Java with Juli - Conversations About God, Sex, & You

Good Girls, Bad Books: Erotica in Young Adult Fiction?, #579 Aug 18, 2025

Juli and her guests explore the infiltration of erotica and LGBTQ themes into young adult fiction. From board books to bestselling novels, today’s literature isn’t what it used to be—and parents are the last to know.

You’ll hear stories from the frontlines and get practical tools to help you navigate today’s fiction. Whether you’re raising toddlers or talking with teens, this is a conversation every parent, teacher, and youth leader needs to hear.

Guests: Greta Eskridge and Korrie Johnson

Follow-Up Resources:

It’s Time to Talk to Your Kids About Porn: A Parent’s Guide to Helping Children and Teens Develop Sexual Integrity by Greta Eskridge

Pulling Back the Shades: Erotica, Intimacy and the Longings of a Woman’s Heart by Dr. Juli Slattery and Dannah Gresh

What Your Husband Wishes You Knew About Sex, #126 Aug 11, 2025

Have you ever wanted to get inside the mind of your man–just for a day? Now’s your chance! Juli and Hannah sit down with pastor and author Chip Ingram to find out what husbands wish their wives knew about sex.

From why men fear rejection more than they let on, to how wives misunderstand their husbands’ need for connection, this conversation is filled with eye-opening insight and practical wisdom.

Guest: Chip Ingram, Co-host: Hannah Nitz

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God, Sex, and Your Marriage by Dr. Juli Slattery

Blog: Struggling with Sexual Intimacy? You Might Need a “Sex Break”

Blog: Are You Entitled to “Good” Sex in Marriage?

Blog: 5 Healthy Ways to Respond to Your Husband’s Porn Problem

Q&A: What Should I Do If I Discover My Spouse Is Looking at Porn?

Q&A: Does My Spouse Watch Porn Because of Me?

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From Head to Heart: Why Love Changes Everything, #578 Aug 04, 2025

If loving God (or others) has felt hard or risky, this episode is for you. Join Juli and Hannah to discover why surrendering to love is not weakness—it’s the first step toward knowing the One whose love sets you free.

Drawing from scripture and real-life tension in the Church today, they unpack how Christians are called to love in three radical ways: our neighbors, the family of God, and even our enemies.

Co-host: Hannah Nitz

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Single, Married, or Searching: What Are We Really Longing For?, #577 Jul 28, 2025

In a culture that elevates marriage, sex, and romance as the ultimate goals, many of us are left feeling unfulfilled or sidelined. Have we unknowingly made idols out of good things? In this episode, Juli unpacks how our hearts can get entangled in false narratives—even within the Church.

Whether you're married, single, or discipling others, you’re invited to surrender your desires and expectations to God and find contentment on the other side.

Co-host: Joe Caruso

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Q&A with Jackie Hill Perry and Laurence Koo, #576 Jul 21, 2025

Jackie Hill Perry and Laurence Koo tackle some of the most pressing questions surrounding faith, sexuality, and discipleship. No small talk here—just honest answers about the reality of same-sex attraction, the cost of following Jesus, and the beauty of surrender.

Whether you're a pastor, parent, friend, or someone personally navigating LGBT questions, this is a must-hear conversation.

Guests: Jackie Hill Perry & Laurence Koo

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How Knowing Jesus Makes You Whole, Not Perfect, #575 Jul 14, 2025

We’re moving from shame-based “sexual purity” to sexual integrity—the day-by-day journey of aligning your sexual choices with God’s truth. Whether you're single, married, or just asking hard questions, you’ll find hope in this episode.

Co-host: Joe Caruso

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Is God Outdated? Surrendering the Story You Believe About Sex, #574 Jul 07, 2025

If you’ve ever wrestled with how to reconcile your faith with your sexuality, or how God’s design seems outdated (or even unloving), this is an episode you can’t miss. Continuing in our theme of Surrendered Sexuality, Juli exposes the cultural narratives shaping how you think about sexuality — often without realizing it.

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How To Trust God With the Hardest Parts of Your Story, #573 Jun 30, 2025

You believe God loves you—but you're afraid to trust Him with your most painful places.

In this conversation, discover why surrender is one of the most courageous acts of trust—and the beginning of real healing. Plus . . . its book launch week! 🎉

Co-host: Joe Caruso

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Surrendered Sexuality: Why God Wants More Than Just Your Behavior, #572 Jun 23, 2025

What if God asks you to surrender not because of what He wants to take from you, but because of what He wants to give? Grab your Java and listen in as Juli shares the core message of her new book, “Surrendered Sexuality.”

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4 Identity Traps That Are Keeping You Stuck, #571 Jun 16, 2025

Discover why finding your identity in Christ isn't about changing your behavior—it's about knowing Jesus, and letting Him redefine who you are. In this episode, get a sneak peek at what’s inside Juli’s new book as she shares four identity traps that keep us stuck.

Co-host: Joe Caruso

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The #1 Thing That Defines You (And It's Not What You Think), #570 Jun 09, 2025

What’s the most important thing about you? Get ready—this episode will challenge what you've always believed about yourself. Listen in as Juli shares why our identity must be rooted in who God says we are—not in our past, our “purity,” or our pain.

Co-host: Joe Caruso, @joecaruso06

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God's Design for Sexuality: Teaching Kids to Stand Firm & Love Big, #569 Jun 02, 2025

Want to raise faithful and loving kids in an LGBT-affirming world? This episode is one you can’t afford to skip. You don’t have to choose between truth and love—this conversation will equip you to give your kids both. Grab your Java and join us!

Guest: Rachel Gilson

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Parenting Without Panic in an LGBT-Affirming World by Rachel Gilson

Java with Juli #312 Born Again This Way: Rachel’s Story (AI Members Only)

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Unpacking Emotional Baggage: How to Get to the Root of Conflict in Marriage with Dr. Dan Allender, #568 May 26, 2025

Turns out, the stuff we haven’t dealt with from childhood shows up ... right in the middle of our relationships. Sit down with Juli and Dr. Dan Allender as they discuss why we must be willing to explore our own stories in order to create safety, nurture curiosity, and repair what’s broken.

Guest: Dr. Dan Allender

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The Deep-Rooted Marriage by Dr. Dan Allender

Java with Juli #169 Your Wounded Heart (AI Members Only)

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3 Myths We Believe About "Being One" In Marriage, #567 May 19, 2025

We spend a lot of our marriages thinking that “becoming one” means, "You'll become more like me. And once you become more like me, then we'll become one." Instead, what if you could say to your spouse, “I can love you just the way you are without having to change you.” If that’s the kind of oneness you want for your marriage (present or future), grab your Java and pull up a chair with Juli and Hannah.

Co-host: Hannah Nitz (@hannahnitz)

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AI & Porn: The Attachment Crisis No One Sees Coming, #566 May 12, 2025

AI is changing the game when it comes to pornography—and it’s becoming more addictive and more dehumanizing than ever. This episode explores the impact of modern porn, including its ties to fantasy, gaming, and a distorted view of connection. If you or someone you love is navigating this journey, there is hope!

Guests: Jonathan Daugherty & Joel Warneking

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Hot Topic Kit: Porn in Marriage (for AI Members)—not a member, get it here.
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How to (Really) Love Your Neighbor with Jada Edwards, Ep. #565 May 05, 2025

The relationships you struggle with the most? This episode is for those. Juli sits down with Bible teacher Jada Edwards to share stories about the ways they’ve fallen short when it comes to loving others, and how God has transformed their understanding of what it means to love the way He does. (Spoiler alert: Sometimes the best way to learn love is to start with the person who bugs you the most.)

Guest: Jada Edwards (@jada_edwards)

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Jada’s book: A New Way to Love Your Neighbor

How to Have Tough Conversations (blog)

Encountering the Radical Love of Jesus (blog)

AI Members Only: Why “Love Is Love” Doesn’t Mean What You Think It Means, Ep. #401

#564 Why People Turn to Porn and How to Break the Cycle Apr 28, 2025

Sadly, wrestling with pornography addiction is increasingly commonplace. But how do people find pornography? And why do they keep going back to it?

In the final of this series revisiting Reclaim, Troy and Melissa Haas of HopeQuest, share their testimony and expertise around pornography addiction, and what it takes to overcome it.

Guests: Troy and Melissa Haas

Troy and Melissa’s Website: hopequestgroup.org/

Troy and Melissa’s Instagram: @hopequestgroup

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Resource: #549 What the Latest Research Shows About Porn

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#563 Practical Advice for Talking to Kids About Sex and Culture Apr 21, 2025

Navigating the teenage years has never been easy, whether you’re the parent or the child. So as parents, how can you help your teenager or pre-teen have a better experience? What practically can you do to put them in a stronger position to navigate their teenage years safely, with more clarity about God’s love for them and design for their sexuality?

Three guests – James Talbert, Josh Miller, and Chelsey Nutgren – join Juli to share some much-needed practical advice for raising surrendered kids in our current cultural moment.

Guests: James Talbert, Josh Miller, Chelsey Nugteren

James’ Website: Citizens Akron

Josh’s Website: Riverwood Chapel Akron

Website: AXIS.org

Website: Center for Humane Technology

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#562 The Best Way to Stop Fighting in Your Marriage Apr 14, 2025

James 4:1 so famously writes, “What causes quarrels and what causes fights among you?”

It’s not surprising that marriage is a hotbed for conflict. When you live so closely with someone else, it’s easy to see their flaws, shortcomings, and mistakes in high definition.

So what can you do to stop constantly fighting?

In this special session from Reclaim 2024, Brad Rhoads shares what helped cut fighting and elevate fun in his marriage.

Guests: Brad Rhodes, Grace Marriage

Brad’s Website: gracemarriage.com

Brad’s Instagram: @grace_marriage

Blog: Forgiveness is Hard, Grace is Harder

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#561 Help for Christian Wives Who Don’t Like Sex Apr 07, 2025

We’ve talked about the fact that many women struggle to ‘flip the switch’ and enjoy married sex, and we’ve talked about what might contribute to that. But we haven’t talked about what husbands can do to help their wives enjoy sex.

Juli shares a conversation from Gary Thomas’ Podcast where she was a panelist alongside Debra Fileta and Belah Rose.

Host: Gary Thomas

Featured Speakers: Dr. Juli Slattery, Debra Fileta, MA, LPC and Belah Rose

Gary’s Website: garythomas.com

Gary’s Newsletter: garythomasbooks.substack.com

Book: Married Sex by Gary Thomas and Debra Fileta, MA, LPC

Book: Rethinking Sexuality by Dr. Juli Slattery

Book: God, Sex and Your Marriage by Dr. Juli Slattery

Juli’s Website: authenticintimacy.com

Debra’s Website: debrafileta.com

Belah’s Website: delightyourmarriage.com

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#560 Can Biblical Churches be LGBTQ-friendly? Mar 31, 2025

There are so many challenges that come with leading a church well, especially when it comes to how to express their stance on Biblical sexuality. Many want to be a place where people can wrestle with the truth about God and sex and figure things out, while also being sure to prioritize biblical orthodoxy. How can they do both?

Pastor Evan Wickham, from Park Hill Church in San Diego, joins Juli to share lessons he’s learned and what his church is doing to lead biblically with clarity and love.

NOTE: We had some technical issues with recording this episode, but wanted to make sure you got to hear a great conversation--thanks for being patient with us!

Guest: Evan Wickham

Park Hill’s Instagram: @prkhllchrch

Evan’s Instagram: @evanwickham

Park Hill’s Website: parkhillsd.church

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Blog: Has God Changed His Mind About Sex?

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#559 What if Male Sexuality Is More Complex Than We Think? Mar 24, 2025

Historically, inside and outside the church, male sexuality has been talked about as a purely orgasm-driven experience.

But is it possible we have oversimplified the male sexual experience? What if there’s more to the way men think and feel about sex than we’ve previously considered?

Dr. Corey Allan joins Juli for a very different conversation about male sexuality.

Guest: Dr. Corey Allan

Corey’s Website: smr.fm

Corey’s Instagram: @sexymarriageradio

Resource: Purity Culture Failed Men Too

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#558 Christians Need To Change The Way They Talk About Married Sex Mar 17, 2025

As we work to change the purity narrative and undo many of its effects, we have to look at some of the continued harm it does to marriages. There’s still so much missing in the way Christian couples are taught about marital intimacy.

How can Christians celebrate the gift of sex that God gave in marriage?

Juli shares a conversation she had with the late Dr. Doug Rosenau, where he shared both what is missing and what is needed in the church when it comes to talking about the beauty of sex in marriage.

Guest: Dr. Doug Rosenau, Institute for Sexual Wholeness

Institute for Sexual Wholeness

Book: The Gift of Sex: A Guide to Sexual Fulfillment by Clifford and Joyce Penner

Book: A Celebration of Sex: A Guide to Enjoying God's Gift of Sexual Intimacy by Douglas E. Rosenau

Podcast: #543 How the Old Testament Reveals God’s Heart for Women, Sex, and Covenant Love

Transcript

00:00 - Introduction to Christian Sexuality Conversations

03:14 - The Church’s Perspective on Sex in Marriage

16:26 - Understanding Female Sexuality and Mutual Pleasure

29:13 - Nuancing Gender and Desire in Sexual Conversations

Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

#557 Understanding The Harm of Purity Culture and How to Move Forward Mar 10, 2025

One of the biggest criticisms of purity culture is the way it reduced sexuality to a list of do’s and don’ts, but there are lots of other reasons millennial men and women report feeling burned by it.

Dr. Camden Morgante, author of “Recovering from Purity Culture”, shares some of the harmful narratives that formed the movement, and provides some alternative approaches to discussing sexuality.

Guest: Dr. Camden Morgante

Website: drcamden.com

Instagram: @drcamden

Book: Recovering From Purity Culture by Dr. Camden Morgante

Free Resource: Why You Still Need Boundaries As You Pursue Sexual Integrity

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Timestamps

00:00 Introduction to Purity Culture

02:13 Camden’s Personal Journey and Professional Insights

05:58 Understanding the Harm of Purity Culture

09:52 Navigating Sexual Awakening in Adolescence

13:58 The Importance of Teaching Values