Java with Juli - Making Sense of God and Sex

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#473 Repentance, Redemption, and Revolution: How to Accept the Invitation of Godly Sexuality Jul 10, 2023

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What does it actually look like to accept the invitation to reclaim God's design for sexuality in your life? Is the path straight, wide, and flat, or narrow, bumpy, and full of twists and turns? In this episode of Java with Juli, Juli hosts guests Cole and Caitlin Zick of Moral Revolution as they discuss their polar-opposite experiences embracing their sexuality as God intended.

Guests: Cole and Caitlin Zick

Cole's Instagram: @colezick

Caitlin's Instagram: @caitlinzick

Moral Revolution on Instagram: @moralrevolution

Website: moralrevolution.com

Java with Juli: #420 Bonus! What Redemption and Sexual Intimacy Look Like in Real Life

Blog: Purity Culture: Lose the Lies, Keep Your Faith

Book: God, Sex and Your Marriage by Dr. Juli Slattery

#472 Embracing Grief: Why We Need to Connect Sadness, Gratitude, and Celebration Jul 03, 2023

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It can often be tempting to push through the uncomfortable feelings that come with loss and try to just keep calm and carry on. But is that what we're called to as followers of Christ? If Christ Himself took time to grieve, shouldn't we?

Dr Greg and Erin Smalley join Juli on this episode of Java with Juli as they discuss the need to face and make sense of our pain so we can embrace real joy.

Guests: Dr. Greg Smalley and Erin Smalley

Greg and Erin on Instagram: @focusmarriage Greg and Erin on Youtube: @focusonthefamilymarriage

Greg and Erin's Podcast: Focus on Marriage Podcast

Java with Juli: #173 Lessons I Learned from Grief

Java with Juli: #265 The Hard (and Hopeful) Truth About Losing a Spouse

#471 How to Understand, Celebrate, and Leverage Neurological Differences in Relationships Jun 26, 2023

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There are always differences in relationships – differences in culture, differences in family of origin, differences in communication and conflict style – but what if you and someone you love just think differently? The thing is, while we may live in a world designed for neurotypical people, the world is full of people who are neurodivergent; those of us who process, learn, experience and interact with the world in ways not considered typical.

Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Kelli Willard joins Juli in an enlightening episode of Java with Juli as they talk about why a broader understanding of neurodiversity is so important when it comes to building strong and healthy relationships in marriages and in families.

Guest: Kelli Willard, LMFT

Kelli's Instagram: @love_all_the_brains

Kelli's Practice: Love All The Brains (Note: Kelli is not accepting new clients at this time)

Book: Neurodiverse Couple Therapy: A Practical Guide to Brain-Informed Care

Blog: The Challenge of Grace

#470 Why Did We Start Hating Men? The Toxic War on Masculinity with Nancy Pearcey Jun 19, 2023

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When did it become normal for us as a culture not to like men? In this episode Juli's guest is Nancy Pearcey, esteemed scholar, and author of "The Toxic War on Masculinity: How Christianity Reconciles the Sexes". She joins Juli to discuss the roots of toxic masculinity, what it means to be a good man, and how to combat the negativity around what it really means to be a man.

Guest: Nancy Pearcey

Nancy's Twitter: @NancyRPearcey

Nancy's website: nancypearcey.com/

Book: The Toxic War on Masculinity: How Christianity Reconciles the Sexes by Nancy Pearcey

Book: Love Thy Body: Answering Hard Questions about Life and Sexuality by Nancy Pearcey

Book: Total Truth: Liberating Christianity from Its Cultural Captivity by Nancy Pearcey

Blog: Manhood on a Razor's Edge

Blog: Resign As Boss: How To Help Your Husband Lead

Book: Finding the Hero in Your Husband

Image by Brooke Cagle via Unsplash

#469 Porn, Rape Culture, and Why The Battle Against Sexual Assault Starts at Home Jun 12, 2023

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Did you know that on average, each year, around 463,634 Americans are victims of sexual assault? That's a heartbreaking statistic, and it reveals a very real source of pain and trauma in contemporary American culture. What causes people to commit sexual assault? Is there a way to stop it? Dr. John Foubert joins Juli to discuss some of the reasons these numbers are so high, and what can and needs to be done to prevent sexual assault from happening.

Guest: Dr. John Foubert

John's Twitter: @JohnFoubert

John's website: johnfoubert.com/

Book: Protecting Your Children from Internet Pornography: Understanding the Science, Risks, and Ways to Protect Your Kids by Dr. John Foubert

Book: How Pornography Harms by Dr. John Foubert

John's Non-Profit: One in Four

Book: Unwanted by Jay Stringer

Find a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT)

Java with Juli: #334 What Your Pastor Needs to Know About Porn

Blog: Porn Affects You, Even if You Don't Look At It

#468 Teaching Your Kids How to Love Their Bodies with Francie Winslow Jun 05, 2023

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How do we teach kids that God made their bodies and that He made their bodies good? Are there creative and intentional ways to connect with kids and help them develop a Biblical theology around their bodies?

In this episode, Juli connects with her friend Francie Winslow, a mother of six on a mission to imprint upon the hearts of her children the beauty of God's design of their bodies and vision for their sexuality.

Guest: Francie Winslow

Francie's Instagram: @franciewinslow

Francie's Website: franciewinslow.com/

Podcast: Heaven in Your Home

Album: Heaven in Your Home Family Music

Blog: 5 Reasons You're Not Talking to Your Kids About Sex (and How to Overcome Them)

Java with Juli: #460 How to Have Mini and Many Conversations About Sexuality With Your Kids

#467 Yes, Your Marriage Is Worth Fighting For (Here's How to Save It) May 29, 2023

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While it may be the case that many people view marriage as a periphery issue, Juli's guest, Pastor John McGee, argues that the way we love one another in marriage is one of the ways in which our faith is truly evident — "Marriage teaches us about the gospel, and the gospel teaches us about marriage." Tune in to today's episode of Java with Juli to discover some of what is missing in common teaching on marriage, and how leaning into the truth of the gospel equips us to love better, not just in marriage, but in all our relationships.

Guest: John McGee

John's Instagram: @johnkmcgee John's Twitter: @johnmcgee

Website: Re|Engage

Book: God, Sex, and Your Marriage by Dr. Juli Slattery

Blog Post: What's the Purpose of Marriage?

Java with Juli: #430 Marriage Can Be Hard, Here's Why the Work Is Worth It

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#466 Enough is Enough: Recognizing and Combating Abusive Relationships May 22, 2023

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Is there a difference between a bad relationship and a harmful one? How can you spot the difference, both in your own relationships and those of your friends and family?

Join Juli and Dr. David Clarke as they discuss how to recognize abuse patterns of behavior, how to set boundaries, and when necessary, how to get out and create safety elsewhere.

Guest: Dr. David Clarke

Website: davideclarkephd.com/

Book: Enough is Enough: A Step-by-Step Plan to Leave an Abusive Relationship with God's Help

Focus on The Family Christian Counselors Network

Java with Juli: #372 How To Recognize Domestic Abuse

Blog: How Do I Know If I'm in an Abusive Relationship?

#465 Love Dares: Using Playfulness to Build Sexual Intimacy May 15, 2023

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If you're a husband or wife who finds sex dull or monotonous, it may be time for you to revisit the way God designed marital sex. The truth is that God desires for you to enjoy building sexual intimacy with your spouse, not just endure it. In this podcast episode, Juli and guest Dr. Jennifer Degler talk about how God gives the gift of sexual play to couples, and the practical (and fun!) ways you can connect with your spouse.

Guest: Dr. Jennifer Degler

Jennifer's Instagram: @drjenniferdegler

Jennifer's Websites: jenniferdegler.com cwives.com

marrieddance.com

Book: authenticintimacy.com/god-sex-and-your-marriage-workbook

Java with Juli: #234 We Can Do THAT in the Bedroom?

Blog: What's OK in the Bedroom?

#464 Why We Need to Remember The Dignity of Singleness May 08, 2023

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Is it possible your view of singleness and marriage is less than Holy? Is it possible to find contentment, not in whether we are single or married, but in Jesus Himself? Juli and Sam Allberry discuss the dignity of singleness, finding contentment in Christ, and the key to true friendship.

Guest: Sam Allberry

Sam's Twitter: @SamAllberry Sam's Instagram: @SamAllberry

Sam's Website: https://samallberry.com/

Sam's Book: 7 Myths About Singleness

Java with Juli: #450 Breaking the Marriage Idol

Book: Rethinking Sexuality