It’s Not Normal It’s Toxic: Rid Your Life of Toxic People

Toxic Tidbit Time - Announcement Oct 22, 2024

In this tidbit Dr Heidi shares briefly her personal journey of healing through her training in Neurosomatic Intelligence, which has transformed her understanding of how the long term effects of emotional and psychological abuse has impacted her personal life. Dr. Heidi also announces the closure of her Facebook support group, 'Strength Within,' explaining the reasons behind this decision and emphasizing her commitment to guiding individuals towards healing and freedom.

#234-Threats within a Toxic Relationship Oct 02, 2024

Dr. Heidi explains how each toxic person is not the same in the level of severity. In the more extreme toxic relationships threats will be different than with a less extreme personality. Focusing on the nature of threats used by toxic individuals to manipulate and control others you must take into account that some will indeed turn into action. She shares personal experiences and insights on how fear and guilt can trap individuals in unhealthy dynamics, emphasizing the importance of recognizing these patterns and seeking support even when fearful. The conversation encourages listeners to evaluate their relationships and understand that they deserve to feel safe and healthy.

Toxic Tidbit Time Sep 20, 2024

Toxic Tidbit Time Sep 15, 2024

A single puzzle piece does not make any sense if it is all by itself.

But when you put that puzzle piece with other pieces things begin to fit together and start making a little more sense it is not until you have all the pieces connected that the bigger picture finally emerges.

One behavior by a toxic person may not make sense to you, but when you put that behavior with others, things begin to fit together and start making a little more sense.

It is my hope to help you connect all of these pieces so the bigger picture of what you are actually dealing with in your relationships begins to emerge.

Toxic tidbits are an addition to my well known podcast Its not normal, it’s toxic.

Toxic tidbits may be my thoughts

Questions from clients or listeners.

Quotes that I find helpful

Any little thing that crosses my path that I believe may be helpful for you on your path.

For additional information on how Dr Heidi supports in freeing yourself from the toxic relationships

in your life, go to :

https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/

You will find all the services she provides to help you move forward no matter where you are right now.

Toxic Tidbit Time Aug 30, 2024

A single puzzle piece does not make any sense if it is all by itself.

But when you put that puzzle piece with other pieces things begin to fit together and start making a little more sense it is not until you have all the pieces connected that the bigger picture finally emerges.

One behavior by a toxic person may not make sense to you, but when you put that behavior with others, things begin to fit together and start making a little more sense.

It is my hope to help you connect all of these pieces so the bigger picture of what you are actually dealing with in your relationships begins to emerge.

Toxic tidbits are an addition to my well known podcast Its not normal, it’s toxic.

Toxic tidbits may be my thoughts

Questions from clients or listeners.

Quotes that I find helpful

Any little thing that crosses my path that I believe may be helpful for you on your path.

For additional information on how Dr Heidi supports in freeing yourself from the toxic relationships

in your life, go to :

https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/

You will find all the services she provides to help you move forward no matter where you are right now.

Toxic Tidbit Time Aug 25, 2024

A single puzzle piece does not make any sense if it is all by itself.

But when you put that puzzle piece with other pieces things begin to fit together and start making a little more sense it is not until you have all the pieces connected that the bigger picture finally emerges.

One behavior by a toxic person may not make sense to you, but when you put that behavior with others, things begin to fit together and start making a little more sense.

It is my hope to help you connect all of these pieces so the bigger picture of what you are actually dealing with in your relationships begins to emerge.

Toxic tidbits are an addition to my well known podcast Its not normal, it’s toxic.

Toxic tidbits may be my thoughts

Questions from clients or listeners.

Quotes that I find helpful

Any little thing that crosses my path that I believe may be helpful for you on your path.

For additional information on how Dr Heidi supports in freeing yourself from the toxic relationships in

your life, go to:

https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/

You will find all the services she provides to help you move forward no matter where you are right now.

#234 Feeling Stuck? Aug 23, 2024

In this episode, Dr. Heidi discusses the feeling of being stuck and why we get stuck in various areas of our lives. She explores different examples of being stuck, such as in relationships, fitness, career, and parenting. Dr. Heidi emphasizes the importance of self-motivation and being the force that gets us unstuck. She shares personal experiences of feeling stuck and how she overcame it. Dr. Heidi encourages listeners to recognize that they have the power to change their situations and to prioritize their own well-being.

For more on Dr Heidi and her options for guidance visit her website:

https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/

Toxic Tidbit Time Aug 18, 2024

A single puzzle piece does not make any sense if it is all by itself.

But when you put that puzzle piece with other pieces things begin to fit together and start making a little more sense it is not until you have all the pieces connected that the bigger picture finally emerges.

One behavior by a toxic person may not make sense to you, but when you put that behavior with others, things begin to fit together and start making a little more sense.

It is my hope to help you connect all of these pieces so the bigger picture of what you are actually dealing with in your relationships begins to emerge.

Toxic tidbits are an addition to my well known podcast Its not normal, it’s toxic.

Toxic tidbits may be my thoughts

Questions from clients or listeners.

Quotes that I find helpful

Any little thing that crosses my path that I believe may be helpful for you on your path.

For additional information on how Dr Heidi supports in freeing yourself from the toxic relationships in your life, go to :

https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/

You will find all the services she provides to help you move forward no matter where you are right now.

Toxic Tidbit Time Aug 16, 2024

A single puzzle piece does not make any sense if it is all by itself.

But when you put that puzzle piece with other pieces things begin to fit together and start making a little more sense it is not until you have all the pieces connected that the bigger picture finally emerges.

One behavior by a toxic person may not make sense to you, but when you put that behavior with others, things begin to fit together and start making a little more sense.

It is my hope to help you connect all of these pieces so the bigger picture of what you are actually dealing with in your relationships begins to emerge.

Toxic tidbits are an addition to my well known podcast Its not normal, it’s toxic.

Toxic tidbits may be my thoughts

Questions from clients or listeners.

Quotes that I find helpful

Any little thing that crosses my path that I believe may be helpful for you on your path.

For additional information on how Dr Heidi supports in freeing yourself from the toxic relationships in your life, go to :

https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/

You will find all the services she provides to help you move forward no matter where you are right now.

#233- Making Emotional Decisions vs Logical Decisions Aug 15, 2024

Are you one, like myself that makes or has made decisions in your life based on how you were "feeling" at the time?

Those who have been blessed with the emotionally wired personality will struggle with this because our emotions are so strong. The thing with emotions is that they change, and they change often depending on how the dynamics around us change.

Learning to see logic through your feelings can make the difference when making decisions that affect your future.

I had to learn the hard way that logic is a must to consider your future when making decisions.

Follow the link below for more information on the work that I do helping people, like yourself, understand the relationship confusion a little better.

https://drheiditoxicrelationshipsupportgroups.start.page

Toxic Tidbit Time Aug 06, 2024

A single puzzle piece does not make any sense if it is all by itself.

But when you put that puzzle piece with other pieces things begin to fit together and start making a little more sense it is not until you have all the pieces connected that the bigger picture finally emerges.

One behavior by a toxic person may not make sense to you, but when you put that behavior with others, things begin to fit together and start making a little more sense.

It is my hope to help you connect all of these pieces so the bigger picture of what you are actually dealing with in your relationships begins to emerge.

Toxic tidbits are an addition to my well known podcast Its not normal, it’s toxic.

Toxic tidbits may be my thoughts

Questions from clients or listeners.

Quotes that I find helpful

Any little thing that crosses my path that I believe may be helpful for you on your path.

For additional information on how Dr Heidi supports in freeing yourself from the toxic relationships in your life, go to :

https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/

You will find all the services she provides to help you move forward no matter where you are right now.

#232 - I Was Blindsided -with guest Jul 30, 2024

In this conversation, Dr. Heidi interviews John about his toxic marriage. They discuss the beginning of the relationship, the red flags he missed, and the progression of the relationship. John shares how his ex-wife's bipolar disorder and jealousy affected their relationship and let to it becoming unhealthy for him to stay in. He also talks about feeling isolated and the impact it had on him and his identity. The conversation highlights the importance of recognizing unhealthy relationships and seeking support. In this conversation, the guest shares how the toxic person used tactics like verbally attacking those he loved to drive a wedge and faking a break-in to gain attention and control. . The guest emphasized how self-trust, setting boundaries, and seeking support from loved ones helped his overcome this chapter of his life to move on with lessons learned.

#231 Loving Yourself Through Acceptance - with Bela Gandhi Jun 25, 2024

Hope, Healing, & Freedom for those whose lives have been affected by toxic relationships is the mission of my work. Our guest today understands my work, maybe better than most. She has also worked with many who have some out of toxic relationships. She see too that oftentimes they were drawn to the same type of relationship over and over again. Bela helped them change that and find wonderful partners that made them happy.

Bela Gandhi is a nationally acclaimed dating & relationship expert. Her business, The Smart Dating Academy offers the best tips to start dating smarter to help you find real and lasting love. Bela is a sought out correspondent and works with all major networks including Steve Harvey, NBC, ABC, FOX, CNN, JET, Essence, Forbes, WGN, and more… She is THE dating expert for Good Morning America and The Today Show and has regular appearances on both shows.

Today she tells us about her work and how she began in the relationship realm. She also expands on how she guides her clients though the dating process, no matter their background so they find what they are truly looking for.

Get to know her more by listening to her podcast.

https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/podcast

#230 I Wanted a Grey Couch.... so how did I get here? Jun 20, 2024

How did I end up here?

Good question because when I was where you are, I was asking the exact same thing.

I knew the decision to be in that relationship was not a good one. I knew it from the very beginning.

How did I know? I could feel it. I knew something felt off but I could not put my finger on it.

Listen to todays episode and follow the pattern described. Does this sound like you and your situation.

If you are looking to take the TPA that was mentioned in the episode you can do that here on my website.

https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/

If you are looking for answers as to why you are finding yourself in something that is not comfortable for you or you are suspecting may even be toxic for you, do not feel ashamed to ask. I didn't ask and it took me a long time to get where I am today. However, I am here today to be the person that I needed when I was trying to understand how I got there; for you.

To see all my offered services to educate, to empower, to support you click here:

https://drheiditoxicrelationshipsupportgroups.start.page

#229 -10 Reasons Toxic Relationships Are So Confusing Jun 11, 2024

Why are these relationships so confusing? Why is it so hard to make a decision? Why do I find myself questioning if I have tried hard enough? Do you find that you are asking yourself these same questions? Well, in truth there are a number of reasons as to why these relationships are so confusing, why we leave and go back, and why we question our decisions. In this episode I cover 10 reason why toxic relationships are so confusing. Take a listen and see if you can relate to the same thing within your relationship. Dr Heidi is dedicated to helping you understand the situation you are in so that some of the confusion can be cleared. To find out more about the services offered follow this link: https://drheiditoxicrelationshipsupportgroups.start.page Or go to https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/ and take the Toxicity Profile Analysis (TPA) and see if your relationship may indeed be unhealthy for you.

#228 Have you Unplugged your Defense System? Jun 05, 2024

Always follow your intuition they say. Ok, what if we don't know how to recognize our intuition amongst the convoluted words of others. Your body has a built in defense system but overtime it seems to stop working for our good.

What are some signs that you could be receiving from you defense system headquarters? Well, you may feel tense, have circular thoughts, a pit in your stomach, or the sense you should avoid something, some place, or some person

All of these signs (different for different people) may indeed be your bodies natural defense system attempting to keep you safe.

It would be easier to see if it came with a flashing light or an electric shock and then an arrow pointing to the right choice, but it doesn't. Your intuition always comes in neutral, and does not tell you what to do.

WELL UNFORTUNATELY NEITHER THE FLASHING LIGHTS NOR THE ELECTRIC SHOCK HAPPENED IN MY SITUATION AND TADA... I MISSED IT.

Trusting your intuition is something that is learned. There may be mistakes, wrong decision, and opposite directions before you learn how to follow the safe route it is showing you.

Looking for guided support in your healing from unhealthy relationship? The services offered by Dr Heidi can be found in the link below. She has walked through the fire and now helps others do the same.

https://drheiditoxicrelationshipsupportgroups.start.page

#227 What is my secret to everything?...Having a Plan! Apr 16, 2024

The Priority…Me!!! Retreat Is back, but this time available to any and all without travel or time off work. It Is scheduled Monday, May 13 through Friday, May 17, 2024.

By using your PODCAST PATRON DISCOUNT CODE: ILISTEN15 you will receive 15% off when register. (Code excludes the hardship payment option)

For more information and registration

https://drheiditoxicrelationshipsupportgroups.start.page

Guest speakers include 3 of my latest podcast guest.. can you guess who?

After years of doing the up and down, back and forth, taking care of myself, giving it up for others, then back to taking care of myself, I have learned and am thankful to tell you that what I discovered was this…. I ACTUALLY HAVE WAY MORE CONTROL THAN I THOUGHT IT DID.

When things were not going well, I would look to others to support me through it, to fix it for me, and possibly take the blame for it. However, in the end it has always been a result of me slacking in the area of self care and prioritizing myself. The other thing that I learned the hard way was that is was MY responsibility no one else’s. (That part hurt for a while, I was tired, I didn’t want to carry it anymore…..but when you have no other option than to rely on yourself …. You will figure out a way to do it.)

3 DAYS PUTTING MY ATTENTION BACK ON MYSELF AND wallah!

#226 When it is Time to Declutter Apr 13, 2024

Professional home organizer Cass Henry tells of her recent experience with decluttering her life by “throwing out” a relationship that was taking up too much space. She is an inspiration to all she encounters. Though just recently free, she is encouraging others to follow her lead and let go of the things that are cluttering up your life. Find Cass at transformedspaces.ca If you are wanting more details on the mentioned Priority…Me!!! Online retreat you can find those details along with all the other services offered by Coaching with Dr Heidi here. https://drheiditoxicrelationshipsupportgroups.start.page

#225 Spiritual Abuse and the Crooked Little Girl Apr 02, 2024

After spending her first 40 years in the cultish Evangelical world, picking up many layers of cPTSD from family, religion and marriage. Charlotte is rebuilding her new life as a single mom of five kids (who has stopped homeschooling by the way.... tough decision) Single moms usually work, but in 2020 with complications from long covid she developed brain injuries along with some nervous system damage. She lost the entry level jobs she attempted to work and was unable to keep up with her long-time usual pace. This is a glimpse of her journey. Through an unhealthy marriage (arranged by the church) the leaving her evangelical upbringing (with its magical, mystical promises), She has learned God doesn’t pay your loans for you or stop abuse even if you make a covenant with Him. There is work to be done on your own part to break free of false hopes and lies in order to find your true self. Today Charlotte carries her message through her very own podcast "Crooked Little Girl" Take a listen: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/crooked-little-girl/id1697643420 Charlotte has been a long time listener of this podcast, It's Not Normal It's Toxic, and has been a member of my online support group for many years. (https://www.facebook.com/groups/drheidistrength Her mission is to speak on the spiritual abuse she endured and warn others of falsities within religion where the teachings are... well abusive.

#224 Freedom from Coping, When Coping with Toxic Mar 17, 2024

Sabrina Magnan is a Food Freedom & intuitive Eating Coach who helps chronic dieters heal their relationship with food & their bodies and develop lasting health-promoting habits so that they can find true authentic health, free from the obsession and guilt. Sabrina has a website as well as a podcast if you are looking for more information. https://sabrinamagnan.com/ https://sabrinamagnan.com/podcast

#223 Grateful for the Past Mar 06, 2024

In this episode I will speak with 3 people that I have gotten to know very well over the last few years, they are all members of Strength Within. "Strength Within" is the support group that I run on facebook for those seeking understanding in your situation. The 3 guest today will be answering questions about how their lives would be different today if they had not gone through what they went through. These are some strong, determined, and now happy people who once did not feels as if they were. I hope this episode is as encouraging for you as it was for me while recording. Here is the link to the "Strength Within" facebook group if you are searching for a community that understands. https://www.facebook.com/groups/drheidistrength Looking for a deep dive? All services provided can be seen here: https://drheiditoxicrelationshipsupportgroups.start.page

#222 Making the Impossible Your New Normal - with Fiji McAlpine Feb 29, 2024

I know that you are going through times of adversity in your life, the high demands of your relationship and just plain keeping life in balance often seems like more than you can handle. Today you will be listening to me speak with a guest who has also had her share of adversities. Fiji McAlpine, today's guest is a yoga virtuoso who turned personal adversity into a global movement. After a debilitating back injury at 21, Fiji discovered the transformative power of yoga. Not just a remedy for her physical pain, yoga became her lifeline out of anorexia as well as an unhealthy marriage. This was an eye opening episode for me to record as she calls out many things that I KNOW I need to be implementing into my journey of healing and self discovery. She even calls me out and gives me a challenge, join me in the 14 day Yoga challenge that can be found on her website here: https://www.doyogawithme.com/content/14-day-yoga-challenge

Without changing something our adversities grow, the more they pile up the more impossible making a change feels. Where body and mind connect is where Fiji has found her "Possible"

Looking for a community to support you through learning, healing, and growing after a toxic relationship?

Check out the We're INNIT Together Growth & Support Community here:

https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/we-are-innit-together-community

#221 The "Just Enough" Relationship & the Confusion they Cause Feb 13, 2024

The “Just Enough” Relationship is a devistation that almost no one ever sees coming. The just enough relationship is one that gives you “just enough” to keep you invested in the relationship, but not enough for you to feel safe, accepted, or appreciated.We tend to lower our standards as we accept less and less from those who are giving “just enough”. Real effort is not given unless the relationship is threatened.One is giving the least amount they can get away with giving and the other gives until they are desperately drained. You can become used to the way the “just enough” relationship is and accept not being valued or settle much less than you deserve.Relationships do not have to have huge flaws in order for you to justify leaving or changing one that is not right for you. How long have you stayed in the "just enough" relationship, at the "just enough" job, in the "just enough" friendship because you grew used to the poor treatment.

#220 It's All About the Kids! - with guest Elle Barr Feb 03, 2024

We all know that divorce is hard. It is something that affects everyone who is in the lives of those who are separating. With so much going on many do not realize the impact these changes have on the children that are caught in the middle. Those going through an amicable divorce can usually navigate things well so the children adapt with everyone else, but for those who are going through a high conflict divorce the storyline is much different. As a family law attorney and GAL for the state of Pennsylvania Elle Barr, has dedicated her life to making sure when there are kids involved she keeps her focus on them. Listen how she got into this work and how it has become her passion to protect those who are not able to protect themselves as "mom & dad" try to settle their differences. Learn more about Elle Barr here: https://ellebarr.com/ Be sure to follow her on social media: https://www.linkedin.com/in/elle-barr-252b14104 insta: @elle.barr.galGroups & programs currently available to you through Coaching with Dr Heidi are listed here: https://drheiditoxicrelationshipsupportgroups.start.page

#219 Are you "On the Fence?" Jan 23, 2024

How many time have you gone back and forth between, "I should leave this relationship" and "maybe it's not that bad"? More than you care to remember I am sure. Making this decision is not easy, I know this because if it was easy, you would have already made it. If you are anything like me when I was in your position, then you are trying to make this difficult decision with only half of the information. You are the only one who can make this decision, but we don't realize it. Instead what we do, is allow their mood to make that decision. If they are in a good mood, we choose to stay, and when they are in a bad mood or treating us badly we will choose to leave. The problem with that is, it is never consistent, it is always unpredictable. So we swing back and for from staying and leaving almost on a daily basis. If you are one that can relate then this podcast is for you and my newest program is for you too. "On the Fence!" is a 3 month program that will give you the information you need to make the decision that is very best for you, and, you will make that decision with confidence. You can not decide anything with only half of the information. THE "ON THE FENCE!" 3 MONTH PROGRAM IS STARTING: Feb 5, 2024 This is an intense program lead and taught by Dr Heidi. IF YOU COULD FIND THE ANSWER TO THIS CONTINUALLY WEIGHING QUESTION, HOW WOULD IT CHANGE YOUR LIFE. All the information you will need to start moving forward. Its time, and it's your turn!

FOR MORE INFORMATION ON THE GROUP AND ALL OF

DR HEIDI'S SERVICES CLICK HERE:

https://drheiditoxicrelationshipsupportgroups.start.page

#218 A Deeper Look into Betrayal with guest Dr. Debi Silber Jan 16, 2024

Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert. Over the last 30+ years, she has supported thousands of people to heal physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.
She is fully dedicated to this mission because she believes that betrayal is one of the most painful experiences one could ever have. She knows because she has been there.

It was her own betrayals, first from her family and then from her husband, that shattered her heart, trust, and life as she knew it.

Betrayal can be something you carry around for a very long time without even realizing it. There is more than just one stage of betrayal, which one are you? Post betrayal syndrome will carry over into all aspects of your health and your life. Dr Debi walks with others through each stage giving the support that she knows her clients will need in order to stay focused and value the changes that the act of betrayal brought into their lives.

Learn more about Dr. Debi and her work by visiting her website: https://thepbtinstitute.com/

Follow Dr Debi on facebook:

https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform

or instagram https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/

Looking for a support group? Looking for answers? Are you confused about your relationship? Don't know where to begin? I am here to help. Visit my website for some tips on how and where to begin your journey to freedom from the toxic relationships is your life. https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/work-with-me

#217 Dr Heidi's Instructions for Life Dec 29, 2023

2023 is coming to an end. I can not believe another year has come and gone. This year was a years of... UGG.. learning, digging, admitting, understanding, & growth for me. I had an indescribable year. If there is an emotion out there... I had it! If there was a feeling...I felt it! If there was a doubt...I questioned it! If there was trust... I tested it! And if there was change...I resisted it! 2023 wore me slick out, but in the end, it was incredible. I NEEDED IT! Dr Heidi Instructions for life that you will hear in this episode were born out of this year of transformation. They will not all resonate with you, but that is to be expected.... They are "MY" instructions for life. I hope you enjoy and I hope you take the time to reflect and write your own. Here is to another beautiful year.! Thank you for your continued support and trust in me! - Dr Heidi

#216 The Holiday Betrayal Roller Coaster Dec 19, 2023

Are you going through yet another holiday season, that does not all resemble the one you once had pictured in your mind. When you have relationships in your life that are not healthy for you, where controlling behaviors are present, or where that has been betrayal the supposed "Peace on Earth" doesn't seem so peaceful. Rather than spreading your "Joy to the World" you would rather "Deck someone's Halls". How do we navigate this time of year while attempting to balance all our normal responsibilities plus the added holiday demands while the toxic people in our lives go off the rails to ruin it all for us. We know they do this because your focus is not all on them like it normally is. This caused discomfort to their security and thus causes new, changed, or amplified behavior. Needing some tips to get you through the next couple weeks? Listen as our "betrayal expert" Dr Debi Silber shares with us how to juggle the painful devastation of betrayal while still longing to enjoy your holidays.

Dr. Debi Silber is the founder the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) institute. Learn more about Dr. Debi and her work by visiting her website: https://thepbtinstitute.com/

Looking for a support group? Looking for answers? Are you confused about your relationship? Don't know where to begin? I am here to help. Visit my website for some tips on how and where to begin your journey to freedom from the toxic relationships is your life. https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/work-with-me

#215 Been There, Done it, Now Helping Others-(with Guests Kerry McAvoy Ph.D. & Tara Blair Ball) Nov 21, 2023

Today I was able to speak with fellow podcast hosts to get their perspective on the toxic relationship when there are narcissistic behaviors present. Kerry McAvoy, Ph.D, a mental health clinician, & Tara Blair Ball, a certified relationship coach, together are the hosts of the podcast "Breaking free from Narcissistic Abuse".

The long term effects for those involved in toxic relationship are devastating. Those around you will not understand which will lead you to feel isolated to protect yourself. Kerry & Tara discuss how the brain changes when you are in relationships requiring survival from day to day. Why we see things differently than many and how to overcome the challenges that face us post toxic relationship. Some misconceptions about the toxic relationship are debunked giving some insight on how to heal yourself.

You can find them here on their website or on social media sites

@breakingfreefromnarcabuse.

If you are seeking support for your situation check out the communities available at Coaching with Dr Heidi.

We're INNIT Together Support Community

Listen now!

#214 The Masks We Wear Nov 17, 2023

Masking our personality is something that we all struggle with. It is easy to want to cover up who we really are around people who may not like us, around those who make us feel unsafe, or around those who we are threatened by. We change who we are in certain environments so our vulnerable ares and weaknesses do not show. Why would we do this? To gain approval/acceptance of others - To avoid conflict - To lessen fear - To gain love - To make others happy. I am not pointing fingers at anyone because I myself had perfected the art of mask wearing when I found myself facing the shame of being in an emotionally abusive relationship for many years. I did not realize the damage that had been done to my emotional health until years later. In order to hide my past I began to wear masks to that I would not have to explain to others anything about the shame I felt. I am not sure that anyone knew the true Heidi for many many years. What masks do you wear? Want to know where to go next? What is the best thing to do first? Click here and see how you are feeling right now and lets get started on throwing your masks out the window. https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/work-with-me

#213 Making Things Little is a Bigger Deal Than You Think Oct 31, 2023

Why is it that with the toxic relationship comes the art of minimization? To minimize is to take significant things, either good or bad, and lessen the importance or degree of them. In a nutshell minimizing makes the good things seem not so good and the bad seem not so bad. When we learn to minimize in a unhealthy relationship it allows us to avoid dealing with our emotions and our feelings. Do you minimize the things you should be celebrating? Are you minimizing abusive behavior? Learning how the emotionally abusive relationship can change so much in us just out of our need to survive. If you want more information about my services go to:https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/ If you are looking for a group for guidance & support check out the We're INNIT Together Community here: https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/we-are-innit-together-community

#212 The Transformation Truth Oct 24, 2023

Whether we like it or not transformations show up in our lives, sometimes at the most inconvenient times. We can fight them, but that will only make them last longer. The transformations in your life are there for a reason. We were not meant to stay the same person, we were meant to grow, to learn, to be our true self. With each transformation, even the painful ones, you will see that they are working for your good and for a place of higher peace in your life. To learn more about my mission and my work in the toxic relationship realm go to: https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/

#211 Let me Read You Your Rights! Oct 13, 2023

Unhealthy relationships change us, rewire us, cause us to adapt in order to survive. Being in a longstanding toxic relationship changed my view of myself, my life, and the things that I deserved. I forgot that I was important too. I put all my energy in to making the relationship “feel” safe and in the end, I lost myself which doesn’t feel safe at all. We, as individuals have certain rights. You had them given to you the minute you were born, yet they seem to disappear when surviving each day becomes your focus. Listen to this episode to hear the things you are entitled to just for being a person. Most were lost for me, ignored, or forgotten during my time in an unhealthy relationship. This episode will remind you of those rights and possibly open your eyes to the reality that you have been unable to execute them. If you are looking for a list of the rights that were read in this episode you can either search “personal bill of rights” or follow this link: https://www.etsu.edu/students/counseling/documents/stressgps/personalbillofrights.pdf As always if you are looking for further support https://coachingwithdrheidi.com will get you to my website where you can schedule a session or join the membership support community where you will find the support to make the changes you did not think you could make.

#210 The Struggle After Leaving! Oct 03, 2023

I direct people daily to specific podcast episodes they need to hear according to the situation they are in right now. Last week I featured the top episode for those seeking validation. This week I would like to suggest some to those who have made the choice for themselves to leave a relationship but who now may be struggling with self doubt or guilt. If you are feeling alone and uncomfortable now when you thought you were ready… it’s ok, it is normal to feel this way for a while. The following episodes may help explain why. If you feel you need more support you can always head over to my website and schedule a session with me I would be happy to support where I can. https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/consult-page You are not alone on this journey!

#209 Seeking Validation? Sep 26, 2023

I talk to a lot of people in a week, and I find myself referring them to the podcast episodes that I feel resonate with what they are needing right NOW. For those who are seeking validation that it is not all your fault, that you are not crazy, that you have tried your best; for those who have just begun there journey of learning what an unhealthy relationship can look like, these are for you. The top 4 most recommended (by me) It’s Not Normal It’s Toxic episodes for those seeking validation. If you are just beginning your search for what is not normal I challenge you to head over to my website https://coachingwithdrheidi.com and take the Toxicity Profile Analysis. It is a great tool for those whom toxic behaviors have come to be normal. Also while you are these take a look at the online support community where guidance and acceptance go hand in hand.

#208 A Sneak Peek Aug 01, 2023

Get a sneak peek into a live session in the We’re INNIT Together Membership Support Community. See how it works, see if you like it. I is an example of how the live sessions go. How we interact, and what you can expect when joining the online membership support group. If you think it would be a good fit for you register here and we will see you there! https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/we-are-innit-together-community?sfw=pass1683508208

#207 The Rejection Deception Jul 25, 2023

Rejection is a part of life, we all have times when rejection of a job, a date, or a social circle for example that may set us back a bit but with time there is often growth from the experience. Living in an environment where rejection happens frequently the feeling of unacceptance can overtake ones confidence and self worth.
Being rejected cause a reaction to hang on tighter to whatever is rejecting us. The worry of losing someone or something is more powerful than accepting the fact that you are being rejected.
The toxic personality will use rejection as a manipulation to get those in their lives to hang on tighter. This draws attention back onto them and they feel more in control and secure in the relationship.

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#206 Replay: Help your support system understand better how to support. Jul 17, 2023

We all need the support of others whether we are in a toxic relationship, removing ourselves from a toxic relationship, or healing from a toxic relationship. This episode is for you to forward to those who are wanting to support you but do not understand the dynamics of a toxic relationship. Educating those who love and support you will equip them to stand stronger beside you.

#205 ⭐️Most Popular Episode⭐️to Date for 2023. Love bombing & Hoovering Explained and Compared Jun 28, 2023

We soon figure out that the person from the beginning is not the person we now see in the relationship, that was because of love bombing. However, many are surprised at the behavior of thank you toxic personality when you are trying to exit. It seems strange, confusing, and sometimes hard to believe. I am here to tell you it is believable because it is normal for this to happen during the detachment from a toxic relationship. Listen again to what hoovering is, how it is used, and how to keep your focus while it is happening.

#204💘 Part 4 - My Journey - Through the Eyes of the Man who Loves Me💘 Jun 01, 2023

I would like every one to meet Jeremy aka: My Hot Husband I am not sure that our story is any bigger or better than anyone else's but it is bigger and better to us. He found me at a time in my life when I was but a shell of who I am now. He gave me the feeling that even if it wasn't with him, there was something better out there for me. I am grateful everyday for this man and thankful that God sent him to me when there was no happiness, no laughter, and no direction in my life. I had given up on the hope that my future would be any different than my past and present, and then there he was my glimmer of hope. He loves me inspite of my past situation, my perceptions, and my insecurities. He has supported me in becoming the person I am today and helped me see that I am perfect in the eyes of the heart that was meant to love me. In this 4 part series my husband and I share our perspectives on the experiences, struggles, disappointments, joys, and realities that came with our relationship. With commitment to our love, dedication to each other, and a rule that we must laugh every single day, we have become not only partners in life but also best friends. As always, he stands unwavering by my side on my continued journey to finding my peace.

Have you been looking for a support group? Looking for help making the choices that are best for you? looking for guidance from someone who has been in this exact situation? Needing to make a plan so that the next steps do not feel so frightening? Looking to rediscover yourself after the trauma of a toxic relationship?

The We're INNIT Together Membership Support Community is soooo much more than a support group, so if you are ready to make some changes with the guidance needed to do so, check out the details for the community here:

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#203💘 Part 3 - My Journey - Through the Eyes of the Man who Loves Me💘 Jun 01, 2023

I would like every one to meet Jeremy aka: My Hot Husband I am not sure that our story is any bigger or better than anyone else's but it is bigger and better to us. He found me at a time in my life when I was but a shell of who I am now. He gave me the feeling that even if it wasn't with him, there was something better out there for me. I am grateful everyday for this man and thankful that God sent him to me when there was no happiness, no laughter, and no direction in my life. I had given up on the hope that my future would be any different than my past and present, and then there he was my glimmer of hope. He loves me inspite of my past situation, my perceptions, and my insecurities. He has supported me in becoming the person I am today and helped me see that I am perfect in the eyes of the heart that was meant to love me. In this 4 part series my husband and I share our perspectives on the experiences, struggles, disappointments, joys, and realities that came with our relationship. With commitment to our love, dedication to each other, and a rule that we must laugh every single day, we have become not only partners in life but also best friends. As always, he stands unwavering by my side on my continued journey to finding my peace.

Have you been looking for a support group? Looking for help making the choices that are best for you? looking for guidance from someone who has been in this exact situation? Needing to make a plan so that the next steps do not feel so frightening? Looking to rediscover yourself after the trauma of a toxic relationship?

The We're INNIT Together Membership Support Community is soooo much more than a support group, so if you are ready to make some changes with the guidance needed to do so, check out the details for the community here:

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#202 💘 Part 2- My Journey - Through the Eyes of the Man who Loves Me💘 Jun 01, 2023

I would like every one to meet Jeremy aka: My Hot Husband I am not sure that our story is any bigger or better than anyone else's but it is bigger and better to us. He found me at a time in my life when I was but a shell of who I am now. He gave me the feeling that even if it wasn't with him, there was something better out there for me. I am grateful everyday for this man and thankful that God sent him to me when there was no happiness, no laughter, and no direction in my life. I had given up on the hope that my future would be any different than my past and present, and then there he was my glimmer of hope. He loves me inspite of my past situation, my perceptions, and my insecurities. He has supported me in becoming the person I am today and helped me see that I am perfect in the eyes of the heart that was meant to love me. In this 4 part series my husband and I share our perspectives on the experiences, struggles, disappointments, joys, and realities that came with our relationship. With commitment to our love, dedication to each other, and a rule that we must laugh every single day, we have become not only partners in life but also best friends. As always, he stands unwavering by my side on my continued journey to finding my peace.

Have you been looking for a support group? Looking for help making the choices that are best for you? looking for guidance from someone who has been in this exact situation? Needing to make a plan so that the next steps do not feel so frightening? Looking to rediscover yourself after the trauma of a toxic relationship?

The We're INNIT Together Membership Support Community is soooo much more than a support group, so if you are ready to make some changes with the guidance needed to do so, check out the details for the community here:

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#201 💘 Part 1 - My Journey - Through the Eyes of the Man who Loves Me💘 Jun 01, 2023

I would like every one to meet Jeremy aka: My Hot Husband I am not sure that our story is any bigger or better than anyone else's but it is bigger and better to us. He found me at a time in my life when I was but a shell of who I am now. He gave me the feeling that even if it wasn't with him, there was something better out there for me. I am grateful everyday for this man and thankful that God sent him to me when there was no happiness, no laughter, and no direction in my life. I had given up on the hope that my future would be any different than my past and present, and then there he was my glimmer of hope. He loves me inspite of my past situation, my perceptions, and my insecurities. He has supported me in becoming the person I am today and helped me see that I am perfect in the eyes of the heart that was meant to love me. In this 4 part series my husband and I share our perspectives on the experiences, struggles, disappointments, joys, and realities that came with our relationship. With commitment to our love, dedication to each other, and a rule that we must laugh every single day, we have become not only partners in life but also best friends. As always, he stands unwavering by my side on my continued journey to finding my peace.

Have you been looking for a support group? Looking for help making the choices that are best for you? looking for guidance from someone who has been in this exact situation? Needing to make a plan so that the next steps do not feel so frightening? Looking to rediscover yourself after the trauma of a toxic relationship?

The We're INNIT Together Membership Support Community is soooo much more than a support group, so if you are ready to make some changes with the guidance needed to do so, check out the details for the community here:

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# 208 When the Unexpected Happens - Maranda May 23, 2023

Life is about change, we all know that, but we want change that is happy, that moves us forward, that makes us grow. What happens when that change is unexpected and takes us in the opposite direction? How do we deal with that? We spend our time and energy trying to put things in place to welcome the change that is coming, yet sometimes the bottoms falls out from under us leaving us destitute and hopeless. Maranda is a woman of incredible strength. She had overcome, she had worked hard and she had survived, but when her daughter stepped out of her life all her efforts seemed in vain. What was her direction now? For so long loving and caring for her daughter is what she held on to as her life's purpose. With that swept away she had to refocus on herself and her own life. She had to value herself enough to carry on. Heartbreak and sadness covered her yet she has found her way to inner peace. She has become a guardian of her own soul having to accept the things that she can not control.

Have you been looking for a support group? Looking for help making the choices that are best for you? looking for guidance from someone who has been in this exact situation? Needing to make a plan so that the next steps do not feel so frightening? Looking to rediscover yourself after the trauma of a toxic relationship?

The We're INNIT Together Membership Support Community is soooo much more than a support group, so if you are ready to make some changes with the guidance needed to do so, check out the details for the community here:

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# 207 What is it like when you are TRIGGERED? May 16, 2023

People talk about triggers, we are aware of triggers, we can understand some of them, but the triggers I am speaking of in this episode are the triggers that we can't seem to get away from. The ones that lay silent for a time and then suddenly turn our lives upside down. I have spent almost 15 years thinking I could "fix" all the negative effects toxic relationships had on me, but through frustration and shame I have had to come to terms with the fact that perhaps not all is "fixable". The acceptance of this was difficult. I felt flawed, broken, and beyond repair for so long that acceptance at first felt like I was giving up, in the end though I did not give up....I LET GO! Letting go is such a relief for me, I don't have to live under the pressure of hoping it doesn't happen or predicting when it may happen again because I know it will and I won't know when. I accept that they are part of me, and rather than denying it, I can move through them rather than fight them.

Have you been looking for a support group? Looking for help making the choices that are best for you? looking for guidance from someone who has been in this exact situation? Needing to make a plan so that the next steps do not feel so frightening? Looking to rediscover yourself after the trauma of a toxic relationship?

The We're INNIT Together Membership Support Community is soooo much more than a support group, so if you are ready to make some changes with the guidance needed to do so, check out the details for the community here:

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#206 No more 'Wine-ing'🍷 - with Megan Wilcox May 11, 2023

Once she removed from a toxic relationship, a single mother of two young boys found herself coping with the fear, stress, and loneliness with an occasional glass of wine. As the fear and stress continued so did the 'wine-ing' and it was no longer occasional. She found herself into a bottle of wine every night without the ability to control it. At an all time low, hopeless and depressed she begged for help. When no one came to help she helped herself. Helped herself into an online sobriety support group, helped herself into a sobriety class and helped herself into a new career of supporting others who are using alcohol as a way to cope with life. Today, she is working full time as an Alcohol Free Life Coach and Certified Professional Recovery Coach. She is the founder and CEO of SobahSistahs Sobriety, where she supports and empowers women to follow her lead, help themselves, and live a life free from the chains of alcohol. Learn More about SobahSistahs Sobriety here: Email:megan@sobahsistahs.comWebsite:Sobahsistahs - Health Coach, Nutrition, Sober Coachingwww.sobahsistahs.com

Have you been looking for a support group? Looking for help making the choices that are best for you? looking for guidance from someone who has been in this exact situation? Needing to make a plan so that the next steps do not feel so frightening? Looking to rediscover yourself after the trauma of a toxic relationship?

The We're INNIT Together Membership Support Community is soooo much more than a support group, so if you are ready to make some changes with the guidance needed to do so, check out the details for the community here:

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#205 💪🏼From Rock Bottom to Rock Solid - with guest and friend Donavan May 02, 2023

Rock bottom is a place that no one wants to find themselves, yet most of us do at some point. It is said that the good thing about hitting rock bottom is that there is only one way to go and that is up. ⭐️ Donavan ⭐️ is an example of just that. Life for him had many ups and downs, many sacrifices, and many struggles. Like all of us, he powered through thinking “I got it”, “It’s fine”, “I can handle anything”…. Until he couldn’t. Listen to this man’s inspirational journey and how hitting rock bottom was the best thing that could have happened to him. Thank you Donavan for taking the time and thank you for always being encouraging to others.

#200 Juicy AF with Kay Allison- life without alcohol! Apr 25, 2023

As we know being in relationships that are not healthy for us cause us to find ways to cope, some of the ways we do this may not be the best for us either. My guest today has firsthand experience in just that. Kay Allison helps professional women break their drinking habits and get free… free from booze, free from shame and free from anxiety. Breaking free from the things that tie us down is the only way to be truly free. We can cope with one by using another and possibly cope with that one by yet finding another, but in the end we are still held captive by all.

#199 Divorce & Co-parenting Truths with Kate Anthony! Apr 18, 2023

Kate Anthony, a divorce specialist helps women (especially with children)decide if they should stay in or leave their marriages. Join Kate & I today as we discuss a bit about divorce and the co-parenting that goes with it. Ready to learn more? Join me in the "We're INNIT Together Community" https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/we-are-innit-together-community

#198 Free Spirited - A Healing Journey Apr 11, 2023

Welcoming back today Suzanne Falter, a writer and podcaster who tells us of her story of healing. Losing her daughter suddenly, at a very young age was a heartbreaking trial on Suzanne’s strength. Today she is a different person thanks to the guidance by her daughter after her passing. Trauma, no matter the type, requires self reflection, learning, and growth. Listen now to one woman’s story of growth and recommitment to what really matters.

#197 Untangling the Lies we Believed with Chantelle Branch Apr 05, 2023

“After many failed attempts, I finally regained my strength and never looked back” -Chantelle Branch. Today’s guest is a domestic violence survivor who has like myself turned her past into her passion as she leads others to ditch their “stinking thinking” as a Self-Love Specialist. She encourages love to be redefined through mind transformation and addresses the realities of the healing journey. Listen how one woman’s recovery has lead to a message of hope for future generations. Ready to learn more? Join me in the "We're INNIT Together Community" https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/we-are-innit-together-community

# 196: 5 Things You can do to Protect Yourself Mar 28, 2023

There are many things that I gave up about myself when I was in an unhealthy relationship. If I would have known then what I know now I would have protected myself with all my strength. Instead, I began changing myself to become what someone else needed me to be in order for them to feel safe. I did not see that I was losing everything that was good about myself to prove myself worthy of another's love. I fell victim to what I call toxic identity theft and soon there was nothing about myself that I could even recognize. With that I also gave up my worth, my self acceptance, and my values. Do not let this happen to you, and if it already has start rebuilding today.

Have you been looking for a support group? Looking for help making the choices that are best for you? looking for guidance from someone who has been in this exact situation? Needing to make a plan so that the next steps do not feel so frightening? Looking to rediscover yourself after the trauma of a toxic relationship?

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#195: 5 Things We Think Are True...But They Are Not Mar 13, 2023

Those who have been through a toxic relationship will tell you that there were things that they thought were true about the situation, and now looking back with a clear mind realize they are not true at all. The years we spend thinking these are true become a long continual cycle of us not realizing that we keep doing the same thing over and over, thinking maybe this time it will work and the relationship will feel more comfortable. Here are the 5 things that many believe to be true at some point during the course of their unhealthy relationship. See if you have been thinking the same thing..... I know I did!

Have you been looking for a support group? Looking for help making the choices that are best for you? looking for guidance from someone who has been in this exact situation? Needing to make a plan so that the next steps do not feel so frightening? Looking to rediscover yourself after the trauma of a toxic relationship?

The We're INNIT Together Membership Support Community is soooo much more than a support group, so if you are ready to make some changes with the guidance needed to do so, check out the details for the community here:

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#194: 5 Mistakes we Make when Trying to Understand the Confusion Mar 07, 2023

Toxic Relationships are confusing and when we are trying to understand them and learn how to operate within them we often fall into behaviors that we believe will help make the relationship feel better. Many times these behaviors, not knowing they are "mistakes" cause continued confusion and become more and more difficult to remove yourself from. We would never know that we were making mistakes until we can look back on them.

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#193: The Pain in Healing Feb 28, 2023

Many are afraid to leave toxic relationships. We have become comfortable because we have learned how to survive within them, but what happens when we leave? When I left, I thought that's all there was to it. When I got into this relationship my life became disastrous and chaotic, so it would make sense that when I leave this relationship things will become less disastrous and less chaotic... Right? I don't think I even realized that there was a healing journey that needed to happen. Boy did I find out quickly that the toxic relationship had changed so much of me that I did not even know where to begin. Yes, there is a healing journey, and yes parts of it are painful, and yes I made it. I'm of course still healing but I am understanding more and more about myself everyday. Don't be afraid of the pain because the person that comes out of it makes it all worth it. We are formed by the things we go through, we are always going through something, and we are always on the journey.

#192: What questions are you asking? Feb 15, 2023

I was never asking about tocix relationships or emotional abuse I was always asking what “I” needed to do to fix it. What are you asking yourself about your relationship?

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#191: Love Bombing & Hoovering Explained and Compared! Jan 31, 2023

We hear these terms all the time, Love Bombing & Hoovering. Today let’s dive a bit deeper into the similarities and the differences between them as it relates to the toxic relationship and why these behaviors show up when they do. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi and added support?

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#190: A Transparent Thank you! Jan 31, 2023

Those who have been in toxic relationships will find that they are on a continual path of learning, growing, and self acceptance. I am no different. My January was tough, I am tired of fixing myself, trying harder, and being better. I gave that up this month. Thank you for your patience with me. -Dr Heidi

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#189: Emotional Abuse Exposed Jan 03, 2023

Actress Anna Kendrick is quoted in an article by Kaitlin Reilly on 12/29/22 “her partner did not harm her physically, which made her question her perspective on the relationship. In this episode I will expand on emotional abuse, what it actually is, what it looks like, and what it feels like. How do you really know for sure?

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#188: End of Year Recap #1 Most Popular Episode of 2022- Conversations with a Toxic Person Dec 31, 2022

Understanding the goal that the toxic person has when having a conversation will help you understand and better manage those 3 hour unproductive conversations that you get looped into with the toxic person? Here’s why!
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#187: End of Year Recap #2 Most Popular Episode of 2022-Why do I feel so Sorry for Them? Dec 31, 2022

Big eye opener for the listeners when this episode was published. Understanding why we see things the way we do really helped people make the decisions that they needed to make for them to be free. The BIG question, Why do I feel so sorry for the toxic person in my life? It has kept me trapped, I need to understand! 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi and added support? Join the membership Community for added support: We're INNIT Together: https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/we-are-innit-together-community

#186: End of Year Recap #3 Most Popular Episode of 2022-Forward this to Your Support System Dec 30, 2022

Not a surprise that this ranked in the top 3 of 2022. We are all looking for people to understand and to be there for us on our journey but as many know, if someone has not been through it the dynamic as a whole is hard to grasp. This episode is for you to forward to those who are wanting to support you but do not understand the dynamics of a toxic relationship. Educating those who love and support you will equip them to stand stronger beside you. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi and added support? Join the membership Community for added support: We're INNIT Together: https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/we-are-innit-together-community

#185: 🎄 What do I do about the Kids Christmas events? Dec 23, 2022

Dr. Heidi talks about attending your kids Christmas. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi and added support? Join the membership Community for added support: We're INNIT Together: https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/we-are-innit-together-community

#184: 🎄Can I drink when I don’t have my kids? Dec 22, 2022

Dr. Heidi talks about drinking when you don't have your kids.. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi and added support? Join the membership Community for added support: We're INNIT Together: https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/we-are-innit-together-community

#183: 🎄 Do I send a Christmas card? Dec 21, 2022

Dr. Heidi talks about whether or not to get a Christmas card... 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi and added support? Join the membership Community for added support: We're INNIT Together: https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/we-are-innit-together-community

#182: 🎄 Tips for getting through the holidays with a toxic partner Dec 20, 2022

Dr. Heidi shares tips for getting through the holidays with a toxic partner.
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#181: Through the Eyes of a Child Dec 06, 2022

Did you ever wonder what the children see when there is toxicity between their parents? How do they make sense of it? How to they learn to navigate? What affect does it have on the way they see the world and their future relationships. Today, sharing her experience and perspective on growing up in an unhealthy environment. …….There are many questions that arise about the children, about co-parenting, about how best to support them and each situation has its own specific dynamics that goes along with the children. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi and added support? Join the membership Community for added support: We're INNIT Together: https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/we-are-innit-together-community

#180: Are there Red Flags in your Finances? -with Tracy Coenen Nov 29, 2022

Many times toxic relationships include an element of financial abuse and fraud. Listen as Tracy Coenen, Forensic Accountant shares how and what to look for when suspecting financial dishonesty in your relationship. Take her “Red Flag Assessment” Here: https://www.fraudcoach.com/a/2147522699/Vcr3YEey. Get more information on “The Divorce Money Guide Program” Here: https://www.fraudcoach.com/a/2147518094/Vcr3YEey

#179: I am Thankful for what my T-0-X-I-C R-E-L-A-T-I-O-N-S-H-I-P has Given Me! Nov 24, 2022

Being in a toxic relationship seems like the worst thing ever. Saying that, I agree partially because I would never want to be in another one.... Ever. When I look back, I am extremely Thankful for all that the toxic relationships in my life have done for me. Everything happens just the way it is supposed to. My mom used to say that to me when I was in the depths of the toxic cycle. As it turns out she was 100% right! Thanks mom! 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi and added support? Join the membership Community for added support: We're INNIT Together: https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/we-are-innit-together-community

#178: What are you thankful for? -With a Very Special Guest! Nov 23, 2022

Happy Thanksgiving! What are you thankful for? There is so many reasons to be thankful, my guest today is one of the people that I am the most thankful for! Join me and my daughter as we talk about what we are thankful for in this chapter of our lives. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi and added support? Join the membership Community for added support: We're INNIT Together: https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/we-are-innit-together-community

#176: What was once lost is now found! Nov 15, 2022

Many of us experience toxic relationships but do not realize the truth about them until we can look backwards. We lose so much of who we are trying to fit better within the relationship. Today’s guest tells how she learned to function within it, accept it, and live it, until ….. she understood it. That was the day things changed for her. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi and added support? Join the membership Community for added support: We're INNIT Together: https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/we-are-innit-together-community

#175: This is what Understanding Looks Like - with T'ra Nov 08, 2022

The 4 pillars of my work, as symbolized in the 4 sections of my logo are the foundation to one's journey of healing. Listen as my friend and former client reveals how her EDUCATION on the toxic personality lead to her UNDERSTANDING how she and her life had been affected. This understanding gave her the EMPOWERMENT to move into a place of FREEDOM. Seeing things from a new perspective was all she needed to become clear on what living for herself actually meant. Thank you T'ra for sharing. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi and added support? Join the membership Community for added support: We're INNIT Together: https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/we-are-innit-together-community

#174: 💚 How can I learn to make decisions this late in my life? (Members-only FREE preview) Nov 01, 2022

👋 Hey everybody, it's Dr. Heidi. I get so many questions from followers, and over the years I have answered the same exact question many times over, which can only mean that many of you have the same questions. These were the same questions I had when I was going through it. I'm also a big believer in learning from others, so I've decided to start answering these questions on my new members-only podcast. Now, as we know, most toxic people behave very similarly, so hearing the answers to other people's questions and the recommendations that I make for their future could be very helpful for you if you're trying harder to understand your personal situation. If you'd like to become a member to hear questions answered, get more support, and receive guidance for your next steps in healing, you can become a member today! 🙋‍♀️ Join the membership Community for added support: We're INNIT Together: https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/we-are-innit-together-community

#173: I know I need to love myself more... but where do I start? Oct 23, 2022

We hear it all the time, "you just need to love yourself more", yet no one gives us an instruction manual on how to do that or how to even begin. Time and energy are worn thin when you are in a toxic environment with all of our attention on others and very little attention on ourselves. Here are 5 things that you can do today to begin the process of loving yourself just a little bit more. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi and added support? Join the membership Community for added support: We're INNIT Together: https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/we-are-innit-together-community

#172: 8 Reasons I Left Sep 28, 2022

There were many reasons that I stayed in an unhealthy relationship for so many years (see episode “8 Reasons We Stay). Listen now to the 8 reasons that I finally left the toxic relationship of my past, they may sound very familiar. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi and added support? Join the membership Community for added support: We're INNIT Together: https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/we-are-innit-together-community.

#171: From Poker Pro to Divorce Pro Sep 19, 2022

Join me today with Rob with WTF Divorce. He found that navigating divorce was much more difficult than he thought it would be. He has established a solid following helping many make this journey with the support that they need. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi and added support? Join the membership Community for added support: We're INNIT Together: https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/we-are-innit-together-community

#170: 8 Reasons We Stay Aug 31, 2022

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Why do we stay in unhealthy situations so long? I asked myself that many times. These were some of the reasons that I stayed too long where I didn’t belong. Can you relate?

#169: Mid Year Recap: #1 Most Popular Episode: Back to the Basics Aug 01, 2022

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As always mid year I do a recap of the episode that made the biggest impact on the listeners. Here is the episode that ranks #1 as the most popular episode.

#168: Mid Year Recap: #2 Most Popular Episode: I See Red Flags Everywhere Jul 21, 2022

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As always mid year I do a recap of the episodes that made the biggest impact on the listeners. Sometimes I am surprised at the results. Here is the episode that ranks 2nd in the most popular episode of all time.

#167: Mid Year Recap: #3 Most Popular Episode: Chaos Creators Jul 14, 2022

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As always mid year I do a recap of the episodes that made the biggest impact on listeners. Sometimes I am surprised at the results. Here is the episode that ranks 3rd in the most popular of all time.

#166: But it is My Mother…… Jun 15, 2022

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Many struggle with the toxic parent. The guilt, the obligation, the dedication to them giving you life. What do we do when a parent is controlling aspects of your life, our emotions, our outside relationships, and our own view of ourselves? You actually do have permission to choose yourself. You are not punishing them when you do this, you are freeing yourself from the toxicity they have and are bringing into your present life. Listen now how one woman chose herself and her own life over the constant demands of a toxic mother.

#165: Conversations with the Toxic Person: The Circular Trap Jun 08, 2022

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You know those 3 hour unproductive conversations that you get looped into with the toxic person? Here’s why!

#164: When self-care was the only option I had May 24, 2022

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Self care expert Suzanne Falter joins us today to share how her life path gave her no other option but to focus on self care. As a business women, toxic relationship survivor, and a loving parent, Suzanne was forced to choose self care when there were no other options. She is now an amazing leader in self care and a mentor to many.

#163: Silver Lining Breakups May 11, 2022

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Today my guest Chelsea Leigh Trescott shares her story about how disappointments in her life have lead her to where she is today. A break up coach. There are so many things that we need to “break up” with in our lives, relationships, negative self talk, others opinions, old habits, you name it Chelsea has got the silver linings for you!

#162: The Cloudy Reality of Toxicity and Addiction May 03, 2022

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Join me with Lori Paul, a certified Family Recovery Coach, as we unravel how addiction causes much cloudiness within a toxic environment. She is amazing!

#161: Is it? Or isn’t it? The love-bomb letter Apr 26, 2022

Red Flags can be confusing at the beginning of a relationship. Are you questioning some yourself?
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#160: Discovering your true self with Amy Natalie Apr 14, 2022

Amy Natalie is an empowerment coach and embodiment guide for conscious women, spiritual seekers, and feminine leaders. She has inspired thousands of women around the world with her work, centered on reconnecting women with their feminine energy and stepping into their Feminine power. Listen as she tells us how she stepped over fear and doubts to discover her true self and how she has attained the passionate life that she was intended to have.

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#159: Why & How - The Escalation of Abuse Mar 30, 2022

3 years ago I did an episode about how abuse escalates. It was with a dear friend of mine. A self defense instructor, domestic violence advocate, mother, friend, and pillar of strength to many. She allegedly lost her life last fall to the very thing she stood so strongly against. Rest In Peace My Friend. I promise when the time is right I will tell your story to the world.

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#158: Why Do I Feel So Sorry For Them? Mar 15, 2022

The BIG question, Why do I feel so sorry for the toxic person in my life? It has kept me trapped, I need to understand!

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#157: How to Continue to Move Forward when Fears Become Reality Mar 08, 2022

Today’s guest is a survivor of an unhealthy relationship. Listen as she tells her story and how she and her children had to face not only the reality of escaping the environment but also survive the unexpected turn their life would take after that. She is a pillar of strength and although she is still healing there is no doubt that her story will touch many of you close and other of you even closer.
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#156: Hear from those who have found “Strength Within” (Chapter 2) Feb 24, 2022

Another great episode featuring some of the members from our Strength Within community. Hear their stories, their struggles, and their victories. “Strength Within” is a private facebook support group run by Dr Heidi. It is a place where people understand, know how you feel, and can encourage you along the path in and out of a toxic relationship.

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#155: “What is Love?” Happy Valentine’s Day! (Replay episode) Feb 14, 2022

Valentine’s Day is tough for those within unhealthy relationships. Just wanted to remind you what Love is really like. (Originally published 2/16/2020)
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#154: Better Your Boundaries with Wendy Sterling Feb 09, 2022

Boundaries are a tough subject in the lives of those in as well as those recovering from toxic relationship. Join me with Divorce coach Wendy Sterling as we talk about how to become confident in re-establishing your personal boundaries.
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#153: I'm Not There Yet, but I Know I am on my Way! Feb 03, 2022

Today I turned 50. I have never really learned to celebrate ME! Today I will share 50 things that I have learned over the last decade through my healing and journey to self discovery! Healing is hard, it takes energy but looking back over the last 10 years, I finally love who I am!
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#152: Forward this to your Support System- Toxic Relationship Reality Jan 26, 2022

This episode is for you to forward to those who are wanting to support you but do not understand the dynamics of a toxic relationship. Educating those who love and support you will equip them to stand stronger beside you.

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