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He Feels Right… But He Won’t Choose Me #HMAY Ep.286 Apr 23, 2026

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After leaving a 7-year toxic relationship, she did the work to heal, grow, and become more secure in herself. Then she met a man who seemed like everything she prayed for. He’s consistent, grounded in faith, emotionally present, and makes her feel safe in ways she’s never experienced before. Their connection feels deep, intentional, and healing. But there’s one problem… He still won’t commit.Resources & LinksEmber mug Yvette Loves 🍵💍https://bit.ly/4lfn38iMentor Couple Wait List 🫂🖤https://forms.gle/VcUDRgf6km9kHWEK7Buy Girl Scout Cookies from Anaya 🍪💛https://digitalcookie.girlscouts.org/scout/anaya778725Release Rest Remain 📖✨https://a.co/d/ihBmSdOFather Yourself First 📘🔥https://www.amazon.com/Father-Yourself-First-Everything-Deserves/dp/1400252555Yvette’s Email List 💌🌿https://yvettehenry.com/join-the-listRelease Rest Remain Bible Reading Plan 🙏🏽📖https://www.bible.com/en/reading-plans/64646Premarital Advantage 💍🧠https://howmarriedareyoupodcast.mykajabi.com/offers/VAbsx8N2Black Men’s Meeting 🖤🗣️https://partiful.com/e/kuXEBUC7PHfydRmI3sz4?HMAY Amazon Storefront (affiliate) 🛒✨https://www.amazon.com/shop/howmarriedareyou?ref_=cm_sw_r_apin_aipsfshop_0EGMQR9KJ94D8YGCDMV7&language=en-USWAYS TO PARTNER WITH US: Get special access to things we’re working on, extra content from our fam, and more on Patreon: https://patreon.com/HMAYSupport us with a one-time gift through PayPal: www.paypal.me/HMAYpodcastCONNECT WITH US ON INSTAGRAM:HMAY Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/howmarriedareyou/Glen: https://www.Instagram.com/beleafmelYvette: https://www.Instagram.com/mrsmelaninChocolate Babes: https://www.instagram.com/chocolatebabies/WATCH BELEAF IN FATHERHOOD:https://www.youtube.com/c/BeleafInFatherhoodtv/Thank you so much for tuning into this episode of How Married Are You?! See you next week!

Christian Women Give Terrible Marriage Advice #HMAY Ep.289 Apr 21, 2026

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A wife writes in feeling overwhelmed, unsupported, and unsure if her marriage is even worth saving anymore. Two kids. Financial pressure. Emotional exhaustion. And a husband who… won’t step up.Resources & LinksEmber mug Yvette Loves 🍵💍https://bit.ly/4lfn38iMentor Couple Wait List 🫂🖤https://forms.gle/VcUDRgf6km9kHWEK7Buy Girl Scout Cookies from Anaya 🍪💛https://digitalcookie.girlscouts.org/scout/anaya778725Release Rest Remain 📖✨https://a.co/d/ihBmSdOFather Yourself First 📘🔥https://www.amazon.com/Father-Yourself-First-Everything-Deserves/dp/1400252555Yvette’s Email List 💌🌿https://yvettehenry.com/join-the-listRelease Rest Remain Bible Reading Plan 🙏🏽📖https://www.bible.com/en/reading-plans/64646Premarital Advantage 💍🧠https://howmarriedareyoupodcast.mykajabi.com/offers/VAbsx8N2Black Men’s Meeting 🖤🗣️https://partiful.com/e/kuXEBUC7PHfydRmI3sz4?HMAY Amazon Storefront (affiliate) 🛒✨https://www.amazon.com/shop/howmarriedareyou?ref_=cm_sw_r_apin_aipsfshop_0EGMQR9KJ94D8YGCDMV7&language=en-USWAYS TO PARTNER WITH US: Get special access to things we’re working on, extra content from our fam, and more on Patreon: https://patreon.com/HMAYSupport us with a one-time gift through PayPal: www.paypal.me/HMAYpodcastCONNECT WITH US ON INSTAGRAM:HMAY Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/howmarriedareyou/Glen: https://www.Instagram.com/beleafmelYvette: https://www.Instagram.com/mrsmelaninChocolate Babes: https://www.instagram.com/chocolatebabies/WATCH BELEAF IN FATHERHOOD:https://www.youtube.com/c/BeleafInFatherhoodtv/Thank you so much for tuning into this episode of How Married Are You?! See you next week!

You WILL Project Your Past Onto Your Partner. #HMAY Ep. 288 Apr 14, 2026

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How do you keep your past from ruining your present?In this episode,,we respond to a newlywed wrestling with a real question: How do you not project what you saw growing up onto your marriage?And the truth is… you probably will.We talk about:Why projection is almost unavoidable in relationshipsHow to recognize when it’s happeningThe difference between your partner’s behavior vs. your past woundsWhy therapy, mentors, and self-awareness matterHow childhood experiences shape how you love, trust, and fearWe also unpack the deeper layer:Are you raising children… or trying to heal your inner child through them?Good Fathers Jacket: https://shop.temicoker.co/products/good-fathers-varsity-jacket?variant=46481445748928 Code: GoodFathersMatter Resources & LinksEmber mug Yvette Loves 🍵💍https://bit.ly/4lfn38iMentor Couple Wait List 🫂🖤https://forms.gle/VcUDRgf6km9kHWEK7Buy Girl Scout Cookies from Anaya 🍪💛https://digitalcookie.girlscouts.org/scout/anaya778725Release Rest Remain 📖✨https://a.co/d/ihBmSdOFather Yourself First 📘🔥https://www.amazon.com/Father-Yourself-First-Everything-Deserves/dp/1400252555Yvette’s Email List 💌🌿https://yvettehenry.com/join-the-listRelease Rest Remain Bible Reading Plan 🙏🏽📖https://www.bible.com/en/reading-plans/64646Premarital Advantage 💍🧠https://howmarriedareyoupodcast.mykajabi.com/offers/VAbsx8N2Black Men’s Meeting 🖤🗣️https://partiful.com/e/kuXEBUC7PHfydRmI3sz4?HMAY Amazon Storefront (affiliate) 🛒✨https://www.amazon.com/shop/howmarriedareyou?ref_=cm_sw_r_apin_aipsfshop_0EGMQR9KJ94D8YGCDMV7&language=en-USWAYS TO PARTNER WITH US: Get special access to things we’re working on, extra content from our fam, and more on Patreon: https://patreon.com/HMAYSupport us with a one-time gift through PayPal: www.paypal.me/HMAYpodcastCONNECT WITH US ON INSTAGRAM:HMAY Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/howmarriedareyou/Glen: https://www.Instagram.com/beleafmelYvette: https://www.Instagram.com/mrsmelaninChocolate Babes: https://www.instagram.com/chocolatebabies/WATCH BELEAF IN FATHERHOOD:https://www.youtube.com/c/BeleafInFatherhoodtv/Thank you so much for tuning into this episode of How Married Are You?! See you next week!

He Told The Church About Our Threesome #HMAY Ep. 287 Apr 08, 2026

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How many chances is too many?In this conversation, we unpack what real repentance actually looks like, how to tell the difference between healing and just covering things up, the warning signs you shouldn’t ignore, and how to know when it’s time to stay—or walk away.Patreon Segment: The real behind-the-scenes of life on the road—plumbing issues, locked doors, unexpected breakdowns, and the mental load that comes with trying to hold it all together as a family.If you’ve ever struggled with trust after betrayal, this one will hit close to home.Resources & LinksEmber mug Yvette Loves 🍵💍https://bit.ly/4lfn38iMentor Couple Wait List 🫂🖤https://forms.gle/VcUDRgf6km9kHWEK7Buy Girl Scout Cookies from Anaya 🍪💛https://digitalcookie.girlscouts.org/scout/anaya778725Release Rest Remain 📖✨https://a.co/d/ihBmSdOFather Yourself First 📘🔥https://www.amazon.com/Father-Yourself-First-Everything-Deserves/dp/1400252555Yvette’s Email List 💌🌿https://yvettehenry.com/join-the-listRelease Rest Remain Bible Reading Plan 🙏🏽📖https://www.bible.com/en/reading-plans/64646Premarital Advantage 💍🧠https://howmarriedareyoupodcast.mykajabi.com/offers/VAbsx8N2Black Men’s Meeting 🖤🗣️https://partiful.com/e/kuXEBUC7PHfydRmI3sz4?HMAY Amazon Storefront (affiliate) 🛒✨https://www.amazon.com/shop/howmarriedareyou?ref_=cm_sw_r_apin_aipsfshop_0EGMQR9KJ94D8YGCDMV7&language=en-USWAYS TO PARTNER WITH US: Get special access to things we’re working on, extra content from our fam, and more on Patreon: https://patreon.com/HMAYSupport us with a one-time gift through PayPal: www.paypal.me/HMAYpodcastCONNECT WITH US ON INSTAGRAM:HMAY Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/howmarriedareyou/Glen: https://www.Instagram.com/beleafmelYvette: https://www.Instagram.com/mrsmelaninChocolate Babes: https://www.instagram.com/chocolatebabies/WATCH BELEAF IN FATHERHOOD:https://www.youtube.com/c/BeleafInFatherhoodtv/Thank you so much for tuning into this episode of How Married Are You?! See you next week!

TOO ATTACHED TO HIS GRANDMOTHER #HMAY Ep. 285 Mar 24, 2026

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She said, “This is the best relationship I’ve ever had…”No drama. No toxicity. Just peace.But his family depends on him for everything.Now she’s wondering…Am I building a future with him or inheriting a responsibility I’m not ready for?Real question:Can love grow when pressure is already this heavy?

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He Said He Wasn’t Ready… Then She Blocked Him (Now He Wants Her Back) #HMAY Ep. 284 Mar 17, 2026

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Love vs Conviction: Should She Give Up Drinking for Marriage? #HMAY Ep. 283 Mar 10, 2026

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In this video, we respond to a real question from a woman whose boyfriend, a church leader, told her he couldn't marry someone who drinks alcohol, even occasionally.Should she give up something she doesn’t personally believe is wrong in order to honor the man she loves and hopes to marry?Or is that the kind of change that must come from personal conviction, not relationship pressure?If you’ve ever wrestled with different convictions in a relationship, this conversation is for you.Drop your thoughts in the comments:Should someone change something like this for the person they love?Resources & LinksEmber mug Yvette Loves 🍵💍https://bit.ly/4lfn38iMentor Couple Wait List 🫂🖤https://forms.gle/VcUDRgf6km9kHWEK7Buy Girl Scout Cookies from Anaya 🍪💛https://digitalcookie.girlscouts.org/scout/anaya778725Release Rest Remain 📖✨https://a.co/d/ihBmSdOFather Yourself First 📘🔥https://www.amazon.com/Father-Yourself-First-Everything-Deserves/dp/1400252555Yvette’s Email List 💌🌿https://yvettehenry.com/join-the-listRelease Rest Remain Bible Reading Plan 🙏🏽📖https://www.bible.com/en/reading-plans/64646Premarital Advantage 💍🧠https://howmarriedareyoupodcast.mykajabi.com/offers/VAbsx8N2Black Men’s Meeting 🖤🗣️https://partiful.com/e/kuXEBUC7PHfydRmI3sz4?HMAY Amazon Storefront (affiliate) 🛒✨https://www.amazon.com/shop/howmarriedareyou?ref_=cm_sw_r_apin_aipsfshop_0EGMQR9KJ94D8YGCDMV7&language=en-USWAYS TO PARTNER WITH US: Get special access to things we’re working on, extra content from our fam, and more on Patreon: https://patreon.com/HMAYSupport us with a one-time gift through PayPal: www.paypal.me/HMAYpodcastCONNECT WITH US ON INSTAGRAM:HMAY Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/howmarriedareyou/Glen: https://www.Instagram.com/beleafmelYvette: https://www.Instagram.com/mrsmelaninChocolate Babes: https://www.instagram.com/chocolatebabies/WATCH BELEAF IN FATHERHOOD:https://www.youtube.com/c/BeleafInFatherhoodtv/Thank you so much for tuning into this episode of How Married Are You?! See you next week!

He Betrayed me but I Love Him! #HMAY Ep. 282 Mar 03, 2026

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In episode 282 of @howmarriedareyou, a 30-year-old listener shares how @Beleafmel and @MrsMelanin helped her believe marriage was possible, after growing up surrounded by divorce and broken relationships. She did the work. Therapy. Self-help. Healing her anxious attachment. She became secure, confident, grounded.Then she met a man who felt “too good to be true.”Two and a half years later, after phone secrecy, dating apps, denials, flowers, apologies, more denials, fake Hinge profiles (yes, it gets real 👀), and a 20-minute silence before admitting he slept with someone else… everything finally came out. All the dates. All the girls. Even a trip. We talk about the pattern of confession without full truth. How some partners admit just enough to stop the bleeding. What betrayal trauma actually does to your body. And why finally knowing the truth can feel stabilizing, even when it shatters you.What would you do if your partner betrays you?
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Perfectionist Husband vs “Just Do It” Wife #HMAY Ep. 281 Feb 24, 2026

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What do you do when you and your spouse want the same outcome… but you can’t agree on the way to get there? 😩🤍

In Episode 281, a newlywed writes in with a marriage tension that feels small at first… until it affects everything: perfection vs progress.

She’s the type who believes action brings clarity. Even a “no” teaches you what you need for the next attempt. Her husband is the type who wants things to be perfect before moving forward because failure feels costly and overwhelming.

The conflict shows up most clearly in their immigration process. After multiple denials, she wants to keep moving, adjusting, and re-submitting. But her husband wants to pause for months to make sure the next application is flawless… because the stakes are real.

We talk about how fear can disguise itself as “I just want it done right,” when perfection is wisdom and when it becomes avoidance, and how couples can stay aligned even when they don’t agree. We also get into what it looks like to bring in expert help, stop turning everything into a tug-of-war, and learn how to hear what’s really underneath your spouse’s approach. 💬🧠

Have you ever been the “let’s just move” person… married to someone who needs it to feel perfect first? 👀✨

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He’s Rebuilding His Life After Divorce…Should He Stay Single? #HMAY Ep. 280 Feb 17, 2026

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What do you do when you’re rebuilding your life after divorce… and wondering if you should do it alone? 💔➡️🏗️❤️

In Episode 280, a recently divorced listener writes in asking a vulnerable question: should he focus entirely on rebuilding himself — financially, emotionally, and spiritually — or should he actively pursue a relationship with someone who can help him build his life alongside him? 🤔

After separating in 2023 and finalizing his divorce in 2024, he’s been working nonstop to recover financially 💼. But now he’s wrestling with a deeper tension. Some people tell him to focus on his purpose and trust that the right person will come 🙏. Others point to stories of men whose wives helped shape and strengthen who they became. He’s wondering if it’s wise to stay focused on himself… or if partnership is part of the rebuilding process.

We talk honestly about what healing after divorce really requires 🧠, why rebuilding your foundation matters before inviting someone else into your life 🧱, and the difference between needing someone to complete you versus finding someone who can refine and strengthen what already exists. We also explore the role of partnership in purpose, what it means to be a helper and be helped 🤝, and why self-development is not isolation — but preparation.

Have you ever wrestled with whether to focus on becoming whole first… or trust that healing can happen alongside someone else? 💭

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