How To Get Away With Parenting

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Episode 32 - My Dad Is Dead Oct 09, 2016

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My father died very suddenly last week. I am still in shock. He was not only a wonderful father to me and my siblings but he was also one of my best friends. I don't know how I'm going to go on without him.

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Episode 31 - Will my daughter think I'm cool? Oct 02, 2016

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I think it's important for me to cultivate my own interests, outside of parenting, in order to model the wholeness that I'd like my daughter to have. I spoke with my friend Christina Chung AKA Chungtech about maintaining an active career as a DJ. Christina really teaches her daughter by example that parents are people too. Her husband Arjuna Sayyed also joins us for a bit of chat.

Show Notes:

*Christina just released a fantastic new mixtape. Play it when you want to get funky https://hobocamp.bandcamp.com/album/modern-funk-fest-cassette-feat-chungtech-and-hotthobo

*Christina and Djumi made naengmyeon (a variety of cold Korean noodles) in a watermelon. I found a fun video that shows you how to do it. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t9w4d1nK3Xg

*Follow Christina on Instagram for fun pictures of Djumi and Arjuna and DJ life www.instagram.com/chungtech

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Episode 30 - Does my child need religion? Sep 26, 2016

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I've been worrying about leaving a spiritual hole in my daughter's life. I grew up a practicing and confirmed Episcopalian and enjoyed my church experience. But, I stopped believing in God sometime around college. Now that I have a daughter, and a marriage to maintain, I find myself yearning for the ritual and fortification of a faith based life. Yet I'm still questioning. So, I asked my dear old friend Angelica Teaupa to talk to me about her journey with religion and faith. I grilled her all about how her family practices their faith and how she deals with the contradictions and questions that come up for her as a Mormon. This was a conversation that I really needed to have.

Questions for the listeners:

*Do you and your children practice a religion faithfully?*

*Do you and your children attend regular religious services?*

*Do you truly BELIEVE or practice for cultural reasons?*

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Episode 29 - I've got all the answers! Sep 05, 2016

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Today I'm answering some of the questions listeners have sent in. Once again, I've called on my trusty assistant, and life partner, to help me delve into the discussion. We answer a question that's been a sore spot in our relationship for a long time. We also talk about how we navigated life after my first pregnancy ended. And, we discuss baby names!

No show notes again. Just more questions for you:

*How do you divide household duties with your partner?

*Do your children have chores? How does that work?

*Does keeping tidy get easier the longer you are a parent?

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Episode 28 - Life in California, So Far Aug 28, 2016

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We moved in to our new house in Oakland this week. So, my husband is back on the podcast with me to talk about how we're adjusting. We dive deep into the realness of moving across the country. No furniture! No money! No job! No sleep! But, despite all the stress we're so happy we moved.

Instead of Show Notes this week, I'm going to ask you guys some questions. Please help me find the answers:

Why does daycare end so early? How do you work full-time and pick up your kid at 5:00pm?

What order do you load stuff into the car? Kid first then groceries? Or, groceries, then kid? How do you return the grocery cart to the lineup in the parking lot without locking your kid in the car?

How do you help a toddler to sleep through the night?

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Episode 27 - Tips From My Dad! Aug 21, 2016

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We just made the big move from New York to California. Since our stuff is not here yet we've been staying with my parents for a few days. It's been great! My dad agreed to sit down with me and tell me all his parenting secrets. You're going to hear the word "responsibility" about a million times in this episode. No show notes this week. My life is too hectic to go hunting for links right now.

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Episode 26 - How do you find the right pediatrician? Aug 14, 2016

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We have to find a new doctor for our daughter when we move to California. But how can we be sure we're all on the same page about patient care practices? Recently, we had a pretty eye opening experience during a doctor visit. Now we know what we don't want.

Show Notes:

Some doctors think black people don't feel pain https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/to-your-health/wp/2016/04/04/do-blacks-feel-less-pain-than-whites-their-doctors-may-think-so/

This guide by the American Association of Pediatrics helps a little with how to chose a pediatrician. But it doesn't address my most prevalent fears https://www.healthychildren.org/English/family-life/health-management/Pages/How-To-Choose-A-Pediatrician.aspx

Check out Episode 18 of HTGAWP where I get schooled on the importance of consent by the fantastic Courtney Watson, MFTi http://www.htgawp.com/blog/2016/6/13/episode-18-how-do-i-talk-to-my-kid-about-molestation

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Episode 25 - No Screen Time/We're Hypocrites Aug 07, 2016

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My husband and I have a zero screen time policy for our daughter. This decision was based on a lot of compelling evidence about the negative affects TV and videos can have on early childhood brain development. But, when baby goes to bed...we are all about screen time for Mommy and Daddy! Are we total hypocrites? Is this going to bite us in the butt later? Will our daughter be an outcast because she's not keeping up with the Joneses of the screen world? Show Notes:

American Academy of Pediatrics stance on screen time: https://www.healthychildren.org/English/family-life/Media/Pages/Where-We-Stand-TV-Viewing-Time.aspx

How TV Affects the Brains of Young Children: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v2SdEpHjrjw

Real-life strategies for reducing children's screen time: http://www.commercialfreechildhood.org/resource/real-life-strategies-reducing-children%E2%80%99s-screen-time

JoAnn Deak's long talk about brain development in the first 5 years of life: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wQLgQayNMYI

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Episode 24 - Crosscast with The Bag Ladies! Jul 31, 2016

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I got two of the coolest chicks in podcastland to sit down and chat with me this week. Lina and Estephanie from the Bag Ladies podcast came by to talk about growing up in the Bronx, their path to Afro-Latinx feminism and they also gave me tips on how to make my daughter feel seen, heard, and appreciated. They really did help me, help them, help me.

Show Notes:

I discovered the Bag Ladies podcast on the greatest podcast listing ever, Podcasts In Color: http://podcastsincolor.com/

Listen to the Bag Ladies if you haven't already been on to them: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/bag-ladies/id1073190648?mt=2

Learn the young people's lingo and get "woke" via the Bag Ladies Tumblr: http://bgladiez.tumblr.com/

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Episode 23 - Organ Transplant and Hospital Stays Jul 24, 2016

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What if your kid gets sick? Like really, really, really sick? My friend Amber Drea came in to talk to me about what's been going on with her son. He's been dealing with major health problems since birth and now he's on the brink of recovery. She and her husband are still coping with the reality of having a sick kid while also maintaining an optimistic and humorous outlook. It's a true balancing act.

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