Java with Juli - Making Sense of God and Sex

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#506 How To Make Sense Of Grief And God's Goodness Feb 26, 2024

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Ed and Lisa Young, founding pastors of Fellowship Church, join Juli for an honest and faith-filled conversation about their journey through grief. The couple's oldest daughter, Lee-Beth, passed away a little over two years ago after an ongoing battle with poor mental health and alcohol abuse, and in this powerful interview, they share about the unexpected comfort and hope they discovered as they wrestled with their pain, loss and sorrow and held their faith in tandem.

Guests: Ed and Lisa Young

Website: Fellowship Church

Book: A Path Through Pain by Ed and Lisa Young

Blog: How To Heal And Grow: Four Surprising Pathways To Christ-Likeness

Blog: God's Healing Stinks

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#505 What Does it Look Like to Struggle with Sexual Sin and Still Love Jesus? Feb 19, 2024

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For too long, many Christians have heard and believed the misconception that living in God's freedom and redemption means they'll never struggle with sin or temptation. This is one of the things the Bible is pretty clear on. The heroes of the faith like Paul, David, Moses, and Abraham loved and new God and still lived imperfectly.

Maybe it's time for us to recognize that being saved doesn't mean we'll never sin again, but that it means we're on a journey of loving Jesus, pursuing Him, falling short and returning to Him.

This week's podcast guest, Lina Abujamra, knows this well. She joins Juli to talk about what it looks like to spend a lifetime struggling with lust and sexual temptation, and still choose Jesus.

Guest: Lina Abujamra

Book: Don't Tell Anyone You're Reading This by Lina Abujamra

Website: livingwithpower.org/

Q&A: What Is the Difference Between Sexual Integrity and Purity?

Book: God, Sex, and Your Marriage by Dr. Juli Slattery

Workbook: God, Sex, and Your Marriage by Dr. Juli Slattery

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#504 Painful Intercourse, Fake Orgasms, And Aging Sex: Answers To The Most Popular Sex Questions Feb 12, 2024

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What does it look like to let God reclaim sex in your marriage…when sex is painful? Or when it feels like an obligation? Or when your spouse wants to engage in BDSM?

In this special Live Q&A episode from Reclaim 2022, Juli is joined by Dr. Jennifer Degler and Dr. Michael Sytsma as they provide biblical, practical answers to questions on sex that some of us are too afraid to ask.

Guests: Dr. Jennifer Degler and Dr. Michael Sytsma

Jennifer's Website: jenniferdegler.com/

Mike's Website: intimatemarriage.org/

Website: (American Board of Certified Sex Therapists) abcst.org

Website: mycounselor.online

Website: (International Society for the Study of Women's Sexual Health) isswsh.org

Blog: 3 Reasons Why "Faking It" is Making Your Bad Sex Life Even Worse

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#503 Lies, Pornography and Sex Addiction Almost Ended Their Marriage, Now They Help Others Find Hope Feb 05, 2024

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It's one thing to hear someone say secrets and sexual addiction are destructive to a marriage and a family, it's another thing entirely to experience it.

Phil and Priscilla Fretwell understand this more than most. One afternoon, while her husband was at work, Priscilla got a call from the video store enquiring for an overdue video. Shocked and confused, she called her husband to ask him about it. His only response was: 'I'm coming home'.

Many years, tears and miracles later, Phil and Priscilla have seen God move in their hearts and in their marriage in ways they could never have imagined.

Guests: Phil and Priscilla Fretwell

Instagram: @savagemarriageministries

Website: savagemarriageministries.com

Podcast: The Savage Marriage Podcast

Book: Savage Marriage: Triumph over Betrayal and Sexual Addiction

Java with Juli: #482 Trying to Overcome a Sexual Addiction? Here's Why You Can't Do It Alone

Blog: 5 Healthy Ways to Respond to Your Husband's Porn Problem

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#502 How to Understand and Overcome the Challenges of Postpartum Sex Jan 29, 2024

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Pregnancy has its ups and downs, but where the rubber hits the road for most is postpartum. If you're a woman who has had a baby or you're a man married to one, you understand that there are fairly common challenges specifically around postpartum sex.

There's a lot to navigate—changing bodies, new responsibilities, challenging hormones, it's no wonder women struggle to figure out how they feel about sex and couples are hard pressed to find a new sexual rhythm.

In this much-needed and highly requested podcast episode, Juli is joined by pelvic floor therapist Heather Marra, and Dr. Jennifer Degler as they explain why sex is so different postpartum, and what wives and their husbands can do about it.

Guests: Dr. Jennifer Degler, and Heather Marra, PT, MPT

Jennifer's website: jenniferdegler.com/

Heather's website: onesimplestep.today/

Jennifer's Instagram: @drjenniferdegler

Heather's Instagram: @onesimplesteptoday

Blog: What If I Hate Sex?

Java with Juli: #484 Duty Sex, Feeling Objectified, and Other Reasons Women Don't Enjoy Sex in Marriage

Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

#501 Going Beyond a Superficial Faith - with guest Jackie Hill Perry Jan 22, 2024

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How do we move from a faith that is shallow and superficial to one that is rooted in relationship? What does it take to take a prayer life that feels like a duty and make it into one of delight?

Author, teacher, and poet Jackie Hill Perry joins Juli to talk about the inspiration behind her latest book, "Upon Waking", and why God isn't looking at the amount of time we spend with Him so much as He's looking at the condition of our hearts.

Guest: Jackie Hill Perry

Website: jackiehillperry.com

Instagram: @jackiehillperry

Book: Upon Waking by Jackie Hill Perry

YouTube: With the Perrys

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#500 Sex, Faith and Family: Conversations Every Couple Should Have Pre-Marriage Jan 15, 2024

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We've all heard it said many times that marriage can be tough. But it's possible we don't discuss enough how good, sweet, and awesome marriage can be!

Scott Kedersha, marriage pastor and author, joins Juli to share some of the things he's learned in almost two decades of marriage ministry.

In this episode, Juli and Scott discuss:

How couples should handle sexual history and ongoing issues
What qualities to look for in a potential spouse
When to call off an engagement
The role of prayer and spirituality in the dating relationship

Whether you're married, engaged, dating or single, this is an eye-opening episode guaranteed to help you navigate your intimate relationships with Godly wisdom and intention.

Guest: Scott Kedersha

Website: scottkedersha.com

Book: Ready or Knot: 12 Conversations Every Couple Needs to Have Before Marriage by Scott Kedersha

Book: The Ready or Knot Prayer Guide: 100 Prayers for Dating and Engaged Couples by Scott Kedersha

Java with Juli: #494 Purity Culture, Men and Sexual Entitlement

Blog: 4 Lies the Movies Told Us About Sex and The Truths You Need to Know

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#499 How Vulnerability Can Help You Heal From Sexual Trauma Jan 08, 2024

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If you caught someone in sin, how would you respond to them?

Tim Ross was 18 years old when his mother caught him watching porn. Her response was to ask one question: "What are you doing?" and then to turn, walk away, and pray.

30 years later that night remains seared in Tim's memory as the night grace, mercy and truth reached in and pulled him out of darkness and into light. Tim tells Juli:

What finally prompted him to share what he had been through
How a faith-filled response led him to more vulnerability
What he did to overcome his addiction to porn, and
Why honesty and vulnerability are so necessary for our healing

Guest: Tim Ross

Tim's Website: upsettheworld.com/

Tim's Podcast: The Basement

#498 The Surprising Thing You're Missing In Your Healing Journey Jan 01, 2024

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What's getting in the way of you becoming more like Christ?

Could it be that while your knowledge of God is good, you haven't embraced how He has designed you on your journey to become more like Him?

Author and consultant Michel Hendricks is the first guest of 2024 for Java with Juli. He shares what he has observed from his years working as a Pastor of Spiritual Formation, and what he has learned from adopting a more right-brained approach to discipleship and formation. His advice may surprise you.

Guest: Michel Hendricks

Book: The Other Half of Church by Michel Hendricks and Jim Wilder

Website: Life Model Works

#497 Trying to Heal? Here's Why Knowing Your Story is Essential Dec 28, 2023

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When was the last time you took time to reflect on your story? As you reflect on the year you've had, why not take some time to think more about your past and do some healing work?

Cathy Loerzel, co-founder of The Allender Center and co-author of "Redeeming Heartache" joins Juli to talk about why sharing and hearing our stories helps us heal from past trauma and is crucial for cultivating emotional and spiritual maturity.

Guest: Cathy Loerzel

Website: cathyloerzel.com

Cathy's Instagram: @cathy.loerzel

Book: Redeeming Heartache: How Past Suffering Reveals Our True Calling by Cathy Loerzel and Dr. Dan Allender

Java with Juli: #479 More Than Just Behavior: Why Your Struggles With Sexual Sin Run Deeper Than You Think

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