How To Be Awesome At Everything

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235. How To Be Awesome At Walking Away From An Argument Nov 20, 2022

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How to be awesome at walking away from an argument.

This is something that requires major self control and deep clarity in a moment that you probably don't feel like not having either of those.

Here's what I'm talking about.

When you are a heated back and forth with someone you love, I've learned that most of the time, the very best things you can do for a positive outcome, is to pause and give it some space. There is a very low probability that you are going to come to a good resolution if you are both so heated and hashing it out. Best thing ever - take a beat. Walk away, change your physical state and know that some space is the best thing for the situation. With time and space apart comes clarity.

So that is our, walk away and come back to it situation.

Then there are the other situations that are just… completely walk away. It's not worth it, walk away and let it go.

Someone cuts you off in a parking lot or tries to argue with you at your kids soccer game or leaves a super triggering comment on social media… none of it is worth your energy. You can't control what they say or do but you can control how you react to it and how you label it. We are labeling it as not worth it, and we're walking away.

We're talking arguments today.

-Here's the hack- when you are IN THAT MOMENT… tell yourself… WALK AWAY.

-My husband used to say- just give me space and I was like NO why drag this on… we can fix this now and go on and have a good day together!!

-Your body remembers stress! You have to control your stress and head space!!

Once you stop arguing as much - it's easier to keep it going.

-WHY IT WORKS

Time to cool off

Lose the ego

See their point of view (or not)

Have time to get back to the person you want to be

You have time to come back and show you care

-And then with strangers… you want to make a point - but often times - you have to understand they won't see your point and it's not worth it!

-Never text argue!!

-It's about controlling your emotions so this thing doesn't get worse

-If you're a hot head, this will be super hard.

-Here's the gold ready… you feel like you are LOSING when you walk away because you didnt make your point.. but you're WINNING by ending it.

-Examples : Someone says something rude to you on the soccer field. First, your kids are there so that's enough to control ourselves … but also, not worth it. You gain nothing!

-Rude text : NEVER reply right away.

-The bottom line is that you can't let the behavior of others steal your joy. But if you do, it's your choice.

-Focus on being the best and happiest that you can be – that's where your energy should go.

CHEERS! To walking away!!

234. How To Be Awesome At Life With Do And Don't Do Lists Nov 07, 2022

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I've made my life a bit more awesome lately by making TO DO and DON'T DO lists.

It's 10 things I want to be sure I do and 10 thing I want to be sure I don't do and it makes me have overall happier and more fulfilling days.

The goal of today's podcast episode is to inspire you to make a TO DO and a DON'T DO list… that you put on your bathroom mirror and you do your best to follow it everyday.

It's like the best practical way to do the things you know are best for you and avoid the things that waste time or make you feel crappy or anything else negative.

It's a great way to keep your goals front and center each morning and keep your priorities straight. First we're going to make your list… then we're going to make you stick to it.

What do want more of? What do you want less of? What habits do you need to kick? What habits do you want to start?

It's all on these 2 lists that give you laser clear direction for the day and help you stay aligned with what's really important to you.

Here are some key points!

-It may change at first

-It may take you time to get it right

-Then once you master things it may not need to be there anymore

-HOW to make your list

Write down what you want more of and what you want less of!

-Brain dump!

-Listen to your favorite people!

-Write down lessons learned from your own mistakes.

Put it up, read it everyday as you brush your teeth.

Today I will…

Today I won't….

CHEERS to your lists making your days more AWESOME!!

233. How To Be Awesome At Being A Girls Girl- Friday Podcast Nov 04, 2022

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How To Be Awesome At Being A Girls Girl. Let's break down what this even is. A girls girl is a woman who has other women's backs. For the women in her close circle, it's a do-anything for, always look out for and love with enthusiasm and without judgment thing.

And for women not her in close circle, she gives them the benefit of the doubt and is willing to be extra kind or helpful or complimentary… not because of any other reason than us girls need to stick together.

And it's not always easy. Society can sort of pit girls against each other - like the whole

Who wore it better thing. It is literally us judging one woman against another in the same outfit. Her hair, her make-up, her body composition. Really??

Whoever created that is certainly not a girls girl.

Because a girls girl knows that we all have our strengths and our times to shine and another woman's success or accomplishments or even luck, doesn't affect ours.

By being a girls girl through and through you have deeper and more meaningful relationships with the women in your life and you just feel more comfortable in your skin because everything isn't a competition.

We're on the same team girls!

Here are a few other ways to be a girls girl

-Go out of your way to compliment

-Go out of your way to refer something to someone

-If someone compliments your outfit, send them a link for it

-If you're in a group and someone is about to get shit on, stop the conversation

-Be respectful around boyfriends and spouses - this is the fastest way to not be a girls girl! To want all the guys attention or something along those lines!

-Don't let boys come between you and another girl

-Share with friends what you're wearing - if they ask- so they feel comfortable

-Will drop anything when a friend really needs you

-Remember her bday and do a little something so special to her

Let me tell you why it can be hard sometimes to be a girls girl

-Sometimes you will be jealous of a stage of life someone is in

-Sometimes you will wish you owned something that someone else has

-Sometimes you will feel like not telling the brand of your new boots because then you won't be the only ones with them. Let me tell you something - it's just STUFF

-It's hard to give someone the benefit of a doubt- but you have to.

Here is how it all comes back to benefit you..

-You're more confident - in general and in where you are at

-If you have kids, they see you being this way

-Your friends will do anything for you

-Good things come back around from strangers in ways you wouldn't expect

CHEERS!! To being a girls girl always!!How To Be Awesome At Being A Girls Girl. Let's break down what this even is. A girls girl is a woman who has other women's backs. For the women in her close circle, it's a do-anything for, always look out for and love with enthusiasm and without judgment thing.

And it's not always easy. Society can sort of pit girls against each other - like the whole

Who wore it better thing. It is literally us judging one woman against another in the same outfit. Her hair, her make-up, her body composition. Really??

Whoever created that is certainly not a girls girl.

Because a girls girl knows that we all have our strengths and our times to shine and another woman's success or accomplishments or even luck, doesn't affect ours.

We're on the same team girls!

Here are a few other ways to be a girls girl

-Go out of your way to compliment

-Go out of your way to refer something to someone

-If someone compliments your outfit, send them a link for it

-If you're in a group and someone is about to get shit on, stop the conversation

-Be respectful around boyfriends and spouses - this is the fastest way to not be a girls girl! To want all the guys attention or something along those lines!

-Don't let boys come between you and another girl

-Share with friends what you're wearing - if they ask- so they feel comfortable

-Will drop anything when a friend really needs you

-Remember her bday and do a little something so special to her

Let me tell you why it can be hard sometimes to be a girls girl

-Sometimes you will be jealous of a stage of life someone is in

-Sometimes you will wish you owned something that someone else has

-Sometimes you will feel like not telling the brand of your new boots because then you won't be the only ones with them. Let me tell you something - it's just STUFF

-It's hard to give someone the benefit of a doubt- but you have to.

Here is how it all comes back to benefit you..

-You're more confident - in general and in where you are at

-If you have kids, they see you being this way

-Your friends will do anything for you

-Good things come back around from strangers in ways you wouldn't expect

CHEERS!! To being a girls girl always!!

232. How To Be Awesome At Never Getting A Hangover Oct 30, 2022

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If you enjoy an icy cold glass of champagne or a refreshing mixed drink or a nice glass or wine or any booze… but don't want to feel like hell that night or the next day (or the next few days)… this podcast is for you!!

I've entered a time in my life where I've figured out how to have FUN and not wake up with a hangover- or even that crappy feeling where you aren't hungover but you're just tired and slow and maybe have a stomach ache.

This podcast is packed with ALL THE TIPS on how to have a great time and enjoy your champagne more mixed drinks or wine or whatever you like to drink… and feel great the next day. We're compromising zero of the fun… we're just being smarter about it and having a game plan going into it.

This is the zero hangover plan podcast episode!

What actually IS a hangover?

Alcohol is a diuretic. It causes you to pee more so you lose a lot of fluid. It also reduces the release of the hormone that balances your body's fluids. Dehydration causes fatigue and headaches and stomach aches.

Alcohol also causes an electrolyte imbalance

Alcohol increases inflammation throughout your body which causes you to feel bad too. And it makes you sleep terribly!

A hangover is a milder form of alcohol withdrawal.

Alcohol dulls the parts of your brain that control how your body works.

-How much alcohol does it take?

More than one drink an hour

-Does a hard of the dog work?

Yes and not!

It just increases the toxicity of the alcohol already in your body!

Here are our rules!!

-No shots, nothing too strong

-Hydrate before and during

-Zero energy drinks

-Eat before you drink

-Decide ahead of time how much you are going to drink

-Don't do the pouring thing where you have no idea how much you've drank!

-Take your supplements - just like you would to avoid getting a cold- and get sleep night before, exercise, how you feel going into it makes a difference.

-Really understand why you don't like over drinking - you won't remember the last part of the night anyway, etc!

-Stick to one kind of alcohol - I sort of believe this!

-I don't really agree with ANY of the anti-hangover things on the market. I think they are all mostly marketing and packed with bad ingredients.

Use THIS powder before and after for added electrolytes!!

-What to do if you get one!

Eat bland foods

Sleep

Hydrate

Aspirin

Learn your lesson and sleep it off

No quick fix here - your body needs to recover

CHEERS to really enjoying all the yummy drinks and celebrations… without any of the not so awesome stuff that often comes with it!

231. How To Be Awesome At Controlling Your Thoughts Oct 20, 2022

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I didn't realize until I had no choice

That I could completely control my thoughts.

Five months ago, my husband went into cardiac arrest in the ICU as we were holding hands.

He survived it and I felt like I went from the lowest low to the highest high… Only to realize the journey was just beginning.

We had an uphill road ahead with surgeries and complications and failing organs and a long hospital stay.

And for the first week there was more bad news than good news and I was trying to support him and connect the doctors with each other and keep my kids life feeling as normal as possible.

When I had a few minutes of alone time… When I was driving to and from the hospital or to pick up the kids or before I went to bed… I would naturally think about worst case scenario. Parker was just about to turn five and his dad his his hero what if…

And the little super power that I realized we all have… I just hadn't really woken mine up yet… Was that we can completely control our thoughts.

And this is what I did. Any time one of those worst case scenario, scary thoughts entered my mind I simply said… I don't and fill the rest in. I don't do negative.

Or I don't do overwhelm.

Or I don't do worst case scenario right now.

And it allowed me to not crumble at a time when I need to be strong.

And I'm not saying don't feel how you feel because I believe in feeling your emotions 100% but… I think sometimes letting your emotions fly doesn't serve you.

In this case, if I broke down… the whole thing would be a disaster.

Since then, I've used this in many different ways and often and it's been so awesome for me. And I think it will be for you. Let's go!

-When my husband was in the hospital - people kept asking me - how are you keeping it together?

I took my kids to a waterpark! Because I could control my thoughts. And it helped me to be strong.

-It's like a really rational way at looking at your emotions and just CHOOSING what serves you.

-BEST PART!!!

This is a hack you will remember!

-When you start to feel in a way that you don't want to… Start with I don't and then fill in the emotion that is about to surface that you need to be tough with!!

-I don't know a lot of things 100% for sure.

Growth mindset vs. fixed mindset.

-But what I do know is this… the words we say and the thoughts we think create the environment that you live in.

AND! We have to protect our headspace and make that a huge priority in our lives.

-I don't do…

Negative

Overwhelm

Yelling at my kids

Losing my shit

Procrastination

Negative talk about myself

Negative talk about other people

Blame

Crazy

-Feel the feelings when it makes sense!!

-It's a hack for not reacting in the way that you don't want to.

AND a hack for not caring about things that don't matter.

AND a hack for not spending energy on things you don't want to.

AND a hack for not being a person you don't want to be!

-Like if you are about to yell at your kids.

-Or say something rude to a co-worker.

-Let's unpack some of these..

-Procrastination - be honest with yourself… if you know you are putting something off.

Say you've had this idea to write a book for the last 5 years. But you just can't start. It never seems like the right time.

Wake up, decide you are going to eat the frog, hug the monster and say to yourself I DONT DO procrastination.

And it's out there. You're proclaiming it and then you proceed on without it.

-Negative talk about other people.

Saw a group of moms are chatting outside of school after drop off and someone starts a conversation that you can tell is leading to running another mom down. In your head you say… I DON'T DO talking shit on other people. And you excuse yourself and get the hell out of there. Even if you aren't saying it, you don't want to be in the space where people are. It makes you involved and you don't have the headspace for that. You're out here trying to be more awesome each day and learn and progress and spend time with your people!

-It GETS YOU OUT of situations!!

-I don't do negative self talk.

You're getting dressed and your stuff isn't fitting. You start this whole… well if I wouldn't have had ice cream every night in bed for the last 3 months I wouldn't be in this situation where I hate my body. NOPE! I don't do negative self talk. Get your ass dressed and get out of there. And then make the adjustments in your daily life if you need it but running yourself down only does harm- zero good.

-This hack is GOLD because like all of my fav hacks.. you remember it!!

-Next time you are in a situation where you know things are better if you control your thoughts.. use this hack.

CHEERS to being more awesome by controlling your thoughts and protecting your happy headspace. Because what we know for sure is that the words we think and say determine the environment that we live in. And nothing is more important than that ❤️

230. How To Be Awesome At Never Having An Outfit Crisis Oct 18, 2022

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As a girl who used to destroy her closet getting ready… and someone who would sometimes even pack a backup dress and heels when I went out in case I hated my outfit and wanted to change - whoa have I come a long way! In this episode, I'm sharing the secrets for never having an outfit crisis. So you're out there wearing clothes that you like and you feel comfortable in and confident and not self conscious. And, you're not late getting everywhere because you're trying on 100 outfits and destroying your space… and making yourself crazy in the process. Having a method for planning your outfits… for special events and on the daily… can be such a freeing and fun process. It's about purging well and looking at your calendar to plan ahead, laying things out and trying then on ahead of time. And making a decision, not over thinking it - AKA there will be lots of outfits - this is one day- by taking away the pressure the whole thing gets easier… and then going out and living your life and let the clothes you wear add to your confidence, not take way from it or be a stress. It's a few simple steps and it makes all the difference. Let's plan our outfits together today! Here are some of the tips we talk about:

Purge your closet - so you only have things you love in there.
Look at your calendar ahead of time and buy anything you need for events - online or in person.
Dont leave it to the last minute - lay out options and try them on.
Take photos to be sure you like it.
Always lay out your clothes the night before.
Decide and live your best life!!!
Get ready with plenty of time - allow extra for error for special events.
Have go-to back-up outfits. Black dress, etc.
Save bloggers pictures that you like - to recreate the look in your own way.
Stop body shaming yourself! If you're doing this - put up a picture of yourself as a young kid in your bathroom.
Buy clothes as a full outfit
Ask other people what they are wearing ahead of time.
If you constantly have a problem getting ready for a particular type of thing, make a note that you need more clothes for this specific thing. For the gym or for a formal event.
Figure out your style - even though ever changing- having a good grasp on what you feel best in will help you navigate.
Stop panic or stress or LATE getting dressed!
"I have no clothes" "I hate everything" "I look awful in everything"
Save yourself SO MUCH TIME and stress by planning ahead.
WEAR your clothes! Wear the dress you bought for vacation on a Wed. It's just going to sit in the closet anyway!!
Dress for you- nobody else - it will be the ultimate way to feel good when you go out.
Spend more on things you love and buy less.

CHEERS! To never having an outfit crisis again!!

229. How To Be Awesome At Your I Am Statements Oct 15, 2022

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We all have beliefs about ourselves. Character traits and tendencies and things we think we are good at and bad at. And… We tell people them! I am disorganized, I am always late, I am bad with money, I am highly stressed, I am not pretty enough, I am not that patient. When you think about your own I AM statements, you have to ask yourself… Does this serve you? If it doesn't, stop saying it!! When we make these limiting statements, we are creating INVISIBLE BARRIERS. The words you say and the thoughts you think are so powerful. We have to be so aware of the things we think and say about ourselves. They are the most important statements because they are what you believe about yourself. Today, we are doing a self audit of our I AM statements. And deciding, if it's not going to help you accomplish your goals… we are going STOP saying it!! -Here are some I Am statements that people say/think often. I am not patient I am not doing enough to meet someone I am too old, too short, too fat, not pretty enough I am not that smart I am clumsy. I am bad at names. I am a bad mom. I am weak. I am bad at math. I have lots of anxiety. I am shy. I am high stress. I am an all or nothing type person. I am not good at telling people no. -What is your I AM statement? Do you think that belief serves you? -Once you are aware of this- you will hear it ALL THE TIME -SAYS WHO!! Who says you are bad at math or money or anything else! Your past doesn't indicate your future its not WHO YOU ARE. -I can't do that, I AM not flexible. OH really, you can't become more flexible? -When we make these statements, we are creating INVISIBLE BARRIERS. These are limiting statements. -In order to grow, your identity must be whatever is required to grow. It can't be SET! -The language has to change! -I have a tendency towards being shy and stress filled. OR I tend to be shy with stress. This is less final. -We need to be able to be changing to what we need to do. -It gets more complicated like… I have to have 2 cups of coffee or I can't be productive. I have to have 8 full hours of sleep or I can't be productive. I have to know who's going to the party or I'll have anxiety. -These are all weaknesses that you build into yourself. You GIVE yourself traits that make you weaker. If you want to make impact, you have to know who you are and be able to adjust based on what's needed. Cheers to becoming more AWESOME by changing the I AM statements you say about yourself!

228. How To Be Awesome At Your Side Hustle Oct 10, 2022

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We are living in the greatest time there has ever been… to start a side hustle. For our grandparents and great grandparents, a side hustle was called a second job. Usually done at night after our main job. That's all changed. We can all start and run a side hustle from home! I love a side hustle for just about everybody. And for different reasons. It's brilliant if you… Feel overwhelmed with life but also underwhelmed. OR you hate your job. OR you are always stressed about money. OR you want to be an entrepreneur and have control over your time and money. OR you want to be creative and try new things. Today's episode is a mash up of all my favorite tips from my own business experiences and from the 20+ years of reading business books and studying how top producers do it. We're talking side hustles and hard work and getting out of your own way and following passions today. -What is a side hustle? Podcast, online course, Etsy shop, create a product, sell on Amazon, the list goes on! -Inspiration from this podcast comes from everything I've listen to or read in business but especially from Gary Vee, Tom Bilyeu, Tony Robbins and Alex Hormozi. Here are the tips!! -Be around people who support your journey- or head down and don't talk about it Pick a partner/spouse who makes you feel awesome about working You will feel resentful if you compromise your dreams because of them. Pick someone who supports you, even if they don't agree. Don't put your power on someone else. -Don't wait for a "good time." Start today. Not tomorrow! There will never be a perfect time. There are never going to be perfect conditions to start. Best to start when seas are rocky, if you can weather it then, you will remain successful because you did it during rocky times. -Read books and do the stuff in the books Read one and act on it vs. reading 20 and doing nothing. -Embrace failure and change how you think about it Failure is essential! You WIN or you LEARN! Keep going. -Surround yourself with people who are in the space that you want to be. Don't take advice from people who aren't where you want to be. -Instead of complaining, move. Strong character is built through hard times. Hard times helps us get to the good times. Accept and move on. -Use your circumstance as power, not an excuse. Assume the world is unfair and act accordingly Stop complaining! All that complaining does NOTHING. The world is unfair, go anyway. -Never blame your circumstances, thank your circumstances for making you who you are. You can't change it or control it, lean into it. You are who you are because of the stuff you've been through -Seek out discomfort You will suck at first. We avoid discomfort. We are judging ourselves for being bad at something we haven't done before. #1 discomfort is not accomplishing what you are capable of. -Do what no one else is doing You aren't going to get the results you want doing the same as everyone else. DO what you say you are going to do. -When it's time to hire people, they have to be smart and have a good attitude/vibe/perspective. That over past experience or skillset. You will make your life so miserable. -Don't believe what other people think about you more than what you think yourself Tom Bilyeu says always- It's all about how you feel about yourself when you are by yourself. -Value your opinion over other those of other people We often think everyone else's opinions are more important. The moment you decide you are successful- you are. It's our choice. If you try to give yourself a number- you will move the number. Once I am rich then… It's the journey- not the destination. You are living your values of pursuit- that means success to you. -Find something that works and don't stop doing it. If you keep doing the same stuff, you will keep have the same outcomes. Whatever you are doing right now has gotten to where you are now. So stop doing that if you want to push for more. -Keep doing it until you are actually BORED!! because you are so good at doing that thing that works! It's hard as an entrepreneur because you don't have set deadlines. Keep doing it, over and over. We just often aren't willing to do it. Find something that works and then double down on it. -Do your best and make it above what it takes to be successful You have to do things that other people aren't doing. Most people aren't out there hustling. You can't do the same as everyone else. You can't look for their approval. Do your best, not what it takes. You must become better so your best is better. If you try your best and it's not good enough, get better. Be better and do it for long enough- you will get better in the process. -Assume you might not be right about everything and be willing to learn Most people think the opposite. Question what you think always! Always be learning!! Read and listen! Have the humility to learn and be open. Stop assuming we know everything. -Make promises, keep promises (mainly to yourself!) Destroy your reputation with other people. More importantly, you break promises to yourself. Respect for yourself is everything and the hardest to earn. YOU know what you are capable. You could have done more calls, made more content, gone to the gym longer, you could have made a better product. You lose respect for yourself by breaking promises to yourself. -Say you are going to do some thing and then do it You are busy all day but nothing important moves forward. The people who are doing the most in the world are making sure the most important things get done. Usually! It's what you are procrasting on! You can stay busy all day with stuff that doesn't matter. -Expect no one to save you except yourself. The government isn't going to save you. Nobody else is either. Don't wait around for it. -When you start making money, don't adjust how much you spend accordingly. Don't spend it all! -Talk less, do more Rather than talking about how much you are working, do it. Stop preparing to work, just work. Start with the doing. -Avoid working on the stuff that doesn't matter, work on the things that matter most, ignore the rest WHO cares what your life looks like! Be willing to not look fancy. You have to be real to you. Or you will be real to nobody. -Start something new today and keep at it, until you are good do it so long that it would be unreasonable for you to be bad Don't leave half built bridges - don't constantly jump into new things. Don't leave when you see the downsides of things. We are optimistic until we see the hard parts. You will stay busy and not making money if you keep jumping. Ping me for what tactical advice you want on starting specific side hustles! @LindsaysCloud on IG It's hard and it's uncomfortable- but it's temporary pain for long term success, however you define it. CHEERS to your side hustle that brings you fulfillments!

227. How To Be Awesome At Packing Food So You Never Eat What You Don't Want To Oct 01, 2022

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Today's episode is all about packing food so you never eat what you don't want to eat. This is not food prep, and it's certainly not dieting tips… it's simply thinking ahead about what you are going to eat so you feel your best. And that's going to look different for all of us. But I think one thing most of us have in common is we get busy and end up grabbing something-anything fast on the go, or eating kids nuggets off their plate or ordering in or going out… all because we haven't thought about our meals ahead of time. It's taken me so many years to learn what foods make me feel alive and have energy and what foods make me sluggish and just want a nice big middle of the day NAP. I'm not talking about not enjoying or celebrating the things at the occasions… totally the opposite. I'm talking about our routine meals… the ones we have to fuel our body and keep going… that we often don't think about until we are STARVING and limited on time or ways to get something we want. You will never find me at Disneyland or at an airport or on a road trip without a little cooler bag of food. And it's all delish and things I want to be eating, it's not skimping or counting calories - totally the opposite. It's about finding foods you enjoy, and make you feel your best, and plan ahead of time to have them when you need them. Let's go! Here's what we know!! -Homemade is ALWAYS best!! -So you splurge when you WANT to… not because of lack of options. -Think about these times when you might not have what you want: Airport Disneyland Road trips -The celebration meals feel SO MUCH BETTER because you're eating homemade, healthy food most of the time. This is NOT about weight loss but you can maintain a healthy weight so much easier when your routine meals are healthy and don't have cruddy ingredients. -What to pack: PROTEIN! Healthy snacks If packaged, the best ingredients only - use Bobby Approved app! -Finding out what your gut likes Allergy tests Trial and Error My functional medicine doctor- Dr. Singler -Creative Ideas Freeze healthy bars - my fav - Mid Day Squares Or freeze your healthy blueberry muffins - keeps them so fresh - especially for flying Protein veggie patties (homemade) - with a side of yummy mustard Fruit and veggie trays you make up (I like veggies first - fruit as a sweet usually) -How to pack it: Glass at home, plastic on the go. -Saves so much time and money! You know when you go out - not for the experience of it - just cause you need to eat! It just takes so much time and money. I'd rather go out when I have the time and headspace to ENJOY! -And the time saved by last minute food errands is huge! -It takes some pressure off exercise. Daily movement is EVERYTHING- don't get me wrong! But what you eat can affect you more - for long term health and body composition. If your eating feels in line, it's not so much pressure for intense fitness which can be great for different seasons of life. -SLEEP! You sleep SO MUCH better because your body is properly fueled! And you're not eating out super late because you're in a bind. -Mood Less mad dashing, more planned is always good for our mood. Overall, I think of routine meals as fuel- what will make me feel satisfied and happy and energized. Everyday I'm eating foods I LOVE and I feel strong and lean. It's only taken me 20 + years of reading and listening to ALL the experts on this to figure out my groove myself. Warning- your friends and family will at first look at you weird for bringing your own food- but they will get used to it- and ask for your snacks!! CHEERS to fueling your body in the best way possible!

226. How To Be Awesome When You're Nervous Sep 26, 2022

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It's going to sound sort of basic and maybe even cheesy but I'm telling you it's the secret sauce. When you're in an awkward situation… maybe having small talk with someone you've just met or you walk into a crowded room of people you don't know or walk on stage before a speech… you're nervous!! Deep breath in and SMILE. It's like the most basic thing… that most people don't do. But I'm telling you if you can train yourself to do this… you will get comfortable in uncomfortable situations so much faster!! Smiling is contagious … it lowers stress and anxiety… you're more approachable… you appear more confident. Because of the reaction your body has to smiling, you're almost tricking your body into feeling more happy and less nervous. Now it's not a nervous smile or WORSE- a nervous laugh. It's just a calm and confident smile- without saying anything. It's subtle but changes everything. Today we are talking about our superpower in uncomfortable situations - SMILING. -We all get nervous - sometimes a little or sometimes a lot. -Smiling is an easy way to boost your mood and be more relaxed. -And it's way better than the alternatives!! looking down Retreating on your phone Crossing arms Biting nails Fidgeting or swaying -This is NOT a nervous laugh! -When we smoke it triggers a cascade of feel good brain chemicals called endorphins! -It's almost like you TRICK your body into feeling new emotions. -The act of smiling is a cue to your brain to release neuropeptides or happiness hormones like Dopamine, Serotonin and Endorphins. Dopamin- gives you an instant boost of energy and motivation Serotonin- helps calm you down and soothes your nerves Endorphins- reduce cortisol levels and even decreases feelings of pain. Together these brain chemicals work to reduce the effects of stress and pressure and improve your mood!! -Contagious!! For you and for those around you. When someone smokes at you.. your instinct is to smile back. It instantly creates a positive social connection that reduces stress and improves connection. It also tells your brain - im surrounded by friendly people here. "There is nothing either good or bad but thinking makes it so." It's not the EMOTION it's the MEANING you give to the emotion that makes it come alive. -So change your state, change the MEANING you give to the situation and change your emotion. -It's like an instant confidence bump. And it's one easy hack. Breathe and smile. -This is NOT putting on a happy face when you're upset - in fact we should FEEL ALL THE FEELINGS. -It's about how you label the situation and how you react. Instead of OH MY GOD im so nervous. It's deep breath and we got this. -People respond so well to this because even if you dont talk to people, you appear friendly. -And it helps you have GOOD REACTIONS! When you don't know what to do- default to smile - when most people default to something else - resting not so kind face or reaction etc. -There's zero downside and it's easy to remember. CHEERS!! To your SMILE being your superpower!

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