Java with Juli - Making Sense of God and Sex

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#211 (Bonus) Understanding Pornography Addiction Sep 14, 2023

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Have you ever given thought to what drives people towards pornography? While for many the initial introduction to porn is due to curiosity, it might surprise you to know that there are many different emotional and cognitive reasons people continue to turn to porn and struggle to break the addiction.

In this special edition bonus episode, revisit Juli and Jonathan Daughtery of Be Broken Ministries as Jonathan shares some of his story, and what he believes to be some of the many reasons people keep returning to "lustland."

Guest: Jonathan Daugherty

Be Broken Ministries on Instagram: @bebrokenministries

Be Broken Ministries

Blog: Porn Affects You, Even If You Don't Look At It

#482 Trying to Overcome a Sexual Addiction? Here's Why You Can't Do It Alone Sep 11, 2023

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This is the first episode in a 7-part series on different themes around God, sex, and intimacy, and is focused on how we can find freedom from sexual sin. In this episode, Juli is joined by podcaster, author, and former pastor Nate Larkin, as he shares about his journey breaking free from an addiction to pornography that almost destroyed his marriage.

Website: Samson Society

Wbsite: The Sarah Society

Podcast: Pirate Monks Podcast

Java with Juli: #241 Women Struggle With Porn Too

Blog: What Should You Do If Your Husband Looks at Porn?

Q&A: Is there any hope for me in my struggle with porn?

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#481 Learning, Leading, and Growing: A Reflection on 10 Years of Java with Juli Sep 04, 2023

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10 years of Java with Juli!

It's been 10 years since Java with Juli launched, and there have been over 400 podcast episodes aired in that time. Juli has talked about it all: divorce, porn and masturbation, same-sex attraction, discipling kids in biblical sexuality, gender identity, painful sex, and building marital intimacy.

In this very special celebratory episode, Juli and Hannah sit down and talk about the heart and mission of Java with Juli, what Juli has learned over the last 10 years, and how she hopes to see it grow in the next decade.

Grab your java, find a comfy spot, and dive into this 10 year celebratory episode.

Guest: Hannah Nitz

Hannah's Website: hannahnitz.com

Java with Juli: #1: Is This Thing On?

Java with Juli: #407: Masturbation: The No. 1 Question You're Asking Us!

Blog: Sexual Discipleship®: What Is It, and Why Is It Important?

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#480 How to Heal and Rebuild Trust and Sexual Intimacy After An Affair Aug 28, 2023

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Why do people cheat? And is it possible to reconcile after you or your spouse has been unfaithful?

In this episode, Juli is joined by Jessica McDaniel, LPC, as they discuss the roles of disclosure, honesty, patience, and commitment in repairing a marriage that has been affected by infidelity. Infidelity hurts everyone involved, and as Jessica shares, it takes everyone working together to overcome it.

Guest: Jessica McDaniel, LPC

Jessica's Instagram: @mcdanielcounseling

Jessica's Website: mcdanielcounseling.org

Hope Rising Conference

Affair Recovery

Affair Recovery First Steps Bootcamp

Affair Recovery Small Groups

Java with Juli: #274: Vulnerability, Infidelity & God's Redemption

Java with Juli: #364 How to Work Your Way Back to Sexual Intimacy After Infidelity

Blog: How Do I Rebuild Trust After Betrayal?

#479 More Than Just Behavior: Why Your Struggles With Sexual Sin Run Deeper Than You Think Aug 21, 2023

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What if your sexual desires and struggles could help you achieve deeper healing? In this episode, Juli hosts author and licensed mental health counselor Jay Stringer. Jay is deeply curious about the inner workings of our minds, and he loves to help people connect the dots between their sin struggles, the challenges they face, and the places they need healing in their hearts. Join Juli and Jay as they discuss how research helps us make sense of our sin and equips us to free ourselves from unwanted desires and outcomes.

Contribute to Jay's Pioneering Research Jay is now exploring the far-reaching, deep-seated topic of human desire. He needs your help to find some answers. The Holistic Desire Survey is anonymous and your honest responses will contribute to the healing of so many individuals and couples who are facing desire problems.

There are two versions of the survey: A survey for individuals and one for couples. To take the individual survey, click here, and if you'd like to participate in the couple's survey, click here to email the research team and recieve your personal link to the survey.

Please complete the survey by August 31st 2023.

Guest: Jay Stringer, LMHC

Jay's Website: jay-stringer.com/

Jay's Instagram: @jay_stringer_

Website: The Holistic Desire Survey

Java with Juli: #275: Finding Freedom from Unwanted Desires

Java with Juli: #211 Understanding Pornography Addiction

Java with Juli: #452 Porn Addiction in Marriage: How to Let God Redeem Your Story

Q&A: Is there any hope for me in my struggle with porn?

Q&A: How do I get past the shame of sexual sin?

#478 How to Love and Lead Your Adult Kids with Jim Burns Aug 14, 2023

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How do you parent your adult children well after they've left the nest? What does it look like to hold steadfast to your beliefs while loving an adult child who has chosen to live differently? And are your children's choices your fault?

These are some of the questions Juli asks in today's interview with guest Jim Burns, a well-known teacher in the field of marriage and family, and the president of the organization HomeWord. Jim shares from both his experience and his expertise, and has a lot of encouraging advice to share.

Guest: Dr. Jim Burns

Jim's Instagram: @drjimburns

Jim's Twitter: @drjimburns

Jim's website: HomeWord.com

Blog: Three Things To Remember About Sexual Sin & Grace

Java with Juli: #159 When Your Child Struggles With Gender

Webinar: How to Love Your Prodigal Child

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#477 In-Laws or Outlaws? How to Handle The Challenge of Setting Boundaries with In-Laws Aug 07, 2023

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Is there a difference between loving parental guidance, and overreaching parental interference? How can a couple set boundaries with their in-laws? And how can in-laws give their adult children the space they need to establish strong foundations for their marriages?

While many of us are familiar with the verse about leaving and cleaving, the practicalities of doing so can be challenging when there are parents and wider family who long to provide support in an important new phase of life.

Juli invites her friends, Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley, to speak about why boundaries with in-laws are important, and how they can be established with love.

Guests: Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley

Greg and Erin on Instagram: @focusmarriage Greg and Erin on Youtube: @focusonthefamilymarriage

Greg and Erin's Podcast: Focus on Marriage Podcast

Book: Ready to Wed by Dr. Greg Smalley and Erin Smalley

Java with Juli: #13 Insights on In-Laws

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#476 When God Ran: How God's Love Found a Woman Lost In Shame Jul 31, 2023

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Seasoned Christians know that while our perfection is in process, we still live in the tension of the weakness of our flesh and the hope of becoming fully like our Savior. What does that look and feel like when you have lengthy and ongoing struggles with your flesh? This is Julia's story, and it's the story she shares in this honest, insightful and hope-filled podcast episode. Julia is a part of the Authentic Intimacy team, and joins Juli to discuss sexual sin, God's love and kindness, and the cultural challenges of singleness in the American Church.

Guest: Julia Mitchell

Java with Juli: #450 Breaking the Marriage Idol

Java with Juli: #464 Why We Need to Remember the Dignity of Singleness

Blog: A Road Map to Sexual Integrity in the Midst of Sexual Brokenness by Julia Mitchell

Blog: 3 Reasons I Can Run To God With My Sexual Brokenness by Julia Mitchell

#475 Why Empathy, Inner Healing, and Teamwork Are at the Heart of Building Intimacy Jul 24, 2023

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It isn't uncommon for a couple committed to God and committed to each other to struggle to build intimacy. While it might seem like the issues and challenges you're facing are all external, it's often the case that there's internal work that needs to be done. Sean and Lanette Reed join Juli in this episode to discuss how humility, faith, and empathy, helped them bridge gaps to create true intimacy.

Guests: Sean and Lanette Reed

Sean and Lanette's Instagram: @seanandlanettereed

Sean and Lanette's YouTube: Life with Sean and Lanette

Sean and Lanette's TikTok: @Seanandlanette

Book: Marriage in Transition by Sean and Lanette Reed

Website: seanandlanette.com

Podcast: Marriage in Transition

Blog: Why Is Healing So Hard?

Java with Juli: #223 A Christian Counselor and a Little "Grit" Can Take You a Long Way

Book: Finding the Hero in Your Husband by Dr. Juli Slattery

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#474 A Rebel's Manifesto: How to Live Holy Different with Sean McDowell Jul 17, 2023

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What does it look like to live life as a Christian counter-culturally? How are we called to be in the world but not of the world when it comes to engaging with others, sharing the gospel, and addressing our own sin?

In this interview, Juli hosts author and professor Sean McDowell as they discuss his new book, "A Rebel's Manifesto." The book serves as a call and challenge to today's Christians, urging them to revisit God's Word and rethink what it means to be salt and light.

This conversation is crucial for all believers as we examine our blind spots and motivation, and examine the ways in which God is calling us to look more like Him and less like our world.

Guest: Dr. Sean McDowell

Sean's Instagram: @seanmcdowell Sean's Twitter: @Sean_McDowell Sean's TikTok: Sean_McDowell

Sean's Website: seanmcdowell.org

Book: A Rebel's Manifesto by Sean McDowell

Blog: How We Love Each Other

Java with Juli: #423 How to "Rethink" Issues in Our Church Culture Around Sexuality & Abuse

Java with Juli: #203 Navigating Different Views on Sexuality