Java with Juli - Making Sense of God and Sex

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#383: What Do I Do With Disappointment in Marriage? Oct 18, 2021

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Have you tried to "fix" problems in your marriage, only to end up feeling distant? Disappointment is common to every marriage, but it doesn't have to mean the end of intimacy. You have unique power in your marriage! Join Juli and Hannah for a conversation about how to use your power to build intimacy—instead of unknowingly sabotaging it. (Been there, done that.)

Guest: Hannah Nitz

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Join us for the webinar "How to Use Your Power To Build Intimacy"
"Finding the Hero in Your Husband, Revisited" Juli's new book*
"3 Things I Want You To Know As I Launch a Countercultural Book" (Juli's blog)
"A Woman's Greatest Dilemma, Pt 1 " (Juli's blog)
Hannah's podcast, There's More

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#382: Why We're Not Afraid To Ask Tough Questions About Sex & Christianity Oct 11, 2021

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If you feel the pressure to believe that Christians are close-minded and a growing minority, you're in for an encouraging surprise. Join Juli and Rebecca McLaughlin, author of Confronting Christianity, to hear why Christianity can not only withstand the toughest questions, but how they become signposts that point people to Jesus.

Guest: Rebecca McLaughlin, rebeccamclaughlin.org

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Confronting Christianity by Rebecca McLaughlin*

Finding the Hero in Your Husband, Revisited by Dr. Juli Slattery

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Java #312: Born Again This Way: Rachel's Story (exclusive content)

The Secular Creed by Rebecca McLaughlin*

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#381: "Show It Off" or "Cover It Up": Messages That Shape Our Body Image Oct 04, 2021

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What messages have you been told about your body and your sexuality?

At the coffee shop with Juli are two friends; join these women from different cultures for a candid conversation about what they were told and believed about their sexuality. Their stories are unique, but they share a common thread: the messages were powerful and confusing. Listen in to hear how God brings redemption to their lives to walk free from body shame.

"A White theological understanding of sexuality cannot be the only voice. You have to leave room for our voice, for our experiences... If you leave room for our voice too, we find a more robust, a more consistent biblical understanding of sexuality". –Dawn Jones

Guests: Danisa Suarez, LPC, MA and Dawn Jones, LPC, MA

"Rethinking Sexuality" (Juli's book)

Legacy Counseling & Consulting, Dawn Jones's Practice

CCI Counseling, Jorge & Danisa Suarez's Practice

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#380: How To Have Honest Conversations With Your Kids About Sex Sep 27, 2021

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How do you create an environment in your home where your kids feel OK talking about sex? When they struggle, how do you protect their privacy and still get support from other parents? And how do share your own brokenness with them as you begin to have real conversations? This parenting thing isn't easy. We want to help. Grab your Java and join us!

Guests: Jonathan Daugherty and John Fort from Be Broken Ministries

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Check out the Wisephone by Techless at https://techless.com

Honest Talk by John Fort*

Hear Jonathan's testimony, #175: When Men Are Addicted to Porn, Pt 1 – available from the archive through Oct. 30. Listen now!

Hear John's testimony, #283: I Was The Abuser – available from the archive through Oct. 30. Listen now!

Seven Reasons Kids Turn to Porn & What You Can Do About It (the AI blog)

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#379: Is Your Love Life All That You Want It To Be? Sep 20, 2021

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If you've ever felt this way about your sex life, you're not alone. Many married couples settle for unsatisfying sex – or none at all. In this episode, Dr. Juli Slattery and Gary Thomas grab java in a crowded hotel lobby – but that doesn't stop them from having a candid conversation about God's good gift of knock-your-socks-off sex. That's right – it's God's gift! You don't have to feel guilty or ashamed for wanting it. But you do have to take the initiative to make it happen. That's why we're here. Grab your Java and join us!

Guest: Gary Thomas

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Join Juli online at the The Married Sex Conference where she'll sharing about why God made you sexually incompatible.*

"Married Sex" by Gary Thomas and Debra Fileta*

"Passion Pursuit" a 10-week Bible study through the Song of Solomon with Juli Slattery and Linda Dillow

Your Sexual Differences Can Make You Better Lovers (Juli's blog)

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#378: How One Church Learned To Embrace the Beauty of Broken Sep 13, 2021

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Imagine there is a sign on the door of your church that says, "Please leave your sexual brokenness on the steps outside." Its ridiculous! Sadly, its how many people feel.

In this episode, Juli talks with leaders from The Austin Stone Community Church. They share how the church started a conversation about same-sex attraction and followed it with a discipleship group to answer questions, share God's design, and connect sexuality to the greater story of the gospel. To their surprise (and despite the pandemic), the group kept growing.

Are you ready to embrace sexual brokenness in your church? Or is your brokenness still sitting outside on the steps?

Guests: Kate Terry & Zach Verrett

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The Austin Stone Community Church

"Rethinking Sexuality" by Dr. Juli Slattery

When Cancel Culture Invades the Church (Juli's blog)

Compassion That Doesn't Compromise (Juli's blog)

#166: We're All Sexually Broken

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#377: How to Care For a Friend (Or Yourself) When the Marriage Doesn't Survive Sep 06, 2021

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Marriages don't always survive the tough stuff. Wounds heal. Addicts find sobriety. Forgiveness is extended. Life comes back — sometimes without reconciliation.

In this episode, Juli is joined by Stacey Sadler, who shares her story of wearing thin the pages of "The Power of a Praying Wife" and then overcoming the shame of filing for divorce. Today she is a certified counselor and helps other women set boundaries, work toward recovery and, when necessary, leave abusive marriages. You'll hear how God rejoices over the woman (or man) who finds healing, protection, and wholeness — even when the journey begins with God's provision of divorce.

Guest: Stacey Sadler, MA LPC

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#376: What Does God's Word Actually Say About Divorce & Remarriage?

#373: How We Beat a Porn Addiction in Our (Millennial) Marriage

#372: How To Recognize Domestic Abuse

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#376: What Does God's Word Actually Say About Divorce and Remarriage? Aug 30, 2021

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Friends, please note that we don't go into detail about how to recognize abuse in marriage. We have other conversations about abusive marriages that we encourage you to listen to! (See the links below). This episode's purpose is to look at what the biblical texts say about marriage, divorce and remarriage. Our guest is a biblical scholar, but he is not a counselor; his comments are not nuanced nor intended to be applied to situations of domestic abuse or trauma. If you have wounds that are still tender from a difficult or abusive marriage, you may want to skip this episode for now.

A few other episodes to listen to first:

Java #372: How to Recognize Domestic Abuse

Java #377: How to Care For a Friend (Or Yourself) When the Marriage Doesn't Survive

Java #167: Why People Are More Important Than Marriage

Enough i s Enough blog by Gary Thomas

From pornography to financial infidelity, domestic abuse to emotional affairs — it's no surprise more Christians are asking: what exactly qualifies as "marital unfaithfulness"? Juli welcomes Bible teacher and pastor Mike Fabarez to walk you through the scriptures that address divorce and help you apply them to difficult questions that aren't directly addressed in the Bible.

More tough questions. Less small talk. Grab your Java and join us!

Guest: Mike Fabarez

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Focal Point Ministries

What Should You Do If Your Husband Looks At Porn? (Juli's blog)

Java #364: How to Work Your Way Back to Sexual Intimacy After Infidelity

Shame Doesn't Have the Final Word (Juli's blog)

Matthew 19 (NIV)

1 Corinthians 7 (NIV)

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#375: Juli & Jackie on How To Pursue Unity While Standing on Truth Aug 23, 2021

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The mics stayed on for more with Jackie Hill Perry. In this unique, after-the-show episode, Juli and Jackie share how they've experienced the current events around social justice and the disunity among Christians.You'll hear them model for you how to embrace these emotionally-charged conversations with a spirit of humility and a willingness to learn from others' experiences. Grab your Java and join them!

P.S. These ladies don't do small talk very well, so better make that a venti.

Guest: Jackie Hill Perry

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www.jackiehillperry.com

"Holier Than Thou" by Jackie Hill Perry*

"Gay Girl, Good God" by Jackie Hill Perry*

30 Minutes With the Perrys (podcast)

Mentioned: "Reparations" by Duke Kwon

Philando Castile

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#374: Jackie Hill Perry on the Trustworthiness of God Aug 16, 2021

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Your marriage, your sexuality, wounds from your past, or things you can't see yet ... what do you struggle to trust God with? This week, Juli sits down with Jackie Hill Perry for a conversation about how God's holiness helps us trust Him. You'll hear some of the ways we've misunderstood His holiness and the misleading places we look to for definitions of words like "love" and "goodness," as Jackie shares from her new book, Holier Than Thou. If you're questioning whether God is knowable, loving, good, or worthy of your trust — grab your Java and join us.

Guest: Jackie Hill Perry

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"Holier Than Thou" by Jackie Hill Perry*

30 Minutes With the Perrys (podcast)

Have You Forgotten Who God Is? (Juli's blog)

Who Is Jesus To You? (exclusive content)

"Finding the Hero In Your Husband" (Juli's upcoming release)*

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