Insideout Conversations

Edited by Andrea Klunder and Edwin Ruiz at The Creative Impostor Studios. Theme music is by Nicholas77 at freesound.org and is licensed under the Creative Commons.

Learn more about Lisa and her clinical practice, Insideout Living: https://www.insideoutrecovery.com/

027 - Couples Sheltering in Place with Lisa & Steve May 13, 2020

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No one's ever had an experience in a pandemic. And so we are learning lots of new things and it's causing us to really have to pivot and change our views and, really consider each other in ways that may be different from pre Covid-19.

This episode goes behind the scenes of this pandemic, exploring the impact of sheltering in place as a couple. Hello? There are challenges and benefits. My husband and I answer the following questions based on our experience.

Does the confinement of quarantine highlight relational challenges?

Are you having trouble navigating internal and external stress?

Could you use guidance and support during this unprecedented stressful time?

If you are sheltering in place with a partner, consider answering the question for yourself.

Let's make a connection right now! Reach out and let me know how this episode resonates with you.

Email me: insideoutconvo@gmail.com

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Edited by Andrea Klunder and Edwin Ruiz at The Creative Impostor Studios. Theme music is by Nicholas77 at freesound.org and is licensed under the Creative Commons.

Learn more about Lisa and her clinical practice, Insideout Living: https://www.insideoutrecovery.com/

026 - When You've Been Betrayed Dec 04, 2019

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When you experience being betrayed it is devastating. When that betrayal comes from an intimate partner, your life is changed forever.

These changes impact emotional, psychological, spiritual, existential, physical and relational stability. In fact, intimate betrayal is traumatic. It makes you feel like you are losing your mind. It robs you of your sense of security and puts you in a state of turbulence. Suddenly, everything you thought you knew, is now questioned, reality is altered.

Your brain begins to be on constant alert. This traumatic disruption, causes extreme hyper-vigilance, restlessness, anxiety, and a sense of being on guard. This alters your ability to regulate your mood, to calm yourself, to think, to reason, and to make intelligent decisions. Your brain is hijacked with fear and daily tasks become almost impossible.

Research has shown that with the help of a trained professional the healing process usually takes between 18 months to 3 years. The healing period increases, with multiple betrayals and in long term relationships.

This is an incredibly lonely and isolating experience. For this reason, it is my privilege to provide professional insight, encouragement and resources, so that you don’t have to feel as alone.

Let's make a connection right now! Reach out and let me know how this episode resonates with you.

Email me: insideoutconvo@gmail.com

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Edited by Andrea Klunder and Edwin Ruiz at The Creative Impostor Studios. Theme music is by Nicholas77 at freesound.org and is licensed under the Creative Commons.

Learn more about Lisa and her clinical practice, Insideout Living: https://www.insideoutrecovery.com/

025 - Tell your story Aug 28, 2019

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Autobiography In Five Short Chapters, is one of my favorite “short stories” to re-visit.

In different seasons these 5 chapters have helped me to locate myself. In other seasons, these chapters have given me a wake up calls. At other times humility, clarity, grace, and reminded me of my progress, even if I wasn’t where I thought I “should” be.

As you consider sharing a part of your story, further understanding where you are in the story, re-writing parts of your story or you just want to consider if you want to consider, read these 5 chapters.

As you read each chapter, what do you connect with?

What is/was your Chapter 1? What are some of your Chapter 1 lessons?

Autobiography In Five Short Chapters –

Portia Nelson

Chapter I

I walk down the street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I fall in. I am lost... I am hopeless. It isn't my fault. It takes forever to find a way out.

Chapter II

I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I pretend I don't see it. I fall in again. I can't believe I am in this same place. But it isn't my fault. It still takes a long time to get out.

Chapter III

I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I see it there. I still fall in... it's a habit... but, my eyes are open. I know where I am. It is my fault. I get out immediately.

Chapter IV

I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I walk around it.

Chapter V

I walk down another street.

Let's make a connection right now!

Reach out an let me know how this episode resonates with you.

Email me: insideoutconvo@gmail.com

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Edited by Andrea Klunder and Edwin Ruiz at The Creative Impostor Studios. Theme music is by Nicholas77 at freesound.org and is licensed under the Creative Commons.

Learn more about Lisa and her clinical practice, Insideout Living: https://www.insideoutrecovery.com/

024 - Me & You, We Are Made For Connection Aug 14, 2019

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Let's make a connection right now! Reach out an let me know how this episode resonates with you. Email me: insideoutconvo@gmail.com

We want the same thing

Most of us are seeking happiness, love, peace, joy… and let’s not forget freedom from the internal turmoil that so often plagues us.

When we can’t get what we need our hearts hurt

The heart, both physical and figurative, bears the burden of our emotional traumas and everyday stressors. What occurs in our emotional world most certainly affects and often manifests itself in our physical body.

The painful cost of disconnection

Many of us are suffering the pain of disconnection from our hearts. This disconnection often maintains emotional pain, eating disorders and other addictive processes.

The benefit of reconnecting

Reconnecting with the heart, with our authentic inner nature and capacity for love, may be the doorway to what we are truly seeking.

The heart is relationship-centered and attention to it opens space for healing- with yourself and others.

Connection is a journey

Let’s take a little journey to discover more about the heart and what reconnection with it means in our daily lives.

Reconnecting with the heart at a deeper level assumes that there has been a disconnection somewhere along the way.

It is my bias that most of us go through life struggling to both BE connected and STAY connected to our hearts, to what we love, to our vulnerability, and to what moves us.

We experience pressure from outside to be something we aren’t.

We live fast paced lifestyles and function from our heads, neglecting the language of the heart.

We overuse our minds and underuse our hearts.

We want instant change and we don’t want to deal with discomfort.

Symptoms of disconnection

Feeling disconnected from life or like you can’t connect with others.

Feeling a lack of wholeness or that some part of you is missing or inaccessible.

Feeling low self-worth or insecurity.

Feeling stuck, unable to make changes or not knowing what changes to make.

Feeling a sense of numbness or disconnection from your own body.

Feeling drawn to a relationship that has been unhealthy for you.

Feeling urges to engage in non-life sustaining behaviors.

4 Options to begin a re-connecting process

Connect back to your body with physical activity.

Dance, walk, yoga, exercise, ride a bike, swing your legs, just move.

Go outside and soak up the beauty of nature.

Look around very slowly from one side to the other and find 6 things that you see.

Be mindful and present to the moment.

If you’re taking a shower, notice the feeling of the water on your skin, the smell of the soap, the texture of your wash cloth, your feet on the ground.

Feel what you feel.

If you’re feeling the discomfort of anxiety, gently place your hand on the part of your body that feels the anxiety. If that feeling could speak, what would it say?

Let's make a connection right now!

Reach out an let me know how this episode resonates with you.

Email me: insideoutconvo@gmail.com

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Edited by Andrea Klunder and Edwin Ruiz at The Creative Impostor Studios. Theme music is by Nicholas77 at freesound.org and is licensed under the Creative Commons.

Learn more about Lisa and her clinical practice, Insideout Living: https://www.insideoutrecovery.com/

023 - TURN ON THE LIGHT! Jul 10, 2019

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Travel, family, and internal shifts. Healing is the culmination of love and life.

Let me hear about your healing, your darkness, and how it cued YOU to turn on the light!

Email me: insideoutconvo@gmail.com

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Learn more about Lisa and her clinical practice, Insideout Living: https://www.insideoutrecovery.com/

Edited by Andrea Klunder and Edwin Ruiz at The Creative Impostor Studios. Theme music is by Nicholas77 at freesound.org and is licensed under the Creative Commons.

022 - What your mama didn't tell you - Part 2 Apr 12, 2019

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This is Part 2 of 2: What your mama didn't tell you! (If you haven't listened to episode 021 already, go back to that one so you can get part 1!)

At various stages in our lives we find ourselves changing in ways that seem unexplainable!

From about 45 years old until 50, I was taken captive by an invasion of body snatchers. It was strange, I couldn’t figure out where I was, where did I go? Would I ever return?

There are times in life when we need to pause, because the cycles of life require us to do so. In those pauses, what will you listen for? Who will you become? What lessons will you learn & share?

For this week:

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Stay in touch…

Email me: insideoutconvo@gmail.com

Learn more about Lisa and her clinical practice, Insideout Living: https://www.insideoutrecovery.com/

Edited by Andrea Klunder and Edwin Ruiz at The Creative Impostor Studios. Theme music is by Nicholas77 at freesound.org and is licensed under the Creative Commons.

021 - What your mama didn't tell you - Part 1 Apr 03, 2019

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At various stages in our lives we find ourselves changing in ways that seem unexplainable!

From about 45 years old until 50, I was taken captive by an invasion of body snatchers. It was strange, I couldn’t figure out where I was, where did I go? Would I ever return?

There are times in life when we need to pause, because the cycles of life require us to do so. In those pauses, what will you listen for? Who will you become? What lessons will you learn & share?

This is Part 1 of 2: What your mama didn't tell you!

For this week:

Can you relate? Email me and share your personal experience or story with "the change."

Stay in touch…

Email insideoutconvo@gmail.com.

Learn more about Lisa and her clinical practice, Insideout Living: https://www.insideoutrecovery.com/

Edited by Andrea Klunder and Edwin Ruiz at The Creative Impostor Studios. Theme music is by Nicholas77 at freesound.org and is licensed under the Creative Commons.

020 - This Too Shall Pass Mar 27, 2019

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All I could see was darkness all around me. In fact my eyes were adjusting to the darkness, so much so, I forgot it was dark. But, this sliver of light was just noticeable enough to spark curiosity. Where was it coming from? I looked all around. I couldn’t locate the source. And then… I realized that the sliver of light was coming from within me.

Today I share how to navigate the dark places in your life. Inevitably, we will face change in our lives and often change is painful, especially when we do not know the outcome of change.

In this episode, I discuss:

How to hold onto hope, while in darkness.
The signs of light in dark places.
The only way to exit darkness.

For this week:

Share an experience with someone about a time when you were able to see the signs of light while you were in a dark place.

Stay in touch…

Email insideoutconvo@gmail.com.

Learn more about Lisa and her clinical practice, Insideout Living: https://www.insideoutrecovery.com/

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Edited by Andrea Klunder and Edwin Ruiz at The Creative Impostor Studios. Theme music is by Nicholas77 at freesound.org and is licensed under the Creative Commons.

019 - Special Place Feb 28, 2019

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We all need a special place in our lives. A place where we can take off all the pretense, and just be ourselves on good days and not so good days.

In this episode, you’ll be encouraged to clarify what it means for you to feel safe to be who you are, where you are. A special place can be a physical space, relationships, a real or imagined place. More significant, is when we can create safety from within.

A Special Place, shares practical insight and practices to increase safety from the inside out.

Learn more about Lisa and her clinical practice, Insideout Living: https://www.insideoutrecovery.com/

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