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How To Find Your People After a Mental Health Diagnosis Apr 23, 2024

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A few years ago, Leah was diagnosed with schizophrenia. Her condition has posed many serious challenges, including how to start and maintain friendships. She wants to build a rich social life, but her symptoms—and the stigmas surrounding mental health—often get in the way. When Leah does meet a new person, she struggles with how (and when) to talk about her diagnosis and feels intense pressure to be "the perfect friend." On this episode of How To!: Carvell Wallace brings on psychotherapist Dr. Aleksandra Rayska for a frank conversation about managing expectations, celebrating new achievements, and just going easy on yourself.

If you liked this episode check out: How to Navigate Adult Autism.

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How To's executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson and Kevin Bendis.

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How To 'Do the Work' of Racial Justice Apr 16, 2024

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"Doing the work" is a phrase often heard when talking about racial justice. We heard it a lot after the death of George Floyd in 2020. And we need to continue talking about it—but there's an important aspect of "the work" that's been missing. On this episode of How To!: Courtney Martin brings in Garrett Bucks, author of The Right Kind of White and founder of The Barnraisers Project, to help Elizabeth Doerr talk to fellow white parents about the implications of opting out of their kids' public school.

If you liked this episode check out: "How To Fight Racism in Your Town"

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How To's executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson and Kevin Bendis.

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How To Bring a Big Idea to Life Apr 09, 2024

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Mia is a professional violinist. She's played in symphonies. She's played in improv groups. She's played as a form of personal exploration. But now she's taking on a big, conceptual project that may have nothing to do with music. Instead, she wants to create a piece rooted in connection. The only problem? She doesn't know what she wants to create. On this episode of How To!: Carvell Wallace brings in storyteller extraordinaire Michaela Leslie-Rule. Michaela talks Mia through the process of bringing a potentially overwhelming idea to life. Check out Michaela's work with Spiritual Technologies Project, the group we mention in the episode.

If you liked this episode check out: How To Put Your Town on the Map or How To Be an Artist and Not Starve.

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How To Crack Up Your Coworkers (Encore) Apr 02, 2024

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Last week we learned about using the four different styles of humor to your advantage, and who makes a good target for a joke. But what if you read the room wrong and absolutely bomb? On this episode of How To!, the second in a two-part series, we resume our conversation with Naomi Bagdonas, co-author of Humor, Seriously!, and Michael Terry, the most hilarious hedge fund guy we've ever met. They swap stories about office jokes that fell flat, how to navigate a suddenly tense situation and what to do if your humor accidentally offends someone (especially your boss).

If you liked this episode, check out "How To Be Funny" with comedian Gary Gulman.

If you want to discover your own humor style, take the test on Naomi and Jennifer's website.

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How To Make Humor Your Superpower (Encore) Mar 26, 2024

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Did you know that we, as a society, have fallen off a comedy cliff? No joke. Studies have shown that we largely stop laughing when we enter our mid-twenties, which is a shame because delighting in humor has a ton of health benefits. Plus, being perceived as funny can actually make people think you're more intelligent, more competent, and even better looking! So on this episode of How To!, the first in a two-part series, we bring on Naomi Bagdonas, co-author of Humor, Seriously!, and Michael Terry, an amateur comedian who is working in the funniest of places: high finance. Combined, they have decades of experience harnessing the power humor and applying it to the workplace.

If you liked this episode, check out "How To Confront a Crazy Neighbor" with Tig Notaro.

If you want to discover your own humor style, take the test on Naomi and Jennifer's website.

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How To Help a Loved One With Dementia Mar 19, 2024

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Forgetfulness. Repetitiveness. Confusion. Dementia is a long, painful road for both the person living with it, caregivers, and their additional loved ones. Mara's mom just received her diagnosis and Mara is wondering what is next for their family. She turned to our host Courtney Martin for guidance—since Courtney is going through the same thing with her father.

On this episode of How To!: Courtney and Mara are joined by Tami Anastasia, author of Essential Strategies for the Dementia Caregiver. As a dementia consultant, Tami helps families support each other and find the beautiful moments in this painful journey.

If you liked this episode check out: How To Make Aging Easier for Everyone

How To's executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson.

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How To Say What You're Thinking Mar 12, 2024

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Shannon is set to become an ordained minister—but she has always struggled with public speaking. Here's the thing: She's fine in front of large gatherings. In smaller gatherings, however, she mentally "freezes up" and rambles until she regains her train of thought. As Shannon prepares to start interacting with a congregation, Courtney Martin sits her down with former How To! host Charles Duhigg, author of Supercommunicators: How to Unlock the Secret Language of Connection. Charles gives Shannon the tools to understand others and be understood herself.

If you liked this episode check out: How To Speak Up So Others Listen

How To's executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson and Kevin Bendis.

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How To Rethink Retirement Mar 05, 2024

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When Patti retired a few months ago, everyone told her she would love the freedom and flexibility that came with leaving the workforce. Not so. The transition has left Patti grieving the loss of her routine and sense of purpose—and she's wondering how to find fulfillment in life's (gulp!) third act. On today's episode, Courtney Martin welcomes Brad Stulberg, author of Master of Change: How to Excel When Everything Is Changing—Including You. Brad helps Patti rethink this massive transformation and emerge from it stronger.

If you liked this episode check out: How To Start Over at 60.

How To's executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson and Kevin Bendis.

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How To Let Go of a Friendship Feb 27, 2024

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Our series about friendship ends with a look at, well, how friendships end.

Alice and Grace connected when their kids started dating. They became fast friends whose family lives were intertwined—in a good way. They even joked that they might end up raising grandchildren together. When the kids broke up, Alice and Grace broke apart, too. Now, Alice is wondering whether she should fight for her cherished relationship or just move on. On today's episode, Carvell Wallace brings on Carissa Potter, an author and artist who founded People I've Loved and hosts the podcast Bad at Keeping Secrets.

Miss last week's episode? Learn how to evolve your friendships. If you're enjoying this series, check out our other friendship episodes:

How To Find Your People

How To Make Friends as an Adult

How To Make Friends… Like a Man

How To Talk to Strangers

How To Show Up For a Friend With Cancer

How To's executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson and Kevin Bendis.

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How To Evolve a Friendship Feb 20, 2024

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In part two of our series on friendship, we're looking at how to revitalize a relationship that began in a previous phase of life.

Michelle and Blair became fast friends in grad school. That bond survived graduation, marriages, and even a cross-country move. They now live just a short drive from one another—but things have never felt so distant. Michelle wants to know how to evolve their friendship to be more compatible with the present day. On today's episode, Courtney Martin brings on Rhaina Cohen, author of The Other Significant Others: Reimagining Life with Friendship at the Center. Rhaina will help Michelle—and all of us—prepare for a daunting conversation.

Miss last week's episode? Learn how to expand your horizons with new, cross-generational friendships. If you're enjoying this series, check out our other friendship episodes:

How To Find Your People

How To Make Friends as an Adult

How To Make Friends… Like a Man

How To Talk to Strangers

How To Show Up For a Friend With Cancer

How To's executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson and Kevin Bendis.

Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.