Java with Juli - Making Sense of God and Sex

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#516 Don't Skip Foreplay! (and Other Advice from a Christian Sex Therapist) May 06, 2024

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Married sexuality has its challenges, internal and external, and it can be tempting to quit having sex or step outside the marriage, but there are ways to address some of the issues and overcome them as a couple.

Christian sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma joins Juli to talk about:

How to manage mismatched libidos
Why foreplay matters
What to do if you experience symptoms of Erectile Dysfunction
Why sex is important in marriage
How to re-enter holy sexuality and eroticism after abstaining without it becoming sin

Guest: Dr. Michael Sytsma

Website: Building Intimate Marriages

Instagram: @buildingintimatemarriages

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#515 Is Attraction Sinful? Unpacking Attachment, Safety, Love and Desire Apr 29, 2024

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What do your attractions say about you? Do they say anything about you? Is attraction always about sex, or are there more layers to it than we tend to think?

Hannah Nitz joins Juli for a conversation all about attraction and desire.

Co-host: Hannah Nitz

Hannah's Website: hannahnitz.com

Hannah's Instagram: @hannahnitz

Blog: 3 Subconscious Beliefs You May Hold About Living With Same-Sex Attraction

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#514 How Deconstruction and Divorce Rocked a Young Couple's Life Apr 22, 2024

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For most marriages, the most challenging years are the earliest ones. Marital problems can come in any number of forms, but sometimes the most difficult to navigate are those you don't see coming.

Few know this better than Chris and Stephanie Teague, the duo behind Out of the Dust, who experienced divorce suddenly after only three and a half years of marriage.

The couple join Juli to discuss exactly what happened before their marriage fell apart, and what God did in both of them to put it back together.

Guests: Out of the Dust (Chris and Stephanie Teague)

Website: outofthedustmusic.com

Instagram: @outofthedustmusic

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Q&A: Where do I begin healing?

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#513 A Child Psychiatrist On The Truth About Transgender Activism Apr 15, 2024

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Gender dysphoria is becoming more and more common, and parents with kids who are struggling are at a loss at what to do. Should they affirm their kids? Should they approve hormone blockers?

In this week's episode of Java with Juli, Juli is joined by Dr. Miriam Grossman, a child psychiatrist and author who has testified before congress about some of the hidden dangers behind transgender activism.

Guest: Dr. Miriam Grossman, MD

Book: "Lost in Trans Nation: A Child Psychiatrist's Guide Out of the Madness" by Miriam Grossman M.D.

Book: "You're Teaching my Child What?!" by Miriam Grossman M.D.

Java with Juli: #507 What You Need To Know About The Gender Conversation

Java with Juli: #508 What Does Healthy Masculinity Actually Look Like?

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#512 Friends Who Hurt Us: How To Recognize Unlikely Sources Of Abuse Apr 08, 2024

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While many of us are familiar with the concept of abuse, we are typically familiar with the conventional stereotypes around abuse. We typically picture a younger, weaker party who is taken advantage of by a dominant person. It's rare we picture a friend, mentor or someone we trust harming us.

Unfortunately this is what happened to Tricia Lott Williford. In the same 72-hour span in which she experienced the sudden and unexpected death of her husband, she experienced sexual assault from someone she considered a friend and a mentor.

Tricia and her therapist, Jana Richardson, join Juli to talk about how to recognize, fight, and recover from abuse in all its forms.

Guests: Tricia Lott Williford and Jana Richardson

Website: tricialottwilliford.com

Instagram: @tricialottwilliford

Book: You Are Safe Now by Tricia Lott Williford and Jana Richardson, MA, LPC, EMDR

Book: And Life Comes Back by Tricia Lott Williford

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Java with Juli: #497 Trying to Heal? Here's Why Knowing Your Story is Essential

Blog: How Do I Know If I'm in an Abusive Relationship?

Blog: As Christians, How Do We Respond to Abuse Allegations in the Church?

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#511 Why You Need to Laugh More Apr 01, 2024

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Is laughter important? Why did God give us the ability to laugh?

Laughter might not be top of mind when it comes to how we live as Christians or how we live in relationship with others, but laughter is a gift God has given to us, and there are many reasons why.

This week, comedian, author and Pastor Ted Cunningham is Juli's guest, and he explains the health and relational benefits of laughing much and laughing often.

Guest: Ted Cunningham

Website: Woodland Hills Church

Book: A Love That Laughs by Ted Cunningham

Blog: Your Marriage Should Be Fun

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#510 Influencer Anh Lin on Overcoming Trauma and Living a Beautiful Life Mar 25, 2024

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Accidental influencer and author of "Forever Home", Anh Lin, shares her story of journeying through trauma and brokenness to a place of healing.

You'll hear Anh talk about:

Her unlikely encounter with Jesus
How she medicated her pain and grief with partying and alcohol
Experiencing rock bottom, even after finding Jesus

Guest: Anh Lin

Anh's website: girlandtheword.com

Anh's Instagram: @girlandtheword

Book: "Forever Home: Moving Beyond Brokenness to Build a Strong and Beautiful Life" by Anh Lin

Blog: How Do I Know If I'm in an Abusive Relationship?

Blog: Don't Waste the Pain

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#509 Workaholism And Infidelity Almost Led To Divorce, But A Miracle Saved Their Marriage Mar 18, 2024

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David and Terri Sumlin are the founders of Marriage Life Ministries, a ministry that helps couples improve their marriages through a focus on communication, conflict and intimacy. Years ago, when their own marriage was on the brink of divorce and rocked by a 3-month affair, this ministry was exactly what they needed.

Join Juli, David and Terri, as the couple talk about how God's intervention saved and restored their marriage.

Guests: David and Terri Sumlin

David and Terri's Website: marriagelifeministries.com/

David and Terri's Instagram: @marriagelifeministries

Blog: Forgiveness is Hard, Grace is Harder

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#508 What Does Healthy Masculinity Actually Look Like? Mar 11, 2024

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What can we learn from close examination of the lives of the men we read about in scripture? These were real people,who the Bible reveals had their own very human struggles, battling insecurity, pride, deception, and lust.

This week's podcast guest, Chase Replogle, is a pastor at Bent Oak Church in Missouri, and is the author of "The Five Masculine Instincts". The book covers the lessons we can learn from male Biblical figures like Samson, Moses, and Cain. This is a great episode that discusses some common motivators for men (and women), and offers guidance on how to address inner motivations that push us further from God's heart and calling on our lives.

Guest: Chase Replogle

Website: chasereplogle.com/

Instagram: @thepastorwriter

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#507 What You Need To Know About The Gender Conversation Mar 04, 2024

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Is there a theological approach or framework to understanding gender? Is there scriptural support for the messages we receive about gender from movies, books, and institutions? And what does it mean for us to live as 'lights on a hill' within a culture that continually evolves in its discussions about gender and sexual issues?

Join John and Sarah Stonestreet from the Colson Center as they join Juli in exploring some of the underlying beliefs surrounding sexuality in our culture, and talk about how we can embrace and pursue the good and beautiful narrative found in scripture.

Guests: John and Sarah Stonestreet

Website: The Colson Center

Website: identityproject.tv/

Instagram: @thecolsoncenter

Google Podcasts is closing at the end of March. Make sure you're subscribed to Java with Juli on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or YouTube.

Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.