How To Be Awesome At Everything

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205. How To Be Awesome At Not Over-Protecting Our Kids May 06, 2022

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This podcast episode may ruffle some feathers but hear us out on this. Over-protecting our kids can be one of the worst things we can do for them. But it's our job right - to protect our kids. Protect our kids from harm... But… this has sort of overflowed into protecting our kids from being criticized by anyone, from bad grades, from a tough teacher or coach, from being outside alone… not only do they need these experiences to learn and grow… but they also need these experiences so they don't grow up thinking they are the center of the world. In an over-protected situation, any discomfort is immediately handled for them and life resumes in their protected bubble. Our kids need to fail, they need to have conflicts so they learn how to resolve them… they need to be allowed to explore and try new things on their own because thats how they discover who they are - separate from us- their parents. We want our kids to be tough and confident and independent and happy - and even though it often feels like the way to do that is to protect them from EVERYTHING and get involved in every conflict… unless it really is a threat to them… I think we need to step back and let them learn through these very valuable life experiences that they need. Show notes! This podcast episode may ruffle some feathers but hear us out on this. Over-protecting our kids can be one of the worst things we can do for them. But it's our job right - to protect our kids. Protect our kids from harm... But… this has sort of overflowed into protecting our kids from being criticized by anyone, from bad grades, from a tough teacher or coach, from being outside alone… not only do they need these experiences to learn and grow… but they also need these experiences so they don't grow up thinking they are the center of the world. In an over-protected situation, any discomfort is immediately handled for them and life resumes in their protected bubble. Our kids need to fail, they need to have conflicts so they learn how to resolve them… they need to be allowed to explore and try new things on their own because thats how they discover who they are - separate from us- their parents. We want our kids to be tough and confident and independent and happy - and even though it often feels like the way to do that is to protect them from EVERYTHING and get involved in every conflict… unless it really is a threat to them… I think we need to step back and let them learn through these very valuable life experiences that they need. Here are some key points from this episode: -Why do we do it? It feels right! We see bad things on the news and we want to protect our kids. -Examples: getting involved in conflicts at school Calling parents over little things kids can work out Switching them out of a class with a tough teacher Managing their every minute so they don't have to think or take care of themselves. Doing everything for them so they aren't used to helping out. -Lindsay talks about where she has gone wrong and right in this. -Getting involved with conflicts with other kids. -"Saving" kids from a touch teacher or coach. -Keeping up with other families- it's become a status symbol in a way. The more you protect your kid, the better you are doing as a parent. -Children need to fail- they need to have disagreements with their friends. This is how they learn. They need to get their feelings hurt because that is how they manage their relationships. -They need to have some freedom and some independence and be allowed to go outside or explore things that interest them. That's how they become confident and figure out who they are. -They near a clear identity- separate from us- their parents. If they are our little princesses their whole lives.. they feel like the center of the universe. Like they can do no wrong and are perfect. It keeps them meshed with us - something that's not healthy as they get older. -When we overly manage and coddle our kids.. they don't get any of these skills. They don't learn how to navigate someone with a bad attitude or a harsh teacher. They don't learn how to cope with adversity or failure. -We have learned in these last few years that we have to be double and durable. We don't know what life will throw our way and if we are weak, we crumble and can't handle it. If we are constantly having to flex our grit muscles and our toughness muscles, we can handle turmoil in our lives much better. And that's really the best gift we can give our kids. Happiness, independence, confidence and the life experiences to know how to manage all of it. CHEERS to protecting but not overprotecting our kids!

204. How To Be Awesome At Creating Your New Normal May 03, 2022

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66% - adults say that they are unhappy. That's 2/3 of people walking around. What!! If that's normal - we don't want normal- we don't want to accept what's normal. Today, we are taking about being different and not being afraid to do things differently. Getting out of routine. Routines can be great- but just the ones that serve us. Not the ones that we keep doing just because we've always done them. Lindsay says… "I always think… if I do what's "normal" to me or just what feels normal in society… in 5 years I'll end up in the same place that I'm at pretty much… which isn't bad but I'm not here to just keep doing the same thing and be normal and wake up in 5 years without much progress. I know I can't get better doing the exact same things over and over. We have to shake things up and challenge ourselves and create our new normal. Be open-minded and ambitious and don't put invisible hurdles in front of ourselves! When I'm cheering a little too loud for my kids at a sporting event or a race they will often say to me…. Geeeez why can't you be normal! And I smile and tell them the same thing every time… "I'm not here to be normal!" **Here are a few strategies we talk about! -Don't stay in your lane and accept what's normal - it's not working! 66% people! You can't do the same things everyone is doing. -You didn't come here to play it safe. You have to look at things differently! -Live free - get over the fear of being embarrassed or fear or failure or judgment. -Breaking free of what we think is normal or society thinks is normal. -You can't get better doing the same thing everyday. -It's hard to introduce new things into your life. It's hard you have to work for it. -We need to always be asking - how can I upgrade my system. -You might listen to a podcast with a great idea and try it- if it works - try it and if it works- add it into your routine. -Use virtual mentors for this! Pick people to listen to that are what you need and are the type of people you can look up to - pick carefully! -We often settle on where we are in life. -And we get stuck to believing where we are at is our normal. -We shouldn't assume this is how it has to be or will always be! -Lindsay shares some of her new normals: Cold showers are the new normal Running 5 miles is the new normal Going to sleep by 10pm and up at 5am is the new normal -You create all this normal! -Shake it up if it's not working for you!! Don't accept that this is how it needs to be. -There isn't one way to do things! Create your own way! **Some hacks!! -Write down your goals and make short term goals. Remember you just need one good idea. And you'll probably have hundreds of bad ones. -Work backwards. Get your goal and write out the steps to get there - backwards. -Sometimes you have to work 10x as hard to be different and better. -Break out of routine and have less structure to your days. Freedom can lead to new ideas and creativity and spontaneous adventures. -If you get a list of how to train for a sport- double it. You know what everyone else is doing.. you have the list. But if you double it - you'll be that much better than your competition. That's how you stand out. If you follow the plan that everyone is following you'll be in the same shape as everyone else. **Here's why!! -We are here once! -Who cares what other people think! -What's the worst that can happen?? CHEERS to your new normal!!

203. How To Be Awesome At Parties - Splurge VS Save! Apr 30, 2022

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One challenge with throwing an awesome party is making it awesome without spending a fortune. Today's podcast is all about how to decide what's worth the splurge and what's better to save on. Lindsay is sharing her process of party planning and budgeting that all starts with one big brain dump. A full list of all the ideas of food and activities, rentals, entertainment… every idea goes on the list. Then get quotes for everything. From there, we decide. First, remove anything that's way too much or figure out an alternate plan if it's something that's essential. Then, pick what's most important to you and what you think will make the biggest impact on the party and the overall experience. There are SO many creative ways to make a party really special, without costing a lot… if you plan ahead of time and are strategic about it. -Don't think of awesome parties as not an option because of budget! It's all about creative thinking and advanced planning! The process -Start with a brain dump - if the party is for someone else - make sure you get their input! -Get quotes on everything - before you make any decisions. -Pick what's most important to you and what you think will make the biggest impact on the party and the overall experience. -Remove anything that's way too much. -Buy things that you will reuse OR things that are the same cost as renting. -It's so much easier to throw a few parties a year if you own some stuff- cake stands etc. Know that all this is easier if you start ahead of time. If you are doing it last minute - it's possible but you're going to pay more! Overnight shipping, rush orders, etc. Food- make your own, get catering, have a vendor there. Food truck or food stand Pre-made or made on the spot. Ask all the questions! Have everyone bring a dish to save money if it's that type of thing! Activities - get ideas online then set-up yourself Have helpers instead of hiring a company Worth the SPLURGE - if it's a very specific company that does it in a special way Example: Gaming truck, caricature artist, paint class, cake decorating class. Decor- Balloons are essential - do your own, have some delivered, hire an artist. When to do each. If going for sheer volume, deliver and arranging them yourself. If the dessert table is your fav part and needs to be the most awesome - splurge- but just for that part. Signs- Make all your own, have some made on Etsy, have them all made on Etsy BUY - signs! Chalkboard signs, neon signs Adult party ideas- Wine tasting, champagne tasting, food tasting. DIY Start setting up a few days ahead of time so you can craft yourself and you don't have to pay for things to be made for you. We hope you got LOTS of ideas what to splurge on and what to save on for your next party!!

202. How To Be Awesome At Knowing "This Is Just A Moment" Apr 22, 2022

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Lindsay says…"I've learned to really hold on to 5 words in many situations. And the interesting thing about it is, I use the same 5 words in difficult life moments and in the very best life moments." Those words are… this is just a moment. When it's an amazing life experience or phase of your life, it's the best reminder to soak it all in, feel all the feelings and really be where your feet are. Because this is just a moment and it won't last forever. And when it's a super challenging time of life, or really bad day or a time when you're dealing with grief and sadness, those same 5 words can help so much. This is just a moment. The pain you feel now, you won't feel forever. You might replace the word moment with phase or period of time in life depending on the situation but the message is the same. It's a moment in time, and it won't last forever. We love something that is easy to remember - something that pops into your mind when you're in a situation or a phase or feel like you're at rock bottom or feel like you've never been happier and you're on top of the world. If it's good, breathe it in, live in it. If it's not, know that things get better with time and this too shall pass. This is just a moment. Let's go! A few points Lindsay talks about: -We know this about time - it keeps passing, no matter what we do. **If it's not a particularly great phase or situation… ** -If you can hang on, soon enough, it will be different. -Let's talk about ways this comes into our lives. -Hard phases with kids - a toddler who won't sleep for example. -Feels like you will never be out of that phase, and then you wake up one day, and you are in fact, out of that phase. That period of time that was painful and felt like it would never end, actually ended. And often looking back, it wasn't as painful as we thought. -Picture yourself on the other side of it. -When do you picture you're be out of it? -Time heals things!! -Or if it's irritating things! A terrible meal at a restaurant Traffic!! -Helps to have more patience -like with a slow moving grocery clerk -or aging parents -or kids who won't.get.in.the.car! **If it's a great phase or situation… ** -BE WHERE YOUR FEET ARE! -Whatever that moment is for you - a super high high. Maybe it's on vacation at a magical place. Or running a mile further than you've ever run before. Or reconnecting with someone you thought you wouldn't connect with again and mending a friendship and now you have that special person back in your life. -Breathe it in. Take an actual picture, take a mental picture. -Snuggling newborn babies -beach days - seasons - enjoy it while you can - it is just a moment -what can you do to savor things now? -take a trip alone with one of your kids - one day they will be at college and you won't have the same opportunity. -This may sound sad but it's healthy and realistic. Nothing is permanent. -This allows us to get through hard or unpleasant things. And really enjoy the awesome things, which also makes the tough times easier to get through. I think when you really LIVE in those high highs, you don't get depressed or quite as down when things aren't going your way. CHEERS to making the best of the phase and situation you're in. Because we know, it's just a moment.

201. How To Be Awesome At Hosting A Party And Enjoying It Too Apr 19, 2022

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How to host a party or gathering and really enjoy it too! Tips that work for kids parties and adults parties… or small get togethers or parties on a bigger scale. You put so much into creating a fun party experience for you and your guests… once the party starts… you need to be in FUN mode… not execution mode. This podcast episode is filled with lots and lots of ideas of how to do that. So you aren't worried about getting the right pictures or picking up the dirty plates when people are done or running around trying to fix the music that's not playing like it's supposed to be. We are talking about creative ways to have so many of these things handled ahead of time or during the party - but by other people! So you are free to enjoy your guests and have the best time. Also thinking of all the little details ahead of time - any food allergies you need to accommodate for, where the candles and lighter will be if it's a birthday, having a signature drink or cocktail ready so everyone gets a first refreshment quickly. Anything that could send you on a mission to solve on the day of the party - we are going to work on ahead of time instead. What's worth spending a little extra on and ways you can save are key too. Here are some of the key points mentioned: -Walk yourself through the entire day of the event - from getting ready until the last guest leaves. -Consider getting your hair and make-up done. -Have people doing the things you would be doing! Picking up dirty plates, refilling TP in the bathroom, offering people drinks etc. -Have someone in charge of photos - so you don't wake-up without the photos you wanted from your special event. And that way you don't have to be in charge of managing it. Have a "shot list" made ahead of time. Pay someone or have a friend do it. -Make sure your tech is working! Music, etc. -Have a signature cocktail and consider a bartender. -Know anyones diet restrictions -Have things for the kids to do! -Get drinks/ice ready ahead of time. And candles and lighter! -Set-up as much as you can day before - anything that's not perishable food -Pay a little extra to have rentals delivered a day early! This way you can take your time to design and set-up everything and you aren't dashing at the last minute. -Add an activity - for adult parties too! Or even one everyone can do! Like a characiture artist etc. Have things for people to DO! -Have helpers to pick up things! -Have some healthy options for food. -Have to-go containers out and ready if you're going to send people with food! -Make sure you have enough sitting room - standing room. -Have a snack station - for an app or for after party bites -something will go wrong- let it go!! Be like ELSA! 😅 CHEERS to hosting a party AND enjoying it too!!

200. How To Be Awesome At Getting More Done with 90% Mindset Apr 10, 2022

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Lindsay says... "I have to tell myself all the time - the goal here is 90%, not 100%. Which may sound backwards… in fact I want to give 110% to everything I do… but the reality is that when you shoot for 100 or 110%… you can't get to as many things and often never actually get the things done. This feels very off brand to me, I have to be honest, but I really wanted to do this podcast because it's something I wish I would have learned years ago. Know when it's a project that is best with 90% effort so it gets done and on time or when you want it done and you can move on to the next. In business and in life, some things I really wanted just timed out on me… it felt like such a big project and I wanted to do it soooo thoroughly that I never had time (made time) for what felt like a monster project. And other times when I took something of the same scale, told myself I was going to get it done the best I could in four hours, it was great, and it was done. I think there is so much power in knowing when 90% effort is the best in certain situations. That's what we're talking about today… let's go!" A few key points: -90% and done is way way better than shooting for 100% and never getting to it. You can get so many more things done and have so much more free time when you give full energy to things, but are happy with 90%. -When something gets too hard- know when to jump ship on the idea. -Ask yourself, now that this has gotten complicated, is it worth it? I find that usually not and I make a new plan. To you it's 90% but not to anyone else. -Be willing to change your idea!! -So you don't waste time OR money. -Say you're shopping for a gift for a friend and it's killing you, you can't find exactly what you want.. know when to call it! -Doing things this way gives you DOWN TIME. You don't need to be working all the time! Now you have time to get outside and do the things you love and come back refreshed. -Stop multitasking! Do one thing and move on. It can be a way to procrastinate! -We have to stop necking our notifications like a drug. -Solution - put phone on other side of the room, silence notifications. -Start your day right- don't check email and social first thing in the day. -Write out your list ahead of time, night before or for the week. -Don't over commit- you might have to say no. -Productivity is about accomplishing your highest priorities, effectively and efficiently. -Know your first few hours of the day are your best and most sharp and productive. -For huge tasks, write down in pieces, not in a huge chunk on your to do list or it will never get touched. -Create time limits!! That's it - must be done in 30 mins or 3 hours etc. -Sometimes it's better to pay someone to do it - if you don't like doing it or it will take you a long time or it's cheaper to pay for it than your time figuring it out. -Also- stop caring so much about things that don't matter. Know whats important to you and your life priorities- and don't sweat (or spend too much time on) the rest! Sometimes 90% and DONE is way more awesome than 110%!! This podcast goes through all of it!

199. How To Be Awesome At Starting A New Chapter In Your Life Mar 31, 2022

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We all go through different ages and stages of life…

Whether the changes feel like they were your choice or not… Or they feel more positive or negative…

They all have something in common… They push us into a new chapter. A new chapter that we can design ourselves.

The goal of this podcast is to empower you when you're entering a new phase in life. To approach with with clear intensions and without holding onto anything you don't need from the previous chapters.

You're writing your own story, and if you don't like any part of it, the coolest part is you can start a new chapter anytime you want.

-Why start a new chapter?

Maybe you are forced to

Or you realize you are living too much in routine

Or you know you need to for your health

-Maybe you have grown kids who are moving out or moving away to college… Maybe you lost your job during Covid…

Or you aren't living a healthy lifestyle and you want to

-Types of ways to reinvent yourself...

Work change

Fitness change

Nutrition change

Clear out physical clutter

Clear out emotional clutter

-Let's talk about why it's hard…

Change is hard

You don't know what the new chapter looks like

But you do know what you will be losing

-Let's talk about some steps to get you there.

Get uncomfortable

Set small goals

-Why its essential

Because you don't want to have any regrets at 90

We are here one time - you cant stay in a job you hate for the insurance benefits or because it makes someone else proud of you

-Other episode to listen to: How To Be Awesome At Doing What You Should Do

-Do more of what you like - with the people you want to do it with- as many hours as possible. That's the goal.

-Figuring things out is a forever game - you don't have to know at a certain age and it will change!

-Stop looking backwards - your past doesn't determine your future.

Stop dwelling on your losses that are holding you back! It's over, move on! Be like Elsa and let it go!

-Whatever you want to do is absolutely possible… the question is… how hard are you willing to work for it?

-Often times people think they are lazy or tired- I just think you might not love what you are doing.

-Sometimes you just have to be patient.

-You down have to see the whole staircase… just the next step.

-There is so much power in knowing you are in control of everything. Someone in your life sucks or are negative? Limit them!!!

-You'll never know what the alternative would have been. You pick one and you never ever ever even consider to look back.

-It's all about what will you have the least regret about?

Cheers to your next chapter!

198. How To Be Awesome At Giving People The Benefit Of A Doubt Mar 25, 2022

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Lindsay tells the story… "This past weekend as we were leaving a mother daughter luncheon, I was bending down to pickup all the things my girls had collected through the day and I looked up to see 3 moms looking at me then turn away quickly. I was like that was crazy- they were clearly talking about me… so I processed for a second and picked up the rest of my things and turned to go and the same thing happened again. They all sort of had the same nervous look and looked away real quick- no smiles… I was oh my gosh again, what were they saying about me?? And then I took a breath and as hard as it is in that moment, I thought, maybe they were saying something nice. And if they weren't, it's their issue, not mine. My husband first taught me this years ago when a similar thing happened when we were walking to dinner together and he's like, maybe they like your shoes. And I was like… uh, did you see their look, I don't thinkkkk so. But here's the thing… if you're not going to go up and ask them and even if you do, you'll likely never know what they were saying. So your option is to accept that they were talking badly about you and spend the rest of the day talking about it and contemplating what they could be saying- my dress was too tight or who knows. OR, you can decide, I'm going to give them the benefit of the doubt and assume they were saying something nice OR they weren't and it's there issue not mine." Because we know… you can't control what happens to you but you can control how you react to it and how you interpret it. -We are talking about giving people the benefit of the doubt in this episode. -Have you ever had anything like this happen? We immediately think of our insecurities and decide that MUST be what they are talking about. We will never know! -When this happens - it can go one of 2 ways!! -Giving people the benefit of the doubt does 2 things- makes you walk around the world thinking people are good -And in those moments when they aren't … maybe they have some crazy stuff going on! -And if thats not the case- then how sad that they have to go home and live with it. Or they haven't been able to work through their issues yet. Whatever it is! Jealousy or insecurity … -Same with comments in social media -You must protect your headspace! You CHOOSE if you let it in or not! Giving people the benefit of the doubt is as much for you as it is for them. We hope this podcast inspires you next time you're in a situation like this to give them the benefit of a doubt and protect your headspace. CHEERS!

197. The story of how I sold my company. Mar 21, 2022

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Lindsay sold her company!! We are so excited for her and for this podcast where she shares her journey starting, building and selling her company, Million Dollar Tan. Listen in for interesting and inspiring stories about Lindsay's journey as an entrepreneur and why she decided to sell her business.

196. How To Be Awesome At Approaching Conflict With Ashley Bello Mar 18, 2022

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Today's podcast is about something some of us shy away from… and others of us charge towards… it's all about conflict. What to do when a conflict comes up. How do you decide if it's a battle worth picking? How do you start the conversation? How do you make sure it doesn't end up in a disaster? Today, Lindsay has her friend Ashley Bello on the podcast because she is incredible at dealing with conflict. Like, the best at it. She's straightforward and direct and stands up for what's right… but is also the coolest and sweetest girl ever. Lindsay wants to understand more about how she thinks about conflict and manages to address tricky situations head-on, but still comes out of it not being labeled a word that starts with a B. If you are someone that tends to avoid conflict, lean in here because we're about to change all that. We're talking about how freeing and awesome it is to approach conflict in the healthiest way possible and how to stand up for yourself or people you love or just stand up for what's right. Lindsay has 2 strategies: First, decide if it's really worth it- or is it something you just need to let go of? Next, decide clearly and rationally what you would like to get out of it. What's the best possible result at the end of it? Then work backwards. How do you decide if it's a battle worth picking? How do you start the conversation? How do you make sure it doesn't end up in a disaster? Ashely shares so many tips about how to take a beat before you respond to someone. How to have real confidence so you can approach a situation in a strong way. Never text or email to resolve a conflict. Know that sometimes time solves many things and brings clarity. How to deal with kid bullies and adult bullies. And what Ashley wishes she knew when she was 20. And LOTS of questions that came in from social media! This podcast is a must listen to so you are ready the next time a conflict comes up. CHEERS to approaching conflict in the healthiest way possible!

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