How To Be Awesome At Everything

307. How To Be Awesome At Creating A Special Connection With Each Child Nov 17, 2024

Whether you have one kid or 5 kids or you don’t have kids but plan to one day… this podcast episode is filled with ideas for you to really connect with each child - starting at any age. Life is busy and the months go by quickly. I’ve learned just how important it is to slow down and be mindful of the relationship and connection that you have with each child and how it changes as they get older. My goal in this episode is to give you lots of ideas of ways to really connect and stay connected with your child. Ideas that will really get you thinking about how you can insert the best ideas for you, into your daily lives. I believe so much that an extra ordinary life comes largely from taking ordinary moments and making them extra ordinary and this episode is filled with so many ways to do just that with your babies. **Lots of ideas… 1:1 time consistently Leave out something to do together (book or football etc) Do what they are interested in Ask questions that are open ended and curious Show your love in the way that resonates most with them Celebrate tiny wins- things you wouldn’t normally celebrate Learn a new skill together Share a hobby Create traditions with each child (ex: Sunday am pancakes) Work together on a charity project Frame pictures of them that represent special accomplishments or moments Projects that live on like a time capsule (digital or actual) Dream day together - make a list, look forward to it, do all of the things on the list Plan dream playdate together for their friends Plan their birthday parties together Start a small business, podcast or blog together Go on walks after dinner - low pressure environment Make a seasonal bucket list (summer bucket list to go zip lining etc) LAUGH! Plan vacations / adventures **With each kid have a… TRADITION once a week or once a year SONG that is theirs/yours THING that is yours (star, magic, champion etc) OUTING to look forward to **Things to avoid… Always solving everything for them Dividing your time with technology Be curious and not judgmental Allow them space to fully be who they are **How we can use what we know about habits to make this all happen! Anchor to exiting (after brushing your teeth..) Start tiny - 2 minutes of something Focus on behavior, not outcomes Be flexible - helps you be consistent Change your physical space Just start- build on small wins - momentum Focus on doing, not perfection CHEERS to having the most awesome connections with your awesome kids!

306. How To Be Awesome At Turning The Worst Thing Into The Best Thing Oct 21, 2024

Every year around my birthday I’m like, ok, what’s the secret unlock at this age? Like what have I learned and what I am doing that makes the biggest difference in my life? This year, that skill that I’ve unlocked in myself this ability to turn what feels like the worst thing, into the best thing. In a very practical and realistic way. So aside from anything really really sad in life, this strategy allows you to get out of thinking and saying how much this sucks or is unfair or is the worst thing that could happen. And flipping it to- how could this become the best thing? I’m going to fully explain it because once you set yourself up like this - it’s crazy how you can see the same situations completely differently. It’s saying to yourself, this sucks, and it’s not at all what I wanted. But, how could it actually be the best thing? You have to listen to this full episode - it’s 20 minutes or so that will change the way you react when things go sideways. Things that are awful - like getting fired or someone breaking up with you or you don’t get the promotion or don’t get into the college or high school that you wanted. You sprain your ankle and can’t workout for 3 months and it’s your favorite thing.. This is what we know for sure… Bad things happen. People dont know how to cope. And they allow one bad thing to snowball into more. THIS IS THE UNLOCK! Bad things suck. The only thing worse is letting one bad thing ruin many good things. One bad thing happens and the way you operate afterwards is what more bad things happen. Because really… things aren’t good or bad- they just are. It's becoming anti fragile as we go. People often dont know how to cope with bad stuff. Thats how you end up with this weird spiral with more bad things happening. People dont know how to manage their emotions so they just react. The more I try to create space between how I feel and what I do, the more I've been able to control my outcomes in situations. It’s a superpower, I’m telling you. The next time something in your life sucks, ask yourself, how can this actually be the best thing ever?

305. How To Be Awesome At Planning The Most Magical Cakes Oct 04, 2024

Today we’re talking about party cakes! And all the ways you can make them magical. From cakes you make yourself at home, to store or bakery bought cakes that you jazz up to custom made cakes, I have ideas for you for all of them! From simple to extravagant and ways to make the party cake so magical and perfect for the occasion. My goal in this episode is to give you lots of ideas so next time you have a cake to plan, it’s the most special. We’re talking about the center of the party today… the cake! What’s our top priority? Taste, design, price. Get a Pinterest board going and a folder on your phone. If doing for someone else - show them inspiration and tell you which they like! Treats vs a big cake or a few cakes Ways to make your cake magical -Surprise inside cake - have bakery fill or you fill if baking -Custom topper - Etsy -Tons of toppers - Amazon + candy -Cake to match the theme A cake is a great “thank you for having us” gift! Or to bring to a party! My cake creators info: Brooke- bangpopshop@gmail.com My sign & cake topper creator: Anh- anh@bldahlia.com Custom cookie designer: Megan- cousincookie@yahoo.com Tag me on IG when you create magical cakes!! @LindsaysCloud XOX

304. How To Be Awesome At Making Honesty Your Superpower Oct 01, 2024

It may sound obvious, but honest, like real saying what you think, I’m obsessed with being honest and direct because it does so much for you. If you need to tell someone how you really feel or cancel on some thing or decline an invitation, be honest. Be kind and considerate and compassionate and have empathy… all those things. But just be honest. Even if it stings for a second people will respect your honesty and It’s hard to be mad at the truth. Honesty is a superpower because it allows you to go to sleep without crumbs! You sleep well knowing you don’t have little stories to make sure you keep up with or the pressure of doing something that you really don’t want to do because you weren’t honest from the beginning. Oh my gosh how much less complicated things are when you are direct and honest. Rather than calling a friend or thinking about something for days- you know how you feel - be direct and honest and move on to the next. Most things aren’t actually as big of a deal as we make them out to be. You don’t have little white lies to keep track of, and you don’t hold on to the burden of things. Think about how much more effective it is to talk to someone directly about something that is bothering you rather than not talk to them and talk to other people who can’t do anything about it and it just makes the problem bigger and stirs up complication. Often times, when you go straight to the source and you are honest, you can clear up miscommunications really quickly. Being honest doesn’t mean just saying the first thing that comes to mind and bulldozing other peoples feelings. To me it’s completely the opposite. When I think about what’s the best solution or the best way to handle a situation, it’s simple. Just be honest. If someone asked me to invest in a company, and it’s not a good fit, I tell them that rather than making up an excuse, that’s not true Examples! At work! Direct approach: “Your report had a lot of valuable information, but the formatting and structure made it difficult to follow. We need it to be more organized to ensure clarity.” With empathy and compassion: “I can see how much effort you put into this report, and that’s really appreciated. I know making adjustments might feel like extra work, but a clearer structure will help showcase the quality of your insights even more.” With kids! Direct approach: “You can’t stay up past your bedtime. It’s not allowed.” With empathy and compassion: “I know you really want to stay up longer and finish your game, but you need rest to feel good tomorrow. Let’s set a time to finish it tomorrow after you’ve slept well.” Direct approach: “You didn’t clean your room, so you can’t go to the party.” With empathy and compassion: “I can see that cleaning your room wasn’t fun or easy, but it’s important to follow through on your responsibilities. Since you didn’t finish, you won’t be able to go to the party today, but we can plan something fun when you finish it later.” Direct approach: “You hit your brother, and that’s not acceptable.” With empathy and compassion: “I saw you hit your brother, and that’s not okay. I understand you were upset, but hurting others is not how we solve problems. Let’s talk about why you were angry, and we can figure out better ways to handle those feelings next time.” With spouse! Direct approach: “I don’t feel like you’re meeting my emotional needs.” With empathy and compassion: “Lately, I’ve been feeling like I need more emotional connection between us. I know we’ve both been busy, but I really miss the deeper conversations we used to have. Can we find some time to reconnect and share more with each other?” Direct approach: “You’re not doing your share of the housework.” With empathy and compassion: “I’ve been feeling overwhelmed with the housework lately, and it seems like I’ve been taking on more of the load. I know we both have busy schedules, but could we figure out a way to balance things better? It would really help me out.” With friends! Direct approach: “You’re always late, and it’s frustrating.” With empathy and compassion: “I really value our time together, but it’s been tough when you’re often late. I understand things come up, but it would mean a lot if we could make more of an effort to start on time. Is there something I can do to help?” CHEERS to being your most awesome direct and honest self!!

303. How To Be Awesome At Making One Change That Will Make You 10X More Productive Sep 18, 2024

If you struggle with getting things done and being productive - I have one strategy, one change that will make you 10 times more productive. I love working with and studying high achievers and this one skill is something they all have. We’re going through how most people tackle tasks and make decisions and how high achievers do. And then, how you can start doing things this way right away. It’s one shift in how you do every thing, that changes the game. We are learning into the power of undivided attention, leading to more effective, efficient, and high-quality outcomes. Focus on one thing at a time - do it the very best you can, then move on. It’s mono-tasking at it’s finest. On the daily...

Improved Quality of Work: When you dedicate your full attention to a single project, you can dive deeper into the details and nuances. This focused effort often leads to higher-quality results. For instance, a writer working on a novel without distractions is more likely to produce a well-crafted manuscript compared to if they were juggling multiple writing projects.
Faster Completion Time: By concentrating on one task, you minimize the time lost to context-switching. For example, a software developer who focuses solely on debugging a specific piece of code can resolve issues faster than if they were constantly shifting between debugging and feature development.
Enhanced Problem-Solving: Monotasking allows you to immerse yourself fully in a problem, which often leads to more creative and effective solutions. Consider an architect working on a building design; uninterrupted focus enables them to explore innovative solutions and address potential issues more thoroughly.
Reduced Stress and Burnout: Handling multiple tasks simultaneously can be overwhelming and lead to stress. Monotasking reduces this strain by simplifying your workload. For instance, a project manager who tackles one project at a time can manage deadlines and expectations more effectively, reducing the risk of burnout.
Increased Mastery and Expertise: Focusing on a single project allows you to gain deeper expertise and mastery in that area. For example, a researcher concentrating on one scientific study can develop a more nuanced understanding and contribute more significant findings than if they were dividing their attention among several studies.

In the big picture, in the words of Alex Hormuz…

“The only way to achieve extraordinary results is to focus on one thing at a time and become obsessed with it.”
“Your ability to focus on one thing for an extended period of time is directly correlated with your success.”
“Success comes from the ability to concentrate your energy and efforts on a single goal until it’s achieved.”

302. How To Be Awesome At Having Strategic Reactions Sep 13, 2024

In this episode, we are talking about having strategic reactions instead of emotional ones. All day every day we are faced with situations in which we have opinions and emotions. But that doesn’t mean we have to act on them. It may seem so foreign at first put overtime, it’s the most empowering thing, because your energy is not wasted, and you don’t have unnecessary headaches. Asking yourself two things - is this worth my energy and what is the end result I want? It takes training to not act on your emotions but it’s crazy powerful. You keep so much more of control of your life and the situations you are in. This episode will save you heartache, stress and will certainly get you more of what you want. Before you send the text or the email - sleep on it and decide in the morning. Emotions don't require actions! Thinking through- what happens AFTER this … is so helpful!

What is the end result that I want? If you go nuclear on someone - We should think of the end goal in mind. I want them to not do that again. I don’t want them to retaliate. If you are trying to avoid retaliation, then it’s better not to throw the rock. Often times I just want to get the F out of the conversation. So how about just agree and move on. Examples: Someone says to you.. “You’re fit because you’re lucky. You have good genetics so it comes easy to you." You say, Ya, it’s nice. Maybe something triggers you politically. Maybe someone says something uncalled for or inappropriate. You should probably learn how to do ___ before trying it. Like what do you even know about it? You don't always have to set them straight or stand up for yourself. Control what you can control. THINK 2 steps ahead. Often times it’s honesty. Just tell the truth. It’s just so powerful for all stages of life. You have to separate you feeling something and you acting on something. You may feel angry at your co-worker but jabbing at them will only make your work life miserable. You have to resist things that might make you feel better in the moment. Create space and time! When you feel something and have the desire to act on it - since we want to make as logical of decisions as we can. If we make more logical decisions, we want to create space from when we feel and when we act. Just because you feel something doesn't mean to act on it. You’re most likely to regret decisions that you make immediately after something - your instant reaction. CHEERS to your super power of controlling your emotions and having strategic reactions!

301. How To Be Awesome At Creating Special Moments Sep 09, 2024

Let’s explore how we can transform ordinary experiences into extraordinary ones by leaning into the elements that make moments memorable. I’ve been trying to do this in my own life - making long drives that would otherwise be sort of boring - fun in some way. And setting up a little family game or activity during the day while the kids are at school for us to all play after dinner. I’m on this quest to make more lasting memories and have more connections with my people. Not get too caught up in routine and distractions that we forget to celebrate little wins and create more peak moments each week. I just read the book The Power of Moments by Dan & Chip Heath and this could not have come at a better time. Today we are talking about how you can inject elements of surprise and excitement and newness into everyday tasks. By breaking away from routine, amplifying high points, and focusing on emotional impact, we can turn the mundane into the meaningful and forge lasting memories that enrich both personal and professional experiences.

Defining Moments: Moments that stand out in our lives are often characterized by their emotional intensity. They break from routine and are memorable.
Four Key Elements: To create powerful moments, focus on these elements:

Elevation: Moments that rise above the ordinary and create a sense of wonder or excitement.
Insight: Moments that lead to a profound realization or understanding.
Pride: Moments that highlight achievements and strengths, often marking milestones.
Connection: Moments that deepen relationships and foster a sense of belonging.

Elevate Ordinary Experiences: Inject elements of surprise, excitement, or novelty into routine activities. This could mean adding unexpected touches, celebrating small wins, or introducing fun elements to everyday tasks.
Break the Script: Deviate from the norm to create memorable experiences. By breaking away from routine and introducing something unique or unexpected, you can make an ordinary moment stand out. Break the script - this is doing something that defies the expectation in the moment.
To create more peaks! It can’t happen so often that it becomes the normal

The Power of Small Moments: Even small, intentional actions can create meaningful moments, like personalized gestures or thoughtful acknowledgments.
Celebrations: celebrating milestones can help create lasting positive memories and reinforce values.
Designing Moments for Others: Think about how you can intentionally craft moments that will impact others positively, whether in personal relationships or in professional settings.
The Role of Storytelling: Crafting moments often involves effective storytelling, whether in personal experiences or in shaping the culture of an organization.
Leveraging Moments for Growth: Use impactful moments as opportunities for learning and growth, both personally and within organizations.

Focus on Peaks: Identify and amplify the high points of an experience. Whether it's a significant achievement or a joyful event, emphasizing these peak moments helps make them more memorable.
Create Moments of Pride: Highlight achievements and milestones to foster a sense of pride. Celebrating successes, no matter how small, can turn an ordinary occasion into a meaningful one.
Foster Connection: Strengthen relationships by creating moments that deepen connections. This can be achieved through meaningful interactions, shared experiences, or personalized gestures.
Use Rituals and Traditions: Establishing rituals or traditions can transform routine events into special moments. These practices provide structure and meaning, enhancing the significance of ordinary experiences.
Design for Emotional Impact: Consider the emotional journey of the moment and aim to design experiences that resonate deeply. Whether it's through storytelling, thoughtful gestures, or creating a sense of awe, focusing on emotional impact can elevate ordinary moments.

How to plan for these moments!!

Calendar out your life and picture yourself doing the things! What would make it more special?

A birthday- a massive poster card or game to celebrate the bday person. When planning, don’t fall back on how you do things - for everything. Keep some things the same - the ones that work best - then find new ideas for the rest.

ASK your people and listen!

By applying these strategies, you can transform everyday activities into memorable experiences that leave a lasting impression.

Items mentioned in this episode... Darts- https://amzn.to/4cUESDX Cookies- cousincookie@yahoo.com Book- https://amzn.to/3TmgK6f CHEERS to focusing on emotional impact to elevate ordinary moments!!

300. How To Be Awesome At Planning Life Adventures With Your Tribe! Aug 31, 2024

The goal of this episode is to get you thinking about planning more newness in your life. New experiences and adventures. Because we know- If you don’t put stuff on your calendar that you really want to do - life will take over. Work will happen, chores will be there and before you know it, we’re running life in reactive mode. All of the other life stuff will fill in anyway. Today we are focusing on planning things ahead of time that feel exciting and that you can do with your favorite people on the planet. We’re going through lots of ideas and getting rid of any hurdles you might have in your way as we go. Let’s map it all out then all we have to do is follow the script.

Braindump things you’d love to do! See who wants to do it with you! figure out what’s stopping you and what are you believing that isnt actually true? Ideas of what to do! *Get a group together for a cooking class followed by dinner with wine pairing

*Visit a local farm and book an apple picking experience

Find a local path and plan a hike

*Go camping for the weekend at a local spot

Take a photography workshop class with friends

*Set-up a volunteering event to help people in need in your area

*Plan a day or weekend filled with local museums and art galleries

*Learn to kayak at a local river

*Road trip to a nearby city and plan shops and cafes to visit

*Plan a day long bike ride with a fun stop for lunch

*Plan a ride in a hot air balloon

*Get a group to go indoor rock climbing

*Book a rental cabin for the weekend

*Take the train on an adventure

*Run a non-profit project with a friend

*Learn a new skill

*Take a new class with family and friends.

299. 15 Awesome Messages To Say To Our Kids Constantly Aug 19, 2024

I realized I wanted to have a few key things that I say to my kids all the time, that they will remember their whole lives. You know how special it is when someone says, oh growing up my mom always told me this… or my dad made sure I knew this… Parenting can be overwhelming and a lot just keeping up with the day-to-day. I sat down last week to write out the things that I’ve learned along the way that I think are the most important to help them be confident and strong and kind and grow up to be really awesome people. My goal in this podcast episode is to you give you lots of ideas of things to say to your kids over and over so it really sinks in. Here we go! 15 Awesome Messages To Say To Our Kids Constantly... 1 Make decisions and pursue passions based on what feels best to you. You define what success means to you. 2. Comparing yourself to other people will always steal your joy. 3 If you never speak unkindly of people, you never have to worry about it coming back to you. 4. The best way to make good decisions is to not put yourself in a bad situations. 5. Call me the second something goes sideways - I’ve got your back always. 6 Follow the rules and always be kind, but also live boldly and push limits. 7 Embrace all of your emotions and don’t label any as good or bad. 8 The more you fail, the more you are trying. Collect as many fails as you can and learn the lessons along the way. 9 Never say a word about your body that you wouldn’t say to your best friend about hers. 10 Give full effort to everything you do. 11 Family first, always take care of each other. 12 Don’t let little things that don’t matter in the big picture, get you too upset. 13 Make it your mission to be the one that helps someone who needs it. Sit by someone who is alone, volunteer and dedicate time to others. (The way to never feel entitled and see how most of the world lives) 14 You can become good at literally anything you want to be - you just have to be willing to work hard for it. Hard work, consistently can get you anywhere you want. 15 You are so incredibly loved 🤍🤍

298. How To Be Awesome At Becoming A 34 Aug 14, 2024

Ok let’s do it - what’s a 34? It’s the percentage of people who are happy and feel fulfilled in their lives. Leaving 66% of people- unhappy and unfulfilled. I love putting a number to it because it’s the best push when you’re scared. When it’s hard to start something new and risk failing… When it’s hard to say no to an event you don’t want to go to but everyone else is going… We know that what most people are doing isn’t working because the majority of people aren’t happy. They don’t feel joy and fulfillment and progress in their lives on the daily and in the big picture. We know a life that makes us feel excited and inspired isn’t just going to happen to us - we have to work for it and plan for it and design it. Today, we’re making a plan for becoming a forever 34. Getting out of our own way and out of our head, and doing more of things we love and less of things we hate. We’re making a plan to be the happy minority today. HOW I BECAME A 34… I started designing my days with intention. Realizing that it wasn’t just going to happen, nobody was going to do it for me and nothing was going to change if my habits didn’t change. I needed an actual SYSTEM to help bridge the gap between the life I wanted and the life I was living. A way to get super clear on my goals and then design a life based on those priorities. I needed a way to organize the habits I knew I needed to be doing and a way to avoid distractions, celebrate small wins and focus on consistency. I tried calendar books, habits apps, charts, notes on mirrors, lol basically everything. There wasn’t an actual habits system that helps you get crazy clear on your priorities and set big goals, then charge towards them daily. So I created one. And it’s awesome. It’s called 2.0 and it’s this awesome gift box filled with deep dive sheets, calendar books (one for each week) and other fun supplies to get you going and keep you on track. It’s a clear path to becoming a 34🚀❤️ This link takes you directly to a layout of how it all works📝✨ https://lindsay-dickhout-7734.mykajabi.com/ultimatecourse

297. How to Be Awesome At Asking The Right Healthy Questions At Restaurants Aug 02, 2024

Let’s talk about how to order healthy at any restaurant and what are the right questions to ask, to get a delish but also good for you meal. Now, up front I want to be clear that I am all about loving what you eat, and having the special experiences and endulging- for sure! But for the majority of the time - I think we all feel the best when we fuel our bodys with whole foods and limit sugars, refined carbs and seeds oils. I’m going to give you tips if you are an easy order-er when you’re out- and also if you’re like me and have no problems being the person with the complicated order - so many tips for you too. In fact, if there’s ever a viral video of someone with like their wildly complicated order, 5 different friends will send me the same video. I laugh too because it’s accurate but hey I’ve learned what makes me body feel crappy and what makes it feel great and if my order has a few turns to get there, it’s worth it. TIPS! Research where you’re going ahead of time - pick places with healthier options. As you get into doing this, call and ask the questions before you go- that way you can order easier when you get there. Tips for the… Easy order-er -focus on protein -sauce on the side -extra veggies instead of a starch -lettece wrapped instead of a bun Complicated order-er -Cook with olive oil or avocado oil -Drinks - no refined sugar- ask for what fresh fruits they have -Fish - wild caught -Chicken - organic -Beef - grass fed beef or steak For dessert - bowl of berries - anything on top on the side please See if you can get something from breakfast menu like greek yogurt and fruit with granola on the side. And if you’re at a place that isn’t an experience- bring your own glass container! No shame in bringing your own yummy food if they don’t have the right thing for you! CHEERS to loving the healthy foods you are ordering out!

296. How To Be Awesome At Exercise To Live Longer & Function Better Jul 30, 2024

Let’s plan your weekly workout schedule in a way that helps you to be your strongest and most functional self now, and also train for longevity and healthspan. The concepts I’m sharing today are from the book, Outlive, by Peter Attia. He takes this complicated topic- what forms of exercise are best for us… and makes it super clear. We are going through the 4 pillars and exact types of exercises you can do for them. I believe that there are so many ways to get to what you want in life- you have options so pick one that sounds fun. So giving you lots of choices and I’m also giving you exact examples of classes to take- if you want to use my favorite online platform - OBE fitness. Using Peter Attia’s 4 pillars as our guide to fitness will help us delay the onset of chronic disease, while also maintaining health span for as long as possible. Peter Attia outlines 4 different types of exercise: 1. Stability- the foundation of everything. It’s what allows you to pick-up 50 pounds off the floor without getting injured. It’s focusing on core strength (pilates), balance exercises (balance board or stability ball), functional movements (lunges and squats), progressive overload (challenging muscles through duration or resistance) and injury prevention (strengthen muscles around joints). 2. Strength- muscle mass and strength training. Lifting weights! A fall that will barely bruise you as a 30 year old can kill you as an 80 year old because you aren’t strong enough to survive it. 3. ZONE 2 cardio- aerobic efficiency - this is a steady state where you are cruising along at a sustainable pace. You should be able to maintain a conversation comfortably while exercising at this pace. 4. ZONE 5 cardio - VO2 MAX - an Aerobic peak, a short burst of energy like a HIIT workout. Attia says that all 4 pillars must be in your routine if you are exercising for longevity. Here are the types of classes to use on OBE for each type of exercise: 1. Stability- Sculpt 2. Strength- Strength & Power 3. Zone 2 Cardio- Low Impact HIIT & Dance Cardio 4. Zone 5 Cardio- HIIT & Boxing & Endurance As we age, we lose muscle mass and bone mineral density. Lifting weights prevents this which makes it an essential part of our longevity plan. Here is a link to Attia’s book: https://amzn.to/3SvaKYb And to Lindsay’s 2.0 Master Course: https://howtobeawesomeateverything.com/pages/the-courses Cheers to moving in the best way now… to plan for a long and healthy life!

295. The 20 Most Awesome Ways To Become The Super Human Version Of You Jul 25, 2024

Today we are going through 20 things that I think we can all do- to become the super human version of ourselves.

Some are biohacking strategies, others are mindset and some are the way we move and what we eat.

They are all so good and backed by science done by actual experts on the topic.

I just did a re-read of 3 of my favorite books on longevity and health

Outlive, Lifespan & Superhuman and I’m bringing you what I think are the best habits we can all do, to feel great now and function the best as we age.

There is so much information to sort through when it comes to this topic, my goal in this episode is to clear the waters and give you a cheat sheet for the best ways to get closer to the super human version of you and feel awesome!

These things will not only help you to feel AWESOME!

They are the natural medicine for…stress, exhaustion, constipation, low muscle mass, inflammation, headaches, trouble sleeping, brain fog, negative thoughts and feelings of wanting more out of life.

Treat the cause, not the symptom!

Click here to download and print your Super Human Cheat Sheet!

(Emily is putting it as a blog on the site - please add in that blog link)

Here are the Super Human Habits!

1. Get Sunlight

2. Lift Heavy Weights

3. Take Daily Vitamin, Creatine, Magnesium & Collagen

4. Get 7-8 Hours Of Good Sleep

5. Consume A High Protein Diet (eat more protein and bigger meals, eat less often and have less cravings)

6. Prioritize Hydration With Electrolytes

7. Stretch Daily (for recovery, longevity and flexibility)

8. Take A Cold Shower / Cold Plunge

9. Take A Hot Bath / Sauna

10. Protect Your Happy Headspace

11. Eliminate Everything Negative & Lean Into Positive

12. Do Some Grounding / Feel The Earth

13. No Screens Before Bed, No Screens At Wake Up & No Screens In Bed

14. No Food 2-3 Hours Before Sleep

15. Careful Of Your Liquid Calories (coffee drinks, juices, soda & booze)

16. Reduce Or Eliminate Refined Sugar And Carbs (fruit is the best alternative)

17. 10k Steps Per Day (movement throughout the day is key)

18. Get Uncomfortable Often & Do Hard Things (train to be tough & anti-fragile)

19. Create & Live By Your Own Definition Of Success

20. Have Fun & Laugh & Celebrate! (Invest time in building your tribe)

294. How To Be Awesome At Becoming Anti-Fragile Jun 11, 2024

Today we are making a plan to become tougher and less fragile. Because it puts us in the drivers seat. When we take full accountability for things and we resist the urge to fall into mindless scrolling or just going with whatever everyone else is doing, we’re planning for the long game. Taking lots of small risks and trying new things and pushing yourself and getting uncomfortable - it’s all conditioning you to be tough for life. So you are mentally and physically strong when you need to me. So when something hard is in front of you, you haven’t created this comfortable bubble that you live in that you just fall apart. I am on optimist to the extreme - so don’t take this as a negative - but just an honest observation - more and more people today are fragile and easily offended than ever before. That’s not the life we are working to create here - so let’s design our plan for being completely anti-fragile. How do we get tougher and less fragile? First, let’s unpack, where we are at and how we got here. Then, let’s make a plan to become anti-fragile.

I’m finishing up the the book The Coddling Of The American Mind and it’s SO interesting.

The authors explore why people are mentally weaker than they used to be and more emotionally fragile. A few key points that the authors make… In the last 15 years the public has become more emotionally fragile and young people in particular are less tolerant of any discomfort that comes their way. They talk about a few explanations that they have data to support that explain this… 1. Rise in helicopter parenting The assumption that parents need to watch their kids and protect them at all costs. 2. Philosophy of safetyism The belief that anything that can cause pain or suffering is ultimately harmful in the long run and can even be tramatic. 3. Lack of play The past few generations of kids have been so overloaded with schoolwork and extracurricular activities trying to get into a good high school and college that they haven’t had time to be kids, and it turns out that most mental and emotional development happens when they are playing. 4. Social media Social comparison, fear of missing out, constant connectivity and validation seeing are always that social media makes us more emotionally fragile. JOE ROGAN says… The hardest thing that has ever happened to you is the hardest thing that has ever happened to you. It’s so easy to win right now because most people are special snowflakes. Responses from social media: Everyone expects things at their fingertips with the Internet. Over parenting… In the 90s we got sent outside all day. Kids never have to struggle or just figure it out. Parents are too connected to kids. We are overstimulated with technology. Higher stimulation and emotions means faster to break down. Think we have more awareness and options more than ever to cater to comfort. Overprotective parenting and limiting exposure to the “hard” in life. The media telling us that everything our parents did was wrong. Definitely the younger generation has a difficult time managing stress and pressure. Not as much adversity to face, we embrace differences more than different opinions. Computers and less social interactions. Everyone gets a trophy. Lack of downtime in children. Too much screen time. We know more dangers than our parents did. I blame the Internet. Lack of basics In kids. One thing we know for sure - we must be anti-fragile to thrive. So knowing all this, how do we become anti-fragile? Here’s the breakdown.. We need to do harder things! Embrace uncomfortable too! Book: Antifragile Author Nassim Taleb Thoughts from this book!

Do hard things because adversities make you grow
Go through life as a flaneur
Adopt an anti fragile life philosophy
Make a plan for yourself and then stick to it.
Build in redundancy and layers (no single point of failure)
Resist the urge to suppress randomness
Make sure that you have your soul in the game
Experiment and tinker — take lots of small risks
Avoid risks that, if lost, would wipe you out completely
Don’t get consumed by data
Keep your options open
Focus more on avoiding things that don’t work than trying to find out what does work
Respect the old — look for habits and rules that have been around for a long time

#1 tip! Put tough people in your ears!!

You have to be willing to look wrong/do the thing everyone else isn’t in the short term to look like a genius in the long term.

As the old adage goes, when you do what everyone else does, don’t be surprised when you get the same results everyone else does.

293. How To Be Awesome At Getting Out Of Mediocre May 17, 2024

Polls show that over half of people walking around are unhappy and I think it’s because they are stuck in mediocre. A mediocre job, what they would consider as a mediocre relationship, mediocre health, mediocre version of whatever success means to them. And likely they probably have a story why they are stuck in mediocre. But the real story is, you can get unstuck anytime. Now, of course, some of us were still dealt a more difficult card than others. So it’s going to take more work to get out of mediocre but it’s possible because people who have had it harder than us have done it so we can too. It comes down to being honest with yourself about how you feel about different buckets of your life, realizing and believing that you’re incomplete control of all of it, and then establishing daily habits that support the exceptional version of you, not the mediocre version. I’m very positive and optimistic about the world we live in but I also think it’s so easy to win right now because most people settle for mediocre. They simply aren’t willing to do the hard work, or they are stuck in habits and routines that support their mediocre life, or they accepted that they are not good at something without actually putting in the hours required to become good at it. We’ve got one shot on this planet and mediocre is not the plan. Here’s the trickiest part - when you are honest with yourself and assess what in your life is mediocre - it feels painful like you should have done something differently. But when you lose the ego behind it and take it with the approach of - well I can’t do anything about what’s happened before now but I can for sure take all the lessons learned and make the best decisions going forward. It’s not a fail on me - it’s forward focusing with a growth mindset. WHY do we sit in mediocre sometimes? Fear of failure Easier to stay in your comfort zone Lack of ambition Conforming to social norms Limiting beliefs Not willing to work hard Perceived lack of resources HOW do we get out of it? Get around a new crew/ have different influences Outwork your self doubt - Alex Hormozi Focus on learning and improvement always Have high standards for yourself Take massive action Learn from failures and embrace them Stop getting distracted and doing the wrong things Consistency and discipline! Set-up systems and processes so it all seems more do-able Have a clear vision of your long term goals and set-up habits to do each day that support those goals. We have to be willing to have discomfort now - and resist immediate satisfaction, for the long-term satisfaction that is so much sweeter!

292. How To Be Awesome At Deleting Negativity May 13, 2024

I do quite a few podcast topics around living in the most positive headspace possible. This one takes it to the next level. I’m sharing specific action steps for completely deleting something negative from your life. I’ve been trying to get to this point for years and something happened recently that made me realize. I’m there. Quick story… another mom friend and I were working on a project for a group with our kids and another mom came in blazing with all this negativity and opinions and it was just ridiculous. My friend and I were the ones doing all the work and she came in hot and I had all these opinions about how we were doing it wrong and was offended. It didn’t involve her. The whole thing just made no sense. But it was jarring at the time because she sent emails and CCed other people, on and on . OK, so fast-forward to last week my friend and I are talking and the other mom who had tried to make our life miserable joined in and we all had a nice chat. Afterwards, my friend reminded me who she was and I was like oh my gosh, you know it’s so crazy. I had physically deleted that experience from my mind. I had no idea, that was the woman because it just didn’t exist anymore. A big part of this is focusing on what you can control. I can’t control her crazy so I deleted it. Today we’re going to go through exactly how to do that. Let’s define some terms - what are we deleting? Negativity, judgment, drama, anything that makes you feel crappy or bad about yourself or upset or stressed or insecure. We don’t need it. So we aren’t just going to try to ignore it, we are going to completely erase it from our headspace so it’s not taking up our precious bandwidth. ACTION STEPS -Realize what it is -Take the fire out of it -Focus on what you can control -Journal am and pm to clear your mind -Think of something SO important to you and realize that time you spend thinking/talking/stressing about the thing- is time away from that something important. Like bike riding or playing with your toddler or calling your mom. -Control your thoughts -Control your words- if you don’t let it grow, it can’t get bigger! -Don’t respond to crazy! Tell yourself - I don't negotiate with terrorists!!! I’m telling you, the clarity you will feel from not carrying around all this weight that isn’t needed is crazy!!! Focus on what you can control - let go of the rest. When you think about protecting your happy headspace at all costs - when thats an actual priority of yours, all of this gets easier. CHEERS to hitting the DELETE button on anything that doesn’t bring you JOY!

291. How To Be Awesome At Prioritizing Your Marriage (and lots of other lessons learned) May 09, 2024

I am recording this on our 15 year wedding anniversary! On this day 15 years ago Craig and I got married in Cabo, and we started dating 5 years before that. So 20 years in, what have we learned… what have we done awesome and where did we struggle… I’m sharing a bit of our journey and what we know now that been awesome to know from the start.

I hesitate on doing podcast episodes on marriage and also raising kids because it’s all so evolving and just when you think you have part of it totally figured out, there’s a curve ball.

But, I do have some awesome take-aways that I think will be valuable for anyone in a relationship or looking to be, plus some funny (and painful) stories about how we got here.

290. How To Be Awesome At Course Correcting To Design A Life You Love Apr 29, 2024

This is how you don’t wake up one day with a marriage where you don’t communicate or connect. This is how you don’t wake up one day unable to easily walk up a flight of stairs.. It’s called course correcting and I think it’s the answer to how we focus on little things daily to support the big things that matter most to us. It’s adjusting as we go. Not letting things spiral until we hit rock bottom then need an extreme plan to get back on track. It’s being present and noticing things when they are off - in all buckets of your life. Health, finances, relationships… all of it. This is your plan for course correcting and compounding small habits that gradually lead the life you want. It’s our daily plan actually for designing a life that you love. The 1 in 60 rule! If a pilot takes off headed to their destination and they are just one degree off course, every 60 miles you fly with that error moves you one full mile off course. So you can see that even a slight variance from accuracy can create a real issue. This is all about small decisions that you make everyday. You don’t just wake-up one day with a bad marriage or a disconnected relationship with your child, it compounds over time. And on the flip, you don’t just wake up one day feeling like your healthiest and strongest self. It all compounds over time. But the best news is - this makes it feel manageable. It’s constant focus and attention everyday. It’s knowing your goals and priorities. In my Ultimate Master Course and also in the 2.0 Habits System, I focus SO much on figuring out what you love and don’t love because I think most people just don’t ask themselves the questions! Here’s that link if you’re interested: Course- https://lindsay-dickhout-7734.mykajabi.com/2-0theultimatemindsetmastercourse 2.0 Habits System & Weekly Books- https://lindsay-dickhout-7734.mykajabi.com/the-ultimate-mindset-master-course-1 I created a system to focus on daily habits because after reading every possible habits books and really studying the topic at a deep level, I realized that we just need to set ourselves up to do the daily things. To do the things that bring us closer to our goals or the person that we want to be and NOT do the things that take us further away from it.

289. How To Be Awesome At ACTUALLY Doing The Thing Apr 26, 2024

This episode is all about sneaky procrastination! Because I think all of us in some ways trick ourselves into thinking we are doing the thing- that thing you want to do or need to do - the hard thing that will bring you growth in the way you want - whatever that thing is for you right now. And instead of actually doing the thing - we do a whole host of things like - make lists, we say we are planning, we talk about it, we do endless research on it OR we avoid it completely and go refold drawers or something. I am going to read you the best short article I’ve read on the topic and we’re going to unpack it so you can apply it to your life in real time. Why do we let ourselves get distracted or procrastinate when something feels hard or uncomfortable? What are we doing to trick ourselves to think we are working on it when actually we just aren’t doing the thing? I read this article by Strangest Loop called things that aren't doing the thing Here it is:

Preparing to do the thing isn't doing the thing.

Scheduling time to do the thing isn't doing the thing.

Making a to-do list for the thing isn't doing the thing.

Telling people you're going to do the thing isn't doing the thing.

Messaging friends who may or may not be doing the thing isn't doing the thing.

Writing a banger tweet about how you're going to do the thing isn't doing the thing.

Hating on yourself for not doing the thing isn't doing the thing. Hating on other people who have done the thing isn't doing the thing. Hating on the obstacles in the way of doing the thing isn't doing the thing.

Fantasizing about all of the adoration you'll receive once you do the thing isn't doing the thing.

Reading about how to do the thing isn't doing the thing. Reading about how other people did the thing isn't doing the thing. Reading this essay isn't doing the thing.

The only thing that is doing the thing is doing the thing.

------------------- You can dress it up however you want But the work just needs doing Ultimately - it’s hitting play and recording the podcast or starting the blog or lifting the weight or making the first healthy meal. We are motivated by the avoidance of discomfort. Figure out - what is the discomfort? Often times, have no idea what the discomfort is - we are just avoiding it. If you have a hard email to write, you might refold and entire set of drawers to avoid doing the thing. Or if you get to a hard point in writing a book - when it gets hard - we reach for our phone for distraction. WHY Because we are avoiding the discomfort. Ask- WHY am I avoiding this? Maybe you need more research. Don’t keep banging your head. When you become aware of the discomfort - you make a plan to attack it. I’ve heard Steven Bartlette say it in this way… What is the psychological discomfort I am avoiding right now? Write down - what is the THING. Unpack it. WHY it’s important to force yourself to do the actual thing… because it’s the only thing that matters in becoming the person you want to be or reaching the goal you want to achieve. Thank you for listening! Have an awesome day!

288. How To Be Awesome At Not Labeling Your Feelings Good or Bad Apr 15, 2024

This concept is so freeing… ready? It’s good to feel sad, angry, stressed… because it’s part of being human. Those emotions that we tend to label as negative emotions and judge ourselves for feeling are not the problem. The actual problem is the label, not the emotion itself. And here’s the best part, the way you get through those emotions- the sadness or the stress is by not trying to feel the opposite but by simply not labeling these emotions as good or bad. When we label our emotions, if often makes those emotions bigger. If you feel jealous and you feel badly about feeling jealous, it gets bigger. If we shift to this new emotional awareness and acceptance for our feelings, we recognize that all emotions serve a purpose. By having the non-judgements attitude toward emotions, we move through emotions faster and solve problems more efficiently. It makes us more emotionally resilient and have healthier coping strategies, which is so much more awesome than running yourself down about how you feel. Let’s unpack it! Here are the things we go through… -Your actions matter more than your feelings. We think that we need to feel a certain way to be that type of person. BUT that’s where we get it twisted. It’s the actions you take. If you want to be honest -For a lot of these character traits we think that we need to feel a certain way, but it’s the actions you choose despite how you feel. -We think that we need to feel a certain way to be a patient or honest person. But it’s the actions you take, regardless of these feelings. -By labeling emotions, they get bigger. -Emotional awareness and acceptance makes you recognize that they all serve a purpose. -What is the lesson with this emotion? Have curiosity and compassion -This is so essential for navigating the challenges in life. To have resilience and self-awareness is key.

-Emotions are neither good nor bad; they're simply messengers. It's our interpretation and response to them that shapes our experience.
-Instead of labeling emotions as positive or negative, view them as signals guiding you towards areas that need attention or growth. -Every emotion serves a purpose; it's about understanding what that purpose is and how you can use it to your advantage.”
-Don't judge your emotions; acknowledge them. They're a reflection of your inner state and can provide valuable insights into your thoughts and behaviors.”
-Embrace the full spectrum of your emotions. By accepting them without judgment, you empower yourself to navigate life's challenges with greater resilience and clarity.
-Your emotions are like the weather—they come and go. Rather than trying to control them, focus on cultivating a mindset that allows you to adapt and thrive in any emotional climate. CHEERS to allowing yourself to FEEL ALL THE FEELINGS without judgment so you can navigate life in the most awesome way possible.

287. How To Be Awesome At Not Being Tired All The Time Mar 27, 2024

I feel like most people would say they tired. Today, yesterday, most days. I’m really interested in this. Are we actually tired or are we sort of not excited by what we are doing most days? And if we are tired, is it because the days are too full and we are doing too many things orrrr is it because we aren’t setting ourself up to feel rested and rejuvenated. Either way, we need to solve it because we can’t complain that we are tired and not do anything to change it. In this episode, let’s figure out what’s up. Are you actually tired or are you overwhelmed or underwhelmed with life right now? The awesome news - I’m sharing strategies for tackling both. Let’s get you un-tired so you can be where your feet are and live your days fully. First, let’s figure out why you’re tired. 1. Actually tired Strategies- get more sleep, get better sleep, hydrate with electrolytes, no screen before bed, no food just before bed, create best sleep environment, stick to a schedule. 2. Not excited with life / overwhelmed / underwhelmed Strategies- ask yourself the hard questions Make the changes you need to, have the conversations you need to, do the things you know you should. 3. In this lazy habit pattern Just like momentum brings momentum, non-momentum brings non-momentum Strategies- small steps to move more - get going - exhaust yourself CHEERS to getting un-tired and living your most full life.

286. Your Awesome Grocery List For High Protein & Whole Foods Eating Mar 15, 2024

Today we are taking the complicated out of eating mostly whole foods and high protein at home in a way that makes you feel full and energized. It’s taken me so many years of learning and spending money on experts to help me figure it all out. Now every persons body is different of course but I’m sharing lots of ideas of you to chose from to eat in a way that reduces inflammation in your body and helps you be your healthiest and can help you lose weight, all while feeling satisfied. I’m giving you a grocery list to follow to make it all simple and not so complicated. Because this is what I know… most people aren’t eating enough protein and are eating too much processed foods. Most people say they are tired and often times we want to healthier but it’s hard to know where to start. I also know that we must have a strong plan in order to stick to our goals. So this is our plan for eating to feel our best in the short term and long term. Eating for energy and longevity and the part I think that most people miss with this - buying organic and grass fed items are always more expensive than the regular but if you prep it the right way, it is absolutely less expensive than ordering in. And if you know me you know there are some awesome healthy treats in the plan too, because that’s what makes it sustainable in the long term. We are full and satisfied and know it’s not at all a diet, but rather a lifestyle to feel our best. Let’s go! Here is your grocery list *Grassfed ground beef or steaks *Organic ground chicken or turkey *Organic pasture raised eggs *1 organic butter lettuce *1 organic head of iceberg lettuce *1 organic rotisserie chicken *Veggies like zucchini, onions, peppers *Avocados (1 per day) *Berries *2 large organic greek yogurts Then some throw ins to make all of this sustainable *Siete toritilla chips *Grain free tortillas *Grass fed organic cheese, raw if possible *Organic dark chocolate *Raw honey *Bananas & peanut butter And to cook it in… *Avocado oil *Coconut oil *Olive oil How to make the money go the furthest! Protein amounts... An egg has 6g of protein A chicken breast as about 40g of protein One pound of ground beef has 65g of protein Some seeds can be great too like hemp seeds and pumpkin seeds So if your goal is 1g of protein per pound of body weight- you can divide out how much protein you need per meal. My goal is 120g per day so I plan for about 40-50g per meal and I have 3 meals. I think the KEY to all of this is to base your meals around protein and mostly whole foods. Get some veggies and some carbs and you’re nice and full and happy! Other options based on preferences! *Halibut or salmon -always wild caught *Canned tuna or chicken *Flax seeds and chia seeds *Protein powders! Take this list with you to the grocery store! XO Lindsay

285. Podcast with Parker Mar 13, 2024

I have my favorite little due on the podcast with me today. Today Parker is going to tell us the story of when he got bit in the head by a scorpion on vacation and we’re going to talk about being kind and being brave and probably soccer. Ok so life as a 6 year old and so many stories. Listen in for some fun insight into the life of a little guy and his plan for convincing Dad to have one more baby, a brother named Hot Dog. Thanks for listening!!

284. How To Be Awesome At REALLY Not Caring What People Think Mar 09, 2024

You want to know the craziest thing about worrying what other people think of you? With the amount of time and energy you spend worrying about what people might think if you do this or that, you could actually DO the thing. You take control back of your life and your choices when you’re making them based on what you really want and what feels best to you. You’ll take more risks, try new things and put yourself out there. Because we know that one day we will be 90 and we won’t have the opportunities that we have today, we just won’t. Thinking about it that way makes it a lot less scary to let it go and go for it. And another awesome thing that happens when you go for it and people do talk about you, it makes it easy… those aren’t your people. Thank you for saving me the time. And also thank you for making it clear where we’re at because I know that nobody ahead of me is taking the time to criticize me. This concept of, stop caring about what other people think is easier said than done. Today I’m giving you two awesome hacks to start today, to work towards the ultimate feeling of freedom- not caring what other people think of you. A few notes from this episode… -You only have so much energy - you could have actually done the thing!! Started the business, tried the new thing…. In the same effort it took to worry what would happen if you did. -The upside of never trying is that you never have to feel the feeling of failure. -I will ensure my failure in private so I never have to risk failing in public. They take the long failure rather than the short one. -We aren’t afraid of failing! We are afraid of what other people think of us failing. Imagine what other people are thinking if you aren’t doing anything, oh that’s right, they’re not. -If you could fail in isolation, you wouldn’t care. -If you’re insecure, you might as well use it to get something out of it. -The perfect condition is wherever you are at right now. If you feel like you have nothing, then you have nothing to lose. There is always an advantage and disadvantage from every position. -They won’t think of you at all if you aren’t doing anything and don't you want to be thought of? -You’re going to be 90. And it’s going to be too late to do anything. -You know I love thinking about my 90 year old self. If you’ve spent time with old people, they don’t give an F- in the best way. They are wearing socks with sandals in the way they want, they are -Seeing someone old and no time to do the things is the only motivation I need. -You know how you get good? You just start doing what you want without the fear of judgment. Like one tiny thing. Like if music comes on at an outdoor restaurant and you think about dancing with your little kid because how sweet but you don’t because nobody else is and people might think you are weird. But doing things that other people aren’t doing - usually means it’s actually a good idea but 66% of people say they are unhappy. -So not doing it because other people aren’t isn’t the right plan!! -Here’s the hacks!! 1.ONE. TINY. THING. And then you see that you don’t die. And you had fun dancing and just doing what you wanted. Or wearing something different than everyone else because it’s comfortable and you love how it feels… and then it’s just fine. You build momentum!! 2. You make it a clear priority and remind yourself often. Journal it, calendar it, write it down. The more you make it a priority to work towards, the faster you will get there. -Here’s another thing - call out your fails. Now what can they say. -AGREE when someone says something you didn’t do right. Takes the fire out of it. -OR agree just to end it. Who cares!? -Their response to you just doesn’t involve you honestly. It’s their own perspective based on their experiences and opinions and it just doesn’t have to affect yours. -What’s the worst that can happen? You don’t actually die of embarrassment it’s actually ok. We move on. -And I’ve really learned that leaning into vulnerably is such a strong thing. Ya, that thing totally flopped. But it’s cool I know so much more now and I’m so pumped on my next adventure. We accept it and move on, NEXT PLAY! A few other tips!

-Identify your values: Clarify what truly matters to you and what you stand for. When you live in alignment with your values, you'll be less swayed by others' opinions.
-Focus on your strengths: Recognize your talents, skills, and accomplishments. Embrace them and use them to boost your confidence.
-Practice self-acceptance: Acknowledge and accept your flaws and imperfections. Nobody is perfect, and embracing your humanity can help you be less concerned about others' judgments.
-Set boundaries: Establish clear boundaries to protect your emotional well-being. Learn to say no when necessary and prioritize your own needs.
-Challenge negative beliefs: Examine any negative beliefs you have about yourself that may be fueling your concern for others' opinions. Replace them with more empowering beliefs.
-Develop a strong self-image: Visualize yourself as confident, capable, and resilient. Act as if you already possess these qualities, and eventually, they will become part of your reality.
-Surround yourself with supportive people: Surround yourself with individuals who uplift and encourage you. Their positive reinforcement can help counteract any negativity from others.
-Practice self-care: Take care of your physical, emotional, and mental well-being. Engage in activities that nurture your body and soul, such as exercise, meditation, hobbies, and spending time with loved ones.
-Focus on your goals: Stay focused on your goals and aspirations. When you have a clear sense of purpose, the opinions of others become less significant in comparison to your pursuit of fulfillment.

This is not an overnight thing!! Building resilience against others' opinions is a gradual process that requires consistent effort and self-reflection. By using these strategies, you can gradually reduce the impact of external judgments on your self-esteem and live more authentically.

283. How To Be Awesome At Managing Health With A Broken Healthcare System Mar 05, 2024

You know I focus on the positive always and even though this title might not sound positive, it’s empowering to call things what they are and make a plan to proceed in the best way possible. Rather than getting mad about the way things are, we have to recognize what we can control and what is out of our control and make a plan with based on that. This isn’t just about avoiding disease and living as long as possible. It’s that but it’s also how to have more energy and strength now and as we age. How to feel sharp and healthy. I don’t think it’s even controversial anymore to say that the traditional healthcare system is not set-up to keep us healthy and prevent disease. It’s set-up to treat symptoms rather than the cause and lean heavily on medication rather than considering lifestyle and natural options first. I’m all for medications and treatments when needed- I just think it’s not a great system when there is so much money in treating illnesses and there isn’t a lot of money in getting people healthy or finding cures. Today we’re looking at the health landscape as it is now and making the best plan for us and our families. This new outlook involves shifting from sick care to well care and reactive medicine to proactive medicine. For the last 15 years, I have spent so much time in hospitals and doctors offices, and I think I come with a unique perspective… sometimes as a patient, but usually taking care of other people. In Tony Robbins new book… Life Force - they explain new technologies like gene therapy, stem cells and hormone replacement therapy to give the audience hope and knowledge for the future. He talks about how heart disease and other chronic illnesses can be reversed by optimizing four factors. How you eat How active you are How you respond to stress How much emotional support you receive We have the power to control so much of our health and heart health. Exercise, eating the right foods, quality sleep, building muscle and reducing stress. Good health is the foundation of quality of life. As the old saying goes, a healthy person has a thousand wishes; a sick person only one. It’s a powerful reminder to make the most important commitment you can make. You must become the CEO of your health.

That’s how you keep your energy, vitality and a good quality of life. A few of my other favorite books on this topic are Outlive by Peter Attia, Lifespan by David Sinclair, and Super Human by Dave Asprey. We’ve learned that you must continually challenge the status quo and find what’s best for you. By understanding that you must be in control of your health and by not expecting the traditional healthcare system to take on this role… you will make better decisions for your own health and out of your family.

282. How To Be Awesome At Figuring Out Your Impossible Goal Feb 27, 2024

Talking about one of my favorite books- 10x IS EASIER THAN 2X

By Dan Sullivan and Dr. Ben Hardy Excerpt from the book: What is a 10x goal? A massive goal that feels impossible. Doing more of what you’re currently doing will get you to 2x. 10x goals require a new plan and push you outside of your current level of knowledge and assumptions. To figure out your 10x goal, as yourself… What do you truly want, more than anything else? What would excite you more than anything else to be, do and have? What would you be and do if you weren’t afraid of what others thought or the repercussions? -Let’s focus on wants vs needs When you live life based on need, you’re stuck playing a finite game. When you play a finite game, you’re driven and controlled by outside forces. You’re competing for scarce resources. When you live life based on want, rather than need, you’re playing an infinite game. You see that reality is created and chosen. In order to go 10x, we have to let go of scarcity and competition-based needing and replace it with abundance and creativity-based wanting. -Focusing on FREEDOM! Committing to what you want most is the only way to be free. To be free, you must first be completely honest with yourself. Being honest with yourself starts with admitting to yourself what you want most. Not what you think you want. Not what you think you need. But what you truly- at your core-want. Until you can admit and commit to what you want, then you are not free. Living in a world of needs and rationalizations is prison. It locks you into relationships and situations you don’t want but maintain out of fear and perceived security or obligation. Llet’s think about what you are doing now… Anything you are currently pursuing. Ask yourself what is the source of that...

Where did you get that idea?
Is it from your parents?
Is it from social media?
Is it because your friend did something or because your friend got promoted?

OR did you get that idea because it makes you FEEL ALIVE? It takes work to unlearn what we’ve been taught and put ear plugs in so we don’t hear the judgment or the opinions of others. It’s our job to make sure we are running our own race. We have to be intentional about what success means to us and stop at nothing to get there. -Once you have it down, what next… Start with your 10x goal, then figure out the steps, not the other way around. When we are working towards 2x goals, we are doing the same thing, just more of it. When we are working towards 10x goals, we must completely shake up the plan. So rather than starting with step 1 and making a plan, we start with the massive goal in mind, then figure out a plan to make it happen. To check out the 2.0 Habits System and 2.0 Mindset Master Course, click here. Have an awesome day!

281. How To Be Awesome At Weekend Adventures Feb 17, 2024

I think most people would love to have more adventures and new experiences in life but the tricky part is… we get so busy with our routine and all the things that must get done in life, that often, we rarely go new places or try new things. Which is why I absolutely love this idea by Jesse Iztler. It’s part of his concept about building your life resume more than your professional resume. He calls it the Kevins Rule, named after his friend Kevin who showed him how fulfilling it can be when you plan out new experiences. Here’s how it works. You put 6 new adventures on your calendar each year. One every other month and it could be a day on the weekend or the entire weekend. The point of this is that by intentionally adding this things to the calendar, you prioritize time with people you love plus more fun and learning. Being intentional with our calendar planning and putting these 6 mini adventures on the books allows us for 24 experiences (that we wouldn’t have otherwise) in the next 4 years. It also sets us up to be proactive with how we spend our leisure time (advance planning) rather than reactive (planning around invitations that come your way.) We’re planning out your 6 mini adventures for the year today. Planning for 6 mini adventures per year allows for new experiences and challenges. By adding these days or weekends to your calendar, you prioritize time with people you love, fun and adventures. Lots of ideas… Get a group together for a cooking class followed by dinner with wine pairing, visit a local farm and book an apple picking experience, find a local path and plan a hike, go camping for the weekend at a local spot, take a photography workshop class with friends, set-up a volunteering event to help people in need in your area, plan a day or weekend filled with local museums and art galleries, learn to kayak at a local river, road trip to a nearby city and plan shops and cafes to visit, plan a day long bike ride with a fun stop for lunch, plan a ride in a hot air balloon, get a group to go indoor rock climbing, book a rental cabin for the weekend, take the train on an adventure! Cheers to alllll of your new adventures!!

280. How To Be Awesome At Mastering The Last Hour Of Your Day Feb 14, 2024

The last hour of your day is so important because it determines the quality of sleep that you get and how you approach the next day. I’ve learned the most about this in my own life from doing things the wrong way to be honest. Staying up too late, eating too late or just sort of tinkering here and there and I couldn’t even tell you what I really did for those last 2 hours. All these things I did without intention and just because I was getting tired and just doing whatever slowly without a plan. Taking all of this as lessons learned and on this journey to do everything with intention - now, having a plan for the last hour of the day. So even if you’re tired or you’ve run out of motivation for the day, when you plan things ahead of time with intention, you don’t have to get up the energy because you aren’t making the decision, you’re just following the plan that you designed. It requires discipline, which is hard at first, but it gets sooo much easier to do when you see the benefits of these new awesome habits. We are revamping bedtime.

From the book, 10X is Easier Than 2x:

The final hour of the day determines the quality of your sleep as well as the quality of your next day. Over 90 percent of people are 2x at night, where they fall to unhealthy habits and consumption, especially random online scrolling.

For 10x sleep, put your phone on airplane mode at least 30-60 minutes before bed. Write in your journal and include 3 wins you had that day.

These wins can be any forms of learning or progress you had.

Then after you’ve framed the day as a win, write down what you want for tomorrow.

Other tips:

-Have a few other healthy wind down habits like meditate or stretch or a moment of connection with someone you love and then commit to sleep. Be excited and happy to fully shut down.

-Create an optional environment - dark, cool and comfortable. -Having a healthy wind-down process is key. Avoid thinking about stressing topics and solve problems or have tricky discussions earlier in the day. In prioritizing sleep, we have to wrap things up and let things go earlier in the day. Do what needs to be done and say what needs to be said so you don’t go to bed with crumbs! You will sleep better without a racing mind when you go to sleep. Journal to wind down and figure out what else sets you up for the best nights sleep. -Quality sleep over quantity of sleep - The quality of sleep is so much more important than the number of hours. -Get a schedule going - Have a set bedtime and wake time and don’t vary it too much or you’ll experience “jetlag." -If you want to read more on this- Sleep Smarter by Shawn Stevenson. Many of these strategies were learned from this book. CHEERS to being intentional about how you end your day, for the most awesome days!!

279. How To Be Awesome At Developing Deep Self Confidence Feb 09, 2024

Today we are talking about deep self confidence. How to get it, what it feels like and how to make it attainable. I’m a big fan of taking complicated concepts and turning them into simple daily actions. Here is how I define confidence. A belief in yourself and clarity of purpose. A feeling that is grounded in authenticity and comes from doing. Confidence is often talked about like this big feeling at the finish line, but that feels unattainable and hard to figure out how to make progress on. My favorite quote about confidence is by Alex Hormozi. He says “You don’t become confident by shouting affirmations in the mirror, but by having an undeniable stack of proof that you are who you say you are. Outwork your self doubt.” I love this way of thinking about confidence because it puts you in the drivers seat. Your self confidence isn’t based on what other people think about what you are doing or some level of success, but it’s more about the process and more about what you do, than what you say. When you feel this deep self confidence, it impacts all other areas of your life. You’re less likely to be offended and more likely to let little things go. You’re more likely to charge your big goals and less likely to let judgment slow you down. It’s a superpower and we’re talking about how to tackle it! Why have deep self confidence: -It makes you less affected by the opinions of others. -It keeps you in control of your mood and happiness. -It helps you communicate better because you feel comfortable expressing yourself clearly. -It positions you as a leader rather than someone who is easily influenced. -It makes you more adaptable as you trust in your ability to navigate change. -It allows you the freedom to really pursue your passions. How to get deep self confidence: -Put things on your daily habits like that move your towards your goals, personally and professionally. -Every week, try new things, do hard things, continue to learn and push yourself. -Since we know that confidence comes from doing, just keep doing things that align with your goals and priorities. What it feels like to have deep self confidence: -Confidence comes from doing the things you say you are doing to do. It’s this deep feeling of trusting yourself. -You feel empowered. Like you can take on any challenges. -This sense of inner peace. You are comfortable with you are and trust in your own abilities. -You’re optimist because you have a positive outlook and a strong foundation so you’re able to believe in a bright future. -You’re fearless because you know you can handle whatever comes your way. -You’re authentic because you’re running your own race. -You set boundaries, especially with people who are negative or don’t make you feel great. You respect yourself enough to know your headspace is top priority. -You're grateful because you appreciate the journey you’ve been on and the one you are on right now. -You’re inspirational. When you know someone with deep self confidence, it makes you believe you can be the same way. How to make progress on the daily: -Follow the plan! -Make your list of tasks, then execute. -Avoid distractions and don’t talk yourself out of it. -Set big goals, then focus on the daily actions, not the goals. -Do what you tell yourself you are going to do. -Set realistic habits so you are set-up for success. CHEERS to embracing the things that bring you deep self confidence!

278. How To Be Awesome When Someone Comes At You Feb 05, 2024

I don't know what’s going on lately but I feel like I’ve been in several situations where someone is coming at me and I’ve had some friends who have had to deal with some pretty wild situations so I thought, yup, this needs to be a podcast episode. Let’s define some terms. By coming at you I mean - verbally trying to start something. It’s different than an argument because it’s like someone having a problem with you or just straight up casting judgment on you. Our instant reaction is to respond and defend ourselves or get hot with them back… but here’s the thing, most of the time, it’s just not worth it. So I think before we do anything we should ask ourselves, what would I gain from engaging? We often respond out of emotion, but because we know our priority is protecting our happy headspace and our emotional energy, I think we need to approach it differently. We are going through some awesome strategies today so the next time someone comes at you, you’re ready to handle it strategically rather than emotionally. When this happens, here are your options… 1. IGNORE Literally say nothing. Don't reply to the email or text or DM or walk away if in person. 2. AGREE - it ends it!! When you don't want to engage or if there is truth to what they are saying. When we are insulted, pay attention to it. If there is something that is true to it - then agree. And move on. 3. HASH IT OUT - onlyyyyyy if it’s really worth it! Only if it’s someone in your inner circle that you love. 90% of the time, it’s not worth it. Alex Hormozi says "The only insults that hurt are the ones we believe.” I tell myself… I don’t negotiate with terrorists. When you get REALLY good at this… it becomes so powerful because it doesn’t affect you for more than a few minutes. It’s almost additive because it feels so good to be able to control your emotions and you always win in the situation. You can’t negotiate with crazy so don’t try- there’s no point! It’s awesome and it saves you so much unnecessary headaches!! Remember this the next time someone comes at you, take a minute and decide how you want to really handle it. Have an awesome day!!

277. The Most Awesome Daily Habits To Feel Your Best Feb 02, 2024

The goal of this episode is to give you lots of ideas of habits that you can add into your daily life that make you feel awesome. I am super passionate about doing things with intention. Not just going through the motions and routine of life but really being open to trying new things and being willing to change things up when you’re in a funk. I am equally passionate about designing your days so you love them. Not only looking forward to the weekend or the vacation out of town, but designing a life that feels exciting to you. And the best way to do it is not with one big event, it’s with lots of tiny habits that you do everyday that add up to fulfilling days, weeks and months. Let’s get to allll of the ideas of daily habits to feel your best. One of the coolest things about social media is that I think you can really good ideas by seeing what other people do and what their days are like. Make a list of your 10s! Then plan to get them in! Replies from IG… -Daily workouts -Eye patches every morning -Meditation/prayer/journaling -Intermittent fasting -Acupuncture every week -Audiobooks in the car -Using planner to stay organized -Yoga in the morning -Skincare routine -Quite time -Time to read -Morning coffee time -Sunless tanning -Massage My ideas… -Grounding - put your feet in the ground -Have a really delicious last bite of food for the day -Have a crazy comfortable bed that you can’t wait to get into -Massage/facial/mani/pedi -Having a set bedtime and wake time -Sauna can be so relaxing -Have a 0 to 100 plan and a 100 to 0 plan -Connecting with someone in your inner circle every single day -Have a done tasking time - day is done- whatever carries over has to happen tomorrow -Long hot shower with a podcast or YouTube video -Hair care routine By really thinking about the habits that really make us feel great, we make them a priority. Then we are more intentional about how we spend our time and we get so many more of them in each day. CHEERS to adding in habits that make you feel your best! And you’re on your way to designing your awesome life!

276. How To Be Awesome At Having The Hard Conversation Jan 17, 2024

Take a quick pause on what you’re doing right now to fully think about this question… what conversation should you have that you haven’t had yet? What difficult conversation have you been avoiding? What should you tell someone that feels so hard but would relieve pressure or stress by doing it? Often times we sacrifice what we really want OR we assume someone feels a certain way about something OR we don’t want to have to deal with a conflict or disappointing or upsetting someone… so we don’t have it. Sometimes for weeks or months and sometimes for yearssss. It becomes normal not to actually have the hard conversation that would make something better. Today is the wake up day on this - we are unpacking hard conversations. We’re pulling wisdom from lots of people who have studied this topic today. Starting with business strategist, Alex Hermozi. He said, “the life you want is in the other side of a few hard conversation and you’re living a life you hate because you’re too afraid to have them.” He says… Whenever I feel anxious or insecure or sad Im like- What conversation do I need to have that im not having? Usually if you think for not that long You’ll know - this is the conversation ive been putting off. And then, just have it. The time between when you know you need to have it and the time when you actually have it gets shorter and shorter. You dread it but after you do it - you’re like how many more of these can I have?! It’s like the freedom of it makes you crave more. WHY have these talks? 1. Your stress can literally kill you. It’s not worth carrying this with you. 2. You will be 90 one day. We can’t numb life and avoid these things. The regret at 90 would be worse than the pain of having it now. It might be horrible during. But when you think about being 90 years old - you have the courage. And whatever their reaction is - it’s like - I’m doing what I need to do and what I will regret least. For relationships - sometimes things just keep going the way they’ve been and maybe you need to uncover something that happened that affects the entire relationship. Often times you dread it - but maybe you were both assuming things - and it wasn’t accurate. Your only regret will be not doing it sooner. The pain of having these conversation is nothing compared to the gain that you get afterwards. You need something to give you the springboard to do it - for me it’s the thinking of being 90 - and not having the same oppotunries that I do now. And we do not want regret at age 90. So let’s have those really hard conversations now. Examples: You don't quit the job because you love who you work for - but no growth is there. You’re deeply hurt by what a family member did but you just sit with it and let it grow. You don’t talk to a friend because another friend had a dispute with them - so you’ve been loyal but it doesn’t make sense anymore and you want that friend back. Your husband is consistently inconsiderate in a certain way and you just accept that that is how he is - but maybe you need to have the hard conversation! Maybe you have a bad friend that you need to break up with? You have these rapid periods of growth that happen because once you do it - you have courage to do the next one. Maybe you break up with someone that you know you need to. It SUCKS during and after but when you expand the time horizon, you’re like man I feel F-ing fantastic!! Who else do I need to talk to? I hope this episode makes you really ask the question - what conversation do I need to have that I’m not having? CHEERS to embracing the uncomfortable and having the hard conversation as soon as possible!

275. Life Lately And Lessons Learned Dec 29, 2023

In this episode, Lindsay shares the story of her father’s battle with cancer and the heartbreak from all of it. She’s sharing lessons learned and gems of information that she thinks will be helpful as we all go through life together. Even though the topic is very heavy, Lindsay wanted to make sure that listening to this doesn’t make you sad, but rather think about who is really important to you and make sure you are spending enough time with them… and her new life mantra… If you have a chance take it If you have a dream chase it About really LIVING each day/month/year FULLY Also… Have the uncomfortable conversations. Be crazy proactive about your health - listen to your body and go in on the first day that you don't feel right. Be open to alternative treatment options. Spend time with people that you love and be very intentional about who that is. You have to pick- not go with what you should do or have always done. Thank you for listening and for being a part of this community. Sharing this very personal story is important and special to Lindsay and we are grateful for the lessons that come with it. Email Lindsay if you want to chat - Lindsay@HowToBeAwesomeAtEverything.com.

274. How To Be Awesome At Dealing With Fails Nov 13, 2023

Let’s talk about failing. I’ve come to embrace failure in a way that I wish I did in years past. Because here’s the thing.. if you’re failing here and there as you go, it means you’re out there doing stuff and trying new things and learning along the way.

If you tend to beat yourself when something does work… or you are super self conscious about it and worry what other people will think or say… or you stop trying the thing you were working towards- lean in here because I used to do all that and it’s so much better on the other side.

I think the very first thing we do is own it and make it known. It’s the only way to not keep thinking about it or worrying if people will realize. Listen, people are more concerned about what they’re doing anyway- take full ownership of it, say it out loud and move on! It’s not who are you - it doesn’t mean you should stop- because now you have that lesson that you didn’t before.

We are talking about so many healthy strategies when it comes to failing today like - learning fast from it and flip the script- it’s not a setback - it’s a set-up for a comeback! Know that your attitude about it is actually everything and how to position gratitude into this whole thing. We’re talking all things failing and getting back up today.

Own It & Face The Reality

Don't blame others or the universe. Own your failures like they're your favorite success story waiting to happen. Failures happen. Own it, acknowledge it and figure out the lesson.

No Excuses Winners don’t need excuses. That’s it- we own it, even if it could be partially on someone else too.

Learn Fast

Failures can be the universe's way of telling you to level up. Learn from them at the speed of light. Extract the lessons, embrace the suck, and move on.

Flip the Script

It's not a setback; it's a set-up for a comeback. Use it as fuel for the fire burning inside you. Adjust the Strategy, Not the Goal: Your goal is non-negotiable, but your strategy might need an overhaul. Be flexible in your approach, but relentless in your pursuit of the goal. Fail Forward: Failure is not falling down; it's staying down. Use each failure as a stepping stone to a higher level of success. Reinvest Your Pain: The pain of failure is an investment. Reinvest it into your next move. Let it fuel your determination to come back stronger.

Have Patience

Zoom out and have patience with your journey, but when it comes to fixing your failures, move fast.

Embrace the Hustle:

If you're not failing, you're not hustling hard enough. Embrace the hustle, embrace the grind. Failures are just stepping stones on the path to achieving your goal.

Double Down on Strengths:

Your failures might be highlighting your weaknesses, but double down on your strengths. That's where the magic happens. Focus on what you're great at and watch the game change. Get help for what you’re not great at.

Crush It Next Time

Failure is not the end- it's the setup for the next big win. Crush it next time. Use the pain of failure as momentum for a big comeback.

Gratitude Over Grief!

"Instead of grieving your failures, be grateful for the lessons they bring. Failure is a gift if you unwrap it with the right mindset."

Attitude is Everything!!

Your attitude will define your success. It’s everything when it comes to this!! If you can shift the way you think and react to your failures, they can actually be some of your greatest gifts! Embrace your fails - it might just be what makes you actually soar!!

273. How To Be Awesome At Making Fast Decisions Nov 08, 2023

First - why make fast decisions? Because a decision that you need to make that is pending takes up your time and attention. That problem you need to solve or that conversation you need to have or that project you keep procrastinating on or that email you need to send. When things are pending, there can be this feeling of anxiety or pressure or overwhelm… because it’s lingering. So if we can develop what I think is a total superpower- the ability to make fast decisions - we will move closer to our goals faster AND get all the things done that need to and want to … so we can chill out and relax and have fun with our favorite people or have some awesome self care time. This is one of those lessons I’ve learned from not being awesome at making fast decisions but now that I’m on the other side of it- it’s amazing. We’re talking about how to become a fast decision maker and all the ways it will free up your time and improve your life. First thing each day... Eat the frog Hug the monster! -Do the hard thing first! -What truly matters is the time and attention we spend things. -All of that anxiety could be removed if you just did the thing, made the decision. -You can move faster than most people if you make decisions faster. -It’s not paying the attention cost!! You decide and move on. You just move through life faster. -The crazy thing is once you get the momentum of this, it’s like the most empowering. It’s like well that’s done, what’s next!? -To be decisive is also just confidence… it’s like I'm going to tackle this! -You can’t multi-task and make fast decisions. Because we need too focus and not make careless decisions. 2.0 Mindset Course & Community info: https://lindsay-dickhout-7734.mykajabi.com/2-0theultimatemindsetmastercourse CHEERS!!

272. How To Be Awesome At The 2.0 Version Of You Nov 01, 2023

2.0 you What does that look like? Who are you if you if nothing is holding you back. If you aren’t defining success by with other people or society think but by what actually matters to you Who are you if you wake up on a Monday LOVING what you get to go do This whole thing is about living life FULLY and to your full potential. It’s about next level goals and making a good action plan to achieve them. It’s about eliminating all things negative and leaning into the version of you that when you’re 90 and looking back, you’re like… man did I really LIVE. I left it all on the field. To me, the ultimate driver is thinking about being 90 and not having all the opportunities we do now and thinking, I just went through the motions. I didn’t do all that I wanted to. These are the golden years. We have so much access to information and education and doing what you actually want to do, has never been easier. It’s hard - its consistent hard work everyday- but it’s also easy - we just need a good plan to get there. That’s what I had in mind when I designed this course and group… and I’m so jazzed to dive into what the 2.0 YOU looks like. In this episode I’m going through what the 2.0 version of you looks like and the method I created to help you get there. Not settling for mediocre, or believing we have limitations that we don’t actually have. Not getting involved in anything negative or worrying about what other people think of you. The mindset course and group that I created to help people live in the best headspace, love what you do everyday, create your own definition of success, make good with the past and move on, develop deep self confidence and set massive goals and make progress towards them everyday. We are focusing on how to get what you want... Overall Health & Wellness Physical Strength & Longevity Freedom To Design Your Days How You Want To Deep Connection With Your People Financial Freedom FUN And Celebrations This program includes a 6 week course and journey that we go on together, tackling all the best concepts in personal development. And starting now, the community of growth mindset people and 2.0 daily habits system that I developed to support our priorities and experience more growth than ever before. We are digging deep to figure out what success, fulfillment and joy means to you. We are being very intentional about how we spend our time and money and we are avoiding distracting and ditching old habits that don’t serve us. We are suffocating everything negative and getting in our 10s everyday. The words we say and the thoughts we think create the world that we live in- so we are prioritizing that. To go along with this is a 2.0 gift box with all of your materials to support this big program. It’s called 2.0 because we are designing the next chapter of your life. The 2.0 you. Email me any questions at Lindsay@HowToBeAwesomeAtEverything.com. To Sign-Up for the 2.0 version of you… here’s the link! https://lindsay-dickhout-7734.mykajabi.com/2-0theultimatemindsetmastercourse CHEERS to the 2.0 next level version of YOU!!

271. How To Be Awesome At Celebrating Yourself (and 21 other gems of wisdom) Oct 23, 2023

This is a little birthday thoughts wrap-up and lessons learned podcast episode. I would argue that it’s easier to celebrate other people than celebrating yourself but I think it’s super important and something I got a little better at this time around. I’m sharing lots of ideas of how to celebrate yourself - whether it’s your birthday or an accomplishment or a milestone or something you’re proud of - we should lean into celebrating ourselves, not feel weird about it. Just like how we should talk to ourselves really nicely like we would talk to our favorite person - same thing- it’s important to prioritize celebrating YOU. And making the plan yourself, not relying on anyone else. It’s empowering and fun! Also in this episode, 21 other gems of wisdom that I think you’ll love and take with you! What I know for sure at 42… First off… CELEBRATING YOURSELF Get in your 10s! Prioritize things that you really like - big and small Prioritize rest and relax and unplugging Learn something new Challenge yourself Give yourself the time and space to just have a day Listen to loud music Host your own bday party Reflect and set goals Travel or plan travel Tell people what you want / expect There’s nothing more important than love. Make sure your people how much much you really love them and then do anything for them, always. Most stress comes from the way we respond, not the way life is. Adjust how you see things, look for the good, learn the lessons and change your response. Be very intentional about your priorities and spend your time and money accordingly. You never realize how strong you are, until being strong is the only choice you have. (Bob Marley quote- love) Good or bad, this moment won’t last forever. Breathe in and really enjoy those highs and buckle down and get through the lows. Better days are on the way. Just. Keep. Going. Most people give up way too soon. It wasn’t a bad idea, you just didn’t do it long enough. You can go down the wrong path and end up in the right place. Sometimes that’s the process- losing your way can be the best way to find what truly sets your soul on fire. Work hard to get in a happy headspace then keep working hard to stay there. Avoid everything negative and complaining, no good comes from it. Take massive action… no amount of planning or intention actually moves you toward your goals. Make yourself uncomfortable as often as you can. It’s good to be nervous before a big speech and miserable in a cold plunge- it means you’re putting yourself out there and you’re growing and learning and becoming tougher & more confident in yourself. Go to bed without crumbs. Be a good human and you’ll never have to worry about something coming back around. Being able to be vulnerable is actually a superpower. So much growth and confidence comes from owning where you’re at. Choose your pain- the pain of growth or the pain of staying the same. Prioritize your health everyday, not when you get sick. When you truly don’t worry about the judgement of others, you’ll see a world of opportunities that you didn’t see before. Make sure you’re running your own race. That you’re intentional about what success means to you and stop at nothing to get there. The best way to make good decisions- don’t put yourself in bad situations. You cannot lose if you do not quit. (Alex Hormozi quote- love) Saying nothing sometimes says the most. Spend as much time as possible doing the things you love with the people you love. Prioritize laughter, fun and celebrations. Celebrate the people you love - and yourself- as often as you can

270. How To Be Awesome At Integrating Key Pillars Of Health Into Your Daily Life Oct 17, 2023

How To Be Awesome At Integrating Key Pillars Of Health Into Your Daily Life 1 Get Sunlight 2 Lift Heavy Weights 3 Take Daily Vitamin, Creatine, Magnesium & Collagen 4 Get 7-8 Hours Of Good Sleep 5 Consume A High Protein Diet (eat more protein and bigger meals, eat less often and have less cravings) 6 Prioritize Hydration With Electrolytes 7 Stretch Daily (for recovery, longevity and flexibility) 8 Take A Cold Shower/ Cold Plunge 9 Take A Hot Bath/ Sauna 10 Protect Your Happy Headspace 11 Eliminate Everything Negative & Lean Into Positive 12 Do Some Grounding/ Feel The Earth 13 No Screens Before Bed, No Screens At Wake Up & No Screens In Bed 14 No Food 2-3 Hours Before Sleep 15 Careful Of Your Liquid Calories (coffee drinks, juices, soda & booze) 16 Reduce Or Eliminate Refined Sugar And Carbs (fruit is the best alternative) 17 10k Steps Per Day (movement throughout the day is key) 18Get Uncomfortable Often & Do Hard Things (train to be tough & anti-fragile) (waking up at 5am to work out is hard, being 50 lbs. overweight is harder- choose your hard) 19 Create & Live By Your Own Definition Of Success 20 Have Fun & Laugh & Celebrate! (Invest time in building your tribe) These things will not only help you to feel AWESOME! They are the natural medicine for.. Stress, exhaustion, constipation, low muscle mass, inflammation, headaches, trouble sleeping, brain fog, negative thoughts and feelings of wanting more out of life. Treat the cause, not the symptom! These key pillars will get us there!! CHEERS to the superhuman version of you!

269. How To Be Awesome At Avoiding Unnecessary Conflict. Oct 13, 2023

Have you ever had a disagreement or gotten into an argument with someone and it was stressing and you thought about it for a while after but then, in hindsight, you realize the whole thing was really unnecessary and could have been avoided. This is the ultimate pick your battles conversation. But it’s more than that. Even if someone insults you or pushes your buttons, if there’s no real benefit that can come from hashing it out we’re just not going to engage And the way we are going to do it is by reminding ourselves, that we hold ourselves to a higher standard than that person. Often times we feel like we have to prove our point or defend ourselves but if it’s not someone that we love and their opinion really matters to us, it’s a waste of bandwidth. We’re not talking about being a people pleaser and just agreeing with everything you’re told… we are talking about being a strategic about your headspace, and resisting the urge to engage when there is no real benefit in doing so. We are going to define unnecessary conflict as an interaction that you engage in that doesn’t really matter or align with your core priorities. It just doesn’t matter. It feels like a big deal because of how it was presented- but is it really? Do you really care? You are going to hold yourself to a higher standard than them. Even if it’s justified to respond in the way that they talked to you, that’s not who YOU are. We aren’t going to let them - walking around with low standards for themselves - affect how we act. The most important opinion is how we feel about ourselves when we are by ourselves. So when you go to sleep at night, you have those reflection thoughts of the day. What happened and how did you handle it? Examples: -If someone puts a judgement on you that is clearly a reflection of their own issues or jealously -If someone gives you advice that you dont ask for and dont want -Road rage -People at work poking into your stuff -People you don’t know on social media leaving a comment or judgment -Tricky family members -Political statements that push your buttons -Parenting criticism -It’s the ability to just say ok- and move on. Or smile and walk away. Or say anything but argue or get it going. -Maintain your strong self but -We just see this differently and I’m ok with that. (And not in a rude way) CHEERS to resisting the urge to get into disagreements that don’t matter and protecting our headspace! To learn more about Lindsay’s Awesome Mindset Course- email her at Lindsay@HowToBeAwesomeAtEverything.com Have an awesome day!

268. How To Be Awesome At Helping Your Kids Lead A Holiday Service Project Oct 11, 2023

What if your child, this holiday season, started a project to help other kids in need?

How cool would that be?!

During a time when it’s naturally a lot of making lists about what you want and gifts and buying and stuff- which is all part of it, nothing negative there- but what if we shift the focus so it’s some of that but it’s also a lot of thinking about others.

In this episode I am going to walk you through how you can help guide your child so they can create their very own community service project. Their own plan to help make the holiday season special in some way, for kids who are struggling or living in overcrowded situations or in the hospital..

The amount of growth and empathy and kindness that comes from doing this is not even describable. Especially if your child or children can meet or experience the world that these other kids live in, it’s an impact that can’t be made in another way.

The way that we all help the world become a more kind place where people look out for each other, is though our kids. Today’s episode is all about how you can do just that - and it’s much easier than you think.

It can’t be made from them watching us volunteer or donate. It’s that deep feeling of appreciation and gratitude that only comes from experiencing something yourself.

**Action items

Contact shelters - ask them - how can we best support you

Know this going into it

Ask your child these questions (or answer htem for them if they are too little)

What are you most interested in right now?

(Examples: Spiderman, making bracelets, Legos, slime etc)

Talk to them about how other kids don’t have the things that we are just used to.

Great opportunity to describe in an age appropriate way- how grateful you feel and how not everyone has these same comforts.

Ask them how they would like to help kids this holiday season.

Here are some examples:

Host their own toy drive

Plan to serve a meal in some way

Hot cocoa stand - raised money is used to buy toys for kids in a shelter or in a hospital for Christmas.

Set-up an adopt a family program

Create care packages

Whatever they love - do that- collecting Legos to donate to children in the hospital etc.

Host a drive - to build hygiene kits or

Build backpacks for kids for school

Help fund kids who need help paying for sports

Blanket drive for new blankets

Make friendship bracelets and sell them like a lemonade stand

Build holiday thanksgiving baskets with meals families can prepare for thanksgiving

The realistic ease of all of this...

**You don’t have to pay for this- you guys are just the ones setting it up. Making the connections and the plan and then getting an army going to support your project.

CHEERS to teaching your kids about helping others at a young age, so it is ingrained in who they are.

267. How To Be Awesome At Transforming Your Pain Into Fuel Oct 03, 2023

I’ve learned that the best motivator for change and growth is not motivation, it’s not in your morning routine… it’s a actually PAIN.

Pain from the past or pain that you are going through now, can be your superpower and your driver for starting the next chapter.

Maybe someone in your life told you that you’re a loser and you’ll always be a loser- you can either sit in the pain and anger of that - or you can get to work.

There’s only one actual type of revenue and it’s called success.

I’d rather be at rock bottom than in a mediocre situation, which might sound crazy but I believe this 100%. Because at rock bottom you have FIRE to change. When things aren’t great but aren’t terrible, most people don’t make the decisions that are best for them or have the conversations they need to have.

We’re leaning into your pain today and actually making it your superpower.

The second title of this podcast was going to be - the best type of revenge - because it’s all very similar.

It’s like this… pain motivates faster than pleasure. Use your pain!

Pain is the best motivator for change and growth.

We can either sit with the pain and think about who’s fault it is and how shitty this is… OR we can take that pain and use it to give us gas baby.

It’s pain both ways- the pain of staying the same or the pain of change and struggle to become the person that you really want to be. I’ll take the second type of pain all day.

SUCCESS is the only revenge.

You don’t beat them - they fade away because of what you’ve become.

So many high performers have used their past to increase how hard they are willing to work.

Think about this … which is more powerful

Saying..

I want to live a better life.

OR

I want to prove my dad wrong who told me I’ve failed at this and that so I’ll just going to keep failing.

Which gives you more fuel?

You think you’ll go back to them later and be like SEE- you were wrong!! But here’s the thing- by the time you get there - that won’t even matter. You won’t be thinking about them anymore.

But it helped you to get there.

Be honest about your pain- don’t suppress or ignore or be self-conscious about it.

Define your goals and priorities- what will get you out of the current pain or what will make you move on from past pain?

Then let’s turn that pain into FUEL baby!!

It’s a burn the boat type of thing. It’s all in. This is your new minimum standard for yourself.

Lose the ego… work on your resilience and toughen up muscles.

The things that hurt so bad in the short term can be what propel you so far forward in the long term.

GET SPECIFIC - I want to show this person that they’re an idiot and what they said about me isn’t.

This won’t always be your fuel - it will fade away!

A chip on your shoulder could be a good thing!

Be SO specific about your pain is!

Dont say -

I hate my life I’m a loser.

Say...

I hate the way my dad makes me feel when he says im a loser and I won’t achieve anything - and maybe because it stings because you worry the same thing.

It hurts the most when you feel like there is an element of truth to it.

If someone accusing you of being something that you aren’t - it doesn’t bother you as much.

Alex Hormozi says it this way.

“Success is the only revenge.

As you expand they shrink into irrelevance.

You don't beat them- you cast a shadow so big, nobody can see them to begin with.”

CHEERS to focusing on the only type of revenge - success! And reshaping how we define and respond to our pain.

266. How To Be Awesome At Reshaping Your Identity With 5 Words Sep 25, 2023

Have you ever woken up late and missed the work out you had planned? And you say something like God I always do that. I’m so mad at myself. Think about the identity that you are putting on yourself.

Now take that same example and your reaction is this… Wow… That’s not like me.

I heard Ed Mylett say this, and it was such a massive lightbulb moment for me.

The first response is telling yourself - yup, that’s who you are - you can’t get your hot mess of a self up on time for the gym.

The second response is the opposite- it’s saying… wow, this is not aligned with the person I see myself as.

This small reaction moment completely changes how this experience affects you and how you label it.

In the first way, you may feel frustrated with yourself all day and an overall lower opinion of your ability to get things done as planned.

And with the second response- you’re like… ok let’s pivot and carve out time at the end of the day to get it in because I’m a person that doesn’t miss workouts.

This same method applies to so many areas of life that we are getting into today.

And it’s just so simple - 5 words. Wow, that’s not like me.

And the reason why this works so insanely well is because we know that stopping negative talk is more powerful than increasing positive talk.

You know, I love something that is easy to remember and apply to your daily life. This is one of those!

Whenever we make a mistake or make the wrong choice or fail, or lose it some thing… Instead of all the other negative things, we could say… What if we said… Wow, that’s not like me.

You are recognizing that this action or behavior or choice or mistake… Whatever it is… Does not identify with the person you want to be.

Good activity - your life priorities list and brain dump the type of person that you are

Then schedule it!!

The other day, on the way home from school Presley was saying how she has so much homework and she really needs to get ahead… We walk in the door and she unpacks her backpack and she doesn’t have her laptop.

It really hit her hard. She was crying and mad and said what is wrong with me… I always do this.

I sat down on her bed and said, wow, that’s not like you.

Now for the record… This is the second time she has forgotten her laptop since we started school a few weeks ago

But I said to her… Did you forget your laptop yesterday… She’s like no and I’m like what about the day before? And she’s like no I’m like see?

I’m telling you… These five simple words, reframe how we label and interpret mistakes.

When you turn off your alarm and sleep through your work out… Rather than beating yourself up when you wake up… Your reaction is… This does not align with who I actually am!

Examples:

Losing it with your kids

Gossiping/ talking badly about someone

Talking bad about your own body

Wasting money

Being short with your spouse

Picking the wrong boyfriend

Overcommitting

Over apologizing

Wasting time scrolling

Going out of your way to make someone else’s life hard

Picking a battle that you should have let go

Not supporting a friend like you wanted to

Eating super unhealthy to where you feel badly

When you go to beat yourself up- just stop yourself!! And say those 5 words - Wow, that’s not like me.

It changes it all! And is a real secret to true self confidence.

Email Lindsay at Lindsay@HowToBeAwesomeAtEverything.com if you want to be one of the first to know about her mindset course and live group.

CHEERS to setting up this habit to instantly reframe how mistakes affect you. Now go put that post-it up so you use this in your life!

It will say…

Wow, that’s not like me.

265. How to Be Awesome At Identifying A Jerk VS Someone With Unresolved Issues Sep 18, 2023

Now this can get tricky because a lot of times the choices that people make now this can be tricky because there’s a very fine line here, but I think it is so important to spend time on.

The whole reason that this podcast episode is absolutely essential is because we are making decisions all day long about the people we interact with and who we lead into our inner circle… and this is a very clear issue to me… But only very recently.

Since we know that it is absolutely crucial for us to protect our happy headspace and really try to give our energy to things that drive us forward and are aligned with our main life priorities. So having people in our lives that make us feel shitty about ourselves, or are constantly running us down or being inconsiderate and hurting our feelings… is not part of the program.

This is one of those things that I’ve only just fully seen super clearly within the last few weeks.

And I think it’s so crazy important because if you really take the time to think of it this way when you’re in different situation… you will absolutely make the best decisions when interacting with them and also how much interaction you should actually have with them.

So let’s define our terms… What do we consider a jerk and what do we consider someone who hasn’t hasn’t worked through their own issues yet.

JERK

To me, a jerk is someone who puts themselves first- so they are a good friend when it works for them… Often times the conversation is 90% about them and 10% about you… Now not all of these examples will of course apply to every jerk… I’m just giving you examples… Jerks sometimes say mean things just to be mean… They don’t take accountability for their actions.

Often times if you look at how they treat other people… Not just you… It’s easier to actually see who they are. I think it’s also very important to believe people when they show you who they are, I really am an eternal optimist, but that can be to a disadvantage because sometimes I’ll keep thinking… This person will see this new change… When the reality is… If someone shows you who they are over and over again… Responsibility is on you now not them… They showing you who they are and now it’s your job to recognize it and protect yourself appropriately.

Examples:

Mind manipulates you - guilt trips etc.

Lack of compassion or empathy - often critical, always your fault, nit picks, causes fights

No accountability - blames you for all

Gaslighting - deny facts, rewrite history and even make you sought your own thoughts

Exportation - financial or emotional - use your resources for their own gain - without much in return

Control- often seen control of every part of the relationship

Friends are disposable - can abruptly end a friendship or relationship without any empathy.

SOMEONE WITH ISSUES

For a person who has issues they haven’t resolved yet… The behavior can be similar, but if you look closely, there’s usually a very clear difference.

Examples:

Projection - put their own negative emotions on you. Their insecurities or unresolved issue.

Mood swings- they can be angry or irritable with you without clear reasons

Overacting- they can have a big reaction to a minor issue - because they have a heightened emotional sensitivity

Blame shifting - its all your fault

Inconsistency - change their mind often, not sure what version of them you are going to get

Jealousy and envy- they feel inadequate so they can be competitive and not happy for your wins

Neediness- they might overly depend on you - which can be emotionally draining

Talk behind your back - because they feel insecure

HOW TO APPROACH BOTH- your blueprint

Jerk- distance- don’t engage in the argument

Often not worth the time to explain how they hurt you or disregarded your feelings.

Someone with issues- depends on how close you are to them. Give them grace.

Or tell them- I know this is not the person that you are.

Give them time and space.

Be honest about how their actions affected you.

Offer support and a safe space

Keep boundaries - so their negative stuff doesn’t impact you

Know when you have to walk away - at least for now

It’s so important to know the difference and to proceed differently with both. You will feel so much freedom and spend so much more time in your happy headspace!

264. How To Be Awesome At Not Doing Things You Don't Want To! Sep 15, 2023

This is your wake-up call to stop doing things you don’t want to do.

Right now - think of something that you’ve done recently or have something coming up - that you didn’t want to or don’t want to do.

Now, if you reallllly think about, I bet 99% of the time, you don’t actually have to do it. You just think you do for so many reasons like…. It will be rude if you don’t go or people might talk about you… or you can’t quit the job you don’t like because you don’t have other options…

But here’s the thing…. Most of this we put on ourselves! It’s our lives- we’re in the drivers seat- there are ways to not do all these things.

I think if we can figure out how to NOT do the things we don’t want to do… while still being a very considerate, kind and good human… we’ve mastered it.

Because guess what- when you’re doing things you don’t want to do- you’re usually not your most awesome self anyway. Cause you don’t want to be there.

Today we’re getting you out of all the things you think you should do, but don’t want to do… without being an asshole.

263. How To Be Awesome At Making Decisions Based On The 90 Year Old You Sep 12, 2023

We don’t get to split test life right - so we can’t see what it looks like if we take the job or start the business… or if we marry this person vs. this person…

But the idea of picturing yourself at 90 years old is to me - the absolute best way to make decisions.

Because it’s you as you are at 90, versus what you could have been. It’s the ultimate motivator to really figure out what fulfillment and success and happiness means to you- not what is considered the society norm or what your family or friend group think…

And the best part of this, at age 90, you won’t care at all what anyone thinks. They’re all 90 too and the question will be, did you do the best you could with what you had?

Did you run life on autopilot for most of the time or did you really live life fully and take risks and enjoy the moments.

And risk is so much easier when you look at it this way. You have the pain of taking the risk and doing the hard thing, or you have the pain of not knowing what could have been. I’ll take the first all day.

Decisions can be hard- both the big life decisions and the daily habits that we have… but I think if you position your decision making like you’re 90 and looking back at the choices you made, I think you’ll make the best decisions possible. Because the things that we get caught up now, just won’t matter if we pan out to the big picture.

This is a game of you vs. the potential you.

The best content that inspired this topic is from Gary Vee and Alex Hormozi.

Like most podcasts, I learn from reading and watching and these two are the best at this!

Gary Vee says - regret is poison.

He says ask yourself...

What will you regret least when you’re 90?

I always think about the 90 year old version of myself.

Let’s use that as our basis.

The more you think like this, the easier it gets.

As you practice making decisions based on your own standards, the easier it gets!!

Live the life you want. Wear what you want to wear, date who you want to date,

The freedom to fail is more fulfilling then walking through on autopilot - living under these standards that other people live by.

People say- I can’t quit my job - no but you actually can. You just worry about what other people think of it.

Don’t follow what most people do or you’ll have what most people have.

It feels safe but it’s a bad decision.

The sad reality is that most people are unhappy or unhealthy or unhappy in their relationship etc.

The best way to guarantee a life you don’t want is to do what everyone else does.

Unless you want what everyone else has which nobody does.

Think for yourself - it’s hard at the beginning - this is how we’ve been sitting!! What our parents think, what your friends do… when you first do it, it feels so scary.

But the reality is, all that matters is you vs. the potential you.

You at 90 vs. you at 90 with what you could have been.

We put so much weight on what other people think is success or what they do - where they work etc.

Often when people are most proud of you - isn’t when you’re the happiest!! When you’re in a good job that you hate.

I’ve done this so much - I just know what I want and it’s done.

The timeline is compressed.

The bigger the wall is, you can then use that as evidence for the next wall.

Well that one worked, let’s do what I want again, let’s go.

The bigger the dragon is you have to slay, the more confidence you get from it.

It will give you the reinforcement you need for the future ones.

Living in the present - be mindful of your relationships today.

We focus so much on past and future, what about what is right in front of you.

This idea also helps you really slow down and soak in the moments

The so delish cup of warm coffee- get in your 10s!!

Like waves crashing on your feet and sand in your toes.

Learn from your mistakes- see them as lessons - and move on.

The whole thing is a way to help you life fully - by taking cation and pursue your passions and making decisions that align with what YOU actually want - not what standards other people have set.

It’s about living fully and the best version of you - according to you.

Make the most out of each day, do the things you love with the people you love.

CHEERS to living fully so you wake up as a 90 year old one day, without regrets and knowing you lived your life to your fullest potential.

262. How To Be Awesome At Creative Halloween Costumes Sep 09, 2023

It’s that time of year again!! Before you know it, Halloween will be here and so will costumes. My goal with this podcast episode is to give you lots of creative costume ideas - for you, for kids, for a family or a group… all of it! And get you going so it’s all organized ahead of time and you don’t find yourself on October 30th in a one hour line at a costume store. If you’ve never been in this situation- trust me, it’s pain like nothing else. So let’s dive into some options for fun Halloween costumes, and take the craziness out of it!

So we can start the holiday season nice and organized and enjoying the moments. The last minute or unexpected things will always come up.. but since costumes are something we can plan ahead for… let’s do it!

The best thing is to make a brain dump list of the things you love and especially right now!

I try to avoid the things that everyone will be - the hot movie this year, etc.

4 ways to do it!!

-Piece together your own using non-costume items- like cowboy, granny, etc.

-Buy a costume - astronaut, supehero, monster, princess etc.

-Or buy parts of a costume and half DIY your costume - alien

-Or fully make your own - vending machine

Fun Costume ideas!

Robber

Mad scientist

Group and family costume ideas!

Circus with a ringmaster

Aliens

Superheros

The Incredibles

Flintstones

Toy Story characters

Pirates

Couple costumes

Barbie and ken

Angel and devil

Minnie & Mickey

Beauty & the Beast

Construction Workers

Mario & Luigi

Disney

Elsa or Anna from Frozen

Snow White or Evil Queen

Ariel or Ursula from The Little Mermaid

A ton more! And lots are so easy!

Clown

Ghost

Pro soccer player - Messi

All sports- tennis, golf

**I love a mash-up with sorts… like 80s tennis or zombie bride

Ninja

Witch

Black Cat

Mummy

Bumble Bee

Doctor or Nurse

Unicorn

Shark

Beekeeper

Star Wars character

Ballet dancer

Baker / Chef

Police Officer

Fire fighter

Astronaut

Gumball machine

All the superheroes

Spiderman

Wonder woman

Batman

Superman

For kids, I sometimes do one for school and then a family one for trick or treating. It also allows for kids to have a backup if they change their mind.

Perk to not buying an actual costume- you can return what doesn’t work without a strict timeline.

Halloween can be so much fun!! Let’s plan for it ahead of time so we can really enjoy the moments without the stress.

Happy start of the holiday season!!

261. How To Be Awesome At Adjusting Your Standards Aug 28, 2023

This probably sounds like we are compromising on what we want out of life… But it’s actually exactly the opposite of that.

This idea of going into situations without set expectations allows you to be more present in the moment as it actually is. Rely less on other peoples actions and decisions, and more on your own.

And leaning more to the special little spontaneous moments and less on less on those big moments that we often put a lot of pressure on.

And when we do expect something from someone in our lives, we are going to tell them clearly and honestly ahead of time. I think a lot of the times when people are disappointed by someone they love, it wasn’t intentional, we just had a set expectation and we didn’t communicate it. I just don’t think it’s productive to put people to the test- like they should know- no, tell them!!

When you sort of remove the overall expectations of how things should be in a particular situation… you become better equipped to enjoy it in the moment and release all those thoughts of what it should be.

Because in reality… Life often doesn’t go as we think it is going to… In positive and negative ways… So if we put more focus on being present in the moment as it is, and not what we thought it would be… we will have less disappointment and more awesome days.

A lot of times we are disappointed because we had these huge expectations- but we didn’t tell anybody!!

Here are the TIPS!!

1. Identify when you’re not in a good headspace and need to get back to happy

2. Communicate clearly - if you have set expectations of how things should be

3. Give generously to others so your expectations when communicated are met.

4. Set-up plans have talks before something special - like a vacation or Christmas Day- so you lay the foundation - then let it all go and let it happen as it will.

5. It’s YOUR job to make you feel happy and fulfilled- not someone else’s. Don’t put too much pressure on other people or make it so it’s not possible to achieve.

6. Don’t compare- especially on social media.

7. Plan your own celebration!! Your birthday or Mother’s Day! Not in a controlling way- you know what you want so set it up! Don’t feel like someone else should or you shouldn’t plan your own.

8. Accept that we aren’t perfect so our loved ones won’t be either.

9. Do the self- care and mindfulness. When we feel like we are pouring from an empty cup we are emotional and more likely to be sensitive when things don’t go as you expect.

10. Celebrate often!! Get out and laugh! We sometimes celebrate only when it’s something traditional - how about celebrating smaller things more often. You’ll feel so good and it won’t put this massive 6 month pressure on your birthday going perfectly because you’re celebrating all the time!!

CHEERS to living your best life, on your terms!!

260. How To Be Awesome When You Feel Lost Aug 25, 2023

We all have times in our lives when we feel lost or in a hard transition time… we aren’t sure what our purpose is or we have a lack or goals or passions. We can feel lost in one aspect of our lives or sort of lost in general. Maybe it’s a feeling of overwhelm or underwhelm or both! Today, we’re talking about what to do when you feel lost… in one aspect of life or the total picture.

We’re breaking it down and not making it harder than it actually is to get through it.

Here are the steps that have served me best:

Figure out what you want

Figure out how to get it

Get the right mindset

Get the right skillset

Get the right habits in place

Be willing to make adjustments

And just keep going.

Let’s talk about the ways people can feel lost in different stages of life…

Career

Major life transitions

Money stress

Unclear goals

Breakup

1. Figure out what you want

Hard part

2. Figure out how to get it

Easy part

Find someone who’s already got it - and reverse engineer what they did

Who knows the path? Then do the work.

3. Figure out the daily habits it will take to get there

Show me your habits and I’ll tell you what your life looks like in 6 months or one year.

4. Make adjustments

Don’t be afraid to change - evyerhing will stay the same if you don’t

And don’t be afraid to change as you go - you can’t be so set in your plan that you don’t see what needs to be adjusted as you go.

5. Just keep going

Dont make it harder than it needs to be

Get in the right mindset

Get the right skillset

Get the right habits in place

Figure out what it is, find people who have done it, make a plan, do the work.

FOCUS on this thing right when you wake up and before you go to bed.

Change can be slow, but with this plan, you’ll get there.

Cheers to figuring out what you want and going and getting it!

259. How To Be Awesome At Saving Time By Not Running Errands Aug 22, 2023

If you spend a few hours a week running errands like most of us do… This podcast is about to save you so much time!

Today we are looking at the things that we do in a week or in a month and figuring out what we can stream line. You know I love the system of automate, eliminate and delegate.

With all the different technologies available today… there is no reason we should be spending hours a week running errands. There is simply just more efficient options and better ways to accomplish the same thing. And the best part… for very little or no cost at all.

By planning ahead of time and getting some systems in place… we can save so much time by utilizing modern technologies and flexing are efficiency muscles.

And then we are left with more time to do the things we love with the people we love, but we’re also less exhausted and less annoyed- big bonus!

-Only TWO times you should run errands - if you truly enjoy it or if it’s truly last minute.

-By planning ahead and being strategic, we can avoid virtually all errands.

-Most of us do errands because it’s in our routine.

-The goal of this pod is to shake things up and what we do that we could do more efficiently.

-Shop online - most places have free delivery

-Subscription services

-Planning meals ahead of time

-Automate bills/ get more tech savy

-Have things delivered!

-Use Uber!

-Delegate tasks - babysitter etc for a few errands before watching kids.

The whole key to this is planning ahead and being open to the new way of doing things.

The added bonus besides saving so much time is you save so much money! From not getting all the impulse items. And since you’re not at as many places, you’re not even missing what you’re not buying!!

CHEERS to all your newly found free time now that you’re not running around doing errands! Have an awesome day!!

258. How To Be Awesome At Saving Your Energy For The Important Stuff Aug 14, 2023

Today we are talking about what you give your energy to.

And if we do a very honest self audit, I bet we are all in someway giving energy the things that we don’t want to or they don’t serve us

Our goal today is to work towards not giving energy towards things we can’t control.

Like what people think of you - something that may feel like you have control over but you actually don’t. Therefore… It’s not worth spending your energy on.

And so many other ways to protect our energy like- being around people who make us feel awesome… And eliminating or significantly reduce any amount of time you spend around people who don’t make you feel great.

Think about yourself like you’re a quarterback at the football game and your energy is that football you are holding so tight to your chest and all day long you are running through this football field of life where big dudes are trying to slam into you and try to take your energy or disrupt it.

Our job is to protect our energy like it’s the most important thing… Because it actually is.

-Just like we need to train in the gym to be strong physically - we need to constantly train to be strong mentally.

So welcome to this awesome mental gym where today we are going to dive into what you spend your energy on. Mentally and physically.

We only have so much energy in a day. How are we spending it and what needs to be adjusted?

You have no control over what people think. We have a hard enough time

Believing you have any control of what other people think is setting yourself up for failure.

You can only control your behavior with regards to their feelings - not what they think.

Take care of yourself

-Allow yourself to say no

Release yourself from the worry associated with saying no

Don’t do things you dont want to do

-Here’s the secret- Don’t be a jerk or inconsiderate. Be a kind and caring person and be insanely loyal to your inner circle… and kind and considerate to everyone else. Then do whatever the heck makes you happy!!

Don’t be in this trap of saying yes because you feel like you have to- all to make someone else try to think some way about you - when you can’t control that anyway.

How about - dont go to the bridal shower that you dont want to go to - tell them ahead of time - send a nice note and gift and be on your happy way!!

-Reduce mental clutter

-Free up space so you have energy for things you really care about

-It creates a better world for everyone around you

-You’ll be happier in everything you do

-Because you aren’t going to things that you dont want to go to.

-You’ll have more time to do the things you love with the people you love!!

257. How To Be Awesome At Zero Refined Sugar Snacks & Treats Jul 24, 2023

The amount of information we’ve learned about nutrition and health in the last 10 years is incredible and empowering because we can make better decisions based on facts and how our body feels when we eat certain things.

One thing that just about every expert agrees on… is that salt isn’t the enemy, fat isn’t the enemy… refined sugar is.

We know that consuming too much sugar can lead weight gain and increased risk of heart disease and spikes and crashes in blood sugar - which makes you feel tired and irritable - the list goes on but the point is… we will feel and function so much better in the sort term and long term if we reduce or eliminate our intake of refined sugar.

In this episode, I’m sharing the best healthy swaps for your favorite treats… so you feel satisfied and fulfilled and are also eating delicious food that gives you fuel and energy throughout the day.

For our packaged snacks- they have zero refined sugar and if it’s a packaged food, it’s minimally processed, and every single ingredient is clean.

It takes some time to try different things, and figure out what you like… And it also takes planning ahead… Thinking about situations, you will be in and having an alternative ready to go.

But I’m telling you… once you eliminate highly processed foods from your diet, and reduce or eliminate refined sugars… you’ll feel so good… After a bit of time you will prefer your healthy alternatives.

Learning every ingredient, a nutrition label can be tricky, but in this episode, we are breaking it down so you have lots and lots of ideas of delicious snacks and desserts that leave you feeling satisfied and full without the sugar crash or brain fog that can often come with the original version. We’re talking all the yummy snacks and treats - sans sugar today.

-We know that sugar is basically in everything and it makes us feel awful. It’s hard to avoid but we can do it!!

When you are cooking!

-Here are healthy alternatives to refined sugar!!

Honey

Maple Syrup

Coconut Sugar

Agave

Date Paste or dates

Monk Fruit Sweetener

**add protein powder and collagen powder for the health benefits!

-Snacking foods

Popcorn - healthy option or bowl of blueberries

Grain free items

Coconut rolls

Baked apples

Bowl of berries

Frozen grapes

Baked apples

Healthy chocolate

Protein balls

Make your own ice cream by blending things like bananas etc

Chia seed pudding

-Prepare for situations!! Like flights or movies!! Anytime you will want something in a situation. Let’s not eat things we don't want because we dont have another option!

-When ordering dessert - also think about portions!

If you want the birthday cake - just have a little

-I always talk about protein! Get in your protein first!!

-ALSO! Activated charcoal if you eat too much and need to clean out! Or gluten etc!

Here is link to my fav:

https://amzn.to/3pTyF8V

CHEERS!! To enjoying ALL the awesome healthy foods that give you energy and make you feel your best!!

256. How To Be Awesome At Becoming Your Strongest & Leanest Jul 21, 2023

The world of nutrition and fitness can all be so complicated and overwhelming.

It’s hard to know what theory to go with or eating plan makes the most sense for you.

I read and study nutrition and fitness and longevity more than any other topic and the thing that I’ve learned is that it doesn’t need to be so complicated - and while everyone is of course different- it helps SO much to simplify it.

Ready?

The best way to be lean and strong, and lose weight is by doing two things.

Build muscle and consume protein.

It’s honestly that simple. In this podcast we are going through these concepts plus the other key concepts I think we need to be thinking about and have in our routine.

-Hydrate with electrolytes

-Take Magnesium powder every night

-Sleep at least 7 hours

-Get in 10k steps per day

-Take collagen & creatine

This is a lifetime journey of learning and training and getting stronger. This podcast will help simplify things and motivate you for all the right reasons.

-Another podcast to check out!!

Episode 240 is all about how to eat 100 grams of protein per day

-Eat 30-50 grams for each of your 3 meals

-Simple and it works!! Short term and long term and you get to eat a lot and you don’t feel deprived.

-The best way to be lean and strong and focus on overall health and longevity more than looks - two things

-Episode 88- how to diet and exercise for longevity

-We are going to talk about a few other things too but honestly… if we can JUST focus on protein and building muscle - we are 90% of the way there.

Here are the tips!!

-Build muscle - you won’t get bulky don't worry

-If you dont lift weights, you will age faster

-Cardio is great for cardiovascular health - but if you want to lose fat- it’s not cardio- it’s lifting weights!

-A toned and sculpted body does not come from an elypitcal or a treadmill. It comes from the weights!!

-Eat protein - like a ton

-It makes you feel FULL! And it gives you energy!

Here are my links to my favorite supplements mentioned:

Magnesium:

https://amzn.to/3Y0aMca

Creatine:

https://amzn.to/3DpeQcy

Greens:

https://amzn.to/3Qa1Oan

Protein Powders:

https://amzn.to/3K7rQaw

Collagen Powder:

https://amzn.to/44TnknV

Electrolyte Powder:

https://amzn.to/472plzZ

Have an awesome day!!

255. How To Be Awesome At Avoiding Decision Fatigue Jul 12, 2023

Are you ever facing a pretty easy decision and you’re like - I don’t even know I can’t make one more decision today.

You’ve reached… decision fatigue.

That point to where you’ve made so many decisions that you’re just out of decision battery.

And that’s my favorite way to think about it.

We start with full battery in the morning - and we are the most sharp.

For every decision we make, our decision battery drains just a little bit.

Studies show that we make 35,000 decisions in a day… no wonder sometimes we hit our max!

But knowing this, we can set-up routines and plans and habits to where most of our decisions are made for us already.

We’re going to prioritize what’s most important and simplify things so that we have more energy for the important decisions that really matter.

How have I gotten to episode 255 of this podcast without talking about this yet!!

This is SO important!!

We’re talking about how to take SO MANY of the decisions you make each day - and take the decision part out of it.

What to wear, what to eat, what order to do things, what exercise to do, what to do first in the morning, what to do before bed.

We are going to focus on each thing and figure out works best for us. Don’t just keep going on autopilot!

-Sometimes we postpone things

We aren’t sure what task to tackle on our to do list

We aren’t sure what to say back to a text message

-This all stops us from moving forward!

-Then, dont go back and reanalyze

Decide and set it up and move on

-Simple decisions are now not as simple!

How do you want your coffee? How do you want to build your salad?

There are 34 different ways to cook your eggs and 14 different types of apples.

It’s so empowering to figure out what you like then set up routines and habits so that you’re not making the same decisions over and over.

Ways to reduce decision fatigue and make better choices

-reduce amount of decisions that you make- what is actually essential

-when you’re in a growth phase, don’t be afraid to say no to things - no and move on

-automate decisions!! Like… wear the same thing everyday!

-New habits

-Do your most important things early in the day! When you are the most fresh

Your brain is the most sharp first thing in the am.

Whatever requires the most mental energy - do that first up!

-take breaks!

-break things down so they aren’t so complicated

-do one thing at a time- make one good decision- take all the time you need then move on

Take care of your body and mind! Everything always comes back to that!

Cheers to saving energy for things that actually matter!!

To learn more about everything Lindsay has going on- including her upcoming mindset course - visit www.HowToBeAwesomeAtEverything.com.

Ping Lindsay on IG @LindsaysCloud or at team@howtobeawesomeateverything.com if you are interested in first notifications about her mindset group!

254. How To Be Awesome At Managing Hunger VS Cravings Jul 05, 2023

This topic is so interesting and something I’ve been hyper focused on for the last few months and it’s made a big difference in how I eat and when I eat and what I eat… and I think it will be for you too.

We are going to break down the actual difference between hunger and cravings and figure out the balance of how we feel full and satisfied…. Without overeating or overindulging to where we don’t feel great… in the short term and in the long term.

By being able to identify… is this hunger that I’m feeling or is this a craving… we can make the best decisions for our overall nutrition and our happiness in the moment.

Our relationship with food and nutrition is just so important and thinking about it this way can really simplify it and help you make the best decisions that make you feel your very best.

**Cravings are so strong that you will take action - more than hunger.

Hunger we can bypass- but cravings get us to go get that thing.

We need to know how to control our cravings.

First… what is hunger and what are cravings?

Hunger: Hunger is a physiological sensation that arises from the body's need for nourishment. It is primarily driven by biological factors such as low blood sugar levels, an empty stomach, or hormonal imbalances. When you experience hunger, your body is signaling that it requires sustenance to maintain energy levels and perform essential functions. Hunger is often accompanied by physical symptoms like stomach contractions, growling, lightheadedness, and a general feeling of emptiness.
Cravings: Cravings, on the other hand, refer to an intense desire for a specific type of food or a particular taste. Unlike hunger, cravings are often psychological in nature and can be triggered by various factors such as emotions, memories, environmental cues, or even cultural influences. Cravings tend to be more specific and focused, such as a strong urge for chocolate, pizza, or salty snacks. They may arise even when you're not physically hungry, and they can persist even after you've eaten enough to satisfy your hunger.

Tips to manage cravings

Identify triggers: Pay attention to what triggers your cravings. Is it certain emotions, situations, or environments? By identifying your triggers, you can develop strategies to avoid or cope with them more effectively.
Distract yourself: When a craving strikes, try distracting yourself with an engaging activity. Engage in a hobby, go for a walk, listen to music, or call a friend. Shifting your focus away from the craving can help diminish its intensity.
Practice mindful eating: Mindful eating involves paying close attention to your food, savoring each bite, and being fully present during meals. By eating mindfully, you can enhance your satisfaction from the food you consume and reduce the likelihood of experiencing intense cravings afterward.
Choose healthier alternatives: If you're craving a particular food, try to find healthier alternatives that satisfy your cravings to some extent. For example, if you're craving something sweet, opt for a piece of fruit or a small serving of dark chocolate instead of reaching for a sugary dessert.
Plan your meals and snacks: Having a well-balanced meal plan and incorporating regular, nutritious snacks can help prevent extreme hunger, which can intensify cravings. When you keep your body adequately fueled throughout the day, you're less likely to experience intense food cravings.
Practice portion control: Allow yourself to indulge in your favorite foods occasionally, but in moderation. Instead of completely depriving yourself, enjoy a small portion of the food you're craving. This can help satisfy your craving without derailing your overall healthy eating habits.
Manage stress: Stress can contribute to cravings, particularly for comfort foods. Find healthy ways to manage stress, such as practicing relaxation techniques, engaging in physical activity, getting enough sleep, or seeking support from friends and family.
Stay hydrated: Sometimes, thirst can be mistaken for hunger or cravings. Ensure you're adequately hydrated by drinking water throughout the day. When a craving strikes, try having a glass of water and waiting a few minutes to see if it subsides.

This is a LONG game experience… our relationship with food.

Let’s not label things as “good” or “bad” but listen to our bodies and make the best decisions we can each day.

Learning and growing as we go… keeping a journal of how we feel so we can look back and make even better decisions.

CHEERS to fueling our body and feeling satisfied everyday by asking ourselves… am I hungry or is this a craving?

253. How To Be Awesome At Prioritizing Your State Of Mind Jun 18, 2023

It is so easy to get into a funk… And I think most of the time it’s because we’re not being hyper aware about our mindset and working to adjust things when they feel off. Prioritizing that above other things.

It might mean canceling plans or hibernating for a little bit so you can re-calibrate and come back into the world feeling good and strong - with a clear and happy mind.

Over the last few weeks, I have spent so much time in the hospital with Craig in the areas of the hospital where many of the patients are in bad shape. And then I come home and I am working to help my kids deal with their emotions and state of mind in the healthiest way we know how.

And the way I’ve been able to do this… Through all the ups and downs, and uncertainty… Is by knowing that the state of mine, that I am in… Is literally everything.

The night before he went in for the most recent big surgery… before we were going to bed… I had all of the kids sleeping in my bed, and Craig was in the hospital… And sweet little Parker who I think has taken all of this, the hardest this go round… Was asking me questions like… If someone goes to heaven, can you text them there?

Things that just tear at your insides… Because I know in reality the surgeries are so risky and every time we have an episode he has more scar tissue and at 51 years old we are really dealing with what is usually 80-year-old problems. It’s all very heavy and there is a lot of stress and worry.

But when I find myself thinking… If the worst case happened… How would I even get off the floor… And I picture myself crying on the floor… And then I tell myself…

We’re actually going to control our thoughts and we’re not going to allow THAT.

I’m a big believer and you have to feel all the feelings and not suppressed things. So it’s a fine balance, of course. But it’s a matter of not allowing yourself to give effort towards something that you can’t change. And I think a lot of us to do this in little ways all the time

Maybe you feel like a coworker has it out for you and you think they think this is this about you but in reality you’ll never really know. And also… Their opinion of you just doesn’t matter. In the long game… It’s a relevant. So it’s a matter of controlling your mindset and not giving energy to things that you can’t change by worrying about it.

The other side of this… Is recognizing how you feel and figuring out what you need to get back to happy.

If you are super annoyed or irritated, or in a negative mood… rather than still living through all the things you need to do that day… I think it is so much more beneficial to pull back and figure out what you need to get your mind right again.

It would be much better to not get the grocery shopping done that day, then to go to a crowded grocery store. Will likely get more irritated because you walked in there super irritated.

And you will just have overall better interactions with everyone in your life.

Often times when we have arguments or disputes with people it’s not actually about something that happened with them… it’s about the state of mind that we were in when we entered the encounter.

So let’s talk about actual action items we can do when we know we need a mind reset.

One of the things that I think works the very best is to pick a song or create a playlist. I have a playlist on my Spotify called Unstoppable and it’s about 10 of my favorite songs that get me in a good mindset. Some of them apply more to different emotions, but in general for me, it’s about getting the emotions out… Thinking through it working through it and then getting back to a happy and STRONG Place.

First one on the playlist is girl on fire by Alicia Keys.

It was the first song I put on when I was driving to the hospital to pick up Craig on the day he was able to come home from Cedars in LA… And it was the first time I had a really good cry about all of it… And it lasted three minutes.

Not because I didn’t have any more emotions but because that was enough. That was what I needed to feel the emotions and then move on from this song and get back to my happy and STRONG headspace.

I love love love music as a tool for this.

Another great way to do it is journaling. Write down all the things… All the feelings and emotions and get it all out.

And then after you do that… I think you should get outside or do a work out… A physical change is the best way to get a mental change. So maybe it’s journal or listen to a song or cry or whatever it is and then go move your body. To change up the situation. There’s literally a 0% chance you won’t feel at least a little bit better after doing the metal work and then the physical work.

The key to all of this is to understanding that this is your top priority every day. To manage your headspace means you manage your life. And you keep a continuous pulse on how you’re feeling… So you don’t wake up one day in this massive funk or depression, because every day, you are hyper aware of how you feel and when you’re off work to fix it.

I hope this episode made you really stop and think about the importance of your state of mind and how you can actively attend to it every day for an overall happier life.

Thank you so much for listening!

252. Let’s catch up… Jun 08, 2023

Let’s catch up!

I feel like I’ve learned lots of life lessons lately that I think will be interesting and valuable… some tips and take-aways and things to think about.

I don’t do storytime podcasts often because I always try to bring up topics that I think will bring the most value and it’s much less about me and much more about YOU!

But for this period of life, a catch-up episode seems like the jam. So let’s go!

251. How To Be Awesome At Doing A Full Days Work In 3 Hours May 16, 2023

If you are obsessed with productivity and making the most out of your time, this episode is for you!

I’m outlining my very clear strategy for getting a full days worth of work done in exactly 3 hours.

It’s taken me so many years of trial and error and reading so many books about high performers and habits and morning routines and efficiency… and from all of that, I’ve started doing this routine with ONE app that I will tell you about.

Now I designed this for my work life but it honestly works so well in all parts of life. It’s about setting yourself up in an environment where you can be laser focused, super efficient, complete one thing before you go on to the next and avoid all distractions.

Today I’m giving you a complete blueprint for doing a full days worth of work in 3 hours. Once you do it once and see how much you can get done, you’ll be obsessed! And - even better- feel the freedom of going out and enjoying the day after because you were just crazy productive.

A few key points from this podcast:

-Use app: Brain FM and set-up a 90 minute session.

-Make it impossible to be distracted

-Know ahead of time what you will work on during each session.

-Stay laser focused - know you are on a time limit.

-Do ONE THING at a time, and don’t go on to something new until that one thing is done.

-Stick to the plan, do the hardest thing first.

-Get in a great environment - then don’t get up for anything. Keep a little water next to you- go to the restroom first etc. This is 90 minutes of SOLID work.

-This works for ANYTHING you want to get done in your life too! Not just work! Plan a vacation, plan a kids party, organize your finances, whatever it is!

-Plan it out the night before, the morning of, or during your in between times- waiting for appointments, chill time at night, waiting in carpool, etc.

-One 90 minute session then break for 30 mins to eat and do what you need to do, then back on for another 90 minutes.

It’s like a mid-way reward, and then another reward at the end.

Why this works so well!

-It’s impossible to do intense work all day - which is why people lag and space it out.

-By being ULTRA productive for 3 hours- then you feel SO accomplished and the work doesn’t drag out.

-It takes us SO long to get back in the rhythm after getting distracted.

-You do a BETTER job in less time because you are fully focused on it. You aren’t stopping to eat or for texts etc.

Because getting your stuff done in the most efficient way and then going out and living your life is the MOST AWESOME!!

250. How To Be Awesome At Winning Days When You Feel Like Shit May 12, 2023

We all have days where we just feel just feel like shit. Maybe you are a little sick or under the weather or you’re straight bummed out or in a bad headspace or just low on energy… how do you handle it?

I think there are so many ways to handle times when you feel crappy, and turn it into a win.

In this episode, I’m sharing lots of ideas of how to turn a wasted day in to a winning day. So many options - lean into whatever feels best to get you

Some days we have 100% energy and effort and happy headspace - and other days we have like 1% for whatever reason. Rather than label those days as “bad days” and going down a spiral and making it worse- let’s be strategic about it and figure out… what’s my best approach here?

What’s the best way to handle this- because we know the other way to the other side is to get through it. Listen to this today and then again when you’re having one of those days… together, we will turn it around. Let’s go!

Lindsay talks about these ways to handle it:

-Call it a day on the issue and don’t overthink it

-Do the best you can with the cards you’re dealt

-Hibernate and have some alone time!

-Get outside and change your headspace

-Don’t label the day as good or bad… you find what you’re looking for!

David Goggins style -

-Embrace discomfort - when you’re having a tough day, it’s easy to want to escape and numb or avoid the pain. David Goggins style is to lean into the discomfort and push through. Maybe it’s a hard workout or a tough challenge at work or face a tough conversation head on.

-Use positive self talk - reframe your mind - rest

-Embrace the suck- tough times make you stronger and more resilient in life

Brene Brown style-

-Practice self-compassion- talk to yourself like you would a good friend

-Have empathy - try to put yourself in other peoples shoes - if that’s mainly what’s bumming you out

-Get support- from people who love you

-Practice gratitude - focus on things you are grateful for and realize it could be worse

-Fund meaning in the struggle - the hardest times of our lives and bring the most growth and transformation. When you’re having one of those days, try to find meaning in the struggle and see it as opportunity for growth and learning. The hardest times can help us become strong and more resilient and more compassionate.

CHEERS to turning SHITTY days into WINNING days!!

259. How To Be Awesome At Not Taking Yourself Too Seriously May 08, 2023

This is not about not taking your life or goals seriously - it’s the opposite… it’s allowing yourself the freedom to make mistakes, try new things, laugh at yourself… so that your worries and stresses don’t consume you and prevent you from fully enjoying life.

In this podcast episode, we’re talking about all the ways we can stay super focused on our priorities and being very intentional with our time, but at the same time, realizing the importance of not taking yourself too seriously.

And here’s why… it’s mental freedom. Freedom from replaying past conversations or situations… freedom from overthinking… freedom from being indecisive or taking things personally that you could let go.

And the best part.. by doing this and thinking this way… you’ll have more FUN! And what’s better than that!

Here are some of the tips that Lindsay goes through in this episode:

-Be able to laugh at yourself

We all make mistakes and wish we would have done certain things differently.

By not beating yourself up and being able to move on - we save ourselves so much mental agony.

Also, it takes work but being able to relax and take a joke- not take things too seriously - and not be offended!

-Embrace mistakes - use them for learning and growth and move on.

-Be present in the moment - it’s so easy to focus on yesterday and tomorrow instead.

-Keep good perspective - and remember - this moment will not last forever - good or bad.

Will this matter in a month or in a year?

-Try new things - don’t get stuck in our ways. Or telling ourselves we “aren’t good” at something or “can’t” do it for some reason. These are usually mental hurdles that we put up ourselves.

-Be around people who share this same thinking!

When you make a mistake, or have something to decide on… we need people who are straightforward and honest but also, so supportive and forward thinking.

-Be aware of your self-talk

The words you say to yourself create the conversation that you have in your head all day.

Stop yourself from being overly critical or negative.

Break the pattern.

-Embrace your imperfections

We all have flaws, own them, call yourself out, don’t hide. Embrace them as part of what makes you unique.

-Look for humor!!

Go to a comedy show, tell jokes, if you have kids - do jokes with them!

Follow someone funny on social media… make a point to laugh daily.

-Take time to recenter - medication or stretching or calm

-Have more FUN!

The more you are doing things you love, the more fun you’ll have and honestly- the less uptight you will be!

CHEERS to not taking ourselves too seriously and realizing that most of it doesn’t matter anyway!

258. How To Be Awesome At Not Answering Questions That You Don't Want To May 05, 2023

BEST TIP HERE! Just because someone asked you a question… Doesn’t mean you have to answer it. Follow me here… This whole concept is game changing. We are sort of conditioned to answer a question when someone asks us one. But often times… Answering the question makes us feel crappy or we regret it later… Or we get into a conflict that we would rather avoid. Let me give you a few examples. You’re 12 weeks pregnant and someone says… Wow your huge are you having twins? Are you due soon?? Now, likely, this person isn’t intentionally being rude, but naturally, you’re probably not gonna feel great about the questions you were just asked. So rather than feeling even more shitty and answering their questions… How about just don’t. Especially if it’s a stranger. My favorite way to not answer questions that I don’t want to is to just smile and sort of life. It shows this like deep confidence and I’m actively choosing what I want to respond to and not. We are diving into SO MANY situations where people might ask you questions that are in intentionally rude or maybe just inconsiderate and they don’t realize it… but either way, it doesn’t matter. Just because someone asked you a question… Doesn’t mean you have to answer it. You must listen to this entire podcast… I promise you it will serve you in ways that you don’t even realize yet. FILE THIS UNDER- how did I not learn this sooner? Here are some of the things Lindsay talks about: Examples of questions! 1. Do you think your best friend is really loyal? 2. Political anything! 3. Why did you get a divorce? 4. Why aren’t you nicer to your kids? 5. Why don’t you have children yet? 6. Why do you spend so much time playing video games? 7. Why are you so sensitive? 8. How did you lose so much money? 9. Are you single because you’re too picky? 10. Are you depressed because you had to close your business? -Instead of getting fired up or sad or offended think - NOPE! Not today! Not getting in!! -This is alllll a mental game of protecting our head space. By engaging, we let it continue. -We can’t control what people say but we can control how we respond to it and the meaning we give to it. -Here are some alternate ways to respond! -Smile and laugh -Say something funny like… Oh wow I didn’t know we were asking too personal and possibly offensive questions today -Oh that’s yesterdays news- I’m onwards and upwards! -Oh my goodness- that’s bold. I think I’ll take a pass on that one! -You will feel SO GOOD!! -You’re setting personal boundaries and being strong and confident. -Avoid arguments, avoid feeling crappy about something, don’t allow someones judgment of you to actually affect how you think about yourself. -We are sidestepping questions to avoid all things negative! -You are left with a feeling of control and self protection! It’s empowering! Too often we walk away from interactions with other people feeling deflated or uncomfortable or just down about ourselves. Can we avoid so much of this by not answering questions we dont want to! CHEERS to protecting your headspace and never answering questions that you dont want to!

257. How To Be Awesome At Kids Parties Q+A Style May 01, 2023

You might know that one of my favorite things is throwing kids parties and I thought it’d be fun to do a Q and A episode with all of the questions I’ve gotten lately about throwing awesome kids parties.

My goal is always to set-up an experience that is special and in a way magical for everyone that comes to the party.

It’s a moment in time to celebrate your little birthday boy or girl in a way that is perfect for age and what they are into right now… and something for them to look forward to and help plan… and then feel so special and loved at the party.

I think my love for kids parties extends from how cool it is to see things through kids eyes. To see them get so excited and have so much fun, is just the best.

In today’s episode, we’re focusing on enjoying the process of party planning, maximizing your budget and spending less than you probably think… and building an event that runs smoothly and everyone has a great time.

Here are some of the questions that Lindsay answers:

-How do you plan out the timing of it?

-What went well, what went wrong? What did you learn from this party?

-What food do you serve?

-How much does the party cost?

-How do you know shirts sizes for kids?

-How far ahead of time do you start planning?

-How do you create the space for parties? Tent, fabric, etc.

-When does it make sense to rent a venue?

-How do you get helpers to help out?

-Prep things in the weeks leading up to it - little by little

-Spread out buying things - little by little

-What to buy and what to rent?

-How do you build dessert backdrops?

-I am finishing an online course about ALL OF THIS!!

Check out HowToBeAwesomeAtEverything.com for Lindsay’s kids party course coming soon! And for lots of other free podcasts on this topic and planning downloads.

Thanks for listening! Have an awesome day!!

256. How To Be Awesome At Making Money From A Podcast Apr 26, 2023

You want to hear something crazy… I’ve helped dozens of people start a podcast in the last year and most of them are making real money within the first few months.

And the best part is - they all look so different. Some of them have do not have a big following or an established business or so many of the other things you might think they would.

The real secret here is that there are so many ways to make money from having a podcast, you just need to LEAN into which way works best for you.

I love this topic so much because nobody is talking about it!

Sure, people talk about about having podcasts sponsors for each episode, the traditional stuff.. but I haven’t found anybody is who is having a FULL picture conversation about all the ways that a podcast can make you money.

Podcasting is the way to communicate and educate and entertain these days.. and it’s the very best way to create an audience for yourself and a community.

In this episode I am going to walk you through all the ways you can profit from your podcast if you have one already…. and if you don’t… there’s no better time than now. You’re not late to the game I promise. And once you hear how much money you can make, you’ll agree with me.

-A podcast can make you money in ways that you don’t even know now or have a plan for.

-A podcast can help you build a brand or help you create a lifestyle brand.

-I decided to create an online course to teach people how to start podcasts because, in my opinion, it is the single best decision you can make that is low cost and a low time commitment that creates an audience for yourself.

-And we know that those who have attention, have horsepower.

-And the bonus is, it’s crazy fulfilling. If you haven’t listened to the first podcast on this, go back and listen to # 239.

-Lindsay’s podcast group starts soon (if you’re listening real time)

Check out more info here:

https://howtobeawesomeateverything.com/pages/business-strategy-mentoring

And her online course all about how to start and MAKE MONEY is available always here:

https://howtobeawesomeateverything.com/pages/the-courses

And of course, visit HowToBeAweseomeAtEverything.com for all things awesome!!

255. Kid Edition: How To Maintain Your Self Standards (Even When Other People Don’t!) Apr 10, 2023

I have two very special guests with me today..

Presley and Parker!

Which means… this is a kids edition!

So round up your kids - this is an episode to listen to with them!

It is a topic that is great for kids of all ages- and adults too- it’s about own to maintain your self standards… even when other people don’t!

It’s not always easy… but we have a great plan for how to do it.

-What do we mean by self standards?

What you hold yourself to. The type of person you are. How you make people feel.

-So first we must figure out… what type of person do you want to be?

-Now for the kids listening, please do the same thing. Let’s say out loud your answer to this question - what type of person you want to be?

Here are some ideas just to get you thinking…

Considerate, kind, loving, funny, fun, supportive, determined, hard working, loyal, positive talker and enthusiastic

-You can even write it down and keep it in your bedroom or bathroom.

-Now, in life, none of us are perfect and sometimes we make decisions that don’t match who we want to be.

-When you are in a situation and someone else is unkind to you, it’s easy to react in the same way that they treated you. But the problem is, this isn’t who we have promised ourselves we would be.

-This podcast episode is all about staying true to the type of person that we have decided we are going to be.

-EVEN WHEN people don’t treat you how you want to be treated.

-They are lowering their standards for themselves, but we don’t want to do the same.

-So that’s what we want to work through today… WHAT type of person are you going to be? And then, everyday we want to work to keep ourselves making decisions that support the type of person we want to be.

-Sounds pretty easy right? It’s easy when we are thinking about it- but sometimes when real life throws curve balls our way… it will test us!

-So we need to decide the type of person we want to be then really work on sticking to it each day.

-Let’s talk about a few examples.

-What if you’re on the playground someone says- are your shoes new? You say yes, and they say, well they are ugly.

Your reaction might be to say something mean back like… well yours are old and dirty.

-So what happened here is they lowered their standard of themselves.. and then you did too.

-You might feel like you defended yourself so you might feel good for a second like you got them back… but then you don’t feel so good.

Why? Because that’s not the person you want to be. You don’t want to be mean because they were mean.

-But you can’t let people walk on you either. So it gets tricky to uphold your standards for yourself but also be able to be strong and stand up for yourself when you need to.

We hope this episode helped you decide who you are going to be and then make decisions each day to support that!

Thank you for listening! Have an awesome day!

Love, Lindsay, Presley and Parker

254. How To Be Awesome At Not Getting Offended Apr 04, 2023

A lot of the podcast episode topics I choose are things that I am personally trying to become more awesome at.

Things I haven’t mastered and it’s a work in progress and I want to learn more and do better and share what I’ve learned

Every now and then there’s a podcast topic, that I can humbly and confidently say I’ve got it. This is one of those.

How to be awesome at not being easily offended.

It is so hard to actually offend me. It’s kind of crazy to think about.

Today we are diving into what it actually takes to not be offended by things that people say to you or situations that are outside your control. Often times we are assuming or projecting or making something small into something big.

By not being easily offended, you free up so much mental bandwidth and you save yourself so much stress and agony.

A big part of this is believing people when they show you who they are. And then adjust your relationship if you need to. If you are close to someone who is constantly offending you… do you need to do some inner work so you aren’t taking things offensively OR do you need to put a little distance between you and them?

I think not being offended is a superpower because you have the confidence to know that when things go sideways, you can brush it off and move on because that leaves you feeling awesome instead of shitty! no brainer right?

-Question for you - if you see a party that you weren’t invited to- but some of your friends were- are you offended?

Or do you look at all sides of it?

-Also- put space between you and people who make you feel offended!

A big part of this is believing people when they show you who they are. And then adjust your relationship if you need to. If you are close to someone who is constantly offending you… do you need to do some inner work so you aren’t taking things offensively OR do you need to put a little distance between you and them?

-Here’s the thing- I know that I wake up everyday and do my best to be a kind and considerate human and just do the best I can with everything I do. I make mistakes and miss the mark sometimes but I know that I’m an awesome person at my core.

-2 ways we often feel offended….

--Someone is directly rude or hurtful --Something happens and we create a story about it that may or may not be true. -It’s rarely about you! Almost nothing is actually personal. -When someone is someone being critical of you or is hurtful or talks down to you… It is often about them! -They could be feeling vulnerable or insecure or unhappy or jealous…. When people are struggling they often try to boost themselves up by putting you down. They are taking their stuff out on you. -You’ve probably heard the saying… Only hurt people, hurt people. -When we feel good about ourselves, we don’t go around trying to belittle others or be mean. It’s usually when people are hurting themselves. -Be able to ask yourself… is there any truth to this? Take a second and ask yourself if you did something that came across in that way? Be mature and not defensive… even if their delivery sucked. Maybe you’ll be like ok… I could have handled that a bit better- I see how it could have been taken like that. Or not, and then you let it go. -The KEY to mastering this… is knowing yourself. Be self aware! I know myself well and this isn’t aligned. Final on how not to be offended:
1. Practice empathy! Put yourself in the other person's shoes and try to understand their perspective.
2. Laugh it off! Being able to laugh at yourself and the world around you can help you see the lighter side of things and not take things so seriously.
3. Let it go! Holding onto grudges and resentments can be exhausting and can make it easier for you to feel offended. Try to let go of negative emotions and focus on the positive aspects of your life.
4. Communicate! In an open and honest way! If something someone says or does bothers you, it's important to communicate your feelings in a constructive way. By expressing yourself in a respectful and honest manner, you can help prevent misunderstandings and build stronger relationships.

Be super self-aware! This can help you recognize when you are feeling offended and why. What truth is here? What do I need to let go of? It’s a serious superpower and leads to happier days, weeks and months! CHEERS TO FEELING LIGHTER & HAPPIER BY NOT GETTING EASILY OFFENDED!

253. Awesome Interview With The Nurse That Helped Saved My Husband Mar 31, 2023

Today on the podcast is our real life lifesaver.

Karina, the ICU nurse that did life saving CPR on my husband when he went into cardiac arrest 10 months ago at Hoag Hospital.

If it wasn’t for Karina showing up and giving everything that she had that day and being so great at what she does… the outcome could have been different. It’s crazy because Craig had the most severe type of cardiac arrest- called VFIB and had no pulse pretty much immediately so he was in the absolute best place he could have been for this to happen.

And it all happened SO FAST. In this episode, Karina and I talk about that day and what it was like from her perspective. How she remembers seeing me in the hallway screaming for help and how she was surprised that Craig was so blue in color, so quickly. I ask her all the questions about what it is like to have such a heavy job and how you can work through the trama that you experience and still go out in the world and be happy.

There were so many incredible doctors and nurses that helped us over this 2 week period through operations and set-backs and organs failing and all the things that come with it. You just can’t express your gratitude in words. But man, I try!

There are so many cool lessons and takeaways from this conversation. And I’m just honestly so grateful for the opportunity to get to know Karina and spotlight her as the true hero that she is.

Key points:

-If someone you love needs your help medically, whether it is an emergency or something urgent or more long term, you have to be tough and think of yourself as their quarterback.

-If there weren’t brave people like her - willing to put themselves in this extreme situation to see the most traumatizing things that can happen to humans, over and over, and still show up and go to therapy and work through it so they can keep helping people is amazing.

Here are some of the questions that Lindsay asks her…

-First up, I’d love to understand how it works with you and your team. The day you changed our lives, I was holding my husbands hand in the ICU when he went into cardiac arrest. The nurse that was in the room and I yelled for help before the monitors were going off. Then I heard CODE BLUE through the hospital speaker. I was like oh my god that’s for us. How do you guys get notified to respond and are you stationed in the ICU?

-How do you decide who does what in your team?

-Do you have an idea of the medical condition of most patients or are you sort of walking into the crisis and have to be briefed real quick?

-What do you remember from the day with Craig? I know you have such busy days and crazy stories all the time I’m sure. Just curious as to what his situation was like from your perspective.

-I can’t imagine the weight that comes from your job.

You seem to have a happy and full life with family and friends… traveling and doing lots of fun things.

Is it hard to get that mental headspace sometimes with the weight of your job?

-How has it changed you? Does it make you afraid to do things for example because you see accidents or does it make you more emotional or more tough than most people?

-Do you see yourself being in this role or a similar role for a long time?

If not, what else would you like to do?

-How often do you get to hear how the good stories turn out? The people that go on and live and thrive because of the work that you do? Do you hear about enough of that to balance out the sadness of what you also must experience?

Ping Lindsay on IG with any questions you have after listening to this episode. @LindsaysCloud

CHEERS TO OUR REAL LIFE LIFESAVER!

252. How To Be Awesome At Living The Life That Makes You Feel Most Alive Mar 17, 2023

This is a little wake-up, shake-up podcast about living the life that makes you feel the most alive. That means… getting out of auto pilot for some parts of your life and changing things up. Really looking at what you’re doing each day and how you’re spending your time. What makes you feel most alive and what makes you feel most drained? We have way more control than we think we do about how we design our lives. Now, different people in different circumstances have obstacles to overcome or a path that’s just harder than other people to get there. But, you are in control. You can change your perspective. You can change your situation. If you’re not waking up most days, really jazzed about the day and what you’re about to do… it’s time to shake things up. Because we’re not here to have regrets at age 90. When you’re out of balance, and you’re going through the motions and you aren’t really LIVING for the majority of your days… I have a reset hack for you. A few things that Lindsay talks about: -Let’s decide today is going to be a shake up day. -If you are in a rut or overwhelmed or underwhelmed…. We need to interrupt your patterns and automatic nature of how you go through your day. -I joke that my least favorite word is “fine” because it’s so neutral. I’d rather be mad than fine. At least there is some emotion there. -In my life, I feel like this when I’m in the car too much - driving my kids all over. I personally don’t feel alive on the freeway. When there is too much of it, I know I need to adjust before I feel like my days are just on repeat and where do the hours even go. -I have friends that I know have the same feelings about their corporate job. Sometimes it happens in marriage or if you’re at college and not pursuing what you want. Or maybe you have decided you didn’t make the choices you wanted and now you are past the time to make those choices - I’m just a big believer in - the right time is NOW and it’s never really actually too late to start the thing. Whatever it is. -I’m going to share quotes from some of my favorite people on this topic at the end. -But for me, I need a hack. Something that I can do when I start to feel like this. So here it is for this! -Lyrics to one of my favorite songs… Living by Dierks Bentley Some days you just breath in Just try to break even Sometimes your heart's Poundin' out of your chest Sometimes it's just beatin' Some days you just forget What all you've been given Some days you just get back Yeah, some days you're just alive Some days you're livin' Some days you're livin' Like you never die Blue's a little bluer up in the sky You're high's a little high You feel that fire you've been missing Some days you're living It'a beautiful world sometimes I don't see so clear Some days you start singin' And you don't need a reason Sometimes the world's just right Your clear eyes ain't even blinkin' Got a heart full of grateful For all you've been given Some days you just get by Yeah, some days you're just alive Some days you're livin' (ooh) mm hmm Some days you're livin' (ooh) yeah Livin' like you'll never die -Take yourself out of the day to day and look at your life as if you were a drone. Get out of your own head and world and look at your days and life and see what’s working and what’s off. -We all have small moments like this - and sometimes bigger life shake up moments when we feel like we’ve taken the wrong path. -Make a list - brain dump! -Episode 210 is about losing numbing habits- essential listen after this one! Mel Robbins talks about… every day when you wake up - you decide who you’re going to be. -And I think, the lens you are going to see things through. -If you don’t decide who you are going to be, your habits, your old patterns and the stress of the day will decide for you. -You take control of the day and of your life when you set your intention for the day. -Every day you get to wake up who you’re going to be and what you’re going to do. -It’s the first step in taking control and deciding who you are going to be today. -We have to believe in a future that we can’t experience yet -But you have thought about enough so you can see it in your mind -You have to think about it enough to where it starts to feel real -It’s easier to stay comfortable than get uncomfortable -It’s easier to stay with what you know because you don’t know what’s around the corner - that’s why some change is so hard. Dr. Joe Dispenza quotes: -"The biggest barrier to change is our own limiting beliefs.” -"You have the power to create the life you want. You just have to believe it's possible.” -"Your thoughts and emotions create your reality. So if you want to create a better reality, you need to start with your thoughts and emotions.” -"Your personality creates your personal reality. Your personality is made up of how you think, act, and feel. So if you want to change your personal reality, you need to change your personality." Mel Robbins quotes: -"The only thing standing between you and the life you want is the story you keep telling yourself that you can't have it.” -"It's not about being fearless, it's about acting in spite of fear.” -"You are not a victim of your circumstances. You are a product of your choices.” -"Your life is happening right now. Make it amazing!"

251. How To Be Awesome At Making Mailbox Money Mar 13, 2023

I’m adding in more entrepreneur podcast episodes because I think - aside from all the other stuff we talk about on this podcast - protecting your happy headspace and moving your body, getting sunlight, plenty of sleep and nutrition… making more money can positively change your life because you get life freedom which equals happiness. So today, we’re talking about my favorite type of money to make- mailbox money. Because you work really hard for a period of time on a project, then.. you let it fly and get paid- usually for a long time if not forever. Mailbox money is term to describe passive income meaning you aren’t trading your time for money. Which is the smartest way to do it - hence my favorite. There are lots of ways to make passive income - from real estate investments or rental properties… but in this podcast, we are focusing ways that you can make passive income - without a big investment and that you can do from home. You don’t have to have a business background or a certain degree… you just have to have a great idea and the willingness to work hard and keep doing the hard things over and over until they work. We’re talking specifically about selling digital products and affiliate marketing. Which are so much more exciting than they sound! -Here are a few things Lindsay talks about in this podcast! What are digital products? Things like online courses, digital downloads, e-books -So you take something that you know really well, something you are an expert on, and create a digital something that people can buy to learn more. You just have to be a few steps beyond other people! What are you great at? What could you teach? Could be something you spent 10 years learning- or something you just know really well. -The best and most successful ones are ones where you can identify your audience, so you can maximize people who are searching for it - and use Google Adwords to target them, in addition to social media. And ones that are a specific niche work great- you don’t want to be too broad. -And! Affiliate marketing links! Like To Know it/ Reward Style Amazon Affiliates -Link anything on the internet and get paid! -It takes time to build but it’s long game -Some of this is straight passive income - like you do a blog post and post it and then it lives on - but other things are mostly passive income as I call it - where you remind people about it and post on it and it. You’r working smart and getting commission on things you recommend to people. -Think about who you follow and why. Who you follow that if they post something - you’re likely to buy it! -Find your own angle! -Here’s why I’m so excited about the things. My team and I have created a blueprint and we’ve used it to help build lifestyle brands for the women that I mentor and let me tell you - it is FIRE! And it works in all industries. Once I saw this working I was like whoa I need to really set this up so women can see what’s possible. I do a 3 month lifestyle brand building package where we do it like this - (And you could do this yourself too!) 1st month- Start podcast Create a website 2nd month- Create online course Set-up affiliate marketing 3rd month- Create media deck Create social media strategy Professional signatures for emails Email templates for reach out -This all builds your lifestyle brand- to do whatever you want with. -Use a podcast to drive interest! -Another podcast episode coming soon all about how to make money from a podcast specifically. Another topic I love! To work with Lindsay and her team- check out www.HowToBeAwesomeAtEverything.com Or email Lindsay@HowToBeAwesomeAtEverything.com Or ping her on insta @LindsaysCloud CHEERS TO MAKING AWESOME MAILBOX MONEY!

250. How To Be Awesome At Florida Theme Parks Mar 08, 2023

Today, I’m sharing all the best tips for when you are headed to the theme parks in Florida. We just got back from a week in Orlando and I learned so many things about the parks and the area and the hotels…. I’m so excited to share. Whether you have a trip coming up, or you’re thinking about going to Orlando, this podcast episode has all the info you need to know. We’re talking rides, food, heat, timing, planning, clothing, strollers and more. The Universal parks and the Disney parks… Universal City Walk and Disney Springs… so much FUN to get into- let’s go!

249. How To Be Awesome At Doing The Hard Thing Consistently Mar 01, 2023

How To Be Awesome At Doing The Hard Thing Consistently.. oftentimes without seeing results or many results… but continuing to do it anyway. It’s what I think is actually the secret to being successful at most things. Most people try the thing - whatever that is - sending sales emails, lifting weights, eating healthy, starting a side business, tuning out anything negative, losing weight… but don’t keep going it long enough. First we need to make sure the goal is the right goal for you. After that, we’re set… we just have to keep doing the things, over and over, that we know will get us there. To be able to have a very clear focus on what needs to be done and have the mental toughness to not quit when you don’t see immediate results. Here’s how you do it - you set-up a system to focus on and enjoy the process rather than focus on the end goal of trophy or reward. Today’s podcast is all about how to consistently do the hard things. Because here’s the thing - if you commit and really give full effort and do it long enough - it would be completely unrealistic to not see progress and growth. I’m telling you the secret sauce in getting what you want is doing the hard thing over and over and over again, even when you don’t see results yet. It’s the ability to avoid distraction, ignore outside noise, delay gratification and keep doing the hard things required to make awesome things happen. I’ve worked with so many very successful entrepreneurs and now I’m having daily calls with women who are really building and growing and progressing personally and professionally and the common denominator is not an intense early morning routine or inherited money to invest or a high level academic education. While those can sometimes be a factor, it’s more the ability of these women to wake up and keep doing the hard thing. Same goes with fitness or lifting weights. For most of us, it takes so damn long to see results. So it’s not easy to keep going. It’s hard to do hard things without seeing or feeling the reward as soon as we want. Here are some of the key points Lindsay talks about in this episode: -Keep getting uncomfortable -Enjoy the process - even when it’s painful -Realize that it would be unrealistic to think you won’t see change and progress if you keep going. Most people quit before they even have a chance. -Head down, blinders on. Your opinion is the only one that matters right now and it doesn’t matter what other people are doing. -Listen to David Goggins and Andrew Huberman for more in depth on this -Expect discomfort and embrace it. It’s all about managing expectations. Goggins says “embrace the suck” -Create a solid plan -Build it into your schedule or routine -Decide and commit - there’s no decision to be made - just need to execute -Hold yourself accountable -Hard work becomes harder when you’re doing it for the result or reward or end goal -Andrew Huberman is a neuroscientist and professor at Stanford University -Andrew Huberman talks about a Stanford study - kids liked to draw and gave them a reward - like a sticker when they drew. Then they stopped giving them the sticker- then they were less likely to draw because they didnt get the reward anymore. When we receive rewards - or give ourselves rewards- we associate less pleasure to it. -According to Huberman, dopamine is released in response to experiences that are pleasurable or rewarding, such as eating delicious food or achieving a goal. Dopamine helps to reinforce these behaviors, making it more likely that we will repeat them in the future. -If you get a peak in dopamine from a reward - it lowers baseline -Makes you do it for the rewards -Growth Mindset - striving is the end goal - we are always growing- we never reach the destination - we are focused on the effort itself. -Learning to access the rewards from the EFFORT not the result. -Tell yourself - this effort is awesome -Forcing yourself to stick to a hard workout -You can evoke a dopamine release from the challenge you are in -If you are focused only on the goal - you enjoy the process less and makes it more painful -Dopamine increases the amount of energy we have and sharpness of mind -The feeling of effort is the mental reward. -Tell yourself- I know this doesn't feel good - but I love it. -In the moments of the biggest suck - this is painful and because it’s painful it will increase my baseline dopamine later - but also I know in this moment I am doing it by choice and because I love it. -David Goggins talks about turning the effort into the reward. -Allows you to stay focused and not get distracted. -Learning to spike dopamine from effort itself - not before or after is key! Cheers to all the hard things! And doing them over and over again!

248. How To Be Awesome At Shopping For Healthy Foods Feb 21, 2023

Today we are talking about healthy grocery store shopping tips! So many thoughts and ideas for you on how to really shop for foods to make meals and snacks that fuel your body and give you energy and that are satisfying and delish to you. For so many years I would roam the grocery store not really knowing which items contained clean ingredients and were the highest quality without GMOs or MSG or seed oils or excessive sugar… some the things we want to avoid. I’ve invested so much time and money into getting my very non-formal education in nutrition and just overall mental and physical health and how what we put in our bodies, affects everything about us. Let’s pow wow about all things healthy at the grocery store! IDEAS! Do delivery!! This way you are intentional about what you get and don’t forget the essentials. Plus you spend less. When going in person or shopping online- think about shopping around the perimeter. Get a few go-to healthy meals that you cook each week so it is less overwhelming. Focus on protein! This is what fills you up and gives you energy! Lean proteins and healthy fats! Low sugar is key! No seed oils. For grains and breads! Use the Bobby Approved app. Learn to read labels. Consider food testing to see what you may be allergic or sensitive to. Buy organic when possible and avoid GMOs. Eggs & milk- organic and pasture raised Chicken- organic (pasture raised or free-range even better) Beef- organic and grass fed Fish- wild caught Track what makes you feel great and what makes you feel sluggish or bloated. Use the 80/20 rule! Life is to enjoy! Eat and drink and celebrate! 80% of the time clean, 20% less restricted and more of what you really feel like. Find healthy swaps to things you love - muffins or cookies. Eat at home more - eat out less. Bring your own dressings or desserts out with you. Don’t be embarrassed, it’s fun! Choosing healthy foods at the grocery store is the first step to eating healthier overall. You set yourself up to WIN and feel great doing it. No dieting, no going hungry… it’s a lifestyle of choosing foods that fuel your body and make you feel AWESOME!!

247. How To Be Awesome At Dealing With Adult Bullies Feb 03, 2023

We spend a ton of time on this podcast talking about ignoring negativity, and avoiding toxic people.

But what about when you’re in a situation where someone targets you repeatedly. Maybe they are intimidating or controlling, unruly or condescending or shaming. We’re talking about adult bullying. Something that 30% of adults say that they have experienced.

Lindsay is sharing the story about why she's recently done a deep dive into this and how one of her best friends was being bullied for so long and finally enough was enough and it was time for us, her friends, to stand up to her bully too.

We are likely to deal with some sort of adult bullying in our lives so we need strong strategies for how to deal with it.

This is an uplifting talk about standing up to people who try to push you around or shame you or are constantly condescending.

When to ignore them, when to confront them and ways to take control of the situation.

Nobody deserves to be bullied and even though we know it is usually a THEM problem not an US problem, we still have to deal with it. That’s what we’re hashing out today.

Lindsay explains that she is not an expert of course - but her job is to bring up topics she thinks are important to pause life and focus on.

This deep dive started because of one of Lindsay’s good friends being bullied by an adult - for a long time. It came to a point where enough is enough.

Here are some of the things that Lindsay talks about:

-Examples of bullies:

Colleague

Boss

Neighbor

Family member

Someone in your social circle

Bullying can come in many forms!

-someone who targets you repeatedly

-someone who to be intimidating or controlling, unruly or condescending or shaming.

-Keep your distance from bullies

Avoid engagement unless you have to

Avoid it if you can, sometimes they will just stop or go away

-Don’t react!

Ignore them 3 times and they will stop

They are trying to push your buttons

They get the advantage when you react and lose your cool

90% of bullying stops if you don’t react to them 3 times in a row

You are feeding them if you react. That’s the whole point- that’s what they want.

-Take your insecurities and get comfortable with them.

If someone or people try to pick on you about specific things.

It takes the power away from people who try to bully you.

What can you change?

What can you not change but you can change how you think about it?

Maybe I’m not in the financial place I want to be now but life is long and I’m on my way.

You might have the insecurities your whole life so you might as well deal with them now. If it’s

Ya I’m not the smartest at that … or the best at that skill… but I am really good at a lot of other things.

Become secure in what you are not secure with.

-Write it down!

Even if you never need it or use it!

It can be beneficial in SO MANY ways.

Especially if it’s a family member - journalling what happened and when and how you felt will help you track the problem over time.

And worst case if you need to report it to a supervisor or HR or the police.

Start a journal just for this. There is no downside.

Don’t leave it out - keep it secure. Pop emails or screenshots in a folder if needed.

They can make you feel crazy- you will see all your evidence and history. No mind manipulation here.

-If you need to stand up to them- be assertive

If you must interact, be strong and assertive.

If you must interact with them regularly, make sure you are the one that sets the tone of the relationship.

-Set-up consequences

If it’s a situation that works for this, set boundaries.

This works mainly with friends or family.

This behavior is not acceptable, if it continues, you will not be welcome in our circle.

-Master things that give you confidence to give you control

--Don’t be shitty because someone else was!

Don’t get even

Because then you are acting shitty like them

And then you can become a bully

-Personal strength and confidence - TED TALK

Kevin Ward

It is the true safe space.

Because you can take that everywhere.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O_4uB-j-zgQ

CHEERS to protecting your headspace and not letting adult bullies in!!

246. Your Awesome Blueprint For Starting A New Project Feb 01, 2023

Lindsay talks about how she talks to people all the time within her consulting program that want to start a business and they have this great idea but they feel like they don’t know where to start. It’s easy to feel overwhelmed or to doubt yourself, and before you know it, you’ve had this idea that you’ve done nothing with for months or years. If you have an idea for a business or side business, this podcast is for you! And to be honest, we think in the world we are living in now, we all should! There are so many ways you can make a career or side money from a business you start from home. That’s what we are diving into today! We have the BEST layout for how to overcome the hurdles and get moving towards starting your new project. Here are some of the tips Lindsay goes over: -Clearly define what you want to do. Don’t dabble, don’t try to do many things. Commit that this is the season of this project. -Learn everything there is to know about it. Become an expert. -Find other people who have gone down a similar path and map out how this could look for you. Look for people who are just a few steps ahead of where you are and use that as inspiration. -Make the complicated not so complicated. -Believe with hard work and consistency, you can do. It might take 2 years when you want it to take 2 months, but you will get there. -Wake up and eat the frog. Do one hard or big thing FIRST thing in the day. Don’t start being reactive to your emails or what people need from you. Get up, now your priorities and execute. -Eliminate negativity and noise. It doesn’t serve you. We are not in the business of taking criticism from people who are watching from the stands while we are out on the field. For more information on working with Lindsay, please visit ww.HowToBeAwesomeAtEverything.com CHEERS to starting your new AWESOME project!

245. How To Be Awesome At Making FUN A Priority Jan 23, 2023

When was the last time you said…. my goal today is to have FUN! Even on days when you aren’t going out for your perfect day or on vacation. On normal, ordinary days… making it a priority to have fun. If you’re anything like me… it can be very easy to get hyper focused on to do lists and goals… which I also think is very important.. but if having FUN isn’t a high priority in your daily life, it’s easy to wrap up the day or the week or even the month, without having very many fun moments. I have 2 TOP 3 lists that I write down each morning after I brush my teeth. What 3 things do I want to get done today? And what 3 feelings are a priority today? And fun is heavy in the rotation. In this episode we are talking all about how you can insert FUN into your days and especially on your weekends. We are talking about when FUN is a priority, you have way more of it. -Realizing we don’t have to wait for our favorite holiday or a special party to have a really good laugh or a super fun day. -You have to make it a priority! -Do more things that you love! -With people you love to do them with! -When you have fun as a priority in your mind, you think to stop in an ordinary moment. -When you’re scrolling online, look for creative things to do! Ways to be adventurous! -Try new foods. -Get outside and explore new places. -Spend lots of time with the most fun people you know. -Say YES to things you might normally say NO to. -Don’t WAIT for fun! It’s often not as fun as you think it will be anyway! -The most fun often happens in the spontaneous and unplanned moments. -Don’t let age stop you! You can do a version of any activity at any age. -Play is essential! -Switch up your routine. -Smile more. -Leave time to be spontaneous -Put something on your calendar each month that you wouldn’t normally do. -Do things you would normally watch. -See a comedy show. -Dance. -Make plans so you have options! Dinner and movies and adventures. Lots of plans then flexible! -TIME is the one thing that we can never get back. Not in a negative way- in a super positive one! CHEERS to having more FUN!!

244. How To Be Awesome At Seeing The Best In People Jan 17, 2023

How To Be Awesome At Seeing The Best In People You know when you react badly to something or you’re just in a funk and say something that comes out totally rude… And the person that you’re interacting with gives you a pass. Like just tells you - I get, totally ok. And you’re just so relieved and feel the stress of it escaping your body. It is a great thing to do for someone else. Now we aren’t talking about letting people walk on us or forgiving everything right away, we are talking about understanding that we don’t always know all the things that someone else is going through. And to be able to be compassionate and understanding is an awesome thing. To be able to ignore things that don’t matter or let go of a rude comment that was said and see the best in people. There is so much good that comes from it- for what you put out in the world and how you make other people feel… but also for controlling the amount of stress that you let into your world. The goal of this podcast is to set you up to see the best in people. So you’re a bit more understanding, give people a pass, and control the headspace that you live in. Often times our culture sets us up to attack people if they say the wrong thing or do the wrong thing . This podcast is the opposite, it’s about focusing on the very best in people. And know you don’t know the rocks in their shoes. Even if it’s not what feels natural that’s the best part. -You find what you are looking for. If you’re looking for something to complain about, you’ll find. -The lens you put on when you leave the house is the way you see things. -Give people a pass, you never know what they are going through. -You have the power to forgive someone or react in a way that is unexpected. -You control if something gets you fired up. -Rather than light someone up, why not forgive them, THEN adjust how you interact with them in the future. -Gary Vee says.. Being nice is always ROI positive Being abrasive can win in the sort term, but not in the long term. -Guess what? Things travel so much faster than they used to. 20 years ago, if you were a jerk in San Diego, you could move to San Francisco and start over. Now, it follows us. -Don’t be less of a person because someone else was. -As you push yourself to be a better human being, better things start happening to you. -The next time you’re in a situation where you’re like how do I react to this situation? Lean into seeing the best in people. Know you likely don’t know the full story and it’s always better to come in with understanding and compassion. CHEERS to being awesome at seeing the best in people!

243. 25 Awesome Things To Do For Valentine’s Day Jan 14, 2023

This episode is filled with 40 awesome ideas of things to do to celebrate LOVE and Valentine’s Day this year.

I’m breaking them down into 4 categories to make it so easy. Things to do with your romantic partner, things to do with your girlfriends, things to do with your kids and things to do at school in your kids classes.

The goal of this podcast is to give you ideas to make special moments with your people that aren’t too complicated and aren’t cheesy… but special and memorable and all about love.

This is your go-to guide this year for all things love and romance around Valentine’s Day!

SO MANY AWESOME ideas to celebrate LOVE and Valentine’s Day!!

When I was looking up ideas for new things to do this year, everything was soooo cheeeessyyy.

Like I want ideas that will be fun and create the best memories!

Romantic

1. Adventure - hike, horseback ride, hot air balloon - something you’ve never done, or somewhere you’ve never done it -make sure it sounds fun for each person

2. 24 hours in a new city that you’ve never been

3. Find a new restaurant with a tasting menu for a special meal (maybe wine or drink pairing too) or tequila or wine tasting then dinner!

4. Set-up a private dinner for 2 at home where you wouldn’t usually or ask a restaurant to do it for you.

5. One day- one favorite thing you each like to do as a date. Can be extremes like couples massage and shooting range or tequila tasting or yoga class.

6. Go to dinner, decide one thing you each want to go this year just the 2 of you and book it that night. Go to a concert, overnight to Vegas to see a show, whatever it is.

7. Catch the sunset somewhere cool that you wouldn’t normally.

8. At home massages and dinner.

9. Make your room soooo romantic with a ton of candles - can add roses - but just lighting and candles makes your room 100% different

10. Have a candy / drink / treat taste off

With Girlfriends

1. Cooking class - Sur La Table or Williams Sonoma has great ones!

2. White elephant gift exchange

3. Have your group print a bunch of photos of you guys, and bring frames and do a girls party to make frames or photo books. Can bring Ikea frames or do books and bring stickers.

4. Order matching heart jammies

5. Take a class or bring an instructor in! Dance, yoga, or learn a new skill like pottery or paint class!

6. Make charcuterie board - or learn how to! Have everyone bring supplies and have fun learning how to put them together. Do one big sweet and one big savory!

7. Fill out self love books about yourselves together

8. Make flower bouquets

9. Decorate full size cakes

10. Everyone bring something they LOVE for each girl attending - set a price limit depending on how many girls to make it reasonable

With Kids

1. Scavenger hunt

2. A few days ahead have everyone in the family write down something they would love to do - that’s an hour or less. And dash to all of then on Vday.

3. Create a jar that everyone puts things in to do over the next few weeks - loving things.

4. Game night with prizes!

5. Family valentine’s puzzle

6. Baking/ cookie decorating

7. Make a family love scrapbook

8. Everyone make a love theme dish for dinner or dessert. Vote and winners pick prizes.

9. Take a Valentine’s themed cooking class

10. Hire a teppan chef to come to your house!

Class party/ activity ideas

1. White elephant gift exchange

2. Valentine’s Day card craft set-up

3. Cookie or cupcake decorating or strawberry shortcake making

4. Make boxes for valentine’s gift exchange

5. Valentine’s bingo

6. Take pictures of the kids, buy target or Ikea frames, put pictures inside and kids decorate with puffy heart stickers- best gift or take home item!

7. Make a punch board with prizes inside

8. Musical hearts instead of musical chairs

9. Printables! Word searches, games, quizzes.. Pinterest has endless options. Also - target dollar section can be a great start to an idea!

10. LOVE for teachers! Have kids make little love notes and put together books for the teachers!

CHEERS!! To your most AWESOME Valentine’s Day with the people you LOVE!

242. How To Be Awesome At Focusing On Habits Over Goals Jan 11, 2023

Once a year I re-read the best habits book there ever was, Atomic Habits, and always have new take aways. I’m so inspired and motivated by the way James Clear takes the concept of BIG GOALS and breaks them down into habits. We are going to be hyper focused on our daily habits more than our long term goals. Now the goals are the North Star, but the daily habits are what are what moves the needle - so that’s where we put our attention. By getting clear on what is important to us, it becomes easy to ask ourselves.. What would a person like this do? If you want to be a person who avoids distractions - ask yourself, what would a focused person do to avoid distractions right now? If you want to save money, what would a person who wants to spend less do? If you want to lose weight, what would a healthy person choose right now? It’s SO MUCH easier than having these massive goals you try to keep your eye on. Instead, decide the type of person you want to be in different aspects of your life and set-up your daily habits and make decisions based on this. It’s genius!! -I just read Atomic Habits again and have two HUGE take aways to share with you. First, James Clear is a genius when it comes to habits and he breaks it down so it’s so useable. He also sites lots of other experts and says most of these ideas aren’t even uniquely his- he’s just putting them altogether so we can make the best plan. 2 things…. 1. I want to be the type of person who What would a person who is _______ do right now? Or do today? RATHER than the big goals… How do I want to spend my days? What type of person do I want to be? Rather than I want to lose 40 pounds - it’s I want to be the type of person who doesn’t miss workouts. GOALS- we set unrealistic goals - we set arbitrary targets then we get bummed when we don’t hit them. Goals can play with our minds!! That’s why we think… what type of person do I want to be… and are my actions supporting this? What would a healthy person do? 2. HABITS over goals Write down your overall goals then have your habits check lists for the day. Small things you do everyday. Increase sales - make 100 calls a day. ACTION! Optimal health Optimal fitness Romantic relationship with your spouse Write a book Run 500 miles this year Have close relationships with girlfriends And then plan in the habits on the daily that support these things. I realized last year I had a few BIG GOALS in my ideas book- but to be honest - they sat there. I never made forward motion on it. It was like this big goal that I was going to get to- but never did. It’s often not these HUGE big life moments that move the needle. It’s all the little things When I decided I wanted to get my sunless tanning line into the major retailers - every. Single. Day. I reached out to the decision makers. I made movement in the form of a habit towards the big goal. So the goal wasn’t this big scary thing - it was a target - but that’s not what we want to focus on - we want to focus on what we are going to do on the daily to support it. SEASONS- James Clear talks about seasons. Some seasons When your seasons shift, your habits need to shift too. If you have kids, things change. How do you perform at a high level under a new set of circumstances? Sometimes things need a restructure. All of this also helps you figure out What are you optimizing for? Is this REALLY what you want? Or society or what other people want for you? *****Will my current habits get me there? ****How am I contributing to the situation that I say I don’t want? Example: Most of life is in your control! Luck and randomness and misfortune play into it. But we influence the situation more than we often realize. ****What season am I in right now? Sometimes we outgrow seasons, sometimes we move on and need to realize that. Maybe it’s going out to bars and drinking a few times a week. Maybe it served you for a time and no need to feel badly about it. But maybe this is a new season to focus on other things. ****Do I need to spend more time researching what I need to do? Better info? ****OR do I need to spend more time acting on the info I have? Is the bottleneck strategy or execution? ****The question is not will I succeed? The question is what should I attempt? TRY BIG THINGS We can talk ourselves out of trying things that are worth attempting. People often talk themselves out of things before they should. We are usually the bottle neck before the world tells us it’s not working. There is rarely no small action to take - there is always something else you can try. We talk ourselves out of it. Try to not be your own bottleneck. CHEERS!! To planning your small daily habits to make BIG strides towards your BIG goals!!

241. How To Be Awesome At Planning For Your Most Awesome 2023 Dec 29, 2022

This is not a resolution podcast episode - it’s the opposite. It’s your road map for planning a 2023 where you live life FULLY. More of whatever you want and less of what you don’t want. More money, more self care, more freedom with your time, more adventures, more focus on health… Maybe it’s less time spent in the car or under fluorescent lights, less time being resentful or holding onto something, less time with people who don’t make you feel your best… Whatever it is that you want more of and less of in 2023, we are designing a road map today to get there. Because we know… it’s rarely the big actions that move the needle, it’s the small things we do everyday over and over, even when you don’t feel like it. Success is relentless execution. Every year we are older and wiser so let’s lean into what we really want this year, and work backyards and make a plan to get there. Here are some key points Lindsay makes: -3 questions How do you want to feel? What are your peak experiences thus far? What do you love? -Put things on your plate with the people you want to do them with -Let's make a plan and work backwards -Make money in a new way -Put things on your calendar that you wouldn’t normally do Take a cooking class Learn a new type of fitness -Spend 18 minutes a day on something you want to be good at At the end of a year that’s 100 hours - and that’s what it takes to be significantly good at something new -One big challenge for the year -Prioritize health -Eliminate the stuff you dont need -Prioritize your time -Prioritize the things that fill you up Your 10s!! Make sure you get a few 10s everyday. -Make sure you do things that you love -Get uncomfortable and say yes to things that you would normally say no to -Do things instead of watching them! CHEERS TO YOUR MOST AWESOME 2023!!

240. How To Be Awesome At Eating 100 Grams Of Protein Per Day Dec 20, 2022

I hesitate to do podcast episodes on certain topics because there are experts that are far more wise and on these topics and can explain it in great detail… but here’s the thing. The point of this podcast is to bring up topics that I think will make you and your life more awesome. Today’s episode is one of those. I think that for most people, if you increase the amount of protein you intake, you will feel more awesome, in lots of ways. Sleep better, feel more satisfied and have more energy! I really believe that high quality protein intake is a total superpower. If you don’t make any other change to your diet- just add more protein- ideally 30 grams per meal- you will feel more satisfied, eat less junk, have more regulated blood sugar levels and build more muscle. Again, I’m not an expert, but I read and listen to a lot of them. And today, I’m sharing all the best tips on how to actually eat enough protein. Here are a few things Lindsay talks about! -I believe that losing weight the right way- the healthy way- and slow and steady is not to overly restrict calories. -Yes, you lose weight by being in a calorie deficit - fact. -But by eating more protein, you are getting high quality sustainability. You have energy and brain clarity. -When I was younger and I’d try out diets, I’d just feel so wiped and low on energy! -You feel satisfied and you lose weight!! -And you get off the sugar rollercoaster -Grassfed meat Pastured eggs Wild salmon Protein powder Steak, chicken, fish, turkey -Limit refined carbs, sugar and seed oils. -This is about fueling your body throughout the day!! -It’s crazy that we all have to learn this on our own, and if you’re like me, not until full on adulthood to really get it. We should learn blood sugar balance in health class. -And here are some more!! Sugar is the enemy- not salt or anything else Eating fat does not make you fat Vegetable and seed oils are not healthy Refined grains are not healthy -We should learn how to really read a nutrition label. We learned calories and carbs- but not -Protein, Carbs, Fats- 3 macronutrients that we can eat. Many are a mix- like nuts have all 3 - but sometimes a food is primarily something - Chicken - protein Orange - carb Avocado - fat -We have hunger hormones that scream at us all day - protein is the most satisfying macronutrient to satisfy over half of our hunger hormones. -When you eat enough protein, and an optimal amount, not only is it not having an effect on your blood sugar It is satisfying you in a way that your body We will continue to eat until we get the amino acids that your body is craving. -It’s so interesting how important protein is. -Blood sugar is important to understand because it affects our mood and -The proteins and the fats -Protein is the slowest to digest so it keeps you fuller!! Meals should keep you satisfied for 4-6 hours. Your meals should sustain you through the day! -To work and take care of kids and have fresh thoughts! -And it keeps our blood sugar level regulated! -The first meal of the day is so important One egg - 6 g of protein -Never want to eat naked carbs- spikes your carbs and makes you crave more carbs - within 2 hours of just having toast -It won’t sustain you for 6 hours - its not enough to get you there. -30 grams per meal and breakfast is most important time. -Afternoon we crave - cookie, brownie, sugar coffee -Eating Whole Foods and getting the right mix of macro nutrients on your plate PRODUCTS mentioned: Clean protein powder https://www.shopflavcity.com/products/protein-smoothie Mid Day Squares https://amzn.to/3PEtods Minimally processed popcorn https://amzn.to/3YyMwOe CHEERS to up-ping your protein for overall awesomeness!

239. How To Be Awesome At Starting A Podcast Dec 05, 2022

Throughout my 20 year journey as an entrepreneur, I’ve seen more growth, progress and profits from one project, than any other.

If you are looking to take your business or your life to the next level, I think you should start a podcast.

And here’s why…

If you do it right, the logistics are simple and it’s so fulfilling and rewarding and inspiring. And it is a long term strategy for whatever you want more of in your life.

Being the host of your own podcast is like writing a book, it makes you an expert on your topic. Whether you want to start a lifestyle brand or generate more sales something you already have going on, or maybe you have no idea where you would want the podcast to go, but you know what you would be awesome talking about.

Yes, let’s do that!

First, I’m going to jump inside your head and give rebuttals to all the things that would stop you from starting. Aren’t there already too many podcasts? Am I late to the game? Would anyone even listen?

Guess what- everyone who’s ever started a podcast has thought those same things- and then did it anyway.

In this episode I’m going to explain why I think you should have your own podcast, the benefits it can bring to your life, how we can make the steps simple so it doesn’t seem impossible to start, and how it can make you money.

I am sharing how to start your own podcast!!

Do it now - you will wish you did in 2 years.

-Complexity kills execution!!

Let’s make it simple!

-If you have no idea where you want to go..

It puts you out there!!

-I’ve helped a few women that I mentor start podcasts and I”m telling you - it is the next level move. I’ll tell you more about what this led to at the end but I’m telling you everything you need to know here. And I’m starting a group to do it together.

-Breaking through all the reasons you tell yourself why you can’t do it or why you shouldn’t.

Aren’t there already too many podcasts? Am I late to the game? Would anyone even listen?

STEPS!

To record

Set-up a free account on Zencaster!

1.

Planning your podcast

Brain dump! Podcast titles, ideas and topics for episodes

2.

Recording

Use Zencaster

This is the format I use

3.

You need a professional voiceover person!

Have them do your pro intro and exit

Blend that in.

I use www.Fiverr.com to find talent!

4.

Editing

I used to pay $150 an hour

And I have friends who rent studios

I pay $35 per episode! Or you can do it yourself in GarageBand or another similar one.

Email Audrey! audreyruvalcaba@gmail.com

5.

Publishing

On all podcast platforms and on your website

Dont have one? Start one! I like Shopify best!

6.

Launching

It can take some time for it to be approved through Libson

Contact them and set it up ahead of time

7.

How to get people to listen

Be on other peoples podcasts

8.

How To Make It Your Favorite Thing

Do it in a way that sets your soul on fire and you connect with people you wouldn’t otherwise

9.

Making money!

Sponsored episodes

Make yourself a media deck

Start a lifestyle brand and use affiliate links to make commissions

Use it to provide value over and over and over (asking for nothing) then tell about what you have to sell.

LINKS to things Lindsay mentions in this podcast:

Microphone https://amzn.to/3XJiQNL

Adaptor (if you need it): https://amzn.to/3XML2P7

Voiceover talent:

www.Fiverr.com

Podcast Recording: (use Chrome)

www.Zencaster.com

Podcast Hosting:

https://libsyn.com/

Online Course & 6 week Coaching Group

https://howtobeawesomeateverything.com/pages/the-courses

PING me when you start your own podcast and I will post in my IG stories!!

@LindsaysCloud on IG!

CHEERS to YOUR podcast!!

238. Interviews With Two Awesome Women I Mentor Dec 02, 2022

Today I’m interviewing a few of the women that I mentor in business. They are each so interesting and have achieved a level of business and personal success… but are striving for more. More progress, new projects, more profits, greater personal fulfillment. All the good stuff.

We’re talking about their journey in business and the work we are doing together.

Mentoring women in business sets my soul on fire. I haven’t worked this many hours a week since I started my business 20 years ago but I love it. It’s so much fun and so fulfilling to see the progress we can make together.

Grab a snack, we’re chatting with some really awesome women today.

LINKS from today’s episode!

Listen to Nora’s podcast here:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/upside-down-entrepreneurship/id1655978544

And follow Nora on IG here:

https://www.instagram.com/nora.farhat/?hl=en

Listen to Emme’s podcast here:

https://emmediane.com/blogs/skin-theory-podcast

And follow Emme on IG here:

https://www.instagram.com/emmediane/?hl=en

Discount code:

20% off all Emme Diane products using code: Lindsay20

And fill out the free consultation skincare form here:

https://emmediane.com/pages/consultation

For more information about Business Mentoring with Lindsay:

https://howtobeawesomeateverything.com/pages/just-for-gifts-guide

Thanks for listening!!

237. How To Be Awesome At Accomplishing Month Goals In One Week Nov 28, 2022

If you would like to get more done and reach your goals faster, this podcast is for you!

I’m obsessed with being efficient and maximizing time and getting things done in a week, that would normally take a month.

We’re talking about strategies that will help you shift the way you do things. So you spend less time “planning” to do something, and get right into actually doing it.

In my years of running my company and also being present for my kids and family, I had to learn how to crunch every hour of the day and be as productive as possible. It’s all about your ability to avoid distraction, simplify the process and execute.

These concepts can be applied to all parts of business and in life too. It’s about being very strategic with your productive hours and keeping the momentum going.

We’re talking about how to master your time on the daily.

STRATEGIES!

-Learn, then execute!

-Simplify! We make things too complicated!

-Do the hard things first.

-Tackle the plan.

-Don’t allow distractions.

-Don’t allow yourself to take time “planning”

-MOMENTUM- speed moves things forward.

-Think of things by day instead of by week.

-Don’t make things too complicated.

-Decide and move, you can always pivot later.

-Stop “planning” to do something and start doing it.

-People say to me… I’ve been planning to build a website.

Here’s the thing- with templates and programs now… you can learn what you need to know in one full day. And build it in 2 more days. In 3 full days you have a complete website.

-People take months or YEARS to build a website.

I need a designer, I don’t have the money, I’m not good at tech… ALL invisible HURDLES. They just slow you down. That’s all they do!

-Valuing your time is everything. Is this worth my time? How can I be more efficient with this?

-The micro - the speed of activity

-At the end of the year they have 40x the output.

-It’s micro mastery of your time

-Imagine that the default time to get things done is a week

-But let’s say the new default is end of day. That’s the new norm.

-Here’s what happens - you simplify the process! You cut out the non-essential.

-The project that would be two months, takes someone 2 days. Because of mastering your time on the daily.

-MACRO- big picture

Ask yourself - Are all of the things I am doing acting in alignment with my goals?

-One other thing!! Get an assistant - I’m constantly having help to move the needle when someone else can do parts of a project.

You can totally get a virtual assistant!

CHEERS to charging your goals and getting things done in a fraction of the time!

236. How To Take The Crazy Out Of Holiday Craziness Nov 26, 2022

We are going into what’s usually the most packed month of the year for most of us. With holiday parties and school performances and get togethers… it can feel non-stop!

So how do we do all the things… but also… be present in the moment and enjoy it?

Less craziness, more laughter and connection

Less racing around and more time to yourself before events

It’s all about planning ahead, eliminating what you don’t want to do or what’s not necessary and being organized.

The goal of today’s episode is to hit pause on life for a bit to think about what we can do now to be sure the holidays don’t just fly by. And we don’t spend the next month racing from one thing to another instead of soaking it all in.

More holiday awesomeness, less holiday craziness.

The holidays are one the most stressing times for people!! Harvard study shows 62% of people have elevated stress levels during this time.

TIPS!

-Only say yes or sign up for the things you really want to do

-Plan ahead of time! To avoid the last minute mad dashes!

Being organized adn putting yourself in the shoes of you waking up the morning of an event is everything.

DO you need outfits for everyone?

The craziness comes from thinking of these things JUST before you need it - then you race around to find it.

-Same goes with gift giving!! Support local stores but do it online and with organized lists.

Make your lists - and have a date to be DONE by. Get some extras!!

-Accept that not all experiences will be what you thought. That’s part of the process. Accept imperfection and don’t make that the goal.

-Here’s the reason why… it’s SO easy to be so busy being busy and for what? To not enjoy it?!

-Prioritizing your health

Sleep enough

Move your body

Just splurge during holiday parties - not all month

Don’t overdo sugar or booze

-Keep your downtime!! This is why we feel CRAZY because we have NO downtime! Plan ahead and you will have it again!

-Be clear about your number one priority this holiday season. For me it is connection.

Overall and in the little moments.

Connection doesn’t always happen by accident.

Can plan for games or conversation games if you think it will prompt your crew to get more in the groove.

-Don’t get so caught up in the craziness that you forget to enjoy your people.

-Shake off what’s annoying. Don’t pick the battle. Protect your headspace.

CHEERS to all the magic of the holiday season… MINUS the craziness!

235. How To Be Awesome At Walking Away From An Argument Nov 20, 2022

How to be awesome at walking away from an argument.

This is something that requires major self control and deep clarity in a moment that you probably don't feel like not having either of those.

Here’s what I’m talking about.

When you are a heated back and forth with someone you love, I’ve learned that most of the time, the very best things you can do for a positive outcome, is to pause and give it some space. There is a very low probability that you are going to come to a good resolution if you are both so heated and hashing it out. Best thing ever - take a beat. Walk away, change your physical state and know that some space is the best thing for the situation. With time and space apart comes clarity.

So that is our, walk away and come back to it situation.

Then there are the other situations that are just… completely walk away. It’s not worth it, walk away and let it go.

Someone cuts you off in a parking lot or tries to argue with you at your kids soccer game or leaves a super triggering comment on social media… none of it is worth your energy. You can’t control what they say or do but you can control how you react to it and how you label it. We are labeling it as not worth it, and we’re walking away.

We’re talking arguments today.

-Here’s the hack- when you are IN THAT MOMENT… tell yourself… WALK AWAY.

-My husband used to say- just give me space and I was like NO why drag this on… we can fix this now and go on and have a good day together!!

-Your body remembers stress! You have to control your stress and head space!!

Once you stop arguing as much - it’s easier to keep it going.

-WHY IT WORKS

Time to cool off

Lose the ego

See their point of view (or not)

Have time to get back to the person you want to be

You have time to come back and show you care

-And then with strangers… you want to make a point - but often times - you have to understand they won’t see your point and it’s not worth it!

-Never text argue!!

-It’s about controlling your emotions so this thing doesn’t get worse

-If you’re a hot head, this will be super hard.

-Here’s the gold ready… you feel like you are LOSING when you walk away because you didnt make your point.. but you’re WINNING by ending it.

-Examples : Someone says something rude to you on the soccer field. First, your kids are there so that’s enough to control ourselves … but also, not worth it. You gain nothing!

-Rude text : NEVER reply right away.

-The bottom line is that you can’t let the behavior of others steal your joy. But if you do, it’s your choice.

-Focus on being the best and happiest that you can be – that’s where your energy should go.

CHEERS! To walking away!!

234. How To Be Awesome At Life With Do And Don't Do Lists Nov 07, 2022

I’ve made my life a bit more awesome lately by making TO DO and DON’T DO lists.

It’s 10 things I want to be sure I do and 10 thing I want to be sure I don’t do and it makes me have overall happier and more fulfilling days.

The goal of today’s podcast episode is to inspire you to make a TO DO and a DON’T DO list… that you put on your bathroom mirror and you do your best to follow it everyday.

It’s like the best practical way to do the things you know are best for you and avoid the things that waste time or make you feel crappy or anything else negative.

It’s a great way to keep your goals front and center each morning and keep your priorities straight. First we’re going to make your list… then we’re going to make you stick to it.

What do want more of? What do you want less of? What habits do you need to kick? What habits do you want to start?

It’s all on these 2 lists that give you laser clear direction for the day and help you stay aligned with what’s really important to you.

Here are some key points!

-It may change at first

-It may take you time to get it right

-Then once you master things it may not need to be there anymore

-HOW to make your list

Write down what you want more of and what you want less of!

-Brain dump!

-Listen to your favorite people!

-Write down lessons learned from your own mistakes.

Put it up, read it everyday as you brush your teeth.

Today I will…

Today I won’t….

CHEERS to your lists making your days more AWESOME!!

233. How To Be Awesome At Being A Girls Girl- Friday Podcast Nov 04, 2022

How To Be Awesome At Being A Girls Girl. Let’s break down what this even is. A girls girl is a woman who has other women's backs. For the women in her close circle, it’s a do-anything for, always look out for and love with enthusiasm and without judgment thing.

And for women not her in close circle, she gives them the benefit of the doubt and is willing to be extra kind or helpful or complimentary… not because of any other reason than us girls need to stick together.

And it’s not always easy. Society can sort of pit girls against each other - like the whole

Who wore it better thing. It is literally us judging one woman against another in the same outfit. Her hair, her make-up, her body composition. Really??

Whoever created that is certainly not a girls girl.

Because a girls girl knows that we all have our strengths and our times to shine and another woman’s success or accomplishments or even luck, doesn’t affect ours.

By being a girls girl through and through you have deeper and more meaningful relationships with the women in your life and you just feel more comfortable in your skin because everything isn’t a competition.

We’re on the same team girls!

Here are a few other ways to be a girls girl

-Go out of your way to compliment

-Go out of your way to refer something to someone

-If someone compliments your outfit, send them a link for it

-If you’re in a group and someone is about to get shit on, stop the conversation

-Be respectful around boyfriends and spouses - this is the fastest way to not be a girls girl! To want all the guys attention or something along those lines!

-Don't let boys come between you and another girl

-Share with friends what you’re wearing - if they ask- so they feel comfortable

-Will drop anything when a friend really needs you

-Remember her bday and do a little something so special to her

Let me tell you why it can be hard sometimes to be a girls girl

-Sometimes you will be jealous of a stage of life someone is in

-Sometimes you will wish you owned something that someone else has

-Sometimes you will feel like not telling the brand of your new boots because then you won’t be the only ones with them. Let me tell you something - it’s just STUFF

-It’s hard to give someone the benefit of a doubt- but you have to.

Here is how it all comes back to benefit you..

-You’re more confident - in general and in where you are at

-If you have kids, they see you being this way

-Your friends will do anything for you

-Good things come back around from strangers in ways you wouldn’t expect

CHEERS!! To being a girls girl always!!How To Be Awesome At Being A Girls Girl. Let’s break down what this even is. A girls girl is a woman who has other women's backs. For the women in her close circle, it’s a do-anything for, always look out for and love with enthusiasm and without judgment thing.

And for women not her in close circle, she gives them the benefit of the doubt and is willing to be extra kind or helpful or complimentary… not because of any other reason than us girls need to stick together.

And it’s not always easy. Society can sort of pit girls against each other - like the whole

Who wore it better thing. It is literally us judging one woman against another in the same outfit. Her hair, her make-up, her body composition. Really??

Whoever created that is certainly not a girls girl.

Because a girls girl knows that we all have our strengths and our times to shine and another woman’s success or accomplishments or even luck, doesn’t affect ours.

By being a girls girl through and through you have deeper and more meaningful relationships with the women in your life and you just feel more comfortable in your skin because everything isn’t a competition.

We’re on the same team girls!

Here are a few other ways to be a girls girl

-Go out of your way to compliment

-Go out of your way to refer something to someone

-If someone compliments your outfit, send them a link for it

-If you’re in a group and someone is about to get shit on, stop the conversation

-Be respectful around boyfriends and spouses - this is the fastest way to not be a girls girl! To want all the guys attention or something along those lines!

-Don't let boys come between you and another girl

-Share with friends what you’re wearing - if they ask- so they feel comfortable

-Will drop anything when a friend really needs you

-Remember her bday and do a little something so special to her

Let me tell you why it can be hard sometimes to be a girls girl

-Sometimes you will be jealous of a stage of life someone is in

-Sometimes you will wish you owned something that someone else has

-Sometimes you will feel like not telling the brand of your new boots because then you won’t be the only ones with them. Let me tell you something - it’s just STUFF

-It’s hard to give someone the benefit of a doubt- but you have to.

Here is how it all comes back to benefit you..

-You’re more confident - in general and in where you are at

-If you have kids, they see you being this way

-Your friends will do anything for you

-Good things come back around from strangers in ways you wouldn’t expect

CHEERS!! To being a girls girl always!!

232. How To Be Awesome At Never Getting A Hangover Oct 30, 2022

If you enjoy an icy cold glass of champagne or a refreshing mixed drink or a nice glass or wine or any booze… but don’t want to feel like hell that night or the next day (or the next few days)… this podcast is for you!!

I’ve entered a time in my life where I’ve figured out how to have FUN and not wake up with a hangover- or even that crappy feeling where you aren’t hungover but you’re just tired and slow and maybe have a stomach ache.

This podcast is packed with ALL THE TIPS on how to have a great time and enjoy your champagne more mixed drinks or wine or whatever you like to drink… and feel great the next day. We’re compromising zero of the fun… we’re just being smarter about it and having a game plan going into it.

This is the zero hangover plan podcast episode!

What actually IS a hangover?

Alcohol is a diuretic. It causes you to pee more so you lose a lot of fluid. It also reduces the release of the hormone that balances your body’s fluids. Dehydration causes fatigue and headaches and stomach aches.

Alcohol also causes an electrolyte imbalance

Alcohol increases inflammation throughout your body which causes you to feel bad too. And it makes you sleep terribly!

A hangover is a milder form of alcohol withdrawal.

Alcohol dulls the parts of your brain that control how your body works.

-How much alcohol does it take?

More than one drink an hour

-Does a hard of the dog work?

Yes and not!

It just increases the toxicity of the alcohol already in your body!

Here are our rules!!

-No shots, nothing too strong

-Hydrate before and during

-Zero energy drinks

-Eat before you drink

-Decide ahead of time how much you are going to drink

-Don’t do the pouring thing where you have no idea how much you’ve drank!

-Take your supplements - just like you would to avoid getting a cold- and get sleep night before, exercise, how you feel going into it makes a difference.

-Really understand why you don’t like over drinking - you won’t remember the last part of the night anyway, etc!

-Stick to one kind of alcohol - I sort of believe this!

-I don’t really agree with ANY of the anti-hangover things on the market. I think they are all mostly marketing and packed with bad ingredients.

Use THIS powder before and after for added electrolytes!!

-What to do if you get one!

Eat bland foods

Sleep

Hydrate

Aspirin

Learn your lesson and sleep it off

No quick fix here - your body needs to recover

CHEERS to really enjoying all the yummy drinks and celebrations… without any of the not so awesome stuff that often comes with it!

231. How To Be Awesome At Controlling Your Thoughts Oct 20, 2022

I didn’t realize until I had no choice

That I could completely control my thoughts.

Five months ago, my husband went into cardiac arrest in the ICU as we were holding hands.

He survived it and I felt like I went from the lowest low to the highest high… Only to realize the journey was just beginning.

We had an uphill road ahead with surgeries and complications and failing organs and a long hospital stay.

And for the first week there was more bad news than good news and I was trying to support him and connect the doctors with each other and keep my kids life feeling as normal as possible.

When I had a few minutes of alone time… When I was driving to and from the hospital or to pick up the kids or before I went to bed… I would naturally think about worst case scenario. Parker was just about to turn five and his dad his his hero what if…

And the little super power that I realized we all have… I just hadn’t really woken mine up yet… Was that we can completely control our thoughts.

And this is what I did. Any time one of those worst case scenario, scary thoughts entered my mind I simply said… I don’t and fill the rest in. I don’t do negative.

Or I don’t do overwhelm.

Or I don’t do worst case scenario right now.

And it allowed me to not crumble at a time when I need to be strong.

And I’m not saying don’t feel how you feel because I believe in feeling your emotions 100% but… I think sometimes letting your emotions fly doesn’t serve you.

In this case, if I broke down… the whole thing would be a disaster.

Since then, I’ve used this in many different ways and often and it’s been so awesome for me. And I think it will be for you. Let’s go!

-When my husband was in the hospital - people kept asking me - how are you keeping it together?

I took my kids to a waterpark! Because I could control my thoughts. And it helped me to be strong.

-It’s like a really rational way at looking at your emotions and just CHOOSING what serves you.

-BEST PART!!!

This is a hack you will remember!

-When you start to feel in a way that you don’t want to… Start with I don’t and then fill in the emotion that is about to surface that you need to be tough with!!

-I don’t know a lot of things 100% for sure.

Growth mindset vs. fixed mindset.

-But what I do know is this… the words we say and the thoughts we think create the environment that you live in.

AND! We have to protect our headspace and make that a huge priority in our lives.

-I don’t do…

Negative

Overwhelm

Yelling at my kids

Losing my shit

Procrastination

Negative talk about myself

Negative talk about other people

Blame

Crazy

-Feel the feelings when it makes sense!!

-It’s a hack for not reacting in the way that you don’t want to.

AND a hack for not caring about things that don’t matter.

AND a hack for not spending energy on things you don’t want to.

AND a hack for not being a person you don’t want to be!

-Like if you are about to yell at your kids.

-Or say something rude to a co-worker.

-Let’s unpack some of these..

-Procrastination - be honest with yourself… if you know you are putting something off.

Say you’ve had this idea to write a book for the last 5 years. But you just can’t start. It never seems like the right time.

Wake up, decide you are going to eat the frog, hug the monster and say to yourself I DONT DO procrastination.

And it’s out there. You’re proclaiming it and then you proceed on without it.

-Negative talk about other people.

Saw a group of moms are chatting outside of school after drop off and someone starts a conversation that you can tell is leading to running another mom down. In your head you say… I DON’T DO talking shit on other people. And you excuse yourself and get the hell out of there. Even if you aren’t saying it, you don’t want to be in the space where people are. It makes you involved and you don’t have the headspace for that. You’re out here trying to be more awesome each day and learn and progress and spend time with your people!

-It GETS YOU OUT of situations!!

-I don’t do negative self talk.

You’re getting dressed and your stuff isn’t fitting. You start this whole… well if I wouldn’t have had ice cream every night in bed for the last 3 months I wouldn’t be in this situation where I hate my body. NOPE! I don’t do negative self talk. Get your ass dressed and get out of there. And then make the adjustments in your daily life if you need it but running yourself down only does harm- zero good.

-This hack is GOLD because like all of my fav hacks.. you remember it!!

-Next time you are in a situation where you know things are better if you control your thoughts.. use this hack.

CHEERS to being more awesome by controlling your thoughts and protecting your happy headspace. Because what we know for sure is that the words we think and say determine the environment that we live in. And nothing is more important than that ❤️

230. How To Be Awesome At Never Having An Outfit Crisis Oct 18, 2022

As a girl who used to destroy her closet getting ready… and someone who would sometimes even pack a backup dress and heels when I went out in case I hated my outfit and wanted to change - whoa have I come a long way! In this episode, I’m sharing the secrets for never having an outfit crisis. So you’re out there wearing clothes that you like and you feel comfortable in and confident and not self conscious. And, you’re not late getting everywhere because you’re trying on 100 outfits and destroying your space… and making yourself crazy in the process. Having a method for planning your outfits… for special events and on the daily… can be such a freeing and fun process. It’s about purging well and looking at your calendar to plan ahead, laying things out and trying then on ahead of time. And making a decision, not over thinking it - AKA there will be lots of outfits - this is one day- by taking away the pressure the whole thing gets easier… and then going out and living your life and let the clothes you wear add to your confidence, not take way from it or be a stress. It’s a few simple steps and it makes all the difference. Let’s plan our outfits together today! Here are some of the tips we talk about:

Purge your closet - so you only have things you love in there.
Look at your calendar ahead of time and buy anything you need for events - online or in person.
Dont leave it to the last minute - lay out options and try them on.
Take photos to be sure you like it.
Always lay out your clothes the night before.
Decide and live your best life!!!
Get ready with plenty of time - allow extra for error for special events.
Have go-to back-up outfits. Black dress, etc.
Save bloggers pictures that you like - to recreate the look in your own way.
Stop body shaming yourself! If you’re doing this - put up a picture of yourself as a young kid in your bathroom.
Buy clothes as a full outfit
Ask other people what they are wearing ahead of time.
If you constantly have a problem getting ready for a particular type of thing, make a note that you need more clothes for this specific thing. For the gym or for a formal event.
Figure out your style - even though ever changing- having a good grasp on what you feel best in will help you navigate.
Stop panic or stress or LATE getting dressed!
“I have no clothes” “I hate everything” “I look awful in everything”
Save yourself SO MUCH TIME and stress by planning ahead.
WEAR your clothes! Wear the dress you bought for vacation on a Wed. It’s just going to sit in the closet anyway!!
Dress for you- nobody else - it will be the ultimate way to feel good when you go out.
Spend more on things you love and buy less.

CHEERS! To never having an outfit crisis again!!

229. How To Be Awesome At Your I Am Statements Oct 15, 2022

We all have beliefs about ourselves. Character traits and tendencies and things we think we are good at and bad at. And… We tell people them! I am disorganized, I am always late, I am bad with money, I am highly stressed, I am not pretty enough, I am not that patient. When you think about your own I AM statements, you have to ask yourself… Does this serve you? If it doesn’t, stop saying it!! When we make these limiting statements, we are creating INVISIBLE BARRIERS. The words you say and the thoughts you think are so powerful. We have to be so aware of the things we think and say about ourselves. They are the most important statements because they are what you believe about yourself. Today, we are doing a self audit of our I AM statements. And deciding, if it’s not going to help you accomplish your goals… we are going STOP saying it!! -Here are some I Am statements that people say/think often. I am not patient I am not doing enough to meet someone I am too old, too short, too fat, not pretty enough I am not that smart I am clumsy. I am bad at names. I am a bad mom. I am weak. I am bad at math. I have lots of anxiety. I am shy. I am high stress. I am an all or nothing type person. I am not good at telling people no. -What is your I AM statement? Do you think that belief serves you? -Once you are aware of this- you will hear it ALL THE TIME -SAYS WHO!! Who says you are bad at math or money or anything else! Your past doesn’t indicate your future its not WHO YOU ARE. -I can’t do that, I AM not flexible. OH really, you can’t become more flexible? -When we make these statements, we are creating INVISIBLE BARRIERS. These are limiting statements. -In order to grow, your identity must be whatever is required to grow. It can’t be SET! -The language has to change! -I have a tendency towards being shy and stress filled. OR I tend to be shy with stress. This is less final. -We need to be able to be changing to what we need to do. -It gets more complicated like… I have to have 2 cups of coffee or I can’t be productive. I have to have 8 full hours of sleep or I can’t be productive. I have to know who’s going to the party or I’ll have anxiety. -These are all weaknesses that you build into yourself. You GIVE yourself traits that make you weaker. If you want to make impact, you have to know who you are and be able to adjust based on what’s needed. Cheers to becoming more AWESOME by changing the I AM statements you say about yourself!

228. How To Be Awesome At Your Side Hustle Oct 10, 2022

We are living in the greatest time there has ever been… to start a side hustle. For our grandparents and great grandparents, a side hustle was called a second job. Usually done at night after our main job. That’s all changed. We can all start and run a side hustle from home! I love a side hustle for just about everybody. And for different reasons. It’s brilliant if you… Feel overwhelmed with life but also underwhelmed. OR you hate your job. OR you are always stressed about money. OR you want to be an entrepreneur and have control over your time and money. OR you want to be creative and try new things. Today’s episode is a mash up of all my favorite tips from my own business experiences and from the 20+ years of reading business books and studying how top producers do it. We’re talking side hustles and hard work and getting out of your own way and following passions today. -What is a side hustle? Podcast, online course, Etsy shop, create a product, sell on Amazon, the list goes on! -Inspiration from this podcast comes from everything I’ve listen to or read in business but especially from Gary Vee, Tom Bilyeu, Tony Robbins and Alex Hormozi. Here are the tips!! -Be around people who support your journey- or head down and don’t talk about it Pick a partner/spouse who makes you feel awesome about working You will feel resentful if you compromise your dreams because of them. Pick someone who supports you, even if they don’t agree. Don’t put your power on someone else. -Don’t wait for a “good time.” Start today. Not tomorrow! There will never be a perfect time. There are never going to be perfect conditions to start. Best to start when seas are rocky, if you can weather it then, you will remain successful because you did it during rocky times. -Read books and do the stuff in the books Read one and act on it vs. reading 20 and doing nothing. -Embrace failure and change how you think about it Failure is essential! You WIN or you LEARN! Keep going. -Surround yourself with people who are in the space that you want to be. Don’t take advice from people who aren’t where you want to be. -Instead of complaining, move. Strong character is built through hard times. Hard times helps us get to the good times. Accept and move on. -Use your circumstance as power, not an excuse. Assume the world is unfair and act accordingly Stop complaining! All that complaining does NOTHING. The world is unfair, go anyway. -Never blame your circumstances, thank your circumstances for making you who you are. You can’t change it or control it, lean into it. You are who you are because of the stuff you’ve been through -Seek out discomfort You will suck at first. We avoid discomfort. We are judging ourselves for being bad at something we haven’t done before. #1 discomfort is not accomplishing what you are capable of. -Do what no one else is doing You aren’t going to get the results you want doing the same as everyone else. DO what you say you are going to do. -When it’s time to hire people, they have to be smart and have a good attitude/vibe/perspective. That over past experience or skillset. You will make your life so miserable. -Don’t believe what other people think about you more than what you think yourself Tom Bilyeu says always- It’s all about how you feel about yourself when you are by yourself. -Value your opinion over other those of other people We often think everyone else’s opinions are more important. The moment you decide you are successful- you are. It’s our choice. If you try to give yourself a number- you will move the number. Once I am rich then… It’s the journey- not the destination. You are living your values of pursuit- that means success to you. -Find something that works and don’t stop doing it. If you keep doing the same stuff, you will keep have the same outcomes. Whatever you are doing right now has gotten to where you are now. So stop doing that if you want to push for more. -Keep doing it until you are actually BORED!! because you are so good at doing that thing that works! It’s hard as an entrepreneur because you don’t have set deadlines. Keep doing it, over and over. We just often aren’t willing to do it. Find something that works and then double down on it. -Do your best and make it above what it takes to be successful You have to do things that other people aren’t doing. Most people aren’t out there hustling. You can’t do the same as everyone else. You can’t look for their approval. Do your best, not what it takes. You must become better so your best is better. If you try your best and it’s not good enough, get better. Be better and do it for long enough- you will get better in the process. -Assume you might not be right about everything and be willing to learn Most people think the opposite. Question what you think always! Always be learning!! Read and listen! Have the humility to learn and be open. Stop assuming we know everything. -Make promises, keep promises (mainly to yourself!) Destroy your reputation with other people. More importantly, you break promises to yourself. Respect for yourself is everything and the hardest to earn. YOU know what you are capable. You could have done more calls, made more content, gone to the gym longer, you could have made a better product. You lose respect for yourself by breaking promises to yourself. -Say you are going to do some thing and then do it You are busy all day but nothing important moves forward. The people who are doing the most in the world are making sure the most important things get done. Usually! It’s what you are procrasting on! You can stay busy all day with stuff that doesn’t matter. -Expect no one to save you except yourself. The government isn’t going to save you. Nobody else is either. Don’t wait around for it. -When you start making money, don’t adjust how much you spend accordingly. Don’t spend it all! -Talk less, do more Rather than talking about how much you are working, do it. Stop preparing to work, just work. Start with the doing. -Avoid working on the stuff that doesn’t matter, work on the things that matter most, ignore the rest WHO cares what your life looks like! Be willing to not look fancy. You have to be real to you. Or you will be real to nobody. -Start something new today and keep at it, until you are good do it so long that it would be unreasonable for you to be bad Don’t leave half built bridges - don’t constantly jump into new things. Don't leave when you see the downsides of things. We are optimistic until we see the hard parts. You will stay busy and not making money if you keep jumping. Ping me for what tactical advice you want on starting specific side hustles! @LindsaysCloud on IG It’s hard and it’s uncomfortable- but it’s temporary pain for long term success, however you define it. CHEERS to your side hustle that brings you fulfillments!

227. How To Be Awesome At Packing Food So You Never Eat What You Don’t Want To Oct 01, 2022

Today’s episode is all about packing food so you never eat what you don’t want to eat. This is not food prep, and it’s certainly not dieting tips… it’s simply thinking ahead about what you are going to eat so you feel your best. And that’s going to look different for all of us. But I think one thing most of us have in common is we get busy and end up grabbing something-anything fast on the go, or eating kids nuggets off their plate or ordering in or going out… all because we haven’t thought about our meals ahead of time. It’s taken me so many years to learn what foods make me feel alive and have energy and what foods make me sluggish and just want a nice big middle of the day NAP. I’m not talking about not enjoying or celebrating the things at the occasions… totally the opposite. I’m talking about our routine meals… the ones we have to fuel our body and keep going… that we often don’t think about until we are STARVING and limited on time or ways to get something we want. You will never find me at Disneyland or at an airport or on a road trip without a little cooler bag of food. And it’s all delish and things I want to be eating, it’s not skimping or counting calories - totally the opposite. It’s about finding foods you enjoy, and make you feel your best, and plan ahead of time to have them when you need them. Let’s go! Here’s what we know!! -Homemade is ALWAYS best!! -So you splurge when you WANT to… not because of lack of options. -Think about these times when you might not have what you want: Airport Disneyland Road trips -The celebration meals feel SO MUCH BETTER because you’re eating homemade, healthy food most of the time. This is NOT about weight loss but you can maintain a healthy weight so much easier when your routine meals are healthy and don’t have cruddy ingredients. -What to pack: PROTEIN! Healthy snacks If packaged, the best ingredients only - use Bobby Approved app! -Finding out what your gut likes Allergy tests Trial and Error My functional medicine doctor- Dr. Singler -Creative Ideas Freeze healthy bars - my fav - Mid Day Squares Or freeze your healthy blueberry muffins - keeps them so fresh - especially for flying Protein veggie patties (homemade) - with a side of yummy mustard Fruit and veggie trays you make up (I like veggies first - fruit as a sweet usually) -How to pack it: Glass at home, plastic on the go. -Saves so much time and money! You know when you go out - not for the experience of it - just cause you need to eat! It just takes so much time and money. I’d rather go out when I have the time and headspace to ENJOY! -And the time saved by last minute food errands is huge! -It takes some pressure off exercise. Daily movement is EVERYTHING- don’t get me wrong! But what you eat can affect you more - for long term health and body composition. If your eating feels in line, it’s not so much pressure for intense fitness which can be great for different seasons of life. -SLEEP! You sleep SO MUCH better because your body is properly fueled! And you’re not eating out super late because you’re in a bind. -Mood Less mad dashing, more planned is always good for our mood. Overall, I think of routine meals as fuel- what will make me feel satisfied and happy and energized. Everyday I’m eating foods I LOVE and I feel strong and lean. It’s only taken me 20 + years of reading and listening to ALL the experts on this to figure out my groove myself. Warning- your friends and family will at first look at you weird for bringing your own food- but they will get used to it- and ask for your snacks!! CHEERS to fueling your body in the best way possible!

226. How To Be Awesome When You’re Nervous Sep 26, 2022

It’s going to sound sort of basic and maybe even cheesy but I’m telling you it’s the secret sauce. When you’re in an awkward situation… maybe having small talk with someone you’ve just met or you walk into a crowded room of people you don’t know or walk on stage before a speech… you’re nervous!! Deep breath in and SMILE. It’s like the most basic thing… that most people don’t do. But I’m telling you if you can train yourself to do this… you will get comfortable in uncomfortable situations so much faster!! Smiling is contagious … it lowers stress and anxiety… you’re more approachable… you appear more confident. Because of the reaction your body has to smiling, you’re almost tricking your body into feeling more happy and less nervous. Now it’s not a nervous smile or WORSE- a nervous laugh. It’s just a calm and confident smile- without saying anything. It’s subtle but changes everything. Today we are talking about our superpower in uncomfortable situations - SMILING. -We all get nervous - sometimes a little or sometimes a lot. -Smiling is an easy way to boost your mood and be more relaxed. -And it’s way better than the alternatives!! looking down Retreating on your phone Crossing arms Biting nails Fidgeting or swaying -This is NOT a nervous laugh! -When we smoke it triggers a cascade of feel good brain chemicals called endorphins! -It’s almost like you TRICK your body into feeling new emotions. -The act of smiling is a cue to your brain to release neuropeptides or happiness hormones like Dopamine, Serotonin and Endorphins. Dopamin- gives you an instant boost of energy and motivation Serotonin- helps calm you down and soothes your nerves Endorphins- reduce cortisol levels and even decreases feelings of pain. Together these brain chemicals work to reduce the effects of stress and pressure and improve your mood!! -Contagious!! For you and for those around you. When someone smokes at you.. your instinct is to smile back. It instantly creates a positive social connection that reduces stress and improves connection. It also tells your brain - im surrounded by friendly people here. “There is nothing either good or bad but thinking makes it so.” It’s not the EMOTION it’s the MEANING you give to the emotion that makes it come alive. -So change your state, change the MEANING you give to the situation and change your emotion. -It’s like an instant confidence bump. And it’s one easy hack. Breathe and smile. -This is NOT putting on a happy face when you’re upset - in fact we should FEEL ALL THE FEELINGS. -It’s about how you label the situation and how you react. Instead of OH MY GOD im so nervous. It’s deep breath and we got this. -People respond so well to this because even if you dont talk to people, you appear friendly. -And it helps you have GOOD REACTIONS! When you don’t know what to do- default to smile - when most people default to something else - resting not so kind face or reaction etc. -There’s zero downside and it’s easy to remember. CHEERS!! To your SMILE being your superpower!

225. Life After Selling My Company Sep 20, 2022

It’s been a minute since we’ve done a life update and I thought it was a good time for a check in chat as I’m approaching the almost one year mark of selling the company that I started when I was 20 years old… and sold when I turned 40. Twenty years of owning and operating a business where I created beauty products and sold them online and through a home shopping network and in some of the largest national retailers and throughout many countries. And the professional side of the business where I manufactured and sold pro spray tanning equipment and products so industry pros could offer the pro spray tanning service to their clients or start their own business doing it. It was a big business and had lots of moving parts and it was my first baby. So I wasn’t sure what selling it would mean for me personally and what I would do next. I have an ideas book that I have on my body at all times and I would write notes about what set my soul of fire and I loved the most about being an entrepreneur and I wanted to sort of give it time to settle and figure out what I would start next. And then, the craziest thing happened that’s never happened in my business life before, I sort of fell into the next right thing. Sharing my journey and so many inspirational tid bits along the way today. In the first few months, I organized my life and kept notes on what I wanted to do and not do. I knew I wanted to have freedom and experience new things and feel the HIGH of entrepreneurship again. It looks different in ages and stages of your life. I was done managing a big team for awhile- but love the opportunities that exist now. Being an entrepreneur can be the most exciting thing ever- for so many reasons. How it makes you feel, the money you can make, the freedom to design your life. I’m so passionate about entrepreneurship because of what I can do for your life. So I was sorting out my life and people would DM me on IG or get my email or ask questions through a mutual friend we have. Hey I know you did this in business, can I pick your brain etc. Advice turned into coaching / mentoring … I was like sure, but I can’t commit to long term. I know the value that all my experience in business brings. And I am so passionate about women building businesses and doing what they love. And life FULLY so you feel alive and fulfilled. And not just living in routine. To me, it all adds up to you being the strongest and best version of you. What would it look like if you decided that you were going to take your business and grow it so it’s life changing… or start a business that is? What if you REALLY believed that you can make the crazy dream happen? What if you committed to doing the hard work, and sacrificed NOW for freedom LATER (and forever!) Instead of saying… when I hit X amount of followers then I will be ready to start. Instead of saying… there are already too many people in this space, realize there is space for the unique you. WHY are so many women unhappy with what they’re doing? To me, the meaning of life is doing the things you LOVE with the people you LOVE. So if you aren’t getting enough of that, we need to recalibrate. Here are the things I’ve done: -opened a day spa and ran it for years and sold it once we were at max capacity. -created a beauty brand - with over 24 products -sold online through strategic marketing tactics -sold on home shopping network -got into major retailers and supported their sales -trained teams across the country -created another beauty brand with a top YouTube influencer -increased sales year after year while having babies Here are the ways I can help people in business: -finding manufacturers, getting products made -making a game plan for your success -getting in front of buyers for your product or service -marketing your service in creative but low cost ways -working with influencers to sell your product or grow your brand -start a podcast -start a blog -the ins and outs of Shopify and selling online- direct to consumer -growing retail business - store or spa set-ups -using social media to promote your service/brand for FREE -working with brands / collaborations For our 30 days together, we are business besties. I help in whatever way you need. I just take 2 clients per month so we can really have the time to make huge strides in our month together. We first establish what works great with your business and what you think you need help with- what your life looks like now and what you want it to look like. **Now if this isn’t for you now, keep it in your back pocket because it could be one day. It’s not just about building the business but about building a life that you’re obsessed with. Knowing that what worked for you before might not work for you today. Sometimes you just need someone from the outside to give you the push, or open doors for you. That’s the key. As your business bestie, we work through the FEAR if we need to! In the mentoring that I’ve done so far… this is what I’ve learned. -Some people need help getting out of their own way. Stop telling yourself the story about past mistakes or how someone else doubted you. To let go of the judgment of yourself or shame around something. -Other women needed an outside perspective. OH MY GOSH how I needed this at points of my business. -None of us are here to be the 70% version of ourselves. We put up our own barriers that don’t really exist. -Rather than looking for outside validation, what if we realized we had the power to unlock it all - we’ve had the power the whole time. We just have to make the decision. Commit and work hard for. -After enough practice, it becomes WHO you ARE. -You have game changing MAGIC that just needs to be called on. -Let’s find out what you love the most and what you’re best at and how to make it so big that it changes your life. -Some people need help with the mindset shift… other people need help with the tactical and practical steps that it takes to reach the next level. I’m so excited to meet more of you and chat to see if it could be a fit to work together. Life after selling my business has been all unexpected in the best way possible. It feels so great to fall into the next thing that feels SO RIGHT on SO MANY LEVELS. I get to dive into different businesses and see huge progress quickly and see changes and how it affects lives. And for me personally, life after selling my company, feels so rewarding because I’m using ALL of what I learned - the fails and the wins- and the people I know to help other people make magic happen. And I believe so much in what I do because I’ve lived it and I’ve done it. I worked 12 hours a day for most of my life. I’m not a mentor or a coach that teaches about coaching. No shade to anyone for doing what they do - but I’ve never understood business coaching without playing the game yourself- for a long while. Because there is so much to do and learn. I have the passion and the confidence because I have lived it and put in the hard work to learn what I don’t know and get my mind right for the headaches and the struggles and the hard months and to learn what I don’t know when I need to know it. And the other thing I am working on!! Is sharing awesome things! I love sharing the best things in a certain category or ways to make your life easier or gift more thoughtful gifts and all that. So my team and I are working on a cool daily awesome thing concept that is unlike anything I’ve seen- just not done the same way so I’m super jazzed on bringing that out soon too. And then we’ll see what’s next!! DM me @LindsaysCloud on IG about working together or email me LindsayDickhout@gmail.com and let’s chat about your business. CHEERS to all the things that make us feel alive and the best versions of ourselves!

224. How To Be Awesome At Low Sugar Cocktails Sep 13, 2022

I feel like I spent all of my 20s… and actually some of my 30s trying to figure out how to order or make yummy cocktails that aren’t packed with sugar. And not just because of calories or overall health… but also… how what you drink makes you FEEL. For me… just one or two sugary drinks puts my stomach in a tailspin and I feel terrible. Like a sugary belly that’s hard to recover from. Plus you feel GOOD the next day instead of terrible if you drink things that are better for you. We’re ditching the simple syrups and the added sugar in our drinks… and we aren’t going to miss them at all! Today I’m giving you lots of ideas of what the order at a restaurant or bar… or make yourself at home that are as healthy as boozy drinks can be. Here are some things we chat about: Pick the thing you love most and will be the most satisfied with - make sure it hits your sweet spot When buying wine… you’re not going to get the fancy stuff… but it’s the best for you! Dry Farms Wine- always the best Organically grown - no added anything When ordering out-manage your order! You’ll be a pain ordering, but you’ll love it so much more. Swap the sugar for fruit however you can. So it’s sweet but naturally sweetened. One other way to do it - bring your own splashy of something that you like. Ask what fresh juices they have - no canned or bottled - and never syrups or simple syrups. If that isn’t good, ask what fruits they have then ask for it to be all smashed and muddled up. Bring your own or ordering out- a little splash of something YUMMY! PORTION - is really the key! Have 3 not 10! Clear hard booze is always better - vodka, gin, tequila CIROC is Lindsay’s fav because it comes from grapes! There are so many ways to enjoy your cocktails without having a ton of extra sugar and calories. Lindsay talks through them today! So the next time you’re home and want to relax with a drink… or out and figuring out what to order…. You’ll have SO MANY ideas of what to get that are delish and you’ll feel good that day and the next day! CHEERS TO YOUR NEXT AWESOME COCKTAIL!

223. How To Be Awesome At Knowing What You Stand For Sep 09, 2022

We’re all going through life experiencing and listening and learning… out of all of the things… how much do we really translate that into what means the most to us and what we stand for. I found that when you are crystal clear on what you stand for and what you care about… decisions become really easy. Because you’re clear on what’s important to you and what’s worth fighting for and the headspace that you live in. When you’re faced with challenges or conflict… you don’t have this big figure it out moment… or worse… react and the total opposite way that you wish you would have. Because you know what you stand for and you’re reminded of it on the daily. It requires putting your earplugs in and ignoring the noise and distractions around you. It took me a year to organize what I really stand for and what I’ve learned in my life thus far… and how to have them be a part of our daily lives and how we operate. Some key points: -We read and listen to interesting things ALL THE TIME- but how do we translate them into real life? -Get a section going in your journal… when you learn a hard lesson… write that shit down! -Makes mistakes or waste of time decisions easier to stomach- it’s a lesson learned! -Helps you deal with conflict or hardship in the day. -Helps you know what’s worth letting go and what’s worth fighting for. -Helps you strengthen your family bond and priorities -Helps you stay in a positive headspace -Give yourself the reminders you need! The ones you get off track with most! Here is my 40th bday list of life lessons learned thus far: In this house we know that the thoughts you think and the words you say create the world that you live in. In this house we don’t overthink. We trust ourselves, make a decision and move on. In this house we know that perfection isn’t the goal, consistency is. In this house we now that the state of mind that you are in when you leave this house determines the type of day that you have. In this house we know that family and health are the most important. In this house we know that success is relentless execution. In this house we know that hard work pays off. In this house we know that the words you say create an environment in your head of what you are becoming. In this house we aren’t afraid to fail. In this house we leave it all out on the field. In this house we aren’t trying to be perfect. We’re trying to be better than we were yesterday. In this house we love hard. In this house we summer hard. In this house we celebrate big. In this house we get back up. In this house we protect our happy headspace. In this house we know that good or bad, this is just a moment and it won’t last forever. In this house we know that it doesn’t matter what other people think of us. In this house we get uncomfortable and do hard things. In this house we eat the frog and do the hard thing first! In this house we make sure to be where are feet are. In this house we don’t look out the back window. In this house we know that the best way to make good decisions is to make sure we don’t put ourselves in bad situations. In this house we focus on getting in our 10s everyday. In this house we know that that meaning of life is doing the things you love with the people you love. In this house we go to bed without crumbs. In this house we know that boos don’t block dunks. In this house we know that no amount of anxiety makes any difference to anything that is going to happen. In this house we know that people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world are the ones who do. In this house we own our mistakes and we don’t let them define us. In this house we know there are two acceptable outcomes. We tried hard and were victorious or we tried as hard as we could and it just didn’t work this time. In this house we know that you don’t always get what you want but you always get what you absolutely must have. In this house we know that being wrong is better than doing nothing. In this house we know that nobody can ruin your day. In this house we control our crazy! CHEERS! To knowing what you stand for and making it a part of your daily life!

222. How To Be Awesome At Knowing Your Headspace Determines Everything Aug 26, 2022

Think about this… the mood that you’re in determines everything. We all sort of know - your mindset determines your reactions. But in the last month I’ve been obsessed with the idea of how real it is that literally everything that happens to you is a result of the mindset you had going into the situation. Real life example - we’re all eating and my husband says- gosh mom makes great eggs… and great french toast. Now that I think about it, we all just really only like the breakfast foods that she cooks. If I’m in a good headspace my response is- WOW Dad’s got jokes huh? You’re welcome darling, you’re welcome! Or if I’m in a bad headspace my response is likely - You’ve gotta be F-ing kidding me do you know how many HOURS I spend cooking meals for all of you and then you guys all head up to your happy spaces and relax while I get to clean it all up? What an ungrateful and inconsiderate thing to say you Now if you know me there is no bigger kick in the gut. I spend so many hours in the kitchen trying to make super healthy yet super delicious foods that everyone likes. I know he’s trying to be funny- but I also know that there’s some truth to what he’s saying… but my reaction determines how the WHOLE THING goes. Does it end up in a full on argument because that was a hurtful jab in front of the kids? Or am I able to take the hit and serve it right back and we chalk it up to we all don’t take each other so seriously? Think about it… if you’re irritated and someone says something irritating to you… you’re on fire! You were basically waiting to get on fire. But if you’re in a good happy headspace, you’re able to laugh it off or ignore it or realize this is a THEM issue not a YOU issue. Whether it’s with your spouse or a coworker or your kids… anyone in your life. So how do we hack it? We pause life and get back in a good headspace when we are off… or we pull back and don’t do so many things. There’s no point in being somewhere if you’re in a bad mood while you’re there. Today we are deep diving into how our headspace affects everything around us. Here are some things that Lindsay talks about: -It’s all about perspective! -Figure out what makes you the happiest -People are the happiest when you get to do what you want to be doing -Are we looking for quick highs? Or actual -This is why I talk so much about getting in your 10s. -Self care - slow it down and do the things that make you happy. -Be alone. -We have to cut complaining and stop being around people who complain. -Take full accountability for it - this is so empowering because we control what happens to us. Nobody else controls our happiness. -Not letting mistakes get you down. -Look forward -Put in work instead of complaining - about whatever it is - that you are in debt or overweight etc. Your headspace is everything. Fight like hell to stay in a good headspace and recalibrate when you can tell that you’re off. CHEERS to you and your happy headspace!

221. How To Be Awesome At Planning Your Holiday Months Aug 19, 2022

This is the PERFECT time to plan out your holiday events. I’m not like a bring pumpkins out in August type of person but I am a plan a few months ahead for the busiest months of the year type of person. Today we are talking about getting your calendar going for October, November and December. It may seem early to plan for the holidays but it will make your life so much easier… plus the way we’re going to do it is so much fun. I have lots of ideas for you for each month so you fill it intentionally with adventures that sound fun to you and your crew. It’s the best way to save time and money and chaos in your life I’m telling you. By thinking of these things ahead of time, you don’t spend time racing around trying to find something that works the day before or the morning of… PLUS you save money because you can weigh out your options ahead of time and it’s almost always more awesome. We are doing some awesome early holiday event planning today! I do everything on paper calendars and I love it.. but if you don’t use a paper calendar already.. print out just the months of October, November and December. Put in anything you already know the dates for first. Then brain dump the things you might do or want to plan for. It’s the best way to save time and money and chaos in your life I’m telling you. By thinking of these things ahead of time, you don’t spend time racing around trying to find something that works the day before or the morning of… PLUS you save money because you can weigh out your options ahead of time and it’s almost always more awesome. Like I’m obsessed with a baker who makes the cutest cookies - they are $4 each and so custom and personalized - so I’ll ping her for the 3 major events I have going on during this holiday season. Maybe you bring them as a hostess gift for someone throwing a holiday party or have your kids give them to teachers with a gift card for a holiday gift… there are just so many things! (Cookie contact: SavageCollections.CS@gmail.com) I’m a huge plan of planning ahead and ordering online or through email/text/etsy - love supporting small businesses too, and often more unique and personalized - and it’s done! No stress or panic our just buying to buy whatever you can find at the last minute. And reservations! I love making lunch and dinner reservations ahead of time so it’s never a stress not having an option when you want to go out. Even if I don’t know exactly who is going yet or if it will work out, I look at the calendar and make reservations based on how the weeks are looking and just cancel ahead of time if it doesn’t work. It takes me a few hours every other month and then we’re never stuck starving waiting an hour for a table at a restaurant. Stress eliminated! Here are some fun ideas of things to get on your calendar for the upcoming fun holiday months. (Let’s not spend the next 3 months in a mall!) October Family photos (need outfits and maybe props) Pumpkin Patch Order Christmas jammies! Haunted House Amusement Park- Haunted style Apple Picking Swap out summer clothes for fall clothes in closets Make/ Order Halloween Costumes Make pumpkin pancakes/ desserts! Decorate the house for fall Carve pumpkins or have a pumpkin carving party November Volunteering - maybe packing food for a family Thankful activity/game for Thanksgiving Thankful shirts/outfits Watch holiday movies Host a pie swap Host a Friendsgiving Decorate the home for Thanksgiving Find someone to thank in a creative way Get outside! Bike ride, hike December Tree Farm/ Lot Santa Photos Volunteering Gingerbread Decorating Christmas Light Viewing Cookie Exchange Party Plan a wintery getaway Make winter drinks! Hot chocolate, egg nog, spiked apple cider. Give away old toys (before new ones come in) DIY holiday gifts Make it to the snow! Start thinking of NY resolutions Add in a fitness challenge to keep you moving your body during the busy (and mostly based around eating) months! -We will have LOTS of discussions on gifts and planning ahead for that! But for now for this, let’s think about anything we need to order for events. Treats, hostess gifts, outfits for your family. CHEERS to planning ahead for the most awesome holiday season ever!

220. How To Be Awesome At Making Fitness Your Superpower Aug 16, 2022

We all know the benefits of exercise. It’s good for us in the short term and in the long term… it’s good for us physically and mentally. But, it’s often hard to find the time or motivation or to get momentum going with it. Today’s podcast is all about finding fitness that you LOVE, so you look forward to it and you enjoy it, versus seeing it as chore and something you kinda dread but do it because you feel like you have to do it. We’re talking about your relationship with fitness today… how you think about it and approach it… and how changing up what you’re doing and how you think about it could be one of the biggest game changers in your overall physical health but even more so for your mental health. Focusing on fitness that you do at the start of everyday in a way that when you end, you feel like the best version of yourself, going into the day. Approaching fitness in a creative way allows you to really lean into the movement that makes you feel the best and that you enjoy doing. And it shifts from something dreaded to something that makes you feel alive and strong and more balanced and centered. Here are some of the points Lindsay discusses: -Change it up is key -Watch or listen to something interesting to keep the time moving **pick ahead of time! So there is no wasting time when it’s game time -Challenge your body with new movement Fitness ideas: trampoline, heavy weights, running distance challenges, sculpt classes via OBE fitness online, running stairs with a body weight on, running the beach, boxing. -Momentum is everything - it’s more about the consistency of it than what you actually do. Show up everyday (or almost everyday) and give as much as you have each day. -Fitness can feel like this morning clarity - physically and mentally -Get something hard in before the day even gets going - get in an early win -Do it alone or with friends depending on what feels best to you -Build it into the routine - it’s already been decided and time made for it -Love it so much that you do it on vacation -The best way to get momentum is just start. You don’t a full plan or fancy equipment just move your body to get going. The feeling will be enough to start the motivation. -Make it your own competition to beat yourself - you’re in a solo competition. Comparing to social media or other people is always a losing game. We aren’t here to be the 80% versions of ourselves. Let’s get up and move and start our days feeling ALIVE and strong and powerful. The discipline of it builds self confidence and happiness. And that’s AWESOME!

219. How To Be Awesome At Getting In Your 10s With ONE Hack! Aug 01, 2022

We have the BEST happiness hack to share with you today! It’s all about focusing in on those little things that make you so happy on the daily - the things Lindsay calls your 10s. Some could take 10 seconds and others 10 minutes and others and hour. The whole point is to identify each week, those things that make you feel alive and bring joy to your days. Then, let’s write them down and make it like a game… a challenge to hit them each day. We often look to the BIG moments and days… like special events and birthdays or Mother’s Day… and we love those celebrations but sometimes things don’t go as planned… someone gets sick or the day goes sideways. That’s why we love leaning into the small moments - those little things that make you happy on the daily. Lindsay swears by this method. It helps you feel overall more happy and centered and energetic and have more patience and compassion - because you’re getting in those things that make you feel the BEST. It’s your daily challenge to get in as many 10s as you can… and be intentional with how you spend your time… and the result is having days that feel more full and fulfilling and happy. Here are some points Lindsay makes: -Get a fun note-pad- it totally helps! -It makes you happier and gives you “self time” without setting aside time for a facial and a massage. It’s little things all day long. -BEST part is that it helps you be the best version of yourself - the person you want to be. When you’re pouring from an empty cup- you feel depleted. You’re wiped and less patient and not enjoying the day as much as you could. Doing it this way, when your kids are hard or someone at work is being an asshole, you’re coming to the situation with a much better perspective and mindset. You’re constantly doing things you love and feeling fulfilled - so you are better prepared for the challenges and handle them in the way you want to. -Do this at the start of the week- Sunday or Monday -These are not goals! This is happiness based! -Separate them best by when you are most likely to do them- and when it feels best. -Two ways to separate it…. AM Mid Day PM OR Mind/Body Connections Health -In the am we have the most energy and focus - so put those things here. -In the afternoon- do the more creative thinking things or writing - group work. -Change it up each week Examples- Lindsay’s List! AM Workout (before everyone is awake) Yummy Coffee Supplements Journal Get ready early Mid Day Supplements Healthy lunch that gives me fuel Connect with a friend Make progress on Craig’s health PM Make healthy homemade meal- eat together Yummy dessert Walk dog with fam Fun evening activity - hot tub, group game Stretch before bed Supplements Read with Parker before bed Chill time with each girl in bed/couch Alone time with Craig Get 7 hours of sleep Here is the link to Lindsay’s favorite ever check list pad to do this hack: https://amzn.to/3P3BOu5 CHEERS to adding in your 10’s to your days with this awesome hack! 💕

218. How To Be Awesome At Celebrating Your People’s Micro Moments Jul 25, 2022

We all celebrate birthdays and anniversaries… big accomplishments like a job promotion or winning the soccer tournament. But what about those micro wins? Those moments and accomplishments that are smaller and scale but mean just as much if not more. Focusing more on the process and the journey more than the destination and the ultimate goal. We’re talking about all the different things that happen in our lives that we could be celebrating… in ways that are so very special but also simple and easy and not expensive. With a little advanced planning sometimes and some creativity and thought, we can take smaller special moments and lean into them a bit more. Rather than just moving on with the routine… taking a moment to make the feeling last longer and be more memorable. We’re talking about taking smaller wins and making them extraordinary with simple yet impactful gestures. Maybe someone you know has been saving up for an epic trip for a long time… Maybe you have custom luggage tags made on Etsy and email them to them a week before their trip. You could totally do that for $20… And write a really nice card and it’s something they will always remember. If someone you know is have a surgery or a procedure done… Rather than sending flowers or a premade generic basket… Think about what they would like during their recovery and downtime. Or just think about things they like in general. Again things they like not things you like or you like for them. If one of your kids is trying out for a team… You could purchase something ahead of time to give to them when they make it… Like a ballet piggy bank if they make a nutcracker for a basketball net for the back of their door when they make the basketball team. And if they don’t make it, they will likely still be interested in the same thing so you could use it for later on… Or you could still give it to them because they tried hard. Or return it if it’s not personalized. Happy birthday is of course we love and any days are special to people like the day they got engaged. Much more memorable to send them a little something on the unexpected day. One really thoughtful and easy gift to give people is their own Christmas card back in a frame years later. This works for celebrating all sorts of occasions… You could have a personalized frame made and spend 40 or $50 or you could get an expensive but really cute frame at target for five for $10. Here it was a thoughtful card and note and you have a very memorable moment!! —Examples of things to celebrate… -Kids - studying hard for the test - rather than the grade on the test. Teaching it’s the effort made, more than the result. -Whatever it is someone is struggling with at the moment - even if it seems simple and routine - like -Meeting with a skincare company because they want to start a skincare line - it’s encouraging! -Making the team or the show -Starting a podcast or a blog -Going to their first kickboxing class (if it’s a big goal for them) -Passing goal numbers at work -Crushing a presentation -Finishing finals -Getting drivers license or permit! —Examples of ways to celebrate them -Order an ice cream cake for $30 to be delivered… And write something funny or celebratory on it. -Hop on Amazon and search for keywords. -If you have time ahead of time… Look on Etsy for something personalized and cool. -And balloons or treats always work well. -There are so many different gifts you can get that are expensive… $20 or less… -Get a crew together to celebrate! You go to dinner anyway - why not say this is the reason for the dinner! -Have someone make a cool drawing of them doing the thing! So many cool artists you can find on IG now. -In the same way, dinners can be special. Party horns to celebrate. Their fav meal. -Decorate their doorway! -Have friends over for movie night or game night around the micro win. -Photos and scrapbooks are always a win!! Can be more time consuming but keep forever! -Sneak a note in their car or lunch box or mail it! -For a special meal… have everyone write down something - increase their support system. Something loving or a celebration - give a prompt! Be spontaneous with it! Do it for yourself too! (And other people will for you too!) And if they don’t do more for yourself! There is no better fuel or motivation or feeling of love and belonging than unexpected celebrations and knowing how loved you are!!

217. How To Be Awesome At Living With Enthusiasm (without fear of judgement) Jul 22, 2022

How to be awesome at living with enthusiasm without fear of judgment. Whatever it is that you love or are passionate about… we’re talking about going all in - full enthusiasm with it.

It seems like society lately is just so sensitive and reactive and judgmental.

We forget that you don’t have to listen or pay attention to anything that bothers you. Turn it off, don’t give it any energy, problem solved.

Judgment is at an all time high around us and it’s changing who we are and what we do or don’t do.

So many people aren’t living the lives they want or taking about or pursuing their passions because of what people will think.

This podcast is your wake up reminder… to be your authentic energetic self, whatever that is… because people are going to judge you either way and you’ll likely never really know what people are thinking or saying about you anyway… and when you’re 90 looking back on life, there’s no chance you’re going to wish you worried more about other people’s opinions of you. No way, but you will regret not going all in on that things that make you feel alive.

Here are some of the things Lindsay talks about:

-When you’re 90, you won’t care what those strangers on social media said about your reel being lame or you had too much enthusiasm at a swim meet.

-There is only ONE TIME when I think we should tone it down. ONE!

-Judgment is around us all the time!

-You know what the best practice is not to worry about it?

Don’t judge other people yourself!

-Worry about yourself!

If you have judging thoughts - think about what that means

-If you’re in a mindset where dragging someone else down makes you feel better, it’s time to recalibrate.

We need to get going in the other direction.

And let’s figure out what it means - what are they accomplishing or doing that might make you feel jealous in some way?

-Because judgment is always about the person judging, a reflection on something they feel about themselves or a shortcoming of their own that they are trying to compensate for.

-Judgment is at an all time high.

-Technology is exposing how much this is going on.

-I think that judgment is at an me high around us and it’s changing who we are and what we do or don’t do.

-Judgment is often why you haven’t done the thing!

Whatever that is!

-It’s crazy to limit our lives because of what people may or may not think about you.

-Changing our mindset requires doing it over and over again.

-We all LOSE when people silence themselves. HOW have we gotten to a place where we aren’t sure if we can be friends with people who think differently than us? I LOVE people who have different opinions because that’s the best way to learn.

-As human beings, we are super social creatures. We are meant to be with our groups. It’s a survival thing.

-This is the problem with censorship on social media and cancel culture - it primes us to be afraid to share our opinions!

-WHY can’t we be ok with people have differing opinions?

-When judgment really stings - when it hits a sensitive spot. Something we feel insecure about.

-You can get 100 positive comments and get 1 negative comment and you focus on that one - because it’s hard! Don’t read the comments or

Why would you want to feel less confident? When it’s usually a reflection of them. You just caught in the crossfire.

-If someone is likely going to give you negative feedback, don’t ask for their feedback.

-Why are we allowing people who have been shaped by their own experiences to define us?

-You are going to be judged. We all do it - even if we don’t mean to. So we have to work on how much we care.

-It limits us!! Limits our income, our experiences, everything!

-We can’t get better at things for fear of failure - failure is how we learn! We rarely learn from successes.

-It is your job to protect your headspace!! It’s your responsibility to block it out. The words you say in your head are what you become. You have to be so careful what you listen to.

-Let’s talk about killing the messenger!!

What to do when people tell you about other peoples judgment!

Ask them…

What was your motivation in sharing that with me?

How do you think this makes me feel?

What did you think I could do with this?

*Don’t over talk it! Let them sit with this!*

-As if they are doing you a favor. Just bringing it to your attention. But there’s nothing you can do - it’s already out there.

Don’t bring me other people’s judgment! It’s almost knocking you down a bit - from their own insecurity.

-Don’t ask questions or defend yourself!

Tell them… you don’t want to hear it - even if it’s hard!

CHEERS TO LIVING FULLY! Without fear of judgment with FULL enthusiasm!

216. How To Be Awesome At Your Morning Mantra Jul 20, 2022

Lindsay has recently adapted a morning mantra that has been so great for her in so many ways. How bad you want it? Because that’s really what it comes down to. Whatever it is that you want to accomplish… How bad you want it are you willing to put in the hours and hours it takes to get good at something or accomplish the hard goal? Are you willing to get super uncomfortable and push through even when you want to quit? Lindsay talks about in the past… she’s tricked herself into thinking she didn’t know what the next step was to accomplish certain goals… when really she knew what needed to be done, she just wasn’t all-in-committed to it. It all starts with the morning mantra that carries us through the day. One question that you answer each morning… that helps you make the best decisions throughout the day. It’s filtering out any distractions or negative thoughts for thinking about the past in the ways that don’t serve me… It’s about waking up with a clear and refreshed mind… Which helps me stay more focused throughout the day and able to self correct quickly when I fall into a habit I don’t want to like negative self talk or mindlessly scrolling. So the question is… how bad do you actually want it? Write out your 3 priorities for the day and stay focused on them. Then… commit and burn the boat! Freedom doesn’t equal freedom… discipline equals freedom Mark Twain once said, “Eat a live frog first thing in the morning and nothing worse will happen to you the rest of the day.” How bad you want it? Lose weight - when you reach for calorie surplus Gain muscle - get out of bed and work out when you want to sleep in Make a certain amount of sales - put in the hours it takes to get good Make more money - push through the pain Wake up early - if you need more time to accomplish goals Let go of the past - fight the urge to sink into it Health - make the appointments, take the supplements Conflict resolution - address the issues weighing heavily on you Increase your willpower - embrace discomfort Get rid of stress - hug the monster! Tackle it head on - you feel so much better Have a great group of friends - go out at night even when you want to stay on the couch Lindsay explains… When I’m not sure what I should do for the next hour or whatever it is I ask myself… What would the person do if it is achieving what I want to achieve. And ask… how bad do you actually want it? It’s about having a clear focus of what’s the most important to you and prioritizing the things you’re working to make happen. And it’s just as much about what I want as it is what I don’t want. It’s filtering out any distractions or negative thoughts for thinking about the past in the ways that don’t serve me… It’s about waking up with a clear and refreshed mind… Which helps you stay more focused throughout the day and able to self correct quickly when you fall into a habit you don’t want to like negative self talk or mindlessly scrolling. And then… knowing your priorities and focus and the ways you're going to challenge myself for that day… And when you start to question it or it gets more than uncomfortable… the most powerful question you can ask yourself. How bad do you want it? CHEERS friends! To going after what you really want and doing what it takes to get it.

215. How To Be Awesome At Party Dessert Tables Jul 15, 2022

Today we’re talking about creating awesome dessert tables. We think a dessert table is the center of the party. It’s where all the yummy treats are and often the best place to take photos because it’s themed and decorated. Also, if you want to do a more simple party but still have it be themed, you could just do an awesome dessert table and focus more on the details and that’s all you need. We’re talking about dessert tables for birthday parties, holiday parties, adult parties, kids parties… all of it. Lots of ideas of how to set it up ahead of time so it looks just the way you want and makes the party feel extra special. And makes for the perfect photo backdrop too. Planning dessert tables is so much fun and really sets the tone for your party and makes it memorable. Today we’re talking about creating awesome dessert tables- for any occasion and on any budget. Lindsay talks about… -Start with your backdrop!! This is the best part! Make sure it’s not wrinkled or see through -Figure out your table - can get creative with it - doesn’t have to be a table with linens. Can be pillars or smaller tables - if it’s a kids birthday party - make sure it’s not too high or have a plan for the bday boy or girl to get behind it to blow out the candles. -Use carts- especially for holidays!! -Set this up! Ahead of time - even if your event isn’t at your house -Add in cake stands or cupcake stands - pull from what you have then buy and order what you need -Get creative with this! You can use crates or paint things, use things you have etc. It doesn’t have to be for cakes or cupcakes. -Tiered items work well for some height. -Add candy containers for height (make sure you have clear scoopers) -Position it so people see it when they walk in - so it’s good for the FEEL of the party and also for the photos. -Take photos before people start eating it!! -Order bulk of inexpensive stuff and add cake toppers -Order custom from ETSY ahead of time or do your own with little chalkboard signs or otherwise. -Local finds from party stores or Target -Make sure it’s not in direct sun for melting -Make sure you have candles and a lighter and plates and forks and a knife to cut. -Make sure you talk to the baker about details!! And so you have the right size cake stand ready. -Adult parties - add in cocktails to it!! -DAY OF PARTY- set-up food last. Candy can go sooner- that will help with timing! -What to make sure you talk to your baker about, how to position your table, backdrop ideas and what to set-up ahead of time Dessert tables can be such a special and memorable part of your party. We hope this podcast inspired you to design your own awesome dessert table for your next party!! CHEERS to celebrating all the things!

214. How To Be Awesome At Being A Present Mom & Also Having Your Own Identity Jul 11, 2022

Today we are talking about how to be a present mom to your kids and also maintain your own identity.

You know, that person you were before you had kids. There is so much to do when you have kids, it’s very easy for mom things to take up all your time. Without realizing it, it’s easy to slowly stop doing the hobbies you love or spending time your friends without your kids.

We’re talking about this today because we don’t want to wake up one day and not know who we actually ARE because our entire identity has been wrapped up in the people that we care for.

There are so many layers to the importance of maintaining your own identity and not feeling guilty about it. One thing I know for sure is we are all the best moms we can be, when we are truly happy. That means taking time for yourself, not trying to live up to the expectations of others or trying so hard to make your life look a certain way.

Plus, how great for our kids to see us not only as the people are raising them, but also our own individual awesome selves too who have interests and hobbies and friends and sometimes careers. We will do anything for them and we love them with everything that we are but there’s more to us than just our role as mothers.

Today we’re talking about how the hell we’re going to raise these humans and also have our own awesome individual identity too.

-You’re not just a mom - you are so many things. Maybe that means you stepped away from your career. But if you think of yourself as “just a mom” you’re discrediting all the other layers there are to you.

Even if you don’t work outside the home for pay- you are so much more than a mom. By taking away that “just a mom” label… it opens you up to all the things that you are beyond motherhood.

-You have to give yourself grace - and know that some days you’ll fail and some days you’ll nail it.

-Be honest with yourself and your shortcomings - rather than trying to be perfect. You will relate to more friends and it takes the pressure off.

-It’s very easy to slowly change your personal identity to one that is solely being a mother.

-When you are truly happy, you are the best mom.

-What to do when you’ve lost this balance

Lean into how you feel.

Journal it - instead of or in addition to telling friends.

Who were you before you were there mom?

She is still there

If your only identify is in relation to who you are for other people

-For new moms - you have to figure out your way of doing it. It will change through ages and stages.

-Make sure your priorities are actually YOUR priorities.

-We have to let go of trying to make our life look a certain way

-And let go of that pressure to live up to other peoples standards

-Let me tell you the honest truth- some days it’s a shit show and some days it’s smooth for ALL OF US. Whatever you are going through, the majority of moms have gone through some version of it at some point.

-If you always look a certain way and your kids are dressed a certain way, you will feel like you have your shit together because people will view you that way.

-And some of us are better at certain types of parenting and not as much at others.

-You are a mom AND…

like… I’m a mom AND I was a CEO for 20 years

-We are raising kids to LAUNCH!

We aren’t raising people to take care of forever.

-We don’t want them to just see us living for them.

-And we don’t want kids who have everything given to them - to feel like you live for them.

-What is this going to do to the kids if you work?

We don’t want them to only know us to take care of them.

-That is how we lose ourselves. We forget what we like, what our hobbies are.

You could wake up one day… and not know WHO you actually ARE.

-When your kids move out, you will feel lost.

-We want our kids to be their own people.

KNOW and recognize when you are off balance. And running on low energy.

-Say to your kids.. I need time for me.

-Makes your kids respect you more too.

This and so much more on today’s episode. We hope it inspires you to keep your own happiness and identity a priority as you navigate through this awesome journey of motherhood.

213. How To Be Awesome At Living Summer FULLY! Jul 08, 2022

The goal of today’s podcast is to inspire you to live your summer fully. Try new things, get outside and adventure, do the things you love and find new things you love. So that on that last day of Summer- whenever that is for you in August or September, you feel like you really lived it fully and made the most of this cool season of the year and of our lives. Because we know, next summer won’t look the same. It may look similar for some of us or completely different for others… but the whole point is to be intentional about your time for the next few months and really make the most of it. We’re talking about how to plan and also to be spontaneous so the days seem longer and more full. Cancelling some things so you have more time to explore and just feel life freedom. Freedom from to do lists and work and routines. Whatever phase of life you are in, it’s possible. Today we’re planning out how to do it so our summers are FULL of all the things we want more of. -Summer mantra - live it fully! Or SUMMER HARD as Jesse Itzler says! -Reminder to take advantage of it -Get outside - make the days longer -Get up early - stay up late -Take opportunities -Try things you don’t normally try -The more experiences you have the more full you are. -Our goal is to live the days fully and different than other times of the year. -So at the end of the summer you feel like you really lived it! You didn’t just do the same things you’ve been doing your whole life. -You might need to put things on hold until Sept. It will be fine. You might need to lighten up your load to be able to life summer fully. When you eliminate things - shut it off - and you dont have to worry about meetings and calls and to do lists - when you shut it all down - you live a different life. This freedom is everything right - this is what we work hard for. Maybe you do what you need to do until a certain time and then it’s OFF. Just for summer. You might not get as much done, but life is long and this is a short period of time. Here’s how to do it and take the pressure off: -Journal and brain dump -And have your loved ones do the same -Google for ideas Lindsay gives SO MANY ideas of ways to fill your summer with FUN! CHEERS to your most awesome summer!

212. How To Be Awesome At Turning A Bad Day Into A Character Building Day Jul 06, 2022

-Struggling SUCKS but it’s also what makes us stronger. -One of Lindsay’s favorite quotes is… Strength grows in the moments when you think you cannot go on but you keep going anyway. -It’s like how they say Billionaires kids have it the hardest. Which sounds crazy but makes sense - if you’ve got it all - what’s there to work for. And with very little struggles, how to you get strong and tough and independent? -Struggle makes us stronger. Bottom line. Here are ways working through a BAD DAY can build character: -Makes you more resourceful -Helps you prioritize and realize what matters most -More confident in your ability to weather the storms - it’s all about self esteem!! -Helps you stay grounded -Helps you to understand and help others

211. How To Be Awesome At Your Mid-Year Check-In Jul 01, 2022

We are exactly halfway through the year!

Lindsay likes the 2nd half of the year goal setting almost more than January 1st goal setting because it gives more of a tangible deadline. It’s hard to see a whole year forward but it’s not as hard to see 6 months forward.

So in this episode, we’re going a check-in. Where are we at, halfway through this year and where do we want to be at the end of the year?

Asking ourselves questions like…

What were your goals at the beginning of the year? Are they the same or have some things changed now? What are the things that you keep telling yourself you need to start but haven’t yet? What is something you for sure want to experience or accomplish before the end of the year? And what would make you feel the most proud of yourself?

Time goes FAST so let’s hit pause on life for a few minutes today to be honest with ourselves and intentional about how we spend the next 6 months so we don’t wake up on December 31 in the exact same place we are today. We can accomplish so much in 6 months. Let’s go!

-Let’s ask ourselves these questions!!

Journal it!

-What were your goals at the beginning of the year?

-Are they the same or have some things changed now?

-What are the things that you keep telling yourself you need to start but haven’t yet?

-What are some things that know you need to stop doing? Habits that aren’t serving you…

-What feels on balance and off balance with how you spend your time and your overall life priorities?

-What am I doing awesome at and what am I sucking at?

-What is bringing you the most JOY and the most stress?

-How is your own personal health?

-How is the health of your relationships?

-What is something you for sure want to experience or accomplish before the end of the year?

-What would make you feel the most proud of yourself?

Self esteem is everything.

-What is working with your day-to-day schedule and habits?

Let’s not just go through the motions!!! Let’s make sure we are spending our time and money doing things that make us happy and move us forward!

Don’t do this half way!! Spend the hour it takes to really be honest with yourself and plan. Awesome things will come from it… we promise!!

210. How To Be Awesome At Losing Numbing Habits Jun 28, 2022

What is your go-to activity when you want to cope with a stressing situation or procrastinate on doing something hard?

What do you do when you don’t want to be present in the moment? What distractions do you allow when you’re working with a task that is overwhelming or uncomfortable?

Most of us spend a good chunk of our life numbed. Doing things without intention that don’t really make us feel fulfilled (even if we sort of think they do in the moment)… leaving us feeling more anxious, sad, sometimes lonely and less motivated and certainly moving slower towards the goals we want to accomplish.

-Here are some examples..

Sugar, booze, hours scrolling on social media, busy being busy, online shopping, over-buying, hours spent binging TV.

These habits aren't necessarily bad… but if we engage in them too often OR we think that they make us happy but actually make us feel worse OR if we are using them to numb ourselves… it’s a problem!

Numbing habits are things we do to avoid, procrastinate or distract ourselves from really feeling the feelings we are feeling or doing the hard things that need to be done.

Today, we’re unpacking how we numb and how to undo these habits in a way that makes it last. So we can live very intentional and present lives.

-We don’t want to feel uncomfortable so we search out things that make us feel comfortable and allow us to procrastinate.

-We don’t want to risk rejection or failure so we avoid uncertain situations.

-We don’t want to be present in the moment so we distract ourselves scrolling on our phone.

-What if we faced this numbing habits head on- and found a way to not go back to them, ever.

-Most advice would be - delete the app, avoid social media for a month, etc. And while this could work for some, it doesn’t get to the ROOT of the issue.

-Here’s the tactical practical advice on this… feel all the feelings. Be honest with yourself about what you are avoiding, procrastinating on etc. So you can work through it and decide to not deal with it in the same way. Once you understand why you do it, it’s much easier to switch out that action with another one that actually serves you.

-Maybe something is uncomfortable or challenges you - Lindsay did this a ton in business. Rather than making the hard call or finishing the long report, she’d let it sit on her to do list and be busy staying busy- fully avoiding the hard and uncomfortable. Not moving forward in the way we should because we get ourselves stuck- stuck in avoiding. Avoiding risk of failure or rejection, so we don’t actually do the things. Procrastinate and distract instead.

-Let’s talk about more examples…

-Social media -many layers to this but comparing to others often and spending way more time than you want… just scrolling… looking for nothing in particular.

-Texting - great to connect with friends and family but also can be a huge time suck and addictive.

-Video games,TV & movies - often avoidance! And like social media- can make us compare our lives to the ones on TV and feel worse.

-Being busy-so busy you aren’t actually present. For this, it’s time to sit for 10 minutes and do nothing. Recenter, be present, feel the uncertainly, even if you feel like you should get up and do something, do nothing.

-addictions - booze, drugs, smoking, gambling, sugar - alllll ways to numb out feelings you don’t want to feel. You are triggered to go to these when you are stressed or sad or mad or tense… it’s a way not to feel it.

Comfort foods/ overeating - if it ends up making you feel worse, it’s not healthy.

Losing it/having a crazy moment - it’s like if you bang your elbow, you yell at the last person who slightly irritated you. Rather than losing it, lean into the insecurity or actual feeling. Rather than taking it out on someone else.

-You think… scrolling IG makes me feel happy.

-But if you’re spending 2-3 hours per night, actually it’s not helping you… it’s keeping you stuck and making you depressed. Less confidence and less motivated.

-Often we try to change the habits by saying these habits are bad I need to stop. I’m into sure this is sustainable. Rather than trying to change the behavior, let’s try to understand the role it plays in our life.

-Think about January 1st, people make resolutions… and most people stick to them for a few weeks at max and then go back to the regular ways.

-But they didn’t address the actual issue- like your numbing your work stress with alcohol, etc.

-WHY this is so important

SO much of the quality of our health comes down to lifestyle and environment.

Stress- emotional stress is REAL and it can make us sick like other things can. Emotional stress needs to be neutralized - that’s when we numb out with a bad habit.

-If we are honest with ourselves, we might see that we had a few extra glasses of wine or bars of chocolate to numb it.

-WAKING UP 90

What will you regret the least?

-Designing your life- not just going with the flow

As a kid- we are taught to stand in lines and not jump in muddy puddles.

-One other thing - we sometimes numb who we are so we dont stand out or to be seen as weird. Because we worry about the judgment of other people.

-PROCRASTINATIONS and DISTRACTONS

-Here’s the thing about when you refrain from running from your feelings. They are not comfortable, but they aren’t unbearable. You are stronger than you think. And the more you flex this muscle, the stronger it gets. Once you get comfortable being uncomfortable, you have more confidence and comfort. Physically change your state- go for a bike ride or a run, listen to loud music, you don’t have to sit in a dark room alone to feel the feelings, but you should

-It’s OK to feel sad, to feel stress. It’s one of the best forms of self love actually… to not reject your feelings and experience the presence.

Feel all the feelings, stop your numbing habits and really feel alive and present each day… that’s the goal!

209. How To Be Awesome At Loving Your People Hard Jun 24, 2022

Do your people really KNOW how you feel about them? Like do they know how much you love them and why you love them - all of it?

One of the biggest lessons learned in the last month is how important it is to LOVE YOUR PEOPLE HARD.

It’s just so easy to get caught up in routine and the daily to do’s and before you know it, the day is done and it’s time to sleep then do it all over again.

Sometimes that means slowing down and other times it means setting rules so you don’t miss the good stuff.

Lots and lots of ideas of how you can show your people love on the daily.

Lindsay talks about the changes she’s made in her life since her husbands health scare. One of the biggest- showing her people how much she loves them on the daily.

We only have so much energy in a day. And since we know… where attention goes, energy flows, we have to be super careful about what we spend our physical and mental energy on. Because time spent worrying about things that don’t really matter, take away from time spent on the important stuff.

It’s so easy to be frustrated and distracted - both things that take us further from the goal.

-Here is how Lindsay adds habit triggers:

Like the podcast tips on habits in general - put things out or stack them!

Like put things in the tray in the kitchen or in the bedroom - to remember to do it.

OR do it RIGHT AFTER something else. So it happens. This is a great way to actually change - and not stay the same. It’s hard to change your ways especially if you have done the same things for a long time. These are the BEST strategies for adding in more LOVE routines to your life.

-Here are the ways Lindsay does it:

10 minutes per kid each night before bed doing whatever it is that is best for them.

More physical! Hugs, taps, squeezes.

And THOUGHTFUL things.

Eye contact - being present. Knowing they are important.

We need more human touch because we are all online so much!

Saying no or cancelling plans when you need it.

Show appreciation

Be spontaneous

Celebrate what makes them unique

Compliments

Thoughtful gifts

Celebrate them! Birthdays or wins

Do activities they like

Take good care of them when they are sick

Movie night

Hold hands

Do a chore for them - like getting gas or picking up prescription, dry cleaning. Something you wouldn’t do normally.

-Ways people sent in!

Bring coffee

Phone call, text, say I love you.

1 on 1 time with each person

Date nights

Check in on them

Ordering something that will make life easier - new to go cup, key tile

Reflecting on the day at bedtime ex: I saw you were determined etc

Making coffee / tea each day

Buying favorite snacks/wine

Stop and hug my people, even when im busy

Call/text when they’re going through a rough time. Offer my time to help.

Random text when thinking of a friend

Lunch ones for kids and husband

Surprise fav drink or snack

Good night and good morning routines to start and end the day with love and gratitude

Pack healthy snack for office

Make them laugh, hide notes or a card

Listening to people

Being present when we are all together

Send texts to my teens wishing a good day and reminding I love you

Wellness check texts!

Watch their fav shoes instead of yours

Conversation cards on long trips - ask questions

Scratch hubby’s back while he brushes teeth

Be present - turn off phone

Cooking healthy food for them

Cook and bake for them

Serve hubby dessert with night meds in his chair

I try to do 1 on 1 things that fills their love language even if it is not the way I normally show love.

Randomly send friends a Starbucks gift card

Folding their laundry

Make sure they know how I feel on the regular

Always kiss my kids good night at every age

Organize husbands supplements

My hubby tucks in my sheets at night so I’m extra comfortable

CHEERS to loving your people HARD!

208. Living Through My Husbands Heart Stopping Jun 12, 2022

Lindsay tells the story of her husband going into cardiac arrest in the ICU a few weeks ago. So much packed into this episode that we think will be interesting and valuable to you.

Lindsay talks about these lessons learned (and more)…

-Family is amazing, the best!

And you can double that feeling by finding friends who become your family too.

-When it comes to your health and the health of those you love, you have to always ask questions and lean into how you feel. Not because anyone isn’t doing their best, but because everyone has their own set of experiences and you aren’t their only patient. Must listen to your body, and must keep pushing for answers and get more people involved if you aren’t moving in the right direction.

Go in to the doctors at the first sign of something weird, don’t wait.

-The little things don’t matter.

where attention goes, energy flows. Anytime anything annoying or negative came up, I told myself, nope, we don’t have the bandwidth for that. No attention goes there.

It’s amazing how powerful this is in protecting your mental headspace (which I’m all about).

-Positive thinking heals you faster.

When things were going downhill quickly last Thursday, I told all his doctors… we aren’t telling him anything he doesn’t need to know today. They were trying to figure out why his organs were failing quickly but as more bad news came in, I had them tell me, not him. Because if you are told you are getting worse, you believe it and your thoughts become that. But if you’re told you are on the path for healing, you believe that and that becomes your reality.

-Train daily to be tough.

I haven’t always been good under pressure but this time I was. And to be honest I’m proud of myself.

I’m proud that I didn’t crumble and was able to stay strong in the most heartbreaking moment I’ve ever been faced with… and to get the right people there to help him and then be ready to support him.

-You can control your thoughts.

As I’ve needed to really put on my big girl pants and be strong this week, I’ve realized how much you can actually control your thoughts. The minute I would get to where I could lose it totally I thought, we aren’t going to go there right now. And I stopped, no crying or replaying all of the what-ifs.

I still believe in feeling alllll the feelings and getting it all out (if you listen to my podcast you know this)… but I also know there’s a time that it can serve you and times when it doesn’t. When it’s a time that doesn’t, controlling your thoughts can be the most powerful thing.

-Love your people hard.

After each procedure and scan and episode, I hugged and kissed Craig so hard and told him how much I loved him. Over and over.

It made me think about doing this more. I never want to get too caught up in routine that I skip over kissing my peoples faces and hugging them and telling them how much they mean to me. Even if they already know ❤️

Answering questions!

-what did you tell the kids and how did they handle it?

-how did you take care of the kids?

-how can he prevent it from happening again?

-what were the warning signs?

-what gifts did friends give that were helpful or what did they do?

-how did you keep the emotional exhaustion from wiping you? I would be curled up in bed

-As an ICU nurse, I’d love to hear what you found helpful and not helpful with nurses

-what’s craigs long term prognosis

-How are you holding up?

-How you kept from falling apart when he was in the hospital

-Did you feel comfortable leaving him alone in the hospital?

-What heart irregularities was he born with?

-Have some wisdom for food in a crisis, I feel like you weren’t eating McDonalds.

-How much did you tell each of your kids and how did you keep your composure?

-Who took care of the kids during that time?

-How do you manage being strong for your kids while also being emotional and scared?

-How you advocate for him without seeming rude or overreactive?

-what is top strategy you used to stay calm and strong?

-How to navigate check-ups and hereditary stuff

-how do you balance taking care of kids, Craig and yourself during this time

-how do you not live in fear after?

-the initial stage when you aren’t sure whats happening and have to trust the doctors

-how to radiate down to earth positivity always but handle life when it gets so scary

-do you keep all the info organized in a book?

-how to balance internet research of it

-how can you have a plan in place for emergencies like this?

-What is his health plan moving forward?

CHEERS to your good health and happiness!

207. How To Be Awesome At Maximizing Your Party with a Pre or After-Party! May 20, 2022

It’s so much fun to throw a party… especially kids parties, but one downside is that it’s SO MUCH WORK to set-up, followed by the party- lots of fun but for a relatively short period of time, followed by the clean-up. It’s really easy after it’s over to feel bummed that it’s over or wonder if all of your hard work was worth it! I have 3 hacks for this. 1. Plan so that you ENJOY the party- not work the party- I did a podcast recently on this. 2. Make sure you get all the photos and videos that you want - so the fun memories live on forever. And 3. Maximize your party fun with a little pre-party and/or after-party. It’s so easy and literally doubles your fun from just the party- to a whole other experience. And the best part is - you do very little for it. The whole point is to enjoy the pre or post party set-up and enjoy in the party space. Today we’re talking all about adding a little party before or after your party so that you have double the fun, without much extra work. -Party planning has to be fun - you MUST enjoy the process!! WAYS TO DO IT!! Pre-parties -plan for food. -have people help you set-up for party - offer food and drinks - they will come. -ask how much to rent bounce house or ball bit for extra time- it’s usually not much more. -enjoy the party space and get helping hands in the set-up of it After-parties -great way to be sure all treats get eaten -pancake breakfast next morning -plan for food OR have vendors from main party make extra and pack it up to serve later. -use decor to keep the party going. -have a helper to pickup if your after party is right after. -have people stay later - or come back at night for party 2 (Lindsays fav). -if you have a kid party during the day, invite adults over at night- same party space, double the fun! You literally DOUBLE your FUN with very little cost and effort. This one is a MUST listen and a MUST do. CHEERS!

206. How To Be Awesome At Not Caring About Anything That Doesn’t Affect You May 16, 2022

Lindsay does podcast episodes often about focusing on what really matters and not letting the little things bother you… because she thinks that it is so important to realize that you have to protect your emotional health at all costs. When you go through stress and trama and drama… your body remembers it and keeps score, it takes a toll on you. So we just can’t let things in that don’t matter. ` This is of course often easier said than done so in this episode we get very clear on what matters to us and decide… if it doesn’t directly affect us… we aren’t going to give it our time, energy, attention or money. In order to reach next level happiness and fulfillment we must accept that is is our responsibility to consciously choose what we spend our time, energy and money on. If it doesn’t affect you, it’s out of our headspace. One exception - things that we should worry about as a citizen of our communities and of the world. Here are some examples of things we may spend way too much time on that don’t affect us: -other people’s relationships -what your ex is doing -deep diving into a reality stars life online and making it your personal mission to figure out who was unfaithful and who’s telling the truth -what other people are doing on their weekends- often FOMO or jealously -hurt feelings for not being invited to an event you didnt want to go to anyway -followers on social media -things - and comparing to what others have - it’s so easy to see someone else’s new bag and be like I NEED ONE- but do you really and do you care? -the royal family -Basically it’s things we can get fired up about OR spend lots of our time and attention on that don’t affect our lives! -The best thing about withdrawing your attention from things that don’t affect you is you have so much more TIME and headspace for cool new things. New ideas, time to call and spend time with family and friends, etc. -If you decide that Instagram is going to be a form of entertainment for you - and you are going to send a few minutes a day on it - rather than this sort of addiction that we let determine what gets our attention and what is important to us. -This is what we do now- decide we are withdrawing our attention from whatever it is that doesn’t affect us and is a waste of our bandwidth. It doesn’t matter anymore and we go focus on something that is actually important.

205. How To Be Awesome At Not Over-Protecting Our Kids May 06, 2022

This podcast episode may ruffle some feathers but hear us out on this. Over-protecting our kids can be one of the worst things we can do for them. But it’s our job right - to protect our kids. Protect our kids from harm... But… this has sort of overflowed into protecting our kids from being criticized by anyone, from bad grades, from a tough teacher or coach, from being outside alone… not only do they need these experiences to learn and grow… but they also need these experiences so they don’t grow up thinking they are the center of the world. In an over-protected situation, any discomfort is immediately handled for them and life resumes in their protected bubble. Our kids need to fail, they need to have conflicts so they learn how to resolve them… they need to be allowed to explore and try new things on their own because thats how they discover who they are - separate from us- their parents. We want our kids to be tough and confident and independent and happy - and even though it often feels like the way to do that is to protect them from EVERYTHING and get involved in every conflict… unless it really is a threat to them… I think we need to step back and let them learn through these very valuable life experiences that they need. Show notes! This podcast episode may ruffle some feathers but hear us out on this. Over-protecting our kids can be one of the worst things we can do for them. But it’s our job right - to protect our kids. Protect our kids from harm... But… this has sort of overflowed into protecting our kids from being criticized by anyone, from bad grades, from a tough teacher or coach, from being outside alone… not only do they need these experiences to learn and grow… but they also need these experiences so they don’t grow up thinking they are the center of the world. In an over-protected situation, any discomfort is immediately handled for them and life resumes in their protected bubble. Our kids need to fail, they need to have conflicts so they learn how to resolve them… they need to be allowed to explore and try new things on their own because thats how they discover who they are - separate from us- their parents. We want our kids to be tough and confident and independent and happy - and even though it often feels like the way to do that is to protect them from EVERYTHING and get involved in every conflict… unless it really is a threat to them… I think we need to step back and let them learn through these very valuable life experiences that they need. Here are some key points from this episode: -Why do we do it? It feels right! We see bad things on the news and we want to protect our kids. -Examples: getting involved in conflicts at school Calling parents over little things kids can work out Switching them out of a class with a tough teacher Managing their every minute so they don’t have to think or take care of themselves. Doing everything for them so they aren’t used to helping out. -Lindsay talks about where she has gone wrong and right in this. -Getting involved with conflicts with other kids. -“Saving” kids from a touch teacher or coach. -Keeping up with other families- it’s become a status symbol in a way. The more you protect your kid, the better you are doing as a parent. -Children need to fail- they need to have disagreements with their friends. This is how they learn. They need to get their feelings hurt because that is how they manage their relationships. -They need to have some freedom and some independence and be allowed to go outside or explore things that interest them. That’s how they become confident and figure out who they are. -They near a clear identity- separate from us- their parents. If they are our little princesses their whole lives.. they feel like the center of the universe. Like they can do no wrong and are perfect. It keeps them meshed with us - something that’s not healthy as they get older. -When we overly manage and coddle our kids.. they don’t get any of these skills. They don’t learn how to navigate someone with a bad attitude or a harsh teacher. They don’t learn how to cope with adversity or failure. -We have learned in these last few years that we have to be double and durable. We don’t know what life will throw our way and if we are weak, we crumble and can’t handle it. If we are constantly having to flex our grit muscles and our toughness muscles, we can handle turmoil in our lives much better. And that’s really the best gift we can give our kids. Happiness, independence, confidence and the life experiences to know how to manage all of it. CHEERS to protecting but not overprotecting our kids!

204. How To Be Awesome At Creating Your New Normal May 03, 2022

66% - adults say that they are unhappy. That’s 2/3 of people walking around. What!! If that’s normal - we don’t want normal- we don’t want to accept what’s normal. Today, we are taking about being different and not being afraid to do things differently. Getting out of routine. Routines can be great- but just the ones that serve us. Not the ones that we keep doing just because we’ve always done them. Lindsay says… "I always think… if I do what’s “normal” to me or just what feels normal in society… in 5 years I’ll end up in the same place that I’m at pretty much… which isn’t bad but I’m not here to just keep doing the same thing and be normal and wake up in 5 years without much progress. I know I can’t get better doing the exact same things over and over. We have to shake things up and challenge ourselves and create our new normal. Be open-minded and ambitious and don’t put invisible hurdles in front of ourselves! When I’m cheering a little too loud for my kids at a sporting event or a race they will often say to me…. Geeeez why can’t you be normal! And I smile and tell them the same thing every time… “I’m not here to be normal!” **Here are a few strategies we talk about! -Don’t stay in your lane and accept what’s normal - it’s not working! 66% people! You can’t do the same things everyone is doing. -You didn’t come here to play it safe. You have to look at things differently! -Live free - get over the fear of being embarrassed or fear or failure or judgment. -Breaking free of what we think is normal or society thinks is normal. -You can’t get better doing the same thing everyday. -It’s hard to introduce new things into your life. It’s hard you have to work for it. -We need to always be asking - how can I upgrade my system. -You might listen to a podcast with a great idea and try it- if it works - try it and if it works- add it into your routine. -Use virtual mentors for this! Pick people to listen to that are what you need and are the type of people you can look up to - pick carefully! -We often settle on where we are in life. -And we get stuck to believing where we are at is our normal. -We shouldn’t assume this is how it has to be or will always be! -Lindsay shares some of her new normals: Cold showers are the new normal Running 5 miles is the new normal Going to sleep by 10pm and up at 5am is the new normal -You create all this normal! -Shake it up if it’s not working for you!! Don’t accept that this is how it needs to be. -There isn’t one way to do things! Create your own way! **Some hacks!! -Write down your goals and make short term goals. Remember you just need one good idea. And you’ll probably have hundreds of bad ones. -Work backwards. Get your goal and write out the steps to get there - backwards. -Sometimes you have to work 10x as hard to be different and better. -Break out of routine and have less structure to your days. Freedom can lead to new ideas and creativity and spontaneous adventures. -If you get a list of how to train for a sport- double it. You know what everyone else is doing.. you have the list. But if you double it - you’ll be that much better than your competition. That’s how you stand out. If you follow the plan that everyone is following you’ll be in the same shape as everyone else. **Here’s why!! -We are here once! -Who cares what other people think! -What’s the worst that can happen?? CHEERS to your new normal!!

203. How To Be Awesome At Parties - Splurge VS Save! Apr 30, 2022

One challenge with throwing an awesome party is making it awesome without spending a fortune. Today’s podcast is all about how to decide what’s worth the splurge and what’s better to save on. Lindsay is sharing her process of party planning and budgeting that all starts with one big brain dump. A full list of all the ideas of food and activities, rentals, entertainment… every idea goes on the list. Then get quotes for everything. From there, we decide. First, remove anything that’s way too much or figure out an alternate plan if it’s something that’s essential. Then, pick what’s most important to you and what you think will make the biggest impact on the party and the overall experience. There are SO many creative ways to make a party really special, without costing a lot… if you plan ahead of time and are strategic about it. -Don’t think of awesome parties as not an option because of budget! It’s all about creative thinking and advanced planning! The process -Start with a brain dump - if the party is for someone else - make sure you get their input! -Get quotes on everything - before you make any decisions. -Pick what’s most important to you and what you think will make the biggest impact on the party and the overall experience. -Remove anything that’s way too much. -Buy things that you will reuse OR things that are the same cost as renting. -It’s so much easier to throw a few parties a year if you own some stuff- cake stands etc. Know that all this is easier if you start ahead of time. If you are doing it last minute - it’s possible but you’re going to pay more! Overnight shipping, rush orders, etc. Food- make your own, get catering, have a vendor there. Food truck or food stand Pre-made or made on the spot. Ask all the questions! Have everyone bring a dish to save money if it’s that type of thing! Activities - get ideas online then set-up yourself Have helpers instead of hiring a company Worth the SPLURGE - if it’s a very specific company that does it in a special way Example: Gaming truck, caricature artist, paint class, cake decorating class. Decor- Balloons are essential - do your own, have some delivered, hire an artist. When to do each. If going for sheer volume, deliver and arranging them yourself. If the dessert table is your fav part and needs to be the most awesome - splurge- but just for that part. Signs- Make all your own, have some made on Etsy, have them all made on Etsy BUY - signs! Chalkboard signs, neon signs Adult party ideas- Wine tasting, champagne tasting, food tasting. DIY Start setting up a few days ahead of time so you can craft yourself and you don’t have to pay for things to be made for you. We hope you got LOTS of ideas what to splurge on and what to save on for your next party!!

202. How To Be Awesome At Knowing “This Is Just A Moment” Apr 22, 2022

Lindsay says…”I've learned to really hold on to 5 words in many situations. And the interesting thing about it is, I use the same 5 words in difficult life moments and in the very best life moments." Those words are… this is just a moment. When it’s an amazing life experience or phase of your life, it’s the best reminder to soak it all in, feel all the feelings and really be where your feet are. Because this is just a moment and it won’t last forever. And when it’s a super challenging time of life, or really bad day or a time when you’re dealing with grief and sadness, those same 5 words can help so much. This is just a moment. The pain you feel now, you won’t feel forever. You might replace the word moment with phase or period of time in life depending on the situation but the message is the same. It’s a moment in time, and it won’t last forever. We love something that is easy to remember - something that pops into your mind when you’re in a situation or a phase or feel like you’re at rock bottom or feel like you’ve never been happier and you’re on top of the world. If it’s good, breathe it in, live in it. If it’s not, know that things get better with time and this too shall pass. This is just a moment. Let’s go! A few points Lindsay talks about: -We know this about time - it keeps passing, no matter what we do. **If it’s not a particularly great phase or situation… ** -If you can hang on, soon enough, it will be different. -Let’s talk about ways this comes into our lives. -Hard phases with kids - a toddler who won’t sleep for example. -Feels like you will never be out of that phase, and then you wake up one day, and you are in fact, out of that phase. That period of time that was painful and felt like it would never end, actually ended. And often looking back, it wasn’t as painful as we thought. -Picture yourself on the other side of it. -When do you picture you’re be out of it? -Time heals things!! -Or if it’s irritating things! A terrible meal at a restaurant Traffic!! -Helps to have more patience -like with a slow moving grocery clerk -or aging parents -or kids who won’t.get.in.the.car! **If it’s a great phase or situation… ** -BE WHERE YOUR FEET ARE! -Whatever that moment is for you - a super high high. Maybe it’s on vacation at a magical place. Or running a mile further than you’ve ever run before. Or reconnecting with someone you thought you wouldn’t connect with again and mending a friendship and now you have that special person back in your life. -Breathe it in. Take an actual picture, take a mental picture. -Snuggling newborn babies -beach days - seasons - enjoy it while you can - it is just a moment -what can you do to savor things now? -take a trip alone with one of your kids - one day they will be at college and you won’t have the same opportunity. -This may sound sad but it’s healthy and realistic. Nothing is permanent. -This allows us to get through hard or unpleasant things. And really enjoy the awesome things, which also makes the tough times easier to get through. I think when you really LIVE in those high highs, you don’t get depressed or quite as down when things aren’t going your way. CHEERS to making the best of the phase and situation you’re in. Because we know, it’s just a moment.

201. How To Be Awesome At Hosting A Party And Enjoying It Too Apr 19, 2022

How to host a party or gathering and really enjoy it too! Tips that work for kids parties and adults parties… or small get togethers or parties on a bigger scale. You put so much into creating a fun party experience for you and your guests… once the party starts… you need to be in FUN mode… not execution mode. This podcast episode is filled with lots and lots of ideas of how to do that. So you aren’t worried about getting the right pictures or picking up the dirty plates when people are done or running around trying to fix the music that’s not playing like it’s supposed to be. We are talking about creative ways to have so many of these things handled ahead of time or during the party - but by other people! So you are free to enjoy your guests and have the best time. Also thinking of all the little details ahead of time - any food allergies you need to accommodate for, where the candles and lighter will be if it’s a birthday, having a signature drink or cocktail ready so everyone gets a first refreshment quickly. Anything that could send you on a mission to solve on the day of the party - we are going to work on ahead of time instead. What’s worth spending a little extra on and ways you can save are key too. Here are some of the key points mentioned: -Walk yourself through the entire day of the event - from getting ready until the last guest leaves. -Consider getting your hair and make-up done. -Have people doing the things you would be doing! Picking up dirty plates, refilling TP in the bathroom, offering people drinks etc. -Have someone in charge of photos - so you don’t wake-up without the photos you wanted from your special event. And that way you don’t have to be in charge of managing it. Have a “shot list” made ahead of time. Pay someone or have a friend do it. -Make sure your tech is working! Music, etc. -Have a signature cocktail and consider a bartender. -Know anyones diet restrictions -Have things for the kids to do! -Get drinks/ice ready ahead of time. And candles and lighter! -Set-up as much as you can day before - anything that’s not perishable food -Pay a little extra to have rentals delivered a day early! This way you can take your time to design and set-up everything and you aren’t dashing at the last minute. -Add an activity - for adult parties too! Or even one everyone can do! Like a characiture artist etc. Have things for people to DO! -Have helpers to pick up things! -Have some healthy options for food. -Have to-go containers out and ready if you’re going to send people with food! -Make sure you have enough sitting room - standing room. -Have a snack station - for an app or for after party bites -something will go wrong- let it go!! Be like ELSA! 😅 CHEERS to hosting a party AND enjoying it too!!

200. How To Be Awesome At Getting More Done with 90% Mindset Apr 10, 2022

Lindsay says... "I have to tell myself all the time - the goal here is 90%, not 100%. Which may sound backwards… in fact I want to give 110% to everything I do… but the reality is that when you shoot for 100 or 110%… you can’t get to as many things and often never actually get the things done. This feels very off brand to me, I have to be honest, but I really wanted to do this podcast because it’s something I wish I would have learned years ago. Know when it’s a project that is best with 90% effort so it gets done and on time or when you want it done and you can move on to the next. In business and in life, some things I really wanted just timed out on me… it felt like such a big project and I wanted to do it soooo thoroughly that I never had time (made time) for what felt like a monster project. And other times when I took something of the same scale, told myself I was going to get it done the best I could in four hours, it was great, and it was done. I think there is so much power in knowing when 90% effort is the best in certain situations. That’s what we’re talking about today… let’s go!" A few key points: -90% and done is way way better than shooting for 100% and never getting to it. You can get so many more things done and have so much more free time when you give full energy to things, but are happy with 90%. -When something gets too hard- know when to jump ship on the idea. -Ask yourself, now that this has gotten complicated, is it worth it? I find that usually not and I make a new plan. To you it’s 90% but not to anyone else. -Be willing to change your idea!! -So you don’t waste time OR money. -Say you’re shopping for a gift for a friend and it’s killing you, you can’t find exactly what you want.. know when to call it! -Doing things this way gives you DOWN TIME. You don’t need to be working all the time! Now you have time to get outside and do the things you love and come back refreshed. -Stop multitasking! Do one thing and move on. It can be a way to procrastinate! -We have to stop necking our notifications like a drug. -Solution - put phone on other side of the room, silence notifications. -Start your day right- don’t check email and social first thing in the day. -Write out your list ahead of time, night before or for the week. -Don’t over commit- you might have to say no. -Productivity is about accomplishing your highest priorities, effectively and efficiently. -Know your first few hours of the day are your best and most sharp and productive. -For huge tasks, write down in pieces, not in a huge chunk on your to do list or it will never get touched. -Create time limits!! That’s it - must be done in 30 mins or 3 hours etc. -Sometimes it’s better to pay someone to do it - if you don’t like doing it or it will take you a long time or it’s cheaper to pay for it than your time figuring it out. -Also- stop caring so much about things that don't matter. Know whats important to you and your life priorities- and don’t sweat (or spend too much time on) the rest! Sometimes 90% and DONE is way more awesome than 110%!! This podcast goes through all of it!

199. How To Be Awesome At Starting A New Chapter In Your Life Mar 31, 2022

We all go through different ages and stages of life…

Whether the changes feel like they were your choice or not… Or they feel more positive or negative…

They all have something in common… They push us into a new chapter. A new chapter that we can design ourselves.

The goal of this podcast is to empower you when you’re entering a new phase in life. To approach with with clear intensions and without holding onto anything you don’t need from the previous chapters.

You’re writing your own story, and if you don’t like any part of it, the coolest part is you can start a new chapter anytime you want.

-Why start a new chapter?

Maybe you are forced to

Or you realize you are living too much in routine

Or you know you need to for your health

-Maybe you have grown kids who are moving out or moving away to college… Maybe you lost your job during Covid…

Or you aren’t living a healthy lifestyle and you want to

-Types of ways to reinvent yourself...

Work change

Fitness change

Nutrition change

Clear out physical clutter

Clear out emotional clutter

-Let’s talk about why it’s hard…

Change is hard

You don't know what the new chapter looks like

But you do know what you will be losing

-Let’s talk about some steps to get you there.

Get uncomfortable

Set small goals

-Why its essential

Because you don't want to have any regrets at 90

We are here one time - you cant stay in a job you hate for the insurance benefits or because it makes someone else proud of you

-Other episode to listen to: How To Be Awesome At Doing What You Should Do

-Do more of what you like - with the people you want to do it with- as many hours as possible. That’s the goal.

-Figuring things out is a forever game - you don’t have to know at a certain age and it will change!

-Stop looking backwards - your past doesn’t determine your future.

Stop dwelling on your losses that are holding you back! It’s over, move on! Be like Elsa and let it go!

-Whatever you want to do is absolutely possible… the question is… how hard are you willing to work for it?

-Often times people think they are lazy or tired- I just think you might not love what you are doing.

-Sometimes you just have to be patient.

-You down have to see the whole staircase… just the next step.

-There is so much power in knowing you are in control of everything. Someone in your life sucks or are negative? Limit them!!!

-You’ll never know what the alternative would have been. You pick one and you never ever ever even consider to look back.

-It’s all about what will you have the least regret about?

Cheers to your next chapter!

198. How To Be Awesome At Giving People The Benefit Of A Doubt Mar 25, 2022

Lindsay tells the story… "This past weekend as we were leaving a mother daughter luncheon, I was bending down to pickup all the things my girls had collected through the day and I looked up to see 3 moms looking at me then turn away quickly. I was like that was crazy- they were clearly talking about me… so I processed for a second and picked up the rest of my things and turned to go and the same thing happened again. They all sort of had the same nervous look and looked away real quick- no smiles… I was oh my gosh again, what were they saying about me?? And then I took a breath and as hard as it is in that moment, I thought, maybe they were saying something nice. And if they weren’t, it’s their issue, not mine. My husband first taught me this years ago when a similar thing happened when we were walking to dinner together and he’s like, maybe they like your shoes. And I was like… uh, did you see their look, I don’t thinkkkk so. But here’s the thing… if you’re not going to go up and ask them and even if you do, you’ll likely never know what they were saying. So your option is to accept that they were talking badly about you and spend the rest of the day talking about it and contemplating what they could be saying- my dress was too tight or who knows. OR, you can decide, I’m going to give them the benefit of the doubt and assume they were saying something nice OR they weren’t and it’s there issue not mine." Because we know… you can’t control what happens to you but you can control how you react to it and how you interpret it. -We are talking about giving people the benefit of the doubt in this episode. -Have you ever had anything like this happen? We immediately think of our insecurities and decide that MUST be what they are talking about. We will never know! -When this happens - it can go one of 2 ways!! -Giving people the benefit of the doubt does 2 things- makes you walk around the world thinking people are good -And in those moments when they aren’t … maybe they have some crazy stuff going on! -And if thats not the case- then how sad that they have to go home and live with it. Or they haven’t been able to work through their issues yet. Whatever it is! Jealousy or insecurity … -Same with comments in social media -You must protect your headspace! You CHOOSE if you let it in or not! Giving people the benefit of the doubt is as much for you as it is for them. We hope this podcast inspires you next time you’re in a situation like this to give them the benefit of a doubt and protect your headspace. CHEERS!

197. The story of how I sold my company. Mar 21, 2022

Lindsay sold her company!! We are so excited for her and for this podcast where she shares her journey starting, building and selling her company, Million Dollar Tan. Listen in for interesting and inspiring stories about Lindsay’s journey as an entrepreneur and why she decided to sell her business.

196. How To Be Awesome At Approaching Conflict With Ashley Bello Mar 18, 2022

Today’s podcast is about something some of us shy away from… and others of us charge towards… it’s all about conflict. What to do when a conflict comes up. How do you decide if it’s a battle worth picking? How do you start the conversation? How do you make sure it doesn’t end up in a disaster? Today, Lindsay has her friend Ashley Bello on the podcast because she is incredible at dealing with conflict. Like, the best at it. She’s straightforward and direct and stands up for what’s right… but is also the coolest and sweetest girl ever. Lindsay wants to understand more about how she thinks about conflict and manages to address tricky situations head-on, but still comes out of it not being labeled a word that starts with a B. If you are someone that tends to avoid conflict, lean in here because we’re about to change all that. We’re talking about how freeing and awesome it is to approach conflict in the healthiest way possible and how to stand up for yourself or people you love or just stand up for what’s right. Lindsay has 2 strategies: First, decide if it’s really worth it- or is it something you just need to let go of? Next, decide clearly and rationally what you would like to get out of it. What’s the best possible result at the end of it? Then work backwards. How do you decide if it’s a battle worth picking? How do you start the conversation? How do you make sure it doesn’t end up in a disaster? Ashely shares so many tips about how to take a beat before you respond to someone. How to have real confidence so you can approach a situation in a strong way. Never text or email to resolve a conflict. Know that sometimes time solves many things and brings clarity. How to deal with kid bullies and adult bullies. And what Ashley wishes she knew when she was 20. And LOTS of questions that came in from social media! This podcast is a must listen to so you are ready the next time a conflict comes up. CHEERS to approaching conflict in the healthiest way possible!

195. How To Be Awesome At Giving Thoughtful Gifts Under $20 Mar 09, 2022

Twenty Awesome Ways To Be Thoughtful Under $20! We often think that we don’t have the time or money to do something super thoughtful for someone in our lives. But if we think creatively and ahead of time…we will think we will realize more often than not that we can make someone we care about feel loved and appreciated with not a ton of money or time spent. In this podcast Lindsay is sharing 20 of her favorite ways to show thoughtfulness and make someone’s day. -Let's think outside a flower arrangement and a bottle of wine or a candle! All are nice gifts but we can do better! And more memorable -These are all under $20 but also aren’t HARD! If we all had endless time and money we could put together these gorgeous massive gift baskets with one of each of the persons favorite things but that’s just not realistic - most of the time. -The key: shows it’s thoughtful and personal to them and shows effort. Is the unexpected! -For who? Friends, family, kids, teachers, doctors… anyone you think about and are grateful for!! So here are some ideas!! -Frame a picture of the person you love! -Make them a photo book -Drop something off at someones door! -Love notes! -Add a creative note to small item to give it more value Example: Sorry I sucked! -Fill in the blank book! Best! “I wrote a book about you” -Mug with a cute saying that speaks to them with something inside. -Plant gift - love trader joes or nursery -Personalized item on Etsy - search “personalized” then something they are into. For Lindsay - personalized hearts - and see what you find -Cookbook or book with post it notes from you!!! -Solve a problem in their lives! Like a supplement pill holder. Or a cool agenda book if they want to be organized! -Skincare products - maybe you know your spouse wants to wear SPF daily but hasn’t found one they like… buy 2 to try out. -Games! Family games or airplane games if someone is traveling. Passport cover if you’re saying have a great trip. -A treat! Or a healthy treat! Know your audience! -A few of your favorite things - with a note- “I love these things the most and I think you will too”. Your favorite coffee mixer, -Make them a little kit!! Purse essentials or car essentials with little tools. -Cute hair clips or ties in a bathroom container - Home Goods is great for this. -Something for changing seasons - cozy socks for winter - snowman kit for their kids playing in the snow, succulence plants for spring, fresh veggies bag for spring! -Planning is key!!! Write it down so next time you are out cruising… you think of it… and not the morning before! -Remember important dates -Keep a running list of gift ideas SO MANY ways to give thoughtful gifts on the daily that don’t cost a lot of money or time. Hope this podcast gives you lots of ideas!

194. How To Be Awesome At Maximizing Your Car/Commute Time Mar 04, 2022

Today’s podcast is about maximizing our time! Specifically in the car. To do lists feel never ending and the days feel so short… it’s hard. What we’ve learned is the more intentional we are about everything we do… the more progress we have towards our goals and the more fulfilled we are on the daily and in the long term. Now this is not to say you have to be fully productive every time you get in the car. The opposite actually - maybe you need to decompress in silence during your drive… or get your mood going with your favorite loud music… or if someone is in the car with you, spend real non-distracted moments with them (well except for the driving part). The goal of this podcast is to think of your driving time not just as dead time in your day as you get from one place to another… but rather time when you can make forward motion on things. Anything that makes you feel good that is intentional, rather than running on autopilot through your day. Some days we spend so much in the car or commuting - it feels impossible to get anything else done. -Disclaimer- obviously don’t drive and do things unsafely. -Write on your list night before - what podcast are you going to listen to. Rather than staying up late and listen in bed- send it to yourself and save for the next day. -So this is how car or commute time comes into this… as you’re writing your to do list the night before… have a little column for “car time.” Maybe its calls you can do (safely) while driving to either be productive or check in with someone you love. Maybe you know you’ll be driving with your spouse or kids and want to figure out something like what someone wants for their birthday or what sounds fun to do this weekend. -Saves you that last minute scramble. -The more organized your lists are - the easier this will be. -Pick things that are idle - listen to a podcast - long calls etc. CHEERS to making the most out of your day!!

193. How To Be Awesome At Burning Calories During Non-Workout Times Mar 02, 2022

We usually think about our daily movement and calorie burn in terms of our workouts. How often we workout, what types of workouts, how intensely… but the truth is…. we burn more calories throughout the day than during our actual workout times. We often think of activity as in - did you work out today or not. But Lindsay thinks we should think about it more like… how much did you move your body today overall. We’re talking about enjoyable (not painful) ways to get in some extra movement. It’s not only good for your body and your overall health and longevity… it’s so good for your mental health. Our goal in this episode is to give you lots of ideas of how to sneak in some extra movement so the next time you go to sit to do something… you’ll do it while walking or you sit to wait for 20 minutes, you’ll consider something active instead. It’s so good for you and it’s fun! If you can’t make it to the gym- don’t count that day as a loss! You can still get movement in! The benefits are endless- sleep better and feel better and happier! TIPS!! -Wear ankle weights around the house! (Or out if you dare!) -Focus on the daily - doesn’t need this big overall plan. -While your kids do an activity - you do too! -Walk after meals -Lean into days when you have more energy -If you have a desk job, set an alarm and take breaks, walk around. Or standing desk or balance ball! -Wear running shoes when you can (and clothes!) -Keep supplies handy (weights in your car) -Park farther away -Take the stairs -Short workouts when you can - 50 squats when taking your dog out -Do active weekend activities - go bowling!! Or mini golf! -Walk and talk!! -Play WITH your kids instead of watching them -Adventure on the weekends - hikes etc. Plan ahead of time! -Do something on phone calls -Stretch before bed… so good for flexibly and less likely to raid the pantry! The little things you do daily add up!! It’s all about momentum and moving your body when you can! Check out Lindsay’s Instagram @LindsaysCloud for links to her favorite products mentioned! CHEERS to your most active awesome self!

192. Ten MORE Ways To Be More Awesome Feb 25, 2022

Ten ways to be more awesome- part 2! Here are 10 more ways we can all be more awesome! 1. Lean into what feels right. 2. When you want to quit, do one more. 3. Chip away at your goals everyday. 4. Train yourself to only give a fuck about a few things. 5. Go the extra mile for people without expecting anything in return. 6. Change up your routine so you don’t get in a rut. 7. Do something hard everyday. 8. Eliminate the stuff you don’t need in your life so you feel freedom -physically and mentally. 9. Be willing to take chances. 10. Be known for something. -Normal is boring. And you can’t get better doing the same things over and over. That’s why we are constantly striving to be better, do better and be more awesome. So many ideas of how to get there today. -Lean into what feels right. Trust your gut. If you go against your gut, you rarely win. Speak up when something feels off. Oprah says,”Trust your instincts. Your intuition doesn’t lie." -When you want to quit, do one more. It creates and environment in your head that you always go the extra yard. It’s one extra sales email each day… it’s some more rep in the gym. It’s a tiny bit each day but adds up to a lot over the year. -Chip away at your goals everyday. No zero days. Even if your goals seem so big and the tasks seem endless, keep making progress each day. -Train yourself to only give a fuck about a few things You know Lindsays favorite book by now. Even if your instinct is to care, think quick about if it really matters -Go the extra mile for people without expecting anything in return Support in the bad times, celebrate in the good times. Remember important things, days, events, appointments. Connect people that could benefit from it. Do more than what’s expected- give a little more effort- that’s the bar to set. -Change up your routine so you don’t get in a rut Make an effort to mix it up. Try new foods, drive new ways, listen to a new podcast. -Do something hard everyday. It makes you proud of yourself and build momentum to help you overcome hurdles. -Eliminate the stuff you don’t need in your life so you feel freedom -physically and mentally Purge purge purge to feel more awesome everyday. Clear mind and space. -Be willing to take chances. Easy is boring, most people pick easy. Don’t be afraid of judgement or failure, it happens to everyone. And at least you’re putting yourself in the ring. -Be known for something. It makes you unique. What’s your thing? It could be a food you make or something you wear. We hope these tips give you all sorts of ideas of how to wake up and live fully everyday. Strive to be happier and more awesome! Thank you for listening!

191. Ten Ways To Be More Awesome Feb 20, 2022

Ten ways to be more awesome! 1. Follow-up on everything you do. 2. Be where your feet are. 3. Do the unexpected. 4. Don’t look out the back window. 5. Face what’s off in your life and approach it head on. 6. Have less structure in your life where possible. 7. Remember tomorrow. 8. Allow pointless stress to roll off your back like water off a ducks back. 9. Make things exciting and have enthusiasm. 10. Be willing to try harder than anyone else. We’re talking through all these ways to be happier, take your life to the next level and overall just be more awesome. Let’s go! -Follow-up on everything you do. Even if it’s not the outcome you wanted -Be where your feet are You’re there, even if you didn’t want to be. Be present Because how you do anything is how you do everything -Do the unexpected Be creative Surprise people The unexpected is what’s memorable. -Don’t look out the back window. That is old news. You can’t change it. Good or bad- check the box and move on. Focus on the road ahead. Time spent otherwise is wasted. -Face what’s off in your life and approach it head on. We tend to do things that make us happy, while avoiding the things we need to fix. When you know something is off in your life, or maybe totally broken… FIX IT. Confront it head on and work to correct it. Often we avoid and it gets worse. -Give yourself space to have new ideas and write them in your ideas book. Most will be bad or ones that you won’t do anything with - but it just takes one good one. Must write them down. -Have less structure in your life where possible. You likely have more freedom and flexibility than you think. Get out and do things outside of your normal set schedule. Embrace spontaneity and be open-minded. -Remember tomorrow. When you have a split second decision to make, think of how that decision will make you feel tomorrow. Skipping a workout, being unfaithful in your relationship, lying to someone, drinking too much. -Allow pointless stress to roll off your back like water off a ducks back. -Make things exciting and have enthusiasm. Instead of saying “I have to”… say “I get to”… when you think of things in this way they feel more like part of the process and less like chores. -Be willing to try harder than anyone else. If you do the same thing as everyone else, you will get the same results as everyone else. Will Smith says “ The only thing that I see that is distinctly different about me is I'm not afraid to die on a treadmill. I will not be out-worked, period. You might have more talent than me, you might be smarter than me, you might be sexier than me, you might be all of those things you got it on me in nine categories. But if we get on the treadmill together, there's two things: You're getting off first, or I'm going to die. It's really that simple, right? You're not going to out-work me. It's such a simple, basic concept. The guy who is willing to hustle the most is going to be the guy that just gets that loose ball. The majority of people who aren't getting the places they want or aren't achieving the things that they want in this business is strictly based on hustle. It's strictly based on being out-worked; it's strictly based on missing crucial opportunities. I say all the time if you stay ready, you ain't gotta get ready. CHEERS to striving to be more awesome everyday!

190. How To Be Awesome At Creating A Positive Home Vibe Feb 16, 2022

Today we are talking about the vibe in your home- that overall feeling and energy that you create that’s so important. Whether you live by yourself or with lots of people, we are going through my list of physical and emotional things that we think you should consider when it comes to creating a home with a really positive and non-stressing feeling. This is one of those things that is easy to not really notice and then one day it hits you and you’re like ok this is not good. Maybe you have so much clutter around that it never feels like you’re coming home to your happy place- which by the way, should be the goal with all of this. Maybe you are stuck in a routine that is hurried and stressing and that ends up being the tone of the home. The energy around us is just so important. And most of us spend more time at home than anywhere else, plus it’s the place where we can have the most control of how it feels. We're creating positive homes vibe today. Let’s go! 2 ways!! Physically and emotionally The physical... -Natural sunlight -Get rid of clutter -Open the windows -Keep things that make you happy around -Plants or flowers (real or faux) -Light candles & make sure it smells good -Make your bed -Have sentimental things around -Have a few positive reminders around too! -Less news, more music The emotional... -Reduce the stress- period. Figure out a way to. -Use positive words -Laugh and smile more -Live in the moment - have a healthy relationship with tech at home - especially in the evenings -Think outside the box of ways to make your family vibe cool on the weekend coming up -Invite positive people over! -Plan for spontaneous moments -Think of what would make this really feel like your happy place (and anyone else that lives with you) like a HUGE breath of fresh air after a long day. What does THAT feel like? -When the energy is off.. hack it! Change up the routine -Have healthy foods in the fridge (you feel good when you eat good) -If you are the leader (or one of the leaders) in your house- make sure you make time for yourself so you can show up happy for everyone else. -Treat others well- have a no gossip rule. It may be tempting - but why - envy and jealousy - which it likely is in some way- creates negative energy - the opposite of our goal here. The environment in your home is just so important. It’s like the lens you see things through, all day out in the world. Let’s work to make it positive and happy.

189. How To Be Awesome At Taking Time For You, So You Don’t Have Resentment Feb 07, 2022

We are SO busy. There is always something to do - what feels like endless to do lists. We are often giving so much of ourselves to other people and your chores and your job. If you don’t get in those things that make you happy - what you are left with is not great - it’s called resentment. Resentment towards your kids, your boss, your spouse or significant other, your family… because you feel like you are constantly giving giving giving to one of more of these… without giving yourself what you need. Plus - we have very little downtime these days. Social media is a 24/7 thing and we’re getting pinged with texted and emails non-stop. In this episode, we are talking about making it a priority - and a non-negotiable one - to be by yourself and get in those things that make you oh so happy. So your cup is nice and full and you can give your full energy to your work and those you love, and feel great about it. Here are some things Lindsay talks about… -Resentment. Let’s define it - a feeling of anger or displeasure about someone or something unfair In this case, it’s like bitterness because things are off balance -You might not even realize you’re feeling resentful. Maybe your baby was up all night so you had to skip your morning workout - something that your baby didn’t do intentionally. Or maybe you’re saying yes to too many things at work so you get home late and feel like you have no life of your own then you wake up and do it all over again - so you’re resentful to your boss. -Maybe you aren’t asking for what you need from your spouse so naturally they aren’t doing it - and you feel resentful because he goes and had a beer after work with his buddies and you don’t have the luxury to go out with your friends - heck some days you’re lucky to get a shower in by noon. This is your sign to change things - rather than allow yourself to have resentment. -Know what makes you happy and make sure you get it in. -And if someone tells you that you can’t get what you need - tread carefully - but realize that you have to figure out a way - or you’ll have double resentment. -For family relationships- give them the space to get in their 10’s and they are much more likely to do the same for you. -Don’t let people take too much of you or your time - it doesn’t benefit anyone in the long run. -When you are resentful -put your energy towards getting a new plan going - rather than lashing out on them. -It also gives you more patience!! -So we are so busssssy doing all the things… Question- Just because you are busy… does that mean you are being effective or efficient with your time? -Spending time alone… you get a chance to give your brain a break. Like any other muscle, your brain needs a break! You can concentrate better and help you stay focused on your priorities. Turn your phone off and spend some time alone. -It’s amazing how clear solutions to your problems come to you when you focus on them without distractions. -Also- it’s easier to have a clear focus on who you are and what’s important to you. Not just keep your mind constantly entertained- filling every free moment with scrolling or texting or emailing. This is the mind reset you need -What makes you happy? -What gives you joy? -What are you good at? -How you spend your time, your energy and your money says whats important to you. -You cannot pour from an empty cup. -If you are not giving to yourself - you can’t give to others. You can’t give what you don’t have. -Nobody is too busy- it’s just a matter of priorities -Other ideas of how to take time for yourself… cook a meal for yourself… read a book… exercise… plan travel… take a hike… listen to your fav music… make a list of goals. We have to know what makes us happy and make sure we get it in, so we have patience when the day goes sideways and don’t have resentment towards people in our lives. CHEERS to the things you do for YOU, to have a healthy life balance (free from resentment)!

188. How To Be Awesome At Realizing You Can’t Make A Person Change Feb 04, 2022

We’ve all had someone… or several people in our lives that we think… my gosh if they would just stop doing this… or start doing that… it would all change. And that’s what they need… and then we try to change them. We see it so clearly so often we do things like… Offer them unsolicited tips and advice Overly compliment them so they feel good Or maybe you tough love them and really tell them brutally honestly what you think is best for them. The problem is… even if you have the very best intentions, you can’t make someone do something, even if it’s for their own good because it requires intervening in their life in a way that often damages the relationship more than it helps. We know that for a person to truly change, they must feel like the change is theirs. They made the decision and they control it, that’s the only way it works. In this episode we are talking about what you can do to inspire change instead of actively trying to change someone. Here are some of the things Lindsay talks about in this episode… It’s so hard to see someone mess up over and over. Or make bad choices or If only they would get their shit together, they would be so much happier. Here’s the bottom line:

You can’t make somebody change. You can inspire them to change. You can educate them towards change. You can support them in their change.

But you can’t make them change. It’s stepping on their toes and can hurt your relationship more than help them. Even if you have good intentions.

For a person to truly change, they must feel that the change is theirs, that they chose it, they control it. Otherwise, it loses all its effect.

This is especially important for people who have survived trauma or abuse. Here are a few ways you can help people… 1. Lead by example - show with your actions rather than advice. 2. Ask questions, good ones! 3. Offer Help Unconditionally Ultimately, we are each only capable of changing ourselves. Here’s the bottom line:

You can’t make somebody change. You can inspire them to change. You can educate them towards change. You can support them in their change.

XOXO

187. My Time At The Playboy Mansion And What It Taught Me Jan 27, 2022

In this episode, Lindsay talks all about her experiences at the Playboy Mansion.

What it was really like… the big parties… the Sunday pool parties… and what she thinks about the new documentary about Playboy.

Interesting stories and life lessons in this one!

186. How To Be Awesome At Building Grit Jan 21, 2022

On a scale of 1-10, what would you say is your level of GRIT? Everyone has a baseline of grit- your threshold- your mental toughness as it stands now. Maybe you’re a 4 naturally - and you’d like to be a 9. I have the best news. You can work your way to a 9… by pushing yourself consistently, seeing failure as temporary and an opportunity to learn and by doing things consistently that make you uncomfortable. When you keep exercising your grit muscle - your number goes up and it never goes back down. Put a little pressure on yourself. Build that grit muscle. It toughens you up and makes you more prepared for whatever life throws your way. And I’ve also learning that the best mindset for building girt is having a growth mindset. Studies have shown that kids and adults are more likely to get up and keep trying when they fail because they believe that failure is temporary- we are alway learning. Today we are talking about getting little habits and routines in place to flex our grit muscle to become stronger and better. Let’s go!

185. How To Be Awesome At Prioritizing Your Girlfriends Jan 14, 2022

Lindsays story! Coming out of college Lindsay says… When I graduated from college I had so many girlfriends - I was president of my sorority and active on campus so I just figured I would always have those relationships. I was so excited to start my business and then later excited to meet the guy who would become my husband. Other points in this episode: -It’s a very important topic for girls and women of all ages. -You need more than one - everyone has different situations and life experiences and you need more than one person to go to and spend time with. Here are the steps! Find your people Be so beyond loyal and dedicated Be vulnerable and open! Keep them close - prioritize them and make time for them -Put it on your calendar!! Even if you don’t see people often- make it a priority to connect -HACK! Set a timer on your phone to text people - it takes 2 minutes a day -Give them your fill attention not distracted at a meal -How great that we have our families but you can create your own families in a way. -DM conversations - my family sucks - how about you create a new inner circle? Why you need more than a spouse -Gives you a better life balance -You aren’t replying on one person to be your everything -It’s fun and good for you to do your own thing then come back together - more to talk about WHY do all this? -Happier overall -The highs are more fun -The lows are easier to manage and work through There is nothing quite like strong relationships with girlfriends. The 22 year old Lindsay didn’t realize this but the 40 year old Lindsay certainly does now. We hope this podcast inspires you to really focus on your relationships with girlfriends and give them the love and time that they need. It brings so much to your life and you never know when you will really really need them, and to have them be there is everything. CHEERS to girlfriends!!

184. How To Be Awesome At Not Trying To Be A Perfect Parent Jan 11, 2022

As parents… I think the majority of us want to do the best for our kids, while still maintaining our sanity and feel like we have it together. I think sometimes we try so hard and want to do a good job that before we know it, we’re trying to be perfect. Which sounds like it might not be a bad thing… but actually… I think there are some serious problems that come along with trying to be a perfect parent. First, it’s an impossible expectation. To try to or expect to be perfect at parenting is just setting yourself up for failure because well… some times things aren’t going to go as planned or we are just going to fall short. And, it kills authenticity. If you’re always trying to hold it together, you aren’t expressing emotion and that’s for sure not what we want to teach our kids to do. Plus it robs our kids of the opportunity to learn HOW to handle situations and difficult emotions. We are letting go of parenting perfectionism today. Let’s go!

183. How To Be Awesome At Learning From Your Jealous Moments Jan 05, 2022

Lindsay tells this story to set the tone for this episode. A few weeks ago I as running my favorite stairs. It was cold out and the fresh air felt so good and I had a full hour of alone time and my plan was to not think about a million things… just get outside and listen to loud music and sweat. Well that all changed when at the top of the stairs there were two teenagers passionately kissing on the bench. I did a few laps and they were still there, and did a few more and they were still there and I was like Jesus these kids should be in school… I’m sure their parents don’t know they are ditching… and I mean how long can you kiss outside??? And then I was like… these judgey thoughts are more like jealously really than anything. How nice it must be to be young and not have this crazy complicated life with lots of kids and not a lot of daytime passionate kissing moments. Here’s the lesson I wish I would have learned sooner. When you feel jealous, lean into it. I think it’s almost always either you should take a step back from someone or unfollow them if they don’t make you feel great about yourself… OR… maybe it’s a reflection of something you wish you had in your life. And there is so much to learn from that. Other key points in this podcast: -HUGE part of this is realizing jealously is normal and we can make it a positive. Be honest and vulnerable and lean into it- even talk about it. -Who cares about the other person… what do these feelings mean to YOU? -Maybe they mean associating with someone or consuming their content doesn’t make you feel good and it’s time to make a change. Or maybeee it’s a reflection of something you wish you had in your life. And there is so much to learn from that. Let’s go! -I now see it as the best learning lesson- about who I am at this moment and what I need more of. - Realize there’s enough for everyone!! Abundance mindset vs. scarcity mindset. Someone else’s win doesn’t take away from you having a win!! Makes it easier to celebrate them! Think about this with friends accomplishments. Realize we are all different and some of us have accomplishments that aren’t considered traditional or celebrated in the light of day or on stages. The best part about some forms of jealousy is you can learn from people who have made it in your mind!! If someone else has done it, so can you!! If someone did it, it means it’s possible. And with social media and YouTube and everything else… you can watch what these people do and learn from them! Create your own path but use what you learn from them to make it easier and save time getting there. -Use jealously to get your act together. It can be a reminder of a dream you had or a goal that you put on the back burner. -Don’t discredit others achievements. Very few people just get lucky. It likely took hard work to get there. Start with small doable steps to get what you want. Let go of what’s not working. -Sometimes we feel jealous but if we really think about it - it’s not actually what we want. Maybe its due to peer pressure or what society or family things we sh9uld do or be. Maybe a big house and a fancy car don’t equal a fulfilling and purposeful life for you. What makes one person happy - and can seem like the ticket to happiness - might not actually be for you. -Realize that another persons success doesn’t make you a failure. This is HUGE for me with business. We all make different decisions and they all come at a price. Also- we all have different timelines. Babies, marriage, careers. The race is long, you can start today. -We get jealous because we compare ourselves on some level -Jealously only exists by comparison on some level -Someone can always beat you on some level. -You can think you’re gorgeous then see someone who is even prettier and also taller and tanner! Then you see yourself as insignificant. -Like doing this podcast - I can feel like I’m doing something cool and having these great growth conversations in DMs and then I’ll see a podcast who has like a bazillion times the audience and it’s so easy to be like why am I even trying I’m like so insignificant here. But it’s that comparison thing that will kill dreams. -It comes from moments when we feel inferior. -Someone is always going to beat you in some category. Someone can teach people more or is taller or has more money or better vacations. -Try to focus on becoming the person who can do lots of things well. The things that are important to you. The amount of positive energy you put out in the world, the things you can do and achieve. CHEERS!! To turning jealously into a way to find your most purposeful and fulfilling life.

242. How To Be Awesome At Suffocating Anything Negative Jan 01, 2022

We are talking about our plan for less stress and more fulfillment in the new year.. by way of eliminating the negative and ramping up the positive. That’s it! More joy, less stress. More sleep, less sleepless nights. More relationships that lift you up and inspire you and less that drain you and make you feel like crap. Today’s podcast is your positive pep talk because the state of mind that you live in, determines how your days go… and all the days add up to how your year goes. We’re growing the positive and suffocating the negative today. Here are the tips!! 1. Be too busy! You just don’t have the time, sorry!!! Do more things.. have more hobbies!! 2. Growth mindset vs. Fixed mindset Helps you not look backwards Know you are doing so many things you will make mistakes 3. The best approach with negative people you can’t avoid - be positive and direct. I’m only doing positive and that just doesn’t align with my mindset right now 4. And for toxic relationships you can avoid, it’s your fault if you don’t 5. Perfection is not the goal 6. Avoid arguments if the conclusion doesn’t benefit anyone. Dale Carnegie once said, “The best way to win an argument is to avoid it.” 7. Take responsibility for everything! 8. Challenge yourself physically - it makes you stronger and more aligned with your values. 9.Things don't have to be labeled as good or bad. Some things just are. 10. You can control your thoughts!!! It’s all up to you!! You decide if you let it bother you or not!

182. How To Be Awesome At Knowing When You Aren’t Tired… You’re BORED! Dec 31, 2021

Today we are doing to unpack why we are tired. Are we not sleeping enough? Not designing our schedule and routines so there is enough time for sleep and recovery? OR is it not that we are actually tired… but maybe we just aren’t inspired by what we are doing on the day to day? Maybe we aren’t tired or lazy at all, maybe we just don’t have enough of what sets our soul on fire in the day-to-day. If you catch yourself saying “I’m so tired” often… this podcast is for you! Let’s figure out WHY you are tired, and how to change it. There are a few parts to this! Why you are you tired? 1. Not enough sleep/downtime 2. Not inspired/stuck in routine **Hacks for #1 Set bedtime Set alarms on your phone Lay out reminders of what you want to be doing If you’re tired - you’re actually in control You made that schedule Yes, you have to take my kids here and there and deal with struggles etc. But it’s about accountability… you can do it all and still be inspired and motivated and rested. Maybe you need to hack your day - eliminate wasted time - prep your food - find those hours you can be smarter with. **Hacks for #2 Maybe you’re not actually tired or lazy… maybe you just aren’t energized about what you are doing. A lot of times school puts us in a box. Get in line, figure out what you want to do when you get older. But we don’t work like that. Maybe the routine is the problem. Maybe what you’re doing each day over and over is off. How much are you doing that sets your soul on fire? How many 10s are you getting in each day? Keeping up with the Joneses. So many people are working for the house or the car, to impress other people that they don’t really care about. We have to live like this is our only at bat. We have one life. This is why Lindsay says she loves time alone in the morning. To constantly recenter and not just GO on autopilot. The question is… what are you going to regret the least when you’re 90? That’s the deal. The happiest people are the people that get to spend the most of the time doing the things they love with the people they love to do it with. That’s it. That’s the end game. Not the most money or the fanciest things. Lindsay talks about accepting losing and learning to love losing because it means you’re out there is part of it. And have ownership for everything. When you’re in your zone and doing your thing, you aren’t scared. Cheers to hacking your days so you are rested and motivated, not tired!

181. How To Be Awesome At Post-Holiday Organize Dec 27, 2021

Hope you had a great holiday! We are getting back into our podcasting routine and starting with this episode all about post-holiday organizing. So we all get the new stuff we got, and don’t just shove it in front of or on top of the old stuff you have- that you don’t use anymore and you don’t need- but rather, get a plan going for organizing as you go and doing it in a way that feels freeing and exciting and not painful and miserable. The harsh truth about organizing that Lindsay wishes she would have really understood 10 years ago- organizing only works if you’ve gotten rid of the unnecessary stuff that gets in the way of the necessary stuff. Just because you can store something, doesn’t mean you should. You really shouldn’t have to dig through anything to get to what you want. So today as we start to emerge out of the holidays and pull our homes back together, let’s get a good plan together for starting the new year feeling organized and and purged and free from the clutter. Today’s podcast is alllll about holiday organization! Emerging out of the holidays and into the new year! Back on sleep, exercise, nutrition and loving relationships and ORGANIZATION!! Remember- your home is your happy place!! It’s about having a home that feels like a breath of fresh air when you get home! So here’s our plan! Make a list of each area of the home and organize one project per day. You have to be dedicated to this plan and ready to make the change. Lindsay explains how to do it and why it’s so important - not just for this part of your life but for other parts of your life too! Happy holidays and happy organizing!!

180. How To Be Awesome At Special Thanksgiving Moments Nov 25, 2021

On today’s podcast, Lindsay talks about how she’s learned through the years that holidays can easily be overwhelming or even underwhelming. It’s so much prep and set-up and planning… and often times it can feel like it’s just more work than it is fun. On today’s podcast, she is sharing my favorite tips for enjoying the process and planning in a way that is comfortable for you and fun! Also, activity ideas and ways to connect everyone. And in a time that is more polarizing than ever, we are chatting about some tips on how to avoid family conflict and things to think about ahead of time so the whole day is nice and smooth. Lindsay really believes that little moments or ideas or traditions can make what would otherwise be pretty regular, extra ordinary and special and memorable. Today, we are talking about Thanksgiving and ways to make sure the day is awesome for you and the ones you love. **Here are some of the thoughts!** -Family thankful cards - nobody knows who they are from - pass them around and guess -Table cheers - what people are grateful for! -Cookie decorating Fun activity that gets everyone creating Or have some other interactive food / dessert plan! -Cute crafts - some adults will do it too! -Other thankful activities - especially for kids -Plan how to give back for the holidays with kids Talk about what you are grateful for and how you can help others this holiday season -Tips on managing the clean-up Clean as you go, do the minimum and do the rest the next day -How to enjoy the process and what to do when parts are painful When it’s painful- outsource, simplify or skip it! -Avoid conflict! This is not the day to hash out how the president is doing or what everyone things about vaccine mandates. Not. The. Time! If you have someone who is known for poking the bear at this type of thing- give them a gentle heads up. -Games!! If your group is into that sort of thing! Lindsay shares her favorite grateful quote at the moment. We all have so much to be grateful for because we are reading this and listening to this right now. Happy Thanksgiving to you and the ones you love!!

179. How To Be Awesome At Pushing Yourself Physically Nov 19, 2021

Lindsay is obsessed with finding the extra gear in life. That shift that you make that takes things in your life to the next level. She believes that most of us are capable of a lot more than we think we are. Like we literally have an extra gear. Most of us still have more in us. But we often put up these invisible hurdles and tell ourselves that this is the most we can do with this or we can’t even attempt this because of this. Lindsay’s favorite way to push herself in all aspects of life… is to push herself physically. Because it pours over to alllll other areas of your life. Because you’ve proven to yourself that you CAN do more than you thought you could. A physical change is the best way to push yourself in all ways of your life. Whether you feel like you’re in a rut, or just low on energy or patience with things you have to deal with… Lindsay thinks pushing yourself physically could be the answer, or part of it. Today, we are talking about ways you can push yourself physically to not only improve your health, but improve your overall fulfillment in life. We get all these arrows shot us at all day. You’re always dodging arrows. This is why we need a few hours to ourselves to have the patience to deal with all those arrows. We have to push ourselves physically so we can be tough mentally. It’s that mental toughness… helps you push through. How do you identify if you are in a rut? When you want to get better and you are not. It’s easy to fall into comfortable habit. It’s super difficult. Examples of pushing yourself physically …. -Running up hills -Running stairs -Taking the stairs at the doctors office -Cold showers -Stretching -New/hard workout class -Sauna CHEERS!!! To pushing yourself PHYSICALLY!

178. How To Be Awesome At Party Activities That Kids Love Nov 16, 2021

Let’s talk about party activities! Today we are fully diving into fun activities for KIDS! Things to keep them busy and happy for the whole party. Giving you lots of ideas of how to keep kids of all ages entertained and how to set it up so it’s exactly what your birthday boy or girl like best too. How to set-up activities when you have a variety of ages of kids… and what the heck to do for older kids that’s not lame. So many ideas for you… some with vendors and some doing entirely on your own… and most of them aren’t pricey- just require a little creativity and advanced planning. If you are throwing a kids party, or a party of any kind where kids will be at, this episode is for you! The smallest things can make a party extra magical and Lindsay thinks often that’s in the activities. For kids parties and adults parties and parties with kids and adults… it’s great to have things for everyone to do. We’re talking about using vendors for some of the activities and other times building the activity yourself. Lindsay talks about really trying to think about the person that the party is for and what would be the most fun for them… and usually those same things are what their guests will like too! When she's doing a kids party where parents stay, she tries to have something fun for them to do as well. Sometimes it’s a creative cocktail and food experience to match the theme… and other times like when she did a mermaid party for Presley she did hair braiding girl and a nail art girl come and we set up beauty stations for the moms! We’re talking about having enough to do so everyone is busy for the whole party and has the best time. You can do structured time for activities, Lindsay usually like more of a free play type situation. Start with what your kid likes most and what goes with the theme. IDEAS! Ball pit (OC vendor: ops@meshkids.co) Bounce house (OC vendor: hello@bouncecouture.com) Craft stations Treat stations - decorate your own cookies, pop tarts, cupcakes (OC vendor: bangpopshop@gmail.com) Candy bar Candy Cart (OC vendor: lisa@thecandycoach.com) Timree: OC artist! For paint lessons (OC vendor: info@timree.com) Slumber Tents: (OC vendor: www.sparklesanddreams.com) Photo Booth & frame decorating station (OC vendor: info@capturephotobooths.com) Caricature (OC vendor: cartoonslinger@gmail.com) Make your own pizzas (OC vendor: admin@sgtpepps.com) Create your own flower arrangements (OC vendor: mcarter64768@gmail.com) Slime making station with little pieces to add in to match the theme Design your own bag to carry all your goodies in (get bags from Forever 21 or H & M) Sand box Sled rides Horse and carriage rides Petting Zoo Color / paint a large structure Huge canvases for painting Surprise punch boards (I make my own out of shoe racks) Raffle with grab bags (must have fun prizes like gift cards and a gag gift!) Hot cocoa bar Chocolate fountain with make your own chocolate bars Foam machine BUBBLES! Entertainment - hula dancers, mermaids, fairies, Blippi Tractor rides! There are endless ways you can make a party MAGICAL with activities! We hope this podcast gave you LOTS of ideas!!

177. How To Be Awesome At Starting Your Day in the Best Way Nov 06, 2021

This podcast episode is ALL about the power of your mind and how you your approach to your days!

And how it affects how you walk into situations and how it completely determines the outcome!!

So often we get in routine and just keep doing the things we’ve always done. And - we find what we are looking for.

If you wake up and you’re grumpy and you’re irritated and you’re thinking about that meeting that might be irritating.. you’re going to have a less than awesome day because you started out with that filter on. Awesome things truly have no change of making their way through them.

If you think god, I’m walking into a crappy day… it probably will be. But if you’re like… today is going to be awesome OR today is going to be as awesome as it can be (given whatever is going on) it’s MUCH more likely to be.

It think we subconsciously decide how we are going to approach our days… which turns into our weeks, our months and our years. We decide the mood we are in and I’m telling you… the thoughts you think create the world in which you live in.

You can completely convince yourself that something is going to be awesome or completely shitty- and either way you’ll likely turn out to be right!

Your thoughts control your road map of a day.

Ask yourself...

How are you using your mind to make you feel great or not?

Your destiny is ultimately decided by the decision you made this morning. A huge decision.

That is either - I’m going to get up, enter the world with no intention to get by or survive and go though the motions.

OR

I am going to get clear in this morning about what I am going after and who I want to be and what I am going to go out and be awesome at!

The problem is most people don’t make this conscious decision.

Here’s the HACK, the practical way to do this...

THINK about the things you have coming up and ask yourself:

How are you going to make that special?

How are you going to be great at that?

How do you want this experience to feel?

How will you do this well?

(SAVE THIS!)

Usually we just GO ABOUT THE DAY… rather than SIT and think about how you are doing to do what you have ahead, well.

There is so much power in realizing so much of what happens in our day is determined by our perspective going into it.

CHEERS! To the best intentional starts to your days!

176. How To Be Awesome Special Episode: Life Lessons at 40 Oct 27, 2021

In this podcast, Lindsay talks about the life lessons she’s learned in her first 40 years! Here are some of the highlights: -Everybody is the happiest when they get to do what they want to be doing. When you get to do want to be doing you’ve won. -You’re going to be 90!!! Right now it’s not too late, but one day it will be. When you’re 120 and you’re not mobile- you can’t build that company you wanted, you can’t spend that time with your kid… it’s regret… and it paralyzing. -The ONLY decision that needs to be made is what will you regret LEAST when you’re 90 -Don’t take NO for an answer. -Doing the right thing is always the right thing. It’s all about how you feel about yourself when you’re by yourself. -Go to bed without crumbs. -You only have so much bandwidth!!! -Learn what your body needs and make it a priority -Be vulnerable with those you love -Own your mistakes -Dont let your mistakes define you -EMBRACE hard things - it preps you for the world We are strong!! We are just being sold that we aren’t ENOUGH. You’re the best - go do shit!! -Have good reactions - don’t lose your cool -INHALE the good shit, exhale the bad shit -Watch what you say about yourself -Get in your 10s!! -Stop complaining - nobody cares!!! Stop dwelling - nobody cares! Own your shit! We have a bigger chance than ever. -Protect your headspace -There are 2 acceptable outcomes (what Lindsay tells her kids) -Speed is so much more important than perfection. There is SO much opportunity - don't over think it and just MOVE! There will never be a perfect time for most things. -LOVE your body -Carry an idea book - write it all down!!! -What you listen to and who you listen to is what you become -Eat like your life depends on it -MOVE your body everyday -Spend time with those who get it -Forgive the ones you love who think differently than you -A mistake repeated more than once is a decision -Paulo Coelho -Life changes. You lose love. You lose friends. You lose pieces of yourself that you would never image would be done. And then. Without even realizing it these pieces come back. New love enters. Better friends come along. And a stronger, wiser you is staring back in the mirror. @tinybuddha -If you’re not in the arena getting your ass kicked, I’m not interested in hearing your feedback. -You don't get what you want, you only get what you must absolutely f*cking have. -The first step towards getting somewhere is to decide that you are not going to stay where you are. -Don't sell out what you want most for what you want right now. Its self control and it sucks!! -Don’t let others ruin your day. -Stop saying this was a shit year!!! You’ll attract more of that. Decide what you want, make a plan and follow through on it - every. single. day. CHEERS to the next 40 years of lessons learned!

174. How To Be Awesome At Giving Yourself Grace Sep 29, 2021

Today we’re talking about giving yourself grace… that space you sometimes need to mess up and not beat yourself up over it or have days when you just don't have as much energy to do all the things you want to do…

Lindsay talks about being an entrepreneur by nature and pushing herself and holding herself to high standards, like many of us.

But what she’s realized lately is often times her expectations were unrealistic- which she would have told you is a great thing- set super high goals because otherwise there is no way to achieve them. But what she's realized is… she’s able to enjoy the journey more and embrace the beauty of evolving and use mistakes as learning opportunities… all the positive things that come when you give yourself grace.

Lindsay is now focusing on giving her best, based on my capacity that day and in that moment. Perfection is not the goal and she's not competing with anyone else. By giving herself this sort of self-compassion, it’s not making her weaker, it’s making her stronger because she’s showing more love to herself. Slowing down just enough to enjoy the journey and have the space for rest and self-love and GRACE.

Here are some key points Lindsay talks about:

-Asking her kids… did you do your best today? Then you did a great job.

Leave it all on the field - you either won or you tried your best and it just didn’t work. Either one of those options are acceptable. Why aren’t we doing the same thing for ourselves?

-You need that physical and mental space to do it.

-Know you’re not perfect and don’t aim to be.

-Mess up and don’t feel badly - it’s a lesson learned.

-Some days you don’t have as much energy or you don’t feel well - your best is going to be different on different days.

-When you set your expectations too high- then you often don’t reach them- then you stop believing yourself when you tell yourself you are going to do something.

This is where Lindsay got herself stuck!! She talks about how she stopped believing she could achieve her goals because they weren’t realistic.

-When we give ourselves grace, we release feelings of shame and regret so we can move forward with care and openness towards ourselves and others.

-The feeling of never doing enough or being enough.

-In the moments when you’re being hard on yourself or talking negatively to yourself, ask, “Is this how I would treat my friend or a loved one?” If not, then that’s an indicator that it’s time to change your self-talk!

-Burnout is the physical or mental collapse due to over work or stress. We have so many responsibilities and we are expected to be great at them all!!

-Realize- are we putting these expectations on ourselves or are other people putting them on us? Are we putting super high expectations of others?

-It can make you feel like you’re never doing enough or being enough.

-The goal is not perfection, its PROGRESS.

-Tony Robbins says the secret to happiness in one word is PROGRESS.

"If you want to have ongoing joy and fulfillment in your life, the secret is just one word – progress. Progress equals happiness. While achievements and material things may excite you for the moment, the only thing that’s going to make you happy long-term is knowing that you’re making progress.

To do this, you have to remember: While change is automatic – progress is not. Progress results from actively and consciously choosing to create a life you love; a life where you can’t wait to jump out of bed in the morning because you are growing, contributing, impacting and serving.

How do you start creating a life like that? By first learning that you don’t need an excuse to feel good – you can feel good for no reason."

-Lindsay says, "I sometimes look around and I’m like oh my gosh I worked on the house all day - and there is still shit all over… HOW DO OTHER WOMEN DO IT?"

And that’s just it… we can’t be amazing at everything at the same moment.

-Realize that even though we want to have our house in order and laundry done- there is this balance that is HARD when raising kids… sometimes you have to LET UP and know that things will get back in order.

-Do you want to look back when you’re 90 and think… my house was sure clean??

-The FREEDOM TO RELAX!! And know… you were there for the JOYS and the tears and the moments sitting around the table instead of constantly cleaning up or tasking.

-Being able to say say NO. No period. Without explanation. Signing up for room mom when you know it will stretch you thin. When you over commit at the school… know if it’s YOU… does it make you so happy or does it suck the life out of you?

-Don’t feel like you have to do it to be a good mom. Give yourself grace. Just because you aren’t this mom or that mom or the room mom… they will get you a lot better at other things… because you are whole and happy and not trying to pour from an empty cup.

-Guess what - you don’t want your family to get what’s left of you!! You want them to get the best of you! That’s why you can’t commit to ALL THE THINGS… just leave things on your plate that you really WANT.

-You just have to give yourself grace. As a wife or husband too… it’s so easy with so many responsibilities to feel like we are failing at it all. And feeling like you don't have energy to give to your spouse.

I’ve found this - when you just kick back and have conversations… what do you need, what do you need more of and LESS of?

-Take away the ego, and not trying to always wear ALL the hats at one time… Lindsay talks about how you can really GROW as a couple because you are taking your guard down and giving each other grace. It’s not always 50/50… sometimes one of you is going to be going through something… but that’s where you as a team comes in… and when you need it - when you’re the 10%… your partner will be there with the 90%.

-This can give you so much stress and anxiety when you put so much pressure on yourself and you don't give yourself grace.

-And if you work, or have a family, or both… it can all be so much. Saying YES to meetings and all the requests for your time.

-And knowing you can politely say no. Without excuse or over talking it - don’t give the maybe- give the hard no. That’s how you sign yourself up willingly for burn out.

-Lindsay did a podcast - if it’s not a HELL YES- it’s a no! Perfect lesson here!

-How about making time for friends?

-A part of giving yourself grace is … saying GOOD JOB, you did great at that. We tend to skim over what we did great at and focus on what we failed at.

-There is so much power in slowing down, taking a step back and realizing how freeing it is to give yourself GRACE.

CHEERS! To giving yourself eternal grace!

175. How To Be Awesome At Giving Yourself Grace Sep 29, 2021