Java with Juli - Making Sense of God and Sex

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#373: How We Beat a Porn Addiction in Our (Millennial) Marriage Aug 09, 2021

Show notes

When Clinton and Charity Muñoz sought help to overcome a porn addiction, Clinton was told to memorize more scripture and Charity was told to wear him out sexually ...and things got worse.

Millennial marriages are vulnerable to pornography like no generation before them — and there is a lot of bad advice out there. But we have good news! The Muñoz family, Authentic Intimacy, and others are learning to have conversations about sexual addiction that not only point people to Jesus, but to the professional help they need as well. In this episode, Juli invites Clinton to share how their new marriage actually triggered his porn use; Charity admits that she couldn't celebrate Clinton's small victories early on (and why that's OK); and together they explain how healing individually, as a couple, and in community were all crucial components to their recovery.

Guests: Clinton and Charity Muñoz with Restored2More.com

Show notes:

Check out the Wisephone at Techless.com

Restored2More.com

Learn more about online Groups & Courses with Restored2More

Java #364: How to Work Your Way Back to Sexual Intimacy After Infidelity

Q&A: Is Homemade Porn OK in Marriage? (Q&A video with Jonathan Daugherty)

How To Deal With Porn Struggles When Dating (Juli's blog)

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#36: What Kind of Love Are You Making? Aug 02, 2021

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If there is one place in the Bible that gives women permission to have fun, to explore and to enjoy sexual pleasure, it's the poetic Song of Solomon. In this episode, Juli Slattery and Linda Dillow have a candid conversation about why many married women dread sex, yet how the Song of Solomon gives women freedom and permission to say no to sex, to initiate sex, to enjoy sex and to feel sexy. Grab your Java and join us!

Guests: Linda Dillow and Elena Thomason

Show Notes:

Join an Online Book Study this Fall

Get the "Passion Pursuit" Bible study

Get the "En Busca de la Pasión" Bible study

Join Juli for God, Sex, and Your Marriage at Winshape Marriage, Oct. 29-31

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#372: How To Recognize Domestic Abuse Jul 26, 2021

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Wearing sunglasses on rainy days. Using turtlenecks to hide choke marks. Running. Hiding.

Ramona Probasco never thought she would do any of these things.

"I never thought it would happen to me. I always thought, 'No way. Not him. Not me. Not us.' I never wanted to call it what it was: abuse."

In this episode, Juli invites Dr. Ramona to share her story. You'll hear how to distinguish domestic abuse from common conflict in marriage, get a glimpse into the mindset of an abusive spouse, and better understand why finding the right kind of help can be difficult. Grab your Java and join us.

Guest: Dr. Ramona Probasco

Show notes:

www.drramona.com

"Healing Well and Living Free From An Abusive Relationship" Dr. Ramona's book*

Resource page on Dr. Ramona's website

Enough is Enough blog by Gary Thomas

Java #367: Why People Are More Important Than Marriage (exclusive content)

Join Juli for "God, Sex & Your Marriage" at the WinShape Retreat Center, Oct 29-31

When Your Child Has Been Sexually Abused, on the Authentic Intimacy blog

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*This is an affiliate link. AI may earn referral fees from qualifying purchases.

#371: Schedule Sex and Dry Cleaning In the Same Conversation? It Works Jul 19, 2021

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Being intentional about the business of marriage builds intimacy. When couples make decisions together, their emotions and buy-in follow. In this episode, Juli talks with Bill & Pam Farrel about their 40-year habit of a weekly marriage meeting. Every Monday they meet, pray, talk about finances, their kids, their priorities for the week—and yes, they schedule sex. Sound unromantic? Perhaps. But they're still married, still in love, and still getting down to business in the bedroom.

Guests: Bill & Pam Farrel

Show Notes:

Join Juli for "God, Sex & Your Marriage" at the WinShape Retreat Center, Oct 29-31

Love-Wise.com

"Marriage Meet Ups" Planners for Couples

Predictability and Passion Can Improve a Boring Sex Life (blog by Juli)

Don't Be Spontaneous in Marriage (blog by Hannah Nitz)

Join our "Finding the Hero In Your Husband, Revisited" launch team

"Red Hot Monogamy" by Bill & Pam Farrel*

"Men are Like Waffles, Women are Like Spaghetti" by Bill & Pam Farrel*

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#370: Why the Single Life Is Uniquely Meaningful and Totally Ordinary Jul 12, 2021

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Do you feel stuck somewhere between "not married" and "not called to singleness"? Truth be told, few single Christians feel called to full-time ministry. Yet this time that we often treat as a "waiting room" is not that at all. In this episode, Juli invites Dr. Dani Treweek to share her thoughts on the significance of the single life, why being a Christian single doesn't mean you're called to singleness, and why celibacy is not extraordinary.

Guest: Dr. Dani Treweek

Show Notes:

www.danielletreweek.com

SingleMinded.Community

1 Corinthians 7:29-35 (ESV)

"Sex & the Single Girl" by Dr. Juli Slattery

"Rethinking Sexuality" by Dr. Juli Slattery

Java #95: The Dating Manifesto

What Do I Do With My Sexual Desires? (Juli's blog)

Covenant Love, Intimacy, & the Single Christian (a video Q&A from Juli)

Java Pack: Single & Sexual (A selection of Java with Juli episodes, study guide, and a list of follow-resources.)

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#369: Changing the Way We Talk About Porn (Because Women Struggle Too) Jul 05, 2021

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"I had one woman say, 'I struggle with masturbation.' And she just started crying. And then she said, 'I've never said that word out loud.'"

In this Java with Juli, Joy Skarka recalls her experiences walking with women struggling with porn, and shares from her own story of addiction to freedom. Despite rising numbers of women using porn and erotica, we still tend to refer to it as a "guy thing." Juli, Joy, and Jonathan Daugherty sit down for a conversation about creating safe places for women to come forward and ask for help. Grab your Java and join us!

Guests: Joy Skarka and Jonathan Daugherty (https://2.bebroken.com)

Show notes:

Learn more about the Wisephone at https://techless.com/
"3 Things I (Wish I Hadn't) Learned From Pornography" Joy's blog
"3 Things to Remember About Sexual Sin & Grace" Joy's blog
"3 Things Women Want You To Know About Their Addiction to Porn" Joy's blog
"Grace Based Recovery" by Jonathan Daugherty*
Java #323: Bye Awkward Side Hugs! Getting Over Our Fear of Opposite-Sex Friendships
"Beyond Awkward Side Hugs" by Bronwyn Lea*
"Is Homemade Porn Okay In Marriage?" Q&A Video with Jonathan Daugherty
Find a Christian counselor near you. Here's what to look for.
"What Do I Do With My Sexual Desires?" (Juli's blog)

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#368: Aging Bodies Can Still Enjoy Sexuality. Are You Giving Up Too Soon? Jun 28, 2021

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There's ED (erectile dysfunction), PE (premature ejaculation), and PS — premature surrender. According to our guest, many Boomer couples are giving up on sex way too soon.

In this episode, Juli welcomes back Dr. Doug Rosenau for a conversation to help you confront challenges to your sex life as you grow older. You'll hear how you and your spouse can encourage one another not to give up on sexual intimacy, gain a new perspective on grieving your losses, and expand your definition of sexuality beyond just intercourse. Is there ever a time to give up on sex? Grab your Java and listen in to find out.

Guest: Dr. Doug Rosenau

Find all of the resources from this episode at https://www.authenticintimacy.com/resources/32035/368-aging-bodies-can-still-enjoy-sexuality

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#367: Exchange Online Distractions for Real-Life Intimacy Jun 21, 2021

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"To be completely honest, the first two or three days, I was shocked by classic symptoms of withdrawal. I found myself so desperate for a hit of dopamine – that good feeling you get when you get a notification – that I would check the weather app! That was one of many moments when the Lord would say, 'Why are you searching for something that doesn't satisfy?'"

In this Java with Juli, Asheritah Ciuciu shares how fasting from social media helped her turn down the volume of the world and hear the voice of the Lord just a little bit better.

Guest: Asheritah Ciuciu

Find Asheritah at https://onethingalone.com

For links to all the resources mentioned in this episode at https://www.authenticintimacy.com/resources/31894/367-exchange-online-distractions-for-real-life-intimacy

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#95: The Dating Manifesto Jun 14, 2021

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Are you tired of being single? Maybe you've been rethinking that 21-point list of "non-negotiable" qualities you need in a spouse? Pull up a chair, grab your Java, and share some laughs with a friend who is walking right alongside you.

In this episode, Lisa Anderson brings the stories and lessons learned from her own journey as a single Christian woman. She'll talk about the impact culture had on her approach to dating, offer her thoughts on realistic expectations when looking for a spouse, and remind us that both grief and celebration are a part of the deal.

Guest: Lisa Anderson from The Boundless Podcast at www.boundless.org

Check out Lisa's book, "The Dating Manifesto"

Join our webinar series, "Sexual Pleasure: How To Get Your Mind and Body to Work Together" at www.authenticintimacy.com/event

Find links to all the resources mentioned in this episode at https://www.authenticintimacy.com/resources/31715/95-the-dating-manifesto

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#366: No More Pushing Past the Pain! God Cares About Your Sexual Pleasure Jun 07, 2021

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What do you do when sex hurts? Do you white-knuckle your way through it, because it's your "duty"? In this episode, you'll hear why trying to push through the pain doesn't work — nor is it what God desires for you. We'll offer advice to help you find the right provider or therapist to help you understand and treat the reason for the pain you're experiencing. You're not alone. Grab your Java and join us.

Guests: Dr. Carol Tanksley, OB-GYN and Joy Skarka

Show notes:

Sexual Pleasure: How to Get Your Mind and Body to Work Together at authenticintimacy.com/event (webinar series)
www.drcarolministries.com
Check out Dr. Carol's video course, yoursexpectations.com
"Passion Pursuit," a 10-week study through the Song of Solomon from Linda Dillow & Dr. Juli Slattery
"Rethinking Sexuality" by Dr. Juli Slattery

Find links for all these resources in our show notes at https://www.authenticintimacy.com/resources/31517/366-no-more-pushing-past-the-pain-god-cares-about-your-sexual-pleasure

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