Java with Juli - Conversations About God, Sex, & You

Candid Answers to Questions About Sex & Being Single, #338 Sep 29, 2025

Instead of shutting it down, what if you could meet your needs for touch, intimacy, and opposite-sex friendships in ways that honor your sexuality? (Spoiler alert: you can.)

If you’ve wrestled with desire, boundaries, or shame, this candid conversation will help you see the God-given purpose of your sexuality—even when you’re single.

P.S. This is one you’ll want to share with your single friends.

Guest: Dr. Doug Rosenau

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Single & Sexually Whole: Soulfully Celebrating the Dance of the Sexes by Dr. Doug Rosenau

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Surviving the Unthinkable: Rebuilding My Life After Trauma and Loss, #582 Sep 22, 2025

In this episode, author Kimberly Haar opens up about surviving a violent abduction and assault at the hands of her ex-husband. With unflinching honesty, she recounts the night her world shattered—and how faith, forgiveness, and Christian therapy helped her rebuild her life.

Guest: Kimberly Haar

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Raising Wise Kids in a Sexually Broken World, #581 Sep 15, 2025

Are you teaching your kids to follow Jesus—or to just follow the rules?

In this episode, Juli sits down with Matt & Laurie Krieg to talk about how to give our kids a gospel-centered worldview. From early conversations about sexuality and gender to equipping them for a sexually broken world, you’ll get practical, faith-filled guidance to help you raise resilient, Christ-focused kids.

Guests: Matt & Laurie Krieg

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How To Talk to Your Husband (When All You Want To Do Is Yell at Him), #580 Sep 08, 2025

How do you speak life to your husband when all you want to do is yell at him?

Juli sits down for a candid conversation with author Ann Wilson about the transformative power of our words. Hear how Ann discovered that her (helpful!) criticism, even her subtle “sophisticated nagging,” wasn’t helping her husband at all—in fact, it was hurting both of them.

With real-life stories and practical wisdom, this conversation proves that a few well-chosen words can transform a marriage.

Guest: Ann Wilson (with Dave Wilson)

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Sex Therapy: What Is It, and Why Should You Go?, #324 Sep 01, 2025

If you struggle with low desire, pain during sex, or difficulty with orgasm and don’t know where to go for help, this week’s Java with Juli is for you! Juli sits down with certified sex therapist Josh Spurlock to explore what Christian sex therapy really is—and what it isn’t.

Josh explains the difference between sex therapy and traditional counseling, the most common challenges he helps couples overcome, and why having a therapist who respects God’s design for sexuality matters.

From dispelling myths like “sex is supposed to hurt” to offering hope that orgasm is possible for nearly every woman, this conversation brings biblical wisdom and practical help to some of the most sensitive places in your marriage.

“I wish I would’ve known this 20 years ago” doesn’t have to be your story. Listen in!

Guest: Josh Spurlock, LPC, CST

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Why Telling Your Story is Complex, Courageous and Healing, #353 Aug 25, 2025

The power of abuse lies in secrecy. The power of healing begins with telling.

In this episode, Tim Hein shares his story of surviving childhood sexual abuse and the journey of healing. From the courage it takes to break the silence, to the importance of being believed, to the steps of recovery that lead to restoration, Tim offers raw honesty and hard-earned wisdom. He reflects on how trauma shaped his life, marriage, and faith—and how choosing to tell your story is ultimately an act of self-love and grace.

This hopeful conversation offers encouragement for survivors and practical insight for those who walk alongside them.

Guest: Tim Hein

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Blog: God's Healing Stinks by Dr. Juli Slattery

Video Q&A: Past sexual trauma keeps me from enjoying sex. Is there hope that I can heal?

Blog: How to Choose a Wise Counselor by Dr. Juli Slattery

Good Girls, Bad Books: Erotica in Young Adult Fiction?, #579 Aug 18, 2025

Juli and her guests explore the infiltration of erotica and LGBTQ themes into young adult fiction. From board books to bestselling novels, today’s literature isn’t what it used to be—and parents are the last to know.

You’ll hear stories from the frontlines and get practical tools to help you navigate today’s fiction. Whether you’re raising toddlers or talking with teens, this is a conversation every parent, teacher, and youth leader needs to hear.

Guests: Greta Eskridge and Korrie Johnson

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It’s Time to Talk to Your Kids About Porn: A Parent’s Guide to Helping Children and Teens Develop Sexual Integrity by Greta Eskridge

Pulling Back the Shades: Erotica, Intimacy and the Longings of a Woman’s Heart by Dr. Juli Slattery and Dannah Gresh

What Your Husband Wishes You Knew About Sex, #126 Aug 11, 2025

Have you ever wanted to get inside the mind of your man–just for a day? Now’s your chance! Juli and Hannah sit down with pastor and author Chip Ingram to find out what husbands wish their wives knew about sex.

From why men fear rejection more than they let on, to how wives misunderstand their husbands’ need for connection, this conversation is filled with eye-opening insight and practical wisdom.

Guest: Chip Ingram, Co-host: Hannah Nitz

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God, Sex, and Your Marriage by Dr. Juli Slattery

Blog: Struggling with Sexual Intimacy? You Might Need a “Sex Break”

Blog: Are You Entitled to “Good” Sex in Marriage?

Blog: 5 Healthy Ways to Respond to Your Husband’s Porn Problem

Q&A: What Should I Do If I Discover My Spouse Is Looking at Porn?

Q&A: Does My Spouse Watch Porn Because of Me?

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From Head to Heart: Why Love Changes Everything, #578 Aug 04, 2025

If loving God (or others) has felt hard or risky, this episode is for you. Join Juli and Hannah to discover why surrendering to love is not weakness—it’s the first step toward knowing the One whose love sets you free.

Drawing from scripture and real-life tension in the Church today, they unpack how Christians are called to love in three radical ways: our neighbors, the family of God, and even our enemies.

Co-host: Hannah Nitz

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Single, Married, or Searching: What Are We Really Longing For?, #577 Jul 28, 2025

In a culture that elevates marriage, sex, and romance as the ultimate goals, many of us are left feeling unfulfilled or sidelined. Have we unknowingly made idols out of good things? In this episode, Juli unpacks how our hearts can get entangled in false narratives—even within the Church.

Whether you're married, single, or discipling others, you’re invited to surrender your desires and expectations to God and find contentment on the other side.

Co-host: Joe Caruso

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Q&A with Jackie Hill Perry and Laurence Koo, #576 Jul 21, 2025

Jackie Hill Perry and Laurence Koo tackle some of the most pressing questions surrounding faith, sexuality, and discipleship. No small talk here—just honest answers about the reality of same-sex attraction, the cost of following Jesus, and the beauty of surrender.

Whether you're a pastor, parent, friend, or someone personally navigating LGBT questions, this is a must-hear conversation.

Guests: Jackie Hill Perry & Laurence Koo

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How Knowing Jesus Makes You Whole, Not Perfect, #575 Jul 14, 2025

We’re moving from shame-based “sexual purity” to sexual integrity—the day-by-day journey of aligning your sexual choices with God’s truth. Whether you're single, married, or just asking hard questions, you’ll find hope in this episode.

Co-host: Joe Caruso

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Is God Outdated? Surrendering the Story You Believe About Sex, #574 Jul 07, 2025

If you’ve ever wrestled with how to reconcile your faith with your sexuality, or how God’s design seems outdated (or even unloving), this is an episode you can’t miss. Continuing in our theme of Surrendered Sexuality, Juli exposes the cultural narratives shaping how you think about sexuality — often without realizing it.

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How To Trust God With the Hardest Parts of Your Story, #573 Jun 30, 2025

You believe God loves you—but you're afraid to trust Him with your most painful places.

In this conversation, discover why surrender is one of the most courageous acts of trust—and the beginning of real healing. Plus . . . its book launch week! 🎉

Co-host: Joe Caruso

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Surrendered Sexuality: Why God Wants More Than Just Your Behavior, #572 Jun 23, 2025

What if God asks you to surrender not because of what He wants to take from you, but because of what He wants to give? Grab your Java and listen in as Juli shares the core message of her new book, “Surrendered Sexuality.”

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4 Identity Traps That Are Keeping You Stuck, #571 Jun 16, 2025

Discover why finding your identity in Christ isn't about changing your behavior—it's about knowing Jesus, and letting Him redefine who you are. In this episode, get a sneak peek at what’s inside Juli’s new book as she shares four identity traps that keep us stuck.

Co-host: Joe Caruso

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The #1 Thing That Defines You (And It's Not What You Think), #570 Jun 09, 2025

What’s the most important thing about you? Get ready—this episode will challenge what you've always believed about yourself. Listen in as Juli shares why our identity must be rooted in who God says we are—not in our past, our “purity,” or our pain.

Co-host: Joe Caruso, @joecaruso06

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God's Design for Sexuality: Teaching Kids to Stand Firm & Love Big, #569 Jun 02, 2025

Want to raise faithful and loving kids in an LGBT-affirming world? This episode is one you can’t afford to skip. You don’t have to choose between truth and love—this conversation will equip you to give your kids both. Grab your Java and join us!

Guest: Rachel Gilson

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Unpacking Emotional Baggage: How to Get to the Root of Conflict in Marriage with Dr. Dan Allender, #568 May 26, 2025

Turns out, the stuff we haven’t dealt with from childhood shows up ... right in the middle of our relationships. Sit down with Juli and Dr. Dan Allender as they discuss why we must be willing to explore our own stories in order to create safety, nurture curiosity, and repair what’s broken.

Guest: Dr. Dan Allender

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3 Myths We Believe About "Being One" In Marriage, #567 May 19, 2025

We spend a lot of our marriages thinking that “becoming one” means, "You'll become more like me. And once you become more like me, then we'll become one." Instead, what if you could say to your spouse, “I can love you just the way you are without having to change you.” If that’s the kind of oneness you want for your marriage (present or future), grab your Java and pull up a chair with Juli and Hannah.

Co-host: Hannah Nitz (@hannahnitz)

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AI & Porn: The Attachment Crisis No One Sees Coming, #566 May 12, 2025

AI is changing the game when it comes to pornography—and it’s becoming more addictive and more dehumanizing than ever. This episode explores the impact of modern porn, including its ties to fantasy, gaming, and a distorted view of connection. If you or someone you love is navigating this journey, there is hope!

Guests: Jonathan Daugherty & Joel Warneking

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How to (Really) Love Your Neighbor with Jada Edwards, Ep. #565 May 05, 2025

The relationships you struggle with the most? This episode is for those. Juli sits down with Bible teacher Jada Edwards to share stories about the ways they’ve fallen short when it comes to loving others, and how God has transformed their understanding of what it means to love the way He does. (Spoiler alert: Sometimes the best way to learn love is to start with the person who bugs you the most.)

Guest: Jada Edwards (@jada_edwards)

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#564 Why People Turn to Porn and How to Break the Cycle Apr 28, 2025

Sadly, wrestling with pornography addiction is increasingly commonplace. But how do people find pornography? And why do they keep going back to it?

In the final of this series revisiting Reclaim, Troy and Melissa Haas of HopeQuest, share their testimony and expertise around pornography addiction, and what it takes to overcome it.

Guests: Troy and Melissa Haas

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#563 Practical Advice for Talking to Kids About Sex and Culture Apr 21, 2025

Navigating the teenage years has never been easy, whether you’re the parent or the child. So as parents, how can you help your teenager or pre-teen have a better experience? What practically can you do to put them in a stronger position to navigate their teenage years safely, with more clarity about God’s love for them and design for their sexuality?

Three guests – James Talbert, Josh Miller, and Chelsey Nutgren – join Juli to share some much-needed practical advice for raising surrendered kids in our current cultural moment.

Guests: James Talbert, Josh Miller, Chelsey Nugteren

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Josh’s Website: Riverwood Chapel Akron

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#562 The Best Way to Stop Fighting in Your Marriage Apr 14, 2025

James 4:1 so famously writes, “What causes quarrels and what causes fights among you?”

It’s not surprising that marriage is a hotbed for conflict. When you live so closely with someone else, it’s easy to see their flaws, shortcomings, and mistakes in high definition.

So what can you do to stop constantly fighting?

In this special session from Reclaim 2024, Brad Rhoads shares what helped cut fighting and elevate fun in his marriage.

Guests: Brad Rhodes, Grace Marriage

Brad’s Website: gracemarriage.com

Brad’s Instagram: @grace_marriage

Blog: Forgiveness is Hard, Grace is Harder

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#561 Help for Christian Wives Who Don’t Like Sex Apr 07, 2025

We’ve talked about the fact that many women struggle to ‘flip the switch’ and enjoy married sex, and we’ve talked about what might contribute to that. But we haven’t talked about what husbands can do to help their wives enjoy sex.

Juli shares a conversation from Gary Thomas’ Podcast where she was a panelist alongside Debra Fileta and Belah Rose.

Host: Gary Thomas

Featured Speakers: Dr. Juli Slattery, Debra Fileta, MA, LPC and Belah Rose

Gary’s Website: garythomas.com

Gary’s Newsletter: garythomasbooks.substack.com

Book: Married Sex by Gary Thomas and Debra Fileta, MA, LPC

Book: Rethinking Sexuality by Dr. Juli Slattery

Book: God, Sex and Your Marriage by Dr. Juli Slattery

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#560 Can Biblical Churches be LGBTQ-friendly? Mar 31, 2025

There are so many challenges that come with leading a church well, especially when it comes to how to express their stance on Biblical sexuality. Many want to be a place where people can wrestle with the truth about God and sex and figure things out, while also being sure to prioritize biblical orthodoxy. How can they do both?

Pastor Evan Wickham, from Park Hill Church in San Diego, joins Juli to share lessons he’s learned and what his church is doing to lead biblically with clarity and love.

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Guest: Evan Wickham

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Blog: Has God Changed His Mind About Sex?

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#559 What if Male Sexuality Is More Complex Than We Think? Mar 24, 2025

Historically, inside and outside the church, male sexuality has been talked about as a purely orgasm-driven experience.

But is it possible we have oversimplified the male sexual experience? What if there’s more to the way men think and feel about sex than we’ve previously considered?

Dr. Corey Allan joins Juli for a very different conversation about male sexuality.

Guest: Dr. Corey Allan

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#558 Christians Need To Change The Way They Talk About Married Sex Mar 17, 2025

As we work to change the purity narrative and undo many of its effects, we have to look at some of the continued harm it does to marriages. There’s still so much missing in the way Christian couples are taught about marital intimacy.

How can Christians celebrate the gift of sex that God gave in marriage?

Juli shares a conversation she had with the late Dr. Doug Rosenau, where he shared both what is missing and what is needed in the church when it comes to talking about the beauty of sex in marriage.

Guest: Dr. Doug Rosenau, Institute for Sexual Wholeness

Institute for Sexual Wholeness

Book: The Gift of Sex: A Guide to Sexual Fulfillment by Clifford and Joyce Penner

Book: A Celebration of Sex: A Guide to Enjoying God's Gift of Sexual Intimacy by Douglas E. Rosenau

Podcast: #543 How the Old Testament Reveals God’s Heart for Women, Sex, and Covenant Love

Transcript

00:00 - Introduction to Christian Sexuality Conversations

03:14 - The Church’s Perspective on Sex in Marriage

16:26 - Understanding Female Sexuality and Mutual Pleasure

29:13 - Nuancing Gender and Desire in Sexual Conversations

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#557 Understanding The Harm of Purity Culture and How to Move Forward Mar 10, 2025

One of the biggest criticisms of purity culture is the way it reduced sexuality to a list of do’s and don’ts, but there are lots of other reasons millennial men and women report feeling burned by it.

Dr. Camden Morgante, author of “Recovering from Purity Culture”, shares some of the harmful narratives that formed the movement, and provides some alternative approaches to discussing sexuality.

Guest: Dr. Camden Morgante

Website: drcamden.com

Instagram: @drcamden

Book: Recovering From Purity Culture by Dr. Camden Morgante

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Timestamps

00:00 Introduction to Purity Culture

02:13 Camden’s Personal Journey and Professional Insights

05:58 Understanding the Harm of Purity Culture

09:52 Navigating Sexual Awakening in Adolescence

13:58 The Importance of Teaching Values

15:57 Dating Dynamics and Courtship Culture

22:08 Modesty and Its Misinterpretations

25:07 The Role of Patriarchy in Purity Culture

30:54 Steps Towards Healing and Wholeness

39:03 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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#556 Why We Can't Ignore What Offends Us About Jesus Mar 03, 2025

If questions about sex lead to questions about God, it’s important that we know and follow Jesus as He really is.

Rick Lawrence, author of “Editing Jesus”, joins Juli to discuss how many American Christians make Jesus into an image other than Himself.

Guest: Rick Lawrence

Rick’s Website: ricklawrence.com

Book: Editing Jesus: Confronting the Distorted Faith of the American Church by Rick Lawrence

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Timestamps

00:00 Understanding God and Sexuality

02:50 The Journey to “Editing Jesus”

06:11 Confronting Cultural Misunderstandings

08:57 The Mud Puddles of Scripture

11:57 The Hard Sayings of Jesus

15:12 Intimacy and Relationship with Jesus

18:02 The Challenge of Self-Centeredness

21:01 Joy vs Happiness in Faith

23:49 The Role of Suffering in Growth

27:01 Practical Steps to Know Jesus

29:52 Conclusion and Resources

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#555 Can You Have A Great Marriage Without Sex? Juli Answers Your Questions Feb 24, 2025

In this special Q&A episode, Juli answers your questions about sex and marriage. You’ll hear answers to questions like, why did God make us sexual when it causes so much pain? Does sex matter in marriage? And, is it possible to be too focused on sex in marriage?

Join Juli and Hannah for a brief exploration of good biblical theology on sex and marriage.

Co-host: Hannah Nitz

Hannah’s Website: hannahnitz.com

Hannah’s Instagram: @hannahnitz

Blog: Overcoming Sexual Shame and Fear in Marriage

Blog: Help! How Much Sex is “Normal” for Married Couples?

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#554 Sex and the Female Body: How to Swap Shame For Celebration Feb 17, 2025

How can women overcome fear and shame around their bodies and embrace the beauty of God’s design for sex?

Whether from purity culture, other messages, or poor experiences, many women don’t see their bodies and sex as good or beautiful. Francie Winslow, host of the podcast “Heaven in Your Home” went through her own struggle with this, and joins Juli to explain how she is learning to embrace the goodness of God’s design.

Guest: Francie Winslow

Website: franciewinslow.com

Instagram: @franciewinslow

Strong Foundation To Starting Well: Claiming A Healthy Vision For Married Sex

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#553 Divorce and Separation: How to Know What to Do Feb 10, 2025

When a marriage is in crisis, it can be hard to know what the next step should be. Is divorce the only option? Are there other steps available that couples often miss?

Dr. Greg Smalley, Vice President of Marriage and Family Formation at Focus on the Family, joins Juli to talk about some of the options couples can explore.

Guest: Dr. Greg Smalley

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#552 When You Want Sex More Than Your Husband Does Feb 03, 2025

It’s reported that 20-30% of marriages have a higher-desire wife and lower-desire husband.

This means that while many women may wish their husbands requested less sex, there are also many women who experience the opposite. For the woman who wants her husband to want sex a little more, Sheri Mueller, LCPC, author of “I Want Him to Want Me”, joins Juli to share insights, wisdom, and encouragement.

Guest: Sheri Mueller, LCPC

Sheri’s Website: marriagetrac.com

Sheri’s Instagram: @growthtrac

Book: I Want Him to Want Me by Sheri Mueller, LCPC

Blog: Why Christians Need to Care About Sex

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#551 How Keeping Secrets Keeps Us in Shame Jan 27, 2025

What secret are you keeping?

Many of us keep secrets to protect ourselves. But secrets also hide us from others. They can prevent us from being fully known and fully loved.

Jason VanRuler, author of “Get Past Your Past”, joins Juli to share some insights about secrecy and why it’s worth us living in the light.

Guest: Jason VanRuler

Website: jasonvr.com

Instagram: @jason.vanruler

Book: Get Past Your Past by Jason VanRuler

Java with Juli: #539 The Impact Of Shame And How To Overcome It

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#550 What to Do When Sex is Painful Jan 20, 2025

Sexual pain makes sex challenging, stressful, and a source of tension rather than a source of pleasure. Sadly, it’s a very present reality for many couples, and one that can quickly erode sexual intimacy for years or even decades.

Many women are told to ‘watch porn’, ‘drink wine’, or ‘relax’, with no clear diagnosis found and no real solution given. Today’s guest, Jess Setiz, knows this reality all too well. Now a trauma-informed pelvic health practitioner, Jess struggled through painful sex for 8 years before she and her husband were able to find a solution that really worked. She joins Juli to share what she learned, and how she’s helping other women enjoy pleasurable, pain-free sex.

Guest: Jess Seitz

Website: painfreeintimacy.com

Instagram: @painfree.intimacy

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#549 What the Latest Research Shows About Porn Jan 13, 2025

How many men and women consume porn on a regular basis?

How common is porn use within the church?

How is porn affecting us?

Nick Stumbo, Executive Director of Pure Desire Ministries, unpacks the surprising results of a recent study conducted by Barna on pornography use, and shares potential solutions.

Guest: Nick Stumbo, Pure Desire Ministries

Website: puredesire.org

Instagram: @puredesirepdmi

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Java with Juli: #542 A Pastor, His Porn Problem, and How His Church Restored Him

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#548 How To Repair Your Relationships Jan 06, 2025

What does it take to have good friendships, healthy family relationships, or a strong marriage?

John Van Epp, creator of the RAM theoretical model, has some strong and well-researched ideas about what it takes to make your relationships stronger than ever.

Guest: Dr. John Van Epp

John’s Website: lovethinks.com

Book: Endgame: The Church's Strategic Move to Save Faith and Family in America by John Van Epp and J.P. De Gance

Book: Becoming Better Together by John Van Epp

Website: ramseries.com

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#547 How to Talk to Your Spouse About Sex Dec 30, 2024

Talking about sex and sexual issues with your spouse can be intimidating. Dr Corey Allan breaks down why discussing sex can be challenging for married couples, and what husbands and wives can do about it.

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#546 Answering the Most Popular Questions on Sex, Dating, and Singleness Dec 23, 2024

Juli and Hannah answer your questions about sex and singleness in this week’s special Java with Juli episode.

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#545 George Barna: Parenting and Discipleship in a Sexually Chaotic World Dec 16, 2024

Raising your kids to love and know Jesus has never been easy, and in a culture saturated with messages about human sexuality, it can feel next to impossible to raise your kids with biblical values and a Christian sexual ethic.

How do we effectively disciple our kids?

Dr. George Barna, founder of the Barna Group and America’s foremost faith and culture researcher, joins Juli to talk about his new book, “Raising Spiritual Champions”, and what parents can do to equip their kids with a robust faith.

Website: georgebarna.com

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#544 What You Need To Know About Sex, Aging and Menopause Dec 09, 2024

How do you know you’ve started menopause? Can you get pregnant during menopause? What happens to your sex drive during menopause?

Experts Dr. Debra Taylor, LMFT and Dr. Michael Sytsma, CST, CPS, join Juli to share some crucial information about menopause, options for easing symptoms, and how husbands can be sympathetic supporters at this pivotal moment in a woman’s life.

Guests: Dr. Debra Taylor, LMFT and Dr. Michael Sytsma, CST, CPS

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#543 How the Old Testament Reveals God's Heart for Women, Sex, and Covenant Love Dec 02, 2024

Was the God of the Old Testament less benevolent than the God of the New Testament? Or are too many of us missing the greater truths and narratives woven into a beautiful, historic text?

Dr. Sandra Richter, author of The Epic of Eden, joins Juli to bring a rich and refreshing perspective to women, God, and the Old Testament.

Guest: Dr. Sandra Richter

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#542 A Pastor, His Porn Problem, and How His Church Restored Him Nov 25, 2024

What should a pastor with a porn problem do? How should his church respond?

Pastor Garrett Kell joins Juli on the podcast to talk about his years-long struggle with porn, coming clean, and how his church responded to his sin.

Garrett’s Instagram: @j.garrett.kell

Book: Pure in Heart: Sexual Sin and the Promises of God by J. Garrett Kell

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#541 Teaching Sexuality: Pitfalls, Purity Culture, and the Best Path Forward Nov 18, 2024

Purity culture taught a lot of unhelpful things and left a lot of questions unanswered for believers. While it’s clear a new approach is needed, it’s challenging to know how to leave legalism behind and teach a true-to-scripture vision of sexuality.

Noah Filipiak, the author of Beyond the Battle, joins Juli to share where he sees a need to educate today’s youth, and why he wrote his new book, “Needed Navigation”.

Guest: Noah Filipiak

Book: Beyond the Battle by Noah Filipiak

Book: Needed Navigation: A Teen’s Guide to His or Her Identity in Christ in a Sex & Porn-Filled World by Noah Filipiak

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#540 A Pastoral Perspective on Supporting Those with Gender Dysphoria Nov 11, 2024

Knowing what God’s word says about a topic and walking that out in a way that honors Him and dignifies others are two very different things. So how do we move in love and integrity towards friends and loved ones struggling with gender dysphoria?

Pastor Sam Ferguson joins Juli to get practical about loving the hearts of hurting people while staying rooted in God’s Word.

Guest: Sam Ferguson

Book: Does God Care About Gender Identity? By Sam Ferguson

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#539 The Impact Of Shame And How To Overcome It Nov 04, 2024

We all experience shame, and for many of us that shame is deeply connected to our sexuality. “Why am I drawn to sinful things?” “Will I ever overcome my addictions?”

When it comes to addressing shame, few of us know how to address it effectively, so Curt Thompson, MD, author of “The Soul of Shame”, joins Juli to help explain what it is, where it comes from, and what to do with it.

Guest: Curt Thompson, MD

Curt’s website: curtthompsonmd.com

Curt’s Instagram: @curtthompsonmd

Book: The Soul of Shame by Curt Thompson, MD

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#538 How I Rebuilt Faith In God After Church Abuse Oct 28, 2024

buse so often warps our sense of self and our sense of who God is. How do you lose the lies and rediscover your faith?

Author and adventurer Ryan George joins Juli to talk about how he disentangled the manipulation and abuse of his past and discovered who God really is.

Guest: Ryan George

Ryan’s Website: explorience.org

Ryan’s Instagram: @ryplane

Book: Hurt and Healed by the Church by Ryan George

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#537 Can You Be a Christian Feminist? Oct 21, 2024

Why did God design our bodies the way He did? Is our gender more than our bodies? What does it look like to live out our male and femaleness?

Dr. Abigail Favale, author of “The Genesis of Gender”, joins Juli to talk about why our bodies matter and how to cultivate a deep and rich theology around sex and gender.

Guest: Dr. Abigail Favale

Abigail’s website: abigailfavale.wixsite.com/home

Book: The Genesis of Gender by Dr. Abigail Favale

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#248 Gay Girl, Good God: Jackie Hill Perry's Story Oct 14, 2024

When we struggle with sexual sin, what is God’s ultimate hope for us? Is it that we stop our sexual sin? Or does it go beyond that to addressing our sinful nature and hearts, bringing us to a place of submission and surrender?

Jackie Hill Perry shares how God drew her to Himself and brought her out of a lesbian lifestyle.

Guest: Jackie Hill Perry

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#536 How To Help Your Kids Avoid Identity Traps Oct 07, 2024

How do we root our identities in Christ and help our children do the same? Jonathan Holmes, Executive Director at Fieldstone Counseling, shares with Juli how we can avoid identity traps and teach our kids to do the same.

Guest: Jonathan Holmes

Jonathan’s Instagram: @akjonathanholmes

Book: Grounded in Grace: Helping Kids Build Their Identity in Christ by Jonathan Holmes

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#297 Finding Freedom in the Midst of Brokenness Sep 30, 2024

Many men and women experiencing same-sex attraction struggle to imagine they can be loved by God and live a life of real freedom.

Is there a future where you can be free and fulfilled?

Laurence Koo, guest speaker at our upcoming Reclaim Conference, joins Juli to share what freedom looks like when you experience same-sex attraction.

Guest: Laurence Koo

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#535 What Men Weren’t Taught About Sex Sep 23, 2024

The vast majority of men didn’t get a sufficient sex education. Besides a handful of condoms and advice to not get girls pregnant, wasn’t there more they needed to know about women, sex, and romance?

Sam Jolman, LPC, author of “The Sex Talk You Never Got”, joins Juli to talk about what men didn’t learn about sex growing up.

Guest: Sam Jolman, LPC

Sam’s Website: samjolman.com

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#534 Four Surprising Things Killing Your Wife's Sex Drive Sep 16, 2024

Female sexuality is complex, with numerous factors weighing into how a woman may feel about sex at any given time. Obstacles run the gamut, from parenting young kids, to demanding jobs, and sexual pain.

What about the lesser-explored reasons why a woman might not feel excited about sexual intimacy with her husband? Dr. Jennifer Degler joins Juli to share her thoughts and observations.

Guest: Dr. Jennifer Degler

Jennifer’s Website: jenniferdegler.com

Jennifer on Instagram: @drjenniferdegler

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#533 Why It Feels Impossible To Beat Your Sin Sep 09, 2024

Are we supposed to battle our sin or surrender it to the one who has already defeated it?

Juli and Hannah discuss the difference between struggle and surrender, the role of the Holy Spirit in our lives, and what happens when we resist God’s leading in our lives instead of embracing it.

Co-host: Hannah Nitz

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#532 How the Church Can Help Stop Domestic Abuse Sep 02, 2024

Studies have shown that churches are often among the first places people turn when they are experiencing domestic abuse, but unfortunately churches aren’t always well-informed when it comes to how to help victims.

Chris Moles and Stacey Womack, who work independently in organizations PeaceWorks and Abuse Recovery Ministry Services, join Juli to talk about what churches need to know when it comes to helping abuse victims.

Guests: Chris Moles and Stacey Womack

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#531 The Basics of Talking to Kids About Sex Aug 26, 2024

Discussing sexuality with children can be intimidating. As a Christian parent you long to give your kids a faith-based sex education and you want to do so without shame, but often the very first step towards this is the most challenging.

Thankfully, there are more and more experts providing support and guidance in this area. Dr. Julia Sadusky, author of “Start Talking To Your Kids About Sex” and “Talking with Your Teen about Sex”, joins Juli to provide wisdom on age-appropriate sex education and give some practical parenting tips for Christian families seeking to engage in healthy conversations with their kids about sex.

Guest: Dr. Julia Sadusky

Julia’s Website: juliasadusky.com

Julia’s Instagram: @drsadusky

Book: Start Talking To Your Kids About Sex by Julia Sadusky

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#530 Sexuality and Smartphones: How to Help Teens Thrive Aug 19, 2024

How do you help your kids develop a healthy relationship with social media, avoid the traps and pitfalls, and learn how to connect with peers safely and authentically?

Pastor James Talbert from Citizens Church Akron joins Juli to share what he’s learned through ministry about the good, the bad, and the ugly of social media.

Guest: James Talbert

Website: citizensakron.com

Instagram: @citizensakron

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#529 Modern Dating: How To Do It Well Aug 12, 2024

How do you set the pace for a dating relationship? What kind of expectations should you have? How do you break up with someone without disrespecting them?

Kait and JJ Tomlin from Heart of Dating join Juli to help singles navigate the ups and downs of modern dating.

Guests: Kait and JJ Tomlin

Heart of Dating website: heartofdating.com

Heart of Dating Instagram: @heartofdating @kaitness @jjtomlin

Book: Thank You for Rejecting Me by Kait Warman Tomlin

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#528 The 3 Superpowers Your Sex Life is Missing Aug 05, 2024

Wondering how to improve your sex life? Beyond the general relationship advice and intimacy tips you might have found online, there’s an unpopular argument you might not have heard: that the key to improving your sexual connection lies with you.

Christian Sex Therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma joins Juli to talk about three underrated ways couples can boost their sexual and emotional intimacy.

Guest: Dr. Michael Sytsma

Michael’s website: intimatemarriage.org

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#228 (Bonus) Intimacy After Infidelity Jul 29, 2024

In this special re-release, Troy and Melissa Haas of HopeQuest join Juli to answer the question: Can a couple’s sexual relationship survive and thrive after infidelity?

While they were serving as missionaries, Troy’s long-term addiction to pornography was revealed. As hard as this was on their marriage, Melissa soon realized she had her own issues around sexuality too.

They join Juli to tell her what was wrong, and how God helped them heal and find restoration.

Guests: Troy and Melissa Haas

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#527 Why Friendship, not Romance, is the Greatest Love of All Jul 22, 2024

Have we lost our vision for loving relationships outside the context of marriage and the nuclear family? What was the greatest love Jesus described in the Bible? Was it romantic love, or a different type of sacrificial love?

Rebecca McLaughlin joins Juli to explain how we’ve minimized friendship and overemphasized sexual relationships.

Guest: Rebecca McLaughlin

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Book: “No Greater Love” by Rebecca McLaughlin

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#526 How God Heals Us From Past Abuse and Trauma Jul 15, 2024

Abuse and the trauma it creates run deep. How can survivors begin to move forward?

In this episode we explore a deeply personal journey of recovery from decades of sexual, physical and emotional abuse, discussing how embracing the fatherhood of God can transform your life. Author Jennifer Michelle Greenberg shares how her heavenly father and a healthy marital relationship helped her heal from her painful past.

Guests: Jennifer Michelle Greenberg and Jason Greenberg

Website: Jen’s website

Instagram: @jenmgreenberg

Book: “Not Forsaken” by Jennifer Michelle Greenberg

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#525 Churches and Porn: What isn't Working and How to Change it Jul 08, 2024

Struggles with pornography are incredibly common within the Church, and the problem isn’t going to go away on its own.

What can churches do to be an environment where it is safe for congregants and leaders to admit struggles and get the support they need to overcome them? How can those going into ministry receive sufficient discipleship and care so they can heal from past traumas, win the battle, and walk closely and authentically with Jesus?

Sam Black, Director of Life Change Education at Covenant Eyes, and author of “The Healing Church: What Churches Get Wrong about Pornography and How to Fix It”, joins Juli to discuss what the church at large can do to address the issue of pornography.

Guest: Sam Black

Website: thehealingchurch.com

Website: covenanteyes.com

App: The Victory App

Instagram: @covenant.eyes

Book: “The Healing Church: What Churches Get Wrong about Pornography and How to Fix It” by Sam Black

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#524 Her Freedom Journey: A Powerful New Book Helping Women Overcome Porn And Sexual Shame Jul 01, 2024

Introducing “Her Freedom Journey”, Juli and Joy’s brand new book!

In this very special podcast episode, Joy and Juli talk about the lack of discussion around female sexuality in the Church, and particularly around issues like pornography and masturbation. Joy shares some of her personal story, and together she and Juli talk about the heart behind the new book.

Guest: Dr. Joy Skarka

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Instagram: @joyskarka

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#523 How Past Family Patterns Impact the Way You Love Today Jun 24, 2024

The way we are brought up has a significant influence on the way we form attachments with others. There are few relationships in which this is as pronounced or as obvious as marriage.

Kay and Milan Yerkovich, authors of the breakthrough book, “How We Love”, want to empower couples to become more aware of the ways in which their early years formed them, and to acquire the skills to develop secure attachments for healthy, long-lasting relationships.

Guests: Kay and Milan Yerkovich

Book: How We Love by Kay and Milan Yerkovich

Website: howwelove.com

Instagram: @howwelovebook

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#522 The Paradox of Hope and Brokenness: Jesus, Depression and SSA Jun 17, 2024

In Jesus there is hope for healing and transformation, but that doesn’t mean that in this life we won’t experience hardship and brokenness.

Brenna Blain, renowned speaker and new author, knows this better than most. Experiencing same-sex attraction and fighting her own mental health battle from around the age of 14, Brenna joins Juli to explain how coming to the very end of herself led her to a place desperate enough to long for God Himself, and not just His healing.

Guest: Brenna Blain

Brenna’s Website: brenna-blain.vercel.app/

Brenna’s Instagram: @bunonmyhead

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#521 How to Know if Your Marriage can Recover from Betrayal Jun 10, 2024

My spouse keeps acting out, why won’t he stop?

Is my wife still keeping secrets?

How do I know if my spouse is truly repentant after betrayal?

Infidelity changes everything, and relationship recovery is extremely challenging to navigate. What signs of change are you supposed to look for? How do you build trust after cheating

Jeremy Smith, LPC and founder of the Marriage Recovery Course joins Juli to discuss the unique approach he’s developed to help couples heal their marriages and achieve deep, lasting change as individuals and together.

Guest: Jeremy Smith, LPC

Website: Smith Counseling

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#520 Sex, Cancel Culture and the Church: How to Pursue Unity When we Disagree Jun 03, 2024

Have we the Church lost our way when it comes to living in unity? What would Jesus say about Christian cancel culture and the many threads on social media where people criticize one another in the name of Christianity?

God’s Word says, “Behold, how good and pleasant it is when brothers dwell in unity!”, and yet, in the modern American Church, unity can often be hard to find.

Join Juli and co-host Hannah Nitz as they discuss:

The need for a biblical perspective of the Church as Christ’s bride
How to extend God’s mercy, grace, and forgiveness to others and ourselves
How to cultivate a true Christian response to disagreements within the Church
Why maturity in the faith requires engagement with those with whom we disagree
How we can use the churches of the New Testament as a model to work through disagreements and pursue unity

Co-host: Hannah Nitz

Hannah’s Website: hannahnitz.com

Hannah’s Instagram: @hannahnitz

Book: “Until Unity” by Francis Chan

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#519 Why we Need to be Better at Caring for Divorced People in the Church May 27, 2024

When a marriage ends through divorce, it makes sense that the people involved would experience deep grief. So how do we care for those walking through it? What is a Christian approach to divorce-care and helping divorced individuals in the church?

Laura Petherbridge, who suddenly found herself divorced at 29, joins Juli to share her experience as a divorcee, discuss the work she is doing, and explain how the Church can be a place of healing and empathy for those mourning the loss of their marriages.

Guest: Laura Petherbridge

Laura’s Website: thesmartstepmom.com

Laura’s Instagram: @laurapetherbridge

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#518 Single Sexuality and the Unique Challenges of Widowhood May 20, 2024

Widowhood presents profound challenges, with loneliness permeating every aspect of life, including the realm of sexuality. The loss goes beyond losing a life partner; it extends to losing a sexual companion as well.

In this week’s Java with Juli, Dr. Carol Tanksley, who became widowed after just seven years of marriage in 2016, delves into the complexities faced by widows, and sheds light on the emotional and psychological hurdles they face. She also shares her personal experience of surrendering her sexuality to God in widowhood.

Guest: Dr. Carol Tanklsey

Carol’s website: drcarolministries.com

Carol’s Instagram: @drcarolt

Book: Sexpectations by Dr. Carol Tanksley

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#517 How to Beat Loneliness and Cultivate Deeper Friendships May 13, 2024

Why are we all so lonely? Why is it that at a time when we are more connected than ever, many of us find ourselves feeling lonely and isolated?

Jeff Kemp and Juli explore what’s making us feel lonely, how to bring more vulnerability and honesty into our relationships, and why understanding our identities is pivotal when it comes to cultivating deep, long-lasting friendships.

Guest: Jeff Kemp

Jeff’s Website: jeffkempteam.com

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#516 Don't Skip Foreplay! (and Other Advice from a Christian Sex Therapist) May 06, 2024

Married sexuality has its challenges, internal and external, and it can be tempting to quit having sex or step outside the marriage, but there are ways to address some of the issues and overcome them as a couple.

Christian sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma joins Juli to talk about:

How to manage mismatched libidos
Why foreplay matters
What to do if you experience symptoms of Erectile Dysfunction
Why sex is important in marriage
How to re-enter holy sexuality and eroticism after abstaining without it becoming sin

Guest: Dr. Michael Sytsma

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#515 Is Attraction Sinful? Unpacking Attachment, Safety, Love and Desire Apr 29, 2024

What do your attractions say about you? Do they say anything about you? Is attraction always about sex, or are there more layers to it than we tend to think?

Hannah Nitz joins Juli for a conversation all about attraction and desire.

Co-host: Hannah Nitz

Hannah’s Website: hannahnitz.com

Hannah’s Instagram: @hannahnitz

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#514 How Deconstruction and Divorce Rocked a Young Couple's Life Apr 22, 2024

For most marriages, the most challenging years are the earliest ones. Marital problems can come in any number of forms, but sometimes the most difficult to navigate are those you don’t see coming.

Few know this better than Chris and Stephanie Teague, the duo behind Out of the Dust, who experienced divorce suddenly after only three and a half years of marriage.

The couple join Juli to discuss exactly what happened before their marriage fell apart, and what God did in both of them to put it back together.

Guests: Out of the Dust (Chris and Stephanie Teague)

Website: outofthedustmusic.com

Instagram: @outofthedustmusic

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#513 A Child Psychiatrist On The Truth About Transgender Activism Apr 15, 2024

Gender dysphoria is becoming more and more common, and parents with kids who are struggling are at a loss at what to do. Should they affirm their kids? Should they approve hormone blockers?

In this week’s episode of Java with Juli, Juli is joined by Dr. Miriam Grossman, a child psychiatrist and author who has testified before congress about some of the hidden dangers behind transgender activism.

Guest: Dr. Miriam Grossman, MD

Book: "Lost in Trans Nation: A Child Psychiatrist's Guide Out of the Madness" by Miriam Grossman M.D.

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#512 Friends Who Hurt Us: How To Recognize Unlikely Sources Of Abuse Apr 08, 2024

While many of us are familiar with the concept of abuse, we are typically familiar with the conventional stereotypes around abuse. We typically picture a younger, weaker party who is taken advantage of by a dominant person. It’s rare we picture a friend, mentor or someone we trust harming us.

Unfortunately this is what happened to Tricia Lott Williford. In the same 72-hour span in which she experienced the sudden and unexpected death of her husband, she experienced sexual assault from someone she considered a friend and a mentor.

Tricia and her therapist, Jana Richardson, join Juli to talk about how to recognize, fight, and recover from abuse in all its forms.

Guests: Tricia Lott Williford and Jana Richardson

Website: tricialottwilliford.com

Instagram: @tricialottwilliford

Book: You Are Safe Now by Tricia Lott Williford and Jana Richardson, MA, LPC, EMDR

Book: And Life Comes Back by Tricia Lott Williford

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#511 Why You Need to Laugh More Apr 01, 2024

Is laughter important? Why did God give us the ability to laugh?

Laughter might not be top of mind when it comes to how we live as Christians or how we live in relationship with others, but laughter is a gift God has given to us, and there are many reasons why.

This week, comedian, author and Pastor Ted Cunningham is Juli’s guest, and he explains the health and relational benefits of laughing much and laughing often.

Guest: Ted Cunningham

Website: Woodland Hills Church

Book: A Love That Laughs by Ted Cunningham

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#510 Influencer Anh Lin on Overcoming Trauma and Living a Beautiful Life Mar 25, 2024

Accidental influencer and author of “Forever Home”, Anh Lin, shares her story of journeying through trauma and brokenness to a place of healing.

You’ll hear Anh talk about:

Her unlikely encounter with Jesus
How she medicated her pain and grief with partying and alcohol
Experiencing rock bottom, even after finding Jesus

Guest: Anh Lin

Anh’s website: girlandtheword.com

Anh’s Instagram: @girlandtheword

Book: “Forever Home: Moving Beyond Brokenness to Build a Strong and Beautiful Life” by Anh Lin

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#509 Workaholism And Infidelity Almost Led To Divorce, But A Miracle Saved Their Marriage Mar 18, 2024

David and Terri Sumlin are the founders of Marriage Life Ministries, a ministry that helps couples improve their marriages through a focus on communication, conflict and intimacy. Years ago, when their own marriage was on the brink of divorce and rocked by a 3-month affair, this ministry was exactly what they needed.

Join Juli, David and Terri, as the couple talk about how God’s intervention saved and restored their marriage.

Guests: David and Terri Sumlin

David and Terri’s Website: marriagelifeministries.com/

David and Terri’s Instagram: @marriagelifeministries

Blog: Forgiveness is Hard, Grace is Harder

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#508 What Does Healthy Masculinity Actually Look Like? Mar 11, 2024

What can we learn from close examination of the lives of the men we read about in scripture? These were real people,who the Bible reveals had their own very human struggles, battling insecurity, pride, deception, and lust.

This week’s podcast guest, Chase Replogle, is a pastor at Bent Oak Church in Missouri, and is the author of “The Five Masculine Instincts". The book covers the lessons we can learn from male Biblical figures like Samson, Moses, and Cain. This is a great episode that discusses some common motivators for men (and women), and offers guidance on how to address inner motivations that push us further from God’s heart and calling on our lives.

Guest: Chase Replogle

Website: chasereplogle.com/

Instagram: @thepastorwriter

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#507 What You Need To Know About The Gender Conversation Mar 04, 2024

Is there a theological approach or framework to understanding gender? Is there scriptural support for the messages we receive about gender from movies, books, and institutions? And what does it mean for us to live as ‘lights on a hill’ within a culture that continually evolves in its discussions about gender and sexual issues?

Join John and Sarah Stonestreet from the Colson Center as they join Juli in exploring some of the underlying beliefs surrounding sexuality in our culture, and talk about how we can embrace and pursue the good and beautiful narrative found in scripture.

Guests: John and Sarah Stonestreet

Website: The Colson Center

Website: identityproject.tv/

Instagram: @thecolsoncenter

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#506 How To Make Sense Of Grief And God's Goodness Feb 26, 2024

Ed and Lisa Young, founding pastors of Fellowship Church, join Juli for an honest and faith-filled conversation about their journey through grief. The couple’s oldest daughter, Lee-Beth, passed away a little over two years ago after an ongoing battle with poor mental health and alcohol abuse, and in this powerful interview, they share about the unexpected comfort and hope they discovered as they wrestled with their pain, loss and sorrow and held their faith in tandem.

Guests: Ed and Lisa Young

Website: Fellowship Church

Book: A Path Through Pain by Ed and Lisa Young

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#505 What Does it Look Like to Struggle with Sexual Sin and Still Love Jesus? Feb 19, 2024

For too long, many Christians have heard and believed the misconception that living in God’s freedom and redemption means they’ll never struggle with sin or temptation. This is one of the things the Bible is pretty clear on. The heroes of the faith like Paul, David, Moses, and Abraham loved and new God and still lived imperfectly.

Maybe it’s time for us to recognize that being saved doesn’t mean we’ll never sin again, but that it means we’re on a journey of loving Jesus, pursuing Him, falling short and returning to Him.

This week’s podcast guest, Lina Abujamra, knows this well. She joins Juli to talk about what it looks like to spend a lifetime struggling with lust and sexual temptation, and still choose Jesus.

Guest: Lina Abujamra

Book: Don't Tell Anyone You're Reading This by Lina Abujamra

Website: livingwithpower.org/

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#504 Painful Intercourse, Fake Orgasms, And Aging Sex: Answers To The Most Popular Sex Questions Feb 12, 2024

What does it look like to let God reclaim sex in your marriage…when sex is painful? Or when it feels like an obligation? Or when your spouse wants to engage in BDSM?

In this special Live Q&A episode from Reclaim 2022, Juli is joined by Dr. Jennifer Degler and Dr. Michael Sytsma as they provide biblical, practical answers to questions on sex that some of us are too afraid to ask.

Guests: Dr. Jennifer Degler and Dr. Michael Sytsma

Jennifer’s Website: jenniferdegler.com/

Mike’s Website: intimatemarriage.org/

Website: (American Board of Certified Sex Therapists) abcst.org

Website: mycounselor.online

Website: (International Society for the Study of Women's Sexual Health) isswsh.org

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#503 Lies, Pornography and Sex Addiction Almost Ended Their Marriage, Now They Help Others Find Hope Feb 05, 2024

It’s one thing to hear someone say secrets and sexual addiction are destructive to a marriage and a family, it’s another thing entirely to experience it.

Phil and Priscilla Fretwell understand this more than most. One afternoon, while her husband was at work, Priscilla got a call from the video store enquiring for an overdue video. Shocked and confused, she called her husband to ask him about it. His only response was: ‘I’m coming home’.

Many years, tears and miracles later, Phil and Priscilla have seen God move in their hearts and in their marriage in ways they could never have imagined.

Guests: Phil and Priscilla Fretwell

Instagram: @savagemarriageministries

Website: savagemarriageministries.com

Podcast: The Savage Marriage Podcast

Book: Savage Marriage: Triumph over Betrayal and Sexual Addiction

Java with Juli: #482 Trying to Overcome a Sexual Addiction? Here’s Why You Can’t Do It Alone

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#502 How to Understand and Overcome the Challenges of Postpartum Sex Jan 29, 2024

Pregnancy has its ups and downs, but where the rubber hits the road for most is postpartum. If you’re a woman who has had a baby or you’re a man married to one, you understand that there are fairly common challenges specifically around postpartum sex.

There’s a lot to navigate—changing bodies, new responsibilities, challenging hormones, it’s no wonder women struggle to figure out how they feel about sex and couples are hard pressed to find a new sexual rhythm.

In this much-needed and highly requested podcast episode, Juli is joined by pelvic floor therapist Heather Marra, and Dr. Jennifer Degler as they explain why sex is so different postpartum, and what wives and their husbands can do about it.

Guests: Dr. Jennifer Degler, and Heather Marra, PT, MPT

Jennifer’s website: jenniferdegler.com/

Heather’s website: onesimplestep.today/

Jennifer’s Instagram: @drjenniferdegler

Heather’s Instagram: @onesimplesteptoday

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Java with Juli: #484 Duty Sex, Feeling Objectified, and Other Reasons Women Don’t Enjoy Sex in Marriage

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#501 Going Beyond a Superficial Faith - with guest Jackie Hill Perry Jan 22, 2024

How do we move from a faith that is shallow and superficial to one that is rooted in relationship? What does it take to take a prayer life that feels like a duty and make it into one of delight?

Author, teacher, and poet Jackie Hill Perry joins Juli to talk about the inspiration behind her latest book, “Upon Waking”, and why God isn’t looking at the amount of time we spend with Him so much as He’s looking at the condition of our hearts.

Guest: Jackie Hill Perry

Website: jackiehillperry.com

Instagram: @jackiehillperry

Book: Upon Waking by Jackie Hill Perry

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#500 Sex, Faith and Family: Conversations Every Couple Should Have Pre-Marriage Jan 15, 2024

We’ve all heard it said many times that marriage can be tough. But it’s possible we don’t discuss enough how good, sweet, and awesome marriage can be!

Scott Kedersha, marriage pastor and author, joins Juli to share some of the things he’s learned in almost two decades of marriage ministry.

In this episode, Juli and Scott discuss:

How couples should handle sexual history and ongoing issues
What qualities to look for in a potential spouse
When to call off an engagement
The role of prayer and spirituality in the dating relationship

Whether you’re married, engaged, dating or single, this is an eye-opening episode guaranteed to help you navigate your intimate relationships with Godly wisdom and intention.

Guest: Scott Kedersha

Website: scottkedersha.com

Book: Ready or Knot: 12 Conversations Every Couple Needs to Have Before Marriage by Scott Kedersha

Book: The Ready or Knot Prayer Guide: 100 Prayers for Dating and Engaged Couples by Scott Kedersha

Java with Juli: #494 Purity Culture, Men and Sexual Entitlement

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#499 How Vulnerability Can Help You Heal From Sexual Trauma Jan 08, 2024

If you caught someone in sin, how would you respond to them?

Tim Ross was 18 years old when his mother caught him watching porn. Her response was to ask one question: “What are you doing?” and then to turn, walk away, and pray.

30 years later that night remains seared in Tim’s memory as the night grace, mercy and truth reached in and pulled him out of darkness and into light. Tim tells Juli:

What finally prompted him to share what he had been through
How a faith-filled response led him to more vulnerability
What he did to overcome his addiction to porn, and
Why honesty and vulnerability are so necessary for our healing

Guest: Tim Ross

Tim’s Website: upsettheworld.com/

Tim’s Podcast: The Basement

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#498 The Surprising Thing You're Missing In Your Healing Journey Jan 01, 2024

What’s getting in the way of you becoming more like Christ?

Could it be that while your knowledge of God is good, you haven’t embraced how He has designed you on your journey to become more like Him?

Author and consultant Michel Hendricks is the first guest of 2024 for Java with Juli. He shares what he has observed from his years working as a Pastor of Spiritual Formation, and what he has learned from adopting a more right-brained approach to discipleship and formation. His advice may surprise you.

Guest: Michel Hendricks

Book: The Other Half of Church by Michel Hendricks and Jim Wilder

Website: Life Model Works

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#497 Trying to Heal? Here's Why Knowing Your Story is Essential Dec 28, 2023

When was the last time you took time to reflect on your story? As you reflect on the year you’ve had, why not take some time to think more about your past and do some healing work?

Cathy Loerzel, co-founder of The Allender Center and co-author of “Redeeming Heartache” joins Juli to talk about why sharing and hearing our stories helps us heal from past trauma and is crucial for cultivating emotional and spiritual maturity.

Guest: Cathy Loerzel

Website: cathyloerzel.com

Cathy’s Instagram: @cathy.loerzel

Book: Redeeming Heartache: How Past Suffering Reveals Our True Calling by Cathy Loerzel and Dr. Dan Allender

Java with Juli: #479 More Than Just Behavior: Why Your Struggles With Sexual Sin Run Deeper Than You Think

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#496 Seeking Truth on Singleness, Married Sexuality and LGBTQ+ Issues - A 2023 Recap Dec 18, 2023

Join Juli and Hannah as they revisit some of the common themes, topics and questions from this year’s Java with Juli episodes.

Juli and Hannah address some of the following questions:

Can God reach the LGBTQ+ community?
When did culture begin to emphasize sexual identity and pronouns?
Have we made an idol of marriage and forgotten the dignity of singleness?

Grab your coffee, get comfortable, and explore some of the common themes and lessons from 2023.

Guest: Hannah Nitz

Hannah’s Instagram: @hannahnitz

Hannah’s Website: hannahnitz.com

Java with Juli: #448: When Did Sexual Identity Become a Thing? (and Why Are We Obsessed With It?)

Java with Juli: #455 How God Changed My Heart (Even After I Changed My Gender) with Laura Smalts

Java with Juli: #450 Breaking the Marriage Idol

Java with Juli: #464 Why We Need to Remember The Dignity of Singleness

Java with Juli: #454 Mismatched in Sexual Desire? You May Be Closer Than You Think

Java with Juli: #452 Porn Addiction in Marriage: How to Let God Redeem Your Story

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#495 Why Narratives About Sex Matter Dec 11, 2023

What are the stories you’re telling yourself about who you are, about who God is, and about what life is supposed to look like?

We’re all telling ourselves stories all the time. And those stories matter, because we interpret our experiences through them, and those narratives really heavily influence the choices we make and the people we become.

Author Jennifer L Holberg joins Juli on the podcast to discuss her book, “Nourishing Narratives”, and explains why we need to challenge the narratives we’re given, embrace the metanarrative of scripture, and see how the stories we believe shape our faith.

Guest: Jennifer L Holberg

Book: Nourishing Narratives: The Power of Story to Shape Our Faith by Jennifer L Holberg

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#494 Purity Culture, Men and Sexual Entitlement Dec 04, 2023

We all know the purity narrative had its downsides for women, but what about men?

Is it possible the purity narrative failed men too?

What were men taught to do with feelings of lust? What harmful ideas were passed on in an effort to protect purity?

Noah Filipiak, author, pastor, and founder of Beyond Ministries, joins Juli to unpack some of the messages men heard, and provide insight on where things need to change.

Guest: Noah Filipiak

Noah’s Instagram: @noahfilipiak

Noah’s Website: noahfilipiak.com

Website: Beyond Ministries

Book: Beyond the Battle by Noah Filipiak

Book: Sacred Rhythms by Ruth Hayley Barton

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#493 How the Bible’s Teachings About Sex Reveal God’s Goodness Nov 27, 2023

Is God really good?

This is a question many people today are left asking as they consider biblical values on sexuality.

The Bible comments on everything from same-sex attraction, the heart of marriage, singleness, and the cost of discipleship, and in this episode Juli and her guest, author and pastor Sam Allberry, unpack these topics. Sam is a frequent guest on the podcast who talks with honesty, humility, and wisdom about a lot of the hot button sexual topics of our modern culture.

Guest: Sam Allberry

Sam’s Website: samallberry.com/

Book: God's Signpost: How Marriage Points Us to God's Love

Book: Is God Anti-Gay? And Other Questions About Jesus, the Bible, and Same-Sex Sexuality

Blog: Sexual Discipleship®: What Is It, and Why Is It Important?

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#492 How Human Trafficking Causes Us to Rethink What We Believe About God Nov 20, 2023

Even with all the scriptures tell us of God’s capacity for miracles, many of us still often wonder, “Is God able to heal me? Is He really greater than the challenges I face?”

There aren’t many things that show the depths of sin and brokenness in humanity like the horror of human trafficking. If you’ve watched a documentary on human trafficking or know someone personally impacted by it, it’s clear there is so much brokenness in both the victims and their perpetrators.

Thankfully, God is greater than all that needs healing, mercy, and grace in all of us.

Charles Martin, author of fiction trilogy “The Keeper” Series joins Juli to unpack some of the realities of human trafficking, what it means to be broken, and what it takes to find freedom.

Whether you’re struggling with shame about your sin or struggling to reconcile God’s mercy and forgiveness with the sins of others, this is for you.

Guest: Charles Martin

Book: It is Finished by Charles Martin

Book: Anything is Possible by Joby Martin and Charles Martin

Books from “The Keeper” Series:

Book: The Water Keeper by Charles Martin

Book: The Letter Keeper by Charles Martin

Book: The Record Keeper by Charles Martin

Website: charlesmartinbooks.com

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Java with Juli: #296: An Insider’s Story of Human Trafficking

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#491 Why Debates About Women's Roles Might be Missing the Point Nov 13, 2023

Are men and women called to have the same kind of roles? Are women supposed to support men but not lead them, or lead alongside them? This is a sensitive ongoing discussion in the American Church. In this episode, author and esteemed theologian Dr. Michelle Lee-Barnewall joins Juli to discuss why this debate misses God’s heart for how men and women should relate to each other in the family of God.

Guest: Dr. Michelle Lee-Barnewall

Book: Neither Complementarian nor Egalitarian by Dr. Michelle Lee-Barnewall

Java with Juli: #470 Why Did We Start Hating Men? The Toxic War on Masculinity with Nancy Pearcey

Blog: What Submission Isn’t

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#490 How Do You Go From Being Stuck in Bondage to True Freedom? Nov 06, 2023

On the journey of healing and recovery, it can be easy to wonder if things will “always be this way”, or feel like the challenges “will never stop”. The reality is that it often takes more than we expect to go from death to life. While the Bible says that real and lasting transformation is available to us, it can be hard to understand what part we have to play and where God is doing the work.

Jonathan Daugherty, founder of Be Broken Ministries, will tell you true transformation is grace-led. He joins Juli to discuss his new book where he explores and outlines how God uses our pain, restores our identity, and renews us along our healing journeys through the miraculous power of His grace.

Guest: Jonathan Daugherty

Be Broken Ministries on Instagram: @bebrokenministries

Website: Be Broken Ministries

Book: Grace-Based Transformation by Jonathan Daugherty

Blog: God’s Healing Stinks

Blog: Why Is Healing So Hard?

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#489 Thinking About Divorce? You Might Want to Listen to This First Oct 30, 2023

In marriages where one or both partners are unhappy, divorce is a very real consideration. But imagine that you sit down with a divorce attorney, tell her you and your spouse argue all the time and can’t see eye to eye, and after nodding quietly, she gives you the following advice: before you split, take inventory.

Sound unconventional? This is the advice from divorce attorney Toni Nieuwhof, who, along with her husband, pastor-turned-leader-coach Carey Nieuwhof, has seen many couples walk through marital trouble and divorce.

Whether you’re walking through a tough season in your marriage or are currently contemplating divorce, this is a podcast episode that can encourage you and create fresh motivation to nurture your relationship with your spouse.

Guests: Toni and Carey Nieuwhof

Book: Before You Split by Toni Nieuwhof

Blog: How Do I Know If I'm in an Abusive Relationship?

Java with Juli: #466 Enough is Enough: Recognizing and Combating Abusive Relationships

Book: When Sorry Isn’t Enough by Gary Chapman and Jen Thomas

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#363 (Bonus) Why Are Christians Afraid Of the LGBTQ+ Conversation? Oct 26, 2023

Do you actually have a Biblical sexual ethic? Do you know what the scripture says about your sexuality? Or have you simply made assumptions about what the Bible says about sex based on what you’ve heard others say?

In this timely and necessary special edition bonus episode rounding out our series on various topics around God, sex and intimacy, Rachel Gilson joins Juli to discuss why it’s more important than ever to maintain a high view of the Bible, and know what the Bible actually says about our sexuality.

Guest: Rachel Gilson

Rachel’s Website: rachelgilson.com

Book: Born Again This Way by Rachel Gilson

Java with Juli: #312: Born Again This Way: Rachel’s Story

Blog: How to Have Tough Conversations

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#488 What Does the Bible Really Say About Same-Sex Marriage? Oct 23, 2023

Preston Sprinkle, author of “People to be Loved,” joins Juli on the podcast to discuss his latest book “Does the Bible Support Same-Sex Marriage?” and tackles arguably one of the most sensitive and hotly discussed topics of our time. Knowing what God’s Word says is growing increasingly important, and in this conversation Juli and Preston examine some of the beliefs and arguments surrounding sexuality through the lens of biblical truth.

Guest: Preston Sprinkle

Preston’s Twitter: @PrestonSprinkle Preston’s Instagram: @preston.sprinkle

Preston’s Website: prestonsprinkle.com

Book: Does the Bible Support Same-Sex Marriage? by Preston Sprinkle

Book: People to Be Loved by Preston Sprinkle

Blog: Can I Be Godly and Gay?

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#257 (Bonus) How Trauma Affects Our Bodies & Souls Oct 19, 2023

As embodied, integrated beings the experiences we have, positive and negative alike, affect our souls, our bodies, and our minds.

This means that regardless of whether a trauma you experienced was physical or emotional trauma, it leaves a mark on all of you. Susie Larson, author, speaker, and radio show host, joins Juli to explain how what we experience in life affects every part of us, and provides insight on how to journey toward healing when the scars run deep.

Guest: Susie Larson

Susie’s Instagram: @susielarsonauthor

Susie’s Website: susielarson.com

Book: Fully Alive by Susie Larson

Book: Surprised by The Healer by Linda Dillow and Dr. Juli Slattery

Java with Juli: #411: The Unlikely Means God Uses To Bring Beauty From Ashes

Blog: Why Is Healing So Hard?

Blog: Why We Must Be Surprised by the Healer

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#487 How to Cling to God When Your World is Falling Apart Oct 16, 2023

How do you cling to your faith in God when life gets hard? What does it look like to have an unshakeable faith? And how do you cultivate it?

Michele Cushatt, author, speaker, Bible-teacher, and 3-time cancer survivor, joins Juli in this honest, gritty, and hope-filled episode about knowing a God who meets us in our most painful places, and holding onto Him with all our hearts.

Guest: Michele Cushatt

Michele’s Instagram: @michelecushatt

Website: michelecushatt.com

Book: A Faith That Will Not Fail by Michele Cushatt

Book: Undone by Michele Cushatt

Java with Juli: #311: Where Is God When We Suffer?

Java with Juli: #438: How Your Story Becomes Sacred in the Hands of Jesus

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#316 (Bonus) Sorry Mom & Dad, the "Sex Talk" Doesn't Work Oct 12, 2023

When it comes to educating kids about sexuality, a ‘one and done’ conversational approach is just not enough to equip them with the knowledge and understanding they need to make sense of sex and gender in our cultural landscape.

So if that doesn’t work, what should we be doing?

As we continue our series working through different themes around God and sexuality, Juli and Hannah Nitz sit down in this special edition bonus episode to explain what it looks like to teach your kids about biblical sexuality in our current cultural moment.

Guest: Hannah Nitz

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Blog: Talking to Your Kids About Sex: Why, When, and How

Blog: 5 Reasons You’re Not Talking to Your Kids About Sex (and How to Overcome Them)

Blog: Sexual Integrity: The Heart of Sexually Discipling Your Kids

Java with Juli: #486 Teaching Sexual Discipleship: How to Walk in Truth and Love with LGBTQ+ Kids

#486 Teaching Sexual Discipleship: How to Walk in Truth and Love with LGBTQ+ Kids Oct 09, 2023

How do we embrace the truth of God’s word while loving those He also calls us to love? What are some of the practical challenges of that when those we’re disagreeing with are our children? In this episode, Kelly Urbon, founder of Walk With Them, discusses the work she is doing in counseling and coaching parents and families of those who identify as LGBTQ+, and explains why it is so necessary.

Guest: Kelly Urbon

Website: Walk With Them

Java with Juli: #285 Loving Without Compromise (Member exclusive)

Q&A: How Do I Love and Serve My LGBTQ Friends Without Being Offensive?

Book: People to Be Loved by Preston Sprinkle

#386 (Bonus) What's the Secret To Getting the Marriage & Intimacy You Want? Go Vertical Oct 05, 2023

When Dave Wilson’s wife Ann told him she no longer had feelings for him, there are a number of responses he could have had. The one he chose might surprise you. Rather than lashing out in disbelief, Dave experienced the conviction of the Holy Spirit and went straight onto his knees in repentance. As God touched His heart, He touched Ann’s as well.

Could it be that many of us are missing the supernatural element of our marriages? What would happen if we allowed God to do the work He seeks to do in us, so that He can heal our marriages?

Join Juli and her guests Dave and Ann Wilson in this special re-air episode as they share how God transformed them and their marriage from the top down.

Guests: Dave and Ann Wilson

Book: Vertical Marriage by Dave and Ann Wilson

Book: Finding the Hero in Your Husband, Revisited by Dr. Juli Slattery

Website: Family Life Today

Blog: I Love Being Bitter: How We Grow Bitter and 3 Ways to Overcome

Java with Juli: #208: The Forgiveness & Intimacy Link

#485 Your Marriage Won't Survive Without Grace: Why Marriages Built on Performance Fall Apart Oct 02, 2023

When you’re trying to diagnose what’s missing in your marital relationship, chances are you probably won’t attribute challenges to a lack of grace. But what if grace is the missing piece?

Brad and Marilyn Rhoads of Grace Marriage join Juli to share their story. They unpack how God showed them the key role grace had to play in their marriage, how it brought them closer, and how it helped brace their relationship through challenging emotional seasons.

Guests: Brad and Marilyn Rhoads

Grace Marriage’s Instagram: @grace_marriage Grace Marriage’s Facebook: Grace Marriage

Website: gracemarriage.com

Book: The Grace Marriage: How the Gospel and Intentionality Transform Your Relationship

Java with Juli: #253: Making the Gospel Beautiful Through Relationships

Blog: Forgiveness is Hard, Grace is Harder

Blog: The Challenge of Grace

#454 (Bonus) Mismatched in Sexual Desire? You May Be Closer Than You Think Sep 28, 2023

If you’re a married person feeling like there’s a giant chasm between the level of sexual desire you and your spouse experience, this special re-air episode is for you.

Through over two years of research and work, Shaunti Feldhahn and Dr. Michael Sytsma surveyed and documented numerous married couples, examining the way they connect around sexual intimacy in their marriage. They investigated trends, causality, and correlation all in a bid to help couples bridge the gaps they experience in their sexual intimacy, and their findings might just surprise you.

Guests: Shaunti Feldhahn and Dr. Michael Sytsma

Book: Secrets of Sex and Marriage: 8 Surprises That Make All the Difference by Shaunti Feldhahn & Dr. Michael Sytsma

Website: Building Intimate Marriages

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#484 Duty Sex, Feeling Objectified, and Other Reasons Women Don't Enjoy Sex in Marriage Sep 25, 2023

It’s week three of our 7-week series exploring different themes around God, sex and intimacy, and this week, it’s all about sex in Marriage. Every couple wants a healthy, satisfying sex life, but achieving one isn’t always straightforward.

What does it look like to build sexual intimacy when your spouse has a lower drive than you do? What is the most effective way for you to pursue your spouse? And is having sex with your spouse more frequently the answer to their porn addiction?

Juli is joined by J Parker and Bonny Burns, the hosts of the podcast “Sex Chat for Christian Wives”, as they provide biblical, practical insight on the challenges Christian wives face in the marital context.

If you missed last week’s episode, click here.

Guests: J. Parker and Bonny Burns

Podcast: Sex Chat for Christian Wives

Book: Unlock Your Orgasm by Bonny Logsdon Burns

Blog: Five Things You Need to Know About Women, Orgasm & Intimacy

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#388 (Bonus) Single & Sexually Whole Sep 21, 2023

If God made you sexual and you’re single, what are you supposed to do with your sexual desires?

It’s true that the path to sexual integrity for the single believer has long been a rocky one. When a Christian man or woman experiences attraction and rising hormones, is he or she supposed to ignore or suppress their sexuality? Or is there more to being a sexual being than we’ve previously given thought to?

In this special edition bonus episode, Juli is joined by the late Dr. Doug Rosenau, and they discuss different types of sexuality, the priority people place on them, and what we’re supposed to do when we experience desire.

Guest: Dr. Doug Rosenau

Book: Soul Virgins by Dr. Doug Rosenau

Blog: What Do I Do With My Sexual Desires?

Blog: You Can Be Single & Sexual

#483 Why You Need a New Theology of Singleness, Even if You're Married Sep 18, 2023

Join Juli and her guest Dr. Danielle Treweek as we kick off week two of our 7-week series exploring various themes around God, sex and intimacy. This week we look at singleness and ask the question: Have we as the Church misrepresented and misunderstood singleness? Dani is the author of “The Meaning of Singleness,” a book which seeks to help individuals and the Church recover a biblically accurate theology of singleness. Get ready for a conversation filled with grace, passion, and truth as Dani discusses some of what the Church has gotten wrong about the high calling of singleness.

Guest: Danielle Treweek, PhD

Dani’s Instagram: @danitreweek Dani’s Twitter: @danitreweek

Book: The Meaning of Singleness by Danielle Treweek

Website: danielletreweek.com

Website: Single Minded Ministry

Blog: What’s the Purpose of Your Sexuality, Really?

#211 (Bonus) Understanding Pornography Addiction Sep 14, 2023

Have you ever given thought to what drives people towards pornography? While for many the initial introduction to porn is due to curiosity, it might surprise you to know that there are many different emotional and cognitive reasons people continue to turn to porn and struggle to break the addiction.

In this special edition bonus episode, revisit Juli and Jonathan Daughtery of Be Broken Ministries as Jonathan shares some of his story, and what he believes to be some of the many reasons people keep returning to “lustland.”

Guest: Jonathan Daugherty

Be Broken Ministries on Instagram: @bebrokenministries

Be Broken Ministries

Sign up for Jonathan Daugherty's Online Coaching Intensive!

Blog: Porn Affects You, Even If You Don’t Look At It

#482 Trying to Overcome a Sexual Addiction? Here's Why You Can't Do It Alone Sep 11, 2023

This is the first episode in a 7-part series on different themes around God, sex, and intimacy, and is focused on how we can find freedom from sexual sin. In this episode, Juli is joined by podcaster, author, and former pastor Nate Larkin, as he shares about his journey breaking free from an addiction to pornography that almost destroyed his marriage.

Website: Samson Society

Wbsite: The Sarah Society

Podcast: Pirate Monks Podcast

Java with Juli: #241 Women Struggle With Porn Too

Blog: What Should You Do If Your Husband Looks at Porn?

Q&A: Is there any hope for me in my struggle with porn?

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#481 Learning, Leading, and Growing: A Reflection on 10 Years of Java with Juli Sep 04, 2023

10 years of Java with Juli!

It’s been 10 years since Java with Juli launched, and there have been over 400 podcast episodes aired in that time. Juli has talked about it all: divorce, porn and masturbation, same-sex attraction, discipling kids in biblical sexuality, gender identity, painful sex, and building marital intimacy.

In this very special celebratory episode, Juli and Hannah sit down and talk about the heart and mission of Java with Juli, what Juli has learned over the last 10 years, and how she hopes to see it grow in the next decade.

Grab your java, find a comfy spot, and dive into this 10 year celebratory episode.

Guest: Hannah Nitz

Hannah’s Website: hannahnitz.com

Java with Juli: #1: Is This Thing On?

Java with Juli: #407: Masturbation: The No. 1 Question You’re Asking Us!

Blog: Sexual Discipleship®: What Is It, and Why Is It Important?

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#480 How to Heal and Rebuild Trust and Sexual Intimacy After An Affair Aug 28, 2023

Why do people cheat? And is it possible to reconcile after you or your spouse has been unfaithful?

In this episode, Juli is joined by Jessica McDaniel, LPC, as they discuss the roles of disclosure, honesty, patience, and commitment in repairing a marriage that has been affected by infidelity. Infidelity hurts everyone involved, and as Jessica shares, it takes everyone working together to overcome it.

Guest: Jessica McDaniel, LPC

Jessica’s Instagram: @mcdanielcounseling

Jessica’s Website: mcdanielcounseling.org

Hope Rising Conference

Affair Recovery

Affair Recovery First Steps Bootcamp

Affair Recovery Small Groups

Java with Juli: #274: Vulnerability, Infidelity & God's Redemption

Java with Juli: #364 How to Work Your Way Back to Sexual Intimacy After Infidelity

Blog: How Do I Rebuild Trust After Betrayal?

#479 More Than Just Behavior: Why Your Struggles With Sexual Sin Run Deeper Than You Think Aug 21, 2023

What if your sexual desires and struggles could help you achieve deeper healing? In this episode, Juli hosts author and licensed mental health counselor Jay Stringer. Jay is deeply curious about the inner workings of our minds, and he loves to help people connect the dots between their sin struggles, the challenges they face, and the places they need healing in their hearts. Join Juli and Jay as they discuss how research helps us make sense of our sin and equips us to free ourselves from unwanted desires and outcomes.

Contribute to Jay's Pioneering Research Jay is now exploring the far-reaching, deep-seated topic of human desire. He needs your help to find some answers. The Holistic Desire Survey is anonymous and your honest responses will contribute to the healing of so many individuals and couples who are facing desire problems.

There are two versions of the survey: A survey for individuals and one for couples. To take the individual survey, click here, and if you'd like to participate in the couple's survey, click here to email the research team and recieve your personal link to the survey.

Please complete the survey by August 31st 2023.

Guest: Jay Stringer, LMHC

Jay’s Website: jay-stringer.com/

Jay’s Instagram: @jay_stringer_

Website: The Holistic Desire Survey

Java with Juli: #275: Finding Freedom from Unwanted Desires

Java with Juli: #211 Understanding Pornography Addiction

Java with Juli: #452 Porn Addiction in Marriage: How to Let God Redeem Your Story

Q&A: Is there any hope for me in my struggle with porn?

Q&A: How do I get past the shame of sexual sin?

#478 How to Love and Lead Your Adult Kids with Jim Burns Aug 14, 2023

How do you parent your adult children well after they've left the nest? What does it look like to hold steadfast to your beliefs while loving an adult child who has chosen to live differently? And are your children's choices your fault?

These are some of the questions Juli asks in today's interview with guest Jim Burns, a well-known teacher in the field of marriage and family, and the president of the organization HomeWord. Jim shares from both his experience and his expertise, and has a lot of encouraging advice to share.

Guest: Dr. Jim Burns

Jim’s Instagram: @drjimburns

Jim’s Twitter: @drjimburns

Jim’s website: HomeWord.com

Blog: Three Things To Remember About Sexual Sin & Grace

Java with Juli: #159 When Your Child Struggles With Gender

Webinar: How to Love Your Prodigal Child

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#477 In-Laws or Outlaws? How to Handle The Challenge of Setting Boundaries with In-Laws Aug 07, 2023

Is there a difference between loving parental guidance, and overreaching parental interference? How can a couple set boundaries with their in-laws? And how can in-laws give their adult children the space they need to establish strong foundations for their marriages?

While many of us are familiar with the verse about leaving and cleaving, the practicalities of doing so can be challenging when there are parents and wider family who long to provide support in an important new phase of life.

Juli invites her friends, Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley, to speak about why boundaries with in-laws are important, and how they can be established with love.

Guests: Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley

Greg and Erin on Instagram: @focusmarriage Greg and Erin on Youtube: @focusonthefamilymarriage

Greg and Erin’s Podcast: Focus on Marriage Podcast

Book: Ready to Wed by Dr. Greg Smalley and Erin Smalley

Java with Juli: #13 Insights on In-Laws

Become an Authentic Intimacy member and get your free book!

#476 When God Ran: How God’s Love Found a Woman Lost In Shame Jul 31, 2023

Seasoned Christians know that while our perfection is in process, we still live in the tension of the weakness of our flesh and the hope of becoming fully like our Savior. What does that look and feel like when you have lengthy and ongoing struggles with your flesh? This is Julia’s story, and it’s the story she shares in this honest, insightful and hope-filled podcast episode. Julia is a part of the Authentic Intimacy team, and joins Juli to discuss sexual sin, God’s love and kindness, and the cultural challenges of singleness in the American Church.

Guest: Julia Mitchell

Java with Juli: #450 Breaking the Marriage Idol

Java with Juli: #464 Why We Need to Remember the Dignity of Singleness

Blog: A Road Map to Sexual Integrity in the Midst of Sexual Brokenness by Julia Mitchell

Blog: 3 Reasons I Can Run To God With My Sexual Brokenness by Julia Mitchell

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#475 Why Empathy, Inner Healing, and Teamwork Are at the Heart of Building Intimacy Jul 24, 2023

It isn’t uncommon for a couple committed to God and committed to each other to struggle to build intimacy. While it might seem like the issues and challenges you’re facing are all external, it’s often the case that there’s internal work that needs to be done. Sean and Lanette Reed join Juli in this episode to discuss how humility, faith, and empathy, helped them bridge gaps to create true intimacy.

Guests: Sean and Lanette Reed

Sean and Lanette’s Instagram: @seanandlanettereed

Sean and Lanette’s YouTube: Life with Sean and Lanette

Sean and Lanette’s TikTok: @Seanandlanette

Book: Marriage in Transition by Sean and Lanette Reed

Website: seanandlanette.com

Podcast: Marriage in Transition

Blog: Why Is Healing So Hard?

Java with Juli: #223 A Christian Counselor and a Little “Grit” Can Take You a Long Way

Book: Finding the Hero in Your Husband by Dr. Juli Slattery

Second Cup

#474 A Rebel's Manifesto: How to Live Holy Different with Sean McDowell Jul 17, 2023

What does it look like to live life as a Christian counter-culturally? How are we called to be in the world but not of the world when it comes to engaging with others, sharing the gospel, and addressing our own sin?

In this interview, Juli hosts author and professor Sean McDowell as they discuss his new book, "A Rebel's Manifesto." The book serves as a call and challenge to today's Christians, urging them to revisit God's Word and rethink what it means to be salt and light.

This conversation is crucial for all believers as we examine our blind spots and motivation, and examine the ways in which God is calling us to look more like Him and less like our world.

Guest: Dr. Sean McDowell

Sean’s Instagram: @seanmcdowell Sean’s Twitter: @Sean_McDowell Sean’s TikTok: Sean_McDowell

Sean’s Website: seanmcdowell.org

Book: A Rebel’s Manifesto by Sean McDowell

Blog: How We Love Each Other

Java with Juli: #423 How to "Rethink" Issues in Our Church Culture Around Sexuality & Abuse

Java with Juli: #203 Navigating Different Views on Sexuality

#473 Repentance, Redemption, and Revolution: How to Accept the Invitation of Godly Sexuality Jul 10, 2023

What does it actually look like to accept the invitation to reclaim God’s design for sexuality in your life? Is the path straight, wide, and flat, or narrow, bumpy, and full of twists and turns? In this episode of Java with Juli, Juli hosts guests Cole and Caitlin Zick of Moral Revolution as they discuss their polar-opposite experiences embracing their sexuality as God intended.

Guests: Cole and Caitlin Zick

Cole’s Instagram: @colezick

Caitlin’s Instagram: @caitlinzick

Moral Revolution on Instagram: @moralrevolution

Website: moralrevolution.com

Java with Juli: #420 Bonus! What Redemption and Sexual Intimacy Look Like in Real Life

Blog: Purity Culture: Lose the Lies, Keep Your Faith

Book: God, Sex and Your Marriage by Dr. Juli Slattery

#472 Embracing Grief: Why We Need to Connect Sadness, Gratitude, and Celebration Jul 03, 2023

It can often be tempting to push through the uncomfortable feelings that come with loss and try to just keep calm and carry on. But is that what we’re called to as followers of Christ? If Christ Himself took time to grieve, shouldn’t we?

Dr Greg and Erin Smalley join Juli on this episode of Java with Juli as they discuss the need to face and make sense of our pain so we can embrace real joy.

Guests: Dr. Greg Smalley and Erin Smalley

Greg and Erin on Instagram: @focusmarriage Greg and Erin on Youtube: @focusonthefamilymarriage

Greg and Erin’s Podcast: Focus on Marriage Podcast

Java with Juli: #173 Lessons I Learned from Grief

Java with Juli: #265 The Hard (and Hopeful) Truth About Losing a Spouse

#471 How to Understand, Celebrate, and Leverage Neurological Differences in Relationships Jun 26, 2023

There are always differences in relationships – differences in culture, differences in family of origin, differences in communication and conflict style – but what if you and someone you love just think differently? The thing is, while we may live in a world designed for neurotypical people, the world is full of people who are neurodivergent; those of us who process, learn, experience and interact with the world in ways not considered typical.

Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Kelli Willard joins Juli in an enlightening episode of Java with Juli as they talk about why a broader understanding of neurodiversity is so important when it comes to building strong and healthy relationships in marriages and in families.

Guest: Kelli Willard, LMFT

Kelli’s Instagram: @love_all_the_brains

Kelli’s Practice: Love All The Brains (Note: Kelli is not accepting new clients at this time)

Book: Neurodiverse Couple Therapy: A Practical Guide to Brain-Informed Care

Blog: The Challenge of Grace

#470 Why Did We Start Hating Men? The Toxic War on Masculinity with Nancy Pearcey Jun 19, 2023

When did it become normal for us as a culture not to like men? In this episode Juli’s guest is Nancy Pearcey, esteemed scholar, and author of “The Toxic War on Masculinity: How Christianity Reconciles the Sexes”. She joins Juli to discuss the roots of toxic masculinity, what it means to be a good man, and how to combat the negativity around what it really means to be a man.

Guest: Nancy Pearcey

Nancy’s Twitter: @NancyRPearcey

Nancy’s website: nancypearcey.com/

Book: The Toxic War on Masculinity: How Christianity Reconciles the Sexes by Nancy Pearcey

Book: Love Thy Body: Answering Hard Questions about Life and Sexuality by Nancy Pearcey

Book: Total Truth: Liberating Christianity from Its Cultural Captivity by Nancy Pearcey

Blog: Manhood on a Razor's Edge

Blog: Resign As Boss: How To Help Your Husband Lead

Book: Finding the Hero in Your Husband

Image by Brooke Cagle via Unsplash

#469 Porn, Rape Culture, and Why The Battle Against Sexual Assault Starts at Home Jun 12, 2023

Did you know that on average, each year, around 463,634 Americans are victims of sexual assault? That’s a heartbreaking statistic, and it reveals a very real source of pain and trauma in contemporary American culture. What causes people to commit sexual assault? Is there a way to stop it? Dr. John Foubert joins Juli to discuss some of the reasons these numbers are so high, and what can and needs to be done to prevent sexual assault from happening.

Guest: Dr. John Foubert

John’s Twitter: @JohnFoubert

John’s website: johnfoubert.com/

Book: Protecting Your Children from Internet Pornography: Understanding the Science, Risks, and Ways to Protect Your Kids by Dr. John Foubert

Book: How Pornography Harms by Dr. John Foubert

John’s Non-Profit: One in Four

Book: Unwanted by Jay Stringer

Find a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT)

Java with Juli: #334 What Your Pastor Needs to Know About Porn

Blog: Porn Affects You, Even if You Don’t Look At It

#468 Teaching Your Kids How to Love Their Bodies with Francie Winslow Jun 05, 2023

How do we teach kids that God made their bodies and that He made their bodies good? Are there creative and intentional ways to connect with kids and help them develop a Biblical theology around their bodies?

In this episode, Juli connects with her friend Francie Winslow, a mother of six on a mission to imprint upon the hearts of her children the beauty of God’s design of their bodies and vision for their sexuality.

Guest: Francie Winslow

Francie’s Instagram: @franciewinslow

Francie’s Website: franciewinslow.com/

Podcast: Heaven in Your Home

Album: Heaven in Your Home Family Music

Blog: 5 Reasons You're Not Talking to Your Kids About Sex (and How to Overcome Them)

Java with Juli: #460 How to Have Mini and Many Conversations About Sexuality With Your Kids

#467 Yes, Your Marriage Is Worth Fighting For (Here's How to Save It) May 29, 2023

While it may be the case that many people view marriage as a periphery issue, Juli’s guest, Pastor John McGee, argues that the way we love one another in marriage is one of the ways in which our faith is truly evident — “Marriage teaches us about the gospel, and the gospel teaches us about marriage.” Tune in to today’s episode of Java with Juli to discover some of what is missing in common teaching on marriage, and how leaning into the truth of the gospel equips us to love better, not just in marriage, but in all our relationships.

Guest: John McGee

John’s Instagram: @johnkmcgee John’s Twitter: @johnmcgee

Website: Re|Engage

Book: God, Sex, and Your Marriage by Dr. Juli Slattery

Blog Post: What's the Purpose of Marriage?

Java with Juli: #430 Marriage Can Be Hard, Here's Why the Work Is Worth It

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#466 Enough is Enough: Recognizing and Combating Abusive Relationships May 22, 2023

Is there a difference between a bad relationship and a harmful one? How can you spot the difference, both in your own relationships and those of your friends and family?

Join Juli and Dr. David Clarke as they discuss how to recognize abuse patterns of behavior, how to set boundaries, and when necessary, how to get out and create safety elsewhere.

Guest: Dr. David Clarke

Website: davideclarkephd.com/

Book: Enough is Enough: A Step-by-Step Plan to Leave an Abusive Relationship with God's Help

Focus on The Family Christian Counselors Network

Java with Juli: #372 How To Recognize Domestic Abuse

Blog: How Do I Know If I'm in an Abusive Relationship?

#465 Love Dares: Using Playfulness to Build Sexual Intimacy May 15, 2023

If you’re a husband or wife who finds sex dull or monotonous, it may be time for you to revisit the way God designed marital sex. The truth is that God desires for you to enjoy building sexual intimacy with your spouse, not just endure it. In this podcast episode, Juli and guest Dr. Jennifer Degler talk about how God gives the gift of sexual play to couples, and the practical (and fun!) ways you can connect with your spouse.

Guest: Dr. Jennifer Degler

Jennifer’s Instagram: @drjenniferdegler

Jennifer’s Websites: jenniferdegler.com cwives.com

marrieddance.com

Book: authenticintimacy.com/god-sex-and-your-marriage-workbook

Java with Juli: #234 We Can Do THAT in the Bedroom?

Blog: What's OK in the Bedroom?

#464 Why We Need to Remember The Dignity of Singleness May 08, 2023

Is it possible your view of singleness and marriage is less than Holy? Is it possible to find contentment, not in whether we are single or married, but in Jesus Himself? Juli and Sam Allberry discuss the dignity of singleness, finding contentment in Christ, and the key to true friendship.

Guest: Sam Allberry

Sam’s Twitter: @SamAllberry Sam’s Instagram: @SamAllberry

Sam’s Website: https://samallberry.com/

Sam's Book: 7 Myths About Singleness

Java with Juli: #450 Breaking the Marriage Idol

Book: Rethinking Sexuality

#463 (Bonus) The Need for Grace in Church-Based Conversations About Sex and Gender May 05, 2023

When it comes to discussions around sex, historically the church has stayed quiet. As more and more pastors, authors, and psychologists within the church begin writing and talking about sex, the challenge becomes how to make these discussions accessible, nuanced, grace-filled, and Bible-based. In this episode, Juli speaks again with author and pastor Joshua Butler, as together they examine the challenges surrounding talking about sex from within the church.

Guest: Joshua Butler

Josh’s Instagram: @joshuabutlerphx Josh’s Twitter: @butlerjosh

Josh’s Website: https://joshuaryanbutler.com/

Book: Beautiful Union: How God's Vision for Sex Points Us to the Good, Unlocks the True, and (Sort of) Explains Everything

Java with Juli: #462 Beautiful Union: How Our Sexuality Reveals God’s Heart for Covenant Love

Blog Post: When Cancel Culture Invades the Church

#462 Beautiful Union: How Our Sexuality Reveals God’s Heart for Covenant Love May 01, 2023

What if sex and gender are not as arbitrary as many people tend to think? Is it possible that God has woven holy significance into our very DNA as gendered, sexual beings? In this episode, Juli sits down with author Joshua Butler to talk about his book, “Beautiful Union”, and the ways we can see God’s gospel message evidenced in everything from the beauty of a sunset to our own sexuality.

Guest: Joshua Butler

Josh’s Instagram: @joshuabutlerphx Josh’s Twitter: @butlerjosh

Josh’s Website: https://joshuaryanbutler.com/

Josh's Book: Beautiful Union: How God's Vision for Sex Points Us to the Good, Unlocks the True, and (Sort of) Explains Everything

Join Juli for Second Cup

Java with Juli: #313 The Greatest Love Story

Blog Post: What's the Purpose of Your Sexuality, Really?

#461 Pride, Lust, and Why We Do Things We Don't Want To Do Apr 24, 2023

Juli Slattery and Jonathan Pokluda tackle tough questions about how to find freedom from the sin that we hate, the difference between regret and self condemnation, and how the gospel is good news for all of us.

Guest: Jonathan "JP" Pokluda

Show Notes:

Why Do I Do What I Don't Want To Do? by Jonathan Pokluda

Why Is Healing So Hard? (Juli's blog)

Absolute Surrender by Andrew Murray

More from JP, #429 How to Find Love When Dating Has Changed (member exclusive)

#460 How To Have Mini and Many Conversations About Sexuality With Your Kids Apr 17, 2023

How do you talk to young kids about sex? Keep conversations small and have them often. Justin and Lindsey Holcomb are back to share insights on talking to your kids about their bodies, God's design for sexuality, and the boundaries of healthy touch.

Guests: Justin and Lindsey Holcomb

Show notes:

Java #459 How Sexual Abuse Affects You (And Why God Is Still Trustworthy) with Justin and Lindsey

God Made All of Me by Justin and Lindsey Holcomb

God Made Me in His Image by Justin and Lindsey Holcomb

God Made Babies by Justin and Lindsey Holcomb

Parenting Through Weakness (Juli’s blog)

Java #316 Sorry Mom & Dad, the "Sex Talk" Doesn't Work (exclusive content)

#459 How Sexual Abuse Affects You (And Why God Is Still Trustworthy) Apr 10, 2023

"What happened to me wasn't rape." "I didn't stop it right away." "I shouldn't have been at that party in the first place."

If you've ever had thoughts like these, about yourself or someone else, your definition of sexual abuse is too narrow. Join us to learn what sexual abuse is and what consent isn't. (And, if you've never been a victim of sexual assault, trust us, you know someone who has. This conversation is for you, too.)

Guests: Justin and Lindsey Holcomb

Show notes:

Join an online book study

Rid of My Disgrace by Justin and Lindsey Holcomb

More resources from Justin & Lindsey Holcomb

#458 Why Women Are Leaving the Church (And How To Find Your Way Back) Apr 03, 2023

In the last ten years, some 16 million women have stopped going to church. Are you one of them? Join us for a conversation about why we've been rethinking church—and why it may be time for you to go back.

Guest: Ericka Andersen

Show notes:

Spring online book studies are open! Register here.
A Reason to Return; Why Women Need the Church and the Church Needs Women by Ericka Andersen
Church Is Good for You. It's Time to Go Back (Juli's blog)

#457 How To Build a Flourishing (not Flawless) Sex Life You'll Both Love Mar 27, 2023

Take the guess work out of your sex life and learn how to tell (or show) your spouse what feels good in the bedroom.

Guest: Dr. Corey Allan

Show notes:

Apply to join the Coaching Intensive for Wives Struggling with Sexual Pain

The "Passionately Married Podcast" with Dr. Corey and Pam Allan

Java #407 Masturbation: The No.1 Question You're Asking Us (exclusive content)

Masturbation: Is It Wrong? (en Espanol) (Juli's blog)

What's OK in the Bedroom? (Juli's blog)

Your Sexual Differences Can Make You Better Lovers (Juli's blog)

Five Things You Need to Know About Women, Orgasm, and Intimacy (Juli's blog)

The Married Guy's Guide to Great Sex by Cliff & Joyce Penner*

*Affiliate link. AI may earn fees.

#456 Overcoming Father Wounds: Trading My Pain for God's Perfect Love Mar 20, 2023

Kia Stephens knows many women (like herself) who looked to the arms of other men for the affirmation they longed to receive from their fathers. You'll love her humor, wisdom, and vulnerability as she shares how she traded the pain of what her earthly father couldn’t give her for the perfect love of her heavenly Father.

Guest: Kia Stephens

Show notes:

Overcoming Father Wounds by Kia Stephens
Take the Father Wounds Quiz
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#223 A Christian Counselor and a Little “Grit” Can Take You a Long Way Mar 13, 2023

Tired of having the same fight with your spouse—over and over again? Are you stuck in a place of shame or grief or bitterness? Juli sits down with Greg and Erin Smalley today to encourage you to find a Christian counselor to help you get, well, unstuck.

Guests: Dr. Greg & Erin Smalley

Show notes:

God, Sex, and Your Marriage workbook, by Dr. Juli Slattery

How to Choose a Wise Counselor (Juli's blog)

The FOTF Network of Christian Counselors

Fight Your Way To a Better Marriage by Greg and Erin Smalley*

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#455 How God Changed My Heart (Even After I Changed My Gender) with Laura Smalts Mar 06, 2023

For most of her childhood, Laura wanted to be a boy. In her 20s, she began hormone therapy, had surgery and lived as Jake for nine years. But she could never quite shake the feeling that none of it was real. "I remember looking at the photo on my driver's license and saying, 'I'm not as happy as I think I am.'" In this episode, Laura shares her remarkable story of desperation, hope and transformation.

Guest: Laura Perry Smalts

Show notes:

Transgender to Transformed by Laura Perry Smalts*
Java #396 Diverse Gender Identities: How to See the People Behind the Issue
Java #397 How to Help Families Navigate Questions About Gender Identity
Become an AI Member

*Affiliate link. AI may earn fees.

#454 Mismatched in Sexual Desire? You May Be Closer Than You Think Feb 27, 2023

Are you sexually mismatched in marriage? Do you feel like you're in "drive" all the time while your spouse is in neutral (or putting on the brakes)? Here's good news: You're likely closer than you think. Join us to learn about the two types of desire, "receptive desire" and "initiating desire," and how to build a bridge between to the two.

Guests: Shaunti Feldhahn & Dr. Michael Systma

Show notes:

Secrets of Sex and Marriage: 8 Surprises That Make All the Difference by Shaunti Feldhahn & Dr. Michael Sytsma*

Dr. Sytsma's practice: Building Intimate Marriages

Join Juli for Second Cup

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#453 Teens Are Anxious, Sad and Lonely. Here's How You Can Help Feb 20, 2023

Teen girls and LGBQ+ youth are experiencing more sadness, hopelessness, and violence than ever before. Join Juli and Dr. Mark Mayfield, an expert in suicide prevention, to learn what you can do to help the teens in your life feel seen, loved, and valued.

Guest: Dr. Mark Mayfield

Shownotes:

The Path Out of Loneliness Dr. Mark Mayfield

Help! My Teen is Self-Injuring (PDF)

Connect with your teen using tools from Axis.org*

From the CDC: U.S. Teen Girls Experiencing Increased Sadness and Violence

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#452 Porn Addiction in Marriage: How to Let God Redeem Your Story Feb 13, 2023

More than 50 percent of wives of sex addicts experience symptoms of betrayal trauma. Today Dannah Gresh shares how her husband's addiction affected her marriage, mind, and body. Hear how the power of Jesus, and the right balance of biblical and clinical care, brought more than just recovery—it brought redemption.

Guest: Dannah Gresh

Show notes:

Happily Even After by Dannah Gresh*

How to Choose a Wise Christian Counselor (Juli's blog)

Find a Christian counselor near you (FOTF Network of Christian Counselors)

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#451 Porn Addiction and Women: Break the Silence, Bring the Hope Feb 06, 2023

When it comes to porn, the gender gap is closing. Women (Christian women, too) are using porn and feeling alone, ashamed, and trapped in their addiction. Join us to learn why overcoming porn and sexual shame is not about changing your behavior but about allowing Jesus to transform your identity.

Guest: Jessica Harris

Show notes:

Quenched:Discovering God's Abundant Grace for Women Struggling with Pornography and Sexual Shame by Jessica Harris*

Leave us a Rating & Review on Apple Podcasts or your favorite app.

Learn more about the God,Sex, and Your Marriage workbook

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#450 Breaking the Marriage Idol Jan 30, 2023

We're just gonna to say it. There's an unspoken assumption in the Church that if you're single there must something wrong with you—and that marriage can fix it. Are you guilty of having this thought? Join the converstion about how we've idolized marriage and how we can do better.

Guest: Dr. Kutter Callaway (www.kuttercallaway.com)

Show notes:

Breaking the Marriage Idol by Kutter Callaway*

Sex & the Single Christian: What Kind of a Gift Is Sexuality if I Can't Have Sex?

Sex & the Single Christian: How To Ditch the Counterfeits and Find True Intimacy

Become an Authentic Intimacy member and get access to the webinar series

Java #443 Is Your View of Sexuality and Marriage Gift-worthy?

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#449 How to Guide Your Kids Through Confusing Messages About Gender Jan 23, 2023

Juli and her guest share wisdom and encouragement to help you give clear answers to your kids' questions about their gender and the way God created them.

Guest: Dr. Kathy Koch

Show notes:

Celebrate Kids, www.cel ebratekids.com

Start with the Heart by Dr. Kathy Koch*

Parenting Through Weakness (Juli's blog)

Java #396: Diverse Gender Identities: How To See the People Behind the Issue with Mark Yarhouse

Java #397: How to Help Families Navigate Questions About Gender Identity with Mark Yarhouse

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#448: When Did Sexual Identity Become a Thing? (and Why Are We Obsessed With It?) Jan 16, 2023

Sexual identity has become a common phrase, a personal choice, a political cause and, for many, the way we present ourselves to others (used even by tweens and teens who’ve never had a sexual experience)—and it feels like it all happened overnight. Do you ever wonder how we got here? Grab your Java and join us.

Guest: Dr. Carl Trueman

Show notes:

Strange New World by Dr. Carl Trueman*
The Rise and Triumph of the Modern Self by Dr. Carl Trueman*
Sexual Discipleship: What Is It and Why Is It Important? (Juli's blog)

*Affiliate link. AI may earn fees.

#230: Juli and Linda Answer Your Questions on Marriage Jan 09, 2023

Juli Slattery opens the Authentic Intimacy inbox and tackles questions like: Should my spouse be my best friend? What do you do when your husband can't stop looking at porn? And, did God create sex primarily for men?

Co-hosts: Linda Dillow and Yvette Maher

Show notes:

Juli's blog series on prioritizing sexual intimacy.

My Husband Isn't My Best Friend (read the blog) or (listen to the podcast)

Join an online book study

#447: Strengthen Your Marriage Today (and Be Ready for Whatever 2023 May Bring) Jan 02, 2023

Juli Slattery and Gary Thomas share wisdom and insight to keep your marriage together when the storms of life threaten to rip it apart. Grab your Java and join us!

Guest: Gary Thomas

Show notes:

Join an online book study
Making Your Marriage a Fortress by Gary Thomas*
Sacred Pathways by Gary Thomas*
Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas*

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#446: How Much More of Your Sexuality Will You Let God Reclaim in 2023? Dec 26, 2022

Juli shares her thoughts on 2022, on having hard conversations about sexuality, and how to ask God to use your painful circumstances to grow your character. How much more of your sexuality will you let Him reclaim in 2023?

Co-host: Mike Slattery

Show notes:

Make a donation to Authentic Intimacy
Join an online book study with Authentic Intimacy
God, Sex, and Your Marriage by Dr. Juli Slattery

#445: Give the Gift of Seeing the Good in What You Have Dec 19, 2022

Seeing the good in all things does not mean ignoring the bad. Rather, as we approach the hard things, we see the goodness of God. Is your cup half full or half empty today?

Co-host: Hannah Nitz

Show notes:

Make a donation to Authentic Intimacy
What's It Like to Be Married to Me? by Linda Dillow*
Satisfy My Thirsty Soul by Linda Dillow
Say "Hi" to Hannah over at the There's More Podcast

*Affiliate link. AI may earn fees.

#444: A Heart Set Free From Shame and Lies Is a Gift Dec 12, 2022

Open the gift that allows you to experience true intimacy. Our long-awaited Savior came to set us free from sin and shame. Will you exchange your heart for His?

Co-host: Hannah Nitz

Make a donation
God, Sex, and Your Marriage by Dr. Juli Slattery
Passion Pursuit by Juli Slattery and Linda Dillow
Surprised By the Healer by Juli Slattery and Linda Dillow
Join an online book study

#443: Is Your View of Sex and Marriage Gift-worthy? Dec 05, 2022

When marriage is simply about getting our needs met, we end up playing whack-a-mole with the symptoms of sin and brokenness. Knowing God's purpose for your marriage and sexuality brings richness and purpose to seasons of struggle.

Co-host: Hannah Nitz

Show Notes & More Resources:

God, Sex, and Your Marriage by Dr. Juli Slattery
Make a year-end donation to Authentic Intimacy
Why Does Sex Matter in Marriage? Pt. 2 (Juli's blog)
What's the Purpose of Your Sexuality, Really? (Juli's blog)
Q&A: Is Homemade Porn OK in Marriage? (video)
Say "Hi" to Hannah Nitz over at the There's More Podcast

#442: How to Find Peace and Hope In the Midst of Anxiety Nov 28, 2022

Linda Dillow shares about the loss of her daughter during the pandemic. Join us for this incredible story of how the Lord answered her cry, "God, please don't waste my pain!"

Guest: Linda Dillow

Show notes:

Calm My Anxious Heart by Linda Dillow
Make a year-end donation at authenticintimacy.com/give
Java #147:How To Find Fulfillment at the Feet of Jesus with Linda Dillow (exclusive content)*
A Sacred Sorrow: Reaching Out to God in the Lost Language of Lament by Michael Card*

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#441: Understanding God's Heart for Food and Freedom Nov 21, 2022

Are you ready to end that toxic relationship in your life — your love-hate relationship with food? No more regret, frustration and shame. God's Word is inviting you into a different, more nourishing rhythm.

Guest: Erin Davis

Show notes:

Fasting and Feasting by Erin Davis*
Java #71: Body Image and the Bedroom (exclusive content)
Give an Authentic Intimacy membership to a friend

*Referral link. AI may earn fees.

#440: Why Don't Christians Like to Talk About the Real, Hard Stuff in Life? Nov 14, 2022

Are Christians a prickly audience when it comes to sharing our brokenness and pain? Let's change that. Join us to hear why God cares about all the things we think we're not supposed to talk about.

Guest: Blake Guichet

Show notes:

Confessions of a Crappy Christian by Blake Guichet*
The Confessions of a Crappy Christian Podcast
Gift an AI Membership at www.authenticintimacy.com/gift
Apply to be join the AI Team

*Affiliate link. AI may earn referral fees.

#439: Pelvic Floor Health 101 (It's About More Than Just Sex) Nov 07, 2022

Nearly 3 out of 4 women experience pain during or after sex. If that's you, we have good news: a pelvic floor therapist can help. There's a lot to learn, grab your Java and listen in!

Guest: Heather Marra, PT

Show notes:

Start watching Sexual Pleasure: How To Get Your Mind and Body to Work Together or buy it here.
Join an online book study with AI
Find a Pelvic Floor Physical Therapist
The Married Guy's Guide to Great Sex by Cliff & Joyce Penner*
Enjoy! The Gift of Sexual Pleasure for Women by Cliff & Joyce Penner*
The Celebration of Sex for Newlyweds by Dr. Doug Rosenau*
Sex Without Pain by Heather Jeffcoat*
Apply to join the AI Team

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#438: How Your Story Becomes Sacred in the Hands of Jesus with Glenn Packiam Oct 31, 2022

Glenn Packiam joins Juli to talk about how the biblical metaphor of ordinary table bread reveals God’s extraordinary story of redemption and healing in our (ordinary) lives.

Guest: Glenn Packiam

Show notes:

Blessed Broken Given by Glenn Packiam
Why We Must Be Surprised By the Healer (Juli's blog)
Java #405:How to Be Broken and Used by God (At the Same Time) (exclusive content)
Surprised By the Healer by Dr. Juli Slattery and Linda Dillow

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#437: How To Help Your Kids Learn Resilience and Build Character Oct 24, 2022

If you expect life to always be easy, you won’t resist the comfort of pornography. Or you'll bail on relationships once the feelings begin to fade. That's why this conversation is absolutely critical to sexual discipleship—not just for our children, but for our own sexual integrity as well.

Guest: Dr. Kathy Koch (pronounced "cook")

Show notes:

Resilient Kids by Kathy Koch*
www.CelebrateKids.com
Parenting Through Weakness (Juli's blog)
Leave us a rating and review

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#156: How To Keep Your Heart Open When You Don't Feel Emotionally Safe Oct 17, 2022

"Open" is the default setting of our hearts. When our hearts are closed, we lack perspective. We're more likely to make poor decisions. But the real danger is allowing our hearts to stay shut down.

Guests: Dr. Greg & Erin Smalley

Show notes:

Listen in to last week's episode on how to fight with your spouse and why your relationship NEEDS conflict.
Fight Your Way To a Better Marriage by Greg and Erin Smalley*
The Important Difference Between Conflict and Fighting (Juli's blog)

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#155: How To Fight With Your Spouse Oct 10, 2022

Conflict presents an incredible opportunity for your marriage. When done well, conflict can take you to a level of intimacy where you say, "That was hard; but I'd do it again." Are you ready to fight your way to a better marriage?

Guests: Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley

Show notes:

Fight Your Way To a Better Marriage by Greg and Erin Smalley*

The Important Difference Between Conflict and Fighting (Juli's blog)

Hit the "Follow" button in your podcast app and get new episodes delivered every Monday.

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#436: Friendship Trends Gone Wrong? (How to Keep Your Friendships Healthy) Oct 03, 2022

Boundaries are a tricky part of friendship. Friends help us meet legitimate needs for companionship, spiritual growth, reassurance, and recreation—but when does a friendship become unhealthy?

Guest: Kelly Needham

www.kellyneedham.com

Friend-ish by Kelly Needham*

Are You a Good Friend? 7 Keys to Building Healthy Friendship (Juli's blog)

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#435: What's the Most Important Thing the Bible Says About Your Identity? Sep 26, 2022

"The journey of the Christians life is that God has increasingly more of me." Juli and Hannah talk about sexual desire, discipleship, and the time between giving your heart to Christ and giving Him everything else.

Co-host: Hannah Nitz

Show notes:

#433: Can You Be Gay and Follow Jesus? with Greg Coles

#434: Is Sexual Sin More Than Just Your Behavior? with Christopher Yuan

What's the Most Important Thing the Bible Says About Your Sex Life? (Juli's blog)

Join us for Reclaim 2022: God's Design for Sex in Marriage!

#434: Is Sexual Sin More Than Just Your Behavior? with Christopher Yuan Sep 19, 2022

As new creations in Christ, what does it look like to bring our sexual desires under His lordship? Whether you're single or married, whether you experience same-sex attractions or not, this is a consistent call in the life of every believer.

Guest: Dr. Christopher Yuan

Show notes:

Reclaim 2022
Holy Sexuality and the Gospel by Christopher Yuan
(exclusive content)
#83: When God Gets Hold of You, Part 2 (exclusive content)
Leave us a rating and review

#433: Can You Be Gay and Follow Jesus? with Greg Coles Sep 12, 2022

Greg Coles shares why he doesn't love the controversy surrounding the title of his book Single, Gay, Christian, yet why he's grateful for the conversations that have come from it. (And, spoiler alert: Experiencing same-sex attraction does not preclude you from following Jesus.)

Stay tuned over the next two weeks to learn more from Christopher Yuan and to hear Juli's thoughts on these conversations.

Guest: Greg Coles

Single, Gay, Christian by Greg Coles
No Longer Strangers by Greg Coles
"Gay" vs "Same-sex Attracted": A Dialogue
People to Be Loved by Preston Sprinkle
Share a rating and review on Apple Podcasts

#432: Unraveling the Threads of Racism & "Love Addiction" in My Story Sep 05, 2022

Do you wonder if you'll ever figure out why you do what you do—so you can stop doing it? Grab your Java (and your mess) and join us.

Guest: Ashley Jameson, Pure Desire

Show notes:

The Pure Desire Summit 2022

Online Book Studies start soon—it's not too late to join!

Learn more about how your past affects your sex life at Reclaim 2022!

#431: Bonus! Getting to Know God Through (Simply) Your Bible Sep 01, 2022

Do we rely too much on others to read our Bibles for us? If the idea of reading your Bible on your own—just you and Jesus—makes you nervous, this word is for you.

Guests: Hannah Nitz & Carmen Beasley

Show notes:

Find your people in an Online Book Study this fall—new groups open now!
Check out the books and groups at Simply Bible
Subscribe to "Java with Juli" and listen on your iPhone or Android

#430: Marriage Can Be Hard, Here's Why the Work is Worth It Aug 29, 2022

Greg & Erin Smalley share their story—and remind us that we can ask God to help us now, or we can move on to the next relationship. But, eventually, we're going to have to do the work of healing. Why not let Him redeem your love story?

Guests: Dr. Greg & Erin Smalley

Show notes:

God, Sex, and Your Marriage by Dr. Juli Slattery
Fight Your Way to a Better Marriage by Dr. Greg & Erin Smalley
Join us for Reclaim 2022: God's Design for Sex in Marriage
Tell us what you think! Leave us a rating & review

#429: How To Find Love When Dating Has Changed with Jonathan Pokluda Aug 22, 2022

From “just coffee” to "situationships," Jonathan Pokluda joins Juli to talk about finding love in a world where dating has changed.

Guest: Jonathan Pokluda

Show Notes:

Register for our Sex & the Single Christian webinar series!

Outdated by Jonathan Pokluda

Follow Jonathan and Authentic Intimacy on IG

Follow Java with Juli

Java #409: Divorce & Remarriage (Abuse, Infidelity, Porn & All the Hard Things)

#428: Don't Say That to Your Single Friend (Say This Instead) Aug 15, 2022

It happens... Despite good intentions, you say something careless to a single friend: "You've got time" or "It'll happen when you stop trying so hard." In this episode, you'll learn what not to say to your single friends and what to say instead.

Guest: Lisa Anderson, Boundless

Show notes:

Join the webinar! "What Kind of Gift is Sexuality if I Can't Have Sex?"

The Boundless Show

What Do I Do With My Sexual Desires? (Juli's blog)

Java #407: Masturbation: The No. 1 Question You're Asking Us

The Dating Manifesto by Lisa Anderson

Sex & the Single Girl by Juli Slattery

#427: Proverbs 31 Is a Picture of Intimacy, Not a To-Do List Aug 08, 2022

Find out why Proverbs 31 isn't just for married women! The 22-line Hebrew poem is a picture of intimacy between Christ and His Bride (and if you follow Jesus, that's you).

Guests: Hannah Nitz & Robin Luton

Show notes:

New webinar series! Sex & the Single Christian

Valor: A Messianic Journey Through Proverbs 31 by Robin Luton

Join us over the next two weeks for a special Java series on singleness, dating with purpose, and finding intimacy.

#426: How To Better Understand the Complexities Beneath Gender Dysphoria Aug 01, 2022

You CAN lean into compassion—and keep your convictions—as you engage with others who are walking through gender dysphoria or gender related struggles.

Guest: Dr. Julia Sadusky

Emerging Gender Identities by Dr. Mark Yarhouse & Dr. Julia Sadusky*

Understanding Gender Dysphoria by Dr. Mark Yarhouse*

#396: Diverse Gender Identities: How to See the Person Behind the Issue

#397: How To Help Families Navigate Questions About Gender Identity

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#425: Bonus! How To Build Community & Friendships with Intention and Grace Jul 28, 2022

Feeling stuck in your friendships? You're not alone! As seasons of life change, our friendships don't always keep up. If you're looking for practical wisdom to start building meaningful connection with others, this episode is for you!

"Building rooted community is the practice of little, by little, by little..." Bailey Hurley

Follow @authenticintimacy and @bailey.t.hurley on IG and tell us, Which of the four friend types are you? Do you have one of each type in your circle of friends?

Guest: Bailey T. Hurley

Show notes:

Together Is a Beautiful Place by Bailey T. Hurley*

New online book studies start this fall! Join us to go through one of our Authentic Intimacy books with like-minded men and women.

Pick up a Java Pack and grab some friends. Host a "Pizza & Podcast Party" and listen and/or go through the discussion Qs together. (PS. Read more about a "Pizza & Podcast Party" in Bailey's book!)

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#424: A 54-Year Friendship That Broke Through Cross-Cultural Barriers Jul 25, 2022

In the South, in the late 60s, these men weren’t supposed to be friends. Yet, with Jesus as their common ground, they began to seal up tiny little cracks in the racial divide around them. What if we all did that? Grab your Java. Hear their story.

Guests: Gary Chapman & Clarence Shuler

Show notes:

Life-Changing Cross-Cultural Friendships by Gary Chapman & Clarence Shuler*

Follow Java with Juli and leave us a rating and review.

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#263: Experiencing Sexual Pleasure, Part 2 Jul 18, 2022

In part two of this conversation, you'll hear about the other two legs of the "sexual desire triangle" and go from getting your body ready, to getting your emotions ready! Nurturing an emotional connection with your man (talking, date nights, taking a “sexcation”) will create intimacy that spills over into the bedroom.

Guest: Dr. Jennifer Degler

Show notes:

Listen to part one of this conversation, #262: Experiencing Sexual Pleasure, Part 1
Register today for Reclaim 2022!
Dr. Jennifer's Dare of the Month Newsletter
More from Dr. Jennifer, Q&A: How Do I Get Past Sexual Partners Out of My Head? (video)
More from Dr. Jennifer, Q&A: My Friend is Afraid to Date Because She Has an STD. How Can I Encourage Her? (video)

#262: Experiencing Sexual Pleasure, Pt. 1 Jul 11, 2022

Unlike most men (who always seem to be in the mood, always climax, and never experience pain), many women are mystified by their own sexual pleasure. Join Dr. Juli Slattery for this two-part conversation about how to prime your body, mind and soul to receive and respond to sexual pleasure.

Guest: Dr. Jennifer Degler

Mentioned:

Get your early bird rate at Reclaim 2022!
Passion Pursuit by Dr. Juli Slattery & Linda Dillow
Dr. Jennifer's Dare of the Month Newsletter
God, Sex, and Your Marriage by Dr. Juli Slattery*
Sex and the Single Girl by Dr. Juli Slattery

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#423: How to "Rethink" Issues in Our Church Culture Around Sexuality & Abuse Jul 04, 2022

We need to be asking some hard questions. In the wake of the SBC investigation, along with the growing tsunami of fallen pastors, spiritual abuse, and marginalized victims, Juli shares how you can be proactive for change.

Co-host: Brian Dahlen

5 Ways the Church Must "Step Up" In Response to Abuse Within It's Walls (Juli's blog)

Rethinking Sexuality by Dr. Juli Slattery

Java #3: Mom, I'm Pregnant

God's Healing Stinks (Juli's blog)

Check out Brian's podcast, The Grandfather Effect

Follow Kate Shellnutt's coverage of the SBC at Christianity Today

#422: How to Care for Both Women and Children in the Wake of the Dobbs Decision Jun 27, 2022

Do you know that God’s heart is for both women AND their unborn children, and can't figure out where you fit in the pro-life/pro-choice divide? Juli’s guest offers a third option: “When Jesus was confronted with two conflicting ideas, He always pointed out that neither offered the complete picture and instead gave a third, Kingdom response.”

Guest: Angie Weszely, ProGrace

Show notes:

Visit www.ProGrace.org for more resources on the third option for approaching the abortion debate.
How To Have Tough Conversations (Juli's blog)
How We Love Each Other (Juli's blog)
Introduce the show! Tell us how you take your Java with Juli

#421: "God, Sex, and Your Marriage" Q&A with Juli Slattery Jun 20, 2022

You're starting to see how sexual intimacy is a reflection of covenant love. But what does that actually look like in your sex life...

When you can't experience orgasm?

When your spouse has no sexual desire?

When your spouse has had an affair?

Juli and Hannah tackle the REAL questions we've received from men and women just like you.

Co-host: Hannah Nitz

Show notes:

God, Sex, and Your Marriage by Dr. Juli Slattery*
Register for our FREE Live Q&A and Book Giveaway!
Hannah's podcast, There's More
Introduce the show! Tell us how you take your Java with Juli

Other recommended resources:

The Married Guy's Guide to Great Sex by Cliff & Joyce Penner*
Enjoy! The Gift of Sexual Pleasure for Women by Cliff & Joyce Penner*

*This is an affiliate link. AI may earn referral fees from qualifying purchases.

#420: Bonus! What Redemption and Sexual Intimacy Look Like in Real Life Jun 16, 2022

Sex was nothing like what they were told it was going to be. She felt pain. He felt guilt. Together, they're on a journey toward wholeness. Join us to hear what redemption and sexual intimacy look like in real life.

Guests: Cory & Keyla Morgan

God, Sex, and Your Marriage by Dr. Juli Slattery*
Register for our FREE Live Q&A and Book Giveaway!
Join us at Reclaim 2022!
Introduce the show! Tell us how you take your Java with Juli

#419: Why Sexual Intimacy is About So Much More Than Just Having Sex Jun 13, 2022

Are you working from the wrong understanding of what makes a great sex life? Find out in this conversation from Juli's new book God, Sex, and Your Marriage.

"Sometimes we’re so focused on sexual activity, that we walk right past the opportunity to develop intimacy."– Juli Slattery

Guest: Hannah Nitz

Show notes:

God, Sex, and Your Marriage by Dr. Juli Slattery*

Register for our FREE Live Q&A and Book Giveaway!

Hannah's podcast, There's More

Introduce the show! Tell us how you take your Java with Juli

*This is an affiliate link. AI may earn referral fees from qualifying purchases.

#418: What Is Sexual Intimacy Supposed to Look Like In Marriage? Jun 06, 2022

Imagine that you and your spouse are building a jigsaw puzzle, but you don’t know what the picture on the front of the box looks like. Now imagine that you have different ideas of what the picture should look like, and neither one of you have the right picture. This is how many Christian couples experience the “gift” of sex.

Guest: Hannah Nitz

Show notes:

God, Sex, and Your Marriage by Dr. Juli Slattery*

Register for our FREE Live Q&A and Book Giveaway!

Hannah's podcast, There's More

*This is an affiliate link. AI may earn referral fees from qualifying purchases.

Juli's New Book "God, Sex, & Your Marriage" Is Out Next Week! May 30, 2022

Grab a quick java with Juli & Hannah to hear all about what's coming up next month with "God, Sex, and Your Marriage." ps. It's not just for married people!

Guest: Hannah Nitz

Show Notes:

Give a donation to Authentic Intimacy and celebrate 10 years of ministry with us!
Preorder God, Sex, & Your Marriage by Dr. Juli Slattery*
Did you miss our 10-Year Anniversary episode? Or listen on your iPhone or Android.

*This is an affiliate link. AI may earn referral fees from qualifying purchases.

#417: Authentic Intimacy: The Ministry That Almost Didn't Make It May 23, 2022

A close-up, behind-the-scenes look at how the ministry almost closed it's doors (more than once) and the amazing things God has done. We're celebrating 10 years!

Guests: Linda Dillow, Tim Sisarich, Hannah Nitz, Ginger Taddeo and Mike Slattery

Show notes:

Make a donation today.
Join an online book study—new groups start in June!
Rethinking Sexuality by Dr. Juli Slattery

Special thanks to the team at Right Turn Media for engineering this episode.

#214: Answers To Your Questions About Sex, with Dr. Juli Slattery & Linda Dillow May 16, 2022

Is it “dirty” to dress up for your husband in the bedroom? Is it wrong to masturbate if your husband can’t have sex? What if your spouse asks you to do something that makes you uncomfortable? Dr. Juli Slattery and Linda Dillow answer your questions from our Authentic Intimacy inbox.

Guests: Linda Dillow & Yvette Maher

Show notes:

Make a donation today.

Join a Passion Pursuit online book study—starts June 7!

Java #312: Born Again This Way: Rachel's Story

#416: How God Uses Heartache to Prepare You for Your True Calling May 09, 2022

Dr. Dan Allender joins Juli to share about Redeeming Heartache—a new book and tool (think Enneagram or DISC) to help you identify trauma and old wounds and move toward healing and connection with God and others. You’re invited to look closely at your own story and see how God can redeem every part of your journey.

Guests: Dr. Dan Allender & Cathy Loerzel

Show notes:

Join us at Reclaim!
The Allender Center
Redeeming Heartache by Dr. Dan Allender & Cathy Loerzel*

Follow "Java with Juli" and listen on your iPhone or Android.

*This is an affiliate link. AI may earn referral fees from qualifying purchases.

#415: How To Encourage and Celebrate the Single Mom in Your Life May 05, 2022

God's promise of provision for the single mom is also a call to body of Christ. In this episode, Michelle Donnelly from PlusONE Parenting shares her story of overcoming loss and shame, finding healing, and how God showed her that she wasn't really alone. She'll share the helpful (and not so helpful) things that you can do to walk alongside and bless a single parent today.

Guest: Michelle Donnelly

Join an Online Book Study!
Safe Haven: A Devotional for the Abused and Abandoned by Michelle Donnelly*
Seen: Hope and Healing for Single Moms by Michelle Donnelly*
The Christian Single Mom's Podcast
plusoneparents.org

Subscribe to "Java with Juli" and listen on your iPhone or Android

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#414: Good Marriages Often Get Off to a Rocky Start (& Why It's OK) May 02, 2022

Ray and Robyn McKelvy, now married over 30 years, join Juli to share their story of fear, doubts, and learning to trust; and how God used it all to help them build true, authentic intimacy.

Guests: Ray and Robyn McKelvy

Show notes:

Join us at Reclaim 2022!
Family Life
Introduce the show! How do you take your Java?

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#413: The Perfect Parent Is The One Who Knows They Need Jesus Apr 25, 2022

Dave and Ann Wilson get real about the messiness of parenting. They'll share how they learned to bring others around them, to learn from their own mistakes, and how to keep the long-game perspective when it comes to your kids and their faith. If you're not a perfect parent, you'll be in good company.

Guests: Dave & Ann Wilson

Show Notes:

Open the show! Tell us how you take your Java.

God, Sex, and Your Marriage - join the launch team!

No Perfect Parents by Dave & Ann Wilson*

Parenting Through Weakness (Juli's blog)

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#412: Is There a Better Way To Read the Bible? Apr 17, 2022

Juli shares one of her favorite new podcasts—the BEMA Discipleship Podcast. The OT writers weren't just telling stories, they were burying truth. They believed the most effective way to learn truth was to discover it—like a treasure hidden in a field. Join Juli and BEMA host Marty Solomon to learn how to find the treasure you've been reading past all these years!

Guest: Marty Solomon

Show notes:

The BEMA Discipleship Podcast
Juli loved "Ep. 22. Under the Chuppah," about how a Jewish wedding ceremony symbolizes our covenant love with God.
Join an online book study today! (AI Members get 25% off)

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#337: Questions You're Too Embarrassed to Ask About Sex Apr 14, 2022

To celebrate the life of Dr. Doug Rosenau, we're re-releasing this candid conversation he and Juli had about the difference between having sex and making love, making erotic memories with your spouse, giving language to your sexual desire and mood, and putting the creativity back into your lovemaking.

Dr. Doug entered eternity with Christ on April 10, 2022. We're grateful for his work that impacted so many marriages and tor the lives his legacy will continue to touch.

Guest: Dr. Doug Rosenau

Show notes:

A Celebration of Sex* by Dr. Doug Rosenau
A Celebration of Sex After 50* by Dr. Doug Rosenau
Total Intimacy* by Dr. Doug Rosenau
The Institute for Sexual Wholeness

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#411: The Unlikely Means God Uses To Bring Beauty From Ashes Apr 11, 2022

Curt Thompson joins Juli to share the unlikely (often unwelcome) means that God uses to heal us. Join them to discover the power of being fully known and seen—you're going to want to listen to this one more than once!

"One of the reasons we want to make the jump from one marriage to another, from one form of sexuality to another, is because we have not had the experience of having our grief be seen."

Guest: Dr. Curt Thompson

Show notes:

Tell us How Do You Take Your Java?
The Soul of Desire by Dr. Curt Thompson*
The Being Known Podcast
God's Healing Stinks (Juli's blog)

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#410: Sexual Abuse in Marriage and How To Help a Hurting Wife Apr 04, 2022

Sexual abuse in marriage... wait. What? Doesn't the Bible say that a spouse "has authority" over the other's body? Let's talk practically about what sexual abuse in marriage looks like so we can get women (and men) the help they need.

Guest: Darby Strickland

Show notes:

"Is It Abuse?" by Darby Strickland*
Darby's three-part blog series on sexual abuse in marriage
Java #319: Is Good Sex a "Right" in Marriage? (or read the blog)
How Do I Know If I'm in an Abusive Relationship? (Juli's blog)
Introduce the show! Tell us How Do You Take Your Java?

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#409: Divorce & Remarriage (Abuse, Infidelity, Porn & All the Hard Things) Mar 28, 2022

What exactly does "sexual immorality" include? Am I free to remarry? What about abuse? God's word is clear on marriage; but some of us are a little fuzzy on the divorce and remarriage part. Juli and her guest get practical as they consider the complexity of real-life situations as well as the truth and clarity we find in God's word.

Guest: Mike Winger

Show notes:

Bible Thinker (YouTube Channel)

Divorce & Remarriage: EVERYTHING the Bible says about it. (Mike Winger's video)

6 Thoughts to Help You Discern Truth & Give Grace (Juli's blog)

Java #166: We Are All Sexually Broken

Leave us a rating and review with your iPhone or Android

Introduce the show! How do you take your Java?

#408: Science Offers Kids a Powerful Reason To Say No to Porn Mar 21, 2022

If teens understood the significant impact of porn on their brains,, would it help them resist? Decades of studies from respected institutions echo God's design: we're made for connection with people, not screens.

Guest: Brian Goins

Show notes:

"Brain, Heart, World" docuseries*

"When Your Kids Look at Porn" (Juli's blog)

Sexual Discipleship Open House - Invite Your Leader! April 5, 12:30pm EST

Introduce the show! How Do You Take Your Java?

* Any person or family can watch the docuseries "Brain, Heart, World" online for free, but if you want a public license to show at church, school or community, Brian Goins can provide 10% off with the code: CATAPULT.

#407: Masturbation: The No. 1 Question You're Asking Us! Mar 14, 2022

There's more to the masturbation conversation than simply "right" or "wrong." Could it be an issue of spiritual maturity for some of us—whether married or single? Can it be used in a healthy way in marriage? Join us to have your thinking challenged!

Guest: Hannah Nitz

Show notes:

Join a Spring online book study!

Masturbation: Is It Wrong? (en Espanol) (Juli's blog)

What's OK in the Bedroom? (Juli's blog)

Is Masturbation a Sin? You May Be Asking the Wrong Question (Juli's blog)

Q&A: How do I talk to my kids about masturbation?

There's More Podcast (connect with Hannah!)

#406: Every Couple Has a Sexual Dance. What Does Yours Say About You? Mar 07, 2022

Sex therapist Dr. Mike Sytsma says that when a couple tells him how they kiss or how they make love, he can tell them how they interact in other areas too. Every couple has a dance‍‍–we dance around our wounds and insecurities, both inside and outside the bedroom. Don't believe it? Listen in!

Guest: Dr. Michael Sytsma

Show notes:

Sexual Desire in Marriage (teaching series by Dr. Michael Sytsma)

Building Intimate Marriages

5 Things You Need to Know About Women, Orgasm & Intimacy (Juli's blog)

Watch Juli's 3-part video series, Why God Cares About Your Sexuality. Not an AI member? Watch the first video free.

#405: How To Be Broken and Used by God (At the Same Time) Feb 28, 2022

Juli unpacks what Sexual Discipleship® looks like and Cory Morgan shares how his own brokenness became an opportunity to bring others alongside him on the journey toward sexual integrity.

Co-host: Cory Morgan

Ask Juli your questions at the "Making Sense of God & Sex" webinar and live Q&A. We're giving away 6 books, but you have to participate live!

Watch Juli's 3-part video series, Why God Cares About Your Sexuality. Not an AI member? Watch the first video free.

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#404: How To Help Your Kids Think About Sex From a Christian Worldview Feb 24, 2022

The co-author of "Mama Bear Apologetics Guide to Sexuality" joins Juli for the sixth episode in the "Making Sense of God & Sex" series.

Guest: Hillary Morgan Ferrer

Ask Juli your questions at the Making Sense of God & Sex webinar.

Watch Juli's 3-part video series, Why God Cares About Your Sexuality. Not an AI member? Watch the first video free.

"Mama Bear Apologetics Guide to Sexuality" by Hillary Ferrer & Amy Davison*

mamabearapologetics.com

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#403: How Do I Reconcile God's Goodness with Sexual Pain & Injustice? Feb 21, 2022

Join Juli for a conversation about the important roles that sexuality and justice have in shaping this generation's thoughts on God, and how to reconcile the pain of sexual abuse with faith in a loving God.

Guest: Lou Phillips

Ask Juli your questions during the Making Sense of God & Sex webinar.
Watch Juli's 3-part video series, Why God Cares About Your Sexuality. Not an AI member? Watch the first video free.
Become an Authentic Intimacy member
Java #352: How Purity Culture & Ravi Zacharias' Abuse of Power Challenge Our Faith (exclusive content)

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#402: If God Made My Body "Good," Why Does It Cause So Much Pain? Feb 17, 2022

Author and apologist Sam Allberry shares how we can reconcile the goodness of our bodies (which are created by God) with the shame and pain we often feel about the ways we’ve misused them—or the way they've been misused by others.

Guest: Sam Allberry

What God Has to Say About Our Bodies by Sam Allberry
Ask Juli your questions during the Making Sense of God & Sex webinar.
Watch Juli's 3-part video series, Why God Cares About Your Sexuality. Not an AI member? Watch the first video free.
Become an Authentic Intimacy member
Java #333: Is God Good Even If You're LGBT ? with Sam Allberry

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#401: Why "Love is Love" Doesn't Mean What You Think It Means Feb 14, 2022

Black Lives Matter. Love is love. Women’s rights are human rights. A thread of truth—truth deeply rooted in Christianity—runs through these claims. How do you champion biblical truth while (lovingly) rejecting the lies that our culture has packaged with it? Juli and her guests gather to help you do just that.

“…Christianity is the original source and firmest foundation for true diversity, equality, and life-transforming love.” Rebecca McLaughlin

Guests: Rebecca McLaughlin & Rachel Gilson

Shownotes:

The Secular Creed by Rebecca McLaughlin*
Born Again This Way by Rachel Gilson*
Watch Juli's 3-part video series, Why God Cares About Your Sexuality. Not an AI member? Watch the first video free.
Become an Authentic Intimacy member
Register for the webinar

Register for Summer Student Conferences at Summit today! Save $200 when you register before March 31 for any in-person Student Conference. Use code AI22 to receive an additional $100 to use anytime you register for an in-person session during the 2022 season. Go to www.summit.org/authentic

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#400: If God Is Good, Why Doesn't He Take Away My Sexual Addiction? Feb 10, 2022

At the root of every struggle with ongoing, unwanted sexual sin is a lie about God—and it keeps you from the very things that bring transformation: connection with God and others. Hear how God meets you in the messiness, why your anger is a good thing, and God’s promise to complete the good work that He started in you.

Guest: Jonathan Daugherty

Be Broken Ministries
Grace Based Recovery by Jonathan Daugherty*
Watch Juli's 3-part video series, Why God Cares About Your Sexuality. Not an AI member? Watch the first video free.
Become an Authentic Intimacy member
Register for the webinar

Register for Summer Student Conferences at Summit today! Save $200 when you register before March 31st for any in-person Student Conference. Use code AI22 to receive an additional $100 to use anytime you register for an in-person session during the 2022 season. Go to www.summit.org/authentic

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#399: Why Questions About Sex Cause You to Question God Feb 07, 2022

Juli and Hannah kick off the "Making Sense of God & Sex" series with a conversation about how questions around sex always lead us to bigger, more important questions about God. Why did He create me as a sexual being? Can I trust Him? Is His word relevant for me today?

Guest: Hannah Nitz

Show notes:

Why God Cares About Your Sexuality, Part 1
Become an Authentic Intimacy member
Register for the webinar
Subscribe to "Java with Juli" in Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts

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#398: How Trauma-Informed Care Helps Your Brain, Body & Relationships Jan 31, 2022

“Trauma-informed care” is more than just a pop psychology buzzword. Join Juli to learn about the experiences that we don’t just “get over” or forget about—and the first steps toward healing.

Guest: Victoria Gutbrod, MA, LPCC

Shownotes:

Introduce the podcast!
Find a trauma-informed care specialist at MyCounselor.Online*
How to Find a Wise Counselor (Juli's blog)
The Body Keeps the Score, Bessel van der Kolk

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#397: How To Help Families Navigate Questions About Gender Identity Jan 24, 2022

Juli continues her conversation with Dr. Mark Yarhouse about how parents can stay close to a child who is questioning his or her gender, how you can come alongside those parents, and how churches can care for individuals and families who are struggling in this space. Grab your Java and join us!

Guest: Dr. Mark Yarhouse

Show notes:

Understanding Gender Dysphoria by Dr. Mark Yarhouse*
Emerging Gender Identities by Dr. Mark Yarhouse & Dr. Julia Sadusky*
Introduce the podcast! Tell us how & why you listen to Java with Juli.

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#396: Diverse Gender Identities: How To See the People Behind the Issue Jan 17, 2022

Why are so many teens suddenly coming out as trans or non binary? Juli welcomes Dr. Mark Yarhouse to help you understand the difference between gender dysphoria and the emerging gender identities that young people are navigating today. You'll hear how to have compassionate, biblical and productive conversations around this complex issue—and how to listen and love well.

Guest: Dr. Mark Yarhouse

Show notes:

Understanding Gender Dysphoria by Dr. Mark Yarhouse*
Emerging Gender Identities by Dr. Mark Yarhouse & Dr. Julia Sadusky*
Introduce the podcast! Tell us how & why you listen to Java with Juli.

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#395: How to Be Intentional to Care For Your Mental Health & Wellness Jan 10, 2022

Dr. Juli Slattery and Dr. Jennifer Degler help you check in on your mental health. They describe the physical and emotional symptoms of depression and anxiety, and how to know when to get professional help. Also, hear how to check in with a friend you're concerned about.

Guest: Dr. Jennifer Degler, PhD

Show notes:

www.drjenniferdegler.com
How Do You Take Your Java?
How to Choose a Wise Counselor (Juli's blog)
MyCounselor.Online (mention AI to receive 25% off)*

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Follow Juli on Twitter @DrJuliSlattery

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#394: Debt-free in the Bedroom: How To Heal From Sexual Pain Jan 03, 2022

Have you experienced sexual trauma? Betrayal in marriage? Do you regret your sexual choices from the past? These experiences create a sense of shame that follows you right into the bedroom. Join Dr. Juli Slattery and Dr. Doug Rosenau for a conversation about how to begin to heal.

Guest: Dr. Doug Rosenau

How do you take your Java?
How Do I Get Past My Shame? (video)
God's Healing Stinks (Juli's blog)
Why Is Healing So Hard? (Juli's blog)
How To Choose a Wise Counselor (Juli's blog)
Surprised By the Healer by Juli Slattery & Linda Dillow
A Celebration of Sex by Dr. Doug Rosenau*

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#393: Practical Wisdom for Dating & Friendship Dec 27, 2021

Can we get practical about dating? Juli and author Eric Demeter put aside the Christian dating subculture and get super practical about being direct, being honest, and being wise. Grab your Java and join us!

Guest: Eric Demeter

Show notes:

How Should a Christian Date? It’s Not as Complicated as You Think by Eric Demeter*
Sex & the Single Girl by Juli Slattery
Is Masturbation a Sin? You May Be Asking the Wrong Question (Juli’s blog)
What’s the Purpose of Your Sexuality, Really? (Juli’s blog)
Java Ep #95: The Dating Manifesto
Java Ep #144: What Do You REALLY Believe About Being Single?
Make a donation to Authentic Intimacy

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#65: Why Healing Takes Time, with Francine Rivers Dec 20, 2021

Juli sits down with Francine Rivers to hear how her story of brokenness and healing after an abortion influenced her fictional writing.

Guest: Francine Rivers, Hannah Nitz

Show notes:

Redeeming Love by Francine Rivers*
God's Healing Stinks Juli's blog
Surprised By the Healer by Juli Slattery & Linda Dillow
Surprised By the Healer--join the online book study!
Give a Gift to Authentic Intimacy

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#392: Want To Know Juli and Mike Better? This Is Your Episode! Dec 13, 2021

Hannah Nitz turns the tables on Juli and Mike to hear how they met, how they navigated the early years of marriage, and what it was like for Mike to watch Juli leave her dream job to start a ministry around sexuality. Plus, hear what's new in 2022!

Guests: Mike Slattery and Hannah Nitz

Show notes:

We want to hear from you! How Do You Take Your Java?
Support Authentic Intimacy with a financial gift
Sign up now for an online book study in January!

#391: Make Your Relationship Better With a Few Intentional Habits Dec 06, 2021

Relationships naturally find ruts. Couples who build intentional habits of speaking life to each other, quickly giving the benefit of the doubt, and seeking adventure together can make it through the roughest relationship terrain. Join Juli and her guests to learn a few secrets of thriving relationships!

Guests: Chris and Jenni Graebe

Show notes:

The Rhythm of Us by Chris & Jenni Graebe*
Sex Is the Icing On the Cake (Juli's blog)
Use the code JAVA15 for 15% off an AI Membership
Sign up now for an online book study in January!
Finding the Hero in Your Husband by Dr. Juli Slattery

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#390: Have You Given Up On Sexual Enjoyment and Pleasure? Nov 29, 2021

Juli and her guest, Dr. Debra Taylor, have a conversation about the complexity of female sexuality, lies women believe, and how you can experience the pleasure that God created for you, too.

Guest: Dr. Debra Taylor, MFT, CST

Show notes:

5 Things You Need to Know About Women, Orgasm and Intimacy (Juli's blog)
Your Sexual Differences Can Make You Better Lovers (Juli's blog)
A Secret For the Guys (Juli's blog)
Join an online book study going through Passion Pursuit, a 10-week study through the Song of Solomon

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#389: Thinking About Becoming a Blended Family? Nov 22, 2021

Even the strongest couples will face challenges when blending their families. Juli talks with Ron Deal about what every blended couple needs to consider during the dating and engagement season.

Guest: Ron Deal

Show notes:

Preparing to Blend by Ron Deal*

www.rondeal.org

Your Marriage Should Be Fun (Juli's blog)

What's the Purpose of Sex in Marriage? (Juli's blog)

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#388: Single & Sexually Whole Nov 15, 2021

Juli welcomes Dr. Doug Rosenau for a conversation to help singles understand the difference between their social sexuality and their erotic sexuality, how to express them in healthy ways, and build intimacy in community and in friendships.

Guest: Dr. Doug Rosenau

Show notes:

Soul Virgins by Dr. Doug Rosenau* (& look for his new book coming Jan 2022!)

Sex & the Single Girl by Dr. Juli Slattery

"What Do I Do With My Sexual Desires?" (Juli's blog)

"You Can Be Single & Sexual" (Juli's blog)

Join a Sex & the Single Girl online book study

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#387: Life, Intimacy and Loving Your Body After Breast Cancer & Reconstruction Nov 08, 2021

Kim Harms was diagnosed with breast cancer shortly after her fortieth birthday. In this episode, Juli grabs coffee with Kim to hear how she learned to grieve, love her new body and rebuild intimacy with her husband after a double mastectomy and breast reconstruction.

Kim tells her story in the book Life Reconstructed, but you'll want to grab your Java and pull up a chair for this vulnerable and life-giving conversation today.

Guest: Kim Harms

Show notes:

Get plugged in with like-minded women in an online book study!

Mama Bear Apologetics Guide to Sexuality by Hillary Ferrer & Amy Davison*

Life Reconstructed: Navigating the World of Mastectomies and Breast Reconstruction by Kim Harms*

Kim's website, Life Reconstructed

Being Sexy Has Nothing to Do With Your Body (Juli's blog)

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#386: What's the Secret To Getting the Marriage & Intimacy You Want? Go Vertical Nov 01, 2021

He never saw it coming. It was the night of Dave and Ann's tenth wedding anniversary and if asked how their marriage was doing, Dave would have given them a 9.8 /10. But instead of a celebratory kiss, Ann whispered, "I don’t have any feelings left for you.”

In this episode, Juli talks with Dave and Ann Wilson about how Ann’s efforts to "help" her husband only served to undermine the very connection she was trying to create.

Guests: Dave & Ann Wilson, Hannah Nitz

Show notes:

"Vertical Marriage" by Dave & Ann Wilson*

"Finding the Hero in Your Husband, Revisited" Juli's new book*

Love Like You Mean It Cruise 2022

Leave us a rating & review on Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify or in your podcast app.

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#385: How To Wrestle With God Over Questions of Sex & Sexuality Oct 25, 2021

Juli and Hannah discuss the pain caused by misapplied Christian teaching and when we don't allow others to wrestle with sexual pain and brokenness.

Come deconstruct with us for 40 minutes or so. Yep, that's right. If we can’t ask hard questions about the principles we’ve shared in the last two episodes, then we’re only representing the truth of God and not the heart of God, which is to invite you to wrestle with His word and with Him until you’re satisfied—and He is the only One who can satisfy.

Guest: Hannah Nitz

Show notes:

"Finding the Hero in Your Husband, Revisited" Juli's new book*

3 Things I Want You To Know as I Launch a Countercultural Book (Juli’s blog)

Purity Culture: Lose the Lies, Keep Your Faith (Juli's blog)

What's the Purpose of Your Sexuality, Really? (Juli's blog)

Hannah's podcast, There's More

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#384: Bonus! Do You Empower Your Husband or Enable Him? (The Difference is BIG) Oct 21, 2021

Nobody said marriage would be easy. It takes great courage, strength and self-control to be the woman God has called you to be in your marriage. While some of us are tempted to use our power to control or manipulate (a temporary fix at best), others shrink back and say, “I guess this is as good as it gets.” But neither of these responses honor God or build intimacy with your husband. Ready to try a better way?

P.S. Who is Juli's special guest? It’s her hero himself: Mike Slattery is on the mic!

Guests: Hannah Nitz and Mike Slattery

Show notes:

Join us for the webinar “How to Use Your Power To Build Intimacy”
"Finding the Hero in Your Husband, Revisited" Juli's new book*
3 Things I Want You To Know as I Launch a Countercultural Book (Juli's blog)
What Submission Isn't (Juli's blog)
So What Exactly Is Biblical Submission? (Juli's blog)
Hannah's podcast, There's More

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#383: What Do I Do With Disappointment in Marriage? Oct 18, 2021

Have you tried to "fix" problems in your marriage, only to end up feeling distant? Disappointment is common to every marriage, but it doesn't have to mean the end of intimacy. You have unique power in your marriage! Join Juli and Hannah for a conversation about how to use your power to build intimacy—instead of unknowingly sabotaging it. (Been there, done that.)

Guest: Hannah Nitz

Show notes:

Join us for the webinar “How to Use Your Power To Build Intimacy”
"Finding the Hero in Your Husband, Revisited" Juli's new book*
“3 Things I Want You To Know As I Launch a Countercultural Book” (Juli’s blog)
“A Woman’s Greatest Dilemma, Pt 1 ” (Juli’s blog)
Hannah's podcast, There's More

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#382: Why We're Not Afraid To Ask Tough Questions About Sex & Christianity Oct 11, 2021

If you feel the pressure to believe that Christians are close-minded and a growing minority, you’re in for an encouraging surprise. Join Juli and Rebecca McLaughlin, author of Confronting Christianity, to hear why Christianity can not only withstand the toughest questions, but how they become signposts that point people to Jesus.

Guest: Rebecca McLaughlin, rebeccamclaughlin.org

Show notes:

Confronting Christianity by Rebecca McLaughlin*

Register for our FREE! webinar on Thurs. 10/21, "How To Use Your Power To Build Intimacy"

Finding the Hero in Your Husband, Revisited by Dr. Juli Slattery

Leave us a rating & review on Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify or in your podcast app

Java #312: Born Again This Way: Rachel’s Story (exclusive content)

The Secular Creed by Rebecca McLaughlin*

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#381: "Show It Off" or "Cover It Up": Messages That Shape Our Body Image Oct 04, 2021

What messages have you been told about your body and your sexuality?

At the coffee shop with Juli are two friends; join these women from different cultures for a candid conversation about what they were told and believed about their sexuality. Their stories are unique, but they share a common thread: the messages were powerful and confusing. Listen in to hear how God brings redemption to their lives to walk free from body shame.

"A White theological understanding of sexuality cannot be the only voice. You have to leave room for our voice, for our experiences... If you leave room for our voice too, we find a more robust, a more consistent biblical understanding of sexuality". –Dawn Jones

Guests: Danisa Suarez, LPC, MA and Dawn Jones, LPC, MA

"Rethinking Sexuality" (Juli's book)

Legacy Counseling & Consulting, Dawn Jones's Practice

CCI Counseling, Jorge & Danisa Suarez's Practice

Leave us a rating & review on Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify or in your podcast app.

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#380: How To Have Honest Conversations With Your Kids About Sex Sep 27, 2021

How do you create an environment in your home where your kids feel OK talking about sex? When they struggle, how do you protect their privacy and still get support from other parents? And how do share your own brokenness with them as you begin to have real conversations? This parenting thing isn't easy. We want to help. Grab your Java and join us!

Guests: Jonathan Daugherty and John Fort from Be Broken Ministries

Show Notes:

Check out the Wisephone by Techless at https://techless.com

Honest Talk by John Fort*

Hear Jonathan's testimony, #175: When Men Are Addicted to Porn, Pt 1 – available from the archive through Oct. 30. Listen now!

Hear John's testimony, #283: I Was The Abuser – available from the archive through Oct. 30. Listen now!

Seven Reasons Kids Turn to Porn & What You Can Do About It (the AI blog)

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#379: Is Your Love Life All That You Want It To Be? Sep 20, 2021

If you’ve ever felt this way about your sex life, you’re not alone. Many married couples settle for unsatisfying sex – or none at all. In this episode, Dr. Juli Slattery and Gary Thomas grab java in a crowded hotel lobby – but that doesn’t stop them from having a candid conversation about God’s good gift of knock-your-socks-off sex. That’s right – it’s God’s gift! You don’t have to feel guilty or ashamed for wanting it. But you do have to take the initiative to make it happen. That’s why we’re here. Grab your Java and join us!

Guest: Gary Thomas

Show Notes:

Join Juli online at the The Married Sex Conference where she'll sharing about why God made you sexually incompatible.*

"Married Sex" by Gary Thomas and Debra Fileta*

"Passion Pursuit" a 10-week Bible study through the Song of Solomon with Juli Slattery and Linda Dillow

Your Sexual Differences Can Make You Better Lovers (Juli's blog)

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#378: How One Church Learned To Embrace the Beauty of Broken Sep 13, 2021

Imagine there is a sign on the door of your church that says, “Please leave your sexual brokenness on the steps outside.” Its ridiculous! Sadly, its how many people feel.

In this episode, Juli talks with leaders from The Austin Stone Community Church. They share how the church started a conversation about same-sex attraction and followed it with a discipleship group to answer questions, share God’s design, and connect sexuality to the greater story of the gospel. To their surprise (and despite the pandemic), the group kept growing.

Are you ready to embrace sexual brokenness in your church? Or is your brokenness still sitting outside on the steps?

Guests: Kate Terry & Zach Verrett

Show notes:

The Austin Stone Community Church

"Rethinking Sexuality" by Dr. Juli Slattery

When Cancel Culture Invades the Church (Juli's blog)

Compassion That Doesn't Compromise (Juli's blog)

#166: We're All Sexually Broken

Leave us a rating & review on Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts , Spotify or in your podcast app.

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#377: How to Care For a Friend (Or Yourself) When the Marriage Doesn’t Survive Sep 06, 2021

Marriages don’t always survive the tough stuff. Wounds heal. Addicts find sobriety. Forgiveness is extended. Life comes back — sometimes without reconciliation.

In this episode, Juli is joined by Stacey Sadler, who shares her story of wearing thin the pages of "The Power of a Praying Wife" and then overcoming the shame of filing for divorce. Today she is a certified counselor and helps other women set boundaries, work toward recovery and, when necessary, leave abusive marriages. You’ll hear how God rejoices over the woman (or man) who finds healing, protection, and wholeness — even when the journey begins with God's provision of divorce.

Guest: Stacey Sadler, MA LPC

Show notes:

#376: What Does God's Word Actually Say About Divorce & Remarriage?

#373: How We Beat a Porn Addiction in Our (Millennial) Marriage

#372: How To Recognize Domestic Abuse

Sign up for Stacey Sadler's mini-course on validation (it's free!)

Subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify or in your favorite podcast app.

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#376: What Does God’s Word Actually Say About Divorce and Remarriage? Aug 30, 2021

Friends, please note that we don't go into detail about how to recognize abuse in marriage. We have other conversations about abusive marriages that we encourage you to listen to! (See the links below). This episode's purpose is to look at what the biblical texts say about marriage, divorce and remarriage. Our guest is a biblical scholar, but he is not a counselor; his comments are not nuanced nor intended to be applied to situations of domestic abuse or trauma. If you have wounds that are still tender from a difficult or abusive marriage, you may want to skip this episode for now.

A few other episodes to listen to first:

Java #372: How to Recognize Domestic Abuse

Java #377: How to Care For a Friend (Or Yourself) When the Marriage Doesn't Survive

Java #167: Why People Are More Important Than Marriage

Enough i s Enough blog by Gary Thomas

From pornography to financial infidelity, domestic abuse to emotional affairs — it's no surprise more Christians are asking: what exactly qualifies as "marital unfaithfulness"? Juli welcomes Bible teacher and pastor Mike Fabarez to walk you through the scriptures that address divorce and help you apply them to difficult questions that aren't directly addressed in the Bible.

More tough questions. Less small talk. Grab your Java and join us!

Guest: Mike Fabarez

Show notes:

Focal Point Ministries

What Should You Do If Your Husband Looks At Porn? (Juli's blog)

Java #364: How to Work Your Way Back to Sexual Intimacy After Infidelity

Shame Doesn’t Have the Final Word (Juli's blog)

Matthew 19 (NIV)

1 Corinthians 7 (NIV)

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#375: Juli & Jackie on How To Pursue Unity While Standing on Truth Aug 23, 2021

The mics stayed on for more with Jackie Hill Perry. In this unique, after-the-show episode, Juli and Jackie share how they’ve experienced the current events around social justice and the disunity among Christians.You’ll hear them model for you how to embrace these emotionally-charged conversations with a spirit of humility and a willingness to learn from others’ experiences. Grab your Java and join them!

P.S. These ladies don’t do small talk very well, so better make that a venti.

Guest: Jackie Hill Perry

Show notes:

www.jackiehillperry.com

"Holier Than Thou" by Jackie Hill Perry*

"Gay Girl, Good God" by Jackie Hill Perry*

30 Minutes With the Perrys (podcast)

Mentioned: "Reparations" by Duke Kwon

Philando Castile

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#374: Jackie Hill Perry on the Trustworthiness of God Aug 16, 2021

Your marriage, your sexuality, wounds from your past, or things you can't see yet ... what do you struggle to trust God with? This week, Juli sits down with Jackie Hill Perry for a conversation about how God’s holiness helps us trust Him. You'll hear some of the ways we've misunderstood His holiness and the misleading places we look to for definitions of words like "love" and "goodness," as Jackie shares from her new book, Holier Than Thou. If you’re questioning whether God is knowable, loving, good, or worthy of your trust — grab your Java and join us.

Guest: Jackie Hill Perry

Show notes:

"Holier Than Thou" by Jackie Hill Perry*

30 Minutes With the Perrys (podcast)

Have You Forgotten Who God Is? (Juli's blog)

Who Is Jesus To You? (exclusive content)

"Finding the Hero In Your Husband" (Juli's upcoming release)*

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#373: How We Beat a Porn Addiction in Our (Millennial) Marriage Aug 09, 2021

When Clinton and Charity Muñoz sought help to overcome a porn addiction, Clinton was told to memorize more scripture and Charity was told to wear him out sexually ...and things got worse.

Millennial marriages are vulnerable to pornography like no generation before them — and there is a lot of bad advice out there. But we have good news! The Muñoz family, Authentic Intimacy, and others are learning to have conversations about sexual addiction that not only point people to Jesus, but to the professional help they need as well. In this episode, Juli invites Clinton to share how their new marriage actually triggered his porn use; Charity admits that she couldn’t celebrate Clinton’s small victories early on (and why that’s OK); and together they explain how healing individually, as a couple, and in community were all crucial components to their recovery.

Guests: Clinton and Charity Muñoz with Restored2More.com

Show notes:

Check out the Wisephone at Techless.com

Restored2More.com

Learn more about online Groups & Courses with Restored2More

Java #364: How to Work Your Way Back to Sexual Intimacy After Infidelity

Q&A: Is Homemade Porn OK in Marriage? (Q&A video with Jonathan Daugherty)

How To Deal With Porn Struggles When Dating (Juli's blog)

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#36: What Kind of Love Are You Making? Aug 02, 2021

If there is one place in the Bible that gives women permission to have fun, to explore and to enjoy sexual pleasure, it’s the poetic Song of Solomon. In this episode, Juli Slattery and Linda Dillow have a candid conversation about why many married women dread sex, yet how the Song of Solomon gives women freedom and permission to say no to sex, to initiate sex, to enjoy sex and to feel sexy. Grab your Java and join us!

Guests: Linda Dillow and Elena Thomason

Show Notes:

Join an Online Book Study this Fall

Get the "Passion Pursuit" Bible study

Get the "En Busca de la Pasión" Bible study

Join Juli for God, Sex, and Your Marriage at Winshape Marriage, Oct. 29-31

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#372: How To Recognize Domestic Abuse Jul 26, 2021

Wearing sunglasses on rainy days. Using turtlenecks to hide choke marks. Running. Hiding.

Ramona Probasco never thought she would do any of these things.

"I never thought it would happen to me. I always thought, 'No way. Not him. Not me. Not us.' I never wanted to call it what it was: abuse."

In this episode, Juli invites Dr. Ramona to share her story. You'll hear how to distinguish domestic abuse from common conflict in marriage, get a glimpse into the mindset of an abusive spouse, and better understand why finding the right kind of help can be difficult. Grab your Java and join us.

Guest: Dr. Ramona Probasco

Show notes:

www.drramona.com

"Healing Well and Living Free From An Abusive Relationship" Dr. Ramona's book*

Resource page on Dr. Ramona's website

Enough is Enough blog by Gary Thomas

Java #367: Why People Are More Important Than Marriage (exclusive content)

Join Juli for "God, Sex & Your Marriage" at the WinShape Retreat Center, Oct 29-31

When Your Child Has Been Sexually Abused, on the Authentic Intimacy blog

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#371: Schedule Sex and Dry Cleaning In the Same Conversation? It Works Jul 19, 2021

Being intentional about the business of marriage builds intimacy. When couples make decisions together, their emotions and buy-in follow. In this episode, Juli talks with Bill & Pam Farrel about their 40-year habit of a weekly marriage meeting. Every Monday they meet, pray, talk about finances, their kids, their priorities for the week—and yes, they schedule sex. Sound unromantic? Perhaps. But they're still married, still in love, and still getting down to business in the bedroom.

Guests: Bill & Pam Farrel

Show Notes:

Join Juli for "God, Sex & Your Marriage" at the WinShape Retreat Center, Oct 29-31

Love-Wise.com

"Marriage Meet Ups" Planners for Couples

Predictability and Passion Can Improve a Boring Sex Life (blog by Juli)

Don’t Be Spontaneous in Marriage (blog by Hannah Nitz)

Join our "Finding the Hero In Your Husband, Revisited" launch team

"Red Hot Monogamy" by Bill & Pam Farrel*

"Men are Like Waffles, Women are Like Spaghetti" by Bill & Pam Farrel*

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#370: Why the Single Life Is Uniquely Meaningful and Totally Ordinary Jul 12, 2021

Do you feel stuck somewhere between "not married" and "not called to singleness"? Truth be told, few single Christians feel called to full-time ministry. Yet this time that we often treat as a "waiting room" is not that at all. In this episode, Juli invites Dr. Dani Treweek to share her thoughts on the significance of the single life, why being a Christian single doesn't mean you're called to singleness, and why celibacy is not extraordinary.

Guest: Dr. Dani Treweek

Show Notes:

www.danielletreweek.com

SingleMinded.Community

1 Corinthians 7:29-35 (ESV)

"Sex & the Single Girl" by Dr. Juli Slattery

"Rethinking Sexuality" by Dr. Juli Slattery

Java #95: The Dating Manifesto

What Do I Do With My Sexual Desires? (Juli's blog)

Covenant Love, Intimacy, & the Single Christian (a video Q&A from Juli)

Java Pack: Single & Sexual (A selection of Java with Juli episodes, study guide, and a list of follow-resources.)

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#369: Changing the Way We Talk About Porn (Because Women Struggle Too) Jul 05, 2021

“I had one woman say, ‘I struggle with masturbation.’ And she just started crying. And then she said, ‘I’ve never said that word out loud.’”

In this Java with Juli, Joy Skarka recalls her experiences walking with women struggling with porn, and shares from her own story of addiction to freedom. Despite rising numbers of women using porn and erotica, we still tend to refer to it as a "guy thing." Juli, Joy, and Jonathan Daugherty sit down for a conversation about creating safe places for women to come forward and ask for help. Grab your Java and join us!

Guests: Joy Skarka and Jonathan Daugherty (https://2.bebroken.com)

Show notes:

Learn more about the Wisephone at https://techless.com/
"3 Things I (Wish I Hadn't) Learned From Pornography" Joy's blog
"3 Things to Remember About Sexual Sin & Grace" Joy's blog
"3 Things Women Want You To Know About Their Addiction to Porn" Joy's blog
"Grace Based Recovery" by Jonathan Daugherty*
Java #323: Bye Awkward Side Hugs! Getting Over Our Fear of Opposite-Sex Friendships
"Beyond Awkward Side Hugs" by Bronwyn Lea*
"Is Homemade Porn Okay In Marriage?" Q&A Video with Jonathan Daugherty
Find a Christian counselor near you. Here's what to look for.
"What Do I Do With My Sexual Desires?" (Juli's blog)

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#368: Aging Bodies Can Still Enjoy Sexuality. Are You Giving Up Too Soon? Jun 28, 2021

There's ED (erectile dysfunction), PE (premature ejaculation), and PS — premature surrender. According to our guest, many Boomer couples are giving up on sex way too soon.

In this episode, Juli welcomes back Dr. Doug Rosenau for a conversation to help you confront challenges to your sex life as you grow older. You'll hear how you and your spouse can encourage one another not to give up on sexual intimacy, gain a new perspective on grieving your losses, and expand your definition of sexuality beyond just intercourse. Is there ever a time to give up on sex? Grab your Java and listen in to find out.

Guest: Dr. Doug Rosenau

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#367: Exchange Online Distractions for Real-Life Intimacy Jun 21, 2021

“To be completely honest, the first two or three days, I was shocked by classic symptoms of withdrawal. I found myself so desperate for a hit of dopamine – that good feeling you get when you get a notification – that I would check the weather app! That was one of many moments when the Lord would say, 'Why are you searching for something that doesn’t satisfy?'”

In this Java with Juli, Asheritah Ciuciu shares how fasting from social media helped her turn down the volume of the world and hear the voice of the Lord just a little bit better.

Guest: Asheritah Ciuciu

Find Asheritah at https://onethingalone.com

For links to all the resources mentioned in this episode at https://www.authenticintimacy.com/resources/31894/367-exchange-online-distractions-for-real-life-intimacy

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#95: The Dating Manifesto Jun 14, 2021

Are you tired of being single? Maybe you've been rethinking that 21-point list of "non-negotiable" qualities you need in a spouse? Pull up a chair, grab your Java, and share some laughs with a friend who is walking right alongside you.

In this episode, Lisa Anderson brings the stories and lessons learned from her own journey as a single Christian woman. She'll talk about the impact culture had on her approach to dating, offer her thoughts on realistic expectations when looking for a spouse, and remind us that both grief and celebration are a part of the deal.

Guest: Lisa Anderson from The Boundless Podcast at www.boundless.org

Check out Lisa's book, "The Dating Manifesto"

Join our webinar series, "Sexual Pleasure: How To Get Your Mind and Body to Work Together" at www.authenticintimacy.com/event

Find links to all the resources mentioned in this episode at https://www.authenticintimacy.com/resources/31715/95-the-dating-manifesto

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#366: No More Pushing Past the Pain! God Cares About Your Sexual Pleasure Jun 07, 2021

What do you do when sex hurts? Do you white-knuckle your way through it, because it’s your “duty”? In this episode, you’ll hear why trying to push through the pain doesn’t work — nor is it what God desires for you. We’ll offer advice to help you find the right provider or therapist to help you understand and treat the reason for the pain you're experiencing. You’re not alone. Grab your Java and join us.

Guests: Dr. Carol Tanksley, OB-GYN and Joy Skarka

Show notes:

Sexual Pleasure: How to Get Your Mind and Body to Work Together at authenticintimacy.com/event (webinar series)
www.drcarolministries.com
Check out Dr. Carol's video course, yoursexpectations.com
"Passion Pursuit," a 10-week study through the Song of Solomon from Linda Dillow & Dr. Juli Slattery
"Rethinking Sexuality" by Dr. Juli Slattery

Find links for all these resources in our show notes at https://www.authenticintimacy.com/resources/31517/366-no-more-pushing-past-the-pain-god-cares-about-your-sexual-pleasure

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#365: How To Create a Language That Brings Meaning to Your Lovemaking May 31, 2021

How long would you like foreplay to last? How important is it to have an orgasm every time we have sex? Complete this sentence: “During lovemaking, I wish that you would…”

When was the last time you had a conversation with your spouse that included questions like these? In this episode, sex therapist Dr. Doug Rosenau joins Juli to help couples learn to talk about sex. Grab your Java and your spouse (this is a good one to listen to together) and join us!

Guest: Dr. Doug Rosenau

Register for our webinar series, Sexual Pleasure: How to Get Your Mind & Body to Work Together at authenticintimacy.com/event

Find all of the resources mentioned in this episode in our show notes at authenticintimacy.com/resources/31197/365-how-to-create-a-love-language

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#364: How To Work Your Way Back to Sexual Intimacy After Infidelity May 24, 2021

After infidelity, how do you know when to start having sex again? Recovery is layered, complex, and different for every couple. In this Java with Juli, learn what a healthy recovery process looks like for a grieving wife and how to rebuild sex and intimacy from the ground up.

Couples will try to go back to having sex the way they always have had sex [prior to betrayal]. And I think they have to understand that they’re creating something completely new – just like their marriage. -Lyschel Burket

Guest: Lyschel Burket, APSATS-c

Learn more about Hope Redefined, and their healing retreats, at HopeRedefined.org

Find community this summer in an online book study! authenticintimacy.com/online-book-study

Find all the links for this episode at https://www.authenticintimacy.com/resources/30944/364-work-your-way-back-to-intimacy

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#363: Why Are Christians Afraid Of the LGBT+ Conversation? May 17, 2021

In your conversations about sexuality, can you explain WHY you believe what you believe? Does God’s "one man and one woman" design for marriage feel like a barrier to sharing your faith with others? God talks about sex throughout the Bible, how come it is (and has been) so hard for us to talk about it? In this conversation, author and theologian Rachel Gilson shares her thoughts on why we struggle to answer today’s questions about sexuality, yet how sexuality, in this moment in history, can actually be a bridge to sharing the gospel.

Connect with Rachel at www.rachelgilson.com

Connect with an online book study at authenticintimacy.com/online-book-studies

Get all the links for this episode at https://www.authenticintimacy.com/resources/30723/363-why-are-christians-afraid

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#362: How To Be a Better "Better Half" with Jamie Ivey May 10, 2021

A complement, according to Webster, is “something that fills up, completes, or makes better or perfect.” Romantic as that is, it’s a tall order in a relationship between two imperfect people! So then, what does it look like to be your spouse’s complement? In this episode, Jamie Ivey shares what God has taught her as she looks back on her own marriage of 20 years. No simplistic formulas, no easy answers, and no perfect people; just rich conversation and bold truth – so grab your Java and join us!

Guest: Jamie Ivey

I grew up thinking that a marriage is where the man works, makes money, then comes home and sits in his Lazy Boy, and the wife has dinner ready by the time he gets there... that's not what God says marriage is. He doesn't say the man goes and works and the woman makes dinner -- and there's no Lazy Boy in the Bible. -Jamie Ivey

Show notes:

Complement* by Aaron & Jamie Ivey
Complement Bible Study Book*
The Happy Hour with Jamie Ivey (podcast)
Your Sexual Differences Can Make You Better Lovers (Juli's blog)
A Secret for the Guys (Juli's blog)
Join an online book study!

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#361: Hey Momma! Learn How To Share the "Birds & Bees" with Your "Littles" May 03, 2021

We know. It’s hard to imagine talking to your sweet three or four-year-old about sex. And here’s the thing: you don’t have to. What you can, nay, should do is have age-appropriate conversations about body parts, boys and girls, and how you see God’s design in nature in things like seeds and eggs. These small, everyday conversations lay an important foundation for bigger conversations later on. You've got this, Momma! You don’t need to be afraid to share God’s design for sexuality with your young children. We’re here to help – grab your Java and join us!

Guest: Megan Michelson, Birds & Bees

Show notes:

Learn more about www.birds-bees.com
Use JAVA20 and get 20% off the curriculum!
God Made All of Me*
Parenting Through Weakness (Juli's blog)
When Your Kid Looks At Porn (Juli's blog)

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#360: Feeling Fearful? The Right Kind of Fear Leads to Bravery Apr 26, 2021

When you’re feeling fearful, the last thing you need is a social media meme telling you to “tighten your ponytail and carry on.” A rocky marriage, a wayward child, deeply dividing issues in our country, churches, and families — there’s no shortage of issues to keep us living in fear. In this episode, you'll hear how knowing who God is, and His power to work in your life, is where real courage comes from. Grab your Java and join us!

Guest: Katie Westenberg

Show notes:

I Choose Brave* (Katie's book)
https://katiewestenberg.com/
Have You Forgotten Who God Is? (blog)
Learn to have gospel-centered conversations at Equip!
The Bible Project

Bonus! #166: We Are All Sexually Broken Apr 22, 2021

Do you believe that only people who watch pornography, use sex to feel loved, or cheat on their spouses are sexually broken? Church culture has long approached sexuality by dividing us into two categories: sexually broken or sexually pure. In this conversation, Juli & Hannah present a different approach.

"We're all sinners. None of us are righteous, not one. And apart from the redemption of Christ and the daily ministry of the Holy Spirit in our lives, we can never achieve righteousness. Why can't we apply that to sexuality?" Juli Slattery Guest: Hannah Nitz

Show notes:

There's More (Hannah's podcast)

#359: How To Help Women Speak Out Against Sexual Harassment Apr 19, 2021

Tiffany Bluhm wishes this wasn’t her story to tell. Like most victims or bystanders of sexual harassment, she had everything to lose by telling the truth. (Spoiler alert: She did it anyway!) Join Juli and Tiffany for a conversation about the role you can play in exposing sexual harassment. You’ll hear why harassment is something that women don’t have to tolerate and why, of all the voices raised against it, Christian voices should be the loudest.

Guest: Tiffany Bluhm (tiffanybluhm.com)

Show notes:

Prey Tell*
Why Tho? (podcast)
#351: Why Our Churches Need To Do Better at Valuing the Voices of Women (exclusive content)
Equip

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#358: Sexuality, Spirituality, and Why We Settle For Counterfeit Intimacy Apr 12, 2021

Have you ever turned to Netflix instead of pursuing sex with your spouse? Have you turned to Instagram instead ending your day by talking with God and learning His voice? Your sex life and your spiritual life have more in common than you think! In this episode, Juli talks with Mo (Isom) Aiken about the parallels between our spirituality and our sexuality, and our human inclination to settle for counterfeit versus authentic intimacy.

Guest: Mo Aiken

Show notes:

Fully Known; An Invitation to True Intimacy with God* (Mo's new book)
Episode #213: Sexuality & the Conversations the Church Forgot (exclusive AI content)
Episode #160: Why God Created You To Be Sexual
God's Healing Stinks (from Juli's blog)
People, I'm Not Your Moses (sermon by Francis Chan)
Register for Equip!

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#357: Emotional Safety: What It Is and Why You Need It Apr 05, 2021

What is emotional safety? Look at it this way: an emotionally unsafe relationship is a place where you can’t be yourself. You’re walking on eggshells. You can’t share your emotions because when you do, they’re going to set off an explosive or guilt-inducing response from the friend, parent, spouse, or boss you’re talking to. In this episode, Dr. Joshua Straub shares what makes you an emotionally safe person. Are you willing to press into and sit with the emotions of another person, even when it’s uncomfortable? It takes work, but the payoff is authentic intimacy. Grab your Java and join us!

Guest: Josh Straub

with Josh & Christi Straub (Check out the podcast!)
What Do I Do With Worry?* and What Am I Feeling?* (children’s books by Josh & Christi Straub)
Date Nights In (a four-week video series to help you talk, fight, and pray with your spouse about sex)
Stop Hooking Up in Your Marriage (blog)
EQUIP digital summit for Christian leaders

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#356: Sex & the City of God (What Life Looks Like When We Love God First) Mar 29, 2021

That longing you have to be fully known? God put it there. It’s meant to draw you into intimacy with Him. Yet, we try to fill it with people (or things) who can never know us completely. In this episode, Juli talks with Carolyn Weber, author of "Sex and the City of God," about what life looks like when we choose to love God first.

Guest: Carolyn Weber

Mentioned:

Sex and the City of God* (Carolyn's book)
Passion Pursuit (Bible study)
Sex and the Single Girl (book study)
What's the Purpose of Your Sexuality, Really? (blog)
Follow Java with Juli in Apple Podcasts

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#355: How Apologetics Helps Kids Engage the Culture & Keep Their Faith Mar 22, 2021

Don't tell your kids what to think about sex, teach them HOW to think about sex. Don't give them a list of rules, give them a biblical worldview that will help them discern and think critically about what the culture is telling them. You can do this, Mama! Grab your Java and join us. Guest: Amy Davison Show Notes:

Mama Bear Apologetics* (book)
MamaBearApologetics.com
Parenting Through Weakness (blog)
When Your Kid Looks At Porn (blog)
Subscribe to Java with Juli and leave us a review!

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#354: How To Keep Rhythm & Romance in Your New COVID Normal Mar 15, 2021

You learned to navigate close quarters, perfected family game night, and homeschooled your kids. As your community reopens, how do you disconnect from tech and re-engage with life in person? How do you get the romance back in your marriage? (Or reconnect with friends in COVID-friendly ways?) Grab your Java and join us for a conversation about keeping a happy rhythm in the constantly shifting world of daily (COVID) life.

Guest: Arlene Pellicane

Show notes:

#353: Why Telling Your Abuse Story is Complex, Courageous & Healing Mar 08, 2021

Every abuse story has unique layers of complexity and pain. The decision whether or not to tell someone else is often a difficult one. Grab your coffee, a comfy chair, and join this conversation with Tim Hein, author of the book Understanding Sexual Abuse (and a survivor himself), about the journey of recognizing your abuse and telling your story—and why the hearer’s job is to believe.

Guest: Tim Hein

Show Notes:

Webinar Series: 3 Conversations to Help You Heal From Sexual Abuse
Learn about MyCounselor.Online
Understanding Sexual Abuse* (book)
Understanding Sexual Abuse book review (by Juli)
The Unmade Podcast

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#92: Bonus! When The Woman You Love Was Abused Mar 02, 2021

It's been proven that the effects of childhood abuse follow us into adulthood. Memories, anxiety, and feelings of shame can leave women overwhelmed with emotions they don't understand—and their husbands equally confused! In this episode, Juli sits down with Dawn Scott Damon, author of When a Woman You Love Was Abused, to share wisdom and insight for husbands, helping them to love their wives well through the journey of recovery and healing.

Guest: Dawn Scott Damon

Show Notes:

3 Conversations To Help You Heal From Sexual Trauma (webinar series)
MyCounselor.Online
When a Woman You Love Was Abused*
www.dawnscottdamon.com
God's Healing Stinks (blog)
Why Is Healing So Hard? (blog)

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#352: How Purity Culture & Ravi Zacharias' Abuse of Power Challenge Our Faith Mar 01, 2021

Juli Slattery and Asheritah Ciuciu sit down for a conversation about the shortcomings of purity culture, the recent revelation of Ravi Zacharias’ abuse of power and trust, and how the two converge. More than just trending stories in your news feed, these issues raise questions every Christian needs to grapple with. How do we find answers? Let’s lean into God’s Word, not away. Grab your Java and join us.

Guest: Asheritah Ciuciu

Show Notes:

3 Conversations To Help You Heal From Sexual Trauma
MyCounselor.Online
www.onethingalone.com (Asheritah's ministry)
Prayers of REST Podcast (Asheritah's podcast)
Q&A: Recovering from Purity Culture (video)
#236: Pursue Wholeness, Not Purity (member exclusive)

#351: Why Our Churches Need To Do Better at Valuing the Voices of Women Feb 22, 2021

The women of the Bible have a lot to teach us. Their voices often give us the story behind the story—take Ruth for example, or the birth of Christ from the perspective of Mary and Elizabeth. What do we lose if we lose the voices of women? In this episode, Aimee Byrd joins Juli to share how the male and female voices together give us a complete picture of Jesus and His Bride, and why that's important for our churches today.

Guest: Aimee Byrd, www.aimeebyrd.com

Join an online book study!
Recovering From Biblical Manhood & Womanhood
Java Ep #313:The Greatest Love Story
Java Ep #163: Women & the Tough Bible Verses (Exclusive Member Content)

#350: Making Time To Make Love (Especially When You Don't Feel Like It) Feb 15, 2021

It's hard to prioritize sexual intimacy when you don't understand why God created sex in the first place. Instead, you put up walls when things get hard. When you get busy, sex goes on the back burner. But what if God designed sex to help you stay connected with your spouse during difficult times? In this episode, Juli and her guest share how sex is a gift, and a means to deepen intimacy through every season of marriage. Grab your Java and join us!

Guest: Francie Winslow, www.franciewinslow.com

Show Notes:

Spring Online Bible Studies
Passion Pursuit Bible Study
Predictability & Passion Can Improve a Boring Sex Life (blog)
Java Ep #166: We Are All Sexually Broken
Java Ep #160: Why God Created You To Be Sexual
Why Does Sex Matter in Marriage? Pt 1 (blog)
Java Pack: Taking Back the Bedroom
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#349: Bonus! You CAN Find Love Online. We'll Help You Look Feb 11, 2021

“I love online dating,” said no one ever. But if 1 in 5 committed relationships today began online, is it worth a try? In this BONUS episode, Juli sits down with Margot Starbuck to learn everything you want to know about finding a spouse online. After joining over 16 dating sites, Margot shares practical advice and wisdom from her latest book, The Grown Woman’s Guide to Online Dating. She's done all the work, you just need to grab your Java and join us!

Guest: Margot Starbuck

Show notes:

Spring online book studies are here--including Sex & the Single Girl! Sign up today!
The Grown Woman’s Guide to Online Dating*
What Do I Do With My Sexual Desires? (blog)
Single & In My Late 40s—Do I Still Have to Save Sex for Marriage? (video)
How Do We Bond in a Dating Relationship Without Having Sex? (video)

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#348: What You Need to Know About the T in LGBT, Pt 2 Feb 08, 2021

In this episode, Juli continues her conversation with Preston Sprinkle as they dive into biblical questions around transitioning, the pronoun debate, rapid onset gender dysphoria, and offer encouragement to parents of teens who are questioning. You'll learn what the Bible says about gender and better understand the complexity and personal struggle represented by the "T" in LGBT. Grab your Java and join us!

Guest: Dr. Preston Sprinkle, prestonsprinkle.com

Show notes:

Part 1 of this conversation
Embodied* by Preston Sprinkle
Understanding Gender Dysphoria* by Mark Yarhouse
People to Be Loved* by Preston Sprinkle
The Center for Faith, Sexuality & Gender
Theology in the Raw (Preston's Podcast)
Talking to Your Kids About Sex (webinar series)
The Importance of Sexual Discipleship (Juli's blog)

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#347: What You Need To Know About the "T" in LGBT, Pt 1 Feb 01, 2021

What was recently a rare psychological diagnosis is rapidly morphing into an accepted cultural movement. While it's critical to know what the Bible says about gender, Christians also need to understand the complexity and personal struggle represented by the "T" in LGBT. Let's be informed as we step into this conversation, both with individuals and within the cultural dialogue. Join us for this two-part series with Preston Sprinkle about science, Scripture, and the pain experienced by transgender people.

Guest: Dr. Preston Sprinkle, prestonsprinkle.com

Show notes:

Embodied* by Preston Sprinkle
Understanding Gender Dysphoria* by Mark Yarhouse
People to Be Loved* by Preston Sprinkle
The Center for Faith, Sexuality & Gender
Theology in the Raw (Preston's Podcast)
Talking to Your Kids About Sex (webinar series)
The Importance of Sexual Discipleship (Juli's blog)
SexualDiscipleship.com

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#346: How to Cope When Your Spouse Struggles With Depression Jan 25, 2021

When you’re married, depression is a shared experience. There is no way to escape the impact of sharing a home with someone who is overcome with deep sadness and struggling to get well. In this episode, Juli and her guest help you understand that depression is not just your spouse's issue—it’s YOUR issue, together. Your spouse’s struggle will reveal areas that God wants to heal in you, too. Are you willing to let Him? Grab your Java and join us.

Guest: Victoria Gutbrod, MA, LPCC-S

Show notes:

Find a local Christian counselor or go to MyCounselor.Online
How to Choose a Wise Counselor (blog)
Why Does Sex Matter in Marriage? Pt 2 (blog)
Are You Entitled to (Good) Sex in Marriage? (blog)
The Emotionally Destructive Marriage by Leslie Vernick

#345: What You Need to Know About Progressive Christianity Jan 18, 2021

Compassionate. Inclusive. Nonjudgmental. Who wouldn’t want to be part of a church like this? It’s why Progressive churches are so appealing—especially to young people looking for something different from the church they grew up in. Today Juli sits down with Alisa Childers, apologist and author of Another Gospel?, to hear her story of doubt, deconstruction, and rediscovering the Truth—and to learn why Progressive Christianity is so dangerous to the Christian faith. You don't want to miss this episode!

Guest: Alisa Childers

Show Notes:

Another Gospel?
The Alisa Childers Podcast
Have You Forgotten Who God Is? (blog)
Compassion that Doesn't Compromise (blog)

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#344: Standing Strong: Tackling Fear, Self-Doubt & Insecurity Jan 11, 2021

Alli Worthington says the popular message that “you are enough” is leaving women feeling overwhelmed and burnt out. As a business coach to future writers, speakers and podcasters following their God-given dreams—she would know. While this little phrase sounds good—and even makes us feel good—it’s pointing us in the wrong direction. Join Juli and Alli to hear how the secret to strength, grace, and stepping into the dream God has planted in your heart is obedience and dependence on Him.

Guest: Alli Worthington

Show Notes:

Standing Strong*
Called Creatives.com
Are You Leaning In or Leaning Up? (Juli's blog)
I Don't Trust Myself (Juli's Blog)
Subscribe at javawithjuli.com

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#343: Forgiving What You Can't Forget Jan 04, 2021

Lysa TerKeurst tells Juli about the brokenness and restoration of her marriage and how forgiveness is both a decision and a process. She speaks candidly about what biblical forgiveness really is, and how it can set you free from the suffering caused by another person's unwillingness to say, "I'm sorry." Grab your Java and join us!

Guest: Lysa TerKeurst

Show notes:

Forgiving What You Can't Forget* (Lysa's book)
God's Healing Stinks (Juli's blog)
How do I set boundaries with a spouse after infidelity? (video)
After emotional abuse in marriage, can sexual intimacy play a role in our healing as a couple? (video)
Join an online book study at authenticintimacy.com/online-book-studies

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#147: How to Find Fulfillment at the Feet of Jesus Dec 28, 2020

Does 2020 have you feeling exhausted? Dissatisfied? Here’s a crazy thought: Put down your to-do list. What if you start the first 30 days of 2021 by surrendering your to-do list to Jesus and listening for His voice? You can turn to devotionals, blogs, and even great podcasts like Java with Juli—but only the presence of God can bring the fulfillment you crave. What does it feel like to hunger and thirst for Him? Join Juli, Linda, and Hannah as Linda shares how God taught her to find fulfillment by sitting at His feet. We challenge YOU to try it for 30 days and see what God will do!

Guests: Linda Dillow & Hannah Nitz

Show Notes:

Join the Online Book Study at authenticintimacy.com/online-book-studies
Satisfy My Thirsty Soul* by Linda Dillow
5 Secrets to Intimacy with God (Juli's blog)
Java Pack: Learning to Trust

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#342: The Good Gift of Courage (And Why You Need It) Dec 21, 2020

We talk often on Java with Juli about our culture’s confusing messages around sexuality. But today’s guest, Russell Moore, contends that we’re not so much confused about what is true or right as we are fearful; fearful of standing alone, fearful of swimming against the tide of culture. In this episode, hear how the gift of courage is not about bravado, performance, or getting on one's soapbox. Instead, courage is born in the unseen moments when we are utterly dependent on God—moments where He shapes us for His glory and also for the benefit of generations to come.

Guest: Russell Moore

Show Notes:

The Courage to Stand* (book)
Onward* (book)
www.russellmoore.com
Make a donation at authenticintimacy.com/give
Give the Gift of Membership at authenticintimacy.com/GIFT

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#341: When Staying Married Feels Impossible Dec 14, 2020

Circumstances in Laurie’s life started triggering her memories of childhood sexual abuse. Her lifelong struggle with same-sex attraction flared. Alone on a silent retreat, she recommitted herself to God and to her husband Matt. But she wasn’t sure she would ever be able to be sexually intimate with him again. Matt wanted a marriage with the comforts of sexual intimacy and to be pursued physically by his wife, yet he knew forcing Laurie to do either would not only be ineffective, but unchristlike as well. This marriage felt impossible.

Does your marriage feel impossible, too? Find hope here.

Guests: Matt and Laurie Krieg

Show Notes:

www.lauriekrieg.com
Impossible Marriage*
The Hole in My Heart Podcast at lauriekrieg.com/podcast
Your Sexual Difference Can Make You Better Lovers
When You're Attracted to Someone Who's Not Your Spouse
Java with Juli #319: Is Good Sex a "Right" In Marriage?
Donate at authenticintimacy.com/give
Give the Gift of Membership at www.authenticintimacy.com/GIFT

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#340: We Were Wrong About Modesty Dec 07, 2020

The word “modesty” makes us cringe these days, and it’s easy to understand why: For years it’s been associated with a prudish culture of shame and blame. We hear the word and immediately think it’s an issue about women and skirt length, but Bible passages that speak to modesty focus on something else: The heart. (So… we think that makes it an issue for you, too, fellas.) Join Juli and Dannah Gresh for a conversation about how we’ve misapplied the meaning of modesty and how we can do better in the future.

Guest: Dannah Gresh, Pure Freedom Ministries

Mentioned:

DannahGresh.com
MyTrueGirl.com
Make a Year-End Donation at authenticintimacy.com/give
Give the Gift of an AI Membership at authenticintimacy.com/GIFT

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#339: How to Have Hard Conversations with (Facebook) Friends Nov 30, 2020

If you were standing in front of a crowd of 300 to speak, how carefully would you craft your words? Okay, so you’re actually at home alone with your smartphone, but on social media, you may as well be in front of a stadium full of people! Today Juli and her guest, Daniel Darling, talk about using our online conversations to do good, learning to “see” the person (loved by God) behind every post, and discerning when to post and when not to. Grab your Java and join us!

Guest: Daniel Darling

Mentioned:

Give a Gift of AI Membership at authenticintimacy.com/GIFT
A Way With Words* (Dan's book)
The Way Home Podcast with Daniel Darling
How to Have Tough Conversations (blog by Juli)

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#338: Single & Sexual Nov 23, 2020

As a single person, your sexuality isn’t defined by a list of “do's and don’ts” or captured by simplistic questions like, “What does the Bible say about masturbation?” Your sexuality—single or married—is ultimately more about relational intimacy than what you do with your body. So how DO you express healthy sexuality in your friendships and dating relationships? We’re glad you asked. Join Juli and Dr. Doug Rosenau for part two of this conversation about the questions you’re too embarrassed to ask about sex.

Guest: Dr. Doug Rosenau

Mentioned:

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#337: Questions You're Too Embarrassed to Ask About Sex Nov 16, 2020

Dr. Doug Rosenau, a pioneer in Christian sex therapy, has been answering questions about sex for decades—long before most of us had the courage to even ask them! Juli sits down with Dr. Rosenau for a candid conversation about the difference between having sex and making love, making erotic memories with your spouse, giving language to your sexual desire and mood, and putting the creativity back into your lovemaking.

Guest: Dr. Doug Rosenau

Show notes:

Join our series How to Talk to Your Kids About Sex at authenticintimacy.com/event
A Celebration of Sex* (Dr. Doug's book)
A Celebration of Sex After 50*
Total Intimacy* (Dr. Doug's book)
Passion Pursuit, a Bible study from Dr. Juli Slattery and Linda Dillow

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#336: Disappointed With God? Tell Him Nov 09, 2020

Are you discouraged by what is happening in our world today? Have you recently found yourself asking, “Lord, why have you allowed this?” If so, this episode is just for you. Juli sits down with Dannah Gresh to talk about why it’s okay to be disappointed with the way God is doing things. Grab your Java and listen in for helpful advice that will help you bring your hard questions to Him and—here’s the hard part—to LISTEN for His answer.

Guest: Dannah Gresh

Show notes:

Join our webinar series, How To Talk To Your Kids About Sex, at authenticintimacy.com/event
Habakkuk; Remembering God's Faithfulness When He Seems Silent*
Subscribe to Java with Juli!

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#335: Teaching Our Kids a Biblical Worldview of Sexuality Nov 02, 2020

We used to say, "If you don’t talk to your kids about sex, someone else will." These days, there is no more “if” about it! Whether it’s a movie, social media, or a friend at school, you can count on something or someone else talking to your kids about sex. How can you join the conversation? In this episode, Juli sits down with Sean McDowell to talk about helping your kids develop their worldview on sexuality—both in the opportunities you create and in the opportunities born out of everyday life and parenting.

Guest: Dr. Sean McDowell

Webinar series How To Talk To Your Kids About Sex at authenticintimacy.com/event

#334: What Your Pastor Needs to Know About Porn Oct 26, 2020

Some of the worst advice you’ve received about porn may have come from ... your pastor? Yikes! Most pastors—understandably—aren't trained in sexual addiction or the impact of sexual trauma in marriage, and some of the popular Christian advice espoused in this area has done more harm than good. In this episode, Juli sits down with Mark & Rosie Makinney to debunk misconceptions about pornography and offer hope, encouragement, and practical tools for healing. Mark and Rosie have overcome porn addiction in their own marriage; since then, Rosie founded Fight for Love Ministries and Mark has become a certified sexual addiction therapist. This conversation is for pastors, husbands, wives, and anyone who has walked beside a loved one through porn addiction in marriage.

Guests: Mark Makinney, CSAT and Rosie Makinney

Mentioned:

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#140: The Story of A Rape Survivor Oct 19, 2020

One of Hettie’s greatest fears was that she would be raped. In her home country of South Africa, it is estimated that over 30% of women will be raped in their lifetime. So when she was awakened one night by her husband, with hands tied behind his back and escorted by four strange men, she thought she was about to become a statistic. In this episode, Hettie Brittz sits down with Juli to share her story. Grab your coffee and settle in for one of the most amazing accounts of God’s power and presence that you will ever hear.

Guest: Hettie Brittz

Mentioned:

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#333: Is God Good ...Even if You're LGBT? Oct 12, 2020

“We are being shaped by a culture that idolizes romantic and sexual fulfillment. And I just think—Jesus was fully human and he didn’t get married, have sex, or date anyone. So those things can’t be intrinsic to being human.” Sam Allberry joins Juli for a conversation about knowing the goodness of God even when it doesn’t feel good and how that has played out in his life as a celibate Christian and pastor. No matter what you're facing in your life right now, if you have doubts about whether or not God is good, grab your Java and pull up a chair. We’d love for you to join us.

Guest: Sam Allberry

Mentioned:

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#332: Parenting Your Kids Without Shame Oct 05, 2020

In parenting, shame is unavoidable. As a mom or dad, at times you'll likely feel ashamed of how you’re doing as a parent or of how your child is behaving … or both! But when you use that shame to control your kids' behavior, you miss out on the opportunity to connect with them. Join Juli and David Eaton from Axis as they talk about how to offer your kids a you-can-tell-me-anything environment in your home—and live up to it!

Guest: David Eaton, Axis*

Parent's Guide to Shame-Free Parenting (Axis Resource)*
Parenting Through Weakness (blog from Juli)
Take the Parenting Pivot Challenge, sponsored by Axis
Join the Calm My Anxious Heart online book study

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#331: Say Goodbye to Labels Sep 28, 2020

Life is tends to put labels on us. We even pin labels on ourselves. More often than not, these labels are hurtful, superficial, and false. But God has a new name He longs for you to hear - a name that is free from shame and brings hope for your future. Join Juli and her guest, Esther Fleece Allen, for an encouraging conversation about our identity. In His Word, God has told us exactly who we are. It’s time to believe.

Guest: Esther Fleece Allen

Mentioned:

Your New Name (book)
No More Faking Fine (book)
Subscribe to Java with Juli!

#330: Loving the Person Who Isn't Like You Sep 21, 2020

It’s easy to love the neighbor who looks like us, thinks like us, and believes like us. With those who don't fall into those categories, we struggle. In this episode, Juli and her guest, Alexandra Kuykendall from The Open Door Sisterhood, give you practical steps to get out of your comfort zone and have conversations with people you might not naturally have conversations with. Want to do a better job of loving your neighbor? Start here.

Guest: Alexandra Kuykendall

#329: Addressing Tough Questions About Identity and Sexuality Sep 14, 2020

Theology meets real life in this episode of Java with Juli! We’re asking the difficult questions about identity and sexuality: Why does language (e.g. “gay” versus “same-sex attracted”) matter? Can two people of the same gender share covenant love? Are some people born gay? As you do life with friends in the LGBT+ community, HOW you answer these questions is important, but maybe not so important as HOW WELL you listen.

Guests: Laurence Koo, Lori Wildenberg, and Sarah Schepins (Axis.org)

Mentioned:

Join us at Reclaim 2.0!
Learn more about Axis*
Check out Lori's book, Messy Journey*

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#117: How Your Sex Life is Connected to Your Spiritual Life Sep 07, 2020

An early theologian once wrote, “We know that when a couple has sexual intercourse, the Holy Spirit leaves the room.” If you were raised in the church, you might agree—and not be so sure you'd even want Him there! After all, is there any time you’re feeling less "spiritual" than when you’re having sex? But in fact, the Bible suggests just the opposite is true. Join Juli, Linda, and Hannah on this episode of Java with Juli as they talk about why sex in marriage is not only beautiful, it’s holy.

Guests: Linda Dillow & Hannah Nitz

For follow-up:

#328: Answers to Your Questions About Pornography Aug 31, 2020

"Will I cause a set-back in my husband’s recovery if I say no to sex?" "My daughter talks to me about her porn addiction, but she’s mortified at the thought of telling her dad, is that okay?" "My husband confessed to looking at women on Instagram. It wasn’t exactly a porn relapse—so why am I so angry about it?" This week, our guest is Jonathan Daugherty, author of Grace Based Recovery and founder of Be Broken Ministries. He sits down with Juli to offer hope, encouragement, and answers to oft-asked questions we get from listeners about pornography. Whether you’re an addict, a spouse, or a friend walking this journey with a loved one, you’ll want to tune in to this Java with Juli.

Guest: Jonathan Daugherty

Notes:

Reclaim 2.0
Grace Based Recovery*
Join a Grace Based Recovery online book study!
Covenant Eyes Screen Accountability*

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#327: When Your Spouse Feels More Like a Roommate Aug 24, 2020

Every couple experiences times of disconnection, but when your spouse begins to feel more like a roommate than a lover, it’s easy to want to go looking for intimacy in other places. But what would it look to like to ditch the idea that there is something better outside your marriage and ask, instead, how you can keep your heart open to your spouse? Join Juli and her guests, Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley, for a candid conversation about tending to your heart during the busy, difficult, or painful seasons of life and marriage.

Guests: Dr. Greg & Erin Smalley

Reconnected; Moving from Roommates to Soulmates in Marriage by Greg & Erin Smalley
Join us for Reclaim 2.0
Sex Is the Icing on the Cake (blog)
Date Nights In! (A 4-week video series for married couples.)

#326: Gen Z and Gender Identity Aug 17, 2020

Few ideas have changed more rapidly than the way our culture perceives gender. The idea that you can choose your gender (some cite more than 50 options) can feel downright crazy-making for the average Christian parent—but being dismissive of Gen Z’s refusal to be put in a male or female box isn’t going to help YOUR child navigate all those choices. How do you respond when your child is struggling with gender identity? In this episode, Juli is joined by friends from Axis.org to help you understand how Gen Z perceives gender, and how to walk alongside a young person you love who is struggling.

Guests: David Eaton & Evan Barber from AXIS*

Show Notes:

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#325: When Sex Hurts, Pelvic Floor Therapy Can Help Aug 13, 2020

Past trauma, childbirth, a physical fall—just a few of the MANY reasons you might experience painful sex or sexual dysfunction. Sadly, the story for most women is that when they finally get the courage to bring this up with their GYN, they’re told, “Everything looks normal. Just try to relax.” When left untreated, sexual dysfunction brings shame, frustration and sadness and can drive a wedge between husbands and wives. Could a pelvic physical therapist help? Listen in to find out!

Guest: Amy Robinson, PT, DPT, PRPC, CLT, WHNC

Find a Pelvic Physical Therapist near you
Enjoy! The Gift of Sexual Pleasure for Women* by Cliff & Joyce Penner
The Married Guy's Guide to Great Sex* by Cliff & Joyce Penner
Restoring the Pleasure* by Cliff & Joyce Penner
Have a question or a topic you'd like addressed on Java with Juli? Send us a note at podcast@authenticintimacy.com

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#324: Sex Therapy: What Is It, and Why Should You Go? Aug 10, 2020

Online Christian sex therapy—yes, you read that right. Did you know that there are therapists trained specifically to address issues like low libido, mismatched sex drives, intimacy after trauma, and painful sex? And that these challenges can be addressed from the comfort of your home, no physical contact required? Join Juli and her guest, certified Christian sex therapist Josh Spurlock, for encouragement and practical insight into how a sex therapist might help you.

Guest: Josh Spurlock, MA, LPC, CST

#323: Bye, Awkward Side Hugs! Getting Over Our Fear of Opposite-Sex Friendships Aug 03, 2020

Was Jesus a bit aloof with Martha and Mary because He didn’t want them to think there was, you know, “chemistry”? Did He give Mary Magdalene side hugs? We don’t actually know the answers to these questions, of course, but if we look at the way Jesus had intimate interactions with both men and women in the Gospels, we think not. In our churches, however, we’ve become so uncomfortable with our bodies, with sexuality, and with male/female relationships, it’s almost like we don’t know how to be friends with the opposite sex at all—especially if you’re married! In this episode, Juli talks with author Bronwyn Lea about getting over our fear and awkwardness and teaching men and women how to build intimate, non-romantic, and life-giving relationships.

Guest: Bronwyn Lea

Show notes:

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#70: Stepping up as a Stepmom Jul 27, 2020

Being a stepmom is one of the hardest roles a woman can take on. Because, let's be honest: you fell in love with your husband, you didn't really fall in love with his kids--at least not right away. In this candid and lively conversation with two stepmothers, we dig deep into the heart of boundaries, relationships, and love with someone else's children in your life.

Guests: Kathi Lipp and Sarah Kallberg

Show notes:

#322: The Secret Superpower of Kindness Jul 20, 2020

Think about your toughest relationship: The husband you’re finding it hard to respect. The wife who only ever seems to offer you the cold shoulder. Or the coworker or in-law who makes you crazy. What if you had the power to change things? In this episode, Juli asks author and researcher Shaunti Feldhahn to share the most fascinating thing she learned while surveying thousands of men and women, and how she discovered how kindness is a “superpower” that can change the dynamics of ANY relationship. Grab your java and join us!

Guest: Shaunti Feldhahn

Mentioned:

#321: Taking Your Marriage Back From Porn Jul 13, 2020

One of the most painful experiences as a wife is learning of your husband’s porn addiction—or learning that he’s turning to porn again (and again). Author (and wife of a now-sober porn addict) Rosie Makinney is passionate about equipping wives with the appropriate steps to fight for their marriages, help their husbands, and find support for their own healing as well. Where do you draw boundaries? How do you know if he’s in a healthy support group? Is it okay to take time off from sex? We address all of those questions and more in this episode of Java with Juli. Grab your java and join us!

Guest: Rosie Makinney

Follow-up Resources:

Fight For Love and www.fightforloveministries.org
A Christian Mom, Her Sexual Addiction, and Forgiveness (blog)
Java with Juli #211: Understanding Pornography Addiction
Webinar, Pornography, Help for Parents & Spouses
Q&A with Juli: Is Homemade Porn Okay in Marriage?
www.sexualdiscipleship.com
Covenant Eyes Accountability Software

#320: BONUS! Looking for the Spark in Your Marriage? Jul 09, 2020

Thanks to COVID-19, you and your spouse have likely spent a lot of time together the last five months—but that doesn't necessarily mean your marriage isn't on rocky ground. Are you and your spouse in need of some TLC (or time away from the kids)? Or have things have gotten so difficult that reconnecting feels hopeless? In this bonus episode, Juli and her guest, Matt Turvey from Winshape Marriage, talk about the difference between marriage retreats and “marriage intensives" and how each can make healthy marriages stronger or rescue a marriage in crisis. Grab your java and join us!

Guest: Matt Turvey

Mentioned:

Join Juli at Winshape for the God, Sex & Your Marriage retreat.
Date Nights In
Java Pack: Taking Back the Bedroom

#319: Is Good Sex a "Right" in Marriage? Jul 06, 2020

Juli and Hannah sit down for a candid conversation about whether or not it's possible to have a good, Christian marriage and not be having sex. Their conclusion might surprise you. Grab your java and join us!

Guest: Hannah Nitz

Follow-up Resources:

#318: Why Are We Afraid to Touch? Jun 29, 2020

Let’s face it: As Christians, we’re kind of afraid to touch. Touch feels unsafe and sexual --even worldly-- and we can be led to believe that the more boundaries we put in place, the "better off" we'll all be. Except, well … Jesus touched. And He allowed others to touch Him: A prostitute washed His feet and dried it with her hair. He used His hands to rub mud on blind eyes. He invited Thomas to place his fingers in the nail holes in His palms. Is it time to re-think the way we view touch?

Guest: Lore Ferguson Wilbert

Lore's blog, Sayable
Strong & Weak by Andy Crouch
Why Can't We Be Friends? by Aimee Byrd

#317: Bonus! Listen, Learn, and Give Grace (A Conversation About Race) Jun 24, 2020

Are you grieved by the pain and brokenness you see in your news feed each day? We are too. God’s Word tells us that when one part of the Body is hurting, the entire body hurts with it. How can we listen to, learn from, and lift up our black friends and neighbors? Join Juli and her friend Hasandra Heyward for a conversation that sets an example for how you can have conversations that heal.

Guest: Hasandra Heyward

Mentioned:

Check out Hasandra's Fall 2020 Online Studies
How to Have Tough Conversations from Juli's blog
Longing for Hope When Leaders Fail from Juli's blog
Java with Juli #254: Sex, Race & Healing: How We're the Same and Different (exclusive content)
Insider Outsider by Bryan Loritts
Listen to Dr. John Perkins on "Equipped with Chris Brooks"

#316: Sorry Mom & Dad, the "Sex Talk" Doesn't Work Jun 22, 2020

The one-and-done "sex talk" doesn't work, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't talk to your kids about sex. When it comes to sexuality, your kids are growing up in a completely different world than you did. You probably won't find much success in just telling them what to think about sexuality; you're going to have to show them HOW to think about it. Sound hard? It is. Need help and encouragement? Grab your java and join us!

Guest: Hannah Nitz

Mentioned:

SexualDiscipleschip.com
Rethinking Sexuality (book)

#315: Jamie Ivey Wants to Know the Real You Jun 15, 2020

There are things we feel are acceptable to struggle with, and then there are those things we would never say out loud –especially around other Christians. In this episode, Juli sits down with Jamie Ivey, host of The Happy Hour with Jamie Ivey, for a conversation about authenticity, confession and knowing exactly who you are in Jesus.

Guest: Jamie Ivey

Mentioned:

If You Only Knew; My Unlikely, Unavoidable Story of Becoming Free
The Happy Hour with Jamie Ivey
SUMMER BIBLE STUDIES ARE HERE!
Were you encouraged by what Jamie shared from Romans? Then you'll enjoy this blog from Juli!

#314: You, Your Brain, and Your Family Can Heal From Porn Jun 08, 2020

How I get rid of the images that keep popping up in my mind? How can I rebuild trust with my husband when access to porn (his smartphone) is always in his hands? How do I begin having conversations with my kids? Juli and her guests answer these questions and more in this panel discussion on pornography from our 2019 Reclaim Conference. Grab your java and join us!

Guests: Jonathan Daugherty, Dawn Jones, Brennan McCarthy, Courtney Maloney

Mentioned:

#313: The Greatest Love Story Jun 01, 2020

From beginning to end the Bible tells a story about marriage. Woven through chapter and verse is a story of covenant love between Jesus (the bridegroom) and the Church (his bride). And it is so important to your Father that you understand this story, that he etched it right into your body (your sexuality). Join Juli and her guest Christopher West for a conversation about how our bodies proclaim the love and redemption of Jesus.

Guest: Christopher West

Mentioned:

#312: Born (Again) This Way: Rachel's Story May 25, 2020

This may sound like a conversation about being a gay Christian, and it is. But more importantly, it's a conversation about wrestling with the question: Can I trust God? I know what he says, but do I believe that what he says is best for me? In this episode, Juli's guest Rachel Gilson shares her story and how she came to answer that question. And whether you're married, single, gay or straight, you'll have to answer it too.

Guest: Rachel Gilson

Mentioned:

#311: Where Is God When We Suffer? May 18, 2020

Sometimes life gets so hard, we doubt that Jesus is still with us. Did he abandon us? Was our faith even real in the first place? Juli's guest today is Michele Cushatt, a woman who has endured the kind of physical pain that most of us will never know. And it took her to the depths of doubt and despair. If you're feeling beat-up by the world and disappointed in God, this conversation is for you.

Guest: Michele Cushatt

Mentioned:

Relentless (book)
Java Pack: Learning to Trust

#310: Is God Sexist? May 11, 2020

Juli sits down with Dr. Jo Vitale, an apologist with a specialty in sexism and the Bible, to make sense of the way women were treated in the OT and shed light on God's goodness in a fallen world.

Guest: Dr. Jo Vitale

Mentioned:

#309: Getting Rid of the Mommy Guilt May 04, 2020

The goal of motherhood is not to raise a perfect child. The goal isn't even to raise a Jesus-loving child. (Yep, you read that right.) Join Juli and her guests for a special conversation for moms of all ages and stages about the only way to become the moms we want to be.

Mentioned:

Give the Gift of Membership!
Check out Hannah's new podcast,There's More
Check out The Brian & Jannelle podcast
Subscribe to Java with Juli!

#222: What's Your Money Personality? Apr 27, 2020

The two biggest areas of conflict in marriage are sex and money. We talk a lot about sex on Java with Juli, but today we're talking about money! (Thanks, Covid-19.) Join Juli and her guests as they share how understanding your spouse's natural tendencies toward spending and saving can help you communicate better (and fight less) about money.

Guests: Scott & Bethany Palmer

Mentioned:

#308: Maintaining Your Smartphone Sanity Apr 20, 2020

Who wants to pay $100 a month to have door-slamming, ruin-the-family-dinner arguments with your teen like clockwork? No one. But many of us do—it’s called paying for a smartphone. Desperate to know how to build trust with your kids, protect them, AND restore peace to your home? Grab your Java and join us!

Guest: David Eaton

Mentioned:

Smartphone Sanity (book)
www.axis.org
Join an AI Online Bible Study
Subscribe to Java with Juli!
Get your FREE Java Pack: Learning to Trust

#307: On the Brink of Divorce Apr 13, 2020

Susan Cox sat in church, a hotel room key in her purse, and an ongoing affair pushing her to leave her marriage for good. She was exhausted from hiding texts and emails, and covering lies with more lies. The thought of turning back now felt hopeless. Do you need HOPE for your marriage today? Grab your Java and join us.

Guest: Susan Cox

Mentioned:

Register for When Marriage Gets Messy (webinar)
Grab your FREE Java Pack; Learning to Trust
Subscribe to Java with Juli

#211: Bonus! Understanding Pornography Addiction Apr 09, 2020

The uncertainty and isolation of COVID-19 has created a perfect storm for those who struggle with using porn to find relief from stressful situations. In this episode, Jonathan Daugherty sits down with Juli to help us understand what's happening in the heart and mind of the person who is struggling with sexual addiction. Grab your java and join us for a conversation that will help you be more patient with the person in your life who is trapped in sexual sin -even if that person is you.

Guest: Jonathan Daugherty

Mentioned:

#306: When You Can't Wait Another Day Apr 06, 2020

What do you do when you find yourself in a situation you don't like, didn't sign up for, and can't wait to be done with? (Social distancing, anyone?) Our friend Tricia Lott Williford is back and she's got a new book out about waiting. "Everyone takes their turn in the waiting room. It's a long and painful fact of life, but shortcuts and microwaves aren't the answer. God is at work behind the scenes in invisible ways you can't see...yet." Join us!

Guests: Tricia Lott Williford & Hannah Nitz

Mentioned:

Just.You.Wait. (book)
There's More (Hannah's new podcast!)
Check our FREE Java Pack: Learning to Trust
Subscribe to Java with Juli!

#40: Bonus! What Do You Fear? Apr 03, 2020

The COVID-19 pandemic is pushing all of our anxiety buttons; loss of loved ones, financial loss, being stuck inside with people who are getting on your nerves or--perhaps more difficult--alone. How do you walk by faith in the darkness of uncertainty? What do you do with the worry that keeps you up at night? In this episode, Juli and her guests tackle these questions with encouragement and practical wisdom. Grab your java and join us!

Guests: Angie Smith & Linda Dillow

Mentioned:

Java Pack: Learning to Trust
What Women Fear by Angie Smith
Calm My Anxious Heart by Linda Dillow
Subscribe to Java with Juli

#305: Becoming the Right Kind of Strong Mar 30, 2020

The famous Proverbs 31 woman was "clothed with strength and dignity." She was strong! But perhaps not by our culture's standard. She possessed a feminine strength that didn't outwit, out-muscle, or tear down her relationships with others. In this episode, we'll discuss how the women-can-do-anything-men-can-do message diminishes some of the integral and beautiful parts of our femininity.

Guest: Mary Kassian

Mentioned:

The Right Kind of Strong (book)
Subscribe to Java with Juli!

#304: Stop Caring What Others Think Mar 23, 2020

Are you constantly preoccupied with what others think about you? With how you look, how much money you make, or how many Instagram followers you have? There’s an unpopular explanation for that: idolatry. Thankfully, Jesus offers us freedom from the stronghold of constant comparison. Grab your java and join us!

Guest: Heather Creekmore

Mentioned:

#302: Does Gender Matter? Mar 09, 2020

Our culture is throwing off the limitations of two biological genders and embracing the idea that we can define for ourselves who we want to be (and what gender, if any). And why not? Is there a reason God created us male and female? Join Juli and her guests for a lively (and controversial) conversation about what it means to be feminine or masculine and why gender matters.

Guests: Sarah O'Connor & Glenn Stanton

Mentioned:

Sarah's blog
Glenn's blog
#280: When Submission Becomes Controlling
#163: Women & the Tough Bible Verses
Subscribe to Java with Juli

#301: Staying Connected With the Next Generation Mar 02, 2020

When you hear "generational gap," do you think: about your mother, who can't understand your parenting choices? How you'll ever clear this technology hurdle and connect with your grandkids? Or, maybe you're wondering why your adult children get irritated when you offer advice? In this episode, Juli, Linda and Yvette share thoughts for parents, children and grandparents who want to improve their relationships with the generations before and after them.

Guests: Linda Dillow & Yvette Maher

Mentioned:

My Hair and God's Mercies...New Every Morning, by Yvette Maher
Satisfy My Thirsty Soul, by Linda Dillow
Subscribe to Java with Juli!

#22: Intimacy, Sex & Aging Feb 24, 2020

Intimacy with your spouse is important is all phases of life--even when you're celebrating your 50th wedding anniversary! Many aspects of our relationships change as we get older, but don't assume you have to stop having sex or physical intimacy together. In this episode, Dr. Gary Chapman and Linda Dillow join Juli to discuss how the dynamics of sexual intimacy change as we age.

Guests: Linda Dillow & Gary Chapman

Mentioned:

Passion Pursuit (Bible study)
Intimacy Ignited (book)
The 5 Love Languages (book)
Subscribe to Java with Juli!

#300: Christians Struggle with Sexual Addiction Too Feb 17, 2020

Did you know that 68% of Christian men struggle with unwanted sexual behavior? That 25% of Christian women use sex to hide a deeper issue that they’re struggling with? We tend to believe that, if we really love Jesus, we won’t struggle with sex. Juli’s guest today, Nick Stumbo, struggled with pornography while serving as a pastor. Join them for a conversation about overcoming addiction, the flawed thinking that good Christians don’t fall into sexual sin, and why sexual discipleship® is so important!

Guest: Nick Stumbo

Mentioned:

#299: Making Marriage Fun! (Even When It's Hard) Feb 10, 2020

Marriage can be hard, but it doesn’t have to stop being fun! Arguments, grief, or even just the busyness of life can make you forget that, at one time, you really enjoyed being with your spouse. Join us for a conversation about how we sometimes make marriage harder than it has to be, how to connect with a spouse who struggles to talk about your marriage, and how churches can make marriage ministry, well, a little less feminine.

Guest: Ted Lowe

Mentioned:

Married People
Your Best Us (book)
Subscribe to Java with Juli

#298: Sexual Identity is Big; Identity As God's Child is Bigger Feb 06, 2020

In this episode, Juli continues her conversation with Laurence Koo. Join them as they discuss the tension created when so much of our identity gets wrapped up in our sexuality. They'll talk about how to walk with others in this tension, how to love and engage with your child who is same-sex attracted, and how the life of a single Christian following Jesus is rich in intimacy, relationships, and service.

Guest: Laurence Koo

Mentioned:

#297: Finding Freedom in the Midst of Brokenness
This month's webinar, "Pornography: Help for Spouses & Parents," is open to EVERYONE!
Subscribe to Java with Juli in Apple Podcasts

#297: Finding Freedom in the Midst of Brokenness Feb 03, 2020

Many gay Christians feel they must either deny their sexual feelings in order to be accepted by God or embrace the idea that God accepts them--just as they are. For most, neither of these options bring complete freedom or satisfaction. Is there a better way? In this episode, Juli's guest Laurence Koo shares how he wrestled with God over his unwanted same-sex attraction, and how he found freedom to follow Jesus completely --fully accepted and loved, same-sex desires and all. Grab your java and join us!

Guest: Laurence Koo

Mentioned:

This month's webinar, "Pornography: Help for Spouses & Parents," is open to EVERYONE!
Subscribe to Java with Juli in Apple Podcasts

#296: An Insider's Story of Human Trafficking Jan 27, 2020

Have you ever wondered why U.S. trafficking victims don’t just run? Do you feel compassion for child victims, but not so much for adult women? (Ouch.) Juli’s guest today is a trafficking survivor who now helps groups such as the FBI, Homeland Security, medical professionals and prosecutors better understand the underground world of human trafficking. Join us to learn why “running” isn’t always as simple as it seems.

Guest: Rebecca Bender

Mentioned:

In Pursuit of Love (book)
Subscribe to Java with Juli

#295: We All "Deconstruct," It's Reconstructing That Matters Jan 20, 2020

Questions about sexuality, sexual abuse, and gender have sent a new wave of “deconstructing” throughout the Christian community—people turning from their faith because God hasn’t turned out to be who they thought He was. When a loved one struggles, we tend to get nervous and try to talk them out of their doubts or choices. Join us for a conversation about why it's okay—and even good—for us to wrestle with our faith and ask God hard questions.

Guests: Hannah Nitz & Tricia Lott Williford

Mentioned:

Ep #173: Lessons I Learned from Grief (with Tricia)
Josh Harris, Sexuality, and "Deconstructing" Christianity (blog)
Subscribe to Java with Juli

#294: When You Want Sex, But Your Spouse Doesn't Jan 13, 2020

In every marriage, there is typically one partner with a higher sexual drive. And that person is usually trying to convince the other to have more sex! In this episode, Juli and her guest talk about how to move beyond "I have a need, and you have an obligation" to something much more intimate.

Guest: Dr. Corey Allan

Mentioned:

Join our January webinar. Not a member? Learn more here.
Sexy Marriage Radio
Subscribe to Java with Juli!

#293: Secrets of a Lasting Relationship Jan 06, 2020

Dating has changed. A LOT. In the last decade, cohabitation, sex, and sexual experimentation have been touted as the best ways to get to know someone (or yourself). Couples who try to marry these ideas with their Christian faith often end up hurt and confused. Join Juli and author Scott Kedersha for a conversation that will help couples --dating, engaged, and newlywed-- navigate faulty messages about love, and take the next step toward an intimate and fulfilling marriage.

Guest: Scott Kedersha

Mentioned:

Ready or KNOT?
Passion Pursuit
Subscribe to Java with Juli!

#101: Following God's Dream for Your Life Dec 30, 2019

We all dream of things we want to make happen in our lives. But what if we told you that you had to surrender it all; that you have to lay down your desires for you and your loved ones in order to get what’s really best for you (and them)? This conversation is for the woman who wants God’s best, but finds it really hard to let go of the dreams she holds dear. (Isn't that all of us?)

Guests: Erin Smalley & Tricia Goyer

Mentioned:

- Make a Year-End Gift Today!
- Give the Gift of Membership

#292: Your Favorite Episodes of 2019 Dec 23, 2019

We're raising our mugs to your favorite episodes of 2019! You'll hear clips from Jonathan Daughtery with advice for wives married to men with a lower sex drive; Dr. Jennifer Degler will talk about the complexity of female sexuality; and Susie Larson describes how trauma affects us physically as well as emotionally. Grab your java and join us for a taste of our most popular episodes this year.

Guests: Jonathan Daughtery, Dr. Jennifer Degler, Susie Larson and Hannah Nitz

Mentioned:

#291: Will You Trade Your Comfort Food for The Comforter? Dec 16, 2019

Are you a sugar addict? Do you run to the pantry each afternoon to get you through your day? Do you turn to Starbucks for a little stress relief? Today Juli & her guest talk about how fasting from sugar (or whatever it is you run to) hones our hunger for Jesus, the only One who can break strongholds in our lives.

Guest: Wendy Speake

Mentioned:

#290: True Friendship, or merely Friend-ish? Dec 09, 2019

A sweet friendship refreshes the soul –and it’s better to have a friend nearby than a relative far away (Proverbs 27). So it’s no surprise that we feel hurt when our Christian friend lets us down, or confused when our loyalty isn’t returned. In this episode, Juli and her guest talk about how you can discern the difference between true friendship and relationships that are merely friend-ish.

Guest: Kelly Needham

Mentioned:

#289: How to Choose Unity (Even When You Disagree) Dec 02, 2019

Juli and her guests discuss their reactions to John MacArthur's recent comments about women teaching the Bible. Join us for a conversation about how unity among followers of Jesus doesn't mean we all agree, it means we choose to show His love to each other despite our disagreements.

Guests: Hannah Nitz & Jannelle Nevels

Mentioned:

#288: Max Lucado Says #MeToo Nov 25, 2019

Max Lucado has never pretended to be something he’s not. The beloved author and pastor has always been open about his struggles. But last year we heard him say something new: Me too. As a pastor and survivor of sexual abuse, Max has a unique perspective and a compassionate response to the #MeToo and #ChurchToo movements. Grab your latte and join us.

Guest: Max Lucado

#287: Does God Want Me to Have Good Self-Esteem? Nov 18, 2019

How do I convince myself and everyone else that I’m worthy of being loved? That may not be what the question sounds like in our minds, but when we measure our worth based on things like accomplishments, appearance, intelligence, education ―even our work in the church—we are going to come up empty. Join us for a conversation about how we can truly come to understand that there is something more profound than what other people think about us.

Guests: Linda Dillow & Yvette Maher

Mentioned:

Give the Gift of Membership!
Satisfy My Thirsty Soul by Linda Dillow
Beyond the Masquerade by Juli Slattery

#286: How to Make Time to Make Love Nov 12, 2019

Making time to make love is always going to take effort. There will always be an excuse to put it off for another season. Grab your latte and join us at the coffee shop for laughter, encouragement and practical things you can do to make intimacy a priority in your marriage.

Guests: Linda Dillow & Yvette Maher

Mentioned:

#285: Loving Without Compromise Nov 06, 2019

Yes, you can love a gay or lesbian friend without trying to change them. Sadly, many in the LGBT+ community feel shamed by Christians simply for wrestling with their sexuality. Join Juli and Dr. Preston Sprinkle for a conversation that will take you one step closer to seeing (and loving) your same-sex attracted friend or transgender neighbor as Christ does.

Guest: Dr. Preston Sprinkle

Mentioned:

Theology in the Raw (Preston’s podcast)
Guiding Families of LGBT+ Loved Ones (Book)
People to Be Loved (Preston’s book)

#55: When Marriage Won't Get Better Oct 29, 2019

What do you do when your marriage isn’t what you want it to be, but your spouse won't work on it, no matter how many times you ask, beg or plead? Join Juli and her guests as they talk about how you can live joyously and free from shame even when your marriage is not “successful” according to our traditional Christian ideas.

Guests: Dr. Chuck Misja & Dr. Michael Misja

Mentioned:

Thriving Despite a Difficult Marriage
Beyond a Happy Marriage (Juli's blog)
Where Do You Run When Marriage Gets Lonely? (Juli's blog)

#284: Be a Truth Teller Oct 29, 2019

If you're tired of smiling on the outside while you are broken and battered on the inside, Ashley Abercrombie has a message for you -it's okay to tell the truth about yourself and what you've been through. Join Juli as she talks with Ashley about why our stories are valuable and how they are one of the greatest gifts we have to give others.

Guest: Ashley Abercrombie

Mentioned:

#283: I Was the Abuser Oct 29, 2019

Are you, or someone you love, a recovering sex offender? If so, this conversation is for you. In this episode, Juli sits down with John Fort, who has spent over a decade studying sexual addiction and working with men in recovery. He's also a former addict and sex offender. Listen in to hear how deep and radical the love of Jesus is and be challenged to offer that same love to others.

Guest: John Fort

Mentioned:

#282: How Shame Impacts Us Oct 29, 2019

Shame is becoming popular… in a good way. More than ever, both Christian and secular voices are calling out the messages that tell us that we’re not enough. In this episode, Juli and her guest talk about what shame is and how it impacts you and your relationships. Do you fight, flight or freeze when you feel shame? Do you know the key to diffusing shame in others? Plus, Dr. Debi Grebenik and Juli answer YOUR email questions. Join us for bold truth & rich conversation at the coffee shop!

Guest: Dr. Debi Grebenik

Mentioned:

Rethinking Sexuality (book)

#281: Growing Closer Through Conflict Oct 29, 2019

There’s no such thing as instant intimacy. Love at first sight? Perhaps. But intimacy is something else entirely. It takes years to fully know and accept the person you’re married to. In this episode, Juli and her guest dive into why healthy conflict is one of the best ways to build intimacy with your spouse.

Guest: Dr. Ron Welch

Mentioned:

10 Choices Successful Couples Make (book)

#280: When Submission Becomes Controlling Oct 29, 2019

Sarah got married believing that absolute submission to her husband would glorify God; making Him, her and her man happy. Only, she wasn't happy. Neither was her husband, really. In this episode, Juli and her guests talk about what can happen when we misunderstand what the Bible says about our roles as men and women in marriage.

Guests: Sarah O'Connor & Dr. Ron Welch

Mentioned:

#279: Why You Feel Shame When Your Spouse Cheats Oct 29, 2019

A betrayed spouse often feels as much (or more) shame as their partner. In this episode Juli welcomes Dr. Sheri Keffer, therapist and co-host of New Life Live, to share her personal story about the impact of shame on our minds and bodies when we discover we've been betrayed by the person who is supposed to love us most. Join us to hear where to find help, what healthy boundaries look like, and how to begin to rebuild trust and intimacy in your marriage.

Guest: Dr. Sheri Keffer

Mentioned:

#278: Aging with Enthusiasm & Grace Sep 09, 2019

Tomorrow isn't promised to any of us. How can we be grateful, joyful, and love others well whatever season we're in? Today Juli & friends talk about how our perspectives change with age, the benefits of being "the older woman" and how to grieve the losses that come with aging. There's lots of laughter at the coffee shop today as Juli turns 50!

Guests: Linda Dillow & Yvette Maher

Mentioned:

Donate to Authentic Intimacy today!
Become an AI Member

#277: What to Do If Your Child Is Sexually Abused Sep 02, 2019

Child sexual abuse can happen anywhere and predators are typically someone a child already trusts. If your child is abused, what is the first thing you should do? What constitutes abuse? When do you report it? Juli and her guest tackle these tough questions and more in this Java with Juli.

Guest: Dr. Debi Grebenik

Mentioned:

National Children's Advocacy Center
God's Healing Stinks (blog)
Java with Juli #273: Tell Someone You're Broken
Java with Juli #273: Bravery Means Being the Real You
Java with Juli #257: How Trauma Affects our Bodies & Souls
Java with Juli #63: Healing From Childhood Sexual Abuse

#276: Parenthood, Exhaustion & Avoiding Sex Aug 26, 2019

She's a busy and tired mama. He's stressed to the max with work and family. Can't they just put sex and romance on hold for a few years? In this episode, Juli and her guest discuss how to hold on to intimacy when parenting is exhausting, how to bring God into the conversation about when and if to have more kiddos, and what to do when you and your spouse disagree on what the size of your family should be. Grab your java and join us!

Guest: Julie Lyles Carr

Mentioned:

From "All he thinks about is sex!" to "Why doesn't he ever initiate?" this Java with Juli episode has got you covered. Juli sits down with our friend Jonathan Daugherty to help you better understand your man, his design and his sexuality.

Guest: Jonathan Daughtery, Be Broken Ministries

Mentioned in this episode:

Join us at our Reclaim Conference!
Learn more about Passion Pursuit

#275: Finding Freedom from Unwanted Desires Aug 12, 2019

Overwhelmingly, the response to unwanted sexual desires has been to manage them. Bounce your eyes. Get accountability. Love Jesus more. How's it working for you? We believe there is another approach. In this episode, Jay Stringer explains how internet search bars and browser histories reveal more than just your sin, they also reveal the unaddressed and untended wounds in your heart. Will you sit awhile with your brokenness? It can be a roadmap to healing.

Guest: Jay Stringer

Mentioned:

Jay's book, Unwanted
Juli's book, Surprised by the Healer

#274: Vulnerability, Infidelity & God's Redemption Aug 05, 2019

For today’s guest, infidelity as a woman meant double the shame. Jessica McDaniel shares the lies she believed as a teenager about sex, how they followed her into marriage, and (after learning of her husband’s pornography addiction) contributed to justifying an affair. With full confession, Jesus brought full restoration. Grab your java and join us!

Guest: Jessica McDaniel, LPC

Mentioned:

#273: Tell Someone You're Broken Jul 29, 2019

If you’re ever going to heal, you have to tell someone you’re broken. Today’s guest on Java with Juli kept his brokenness a secret for 42 years. In this episode you’ll hear how one isolated incident of childhood sexual abuse changed the trajectory of Brian Pusateri’s life, how God gently invited him to tell his story, and the steps he took to find complete healing in Jesus. Grab your java and join us!

Guest: Brian Pusateri

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#272: From Sexual Exploitation to Freedom (Harmony's Story) Jul 22, 2019

According to our guest, most women in the sex industry want to escape but have no other means for survival. As an abused child, rape victim, and stripper, she would know. Victim of exploitation turned UCLA honor student, Harmony Dust Grillo's goal is to help women and girls entrenched in sexual exploitation find freedom. Pull up a chair and join us for a remarkable story of God's healing power and redemption.

Guest: Harmony Dust Grillo

Mentioned:

BONUS! #236: Pursue Wholeness, Not Purity Jul 20, 2019

None of us is pure, but we can be whole. The imperfect packaging of the evangelical purity movement left many feeling confused and ashamed. Listen in as Dr. Juli Slattery shares a refreshing new approach to how we see our sexuality and how we're all on a journey to become more like Jesus.

Guest: Hannah Nitz

Mentioned:

Join us for our August 6th webinar on addressing sexual brokenness with both truth & love.
Episode #160: Why God Created You To Be Sexual
Episode #166: We Are All Sexually Broken
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BONUS! #235: How the Purity Movement Hurt Us Jul 20, 2019

"I always thought that if I did everything the way God told us to, then I would be blessed, I would be happy and I would have a good marriage. That was decidedly not the case." Well-meaning parents and youth pastors promised marital bliss if you could only make it to the altar as a virgin. For many, the promise didn't deliver. In this episode, Juli brings truth and compassion to the imperfect purity message of the 90s.

Mentioned in this episode:

Join us for our August 6th webinar on addressing sexual brokenness with both truth & love.
Episode #160: Why God Created You To Be Sexual
Episode #166: We Are All Sexually Broken
Rethinking Sexuality

#271: The Truth (and Lies) About Infertility Jul 15, 2019

One in seven couples struggles with infertility --and it's easy to make some pretty hurtful assumptions about them if they're not public about it. In this episode Juli sits down with her life-long friend Taylor Scott (of The Kevin & Taylor Show!) to talk about the sorrow, the truth, and the things to say and not say along the journey of infertility. (And you'll get to hear stories about Juli too!)

Guest: Taylor Scott

Mentioned:

Do you listen to Taylor on The Fish? Give her a shout out here!
Juli's book, Finding the Hero in Your Husband

#270: Winning the Battle in Your Mind Jul 08, 2019

Sometimes the most difficult battles we face are the ones that rage within our own hearts and minds. In this episode, Juli gets practical with Kelly Balarie, author of Battle Ready, as they talk about how to handle feelings of insecurity, how to defeat unwanted thoughts or desires, and how to prepare our hearts and minds for intimacy. Grab your java and join us!

Guest: Kelly Balarie

Mentioned:

Join us at Reclaim!
Battle Ready (Book)

#269: Loving Jesus in the Season You're In Jul 01, 2019

No matter what season of life you’re in, the object is the same: love Jesus and become more like Him. Are you single and wondering if God has forgotten about the longings He placed inside you? Are you married and wondering why your longings to serve God (or just spend time with Him!) get hijacked by your responsibilities as a wife or mom? Pull up a chair for wisdom & encouragement with Juli and her guest, Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth.

Guest: Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth

Mentioned:

Bible Study: Sex & the Single Girl

Bible Study: Passion Pursuit

#268: BONUS! When God "Wakes Up" Your Love Life Jun 27, 2019

Did you know that an intimate relationship with the Lord can lead to a more intimate relationship with your husband? In this BONUS episode Juli and her guest discuss the connection between our spiritual lives and our sexuality. Grab your java and join us!

Guest: Ruth Buezis

Mentioned:

Bible Study, Passion Pursuit
Book: Awaken Love

#159: When Your Child Struggles With Gender Jun 24, 2019

If your child is making choices you don’t agree with, this episode is for you! Today Juli sits down with a mother who recognized her daughter's gender confusion early on. Despite many prayers and conversations, her daughter now leads a homosexual lifestyle, but they have found ways to bridge their differences for the sake of their relationship. Have you struggled with balancing truth and love when your child's choices go against what you taught them? Grab your coffee and pull up a chair. You’ll find truth and wisdom on this Java with Juli.

Guests: Lori Wildenberg & Courtney Wildenberg

Mentioned:

Join us at Reclaim!
Book: Messy Journey; How Grace & Truth Offer the Prodigal a Way Home

#267: Are You Having Sex or Building Intimacy? Jun 17, 2019

You can be sexually active without being sexually intimate. But is that God's best? Our sexuality is designed to be laced with spiritual and relational significance, but we have all been impacted by sin, busyness, and the cultural trend to see sex as simply something that we do (or worse: a "duty"). Pull up a chair with Juli, Linda and Yvette as they discuss the difference between sexual intimacy and sexual activity.

Guests: Linda Dillow & Yvette Maher

Mentioned:x

Join Juli at a Winshape Marriage Retreat!
Bible Study: Passion Pursuit
Are you sexually active but not intimate? Learn three ways you can grow as a couple.
Learn more at Sex is the Icing on the Cake and Your Sexual Differences Can Make You Better Lovers

#266: Your Marriage, God's Design Jun 10, 2019

What do you want out of marriage? If you’re like most of us, you hope for love, companionship, passion and other good things that happen to be self-serving. But our guests in this episode, Aaron & Jennifer Smith, contend that “like everything that God gives us, [marriage] is not intended for us only.” Grab your coffee, pull up a chair and be challenged to think about marriage in a way that transcends what you hope to get out of it.

Guest: Aaron & Jennifer Smith

Mentioned:

Join Juli at a Winshape Marriage retreat!
Book: Marriage After God
Register for our Reclaim conference

#265: The Hard (and Hopeful) Truth About Losing a Spouse Jun 03, 2019

“God created our bodies to become one in marriage in a very physical and neurological way. When that is suddenly ripped apart, there’s a severe grieving that happens …and nobody talks about it.” In this episode Juli sits down with Rachael Flick, widow of fallen police officer Micah Flick, to learn about living through the loss of a spouse. Whether you’re divorced or widowed (or you know someone who recently has been), grab your java and pull up a chair for an honest conversation about the difficult moments, the beautiful moments, and the daily life in between.

Guest: Rachael Flick

#264: You (Too) Can Help #MeToo May 27, 2019

What can you do to make sure the voices of sexual abuse victims continue to be heard following the #MeToo movement? How can our churches become safe places where people can find help? In this episode, Dr. Dan Allender joins Juli to share how all of us have been harmed in some way by sexual sin and what we must do in order to offer help and hope to others. ps. Listening to this Java with Juli episode is a great place to start!

Guest: Dr. Dan Allender

Mentioned:

Unwanted by Jay Stringer
God Loves Sex by Dr. Dan Allender & Dr. Tremper Longman
Rethinking Sexuality by Dr. Juli Slattery
Donate to AI today!

#263: Experiencing Sexual Pleasure, Part 2 May 20, 2019

Sex with your husband sounds nice…but the busyness of day-to-day life leaves you feeling disconnected. In part two of this conversation, Juli and her guest move from talking about getting your body ready, to getting your emotions ready! The emotional aspect of your marriage is an important part of the “sexual desire triangle". Being intentional about building an emotional connection with your man (talking, date nights, taking a “sex-cation”) will create intimacy that spills over into the bedroom. Grab your java and join us to learn more!

Guest: Dr. Jennifer Degler

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#261: Bravery Means Being the Real You May 06, 2019

You’re braver than you think. Bravery doesn’t always mean running into a burning building. For most of us, it means getting up in the morning, acknowledging our brokenness, and being our best, authentic selves. It means doing hard things, sharing our stories, and letting others see our brokenness too. Join Juli and her guest as they talk about what makes us brave and how bravery makes us beautiful.

Guest: Lee Wolfe Blum

Mentioned:

Give to Authentic Intimacy today!
Books: Brave is the New Beautiful and Table in the Darkness

#260: BONUS! Confused About Sexuality? We Understand Apr 30, 2019

Why is there so much confusion in the Church about sex? If God's word is clear on this issue, why do so many great minds disagree? Join Juli and author Todd Wilson for a conversation about why we struggle to see the beautiful and coherent narrative of sexuality in the Bible.

Guest: Todd Wilson

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#259: Our Marriage Survived Painful Sex Apr 29, 2019

Jennifer went to her doctor to get help for the excruciating pain she felt during sex. She left with a clean bill of health and a dose of useless platitudes: “Try to relax. Have a glass of wine. You should be fine.” After four years of painful (and seldom) sex, Aaron and Jennifer were ready to call it quits. Join Juli Slattery & her guests for a story of commitment, surrender, and discovering God’s design for sexuality.

Guests: Aaron & Jennifer Smith

Mentioned:

Unveiled Wife

#11: When Work & Marriage Intersect Apr 22, 2019

When you and your spouse have separate (but equally important) callings that pull you in different directions, who yields? When children come along, who pushes pause on their career? Join us as Juli, Dr. Leslie Parrott and Linda Dillow team up to share biblical principles that will help you have these conversations with your spouse, learn how to take turns over the years, and give each other time and space to realize your callings.

Guests: Dr. Leslie Parrott and Linda Dillow

Mentioned:

Become an Authentic Intimacy Member!

#258: Your Questions About Pornography Apr 15, 2019

Can I ever trust him again? How do we rebuild sexual intimacy together? Should you even date a guy who struggles with porn? Today Dr. Juli Slattery and her guest, Jonathan Daugherty, answer YOUR questions about pornography and marriage. Join us for hope, healing, and a greater understanding of pornography addiction.

Guest: Jonathan Daugherty

Mentioned:

#257: How Trauma Affects Our Bodies & Souls Apr 08, 2019

None of us likes feeling broken; feeling as if we’re walking through life with a limp that God can’t or won’t heal. Sometimes those emotional and physical symptoms are telling you something is wrong. Soul care is needed. Join Juli and her guest, Susie Larson, to hear how you can know the health, freedom, and wholeness that Jesus wants for you.

Guest: Susie Larson

Mentioned:

#256: Who Is Jesus to You? Apr 01, 2019

Every sexual question is a spiritual question. Every sexual opinion you hold comes from a foundation of who Jesus is to you. Today Juli & Hannah sit down at the coffee shop to breathe new life into an old-fashioned word: reverence. Join us to hear what it means to be reverent, how a reverence for God impacts how you view your own sexuality and informs the choices you make, and how it affects your relationships with others.

Guest: Hannah Nitz

Mentioned:

Blog: Have You Forgotten Who God Is?
Satisfy My Thirsty Soul from Linda Dillow
The Bible Project
Passion Pursuit: What Kind of Love Are You Making?

#255: Practicing Patience in Your Blended Family Mar 25, 2019

If you're not part of a blended family, you probably love someone who is. Join Dr. Juli Slattery as she sits down with Ron Deal, founder of Smart Stepfamilies, for tough questions, practical advice and encouragement for the slow process of waiting for your blended family to blend.

Guest: Ron Deal

Mentioned:

#254: Sex, Race & Healing: How We're the Same and Different Mar 18, 2019

There is no magic pill to heal from traumatic sexual experiences. In this episode Juli talks with therapist Dawn Jones about why we must address the pain in our stories in order to understand the choices we make. Then, dive into the deep end with us as we talk about how the conversation around sexuality is different in the African American community than it is in mainstream culture. We have a lot to learn from one another! Will you join us?

Guest: Dawn Jones, PLPC

#253: Making the Gospel Beautiful Through Relationships Mar 11, 2019

How do we foster relationships that show the world that the Gospel is not just beautiful, it's also believable? Join Juli and Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth (Revive Our Hearts) as they discuss how God intended our relationships to be one of the most influential displays of the power and beauty of the Gospel. You'll hear how to be intentional in your relationships, intentional with your time and margin, and how to lead conversations with grace, love and humility.

Guest: Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth

Mentioned:

Adorned

#252: Finding Your Voice Mar 04, 2019

Sexual abuse. Fame. Infidelity and divorce. Five-time Grammy award winner Sandi Patty has walked through them all. How has she come out on the other side still singing God's praises? “We may think that we have some ability to walk away from God. I am convinced more than ever that He never walks away from us.” Join Juli and Sandi for a conversation about embracing God’s healing and restoration.

Guest: Sandi Patty

Mentioned in this episode:

#251: Praying with Honesty and Abandon Feb 25, 2019

Do you pray about your sex life? About that friend you're hoping will become more than a friend? Some of us surrender to God without ever telling Him what we want. (Isn't that what good Christians do?) For others, our prayer lives sound like one long to-do list for God. But true intimacy requires both surrender and honesty. Thankfully, Jesus shows us how to pray this way. Want to go deeper in your intimate relationships? Join us for Java with Juli.

Guest: Elisa Morgan

Mentioned:

The Prayer Coin (book)

#250: Healing After Abortion Feb 20, 2019

It’s time to let women know there is healing after abortion. While Christians rightly proclaim the sanctity of life, we often neglect to share that Jesus came to heal every wound, including that of abortion. In this episode you’ll hear stories of hope, healing and redemption after abortion. Let’s break the silence!

Guests: Joni Shepherd, Sharolyn Eckserson, Deborah Hilker

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#161: Beyond Pro-Life vs. Pro-Choice Feb 18, 2019

Take the politics out of conversations about abortion. You don't have to choose between valuing the rights of a woman or the rights of her unborn child. In this episode of Java with Juli, meet Angie Weszely. She's working hard to equip Christians with a third option in the abortion debate: the option to value the woman and the child equally --just as Jesus does.

Guests: Angie Weszely & Hannah Nitz

Mentioned:

#249: Overcoming Differences With Your Spouse Feb 11, 2019

Opposites attract... for a little while. Then those cute, quirky things that attracted you to your spouse early on begin to get on your nerves. In this unlikely Valentine's Day episode Juli talks with author Karen Ehman about how to stay crazy in love when your spouse drives your crazy.

Guest: Karen Ehman

Mentioned:

Book: Keep Showing Up

#248: Gay Girl, Good God: Jackie's Story Feb 04, 2019

"If you ask him to, God will make you straight." Have you ever said this to a loved one who is struggling with homosexuality? Maybe you've been on the receiving end of this message. But is it true? Jackie Hill Perry, author of Gay Girl, Good God, sits down with Juli to share her own story of struggle with gender confusion and same-sex desires, and how she discovered the love of Jesus.

Guest: Jackie Hill Perry

Mentioned in this episode:

Gay Girl, Good God

#247: Healthy Conversations With Kids About Sex Jan 28, 2019

Julie Lyles Carr has parented eight children over the last 25 years. We think she might have a thing or two to teach us about talking to kids about sex! Join Juli and Julie for this light-hearted and fun coffee shop conversation.

Guest: Julie Lyles Carr

Mentioned in this episode:

Raising An Original
Learn how to connect with your teen at the Axis Parenting Summit

#246: Lies You Believe About Sex Jan 21, 2019

"I'm not loved if I'm not desired." "I don't deserve a great sex life." "God doesn't care about my pain." Your sexuality involves a spiritual battle between truth & lies. Embracing God's truth means learning how to recognize the lies. Join Juli, Linda & Yvette to learn how.

Guests: Linda Dillow & Yvette Maher

Mentioned in this episode: Passion Pursuit

#245: The Link Between Your Bedroom & Your Bank Account Jan 14, 2019

Have you ever hidden a receipt from your spouse? Join Juli and her guests to find out why holding grudges or secrets about money also means you're likely holding back in the bedroom.

Guests: Brian & Cherie Lowe

Mentioned in this episode:

#169: Your Wounded Heart Jan 12, 2019

It wasn’t that bad. What happened to you definitely wasn’t as bad as other abuse stories you’ve heard and read about. It’s ridiculous to think it could still bother you after all these years. So why does it? At the coffee shop today, Dr. Juli Slattery sits down with Dr. Dan Allender to discuss the tools you need, and the benefits you’ll reap, when you confront the experiences that keep you from fully loving yourself and others. We’re offering hope for wounded hearts on this episode of Java with Juli!

Guest: Dr. Dan Allender

Follow-up Resources:

#244: Your Love-Hate Relationship with Food Jan 07, 2019

Do you want out of your love-hate relationship with food? This isn't a conversation about what you should or shouldn't eat, it's about breaking free from our tendency to seek fullness in something that will never satisfy. Join us at the coffee shop.

Guests: Asheritah Ciuciu & Hannah Nitz

Mentioned in this episode:

Become a member at authenticintimacy.com/member
Join the 40 Day Sugar Fast

#243: Your Favorites From 2018 Dec 31, 2018

We've got clips from your favorite Java episodes from 2018! You'll hear from Gary Thomas on roles in marriage, Laurie Krieg on living with same-sex desires, and Juli & Linda will answer one of our most-frequently-asked questions about sex. Listen and enjoy clips from our most popular conversations at the coffee shop.

Guest: Hannah Nitz

Mentioned in this episode:

Help us meet our $15,000 goal! Go to authenticintimacy.com/donate
Episodes #214, #224, #193, #218
authenticintimacy.com/membership
authenticintimacy.com/Rethinking

#242: Worried About the Future? Find Hope Here Dec 24, 2018

We naturally fear what we don't understand or can't control -- like the messages and confusion surrounding sexuality. But fear squashes empathy. Fear keeps us from loving people as Jesus did. In this episode you're invited to re-learn how Jesus responded to the same issues that you face. Do you worry about the future? Find hope here.

Guest: Caleb Kaltenbach, God of Tomorrow

#33: What's It Like to Be Married to Me? Dec 17, 2018

Have you ever asked yourself, What's it like to be married to me? What's it like to make love with me? Why do I want to stay mad? Today Juli and her guests stop talking about the kind of marriage they want to have and start focusing on the kind of wives they want to be. Do you have the courage to take a good look in the mirror? If so, grab your java and join us!

Guests: Linda Dillow & Hannah Nitz

Mentioned in this episode:

Help us reach our year-end goal! Make a donation here.
What's It Like to Be Married to Me? And Other Dangerous Questions

#241: Women Struggle With Porn Too Dec 10, 2018

Do you think women don't get addicted to porn? Think again. In this episode Juli's guest shares candidly about how she became addicted to porn at the age of 13. She'll share what to do if you're struggling, as well as what you need to know about teen girls and porn. Pull up a chair and join us!

Guest: Jessica Harris, Beggar's Daughter

Will you help us reach our $15000 goal? Make a donation today!

#240: Birth Control & Family Planning Dec 03, 2018

Is it okay to use birth control? Can the pill cause an early abortion? Juli and her guest discuss the ethical issues that surround birth control and family planning. We don't have all the answers, but we know where to look for them.

Guest: Carrie Gordon Earll

Help us reach our $15000 goal! Click here to make a year-end donation.

#239: Stop Dreading Christmas Nov 26, 2018

Somewhere along the line, this "most wonderful time of the year" overwhelms us, making our souls feel both stuffed and empty. Want to bring back the wonder of Christmas? We can help. Grab your cocoa and listen in.

Guests: Asheritah Ciuciu & Hannah Nitz

Mentioned in this episode:

Unwrapping the Names of Jesus

#238: Josh Harris is Rethinking "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" Nov 19, 2018

What if you gave millions of people the wrong advice? Two decades ago Josh Harris turned the Christian dating world upside down. Two weeks ago he asked the publisher to stop printing his best-seller, I Kissed Dating Goodbye. Join Juli and Josh for a raw conversation about asking hard questions and why it's okay to not have all the answers.

Guest: Josh Harris

Mentioned:

Rethinking Sexuality
Documentary: I Survived I Kissed Dating Goodbye

#237: BONUS! Reconstructing Intimacy After Breast Cancer Nov 14, 2018

"I never imagined there would be a point in my life when a piece of me would have to be reconstructed. That at age 40 my chest would literally be taken apart and put back together." Kim Harms underwent a bilateral mastectomy and breast reconstruction after surviving breast cancer. She soon learned that her breasts weren't the only things that God would help her reconstruct.

Guest: Kim Harms, Life Reconstructed

#236: Pursuing Wholeness, Not Purity Nov 12, 2018

None of us is pure, but we can be whole. The imperfect packaging of the evangelical purity movement left many feeling confused and ashamed. Listen in as Dr. Juli Slattery shares a refreshing new approach to how we see our sexuality and how we're all on a journey to become more like Jesus.

Guest: Hannah Nitz

Mentioned:

Episode #160: Why God Created You To Be Sexual
Episode #166: We Are All Sexually Broken
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#235: How the Purity Movement Hurt Us Nov 05, 2018

"I always thought that if I did everything the way God told us to, then I would be blessed, I would be happy and I would have a good marriage. That was decidedly not the case." Well-meaning parents and youth pastors promised marital bliss if you could only make it to the altar as a virgin. For many, the promise didn't deliver. In this episode, Juli brings truth and compassion to the imperfect purity message of the 90s.

Mentioned in this episode:

#234: We Can Do THAT in the Bedroom? Oct 29, 2018

What's OK in the bedroom? Juli, Linda & Yvette tackle one of our most popular questions in this episode of Java with Juli. While God has said "no" to several things, He says YES to so much more! Join us to learn how to discern where you might need to draw a line and where you might need to step out of your comfort zone.

Guests: Linda Dillow & Yvette Maher

In this episode:

Passion Pursuit
Juli's blog What's OK in the Bedroom?
Juli & Linda answer "What's OK?" live! (video)

#233: Understanding Your Man Oct 22, 2018

From "All he thinks about is sex!" to "Why doesn't he ever initiate?" this Java with Juli episode has got you covered. Juli sits down with our friend Jonathan Daugherty to help you better understand your man, his design and his sexuality.

Guest: Jonathan Daugherty, Be Broken Ministries

Mentioned in this episode:

Passion Pursuit Bible study

#232: When Sexual Abuse Happens At Church Oct 15, 2018

When sexual abuse happens in the church our leaders are (historically) more likely to defend the powerful than to protect the wounded. What can YOU do to change things? On this Java with Juli, Juli's guest is Boz Tchividjian, a former child abuse prosecutor and the founder of GRACE (a Godly Response to Abuse in the Christian Environment), an organization that educates and equips faith communities to correctly respond to sexual abuse disclosures. Grab your java and join the conversation!

Guest: Boz Tchividjian, GRACE

#231: BONUS! Sexuality & The Supreme Court Oct 11, 2018

How can we create a culture that is safe for women to talk about sexual abuse? Join Juli & Hannah at the coffee shop for a quick conversation about what we can learn from the recent Supreme Court confirmation.

Guest: Hannah Nitz

#230: Juli & Linda Answer Your Questions About Marriage Oct 08, 2018

Do you believe the Bible has answers to your questions about marriage and sexuality? We know it does! On this Java with Juli, Juli and Linda open the Authentic Intimacy inbox and tackle questions like: Do common interests and hobbies lead to greater intimacy with your spouse? What do you do when your husband can't stop looking at porn? And, did God create sex primarily for men? Grab your java and join us!

Guests: Linda Dillow & Yvette Maher

Join us for our October webinar Rethinking Sexuality in Your Parenting

#229: Sex, Teens & Parenting Oct 01, 2018

Your daughter is sexting her boyfriend. Your son sees porn on a friend's phone. Now that you've yelled, confiscated their devices and grounded them for life -what next? Grab your coffee, exhale, and join Dr. Juli Slattery to hear how to talk with your teenagers about sexuality, sexual choices and God’s design.

Guest: Laura Gallier

Register for our October Webinar: Rethinking Sexuality in Your Parenting

#228: Intimacy After Infidelity Sep 24, 2018

Imagine the stress of being in ministry, a missionary on the mission field, while keeping your sexual sin a secret. (If we’re honest, whether we’re in ministry or not, many of us struggle to keep our sin, our trauma, or our past a secret.) That’s exactly where Troy & Melissa Haas found themselves when Troy’s pornography addiction was exposed. Join Dr. Juli Slattery on this Java with Juli to hear how God met them, healed them, and restored intimacy in their marriage.

Guests: Troy & Melissa Haas

Mentioned: HopeQuest

Are you in a relationship with a man who is struggling with sexual addiction? Both HopeQuest and Be Broken Ministries offer specialized care just for you. Just use the links to connect!

#227: Couples Therapy For Intimacy Issues Sep 17, 2018

Have you ever wondered whether or not you should see a sex therapist? From sexual addiction to sexual anorexia, a good therapist can help you find freedom from shame, fear and past experiences. Join Dr. Juli Slattery and her guests, Jorge & Danisa Suarez, who are originally from The Dominican Republic, as they discuss relationships, sexuality and how Biblical principles transcend any culture or border.

Guests: Jorge & Danisa Suarez (contact them here)

Follow-up resources: Passion Pursuit

Register for our September webinar, Female Friendships: The Good & The Bad

#48: My Controlling Spouse Sep 10, 2018

If you are fearful or hesitant to share your true thoughts with your spouse, you may be in an unhealthy pattern with a controlling spouse. What are the red flags, and how can you change things? Very few couples know how to address this issue, but it can be a fatal flaw in your relationship if you ignore it. Learn the steps toward a gentle transition and honest communication on this episode of Java with Juli.

Guests: Dr. Ron & Jan Welch

Mentioned:

The Controlling Husband by Dr. Ron Welch

What's It Like to Be Married to Me? by Linda Dillow

#226: Culture, Technology & Your Child Sep 03, 2018

If raising kids isn’t hard enough, throw smart phones, social media and video games into the mix and you have every reason to want to bury your head in the sand. On this Java with Juli, Juli sits down with David Eaton and Allison Rohr from Axis, a ministry passionate about helping parents and kids communicate about faith, technology and media. Listen in and learn how you can join the conversation the culture is already having with your kids.

Guests: David Eaton & Allison Rohr

#225: How To Find the Right Guy Aug 27, 2018

There is no magic formula to find a great husband, but there are decisions you can make today that will help you recognize him when you see him. On this Java with Juli, Juli sits down with sisters and authors Bethany Baird & Kristen Clark as they discuss a refreshingly new and Biblical approach to navigating your love life. Have you been going about it all wrong? Listen in to find out!

Guests: Bethany Baird & Kristen Clark

#224: Sexuality & Surrender Aug 20, 2018

Laurie daily submits her same-sex sexuality to the Lordship of Christ while married to her best friend, Matt. Matt daily submits his broken heterosexual sexuality to the Lordship of Christ while married to his best friend, Laurie. On this Java with Juli, Juli sits down with Matt & Laurie Krieg to hear what they've learned about surrender and sexuality in their marriage.

Guests: Matt & Laurie Krieg

#223: Counseling: When & Why You Should Go Aug 13, 2018

Marriage counseling sounds intimidating... and expensive. So why should you go? (Surely you can sort things out with a little help from a good book and more prayer, right?) On this Java with Juli, join Juli and her guests Greg & Erin Smalley to learn when, and why, it's time to see a counselor.

Guests: Dr. Greg & Erin Smalley

#222: BONUS! What's Your Money Personality? Aug 07, 2018

The two biggest areas of conflict in marriage are sex and money. You know we always talk about sex on Java with Juli, but today we're talking about money! In this BONUS episode, join Juli and her guests as they share how understanding your spouse's natural tendencies toward spending and saving can help you communicate better (and fight less) about money.

Guests: Scott & Bethany Palmer

#221: Conversations You Should Be Having About Money Aug 06, 2018

How important is it for us to get out of debt? Should we give to our church? Where is the balance between having faith and having a good financial plan? On this episode of Java with Juli, Juli and her guests share financial wisdom for a healthy relationship with your spouse and with your money.

Guests: Scott & Bethany Palmer

#220: Rethinking Sexuality In Your Parenting Jul 30, 2018

If you don’t teach your children about sex, someone else will. Listen in as Juli shares the resources you must have that tell you everything you need to know as you teach your children about sex… just kidding, those don’t exist. Instead, join us for a conversation that will leave you better equipped to answer your children’s questions and teach them about God’s design and purpose for their sexuality.

Guest: Hannah Nitz

Don't miss the other two episodes in this series, #220: Rethinking Sexuality in Your Marriage and #219: Rethinking Sexuality in Your Life

#219: Rethinking Sexuality in Your Marriage Jul 23, 2018

Does God care about what goes on inside your bedroom? We think so. God has something to teach you about Himself, and He uses sex to do so. Join us on this Java with Juli as Juli shares how sexual love within marriage is a sacred space where you can find reflections of His love for you.

Guest: Hannah Nitz

Learn more about Rethinking Sexuality

Listen to the next Rethinking Sexuality episode in this series.

#218: Rethinking Sexuality in Your Life Jul 16, 2018

Do I really need to save sex for marriage? What’s wrong with porn if I’m not hurting anyone else? Why should I care what goes on in someone else’s bedroom? Why does it matter? Dr. Juli Slattery thinks most Christians give cultural answers when facing questions like these about sexuality. Is it true about you? Join us for Java with Juli and find out!

Guest: Hannah Nitz

Learn more about Rethinking Sexuality

Listen to the next Rethinking Sexuality episode in this series.

#217: Finding Hope After Betrayal Jul 09, 2018

The man who vowed to love, cherish and protect you is cheating, lying and hiding. Now what? In this episode, Dr. Juli Slattery is joined by two women who have been there, and they have some profound wisdom and good news for you. Pull up a chair and join us for rich conversation and bold truth on Java with Juli.

Guests: Meg Wilson & Lynn Marie Cherry

Learn more about the Wives Care group at Be Broken Ministries.

Also check out Healing Hope groups through Meg Wilson’s organization, Hope After Betrayal.

#216: BONUS! Do You Have an Agenda? Jul 08, 2018

Relationships are tricky. Loving others well takes intentionality. It’s hard to watch our friends, co-workers, or kids make sexual choices that we feel are wrong. On this Java with Juli, Juli and Hannah discuss the differences between having our own agenda for those we love and loving them the way God calls us to. You’ll also get an update on the new things happening at Authentic Intimacy. Join us!

Guest: Hannah Nitz

Learn more about Rethinking Sexuality.

#215: Miscarriage & Infertility Jul 02, 2018

After years of buying baby gifts for friends, one in every eight women wonder if it will ever be her turn. Is she one of your friends? Is she you? On this Java with Juli, Dr. Juli Slattery is joined by two brave women who give voice to those who have struggled with infertility and miscarriage. Grab your coffee, listen to their stories, and learn what to do and what not to say as you support them on their journey.

Guests: Jamie Cruz-Solano & Hannah Edwards

#214: Your Questions About Sex Jun 25, 2018

Is it “dirty” to dress up for your husband in the bedroom? Is it wrong to pleasure yourself if your husband can’t have sex? What if your hubby asks you to do something that makes you uncomfortable? You asked, we’ve answered. Join Dr. Juli Slattery and Linda Dillow as they answer questions from our Authentic Intimacy inbox.

Guests: Linda Dillow & Yvette Maher

#213: Sexuality & The Conversations The Church Forgot Jun 18, 2018

Ready or not, the body of Christ needs and wants to have conversations about sex. Are you equipped? On this Java with Juli you’ll meet Mo Isom, a former All-American goalkeeper and the first female to have trained with and tried out for an SEC men’s football team. She’s also the author of Sex, Jesus, and The Conversations the Church Forgot. Listen in as Mo shares how her own story of sexual brokenness and redemption points to the greater gospel of God’s unimaginable love for us.

Guest: Mo Isom

#206: BONUS! Rebel Parenting Jun 17, 2018

Ryan Dobson admits he was a rebellious kid. These days, as a husband and father, he’s a different kind of rebel. On this Father’s Day episode of Java with Juli, Juli sits down with Ryan & Laura Dobson, co-founders of Rebel Parenting. Join us as Ryan also shares how past experiences with his famous father influence his (rebellious) parenting today.

Guests: Ryan & Laura Dobson

#212: Female Friendships Are Complicated Jun 11, 2018

Has a friend ever told you she needs a break from you? Do you make friends fast and lose them quickly? It’s no secret that women enjoy being with other women—it’s how we are designed! But what do healthy female friendships look like? Join us as Juli and her friends tackle tough questions about intimacy and codependency in female friendships.

Guests: Dr. Deb Gorton & Laurie Krieg

#211: Understanding Pornography Addiction Jun 04, 2018

He knows that porn is destroying our marriage… so why can’t he just stop looking? On this Java with Juli, Jonathan Daughtery sits down with Juli to help us understand what’s happening inside the heart of the person who is struggling with a sexual addiction. Grab your java and listen in to a conversation that will help you be more patient with the person in your life who is trapped in sexual sin –even if that person is you.

Guest: Jonathan Daugherty

Be sure to join us June 12th for a live webinar with Jonathan where we'll tackle your questions about fantasy and masturbation.

#210: Enjoying Intimacy in Your Golden Years May 28, 2018

It’s no secret that aging changes us. Our bodies don’t work the way they used to. Sex doesn’t work the way it used to. What once happened easily is now difficult and awkward. Is it time to close the chapter on sex? Not so fast! Join Juli and her guests as they discuss the physical changes that happen as you age and how you can continue to enjoy intimacy and sex with your spouse.

Guests: Dr. Walt & Barb Larimore

#209: Tradition, Teaching & Women In the Church May 21, 2018

Beth Moore recently blogged “A Letter to My Brothers” and flung open the doors to a discussion about women, teaching, and misogyny in the church. In this Java with Juli, Juli and two friends talk about how they’ve handled the tension of being Bible teachers AND being women. Grab your coffee and hear how you can be a part of the conversation about embracing equality as men and women, honoring God’s Word, and confronting church traditions.

Guests: Michele Cushatt & Sarah J O’Connor

Here is the blog from Beth Moore that Juli refers to in this conversation.

#208: The Forgiveness & Intimacy Link May 14, 2018

Have you ever sabotaged a relationship because you think you deserve to be unhappy? Are you bitter toward a spouse who has already apologized? Our innate sense of justice makes it hard to forgive others (especially a husband!) and ourselves. Here's the good news: our forgiveness doesn't diminish God's justice. Join Juli and Linda on this Java with Juli to learn how the forgiveness God offers, and calls us to, actually paves the way for deep intimacy.

Guests: Linda Dillow & Yvette Maher

#207: Making Motherhood Meaningful May 07, 2018

Hey moms, do you feel like you’re missing out on life while staying at home with kids? Are you exhausted, unsure of yourself, or worried you’ve already messed this parenting thing up beyond repair? On this very special Java with Juli, you’ll hear words of encouragement from Juli’s mom! As a mother of six, she has wisdom, experience and stories that will encourage your heart to embrace whatever season of motherhood you’re in today.

Guest: Mrs. Jo Rybka

#205: My Husband's Addiction Saved My Life Apr 30, 2018

From the outside, they had it all--a happy marriage, jobs in ministry, and successful kids. But on the inside, there were secrets. Grab your Java and join us for this amazing story of God's redemptive power and healing when a pornography addiction came to light in this "perfect Christian marriage."

Guests: Dave & Kirsten Samuel

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#204: Managing Your Expectations in Marriage Apr 23, 2018

Once I am married I’ll always feel loved. I’ll never be lonely. Sex will be fantastic because I waited. Or … maybe not. What now? Did you marry the wrong person? In this Java with Juli, Juli talks with Jerusha Clark about what to do when your expectations aren’t met, how to find God in the midst of disappointing moments, and how any good marriage takes work.

Guest: Jerusha Clark

#203: Navigating Different Views on Sexuality Apr 16, 2018

Do you know what you believe about sexuality? Can you talk about sexuality with other Christians who believe something different? How do we hold to a biblical worldview without compromising the unity that Christ calls us to with other Christians --even those who disagree with us?

In this Java with Juli, Dr. Juli Slattery and Hannah Nitz sit down and get practical about what this looks like in their life and relationships.

Guest: Hannah Nitz

#202: Childhood Trauma and How It Impacts You Apr 09, 2018

Powerful moments and memories from our childhood stick with us. They affect who we become and how we interact with others. If your memories are hurtful or traumatic, you’ve come to the right place. In this Java with Juli, Juli and her guests take a deep dive into trauma to discuss how it impacts us and how you can move toward healing. This conversation will show you how trauma not only occurs in relationships, but also finds healing there.

Guests: Debi Grebenik & Jessa Crisp

#201: Healing From Abuse and Sexual Trafficking Apr 02, 2018

Healing from abuse and sexual trafficking is difficult, but possible. In this Java with Juli, Juli talks with Jessa and John Crisp about Jessa’s story of being sexually trafficked for years, how she eventually got out. and how God has redeemed (and continues to redeem) her story. They discuss the challenges they’ve faced as a couple and how God gives them grace.

Guests: Jessa & John Crisp

#200: Listening So People Will Talk Mar 26, 2018

The call to be a good listener comes straight from Jesus: in order to feel loved, people have to feel heard. Great conversation begins with great listening. On this Java with Juli, join Juli and her guest as they discuss how you can become a better listener. It starts with asking good questions, embracing silence, validating the other's emotions, and refraining from judgment.

Guest: Becky Harling

#199: Sexual Harassment and the Workplace Mar 19, 2018

Sexual harassment in the workplace is all over the news, and it can be challenging to know how to navigate relationships with male colleagues while still advancing your career. In this Java with Juli, Juli takes a deep dive into how you can better approach issues of sexual harassment in the workplace, how to develop professionally (especially if you work in a male dominated industry), and how to find your voice if you've received an unwanted advance.

Guests: Amy Stephens and Jacki Kintz

#105: Out of the Shadows (re-air) Mar 12, 2018

Church should be a safe place. But far too often church is an easy environment for pedophiles and abusers to ruin lives, and destroy the faith of those they prey upon. In this Java with Juli meet two strong survivors of church leadership abuse as they discuss the signs and settings that may put you, or your children, at risk.

Guests: Joy Rider & Jo McGuire

#198: Sharing God's Message for Sexuality Mar 07, 2018

God redeems our sexuality and allows us to share our stories with a hurting world. In this Java with Juli, Juli talks with Sanj Kalra and Hannah Nitz about how we can engage our communities, churches, and world with the truth of God’s design for intimacy.

Guests: Sanj Kalra & Hannah Nitz

#197: A Pornography Addiction in our Marriage Mar 05, 2018

On this episode, Juli talks with Sanj and Kay Kalra about the way that pornography addiction negatively affected their marriage for years, how they found Christ in the midst of their brokenness, the hope they have for their future, and how other couples can experience ultimate joy in Christ.

Guests: Sanj and Kay Kalra

#196: Public Me vs. Private Me Feb 26, 2018

What things in your life do you try really hard to hide?

If my friends knew that I’m struggling with big temptations

If people ever found out that I’ve had an abortion

If people really knew how bad my marriage is

Honestly, we are all hypocrites at some level. And the more visible we are in our Christian circles, the more we feel that there are certain things we can never admit out loud. So we don’t tell anyone, and tell ourselves that we can handle it on our own. But we don’t heal in secret. Join Dr. Juli Slattery and learn how God is glorified when we’re ready to admit that we just don’t have it all together.

#195: Finding Your Confidence Feb 19, 2018

Who do you think you are? Do you think you’re brave? Do you think you’re creative? “I love to encourage other women to stop apologizing for who we are; To stop apologizing for what has happened to us, or who we’ve become or who we are not and, especially, to stop apologizing for being smart.” On this Java with Juli, Juli has coffee with author Tricia Lott Williford and talks about having the discernment to know when to speak, when to be silent, and the courage to do either one… even when it’s hard.

Guest: Tricia Lott Williford

#194: Enjoying Date Nights With Your Spouse Feb 12, 2018

Regardless of how long you’ve been married, date nights are still important! On today’s Java with Juli, Juli talks with Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley on how to make time for dates, how to initiate good communication (and topics to avoid while on a date!) and the importance of reconnecting regularly away from your home and kids.

Dr. Greg & Erin Smalley

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#193: Loving Your Husband Well Feb 05, 2018

How do you respect your husband when you don't respect his behavior? Are you trying to change your good husband into a perfect husband? On today's Java with Juli, Juli and her guest, Gary Thomas, discuss how new research in neuroscience supports the difference in men and women, how this information can change the way you view your role as wife, and how you can use it to love your husband well (yes, even better than you already do). Grab your coffee and listen in.

Guest: Gary Thomas

#192: Engaging in Restorative Relationships Jan 29, 2018

We are wounded in relationships with others, and it only makes sense that relationships are also where our healing will take place. When walking through hardship, it's not enough to read a book or see a counselor. We need someone who will lean into our pain, instead of leaning away. On this Java with Juli, join Juli, Linda, and Hannah to learn how to walk through difficult times with others and love them well.

Guests: Linda Dillow & Hannah Nitz

#191: Understanding Your Teenager's Brain Jan 22, 2018

Modern science has allowed us to see exactly what is going on inside the adolescent brain,

and what we see can help YOU be a better parent! Instead of a time to “hang on for dear life,”

Juli’s guest shares how these years are an opportunity to shape the incredible organ that is still

developing inside your teenager’s skull. Join Dr. Juli Slattery and Jerusha Clark as they discuss

when to “lean in” or “let go” in your relationship with your teen.

Guest: Jerusha Clark

#190: Practical Ways to Love Your Husband Jan 15, 2018

You have great influence in your husband's life. In your unique position, you can either tear him down or build him up. Join Dr. Juli Slattery as she talks with Erin Smalley on how you can better understand your husband's needs (and they aren't just sex or food!) and practical ways you can strengthen your marriage.

Guest: Erin Smalley

#2: Unleashing the Power of Woman Jan 08, 2018

What’s the difference between having power or being controlling in marriage? How do you have influence without also being manipulative? In this Java with Juli, join Juli, Linda, and Hannah as they each share how they have struggled to figure out what the power of femininity looks like within a Christian marriage.

Guests: Linda Dillow and Hannah Nitz

#189: Loving Your Real Life Jan 01, 2018

As soon as my kids are in school…

If only my husband could get that promotion…

When I lose these last 10 pounds…

We all have a list of things we’re going to do as soon as it seems to be a better time. But TODAY is God’s gift to you. How do you find contentment and joy in your actual life, today? Join us to find out!

Guest: Alex Kuykendall

#188: Meet the Women of Christmas Dec 25, 2017

Do you believe that God uses women in beautiful, meaningful and pivotal ways? On this Java with Juli, meet Elizabeth, Mary and Anna; three women who, in the midst of their brokenness, were part of God’s wondrous to plan give us the gift of Jesus. Grab your favorite holiday mug, sit back and experience the Christmas story through the eyes of these three courageous women.

Guest: Liz Curtis Higgs

#187: Grace for the Bad (and Not-So-Bad) Girl Dec 18, 2017

“You can’t out sin the grace of God.” That’s a bold statement from our guest Liz Curtis Higgs, author of the best-selling series “Bad Girls of the Bible”. Do you see yourself as a bad girl? Or, maybe you’re not that bad? Bad girl or not-so-bad, we all need Jesus. Join Juli and Liz for an invitation to embrace His grace this Christmas season.

Guest: Liz Curtis Higgs

#186: What Can Passion Pursuit Do for You? Dec 11, 2017

Do you desire deeper intimacy with your spouse? Do you want to experience freedom in the bedroom like you’ve never experienced before? Do you feel like the church NEVER talks about sex? On today’s Java, you’ll meet five women who embarked on a journey to learn what God has to say about sex, and forged meaningful and lasting friendships along the way. Grab your latte and settle in to hear what awaits YOU in Passion Pursuit.

Guests: Pamela Nelson, Lauren Noullet, Charis Hueftle, Sarah van Bentum, Mindy Chacone

#185: How Well Do You Know Jesus? Dec 04, 2017

You know the Christmas story by heart. For four weeks of the year you adore and celebrate the babe in the manger. And when Christmas is over, he is packed up with the nativity and put away for next year. On this Java with Juli, join Juli and her guest as they talk about how our lives will change when we get to know Jesus as our Wonderful Counselor, Almighty God, Everlasting Father, and Prince of Peace--not just at Christmastime, but all year round.

Guest: Wendy Pope

#184: Authentic Intimacy Prepared Me for Marriage Nov 27, 2017

We love hearing your stories. The excitement that flows from the heart of a woman who has been changed by God is contagious! On this Java with Juli, Havilah (a listener just like you!) shares how this podcast, and the Bible study Passion Pursuit, helped her heal from childhood sexual abuse and prepare for her upcoming marriage.

Guests: Havilah Spengler & Hannah Nitz

#183: Always Thankful Nov 20, 2017

Celebrate Thanksgiving once a year? Easy as (pumpkin) pie. Be thankful all year round—through the mundane, the losses, financial hardships and difficult marriages? Not quite as easy! Join Juli and her guests to hear how cultivating thankfulness for the little things can lead to a heart of gratitude that will endure life’s challenges. There is always something to be thankful for!

Guests: Linda Dillow & Tricia Lott Williford

#181: What Is the "Price" of Sex? Nov 06, 2017

Birth control, pornography, online dating –according to our guest on this Java with Juli, all of these technologies have lowered the price of sex and tipped the scales in the favor of men. How does this impact you? How can singles navigate the new marriage marketplace? Grab your coffee and join us to find out!

Guest: Mark Regnerus

#180: Broken Women, Prostitutes and Your Part Oct 30, 2017

Do you have the courage to reach out to someone who is hurting? We often feel fearful or ill-equipped when God calls out of our comfort zone; but God is asking for faithfulness, not perfection. On this Java with Juli, you’ll hear from two women who are dedicated to showing God’s love to prostitutes, even in the midst of their own brokenness and struggles. Guests: Rebecca Moreland & Angel Dague

#58: Lessons From a Former Prostitute (Re-Air) Oct 23, 2017

Angel lived a life of prostitution and drugs on the streets of Akron, Ohio. Her life changed the day she met Becky, a woman who introduced her to Jesus. Today, Angel works alongside Becky, reaching out to women who are trapped in the sex trade industry. We think you’ll be surprised at how the wounds of these women may be similar to your own. Guests: Rebecca Moreland & Angel Dague

#179: When Sex Is Not Good Oct 16, 2017

"I know that orgasm should not be the main goal of sex, but I am disappointed that I have never experienced it." "I can’t say that I feel enthusiastically about sex. I think about it, and would like to have it more often, but we do not." "My husband and I have been married three years and we have never had good, or even frequent sex." These are comments that we receive from women all over the country. So what do you do when sex is not good? Listen in as Juli, Linda, and Hannah tackle this difficult (but common!) question. Guests: Linda Dillow & Hannah Nitz

#178: When It's Hard to Be A Woman Oct 09, 2017

Being female has gotten a bad rap. After years of femininity being squelched by the church, a new generation of leaders is sending a different message: You’re equal! You’re strong! You can do anything a man can do! But what’s wrong with being a woman? Join Dr. Juli Slattery and author Julie Roys to hear what we have to lose when we forget the beauty of being female. Guest: Julie Roys

#177: Why Abstinence-Only Education Doesn't Work Oct 02, 2017

The New York Times recently reported that there is now proof that abstinence-only programs don’t work. They’re right. Teaching our children abstinence alone won't guarantee they'll make it to their weddings as virgins. So, what’s missing from the “just wait” message? Grab your coffee and listen in! Guest: Hannah Nitz

#176: When Men Are Addicted to Porn, Part 2 Sep 25, 2017

Ashamed. Broken. Afraid. These are just a few of the words that describe a man addicted to pornography; ashamed of his actions, broken by his sin, and afraid of losing everything. Join us for part two of this conversation with Jonathan Daughtery, founder of Be Broken Ministries, who decided that the journey to healing from sexual addiction was well worth the pain he would have to go through to get there. Guest: Jonathan Daugherty, Be Broken Ministries

#175: When Men Are Addicted to Porn, Part 1 Sep 18, 2017

Ashamed. Broken. Afraid. These are just a few of the words that describe a man addicted to pornography; ashamed of his actions, broken by his sin, and afraid of losing everything. On this Java with Juli, Dr. Juli Slattery is joined by Jonathan Daughtery, who decided that the journey to healing from sexual addiction was well worth the pain he would have to go through to get there. Guest: Jonathan Daugherty, Be Broken Ministries

#174: Can You Walk Away from Same-Sex Attraction? Sep 12, 2017

No one has lived closer to the controversy over being “ex-gay” than Anne Paulk. When her ex- husband returned to the homosexual lifestyle, the world jumped at the opportunity to label him, and anyone else claiming to be “ex-gay”, a fraud. But what if there is no either/or? What if sanctification for those with same-sex attraction is no different than it is for every one of us –a process of becoming more like Jesus, one day at a time? Grab your coffee and join Juli as she talks with Anne Paulk about walking away from same-sex relationships and moving toward God’s design for sexuality. Guest: Anne Paulk

#173: Lessons I Learned from Grief Sep 04, 2017

“One of the things I learned was that I could not fix what was broken, but I could create something new.” Join Dr. Juli Slattery and author Tricia Lott Williford at the coffee shop for an inspiring conversation on finding wisdom and lessons through loss. Guest: Tricia Lott Williford

#172: My Husband Isn't My Best Friend Aug 28, 2017

When you say “I do”, are you also promising to be your spouse’s best friend? Is it important to think of your husband as your closest friend and confidant? Your favorite team is back together (Linda, Juli & Hannah) to talk through what this looks like in their marriages. Guests: Linda Dillow & Hannah Nitz

#67: Thinking About Remarriage? (Re-Air) Aug 21, 2017

Most people never plan on marrying twice, but many of us will. No matter how you got here, the decision to remarry can be just as thrilling, and even more daunting, as the first time around. Will I get hurt again? Are my kids ready? There’s a lot to consider, but we’ve got you covered. Join us as Dr. Juli and her guests dig deep into what “happily ever after” looks like the second time around. Guests: Dr. Jim Burns & Susan Mathis

#171: Dating in 2017 Aug 14, 2017

Fifty years ago, the original Dating Game featured a single young woman who got to choose between three eligible bachelors. Not being allowed to see them, she chose her guy based on his answers to her questions. Now, turn all of that on its head, and welcome to dating in 2017! Men get to be the choosy ones, and sexuality—not personality—gets the win. Is that what it’s really like to be single these days? Guests: Dr. Mark Regnerus, Lisa Anderson & Brandon Wilson

#170: Single Ladies, This One's For You Aug 07, 2017

How much should I share with my boyfriend about my sexual past? Is masturbating a sin? How much can we do before we’re married? Just because you’re single, doesn’t mean you’re not sexual. Listen in as Juli and two of her single friends answer your questions about sex and dating. Guests: Lisa Anderson & Brandon Wilson

#168: Do You Believe Everything Is A Gift? Jul 24, 2017

Hannah Nitz was able to sit down with two women who have influenced her since she was 12- Noelle Beck & Juli Slattery! Noelle runs a youth center in Akron, OH and tells the story of doing life on purpose, comparing ourselves, and truly believing everything is a gift (even through great grief and loss). Guest: Noelle Beck & Hannah Nitz

#9: The Guys' Side Jul 17, 2017

"My wife has no desire for sex. She doesn't want it, doesn't need it... and it seems like there is nothing I can do to change it. Now what?" Believe it or not, we get emails like this one all the time. And today, we have answers. In this episode, Juli sits down with Dr. Greg Smalley and Dr. David Clarke to hear the guys' side on what men struggle with when it comes to intimacy with their wives.

Guests: Dr. Greg Smalley & Dr. David Clarke

#167: People Are More Important Than Marriage Jul 10, 2017

“If the cost of saving a marriage is destroying a woman, the cost is too high.” When Gary Thomas, author of the best-selling book Sacred Marriage, wrote that statement in a recent blog, the response was so great it nearly crashed his website. What was it that struck such a chord with his readers? Guest: Gary Thomas

#166: We Are All Sexually Broken Jul 03, 2017

Many of us believe that only individuals with traumatic events, pornography addictions, or affairs are sexually broken. However, during this Java with Juli episode, Juli & Hannah present a different possibility. Could it be possible that every single person is sexually broken?

#165: How to Talk with Your Spouse About ANYTHING Jun 26, 2017

Some things aren’t worth talking about. Whenever you bring them up with your spouse, you end up in an argument. It’s easier to just let it go. But is it good for your marriage? On this Java with Juli you’ll hear practical advice about how to talk about ANYTHING with your spouse –without the argument. Grab your coffee and join us! Guest: Dr. David Clarke

#164: How to Work Through Missed Expectations in Marriage Jun 19, 2017

Marriage doesn’t always turn out the way you think it will. Maybe your husband isn’t quite the gentleman he was when you were dating. Sex isn’t as fun as you were told it would be. He’s not spending as much time with the kids as you’d like. What do you do when marriage doesn’t go as expected? Grab your coffee and join Dr. Juli to find out! Guest: Rhonda Stoppe

#163: Women & the Tough Bible Verses Jun 12, 2017

Do you bristle at being called “the weaker sex” or at the suggestion that women should stay silent in church? Have the words “wives, submit to your husbands” ever rubbed you the wrong way? Surely we aren’t supposed to take these scriptures literally… or, are we? Grab your latte and listen in! Guests: Sarah J. O’Connor & Hannah Nitz

#162: Helping Your Kids Navigate the Culture Jun 05, 2017

Same-sex marriage, social media, easy-access pornography… this generation of young people faces a culture that is changing more rapidly than ever before. So what do you need to do in order to help your kids navigate today’s world? On this Java with Juli, John Stonestreet joins Juli (and her son Michael!) at the coffee shop to talk about how to equip young people to be in this world, but not of it. Guests: John Stonestreet and Michael Slattery

#3: Mom, I'm Pregnant May 29, 2017

As a parent, you will face a time where your child will surprise you and you aren’t sure how to react. This week, Juli talks with Yvette Maher and Kathy Cordell about how they reacted when their kids both threw them a curveball with teenage pregnancy. This is an emotional and at times intense conversation about what to do and how to walk with your kids in the grace of Jesus. Guests: Yvette Maher and Kathy Cordell

BONUS! When God Re-Writes Your Story May 25, 2017

Mary DeMuth has a powerful story to tell: what it was like to return to the place where she was raped at five years old. On this bonus edition of Java with Juli, we’re featuring an episode from The Re-Story Show, a podcast dedicated to sharing the testimonies of those who’ve been “re-storied” by God. In Mary’s words, this is her testimony “about Jesus, what He does, how He heals, and what He creates from trauma.” Guest: Mary DeMuth Trigger Alert: If you’re recovering from childhood abuse, and your heart is tender, you might want to come back to this podcast at another time.

#160: Why God Created You to Be Sexual May 15, 2017

Most of us don’t ever wonder about the purpose of sex. It’s something we desire, something we do, and for some of us, something we avoid. But why did God create us to be sexual anyway? Today, Hannah turns the tables on Juli and asks her about why God designed us with the anatomy, the physiology and the emotional drive to be sexually intimate with another person. Pull up a chair, grab your latte, and join us for Java with Juli! Guests: Juli Slattery & Hannah Nitz

#88: When Sex Is Too Painful May 01, 2017

When sex is painful, many husbands and wives live with frustration and shame because they don't know where to get help. On this Java with Juli, Dr. Slattery sits down with two women who share their stories of overcoming sexual pain and how God restored their marriages and sexual relationships.

Bonus Episode: Update from Authentic Intimacy Apr 24, 2017

Listen in as Juli & Hannah share an update on what's been happening behind the scenes at Authentic Intimacy!

#157: Why He Wants to be Your Hero Apr 24, 2017

Men are simple—or at least that’s what you’ve been led to believe. Give them food, sex, perhaps throw in a little sports, and you’ve got the makings of a happy husband. But are men more complicated than that? We think so. Would you believe that your husband wakes up every morning doubting if he has what it takes to make you happy? Can you imagine that deep down in his heart of hearts what he really wants is to be needed by you? Grab your latte and join Juli and her guest, John Eldredge, as they discuss the deep longings housed in the hearts of your husbands and sons. Guest: John Eldredge

#24: The Strong-Willed Woman (Re-Air) Apr 17, 2017

How many times has a confident, opinionated woman who speaks her mind been labeled something that was far less than flattering? Strength and conviction are always thought of as noble traits for a man, but why not for a woman? Author and former police officer, Cynthia Tobias explains the differences of a strong-willed women with God, and one without Him. Guest: Cynthia Tobias

#156: How to Fight With Your Spouse - II Apr 10, 2017

Your marriage NEEDS conflict. You may think that sounds crazy, but learning to manage conflict is essential to building intimacy and sustaining a life-long love. Greg and Erin Smalley are back at the coffee shop to share how you can allow God to open your heart and fill it abundantly full of His love. Then you can open your heart to others and allow God’s love to flow through you. Grab a latte and pull a chair for some “heart care” on this Java with Juli! Guests: Greg & Erin Smalley

#155: How to Fight With Your Spouse - I Apr 03, 2017

In marriage, even the smallest offense can lead to a BIG fight. Couples fight about money, in-laws, dirty dishes, dirty socks, driving too fast, driving too slow… you get the idea. But there’s good news: fighting can actually help you have a stronger marriage! All this conflict, when handled correctly, can lead to greater intimacy between you and your spouse. So call a time out, put your gloves down and pull up a chair. Join us at the coffee shop and learn how to Fight Your Way to a Better Marriage on this Java with Juli! Guests: Greg & Erin Smalley Guests: Greg and Erin Smalley

Dealing With Friendly Fire in the Church Mar 27, 2017

Juli Slattery and Mary DeMuth talk about how to deal with hurtful people and situations within the Body of Christ.

#154: Healing Doesn't Happen Overnight Mar 27, 2017

Do you ever feel like you’ve been permanently marked with a Sharpie® pen? That the hurts and heartache from your past just won’t go away –no matter how hard you scrub, pray, and memorize God’s word? You’re not alone. And we have good news: our God is a healer! Today Juli sits down with Mary DeMuth, author of Not Marked, to hear some of the practical steps Mary took toward healing as God restored her life from the pain of childhood sexual abuse. Pull up your chair, grab your latte, and listen in to rich conversation and bold truth on this Java with Juli! Guest: Mary DeMuth

#153: Discovering Who You Are Mar 20, 2017

What you believe about God has a huge impact on what you believe about yourself. When you’re at the top, it’s easy to feel like you’ve got it all together. But when you’re at wit’s end and harassed by life, the ground you’re standing on may start to feel a little flimsy –unless you know who created you. Join Juli and her guest at the coffee shop to hear how you, with all of your flaws, were created by a sovereign and creative God. And He’s not finished with you yet. Guest: Michele Cushatt

#18: When You Don't Like Your Body (Re-Air) Mar 13, 2017

How many times have you been disappointed or felt inferior because of your weight? Have you ever asked yourself where those emotions are coming from? It’s time that women understand the love the Lord holds for His daughters, just as they are! This is a vulnerable conversation about struggle, self-worth and dress size that will help you evaluate what you’re believing about your past. It will also help bring you into a brighter future!

#152: How to Talk to the Opposite Sex Mar 06, 2017

How you relate to others as a single person now matters to your future marriage. Whether it’s friendships, dating online or face-to-face, we form emotional ties when we share our hearts through conversation. Join Juli and her guests at the coffee shop to find out how much to share, and when, when you’re talking with the opposite sex. Guests: Sherry Graf & Lisa Anderson

#151: The Naked Truth About Sex in Marriage Feb 27, 2017

One hundred percent of couples struggle sexually. The truth is, if you want great sex in a great marriage, you’ve got to take off more than just your clothes. True intimacy means taking off your masks and baring your emotions too. Some couples have an active sex life but still feel unknown and unloved by their spouse. Others feel disconnected both in and outside the bedroom. On today’s Java with Juli, learn how you can experience the thrilling and sweet intimacy –physically and emotionally—that God intends for you and your spouse to share. Guests: Tim & Anne Evans

#19: What You Need to Know About Domestic Violence (Re-air) Feb 20, 2017

Do you walk on eggshells around your husband? Are you constantly trying to be a better wife, friend, or daughter? This candid conversation will help you discover the courage to deal with destructive relationships, and confidently speak your thoughts and feelings in a constructive way. Grab a cup of coffee and join us for rich conversation and bold truth on this Java with Juli. Guests: Linda Dillow & Leslie Vernick

#59: Pulling Back the Shades (Re-air) Feb 14, 2017

Women all over the world are excited about the release of the movie Fifty Shades Darker – but do they realize how this type of erotica exploits our longings rather than satisfies them? If you’re enticed by the Fifty Shades of Grey series, we understand – and this program is just for you! Juli and her guests boldly discuss the underlying issues in our culture around female sexuality, and how the questions women have are answered in the book Pulling Back The Shades.

#150: Is the Spark in Your Love Life a Counterfeit? Feb 07, 2017

Why do we care if Fifty Shades of Grey has sold over 125 million copies? Because it means that women are looking to fiction—instead of God, the Creator of sex—to understand their sexual desires. And that’s a problem. On this Java with Juli hear how erotica is a counterfeit solution that will only leave you feeling empty. Don’t settle for the counterfeit. God wants you to have the real thing…and so do we. Guest: Tim Sisarich

#7: Understanding and Overcoming PMS Jan 30, 2017

For many, PMS makes our bodies feel as if they are out of our control. Whether it's tears, anger, bloating or one of another dozen crippling symptoms, PMS takes over our lives for a week or two out of every month. In this Java with Juli, Lorraine Pintus and Kim Brown share encouragement for getting through the tough days and offer suggestions on how to ease the symptoms of PMS. Guests: Kim Brown & Lorraine Pintus

#149: Getting to the Heart of Female Same-Sex Attraction Jan 23, 2017

At the core of any relationship are two people who care about each other. So when you don’t approve of a relationship, how do you reflect God's unconditional love to the people who are in it? On this Java with Juli, you’ll hear the story of a girl who grew up uncomfortable in her own skin, confused by her feelings, and who took the courageous step to leave her same-sex relationships after she became a Christian. If you’re walking alongside a friend or loved one who is struggling with same-sex attraction, you’ll find wisdom and practical advice on this Java with Juli. Guests: Christine Sneeringer & Janelle Hallman Follow Up Resource: The Heart of Female Same-Sex Attraction by Janelle Hallman

#148: Is There a Man in the House? Jan 16, 2017

It’s not just girl talk on Java with Juli. Gentlemen, today is all about you! In this episode, Dr. Gary Chapman joins Juli at the coffee house to answer your questions about sexual intimacy—as well a few questions your wives want answers to! From frequency of sex to what to do if your wife struggles with erotica, no question is off-limits. Grab your coffee and tune in for our “Manuary” mailbag show! Guest: Gary Chapman

#49: The Myth of the "Test Drive" (Re-air) Jan 09, 2017

What does domestic violence, poverty for women, and a lack of relationship commitment have in common? Would you believe it is cohabitation? Join us for an informative discussion of the social science of living together before marriage. If you think moving-in with your boyfriend or girlfriend will foster a healthier relationship, this Java with Juli will make you think again. Guest: Glenn Stanton

#147: How to Find Fulfillment at the Feet of Jesus Jan 02, 2017

Do the holidays have you feeling exhausted? Does your list of New Year resolutions feel uninspired? Are you unsatisfied with your life and your relationships? If you answered yes to any of these questions, don’t miss today’s Java with Juli! Grab your latte and listen in as Linda Dillow shares how God taught her how to find fulfillment and satisfaction by sitting at His feet. It’s a scary thought: putting down your to-do list and taking time out of each day to talk to God. Will you take the challenge? We hope so! Guests: Linda Dillow & Hannah Nitz

#146: All You Need Is Jesus! ...And Your Therapist Dec 27, 2016

When the words “Christian” and “counseling” are mentioned in the same sentence, there’s no shortage of opinions about whether or not Jesus Followers ought to need a bit of psychological help. While some will tell you to pray and read your Bible more, others will gladly refer you to their favorite therapist. Wondering what the right answer is? Grab your coffee and let's talk! Whether you’re a skeptic, or you’ve got your counselor’s number on speed dial, join Juli, Hannah, and Yvette for rich conversation and bold truth on this Java with Juli.

#14: Christmas Confessions Dec 23, 2016

Does Christmas mean pressure and disappointment? Or maybe you’re simply just too tired to pour yourself into the holiday anymore. As your children grow up, how can your family make this time of year meaningful? Grab some coffee (tea, hot chocolate or cider) and listen to the ways Dr. Juli Slattery and Linda Dillow find His joy in the season.

#145: How to Find Hope When Christmas Hurts Dec 19, 2016

For some, this Christmas is anything but merry. Empty chairs where a loved one once sat, the loss of a job and no presents under the tree, dreams for 2016 that didn’t come to fruition… our suffering stands in stark contrast to the bright red and green trappings we see all around us. When Christmas hurts, is there any hope to be found in the manger? You’ll find out today on Java with Juli. Grab a comfy chair and your hot cocoa and hear why, even more so in our pain, Christmas brings “glad tidings of great joy” to be celebrated. Guests: John S Dickerson & Suzi McCormack

#144: What Do You Really Believe About Being Single? Dec 13, 2016

If you’re looking for “3 Steps to Finding the Love of Your Life” you won’t hear them on this episode of Java with Juli. Sadly, many single Christians have concluded that they’ve been given the “gift” that no one wants. If that’s you, it may be time to reconsider what you believe about living life, unmarried, in a way that honors God, our bodies, and our sexuality. What is this new way of thinking, you ask? Find out on today’s Java with Juli! Guests: Christopher Yuan & Carrie Kintz

#143: Courage to Confront: What You Can Learn From the Mennonite Faith Dec 05, 2016

"Man looks at the outward appearance, but God looks at the heart." How true we find this scripture to be when we honestly consider what we feel about people who look or dress differently than we do. On today's Java with Juli, Dr. Juli Slattery shares how it never occurred to her how much she shared in common with women of the Mennonite faith… that is, until God introduced her to a group of very courageous women.

#142: How To Find Peace In Forgiveness Nov 28, 2016

Popular author Anne Lamott wrote that, “Not forgiving is like drinking rat poison and then waiting for the rat to die.” Does that resonate with you? Has your life and peace been affected because you can’t forgive? Listen in to Juli Slattery and Bruce Wilkinson to learn how you can find peace, and why you can trust God when He says, “Vengeance is mine.” Guest: Bruce Wilkinson

#141: Why It Matters To Me When I See You Do Wrong Nov 21, 2016

Your coworker is getting a little too friendly with a man who is not her husband. A member of your Bible study is living with her boyfriend. Your neighbor brags about freeloading off of someone else's Netflix account. Who are YOU to judge? Juli, Hannah, and Carrie tackle this tough question at the coffee shop today. As always, you'll hear rich conversation and bold truth on this episode of Java with Juli.

#140: Jesus Spoke to Me: The Story of One Rape Survivor Nov 14, 2016

One of Hettie Brittz’s greatest fears was that she would be raped. In her home country of South Africa it is estimated that over 30% of women will be raped in their lifetime. So when she was awakened one night by her husband, escorted by four strange men and with his hands tied behind his back, she thought she was about to become a statistic. Today Hettie sits down with Dr. Juli Slattery to share her story. Grab your coffee and settle in for one of the most amazing accounts of God’s power and presence that you will ever hear.

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