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327 We Threw Out the Rulebook: How We’re Raising Our Neurodivergent Kids with Greg Carder Jul 29, 2025

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I’m joined again today by my favorite human—my husband, Greg! Together, we pull back the curtain on what it’s really like to raise neurodivergent kids, how our parenting style has evolved over the years, and why we’ve chosen a low-demand, emotionally supportive approach in our home.

We talk candidly about:

When we decided to get our kids evaluated (and how we did it)

Whether or not we medicate—and why

What low-demand parenting looks like in real life

How we navigate screen time (without losing our minds)

Our journey of regulating ourselves so we can show up for our kids

How we accommodate and support each of our unique kids, especially those with PDA traits

This is a vulnerable, honest, and hopeful conversation between two very imperfect parents figuring it out as we go—and choosing connection over control as much as possible.

Whether you're raising neurodivergent kids or just want a peek into our home life, we hope this episode leaves you feeling seen, supported, and a little less alone.

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326 ADHD Nearly Broke Us — How We’re Still Standing After 21 Years with Greg Carder Jul 22, 2025

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What does it look like to stay in love and on the same team when one partner has ADHD and the other doesn’t?

In this episode, I’m joined by my husband Greg—my neurotypical partner of 21 years—for an honest, heartfelt, and often hilarious conversation about what it’s really like to build a life together in a neurodiverse marriage.

We’re answering questions about everything from how Greg came to understand and accept my ADHD, to what helped us navigate parenting neurodivergent kids, to how we’ve held boundaries (without being jerks) and grown through the hard seasons—together.

If you’re wondering how to help your partner “get it,” if you’re craving more acceptance in your relationship, or if you’re simply curious what goes on behind the scenes in our marriage... this episode is for you.

We talk about:

What helped Greg finally get on board with understanding ADHD

Why acceptance is an action, not just a feeling

How to bring a reluctant partner along on your diagnosis journey

How to balance emotional needs when ADHD takes up space in the relationship

Practical ways to support each other without falling into resentment or the parent-child dynamic

This conversation is raw, funny, and full of truth bombs (and yes, Greg absolutely roasts me a few times 😂). Whether you're married, dating, or just dreaming of a healthy relationship someday, I hope this episode reminds you that real love includes imperfection, growth, and mutual care.

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325 ADHD Burnout Is REAL: What A Physician With ADHD Wishes She Knew Sooner Jul 15, 2025

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Smartass ADHDer alert! Kerry Shea, an OBGYN physician and beloved FOCUSED member, is here to share her journey as a doctor with ADHD.

In this heartwarming episode, we discuss Kerry's ADHD diagnosis, experiences in medical school, the impact of early education, and the challenges of balancing professional success with personal chaos.

The conversation delves into the stigma surrounding ADHD, the struggles with self-perception, chronic pain, and the importance of community support for individuals with ADHD.

You can find Kerry at www.beautifulmessyself.com and on Instagram HERE.

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324 Why You Keep Failing at Goals (and How to Finally Stop) Jul 08, 2025

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Ever made a huge, life-changing plan… and then totally ghosted it a week later? Welcome to the ADHD goal-setting struggle. If you’ve ever set a massive goal in a moment of motivation—only to burn out fast—you’re not alone. This episode is your permission slip to dream big and start small (like, really small).

This episode is for you if you’ve:

Gone all-in on a goal… and crashed hard

Felt like realistic goals are boring

Lost trust in yourself because you keep quitting

We’ll break down:

💥 Why ADHD brains love fantasy goals

🎯 How to set actually doable goals (with zero shame)

🏁 Why slow, steady, and sustainable wins the race (yes, even with ADHD)

You’ll learn:

The 5 rules of ADHD-friendly goal-setting

How to start way smaller than you think

What to do when your brain screams: “THIS ISN’T ENOUGH!”

Hit play and walk away with a goal you can actually stick to this week.

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323 Emotional Regulation: The ADHD Skill You Can’t Afford to Ignore Jul 01, 2025

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If you’ve ever snapped at something harmless, gotten lost in a scroll spiral, or felt way too much over a tiny text, this episode is for you.

We’re diving into emotional regulation—what it is, why it’s so hard for ADHD brains, and how to actually get better at it.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

What’s happening in your brain during an emotional meltdown

The SURF Method: a simple, four-step tool to help you ride the wave instead of getting pulled under

Why regulating emotions is the key to changing your behavior

You don’t need to feel good all the time—you just need to know how to feel. Practice is the path. Let’s get into it.

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322 Mini Emotional Regulation Practice (10-Minute Guided Reset) Jul 01, 2025

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Feeling "off" and need a reset? This short episode is here for you.

In just 10 minutes, I’ll guide you through a simple emotional regulation practice to help you pause, reconnect with your body, and calm your nervous system.

Whether you're overwhelmed, stuck in a scroll spiral, or just need a moment of grounding—this is your space to breathe and feel.

Come as you are. No perfection required. Just press play.

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321 The 5-Minute ADHD Hack That Can Change Your Life Jun 24, 2025

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Ever feel like your brain is a messy closet with the light off? In this episode, we flip the switch.

I break down the simple but powerful practice of thought downloads—what they are (and aren’t), why they’re crucial for ADHD minds, and how they help you build self-awareness, emotional regulation, and clarity. This isn’t journaling. It’s not a productivity hack. It’s mindfulness for your messy, magical brain.

You’ll learn:

Why “thinking about your thinking” is hard with ADHD (and what to do about it)

The difference between a brain dump and a thought download

How to start a thought download (even when you “don’t know what to write”)

Prompts to get you unstuck and curious

The surprising way this 5-minute practice can change everything

Grab a pen. It’s time to meet your mind.

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320 Rapid-Fire Adult ADHD Q&A Jun 17, 2025

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Buckle up, because this episode is a fast-paced, wide-ranging Q&A where I answer as many of your ADHD questions as I possibly can! These questions were submitted on Instagram, and I had the best time flying through them and sharing real, practical insights from my ADHD brain to yours.

We cover everything from medication, motivation, and prioritization to emotional regulation, rejection, brain dumps, and massage-induced thought spirals (yep, really). If you’ve ever felt stuck, scattered, or simply curious about how other ADHD adults navigate life—this one’s for you.

It’s a fun, casual, info-packed episode that touches on so many of the topics we all wrestle with—don’t miss it.

Some of the questions I answer:

Tips for eating more during the day instead of binging at night

How to “trick” your brain into being more driven

How to gently educate your loved ones about ADHD

How to prioritize when you have a million ideas

And lots more…

This is a great episode to play while cleaning, driving, or walking—casual, quick, and totally relatable.

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319 “Why Can’t I Just START?!” - ADHD + Task Initiation Jun 10, 2025

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Ever sat on the couch knowing you “should” do something… but just couldn’t? Welcome to the ADHD task initiation struggle. It’s real—and no, it’s not laziness.

In this episode, we dive into:

What task initiation actually is (hint: it’s an executive function)

Why starting can feel impossible for ADHDers + Autistics

The brain science behind motivation, dopamine, and urgency

Emotional blocks like fear, shame, and perfectionism

Simple, ADHD-friendly tips to finally get moving (without needing willpower!)

From micro-steps to dopamine rewards, we’re breaking it all down so you can stop spiraling and start… well, starting.

This Episode's Resources: The Ultimate Guide to ADHD and Task Initiation

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318 The Real Reason You Can’t Get Organized (And What To Do About It) Jun 03, 2025

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Struggling to get organized? You’re not broken — you’re just an ADHDer with a real, overwhelmed brain.

In this episode, we’re ditching the shame spiral and unpacking why staying organized is so hard for ADHDers… and what actually helps. Spoiler alert: It’s NOT more bins.

If your home feels like a disaster zone, this one’s for you. We’ll talk about:

Why executive dysfunction—not laziness—is the real culprit

How emotional regulation (not time management) is the secret key to organizing

The connection between trauma and clutter

What Marie Kondo got right… and what she totally missed

The ADHD-friendly 3-pile system that actually works

How to help your kids without losing your mind

Why decision fatigue is derailing your decluttering

And how to redefine “organized enough” for your actual life

This episode is packed with practical strategies, permission slips, and empowering reminders that your messy house is not a moral failing.

Listen now, take what resonates, and leave the guilt behind.

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