How To Get Away With Parenting

Latest Episodes:

Episode 22 - Do we need a will? Plus, moving update! Jul 17, 2016

Show notes

Who gets my stuff when I die? Can I make my friend raise my kid if my husband and I are both dead? I'm kind of obsessing about death lately so I asked my friend, and lawyer, Leslie Sultan to tell me everything she knows about making a will. I make a lot of jokes along the way because talking about death makes me nervous. After all the death chat my husband comes back to talk about a life update. See what I did there? Life after death...anyway. Find out what we're most excited about with our move to California and what we're going to miss the most about living in New York.

Show notes:

Here are the basic components of a will: http://www.aarp.org/money/estate-planning/info-09-2010/ten_things_you_should_know_about_writing_a_will.html

This might help you decide if you need a will or not: http://estate.findlaw.com/wills/what-happens-if-i-die-without-a-will-.html

Someone wrote a pretty extensive review of a recent episode of HTGAWP! https://hearthatnoise.wordpress.com/2016/06/30/htgawp-how-do-i-talk-to-my-kid-about-molestation/

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Episode 21 - How do you talk about racism in your family? Jul 10, 2016

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My husband is back again! This time we have an intense conversation about racism and white privilege in the wake of the most recent police shootings. We also discuss how being in an interracial marriage affects the way we communicate with each other about the reality of racism. What are we going to tell our daughter about the world she's growing up in? Let me how your family is dealing with racism. I'd like to compare notes.

Show Notes:

There is a white privilege conference: http://www.whiteprivilegeconference.com/

Not sure what "White Privilege" means? Here's the definition: https://drive.google.com/file/d/0B9uofOxNGMYONlBLS1k1RUxXNlhqbDZoMmFkQzM3SmItZXRB/view?usp=sharing

This hilarious video of Eddie Murphy trying to find out what white people do when black people aren't around is priceless! http://www.nbc.com/saturday-night-live/video/white-like-me/n9308

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Episode 20 - What's next for our family? Jun 26, 2016

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My husband and I have made a big decision that will change our family's trajectory. So I brought him on the podcast to discuss why we're doing what we're doing. And, we ask the listeners what decisions they have made with the hope of making a better life for their family. Let us know what you think:

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Episode 19 - Life Insurance and Birth Control Jun 19, 2016

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I plan to live forever. But, just in case I don't, I want my kid to have something to put in her pocket when I'm gone. So, my husband and I need life insurance. My friend Aljerice Hasty walks me through the different types of life insurance policies out there and the steps to take to make sure we're covered. Then, my girlfriend Laura is back to bitch and moan with me for our "Wah, Wah, Wah" segment. This time we're complaining about birth control. It sucks!

Show Notes:

*You can email Aljerice with questions: Aljarice.Hasty.f7du@statefarm.com

*Here's a handy insurance calculator: http://www.lifehappens.org/insurance-overview/life-insurance/calculate-your-needs/

*When the hell is there going to be male birth control? Soon-ish: http://www.webmd.com/men/news/20160325/male-birth-control

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Episode 18 - How do I talk to my kid about molestation? Jun 12, 2016

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Child molestation is a topic I’ve been worried about since the moment I found out I was pregnant. What if someone touches my kid? Can I legally murder a predator? Is it my fault? I asked Courtney Watson, MFTi to talk me down from my panic ledge by discussing how we can talk to our kids about their bodies and consent. We also get into ways to advocate for our children and heal with them and the entire family if a violation does occur. This will hopefully be the first of a series of episodes where we discuss age appropriate sexual behavior and responses to that behavior. Because just like all things in parenting, there is no one size fits all solution.

Show Notes:

*Please! Please! Please go to my website for all the resources and statistics Courtney mentions in the podcast.

*You can contact Courtney via her website (http://www.doorwaytherapeutics.com/)

*She wrote a special blog post all about how to talk to young children about sexual assault. It’s ESSENTIAL!

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Episode 17 - Bilingual Babies Jun 05, 2016

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What does it actually take to make your kid bilingual. I ask my friends Junichi and Enjulee Ito how they are teaching their baby Japanese. Is it working? Can my husband and I teach our daughter Spanish even though we're not native speakers? I have a lot of questions.

Show notes:

-here are some tips on how to go about it (http://www.omniglot.com/language/articles/bilingualkids1.htm)

-Junichi is a rad photographer (http://www.junichiito.com/)

-Enjulee is a rad crafter (https://www.pinterest.com/enjulee/)

-They have a rad family (https://www.instagram.com/enjulee/)

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Episode 16 - Am I qualified to give parenting advice now? May 29, 2016

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My friends are having a baby! Derreck and Vanessa Johnson are my very special guests on this episode. They're expecting their first child any minute now. We sit down in their living room to chat about all their hopes, fears, and questions about giving birth and life after baby arrives.

Show notes:

Hypnobirthing is not for weirdos. It helped me (and hopefully Vanessa) a lot.
Derreck's twitter stardom really is a thing (@deephunk)
He's also the unofficial Mayor of Brooklyn Summer. I met my husband at this party! (Makossa BK Cookout)

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Episode 15 - How does she do it? May 22, 2016

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A day in the life of any mom is busy, to say the least. But, what does it look when you have infant twins, an intense job, a loving husband and a serious exercise routine? My friend Daphne Palacio is here to give me a detailed account of her typical Wednesday. My eyes were bugging out in shock and amazement during most of this episode. Daphne is a force of nature!

Show notes:

Daphne talks about her life with PCOS. Learn more about it here

Babies can start taking swim classes as early as 6 months. We take our baby to the YMCA near us. Find classes here

There are a million slow cooker recipes online. So here is a list of the best slow cookers on the market

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Episode 14 - Parenting Differently Than Our Parents May 15, 2016

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My guest, Whitney Dwyer, and I dip a toe into the deep water that is DISCIPLINE. I've been reading (and reading and reading) a ton of articles and a couple of books on the subject. Yet, I'm scared of how I'll react when my little girl starts pushing boundaries. Whitney's been a mom for a few years longer than me, so I have lots of questions and concerns. We both know we don't want to do things the way our parents did it. But what does that look like when your kid hits your with a wooden train track?

Show notes:

*Whitney's awesome project My Post Baby Body

*50 years of research confirms that spanking is mentally harmful to children

*It seems like Time Outs aren't much better either

*Luckily there are lots of alternatives to Time Outs

*My #1 priority for my daughter: Emotional Support

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Episode 13 - My mom is here for Mother's Day!! May 08, 2016

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HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY! My own Mommy is the special guest for this episode. I ask her to do a little self evaluation as a parent. Then I tell her what it was like to be parented by her. It gets deep. We also discuss how parenting has changed since I was a kid. What would she have done differently? What does she think of me as a mother? Honestly, this is my favorite episode ever!

Show notes:

*My mom would like everyone to know where Guyana is. Here is a map.

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