Java with Juli - Conversations About God, Sex, & You

Does God Care if You Get Botox?, #584 Oct 20, 2025

As Jesus followers, is it okay that we want to look younger, thinner, and prettier?

We live in a world obsessed with appearances. Everywhere you look, someone’s getting fillers, enhancements, or posting a “perfect” version of themselves online. In this episode, Juli and Hannah take an honest look at these questions—not to hand out a new list of rules, but to invite you into a bigger story.

Co-host: Hannah Nitz

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When You Want Sex but Your Spouse Doesn't, #294 Oct 13, 2025

Ever feel like you're the only one in your marriage who wants to have sex?

In most marriages, there is typically one partner with a higher sex drive—and that person is usually trying to convince the other to have more sex. In this episode, Juli and Dr. Corey Allan talk about how to move beyond "I have a need, and you have an obligation" to real sexual intimacy.

Guest: Dr. Corey Allan

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Follow-Up Resources:

God, Sex & Your Marriage by Dr. Juli Slattery

Sexy Marriage Radio with Dr. Corey Allan

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Real Stories of Women in the Bible (Have We Been Reading Them Wrong?), #583 Oct 06, 2025

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In this episode, we uncover the real stories of women in the Bible who have been misunderstood, silenced, or abused—and discover the God who saw them. From Bathsheba to Tamar to the woman at the well, we revisit stories where we have blamed or shamed women, when in fact scripture points to God’s compassion, justice, and redemption.

⚠️ This episode mentions rape. Please take care when listening.

Guest: Dr. Sandra Glahn

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Vindicating the Vixens by Dr. Sandra Glahn

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Candid Answers to Questions About Sex & Being Single, #338 Sep 29, 2025

Instead of shutting it down, what if you could meet your needs for touch, intimacy, and opposite-sex friendships in ways that honor your sexuality? (Spoiler alert: you can.)

If you’ve wrestled with desire, boundaries, or shame, this candid conversation will help you see the God-given purpose of your sexuality—even when you’re single.

P.S. This is one you’ll want to share with your single friends.

Guest: Dr. Doug Rosenau

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Follow-up Resources:

Single & Sexually Whole: Soulfully Celebrating the Dance of the Sexes by Dr. Doug Rosenau

Sex & the Single Girl by Dr. Juli Slattery

Surviving the Unthinkable: Rebuilding My Life After Trauma and Loss, #582 Sep 22, 2025

In this episode, author Kimberly Haar opens up about surviving a violent abduction and assault at the hands of her ex-husband. With unflinching honesty, she recounts the night her world shattered—and how faith, forgiveness, and Christian therapy helped her rebuild her life.

Guest: Kimberly Haar

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Healing from Life’s Deepest Hurts by Kimberly Haar

Raising Wise Kids in a Sexually Broken World, #581 Sep 15, 2025

Are you teaching your kids to follow Jesus—or to just follow the rules?

In this episode, Juli sits down with Matt & Laurie Krieg to talk about how to give our kids a gospel-centered worldview. From early conversations about sexuality and gender to equipping them for a sexually broken world, you’ll get practical, faith-filled guidance to help you raise resilient, Christ-focused kids.

Guests: Matt & Laurie Krieg

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How To Talk to Your Husband (When All You Want To Do Is Yell at Him), #580 Sep 08, 2025

How do you speak life to your husband when all you want to do is yell at him?

Juli sits down for a candid conversation with author Ann Wilson about the transformative power of our words. Hear how Ann discovered that her (helpful!) criticism, even her subtle “sophisticated nagging,” wasn’t helping her husband at all—in fact, it was hurting both of them.

With real-life stories and practical wisdom, this conversation proves that a few well-chosen words can transform a marriage.

Guest: Ann Wilson (with Dave Wilson)

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Java with Juli #386 What’s the Secret to Getting the Marriage You Want? Go Vertical with Dave & Ann Wilson (a members-only resource)

Sex Therapy: What Is It, and Why Should You Go?, #324 Sep 01, 2025

If you struggle with low desire, pain during sex, or difficulty with orgasm and don’t know where to go for help, this week’s Java with Juli is for you! Juli sits down with certified sex therapist Josh Spurlock to explore what Christian sex therapy really is—and what it isn’t.

Josh explains the difference between sex therapy and traditional counseling, the most common challenges he helps couples overcome, and why having a therapist who respects God’s design for sexuality matters.

From dispelling myths like “sex is supposed to hurt” to offering hope that orgasm is possible for nearly every woman, this conversation brings biblical wisdom and practical help to some of the most sensitive places in your marriage.

“I wish I would’ve known this 20 years ago” doesn’t have to be your story. Listen in!

Guest: Josh Spurlock, LPC, CST

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Why Telling Your Story is Complex, Courageous and Healing, #353 Aug 25, 2025

The power of abuse lies in secrecy. The power of healing begins with telling.

In this episode, Tim Hein shares his story of surviving childhood sexual abuse and the journey of healing. From the courage it takes to break the silence, to the importance of being believed, to the steps of recovery that lead to restoration, Tim offers raw honesty and hard-earned wisdom. He reflects on how trauma shaped his life, marriage, and faith—and how choosing to tell your story is ultimately an act of self-love and grace.

This hopeful conversation offers encouragement for survivors and practical insight for those who walk alongside them.

Guest: Tim Hein

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Follow-Up Resources:

Understanding Sexual Abuse: A Guide for Ministry Leaders and Survivors by Tim Hein

Blog: God's Healing Stinks by Dr. Juli Slattery

Video Q&A: Past sexual trauma keeps me from enjoying sex. Is there hope that I can heal?

Blog: How to Choose a Wise Counselor by Dr. Juli Slattery

Good Girls, Bad Books: Erotica in Young Adult Fiction?, #579 Aug 18, 2025

Juli and her guests explore the infiltration of erotica and LGBTQ themes into young adult fiction. From board books to bestselling novels, today’s literature isn’t what it used to be—and parents are the last to know.

You’ll hear stories from the frontlines and get practical tools to help you navigate today’s fiction. Whether you’re raising toddlers or talking with teens, this is a conversation every parent, teacher, and youth leader needs to hear.

Guests: Greta Eskridge and Korrie Johnson

Follow-Up Resources:

It’s Time to Talk to Your Kids About Porn: A Parent’s Guide to Helping Children and Teens Develop Sexual Integrity by Greta Eskridge

Pulling Back the Shades: Erotica, Intimacy and the Longings of a Woman’s Heart by Dr. Juli Slattery and Dannah Gresh

What Your Husband Wishes You Knew About Sex, #126 Aug 11, 2025

Have you ever wanted to get inside the mind of your man–just for a day? Now’s your chance! Juli and Hannah sit down with pastor and author Chip Ingram to find out what husbands wish their wives knew about sex.

From why men fear rejection more than they let on, to how wives misunderstand their husbands’ need for connection, this conversation is filled with eye-opening insight and practical wisdom.

Guest: Chip Ingram, Co-host: Hannah Nitz

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Resources:

God, Sex, and Your Marriage by Dr. Juli Slattery

Blog: Struggling with Sexual Intimacy? You Might Need a “Sex Break”

Blog: Are You Entitled to “Good” Sex in Marriage?

Blog: 5 Healthy Ways to Respond to Your Husband’s Porn Problem

Q&A: What Should I Do If I Discover My Spouse Is Looking at Porn?

Q&A: Does My Spouse Watch Porn Because of Me?

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From Head to Heart: Why Love Changes Everything, #578 Aug 04, 2025

If loving God (or others) has felt hard or risky, this episode is for you. Join Juli and Hannah to discover why surrendering to love is not weakness—it’s the first step toward knowing the One whose love sets you free.

Drawing from scripture and real-life tension in the Church today, they unpack how Christians are called to love in three radical ways: our neighbors, the family of God, and even our enemies.

Co-host: Hannah Nitz

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Single, Married, or Searching: What Are We Really Longing For?, #577 Jul 28, 2025

In a culture that elevates marriage, sex, and romance as the ultimate goals, many of us are left feeling unfulfilled or sidelined. Have we unknowingly made idols out of good things? In this episode, Juli unpacks how our hearts can get entangled in false narratives—even within the Church.

Whether you're married, single, or discipling others, you’re invited to surrender your desires and expectations to God and find contentment on the other side.

Co-host: Joe Caruso

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Q&A with Jackie Hill Perry and Laurence Koo, #576 Jul 21, 2025

Jackie Hill Perry and Laurence Koo tackle some of the most pressing questions surrounding faith, sexuality, and discipleship. No small talk here—just honest answers about the reality of same-sex attraction, the cost of following Jesus, and the beauty of surrender.

Whether you're a pastor, parent, friend, or someone personally navigating LGBT questions, this is a must-hear conversation.

Guests: Jackie Hill Perry & Laurence Koo

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How Knowing Jesus Makes You Whole, Not Perfect, #575 Jul 14, 2025

We’re moving from shame-based “sexual purity” to sexual integrity—the day-by-day journey of aligning your sexual choices with God’s truth. Whether you're single, married, or just asking hard questions, you’ll find hope in this episode.

Co-host: Joe Caruso

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Is God Outdated? Surrendering the Story You Believe About Sex, #574 Jul 07, 2025

If you’ve ever wrestled with how to reconcile your faith with your sexuality, or how God’s design seems outdated (or even unloving), this is an episode you can’t miss. Continuing in our theme of Surrendered Sexuality, Juli exposes the cultural narratives shaping how you think about sexuality — often without realizing it.

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How To Trust God With the Hardest Parts of Your Story, #573 Jun 30, 2025

You believe God loves you—but you're afraid to trust Him with your most painful places.

In this conversation, discover why surrender is one of the most courageous acts of trust—and the beginning of real healing. Plus . . . its book launch week! 🎉

Co-host: Joe Caruso

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Surrendered Sexuality: Why God Wants More Than Just Your Behavior, #572 Jun 23, 2025

What if God asks you to surrender not because of what He wants to take from you, but because of what He wants to give? Grab your Java and listen in as Juli shares the core message of her new book, “Surrendered Sexuality.”

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4 Identity Traps That Are Keeping You Stuck, #571 Jun 16, 2025

Discover why finding your identity in Christ isn't about changing your behavior—it's about knowing Jesus, and letting Him redefine who you are. In this episode, get a sneak peek at what’s inside Juli’s new book as she shares four identity traps that keep us stuck.

Co-host: Joe Caruso

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The #1 Thing That Defines You (And It's Not What You Think), #570 Jun 09, 2025

What’s the most important thing about you? Get ready—this episode will challenge what you've always believed about yourself. Listen in as Juli shares why our identity must be rooted in who God says we are—not in our past, our “purity,” or our pain.

Co-host: Joe Caruso, @joecaruso06

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God's Design for Sexuality: Teaching Kids to Stand Firm & Love Big, #569 Jun 02, 2025

Want to raise faithful and loving kids in an LGBT-affirming world? This episode is one you can’t afford to skip. You don’t have to choose between truth and love—this conversation will equip you to give your kids both. Grab your Java and join us!

Guest: Rachel Gilson

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Parenting Without Panic in an LGBT-Affirming World by Rachel Gilson

Java with Juli #312 Born Again This Way: Rachel’s Story (AI Members Only)

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Unpacking Emotional Baggage: How to Get to the Root of Conflict in Marriage with Dr. Dan Allender, #568 May 26, 2025

Turns out, the stuff we haven’t dealt with from childhood shows up ... right in the middle of our relationships. Sit down with Juli and Dr. Dan Allender as they discuss why we must be willing to explore our own stories in order to create safety, nurture curiosity, and repair what’s broken.

Guest: Dr. Dan Allender

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The Deep-Rooted Marriage by Dr. Dan Allender

Java with Juli #169 Your Wounded Heart (AI Members Only)

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3 Myths We Believe About "Being One" In Marriage, #567 May 19, 2025

We spend a lot of our marriages thinking that “becoming one” means, "You'll become more like me. And once you become more like me, then we'll become one." Instead, what if you could say to your spouse, “I can love you just the way you are without having to change you.” If that’s the kind of oneness you want for your marriage (present or future), grab your Java and pull up a chair with Juli and Hannah.

Co-host: Hannah Nitz (@hannahnitz)

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My Husband Isn’t My Best Friend (blog)

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AI & Porn: The Attachment Crisis No One Sees Coming, #566 May 12, 2025

AI is changing the game when it comes to pornography—and it’s becoming more addictive and more dehumanizing than ever. This episode explores the impact of modern porn, including its ties to fantasy, gaming, and a distorted view of connection. If you or someone you love is navigating this journey, there is hope!

Guests: Jonathan Daugherty & Joel Warneking

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Hot Topic Kit: Porn in Marriage (for AI Members)—not a member, get it here.
Gateway to Freedom Intensive Workshop
423 Communities, 423 Podcast

How to (Really) Love Your Neighbor with Jada Edwards, Ep. #565 May 05, 2025

The relationships you struggle with the most? This episode is for those. Juli sits down with Bible teacher Jada Edwards to share stories about the ways they’ve fallen short when it comes to loving others, and how God has transformed their understanding of what it means to love the way He does. (Spoiler alert: Sometimes the best way to learn love is to start with the person who bugs you the most.)

Guest: Jada Edwards (@jada_edwards)

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Jada’s book: A New Way to Love Your Neighbor

How to Have Tough Conversations (blog)

Encountering the Radical Love of Jesus (blog)

AI Members Only: Why “Love Is Love” Doesn’t Mean What You Think It Means, Ep. #401