passionate and fulfilling lives with vulnerability, honesty, and daring.

Dr. Berman first talks to a woman who fantasizes about watching her partner have sex with other women (known as a cuckquean fantasy, or cuckold fantasy when the genders are reversed). Why does she have this fantasy and should she act on it in real life, such as by having a threesome? Is it ever a good idea to invite another person into your bedroom, and why does she want to see her husband pleasuring another woman?

Next, Dr. Berman hears from a transgender caller who wants to transition but is afraid to take that first step. Should she take that leap and start living full-time as a woman, even if it leads to the heartbreaking end of her marriage, or is there therapy that can help reverse gender dysphoria? Should she risk everything to live as a woman, or continue staying in the closet and keeping her true desires a secret?

Last, Dr. Berman hears from a caller who is looking for her soulmate but is beginning to feel frustrated by her experiences dating online. How you can stay patient while waiting for love? How do you strike that balance between letting go of control and unrealistic expectations while also being proactive when it comes to finding love?

Dr. Berman gives her best advice for how to navigate dating, especially online dating and dating during a pandemic. It is possible to actively search for love without feeling incomplete or desperate? How can you find wholeness even when you are single and everyone around you seems happily coupled up?

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Finding and Keeping Passion in Long-term Relationships Mar 31, 2021

Is it possible to be monogamous for life? In this episode of "The Language of Love," Dr. Berman talks about whether or not monogamy is truly sustainable.

Next, Dr. Berman helps a caller who says her husband wants her to talk dirty, but she doesn't know how to get started. How can a 'good girl' tap into her naughty side without feeling inauthentic or as though she is playing a porn star role?

Dr. Berman then helps a woman who says she and her longtime partner struggle to "get past the silliness" in their relationship in order to get to the sexiness. How can lovers continue to find passion and excitement when they are also best friends who love to clown around with each other?

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Quantum Love (and a Dash of Quantum Sex) Mar 24, 2021

In today's episode, Dr. Berman talks about the energetic shift which changed her parenting style for good and how this "Quantum Love" practice also helped her son Ethan tap into his powerful empathy without losing his own boundaries. After writing a groundbreaking book about the concept of Quantum Love 4 years ago, Dr. Berman reveals how her profound grief over the recent loss of her son Sammy has renewed and deepened her practice of Quantum Love...And she explains how listeners can learn to access these life-changing benefits, starting right now.

Book link on amazon:

https://www.amazon.com/Quantum-Love-Atomic-Energy-Relationship/dp/1401948855/ref=sr_1_2?dchild=1&keywords=quantum+love+dr+laura+berman&qid=1616460537&sr=8-2

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Talking to Your Kids about Sex Mar 17, 2021

In this important episode, Dr. Berman gives tips to listeners on how they can raise sexually healthy kids. With so many teenagers having unlimited access to porn thanks to the Internet, Dr. Berman explains what parents should teach their kids about porn and why today’s porn can be so dangerous, especially for teenagers who are still forming their sexual desires.

First, a woman writes in asking Dr. Berman for help after her 9-year-old accidentally walked in on her husband giving her oral sex. What can these parents do to help ensure their child isn’t ‘scarred’ by this embarrassing incident?

Next, Dr. Berman helps a parent who wants to know if it is okay to let her teenage daughter have her boyfriend stay the night. Is it okay to accept your teenager being sexually active or does that set a poor parenting standard?

Dr. Laura Berman's website: https://drlauraberman.com/

The Language of Love Podcast: https://drlauraberman.com/pages/the-language-of-love

*Please note: this episode was recorded before the heartbreaking death of Sammy Chapman, Dr. Berman’s son. For resources to help you talk to your kids about the dangers of prescription pills and synthetic drugs, click here.

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Losing Sammy Part 2 Mar 10, 2021

In Losing Sammy Part 2, Dr. Berman draws back the curtains on her recent ‘grief retreat’ to the redwood forest. Rather than run from the terrifying emotions, Dr. Berman talks about how she intentionally stepped into that darkness and let faith guide her as she went heart-first into that fathomless pain.

From somatic therapy to grief yoga to breathwork, she sunk into her most primal and terrifying feelings about the loss of her son. She talks about how the process not only helped her to start wrapping her arms around some of her grief but also re-introduced her to her childlike connection to the spirit world and the unseen.

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Sex Therapy 101 Mar 03, 2021

Have you ever wondered if you could benefit from sex therapy? On today’s episode of the “Language of Love,” Dr. Berman explains who really needs sex therapy and when sex therapy is the most productive.

First, Dr. Berman helps a 43-year-old woman who says sex hurts lately and she isn’t becoming lubricated like she used to.

Dr. Berman also gets an email from a lesbian who has recently begun dating a transwoman. However, her new partner still has male genitalia--which makes this lifelong lesbian uncomfortable because she has never interacted with a penis and has no desire to do so.

Finally, Dr. Berman takes a voice message from a man who says his libido has disappeared lately and he is feeling rundown and out of sorts--could it be low T?

Dr. Laura Berman's website: https://drlauraberman.com/

The Language of Love Podcast: https://drlauraberman.com/pages/the-language-of-love

*Please note: this episode was recorded before the heartbreaking death of Sammy Chapman, Dr. Berman’s son. For resources to help you talk to your kids about the dangers of prescription pills and synthetic drugs, click here.

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Am I Normal? Feb 24, 2021

In today’s episode of the “Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman is tackling questions from listeners who are worried “Am I normal?”

First, we hear from a listener who worries that her rape fantasies make her a ‘bad’ feminist. Dr. Berman explains why rape fantasies are so common and why they happen, and what women are really fantasizing about when they fantasize about rape.

Next, Dr. Berman helps a divorced man who is newly into wearing women’s panties. He has also been gotten into ‘forced feminization’ fantasies in which he is compelled to dress as a woman. Now he is wondering if this means he is transgender or just into cross-dressing.

Hear Dr. Berman tackle these and other embarrassing sex questions on this episode of “Am I Normal?”

Dr. Laura Berman's website: https://drlauraberman.com/

The Language of Love Podcast: https://drlauraberman.com/pages/the-language-of-love

*Please note: this episode was recorded before the heartbreaking death of Sammy Chapman, Dr. Berman’s son. For resources to help you talk to your kids about the dangers of prescription pills and synthetic drugs, click here.

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Losing Sammy Feb 17, 2021

In today’s very raw but very necessary episode, Dr. Berman discusses the recent passing of her 16-year-old son Sammy. She explains what happened that tragic night, why she decided to share it with the media, and how she has been coping during this whirlwind. She also reveals how the outpouring of support from her family and friends and even strangers have caused her to confront one of her core childhood wounds: Her inability to accept help or emotional caretaking from others due to a subconscious fear of being a burden.

But she says she has discovered: “Letting others help me helps them. When I allow myself to be comforted and supported, I offer my loved ones the opportunity to be comforting and supportive. And that truly is a gift...for both of us.”

Please join Dr. Berman’s Facebook group Parents for Safer Children or help spread her fundraiser for the Organization for Social Media Safety. This national nonprofit is the first consumer protection organization solely focused on making social media a safer place for everyone, especially for the most vulnerable like our kids.

Full Link to the Facebook Group:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/parentsunitedagainstdrugadditctiondeath/

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Valentine's Day Blues Feb 10, 2021

In today’s episode, Dr. Berman helps a husband who says his sex life has totally tanked due to the pandemic—between kids and online school and constant togetherness, he says intimacy has fallen by the wayside and his wife feels more like his roommate than his sexual partner.

But, first: Dr. Berman gets a voicemail from a woman who is scared that her adult daughter is being pressured into sex by her online boyfriend before she is ready. Dr. Berman explains how to gauge when it is the ‘right’ time to have sex, and how people can navigate physical intimacy when we live in a world of masks and social distancing.

And what to do about the Valentine’s Day blues? Dr. Berman helps a woman who says she is dreading Valentine’s Day because her partner always disappoints her on this day of romance.

Listen in for all of Dr. Berman’s advice and write languageoflovepod@gmail.com with your own questions, or leave a voice message for the sex therapist here. Shy? Don’t worry! You can be anonymous.

*Please note: this episode was recorded before the heartbreaking death of Sammy Chapman, Dr. Berman’s son. For resources to help you talk to your kids about the dangers of prescription pills and synthetic drugs, click here.

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The Language of Love Trailer Feb 06, 2021

Introducing The Language of Love, a weekly podcast where America's top sex, love, and relationship expert, Dr. Laura Berman, shares her compassionate, humorous, and no-nonsense advice: answering listener questions and interviewing thought leaders and experts on relevant topics. Dr. Berman is ready to help you create the fulfilling and passionate love life you deserve, regardless of your relationship status, gender, or sexual orientation. Are you ready to get started?

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