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Did you ever have that friend in college that you just couldn’t get rid of? Me too, in fact, I’ve been trying to get rid of the guy on my show today for more than 20 years! But now he’s made it onto my podcast, and he’s actually got something very cool he wants to share with you today. We are talking cars, marriage, and possibly the four most important things you need to maintain in order for your marriage to thrive!
Over the last 6 shows you’ve learned the core skill taught in every one of our Smalley Marriage Intensives. Love Talk is by far the most powerful way to communicate with someone. It is where feelings and needs can get expressed in a way that leads you naturally into win/win solutions. Healthy communication is not Rocket Science! But there are a few rules you need to understand and use when you are dealing with difficult topics or hurt feelings.
You are catching us at the tail end of our series on LOVE Talk, the most powerful communication method on earth! Last show you learned how to share your feeling and needs as the customer in a way that helps others receive them and honor them. This week you get to learn how to find win/win solutions to your toughest conflicts. You don't have to live with unresolved conflict any longer. There are just a couple of things you need to learn in order to reach solutions where you both can be happy!
The last time we were with you, you discovered the role of employee and how that may be the most important role we learn when it comes to conflict resolution. On today’s show, you are going to learn how to be a great customer. You’ll want to list today, because we are going to show you how to communicate your feelings and needs (the most important things you want to share) in a way that your spouse or others can't help but to listen and validate you.
Previously on Smalley Marriage Radio you discovered the most powerful way to stop STUPID conflict by using a time-out. Today, you get to learn the role of employee, that if I’m honest, is possibly the most important role you can learn when it comes to resolving conflict. LOVE is the essence of LOVE Talk! (Listen, Own, Validate, and Express)The employee only worries about Listening and Validating.
How timeouts help you stop stupid conflict: Stop escalating,Get away from each other, this allows you to calm downPray, this allows you to gain perspectiveOwn your part, this allows your partner to hear you and not be so defensive
Last show we talked about the importance of having structure in how you resolve conflict. So you can’t just go all willy-nilly during conflict and think you’re going to get anything solved. Today is about the most powerful word picture in the history of the world when it comes to resolving conflict! If you’re going to resolve conflict, then you are trying to replicate the experience you get when going through the drive-through at a Chick-fil-a.
I just received this question and it jumped right off the page at me! “Is oral sex something that is OK with the Lord, and, is it ok to dress up in a little nurse costume, or such. I know this sounds so crazy, but I am about to go out of my mind needing to know the answers to this question! We have two boys coming up and I want them to have the best life possible in the Lord………these questions are just not talked about enough! Thank you for your time and answer. May God richly bless you and all of your family! MICHAEL: I hate couples who miss out on the joy of sex with each other because they think there are some dos and don’ts—mainly developed through misconceptions. AMY: That’s right. As married couples, we should be the most open with one another. MICHAEL: But I just have to hear it from a female. Do you think oral sex is okay? AMY: I truly do think it’s okay. Within the confines of the relationship, I do. We are one man and one woman, and we are exploring each other’s bodies. We are created for each other’s pleasure. And part of that is oral sex. MICHAEL: Absolutely. So, there is nothing wrong with it. But it is okay, again, as long as you are enjoying each other sexually, exploring, coming up with new ideas for each other, and you are both on board. Once sex becomes a deal about me and what I want, and I don’t care what your opinion is or whether you are comfortable or not, then we have a problem.
Do you ever get into conflict? I’m in conflict every other day with my wife! And we help couples for a living! Today you are going to discover, possibly, the most important thing about resolving conflict…and you don’t know about it! But no longer, we are going to reveal this truth as we unpack resolving conflict as a couple. If you are going to resolve conflict, you have to have structure!LOVE Talk stands for Listen-Own-Validate-Express
Dr. Larry Nasser is dominating the news right now, and for good reason! How in the world did he get away with harming so many young ladies? What can you do as a loving parent to protect your own child from people like Nasser? These questions and more will be answered on today's broadcast. I will also be taking your live calls, so get ready for some real advice on how you can build a better relationship starting today! Here's a little cheat sheet of the show today: "JANE REMEMBERS THE linoleum floor in the bathroom of Larry Nassar's apartment. She remembers feeling strange as he walked in and handed her gymnastics magazines to read as she lay fully naked in his bathtub. She was 12 or 13; she can't recall exactly." (http://www.espn.com/espn/otl/story/_/id/22046031/michigan-state-university-doctor-larry-nassar-surrounded-enablers-abused-athletes-espn) More than 150 women who reported him US Gymastics seemingly ignored NCAA ignored Michigan state ignored Why? Heard an interview on Dan Lebatard show today, former athlete sharing how he got in trouble for taking coffee from the coaches office... How can you protect your child? All you can do is your best Don't be naive Make sure your child feels safe enough to share with you
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