It’s Not Normal It’s Toxic: Rid Your Life of Toxic People

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Bonus Episode Mar 31, 2026

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As you know I began a second podcast a few months ago so each of my shows can have a focused perspective. This podcast, It’s not normal it’s toxic is an educational resource for you to better understand the toxic relationships in your life through the experiences I had while in mine. Fak’n Tired my other podcast was also inspired by events in my life. Managing the ups and downs, managing my emotions, as well as managing the other relationships in my life did not go as I thought it would. There was so much shrapnel, so many residual effects from the toxic relationship I had been in that I was for a time completely unaware of. Avoiding and ignoring the need for healing became so overwhelming for me I wanted to disappear. So as I write the episodes for Fak’n Tired I often wonder if it would have been different if I had known all this before it did. The bonus episodes you hear are the Fak’n Tired episodes that I believe could possibly make your journey go a little smoother than mine did.

Today in part 2 of the Biology of the Battle, Dr. Heidi explores the impact of toxic relationships on the nervous system and how survival behaviors can persist long after leaving such environments. She introduces the Survival Mode Assessment (SMA) to help individuals identify their post-trauma behaviors and discusses the importance of understanding the nervous system's role in trauma recovery. The conversation delves into the various data collectors within the nervous system, including nociception and neuroception, and emphasizes the need for recalibration to achieve inner peace and emotional stability.

Whether you are presently in a toxic relationship or you are trying to rebuild after a toxic relationship it can feel impossible to take the steps you desire. Dr Heidi knows it can feel extreme to ask for help, at least it did for her. Because she has been where you are now, she gets it so her service offerings focus on your needs. Start by taking the Toxicity Profile Analysis for validation or the Survival Mode Assessment for understanding.

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#256 The Helpless Hustle Mar 24, 2026

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This episode explores the 'helpless hustle' behavior in toxic personalities, where they pretend to be incompetent to avoid responsibility and control shared tasks. Dr. Heidi provides insights on recognizing this pattern, its impact on relationships, and strategies to protect your time and energy.

Bonus Episode Mar 16, 2026

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In this episode, Dr. Heidi explores the intricate relationship between the nervous system and our survival instincts, particularly in the context of toxic relationships. She discusses how our bodies react to perceived threats, the biological mechanisms behind these reactions, and the importance of understanding these processes to reclaim control over our emotional health. The conversation delves into the brain's response to danger, the role of boundaries, and the impact of past trauma on present behavior.

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#255 The Accountability Allergy Mar 10, 2026

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In this conversation, Dr. Heidi explores the concept of toxic traits in relationships, emphasizing that toxic individuals are not inherently bad but may exhibit manipulative behaviors that disrupt healthy interactions. She introduces the idea of the 'accountability allergy,' detailing its symptoms, including blame shifting, projection, and deflection. Dr. Heidi provides insights on how to recognize these behaviors and strategies to maintain emotional well-being when dealing with toxic individuals.

Bonus Episode Mar 03, 2026

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In this episode of "Fake and Tired," Dr. Heidi delves into the complexities of recovering from toxic relationships and the lasting effects they can have on one's mental and emotional well-being. She shares her personal journey, highlighting the confusion and exhaustion that often accompany the aftermath of such relationships. Dr. Heidi emphasizes the importance of understanding one's own behaviors and reactions, which may have been shaped by past events, and how they show up in everyday life, even in safe environments. The episode serves as a call to action for listeners to recognize these behaviors in themselves and begin the journey toward healing and self-acceptance.

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#254 The Dry Erase Board Feb 10, 2026

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Dr Heidi knows it can feel overwhelming to ask for help, at least it did for her. As one who has been where you are now, perhaps one of her service offerings would feel less extreme, and would be totally confidential. Let her experience be your secret weapon.

https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/

In this episode Dr. Heidi discusses the complexities of toxic relationships, focusing on the Toxicity Profile Analysis (TPA) as a tool for understanding personal situations. She elaborates on manipulative tactics used by toxic individuals, particularly the 'dry erase board' technique, where they alter past events to fit the story line that betters the part they played. Dr. Heidi emphasizes the importance of self-validation and maintaining one's own memory as a defense against emotional manipulation.

TPA (Toxicity Profile Analysis):

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SMA (Survival Mode Assessment):

https://coachingwithdrheidi.base44.app/SurvivalModeAssessment

#253 The Magic Drama Wand Jan 27, 2026

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Take the Toxicity Profile Analysis

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Apply to become an exclusive “Freedom…Me!” Client:

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Continuing in her series of highlighting the toxic personalities predictability, Dr. Heidi”s focus in this episode is on how certain personalities thrive on chaos and drama. She explains the mechanisms behind their need for attention and control, and offers insights on how individuals can reclaim their peace and stability. The discussion emphasizes the importance of self-awareness and the ability to disengage from the emotional turmoil created by toxic individuals.

Here is the link to Dr Heidi’s other podcast: Fak’n Tired

https://open.spotify.com/show/0IGMxKcGNPOPDQMrCmfs8a?si=pYah9QsXTduaaGOEUzsCTA

Dr Heidi knows it can feel extreme to ask for help, at least it did for her. Maybe one of her service offerings would feel less extreme, and would be totally confidential. Let her experience be your secret weapon.

https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/

**BONUS EPISODE** Jan 19, 2026

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Dr Heidi knows it can feel extreme to ask for help, at least it did for her. As one who has been where you are now, perhaps one of her service offerings would feel less extreme, and would be totally confidential. Let her experience be your secret weapon.

https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/

In this episode of "Fake and Tired," Dr. Heidi engages in a heartfelt conversation with her client Christine, who shares her transformative journey through the Freedom Me program. The discussion revolves around the emotional toll of toxic relationships and the importance of self-awareness and healing. Christine reflects on her past experiences, revealing how she felt trapped in unhealthy dynamics and the steps she took to reclaim her life. Dr. Heidi emphasizes the significance of recognizing toxic behaviors and the power of self-validation, encouraging listeners to confront their own struggles with authenticity and self-acceptance.

The episode also highlights the practical tools and insights gained from the program, including the use of a flowchart to identify toxic behaviors and the importance of setting boundaries. Christine's candid reflections on her progress serve as a beacon of hope for those feeling lost in similar situations. The conversation culminates in a powerful reminder that healing is a journey, and it's essential to prioritize oneself in the process of recovery from emotional exhaustion and toxicity.

Apply to be the next Exclusive Freedom…Me! Private client:https://drheidischeduleme.as.me/freedom

#252 The Vending Machine Jan 13, 2026

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Take the Toxicity Profile Analysis https://coachingwithdrheidi.base44.app/ToxicityProfileAnalysis

Apply to become an exclusive “Freedom…Me!” Client:

https://drheidischeduleme.as.me/schedule/dddd1d6e

Today, Dr. Heidi continues to explore the dynamics of toxic relationships, particularly focusing on how individuals with toxic personalities view others as mere resources for emotional support. She introduces the concept of the 'vending machine' dynamic, where the toxic person only engages when they need something, leading to emotional abuse and control. Dr. Heidi emphasizes the importance of recognizing these patterns and taking steps to protect oneself from falling into the vending machine trap.

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#251 The Glass House Dec 30, 2025

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Take the Toxicity Profile Analysis

https://coachingwithdrheidi.base44.app/ToxicityProfileAnalysis

Apply to become an exclusive “Freedom…Me!” Client:

https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/freedom-me-exclusive-private-coaching

In this episode, Dr. Heidi explores the concept of the 'glass house' as a metaphor for the toxic personality's fragile self-image. She discusses the role of the 'chief editor' who manages the narrative to protect this image, the unpredictability of toxic behaviors, and the intense need to be right that drives these individuals. The conversation emphasizes understanding these dynamics to regain personal power and clarity in relationships with toxic individuals.

Here is the link to Dr Heidi’s other podcast: Fak’n Tired

https://open.spotify.com/show/0IGMxKcGNPOPDQMrCmfs8a?si=pYah9QsXTduaaGOEUzsCTA

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