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189. Stop Falling Into The Orgasm Trap: Why You Need To Quit Prioritizing Orgasms To Start Having More Fun Nov 13, 2024

We're diving into ORGASMS with Keeley Rankin, MA, a sex & relationship coach who is ready to redefine how you think about sex. We cover:

What an orgasm ACTUALLY is
How most vagina owners reach orgasm
Orgasm comparison aka feeling like your orgasms are less than because you can't orgasm in a particular way (internally, cliterally etc.)
What gets in the way of finding your orgasm
THE ORGASM TRAP... what is it and how do we get out of it?!
Why we NEED to depriotritze orgasms in order to MAXIMIZE our pleasure
Why we fake orgasms and how to stop
How our orgasms change as we age

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188. Ditch The Good Girl Behavior: How To Stop People Pleasing, Get Comfortable Disappointing Them & Quit Over Apologizing Nov 06, 2024

We're chatting with Sara Fisk, host of the Ex Good Girl podcast and coach for people who want to stop people pleasing. We cover:

What it means to be "a good girl" and how it's RUINING your life both in and outside the bedroom
The "Good Girl Rules" we need to start breaking in order to live our most authentic, fulfilling lives
WHY we people please and how to know when we're doing it
A step by step plan for eliminating people pleasing from your life
How to disappoint people (and why you should start doing it)
How to navigate difficult conversations
How to stop apologizing SO. F***ING. MUCH.

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187. The Honeydew Me Guide To Asking For What You Want Oct 30, 2024

After 4 years of interviewing experts, we’re sharing EVERYTHING we’ve learned about asking for what you want in the bedroom (and beyond). We chat through how to ask for what you want, and tools to help you advocate for yourself from start to 💦finish💦. We cover:

Common obstacles and how to overcome them
How to figure out what you want
What to do if you’re feeling insecure about your desires
Tools to make asking easier
How to deal with rejection (and gracefully reject someone else)
Examples of how to negotiate and discuss sexual interests with a partner
How to navigate *in the moment* requests
How to give (and receive) post-sex feedback

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186. Stop Feeling Embarrassed About Erectile Dysfunction: Why It Happens, What To Do About It & Ditching The Shame For Good Oct 23, 2024

We're chatting all things ERECTILE DYSFUNCTION with Melissa Hadley Barrett, a Nurse Practitioner and Sexologist from Western Australia who specializes in treating ED. We unpack the causes of ED, the many treatment options, and how to start working through any shame or embarrassment you or your partner may be experiencing. We also cover:

How COMMON erectile dysfunction is and why you really don't need to feel ashamed
Reasons why you may be experiencing ED
What to say to a partner who's experiencing ED
What's considered NORMAL when it comes to erections (frequency, duration etc.)
How to access treatment for ED
Lifestyle changes that may help your ED
Things you can do IN THE MOMENT to help your erection (position changes etc.)
The deal with penis pumps... because it turns out they're kinda cool

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185. How To Prioritize Pleasure: Change Your Life, Stress Less & Have Better Sex Oct 16, 2024

Danielle Savory, a pleasure coach, is here to help us redefine wtf PLEASURE means and how to start prioritizing it. You deserve to be PLEASURED and SATISFIED both in the bedroom and beyond. Luckily Danielle is giving us all the necessary steps to make that a reality. We cover:

What pleasure does to your brain
Why we need to be prioritizing pleasure (HINT: it'll improve your life and help you achieve your goals)
How to find your personal "why" for prioritizing pleasure
How to prioritize pleasure even if you're super busy
How to prioritize pleasure during sex
The difference between pursuing pleasure vs pursuing happiness
How to program your brain to look for the good
How stress impacts your experience of pleasure and how to start stressing less

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184. Dating Reimagined: How To Ditch the Apps, Meet IRL & Bring Joy Back To Your Dates Oct 09, 2024

Did you know that dating can actually be JOYFUL? That you don't HAVE to be on the apps to meet people? We sure didn't. Thank the good lord for Lily Womble, creator of Date Brazen and author of "Thank You, More Please: A Feminist Guide to Breaking Dumb Dating Rules and Finding Love." In this episode, Lily covers:

Why the current state of dating sucks so much... it's not just you and there's real cognitive reasons why it feels so awful
How to start centering IRL dating and get off the apps
How to stop feeling behind and embrace your singleness
A step-by-step plan to take your dating life from *bleh* to FULL OF JOY
How to embrace the awkwardness and messiness of dating
What the phrase "Thank You, More Please" means and how to start using it to create the life you want
How to build a date that brings you joy

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183. Processing Grief: The Unexpected Ways It Shows Up & How The F*ck To Deal Oct 02, 2024

We’re talking all things GRIEF with our favorite therapists: Emmalee Bierly, LMFT and Jennifer Chaiken, LMFT aka Shrink Chicks. We dive into what grief ACTUALLY is, how it shows up in our lives, and how tf to deal with it. We also cover:

How to identify when you’re feeling grief
The unexpected ways grief shows up in our lives
Grieving when things don’t go the way you expected
How control and expectations play into grief
How resilience actually makes you cooler, braver and stronger
Why having a specific timeline for your life sets you up for failure
The ways you’re probably invalidating your own grief and how to stop
Additional ways to process grief

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182. Our Wildest Emails + Sex Facts To Make You Feel Good About Yourself Sep 25, 2024

This week we’re catching up by diving into our inbox and sharing some of our wildest emails. We’re also sharing some of our favorite sex facts that are pretty much guaranteed to make you feel good about yourself. We cover:

The spicy (and unwanted) invitations we've received via email
What research has to say about unsolicited dick pics
Q+A: How to deal when you want to try something new in the bedroom and your partner DOES NOT aka managing rejecting
We dive into the data to find out:
Are people actually having that much sex?
How many sexual partners is considered "normal"?
How confident people actually feel in the bedroom?
What's the deal with sex dreams?
What are people doing with their pubes?

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181. An Intuitive Guide’s Advice For Living Your Most Authentic & Fulfilling Life + An Intuitive Reading Just For YOU Sep 18, 2024

Need a little guidance? Us too. That's why we turned to Aja Vines, an intuitive reader and guide who just GETS IT. She's sharing her best tips for living your most authentic, fulfilling life and if you're anything like us, it's EXACTLY what you've been needing to hear. We cover:

What it ACTUALLY means to live an authentic life
How to know what's authentic to YOU
Steps you can take to build self-trust
How to comfort yourself instead and STOP beating yourself up
What to do when you're feeling behind in life
What your intuition is and how to get in touch with it
How to start using tarot/oracle cards
A VERY SPECIAL INTUITIVE READING just for our Honeys

The oracle deck Aja used for our reading is linked HERE!

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180. Everything You NEED To Know About Vaginas, Periods & Birth… But Probably Don’t Sep 11, 2024

April Davis of Haus of Vagina, a sex and menstrual educator, is BACK to tell us everything we need to know (but definitely don’t) about vaginas, periods, and birth. We cover:

Labiaplasty- what’s the deal, why people get them, what the potential side effects are, and questions to ask if you’re considering getting one
What happens to your vagina after you give birth
Postpartum sex and why it’s not as scary or bad as they say it will be
Questions to ask your OB or gynecologist
The importance of caring for your pelvic floor
How cycle syncing (aka living your life according to which part of the menstrual cycle you’re in) will help you fall in lovewith your period and life in general
How to cycle sync if you have an IUD
Rethinking the language we use when talking about sex and vaginas

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179. Here's How To Navigate Change & Life Transitions + Your Sexy Summer Stories & What We've Been Dewin Sep 04, 2024

We're starting off our new season by learning how to navigate change and life transitions with our bestie Victoria Albina, NP, MPH. Victoria is a coach who helps people overcome their codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing thinking and she's also our go-to whenever we're ready to feel SEEN, heard, and have our worlds absolutely rocked.

In this episode, Victoria covers:

The very primal reasons why change can be TERRIFYING
Finding safety in yourself so you can be confident navigating change
How to find your truth and also know when it's time for change
Why your desire to keep other people happy gives you a false sense of safety
What to do when the people in your life don't like, acknowledge, or support your changes
Why it's not ~always~ a bad thing to care what others think
How to stop fighting and let other people have their experience (spoiler: we don't have to control everything and maybe it isn't all that serious anyway)

Before the interview, we also chat about:

Your sexy summer stories
The changes we've been going through
What you can expect from Honeydew Me this season

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Summer Rewind: How To Break Up With Anyone Aug 28, 2024

This week, we’re learning how to breakup with ANYONE (yes, anyone) with Jamye Waxman, a sex therapist and author. We cover:

The types of breakups we experience (friends, family, romantic partners)
WHY breakups are so damn hard
HOW to breakup with someone
What to avoid when breaking up with someone
What’s a “good enough reason” to breakup with someone
How to start feeling better

[Episode 122 on Youtube]

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Summer Rewind: 8 Ways To Talk Dirty Aug 21, 2024

Hey ya filthy sl*t... let's learn how to talk dirty. Dr. Tara is back on the pod with TONS of examples and expert advice. We chat about:

How ANYONE can be good at dirty talk (even if you're awkward)
Dynamic dirty talk
8 types of dirty talk and examples for each
Directing vs narrating
Beginner to intermediate examples
Alternatives to "daddy"
Our favorite words to refer to a penis

[Episode 123 on Youtube]

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Summer Rewind: Finding Your Normal: Navigating Low & Mismatched Libidos Aug 14, 2024

We're covering all things libido with sex therapist (and libido expert) Dr. Emily Jamea. We chat about:

What libido is and isn't
The difference between libido, sex drive, and desire
What a "normal" libido looks like
Why low libido isn't inherently bad
How to navigate mismatched libidos in a relationship
Common libido myths
What can negatively impact your libido

[Episode 138 on Youtube]

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Summer Rewind: Watch Porn For Hotter Sex & Deeper Intimacy Aug 07, 2024

This week we're pressing play ON PORN and learning all the ways it can make our sex lives hotter and our relationships better. Rachel Wright, a licensed marriage and family therapist with a Master's in clinical psychology joins us to chat about:

How porn can BENEFIT your relationship
Fun ways to incorporate porn into partnered sex
Jealousy and porn: "why do they watch porn if they have me?!" and "what if my partner is jealous that I watch porn?"
Is watching porn cheating?
Feeling insecure about the type of porn you watch
What to do if the type of porn your partner watches makes you uncomfy
How much is TOO MUCH porn?

[Episode 113 on Youtube]

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Summer Rewind: Sex On Drugs: Antidepressants, Anxiety & Stress... OH MY! Jul 31, 2024

Okay Honey, it’s time we talk about sex and antidepressants (but also anxiety, stress, and depression). Sex on drugs aint easy, which is why we’re talking with Dr. Jordan Rullo and getting ALL the tips on how to deal. We cover the basic science behind it all, changes in sex drive and sexual function, fight or flight during sex, and a whole lot more. In addition to actionable steps, we talk through mourning your sexual self, reframing your sexual experiences, and how to support a partner who is struggling with these changes.

[Episode 96 on Youtube]

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Summer Rewind: Abortion Resources Post Roe v. Wade Jul 24, 2024

Michelle Hope, sexologist, activist and Director of Social Impact and Strategic Communications at SIECUS, joins us to talk post-Roe action items and resources. We discuss:

What Roe v. Wade is, what happened, and how we actually got here
The role of comprehensive sex education
Resources for states that have lost access to abortion
Getting involved in your community

Resources:

https://www.threeforfreedom.com/

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Summer Rewind: Toxic Masculinity & Sex Shame Jul 17, 2024

We’re breaking down toxic masculinity and sex shame with Zachary Zane, author of "Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto". We cover:

What toxic masculinity is and how it manifests
How toxic masculinity impacts our sex lives and leads to sexual shame
How sexual shame limits and negatively impacts us
Zachary's personal experience with sexual shame and being bi
Labels in life and social media
What queerbaiting actually means

[Episode 137 on Youtube]

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Summer Rewind: How To Quit Purity Culture Jul 10, 2024

We are finally talkin' PURITY CULTURE and, perhaps more importantly, we're talkin' all about how to ditch that bitch. Erica Smith, the creator of Purity Culture Dropout TM, is here to share all the dirty deets. We chat about…

What purity culture is
How purity culture impacts our sex lives
Concrete steps for quitting
Concept of virginity & "body count"
Post-sex guilt

[Episode 83 on Youtube]

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Summer Rewind: Birth Control 101: Know Your Options & Ditch The Myths Jul 03, 2024

THE Dr. Jennifer Lincoln is on the pod and ready to talk ALL things birth control. We chat about:

Common myths and misconceptions (i.e. infertility, negative health impacts etc)
Whether "hormone balancing" is legit and if "hormone imbalances" are the cause of all your issues
WHY we tend to demonize birth control
Types of birth control methods (hormonal vs non hormonal)
Plan B: what it is, how to use it & when to use it
What actually is an abortion and what are the types of abortions
FREE RESOURCES

[Episode 108 on Youtube]

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Summer Rewind: The Secret To FUN Guilt Free Hookups Jun 26, 2024

THIS IS SUPPOSED TO BE FUN… and by “this” we mean sex, hookups, dating, ALL OF IT. Cue Myisha Battle, a sex and dating coach who quite literally wrote the book on finding the fun in all of it. We decided to deep dive into hookups (obvs) and chatted about…

Deciding what we want from sex
Finding your sexual values
How to find hookups (both on the apps and off)
What’s the deal with “chemistry”?
The benefits of hookups
How to make hookups as fun as possible
“I’m not that into you, but damn I wanna bang…”
How to say what you’re into AND what you want in the moment

Get Myisha's book HERE!

[Episode 126 on Youtube]

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Summer Rewind: How To Have Mind Blowing Solo Sex Jun 19, 2024

We’re talking all things MASTURBATION with one of our favorite sex and pleasure educators, Luna Matatas. We cover:

New positions to try
How to make your hands feel JUST as good as a toy
How to finger yourself
What to do if you get nervous while *exploring*
How often we should masturbate
How to start fantasizing during solo play
Dirty chat rooms
How long a solo sesh should be
Taking masturbation OUTSIDE the bedroom (legally)

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[Episode 129 on Youtube]

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Summer Rewind: You're Not Too Needy: Find Your Needs, Get Them Met & Death To The "Chill Girl" Jun 12, 2024

When did being NEEDY become a bad thing? We have NEEDS (a lot of 'em) and those needs deserve to be met whether they're in the bedroom or beyond it. That's why we're talking with Mara Glatzel, MSW an intuitive coach and author of the Book "Needy: How To Advocate For Your Needs and Claim Your Sovereignty". We chat about:

What it ACTUALLY means to be needy
Why we should ditch the "chill girl/person" mentality
What happens when we neglect our needs
How ignoring our needs impacts our sex lives
How to figure out what you need AND how to ask for it
Is there such a thing as TOO needy?
What to do when your partner doesn't or can't meet your needs
Giving up your role as a "mindreader" (aka when you think you always know what other people need)

Get Mara's book HERE!

[Episode 131 on Youtube]

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Summer Rewind: The Power Of PDA: How To Get It On In Public & Give Zero F*cks Jun 05, 2024

Let's get it on... IN PUBLIC. We're talking PDA with Dr. Tara and breaking through ALL the shame. We we chat about:

What Power PDA is
Critique and support for PDA
What if there's a discrepancy between what you and your partner want?
Giving NO f*cks
Who decided affection needed to be kept private?
Should there be goal with PDA?
How far is TOO far in public?
How healthy displays of affection are GOOD
How to start engaging in PDA if you're new to it

Connect with Dr. Tara

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Website

[Episode 116 on Youtube]

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178. How To Set Up The Perfect Summer Date May 22, 2024

Alright Honeys, we're juuuussst about ready to send you into your summer of hook-ups but can't let you go without a little help and advice for our girl, Abigail Jensen. In this episode, we dive into girl chat about what makes for a PERFECT date. We chat about:

How to practice being confident
Key ingredients for setting up a great date
Where to take your dates to ensure good vibes
Questions we should be asking to get to know your date
Common dating mistakes
LTR dating tips

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177. How To Give An Erotic Massage: Benefits, Positions & Stroke For Both Giver And Receiver May 15, 2024

Get your hands nice and warmed up because we'll be puttin' them to WORK. This week we talk to Barbara Carrellas, erotic massage pro, about how to give and receive pleasure through massage. 🙌 Barbara holds nothing back when it comes to pleasure and this episode delivers tips, tricks, and erotic puppets???

We chat about:

What makes a massage ✨erotic✨
The benefits of an erotic massage
How to get present in the moment
Best positions to give a massage
Massage prep
How to incorporate ALL our parts

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176. How To Be The Best Kisser & Leave Them Begging For More May 08, 2024

There is nothing more make-or-break than kissing chemistry, so as we head into our summer of hook-ups, let's refresh ourselves shall we?! This week, we chat with the one and only, Luna Matatas all about the art of lip-locking. In this episode, we cover:

Mistakes we make while kissing
How to practice your technique
What cues to pick up on from a partner
What to do with your lips
How to french
How to communicate with your partner about what you want more or less of

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175. How to Date Selfishly, F*ck Casually & Build Your Summer Roster May 01, 2024

Dating casually never seemed so easy after this convo with Talia Koren. As the host of Dating Intentionally podcast, and a HIGHLY experienced casual dater, Talia knows a thing or two about putting yourself out there to get what you want and have fun while dating. In this episode, we cover:

Getting clear on what you want out of dating
Tapping into your own desirability
Benefits of casually dating
How to be selfish (in a GREAT way)
Creating your roster
Rules of Casual Dating

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174. Teasing Your Naughty Bits: Nipple-gasms, Anal Play & Tips for Talking Dirty Apr 17, 2024

We believe that every last BIT of you deserves maximum pleasure so we brought back Dr. Tara to teach us a thing or two (or 12) about how to tease, play and talk dirty to ALL of our naughty bits. In this episode, we cover:

Breast and Nipple play
Nipple-gasms for ALL
How to play with the booty cheeks
How to relax during anal play
What to do with the balls
Dirty talk tips

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173. Blowjob Fundamentals: How To Shake Off Performance Anxiety & Feel Confident As The Giver Apr 10, 2024

Get ready to be BLOWN away this week as we cover the fundamentals of giving a Bl*wjob worthy of a standing (laying, sitting) O with Dr. Jenni Skyler. 👏

We also cover:

How to feel safe and comfortable
How to make a bl*wjob romantic
How to ask your partner if they're in the mood
Positions for both givers and receivers
Finishing tips

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172: How To Create A Healing, Sensual & FUN Masturbation Practice Apr 03, 2024

Azaria is one magical (p*ssy) fairy and she shares her wisdom by dishing out some of the BEST, yummiest, most healing tips and tricks for masturbating with a vulva & vagina. She'll heal your soul, and help you reach your maximum O. We also cover:

The definition of self-pleasure
How to use your masturbation practice to heal
How to build a sustainable self-care routine
Ways to get creative with touch
Dual sensory activation

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171. Oral Sex: Tips For Going Down On A Vulva, Maximizing Pleasure & Feeling Confident As The Giver or Receiver Mar 27, 2024

Annabelle Knight, a sex and relationship expert, is here to walk us through her top tips for oral sex on a vulva. We cover:

How to initiate going down (or any type of intimate play)
Non verbal pleasure cues to watch out for
How to communicate what you want as the receiver
Positions
Specific ways to orally pleasure a vulva
A method that reportedly helps people ✨finish✨in 3 minutes or less
How to feel confident and sexy as the giver or receiver

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170. Vaginal Health: How To Care For Your Bits, Perform Self Checks & Advocate For Yourself Mar 20, 2024

YOUR VAGINA IS BEAUTIFUL and deserves to be taken care of. That's why we're diving into all things vaginal health with April Davis, from discharge, to pubes, and everything in between. April Davis is the creator of Haus of Vagina, a community that combines her extensive background in birth work and passion for sex education to empower vagina owners everywhere! In this episode, we cover:

What to look out for when it comes to vaginal health
The regular self checks we need to be doing
Common signs of infection and when to call the doctor
How to work through shame and embarrassment around vaginal health and going to the doctor
How to advocate for yourself at the doctor
Common things we do that negatively impact our vaginal health
Trying new period products to find what works for YOUR body
Whether pubic hair matters for maintaining your vaginal health

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169. Master The Art of The Handjob Mar 13, 2024

This week we're rediscovering the power of the humble handjob with relationship and intimacy coach, Keeley Rankin, MA. We cover:

WHY handjobs are worth including in your sexual toolkit
Common mistakes we make when giving handjobs
Ways to tease and seduce your partner
Navigating the different parts of the penis
Different movements to try
How to play with the balls
Cleaning up after someone cums
The mental roadblocks that can get in the way of us feeling sexy and having fun

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168. Master The Art of The Pussy Massage Mar 06, 2024

Ready to put those hands to WORK?! Ashley Manta, a sex and relationship coach, is here to teach us the art of pussy massage (aka fingering/hand sex). We cover:

Why we’re ditching “finger banging” in favor of ✨pussy massage✨
Common mistakes people make when fingering
The most pleasurable ways to touch a vulva or vagina
The best positions for hand sex
Getting involved as the receiver
How to incorporate toys
Why you might want to try adding in some butt stuff

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167. Infidelity: How To Recover After Someone Cheats Feb 28, 2024

Ever wondered why people cheat? If it's possible for a relationship to TRULY heal after someone's strayed? Cue Rebecca Stone, LCSW, a therapist who specializes in helping couples recover after infidelity. In this episode, we cover:

How Rebecca defines cheating & why it's SO important to define it within your relationship
WHY people cheat
The role attachment styles play in infidelity
How to disclose to your partner that you cheated
Whether recovery is possible and if "once a cheater, always a cheater" holds true
The necessary ingredients for repairing your relationship post-infidelity
The stigma and shame that betrayed partners experience when they choose to stay

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166. New Relationships: Common Mistakes, What To Watch Out For & How To Make The Most Of Your Budding Romance Feb 21, 2024

Whether you're dating around, ready to find your person, or loving it up in the honeymoon phase, knowing how to navigate the highs and lows of a new relationship is pivotal. Catherine Drysdale, a sex and relationship coach, is here to help us understand what we tend to mess up, what we need to look out for, and how to make the most of a brand new relash. We cover:

Common mistakes we make when starting a new relationship
How to reframe the dating process so you can feel CONFIDENT and in control
Why you SHOULD be asking the hard questions early on
Why a smaller dating pool is actually a good thing
Red and green flags to watch out for
How to work through anxiety and insecurity while on a date

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165. How To Fight Fair Feb 14, 2024

HOT RELATIONSHIP TIP: fighting isn’t a bad thing… but you do need to learn how to fight fair. Emmalee Bierly, LMFT and Jennifer Chaiken, LMFT of Shrink Chicks are back and this time they’re sharing their expert tips on how to fight. We cover:

Why fighting is actually a part of a healthy relationship
How to fight fair
How to regulate your emotions during a fight
Scripts for expressing your feelings and apologizing
What resentment can look like and how it manifests in our relationships
The grief that comes along with committing to a long term relationship

Connect with Em & Jen:

On their website
Listen to their podcast

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164. How to Cultivate & Maintain A Healthy Relationship Feb 07, 2024

This month we're all about RELATIONSHIPS and who better to start us off than Victoria Albina, NP, MPH? As a coach for codependent folks who want to stop feeling anxious and overwhelmed, Victoria is the perfect person to walk us through how to maintain the long term relationships we're in. We cover:

What a healthy relationship looks like
How codependent thinking and emotional outsourcing impact our relationships
What happens when we rely on a partner for joy
How to start assuming positive intent
How consent and boundaries will help you prevent resentment
How to approach a partner when starting a conversation

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163. Positions For Discreet & Outdoor Sex Jan 24, 2024

Whether you're trying to keep things discreet or wanting a romp in the great outdoors, we've done the research and found all the tips, tricks, and positions you need to make it a pleasurable experience. Got a roommate you don't want to disturb? Trying to sneak in an orgasm while on a hike? No prob, because we cover:

How to prepare for discreet sex
Positions for discreet sex
Public/outdoor sex trends
Locations for outdoor sex (from beginner to more adventurous)
Positions for outdoor sex

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162. Quickies: The Unsung Relationship Hero For Emotional & Physical Connection Jan 17, 2024

Short on time? No worries, we're talking quickies with sex and relationship expert, Dr. Tara, and learning all the ways to start using quick sex sessions to our advantage. We cover:

What a "quickie" actually is
The benefits of quickies
Types of quickies (there's probably more than you're thinking...)
Positions for quickies
The importance of incorporating "play" into your relationship
Using quickies to try out something new

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On her website

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161. Sex Positions For The Lazy Lover Jan 10, 2024

Calling all lazy lovers... this episode was made especially for you. We're looking for minimum effort and maximum pleasure, which is exactly why we're talking with Ginny Hogan, a stand-up comedian and author of the book "Sex for Lazy People: 50 Effortless Positions So You Can Do It Without Overdoing It." We cover:

Why sex doesn't have to be high-energy or high-effort
How to make sex as low effort or lazy as possible
Positions for when you just want to chill
Releasing the pressure aka letting sex be good without forcing it to be amazing
Lazy masturbation tips

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160. Sex Positions For When You're Feeling Insecure Jan 03, 2024

This week we are getting into position to have the best sex ever, even when we're not feeling our best. It's hard to remember that we deserve pleasure when we're feeling hot, but especially when we're feeling VERY NOT. In this episode, we chat with Sarah Watson a certified sex therapist and sex educator about how to have great and pleasurable sex even when our insecurities are making an unwanted debut. We cover:

How to approach sex when you're feeling insecure
How to communicate your insecurities to a partner
Asking for validation
KNOWING that you deserve pleasurable sex
Positions that'll help keep you focused on the present
The importance of solo pleasure

Connect with Sarah Watson:

Simplesexeducation.com
@Swsxtherapy on Instagram
Flow Extreme podcast

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159. Set Your Sexy New Year's Intentions Dec 27, 2023

If there’s one thing we’ve learned about having good sex, it’s that you need to be INTENTIONAL. So that’s what we’re doing for 2024, setting sexual intentions to get us closer to having the BEST DAMN SEX we can. In this episode, we’re chatting about:

Our personal intentions for the new year and how we plan on implementing them (i.e. masturbation practices, embracing our buttholes etc.)
Sexual resolutions/intentions submitted by YOU (our listeners)
Advice for implementing your intentions based on EXPERT tips from previous episodes

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158. A Simple Bitch's Guide To Connecting With Your Cycle, Resting When You're Tired & Nourishing Your Hot Bod Dec 20, 2023

Here at Honeydew Me, we are first and foremost ✨simple bitches✨. So when we're connecting with our bodies, we're looking for simple, no bullshit tips. That's why we're talking with Usha Anandi, a holistic nutritionist, herbalist, yoga teacher and founder of Womben Wellness, WHO JUST GETS IT. We cover:

Realistic practices for connecting with your body and your cycle (aka you don't have to overhaul your entire life)
Why you should definitely give a fuck about connecting with your body
Why rest is SO important and how to stop feeling guilty about it
Ways to nourish and move your body while supporting your womb
Where to start without getting overwhelmed

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157. How To Have Psychedelic Sex Dec 13, 2023

We hope you're PSYCHED for this episode, because we sure as hell are. Jessica Alfaqih, a Psychedelic Sensual Empowerment Coach, is here to teach us the ins and outs of having psychedelic sex (both sober and with the help of some plant friends). We cover:

What psychedelics are and how they impact your mind and body
How psychedelics can be used to enhance your sexual experiences
How to have the same psychedelic sex WITHOUT using psychedelics (aka sober)
Where to start if you're a newbie
Visualization techniques for getting into a psychedelic state
Conditioning yourself to be kinder to yourself
The importance of integration

CLICK HERE for a FREE workshop with Jessica on December 16th '23!

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156. Somatics: How To Feel Your Feelings, Trust Yourself & Make Friends With Your Body Dec 06, 2023

This month at Honeydew Me we’re learning how to connect with our bodies and there’s no one better to start us off than THE Victoria Albina, NP, MPH. Victoria is a coach for codependent folks who want to stop feeling anxious, exhausted and overwhelmed... and, hawt damn, is she INCREDIBLE at it. In this episode, we cover:

What it actually means to FEEL your feelings and HOW to do it
WTF somatics means and why it’s so important
Sex and somatics
Making friends with your body
Getting present and dropping into your body
Self awareness and self trust

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155. Speed Dating, Hookups & Casual Flings Nov 29, 2023

We pussed ourselves out there ALL MONTH LONG and now we're ready to share the dirty deets with YOU. From speed dating, to Hinge dates, to hot hookups, we're chatting through it all and sharing our biggest takeaways. We cover:

What it's like to go to a speed dating event
Navigating casual dating for the first time
Hooking up with strangers
Ending a fling

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154. Find Your Flirt Style & Feel Confident AF Nov 22, 2023

This week we're learning how to flirt and feel confident AF while we do it. Benjamin Camras, aka The Flirt Coach, is here to spill all his flirting secrets and give us the actionable tips we've been waiting for. We cover:

A CLEAR definition of what flirting is
The 4 main flirty styles and how to find your personal flirting style
What we're getting WRONG when it comes to flirting
What to do if you're shy or awkward
Benjamin's flirting framework
How to enhance your verbal flirting game
Using your body to flirt

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153. Owning Your Slut Era Nov 15, 2023

This week we're putting our sluttiest foot forward and pussing ourselves OUT THERE by learning how to be hot sluts. Lucky for us, Zachary Zane aka The Boyslut, is here to teach us how. Zach is a sex expert, advice columnist, and author who is here to help you embrace your inner slut. We cover:

What it means to be a slut (it's empowering af)
Finding your slutty confidence
Zachary's journey to becoming a slut
Slutty mantras to live by
What if you want to be a slut but you also catch feelings?
How to embrace your slutiness and feel into it ALL DAY LONG

Connect with Zach:

Buy his book "Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto" HERE!
Visit his website HERE

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152. How To Puss Yourself Out There & Get What You Want Nov 08, 2023

Ready to put your self OUT THERE? We thought so. Cue Amy and April, hosts of Shameless Sex Podcast and authors of the upcoming book "Shameless Sex: Choose Your Own Pleasure Path". We're unpacking HOW to puss yourself out there and get what you want both in the bedroom and beyond. We cover:

What it means to put yourself out there and how to get started
How to put yourself out there when you're single AND in a long term relationship
Where to find people to date or just bang
Pick up lines and initiating flirtatious conversations
Navigating and accepting rejection
Bringing back the spice to a long term relationship
Small ways to put yourself out there throughout the day

Connect with Amy & April:

On their website
Get their book HERE'

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151. Entitled & Indulgent Foreplay Nov 01, 2023

This month at Honeydew Me, we're learning how to put ourselves out there or, as we like to say, how to PUSS ourselves out there. We're starting off with the juiciest lesson on foreplay and initiation with none other than Haylin Belay. Haylin is a sexual health educator, bodyworker, and pleasure witch who is ready to CHANGE YOUR DAMN LIFE. We cover:

Expanding your definition of foreplay
How to turn yourself ON
Understanding the phases of sexual arousal and USING that to your advantage
How to feel ENTITLED to your needs
How to make communication feel ✨sexy✨
Low-stakes ways to initiate sex
How to engage in foreplay ALL DAY

Connect with Haylin:

On her website

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150. Pet Play: Using Role Play To Unleash Your Wild Side Oct 25, 2023

Ever been curious about role-play? Wanted to explore your wild side? Lucky you, because we're closing out kink month by exploring pet play. Tyomi Morgan, a sexpert and intimacy coach, is BACK on Honeydew Me to break down one of her favorite kinky activities. We cover:

What pet play (aka a type of animal role play) is and why it's a kink
How Tyomi engages in pet play and her pet persona
The dom/sub dynamic and what pet/handler relationships can look like
Props and accessories
Communication while role-playing
Dealing with the awkward and WTF moments that can arise during role-play

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On her website

On Instagram

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149. Bondage & Restraints Oct 18, 2023

This episode has us all tied up and we couldn't be more excited. Midori, a sex educator and coach, is here to share all her tips for bringing bondage and restraints into the bedroom. We cover:

Midori's definition of BDSM (IT'S SO GOOD)
Why being bound is so erotic
How to get started in bondage
Types of restraints (including household items, luxury restraints & more)
Body parts to restrain and body parts to avoid
Dominance and rope games

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On her website
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148. How To Ask For Rough Sex Oct 11, 2023

You deserve to have all your kinky little needs met, so in this episode, we're learning how to talk the talk and ask for what we want. Stella Harris, an intimacy educator, coach, mediator, and author of "Tongue Tied: Untangling Communication in Sex, Kink, and Relationships" is here to help us dig into the nitty gritty and develop our sexy communication skills. We cover:

Sexual communication basics
How to introduce and negotiate your kinky desires
Navigating shame around sexual interests
How to control your own "yuck" so you don't shame a partner
How to tell a partner you didn't like something you tried
How to make these conversations more fun

Connect with Stella:

On her website

Get her books

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147. Dominate the Bedroom: How To Build Confidence, Work Through Embarrassment & Dominate Like A Pro Oct 04, 2023

It's officially kink month at Honeydew Me and we're kicking things off with a SPICY lesson on how to be more dominant. We're joined by Eva Oh, a Professional Dominatrix with ALL the tips we've been waiting for. We cover:

What makes a good domme both privately and professionally
What gets in the way of us embracing our dominant sides
Setting containers and boundaries
How to build confidence
How to work through shame and embarrassment when being dominant
How to recover when you make a mistake or say something "stupid" in the bedroom
What a session with Eva looks like

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146. Come With Us To A Sex Club Sep 27, 2023

We're closing out non-monogamy month with a BANG... or lots of banging. We went to a sex club as total newbies and now we're reporting back to tell you everything you need to know. We cover:

Getting in, getting a tour, and first impressions
All the rules and why we LOVED them
The set up of the club
What we saw and what we DID
Major takeaways and tips for other first timers

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145. Cuckolding 101 Sep 20, 2023

WTF is cuckolding? Why are people into it? Is it something I might be into? These are the questions we set out to answer when talking with Jen Meyer, a licensed therapist and sex educator who specializes in kink and consensual non-monogamy. In this episode, we cover:

What cuckolding is and how it all works
Why it's a turn-on
The different roles in a cuckolding scene
How shame and jealousy play into cuckolding
Figuring out if cuckolding is for you
How to navigate opening your relationship

Connect with Jen:

jenmeyertherapy.com

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144. Guide To Threesomes & Sex Parties Sep 13, 2023

Susan Bratton, THE intimacy expert to millions, is back and this time she's breaking down two of her favorite nonmonogamous activities... THREESOMES AND SEX PARTIES. Here's what you can expect:

Susan sells us on threesomes and explains WHY she loves them
Positions for threesomes
What to do when you're feeling left out
IT WILL BE CLUNKY... we cover how to work through that
What it feels like to be double-penetrated
Finding a third
Why you NEED to be making "offers" and examples of how to do it
Navigating sex parties
Being a "good" slut

Resources from the episode:

Connect with Susan:

susanbratton.com
On Instagram

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143. Polyamory: How To Elevate Your Sex, Relationships, & Life By Unlocking Your Slutty Heart Sep 06, 2023

First up in our non-monogamy series we’re covering POLYAMORY… because WTF is it and would you ever be into it? That’s what we’re exploring in this episode with sex educator and therapist, Dr. Liz Powell. We cover:

What polyamory is and what it isn’t (aka all the things we get wrong when we think about polyamory)
Why we need to be examining the “relationship scripts” we’re given to figure out what we actually want
What the BENEFITS of polyamory are
What polyamorous relationships can look like
How sex can work in polyamorous relationships
Boundaries, rules and COMMUNICATION

Connect with Dr. Liz:

Their website
Their Instagram

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Summer Rewind: Catch Up with Cass & Em Aug 16, 2023

One last catch up and we’ll be back to our regularly scheduled programming. We cover what’s next for Honeydew Me, what we’ve been up to this summer, and reflect a little on the past (but like, in a fun way) 😘

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Summer Rewind: Turn Ons & Mid-Sex Name Slips Aug 09, 2023

For our last rewind of the summer, we’re revisiting turn ons with sex educator, Cassandra Corrado. We cover:

How to figure out what turns you on
How to ask for what you want
Giving ✨constructive✨ criticism to a partner
What to do when someone kills the mood
When you accidentally say the wrong name

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Summer Rewind: Squirting Aug 02, 2023

It’s the last month of our Summer Rewind and we’re starting off by revisiting an audience favorite: SQUIRTING. Sex educator, Shea Alexander joins us to share the ins and outs of the elusive juices (lol sorry). We cover:

What squirting ACTUALLY is
How to do it
G-Spot basics
Clean up
Talking with a partner about squirting

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Summer Rewind: Catch Up with Cass & Em Jul 19, 2023

Another check in with Cass & Em cummin right atcha. We’re chatting through some of our most TRANSFORMATIVE sexual experiences and our major takeaways. If you’re looking for a little encouragement to take up space and get what you want in the bedroom, we’ve got you covered 😘

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Summer Rewind: Going Down Jul 12, 2023

This week, we’re heading ✨down south✨ and revisiting cunnilingus with sex educator Luna Matatas. Whether you’re the giver or the receiver, this episode is overflowing with all the juicy tips you need to have a great time when eating out. We cover:

Working through shame (aka how to stop worrying about how you look, taste, and smell)
How to move your tongue
How to incorporate fingers
Positions
How to engage as the receiver
AND SO MUCH MORE

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Summer Rewind: Body Neutrality for Better Sex Jul 05, 2023

Summer can bring up ALL SORTS of insecurities when it comes to our bodies, so we're revisiting one of our favorite episodes with Brenna O'Malley. Brenna, a non-diet dietician, takes us on a deep dive of body neutrality and teaches us how to navigate the crunchy feelings that tend to arise when we start unpacking our relationships with our bodies. We cover:

How to navigate vulnerable body image moments
Whether or not affirmations work
Brenna's top tip for fueling an amazing sex life
Food in the context of dating
Diet culture and diet talk

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Summer Rewind: Catch Up with Cass & Em Jun 21, 2023

Craving a cozy convo with your besties? Us too. So press play and join us for a quickie 😘 We're talking sex, we're talking marriage, we're talking LIFE CHANGES, honey.

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Summer Rewind: Fingering Jun 14, 2023

Fingering is an art, that when done right, is *chef’s kiss*. That’s why we’re revisiting fingering with Allison Moon, author of Girl Sex 101 and a true va-genius. We cover:

What fingering is and how to make it a MAIN COURSE
Pleasure anatomy and technical basics
How to touch the outside (aka the vulva)
How to ✨enter✨ and what to do once you’re in
Positions
How to add in oral

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Summer Rewind: Doggy Style Jun 07, 2023

We’re gettin on all fours and revisiting a fan favorite… DOGGY STYLE. August McLaughlin of Girl Boner Radio joins us to share all the dirty deets. We cover:

What doggy style is and its many variations
Making the position work for YOU and YOUR BODY
How to make doggy feel more intimate
Finding the G spot during doggy
Stroke tips and tricks
What you can do as the receiver

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142. How To Explore Your Fantasies & Level Up Your Partnered and Solo Sex May 31, 2023

We’re diving HEAD first into fantasies with Gina Gutierrez, the Chief Creative Officer and Co-Founder of Dipsea (aka our fav audio erotica app)! We chat about:

How to start incorporating fantasy into your sex life
Navigating fantasies wile you’re in a relationship
What to do if fantasizing doesn’t come easily to you
What to do when something you DON’T like pops into your fantasy (and why this happens)
What people typically fantasize about (according to the data)
Where our fantasies come from
The tools and benefits we gain from fantasizing
Our favorite Dipsea stories

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141. Degrade Me But In A Hot Way May 24, 2023

Hey you dirty little slut… Dr. Liz Powell is BACK and this time they’re helping us break down degradation and humiliation play. We chat about:

What degradation play is
WHY degradation and humiliation can be turn ons
How sex and shame are connected in our brains
Indicators that this type of play might be for YOU
Boundaries and safe words
Examples of how to engage in this type of play
Aftercare and dealing with feelings of guilt/shame

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140. You're Not Too Emotional: How To Embrace "Negative" Emotions & Ditch The Need To Be Taken Seriously May 17, 2023

Our QUEEN, Victoria Albina, NP, MPH, has returned, and this time she's breaking down the concept of "negative" or "bad" emotions. We chat about:

Victoria's thoughts on "negative" emotions
Allowing all emotions to be FELT
Being labeled as the emotions we allow ourselves to feel (sad, angry etc.)
Wanting to more ✨elegantly✨ express your emotions
Being taken seriously when you're upset
Is there such a thing as "too emotional"?

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139. The Sex Ed You Never Got: Masturbation, Plan B, & Porn May 10, 2023

We’re chatting with sex educator Danielle Bezalel and closing some BIG OL’ knowledge gaps (courtesy of the shitty sex ed we got growing up). We cover:

If using vibrators makes it harder to orgasm without one
How much masturbation is TOO MUCH
How early people typically start masturbating and when to start talking about masturbation with kids
Emergency contraceptive 101
Can you take TOO MANY Plan B’s?
Navigating porn use in a relationship
Feeling in competition with porn
If sex should EVER hurt and reasons why it does
De-centering penetration in partnered sex

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138. Finding Your Normal: Navigating Low & Mismatched Libidos May 03, 2023

We're covering all things libido with sex therapist (and libido expert) Dr. Emily Jamea. We chat about:

What libido is and isn't
The difference between libido, sex drive, and desire
What a "normal" libido looks like
Why low libido isn't inherently bad
How to navigate mismatched libidos in a relationship
Common libido myths
What can negatively impact your libido

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137. Toxic Masculinity & Sex Shame Apr 26, 2023

We’re breaking down toxic masculinity and sex shame with Zachary Zane, author of “Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto”. We chat about:

What toxic masculinity is and how it manifests
How toxic masculinity impacts our sex lives and leads to sexual shame
How sexual shame limits and negatively impacts us
Zachary's personal experience with sexual shame and being bi
Labels in life and social media
What queerbaiting actually means

Get Zachary's book HERE!

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136. Play With Your Butt: Tips, Techniques, & Positions for Anal Masturbation Apr 19, 2023

We’re headed BACK to your backdoor and talking all things anal masturbation with Dr. Heather Bartos. We cover:

WHY your butt is such an epicenter of pleasure (even when you don’t have a prostate)
Prep and precautions
Techniques for playing with your butt
Internal and external methods
Positions
Toys and other props to try

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135. You Don’t Have To Love Your Body To Feel Sexy and Get Off Apr 05, 2023

Ever wondered what the most "flattering" positions are? What about the ideal hairdo for ✨down there✨? Us too, but it turns out that "flattering" sex might not be a worthwhile goal. That's why we're talking with sex educator and author of “Curvy Girl Sex: 101 Body-Positive Positions to Empower Your Sex Life”, Elle Chase. Elle is here to help us unpack the oh-so complex relationship between sex and body image by chatting about...

How body image impacts partnered and solo sex
How to work through negative self talk/thoughts
How to navigate sex after your body has gone through a change
Whether sex should be "flattering"
Accommodating insecurities and finding RELIEF
What's the deal with body hair and how much should we care

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134. How To Cut Out Comparison & Navigate Insecurities In Your Relationship Mar 29, 2023

We're diving head first (and balls deep) into some listener questions with Victoria Albina, NP, MPH, a magical human who specializes in helping people work through emotional outsourcing (AKA people pleasing, codependency etc.). In this episode we chat about:

How to "manage" a partner's insecurities
How to navigate boundaries in a relationship and what to do when you don't agree
The difference between being "kind" and "nice"
Being queer while in a hetero relationship
The FOMO trap and how to get out of it
How to stop comparing yourself to a partner's ex
Why talking about our insecurities makes us COOL
How to navigate lack of sexual desire and feeling like an outcast

Check out Victoria's FREE meditations HERE!

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133. The Secret To Missionary Orgasms, Having Sex On A Yoga Ball, & Making A Pillow Your Third Mar 22, 2023

It’s time for a little gab sesh because we miss ya, we’ve learned some things, and we have some updates. This week, we’re talking about:

Techniques for spicing up missionary position
The Coital Alignment Technique (AKA the secret to missionary orgasms)
Having sex on a yoga ball, in the ocean, and with a pillow (not at the same time)
Dating and navigating “the apps”
Period pain and endometriosis
A BIG OL’ UPDATE for Honeydew Me

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132. Uncensored Questions: Foreplay Strategies, BEST Initiation Techniques, & Working With ED Mar 15, 2023

Our UNCENSORED QUEEN, Dr. Tara, is back and ready to answer all your spicy questions. We cover:

Tips and ideas for high quality foreplay
What NOT to say during sex
How to redirect someone during sex WITHOUT hurting their feelings
Mismatched libidos and what to do about it
How to CONFIDENTLY initiate sex
The 4 types of initiation styles and examples for each
How to navigate erectile dysfunction
What to do if your partner won't stop "jackhammering"
Getting your partner to slow down
How to start the pegging conversation
Moving from scheduled sex to spontaneous sex

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131. You're Not Too Needy: Find Your Needs, Get Them Met, Death To The "Chill Girl" Mar 08, 2023

When did being NEEDY become a bad thing? We have NEEDS (a lot of 'em) and those needs deserve to be met whether they're in the bedroom or beyond it. That's why we're talking with Mara Glatzel, MSW an intuitive coach and author of the Book "Needy: How To Advocate For Your Needs and Claim Your Sovereignty". We chat about:

What it ACTUALLY means to be needy
Why we should ditch the "chill girl/person" mentality
What happens when we neglect our needs
How ignoring our needs impacts our sex lives
How to figure out what you need AND how to ask for it
Is there such a thing as TOO needy?
What to do when your partner doesn't or can't meet your needs
Giving up your role as a "mindreader" (aka when you think you always know what other people need)

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130. How To Stay Present During Sex: Embrace Your Pleasure, Regulate Your Nervous System, & Work Through Sexual Trauma Mar 01, 2023

The one and only Victoria Albina, NP, MPH is back and we're going DEEP (as always). We chat about:

What gets in the way of us being PRESENT during sex
Why we deny ourselves pleasure
Blocks against receiving love and care
Tools for nervous system regulation
Mindfulness
How to work towards presence after sexual trauma

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129. How To Have Mind Blowing Solo Sex: Finding Your Fantasy, New Positions & Hot Hand Techniques Feb 22, 2023

We’re talking all things MASTURBATION with one of our favorite sex and pleasure educators, Luna Matatas. We cover:

New positions to try
How to make your hands feel JUST as good as a toy
How to finger yourself
What to do if you get nervous while *exploring*
How often we should masturbate
How to start fantasizing during solo play
Dirty chat rooms
How long a solo sesh should be
Taking masturbation OUTSIDE the bedroom (legally)

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128. Fisting: The Key To Deeper, Fuller Pleasure Feb 15, 2023

We're diving (fist first) into FISTING with Dr. Liz Powell and you simply CANNOT miss this one. We chat about:

What fisting is
WHY it's worth trying out
How to ease into fisting
Prep... because there's a lot of prep
HOW to fist a vagina or butt
Fisting yourself
Positions
What to do once you're in there
Pain free removal

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127. 5 Expert Tips For The Hottest Valentine's Day Feb 10, 2023

Oh honey... have we got a treat for YOU! We have five of our favorite tips from past episodes that are sure to give you the sexiest, steamiest, most indulgent Valentine's day EVER. So sit back, relax, and get ready to chat about:

How to sloooow things down and get sensual from EP. 72 with Ev'Yan Whitney
French kissing from EP. 82 with Raquel Savage
How to *sexily* take your clothes off and set the scene from EP. 44 with Ari Antwine
Bringing food into the bedroom (get your chocolate sauce and frosting ready...) from EP. 86 with Shae Alexander
A little surprise to end the day 😉 from EP. 57 with Dr. Evan Goldstein

Sponsors:

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126. The Secret To FUN Guilt Free Hookups Feb 01, 2023

THIS IS SUPPOSED TO BE FUN… and by “this” we mean sex, hookups, dating, ALL OF IT. Cue Myisha Battle, a sex and dating coach who quite literally wrote the book on finding the fun in all of it. We decided to deep dive into hookups (obvs) and chatted about…

Deciding what we want from sex
Finding your sexual values
How to find hookups (both on the apps and off)
What’s the deal with “chemistry”?
The benefits of hookups
How to make hookups as fun as possible
“I’m not that into you, but damn I wanna bang…”
How to say what you’re into AND what you want in the moment

Get Myisha's book HERE!

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125. Understand Your Hormones & Have Great Sex Your Entire Life Jan 25, 2023

Ready to understand what’s happenin hormonally in that beautiful body of yours? What about how to have AMAZING sex your entire life? Well get ready ‘cuz this week we’re talking menopause… HOLD ON DON’T GO ANYWHERE. This is CRITICAL info for anyone with a vagina and if you want to keep smushin’ puss til your six feet deep, you’re gonna want to listen in. So, buckle up and get ready to meet Dr. Shyama Mathews an OB/GYN and Menopause Specialist. We’re chatting about:

What menopause actually is and why you need to care NOW
What age we tend to go through menopause (think mid 40’s…)
Symptoms of menopause and what it actually FEELS like
What’s going on with your hormones
Sex before, during and after menopause
Ways to make your menopausal experience ✨better✨
If there’s anything you can do RIGHT NOW to prepare
How we gaslight menopausal people and make the experience 1000x worse (and how to stop)

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124. What Your Attachment Style Says About You & Your Relationship Jan 18, 2023

Victoria Albina, NP, MPH (you know, our favorite human who LITERALLY changes our lives every time she she speaks) is back and this time we’re breaking down ✨ATTACHMENT STYLES✨. We chat about…

What attachment styles ARE and how we LEARN them
Anxious vs avoidant vs secure attachment
How our attachment style impacts our romantic relationships
The ways that anxious and avoidant attachments SHOW UP in our lives
What secure attachment looks and FEELS like
Steps for moving towards secure attachment

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123. Here's 8 Ways To Talk Dirty Jan 11, 2023

Hey ya filthy sl*t... let's learn how to talk dirty. Dr. Tara is back on the pod with TONS of examples and expert advice. We chat about...

How ANYONE can be good at dirty talk (even if you're awkward)
Dynamic dirty talk
8 types of dirty talk and examples for each
Directing vs narrating
Beginner to intermediate examples
Alternatives to "daddy"
Our favorite words to refer to a penis

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122. How To Break Up With Anyone Jan 04, 2023

This week, we’re learning how to breakup with ANYONE (yes, anyone) with Jamye Waxman, a sex therapist and author. We cover:

The types of breakups we experience (friends, family, romantic partners)
WHY breakups are so damn hard
HOW to breakup with someone
What to avoid when breaking up with someone
What’s a “good enough reason” to breakup with someone
How to start feeling better

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121. 6 Tips For Better Sex In 2023 (Part 2) Dec 28, 2022

We're rounding out the year with some of our FAVORITE advice we've gotten in 2022. We've had INCREDIBLE guests, LIFE CHANGING tips, and whole lotta laughs so let's just dive right in and chat about...

Blow jobs
What to do when you’re working with a small mouth or tired jaw
Making things work FOR YOU
Why you don’t need to be healed to have sex or be worthy of PLEASURE
When the sex is bad
Leaving room for things to just BE BAD and not something you need to “work on”
Ethereal orgasms

Episodes mentioned:

EP. 74 Blowjobs 101: How To Give The Best Performance of Your Life with Luna Matatas

EP. 97 Sex & Mental Health: Struggling with Arousal, Getting Your Needs Met, & Worthiness Wounds with Nicoletta Heidegger

EP. 101 What If The Sex Is Bad? With Kate Moyle

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120. 6 Tips For Better Sex in 2023 (Part 1) Dec 21, 2022

We're rounding out the year with some of our FAVORITE advice we've gotten in 2022. We've had INCREDIBLE guests, LIFE CHANGING tips, and whole lotta laughs so let's just dive right in and chat about...

The POWER in being single
De-centering romantic relationships
Confidence and seduction
How to feel sexy
Thinking your "better"
Letting yourself be WRONG
Somehow it always comes back to COMMUNICATION

Episodes mentioned:

EP. 84 The Art of Seduction: How to Walk, Talk, & Touch Like A Bad Bitch with Danica Darling

EP. 87 A Shame Free Guide To Living Your Best Single Life with Shani Silver

EP. 115 You're Toxic, Now What? with Shrink Chicks

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119. Save A Horse, Ride A Face: Positions, Confidence And Getting Your O Dec 14, 2022

In this episode we’re SITTING DOWN (lol) with Laydee Vee and Dee Black and getting a crash course in face sitting. We chat about:

What face sitting is
Who can be the sitter (HINT: it’s not just vulva owners)
Four different face sitting positions
How to get INTO the positions (and not feel awkward)
What to do once you’re up there
How to sit with CONFIDENCE

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118. Modern Love Languages: Discovering What You Need To Feel Loved Dec 07, 2022

We’re talking with Anne Hodder-Shipp, an award winning sex educator and coach, about MODERN LOVE LANGUAGES and learning all the ways to love and be loved (because there’s like waaaay more than 5). We cover:

What a love language is and WHY they matter
The classic 5 love languages and their (very shitty) origin
What Modern Love Languages are and how they help us EXPAND our understanding of love
How to determine YOUR love language(s)
Specific examples of how to give and receive love based on your language
Why you DO NOT need to be in a romantic relationship to experience love
Meeting your own love language needs

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117. Labia, Sexual World Records, & Being A Dirty Wh*re Nov 30, 2022

We’re feeling CHATTY, so let’s get into it. We’re talking:

Labia and labia lumps
“Innie vs. outie” labia
Labiaplasties
Edging during masturbation
Letting someone spit in your mouth (and LOVING it)
Sexual World Records (including longest masturbation sesh, farthest ejaculation and MORE)
Craigslist Missed Connections
Some of our toxic little tendencies (and some of yours)
Red Flag or Deal Breaker

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116. The Power Of PDA: How to Make Out In Public and Give Zero F*cks Nov 23, 2022

Let's get it on... IN PUBLIC. We're talking PDA with Dr. Tara and breaking through ALL the shame. We we chat about:

What Power PDA is
Critique and support for PDA
What if there's a discrepancy between what you and your partner want?
Giving NO f*cks
Who decided affection needed to be kept private?
Should there be goal with PDA?
How far is TOO far in public?
How healthy displays of affection are GOOD
How to start engaging in PDA if you're new to it

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115. You're Toxic, Now What? Nov 16, 2022

This interview CHANGED OUR LIVES and our relationships because it turns out… we might be a little toxic (yep, that means you too). So let’s talk about it with Emmalee Bierly, LMFT and Jennifer Chaiken, LMFT of Shrink Chicks. We’re unpacking and working through a whole lot, including:

What it actually means to be “toxic”
Common ways that we're toxic but might not realize it
Anti-relational and dysfunctional behaviors
Expecting your partner to KNOW what you need
Feeling like your “better” at relationships than your partner
What if your partner "shuts down" during fights or discussions
Exit language during a fight and what to say instead
Taking accountability aka “what part do I play in this?”
When you secretly love feeling like the victim

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114. Friends & Sex: How Our Friendships Impact Intimacy, Sex, & Everything Else Nov 09, 2022

Here at Honeydew Me, we came to the realization that our friendships have DEEPLY impacted our sex lives... so let's talk about it. One of our absolute favorite humans, Victoria Albina, NP, MPH, is back on the pod and we are DIVING into the relationship between friends and sex. We chat about...

How friendship and sex are related
Emotional outsourcing
Intimacy in relationships
Getting your friends' opinions: good or bad idea?
Gossip vs well-intentioned sharing
Is there such a thing as sharing TOO MUCH?
When your partner doesn't want you sharing ✨intimate✨ details
Do you need strong friendships to have strong relationships?
Having sex WITH your friends
How to find friends

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113. Watch Porn For Hotter Sex & Deeper Intimacy Nov 02, 2022

This week we're pressing play ON PORN and learning all the ways it can make our sex lives hotter and our relationships better. Rachel Wright, a licensed marriage and family therapist with a Master's in clinical psychology joins us to chat about:

How porn can BENEFIT your relationship
Fun ways to incorporate porn into partnered sex
Jealousy and porn: "why do they watch porn if they have me?!" and "what if my partner is jealous that I watch porn?"
Is watching porn cheating?
Feeling insecure about the type of porn you watch
What to do if the type of porn your partner watches makes you uncomfy
How much is TOO MUCH porn?

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112. Your Shameless Guide To Role Play Oct 26, 2022

Halloween is fast approaching and this year we are ON THEME. We're revisiting role play and diving even deeper with expert tips, personal stories, LOTS of research, and input from our lovely listeners. We chat about:

What role play is
Judging your fantasies and desires
Benefits of role play
Working through embarrassment, nervousness, or shame
Planning and set up
Talking with your partner
Specific scenarios

Experts Featured:

Kait Scalisi, @passionbykait

Lala Loves, @lalasbedtimetales

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111. Initiating Sex: How To Do It, Take Off The Pressure, & Get Past The Hard Stuff Oct 19, 2022

It’s time for INITIATION… but like the consensual, fun, sex kind. If you’ve ever wondered how to initiate sex, struggled with a fear of rejection, or are looking for long term initiation tips, this episode is for you! We chat with some of our favorite experts AND share our own struggles to bring you one hell of a guide… We cover:

Obstacles to initiating sex
Fear of rejection
How to take the pressure of off initiation
Fun, indirect ways to initiate sex
Sexy and very direct ways to initiate sex
Finding the right words
Initiating while in a long term relationship

Experts Featured:

Jessie Fresh, Intimacy & Relationship Coach, @jessiefresh
Lisa Welsh, Sex & Pleasure Educator, @inbedwithlisa
Ari Antwine, Sexologist & Bisexuality Coach, @sensualle.education
Vanessa and Xander Marin, Sex Therapist & Husband, @vanessamarintherapy

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110. Your Guide To Choking & Breath Play Oct 12, 2022

DISCLAIMER: there is NO completely SAFE way to engage in choking/breath play, this episode will discuss safety measures, better practices, and consent, but is only an introduction. We encourage you to take part in further education alongside an expert BEFORE engaging in the practices discussed.

Hope you’re ready for an episode that’ll ✨take your breath away✨. Jet Setting Jasmine and King Noire are on the pod and talking all thinking breath play, including choking. We cover:

What breath play is (because it’s a lot more than you think)
Precautions and safety
Finding your MOAN
Breathing patterns
How to *properly* engage in choking
Finding the right partner to engage in breath play with
Face sitting

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109. Playing With Balls: Tea Bagging, Handies, & Going For The Taint Oct 05, 2022

We're getting ✨ballsy✨ and chatting all things testicle play with Jake Mossop, a Registered Nurse! We talk about:

Why it's enjoyable to play with testicles
Types of touch (pressure, squeezing etc.)
The importance of lube
When to include testicle play and how to combine with other types of play
What tea bagging is
Positioning
Using your mouth
Taint play
Incorporating toys

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BONUS EPISODE: Abortion Resources Post Roe v. Wade Sep 30, 2022

Michelle Hope, sexologist, activist and Director of Social Impact and Strategic Communications at SIECUS, joins us to talk post-Roe action items and resources. We discuss:

What Roe v. Wade is, what happened, and how we actually got here
The role of comprehensive sex education
Resources for states that have lost access to abortion
Getting involved in your community

Resources:

Three For Freedom

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108. Birth Control 101: Know Your Options & Ditch The Myths Sep 28, 2022

THE Dr. Jennifer Lincoln is on the pod and ready to talk ALL things birth control. We chat about:

Common myths and misconceptions (i.e. infertility, negative health impacts etc)
Whether "hormone balancing" is legit and if "hormone imbalances" are the cause of all your issues
WHY we tend to demonize birth control
Types of birth control methods (hormonal vs non hormonal)
Plan B: what it is, how to use it & when to use it
What actually is an abortion and what are the types of abortions
REALLY COOL FREE RESOURCES like Bedsider and a very special little giveaway we're doing with them 👀

✨GIVEAWAY INSTRUCTIONS✨ Bedsider gifted us a big 'ol box of swag, so obviously we're doing a giveaway. All you have to do is share THIS episode to your Instagram story (or grid) and TAG US (@honeydewmepodcast). Giveaway closes October 7th 2022. Can only ship within the US.

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107. Emma & Cass Dew Spicy Home Videos Sep 21, 2022

Emma and Cass thought it high time to break out the video cameras and record something spicy. Now it’s time to share all the dirty deets and unpack how it went. We chat about:

Planning for your sex tape (vibes, roleplay, positions etc.)
Setting up your physical space (camera angles, lighting, background music etc.)
Options for when you are NOT ready to record yourself
What went wrong…
Finding what feels authentic and pleasurable to YOU
Alternatives to the “up close and personal” recording style

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106. Audio Erotica: Enhance Your Sex Life, Improve Your Dirty Talk & Explore Your Fantasies Sep 14, 2022

Lala, creator of Lala’s Bedtime Tales, is here to chat about all things AUDIO EROTICA. We discuss:

What audio erotica is and what makes for GOOD audio erotica
Why fans of ASMR are going to LOVE audio erotica
Improving your dirty talk
Using audio erotica alone and with a partner
How to discuss audio erotica with a partner
Benefits of listening to audio erotica
Using audio erotica to explore your fantasies and different types of sex
Finding ways to make safety and prep SEXY

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105. Answering Your Questions: People Pleasing, Toxic Traits, & Fear Of Cheating Sep 07, 2022

Victoria Albina, NP, MPH is BACK and this time she’s answering YOUR questions about codependency, relationships, and sex. We discuss:

Mismatched libidos
Having your own back & showing up for your needs
What to do if you’re partner isn’t following through
People pleasing
Understanding what your intuition is telling you
Fear of being cheated on
Supporting a partner with depression, while supporting yourself
Trying to justify a partner’s toxic behavior
The “why don’t we just break up then” come back during fights

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104. Life's Too Short For Boring Sex: Sexy Games, Confidence & Quickies Aug 31, 2022

In this episode we’re chatting with Lisa Welsh, a sex and pleasure educator who’s dedicated to helping you build self-worth and banish boring sex. We discuss:

Lisa’s playful approach to sexuality
What we’re doing that makes sex feel boring, subpar, or “meh”
How to work through shame
How to actually check in with yourself during sex
Fun sex games to play in the bedroom
Body mapping
Having sex when you’re in a rush (aka a quickie)
Is there such a thing as too silly or goofy when it comes to sex?

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103. How To Build A Kick Ass Relationship: Overcoming Commitment Issues & Breaking Relationship Patterns Aug 24, 2022

In this episode we're chatting with Alicia Davon, a relationship and romance expert, about what it takes to build a successful relationship. We discuss:

What a "successful" and "unsuccessful" relationship looks like (hint: success doesn't necessarily mean long term or headed towards marriage)
How commitment is actually a type of freedom
Working through commitment issues
Romanticizing the messy parts of life and relationships
Whether you can move from incompatibility to compatibility
Relationship patterns and what YOUR pattern says about you
How to do this work if your single
A VERY special offer from Alicia to attend her upcoming course for FREE 👀

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102. Uncensored Questions: Footjobs, Micropenises, & F*cking Your Ex Aug 17, 2022

Cat is BACK and so are her answers to your UNCENSORED questions. This time we’re getting even spicier and diving into foot fetishes, f*cking your ex, how to pleasure a smaller peen, and SO MUCH MORE. Cat walks us through the “what are we” conversation, the “I need you to get better at fingering” conundrum, and some sure fire ways to keep the heat in your long distance relationship. Tune in now for some hot takes, killer advice, and a very good time.

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101. What If The Sex Is Bad? Aug 10, 2022

What do you do if the sex is bad? Try and fix it? Let it work itself out? Or walk away and never look back? We’re exploring all these options (and more) with Psychosexual Therapist, Kate Moyle. She breaks down why sex can be bad (even if you really like the person you’re doing it with), how to start a conversation about it, and quick tips for in the moment corrections. We also unpack the shame that comes with “being bad in bed,” what to do if you think you’re the one that’s bad at sex, and how to deal with critical feedback.

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100. Dominance, Period Sex & Threesomes WOO! Aug 03, 2022

ONE HUNDRED EPISODES OF PURE UNADULTERATED PLEASURE... or at the very least, advice to help get you there. We have officially entered the triple digits which means it's high time we check in on the WILD (lol) sex lives of your hosts. We're chatting about our current obsession with dominance, including dirty talk, being told what to do, and letting our submissive sides shine. We also dive into period sex to discuss our thoughts, hold ups, and past experiences. Lastly, we're getting curious about threesomes and chatting about guidelines, positions, and whether we're diggity down to try one.

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99. Sex As A (Highly) Sensitive Badass Jul 27, 2022

SURPRISE... we're sensitive AF (lol not a surprise at all). But how do you bang when you're such a sensitive B? Jessie Fresh, a Sexuality & Intimacy Coach, is ready to break it all down for us. We chat about triggers, sensory issues, setting yourself up for success, and using your sensitivity to your advantage. YES, you read that right, TO YOUR DAMN ADVANTAGE, because being sensitive is also a superpower.

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98. Revamp Your Relationship & Get Off On Jealousy Jul 20, 2022

This week we are reframing relationships AND jealousy with Dr. Joli Hamilton, a psychologist and sex educator who helps people custom build their relationships. We dive into the concept of “creative monogamy” and learn how to build a relationship based on our wants and needs, rather than “shoulds” and “have to’s”. We also explore jealousy and find ways to work with it, learn from it, and even GET OFF from it.

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97. Sex & Mental Health: Struggling With Arousal, Getting Your Needs Met & Worthiness Wounds Jul 13, 2022

This week we’re exploring the link between sex and mental health and OH HONEY… have we got some “aha” moments waiting for you! Nicoletta Heidegger, LMFT, is walking us through arousal, desire, worthiness, and giving us ALL the actionable tips and no BS advice we’ve been craving. We also tackle the concept of whether you need to be “whole” or “healed” in order to be in relationship or receive pleasure and you might be surprised by Nicoletta’s answer 👀

As if that wasn’t enough, we also discuss:

Sex magic
ADHD and sex
Sex in sensory deprivation tanks

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96. Sex On Drugs: Antidepressants, Anxiety & Stress... OH MY! Jul 06, 2022

Okay Honey, it’s time we talk about sex and antidepressants (but also anxiety, stress, and depression). Sex on drugs aint easy, which is why we’re talking with Dr. Jordan Rullo and getting ALL the tips on how to deal. We cover the basic science behind it all, changes in sex drive and sexual function, fight or flight during sex, and a whole lot more. In addition to actionable steps, we talk through mourning your sexual self, reframing your sexual experiences, and how to support a partner who is struggling with these changes.

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95. The Secret To Hot Sex In A Long Term Relationship Jun 29, 2022

Everyone’s heard of “The Honeymoon Phase,” but what comes after that? Do you CUM after that?! Irene Fehr, a sex and intimacy coach, is here to talk us through the many stages of sex in a long term relationship, including all the lulls, dips, and highs. We cover the death of sex, the roommate phase, how to keep it spicy, and the secret to having good sex ALL THE DAMN TIME. We also dive into mismatched libidos and how to support your relationship when you’re in a lull.

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94. How Codependence Is Affecting Your Sex Life Jun 22, 2022

Hope you’re ready for a LIFE CHANGING episode because you’re about to hit play on one. Victoria Albina (aka our new favorite human) is breaking down how codependence impacts us both inside the bedroom and out. We chat people pleasing, outsourcing validation, not being present and how ALL of that impacts the sex we’re having. And if you’re like “yeah that’s me… now what?” we also cover how to start working towards interdependence (NOT radical independence) including simple, accessible exercises to get you there.

ALSO, Victoria (the sweet angel that she is) is giving all of us a free gift, so click the link below to access some of her bomb ass meditations:

https://victoriaalbina.com/honeydewme/

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93. How To Talk About Sex With A Partner: Faking Orgasms, Flaccid Penises, & Asking For Validation Jun 15, 2022

Let's TALK baby... about sex of course. Gigi Engle is here to give us the low down on everything sexual communication. Whether you've been faking O's or just need a little validation, we've got ya. We also cover how to tell a partner you DON'T like something, what to do if you or your partner can't seem to stay hard, and oh so much more. This episode is sure to give you the confidence boost you need to talk the talk before you walk the walk (and by walk we mean BANG).

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92. How To F*ck Like A Bridgerton: Tantra For Connected, Passionate Sex Jun 08, 2022

Okay honeys... if you're anything like us you got a liiittle carried away when it came to the sex scenes of Bridgerton season 2. Don't get us wrong, we love season 1, but something about those PASSIONATE, CONNECTED moments just hits different. And now, WE WANT IT TOO! Cue Devi Ward Erickson, a Tantra expert who's here to give us all the tools we need to f*ck like a Bridgerton. From breathing techniques, to grounding, to touching, to eye contact we cover all the bases and learn how Tantra is both very accessible and practical.

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91. Uncensored Questions: Spicy Cum, Circumcision, & Gym Sex Jun 01, 2022

Something’s burning and it’s NOT my asshole… it’s YOUR uncensored questions. You asked and Cat, the sex and pleasure educator behind UNGIRL, is here to answer. Whether it’s spicy cum questions or curiosities around circumcision, we’re ready to go BALLS DEEP!

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90. Emma & Cass Dew (Mutual) Masturbation May May 25, 2022

Ever felt curious but absolutely TERRIFIED at the thought of mutual masturbation? Yeah, us too... but we DEWED it and now we're ready to tell you all about it. Emma details how she navigated mutual masturbation solo (she got creative and let's just say IT WORKED), while Cass walks through her experience masturbating with her partner right along side her. From insecurities and nervousness, to mind bowling orgasms and HUGE takeaways, we cover it all, folks.

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89. How Toys Will Transform Your Sex Life May 18, 2022

Dirty Lola is on the pod to give us the low down on all things sex toys. We chat about how to find your perfect toy, toys for penises, how to use a dildo, working through shame and so much more. Whether you’re lookin to boost your solo sesh or spice up your partnered play, we’ve got you covered.

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88. Stroke 101: How To Use Your Penis (Or Strap On) To Give Life Changing Pleasure May 11, 2022

Tyomi Morgan is BACK and this time we're talkin' stroke (aka penetration with a penis or strap on). Penetrative sex CAN be just as pleasurable as all the other sex acts we know and love, it just takes a little practice. From speed, to rhythm, to depth, there is so much to know when it comes to stroke (and don't worry, we cover it all). We also learn how to move your hips, where to aim during penetration, and how to make yourself queef (you'll understand it once you listen lol).

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87. A Shame-Free Guide To Living Your Best Single Life May 04, 2022

You are single and you are SUFFICIENT and if anyone makes you feel otherwise they can F*CK OFF. Shani Silver (aka the coolest person you’ll ever meet) is on the pod today to talk all about how awesome single hood can and SHOULD be, despite what society tells us. Your life deserves to be about so much more than finding “the one” and Shani will walk you through how to start living like it. We also talk about working through shame, what to do if you have little or no experience (spoiler alert: you’re perfect and don’t need to do anything), and so much more, so buckle up and listen in.

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86. Food Play: How To Have Extra Delicious Sex Apr 27, 2022

Hope your hungry... because this episode is a mouthful. We're talking food play with the one and only Shae Alexander and trust us when we say that there is so much more to food play than chocolate sauce and whipped cream (but don't worry, we cover that too). From food-gasms, to sexy food games, to yummy foreplay, this episode is sure to leave your tummy rumblin' ands your pussy quiverin'. Shae goes over some of the SEXIEST moves imaginable (real panty droppers if we do say so ourselves) and teaches us all how to embrace the damn mess.

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85. Your Complete Guide To Cum Shots Apr 20, 2022

We are coming in HOT with your complete guide to cum shots. We always ask the embarrassing questions, but now we’re ready to ruin our search histories and gather all the info you need to get cummed on (or cum on someone else). From positions, to dirty talk, to what to do as the receiver, we’ve got you covered the whole way through. We also share some of YOUR (our beloved listeners) thoughts on facials, alongside the advice of some of our favorite sex educators. Gear up and get ready to get wet, cuz you’re entering the splash zone baby.

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84. The Art of Seduction: How to Walk, Talk, & Touch Like A Bad Bitch Apr 13, 2022

Hey you sexy, seductive beast... it's time you hone in on your powers and start taking the world by storm. Danica Darling, a sex worker, exotic dancer, and lecturer, is here to help us do just that by teaching us the ins and outs of seduction. Whether it's a sexy walk, a powerful stance, or a mysterious gaze, this episode will give you detailed instructions on how to claim your confidence and make yourself irresistible. We also cover flirting, touching, and finding the balls to risk rejection.

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83. How To Quit Purity Culture Apr 06, 2022

We are finally talkin' PURITY CULTURE and, perhaps more importantly, we're talkin' all about how to ditch that bitch. Erica Smith, the creator of Purity Culture Dropout TM, is here to share all the dirty deets on what purity culture is, how it impacts our sex lives, and concrete steps for quitting. Whether it's the concept of virginity, your "body count", that gross/guilty feeling you get after sex, or the deep religious messaging you received as a child, purity culture has impacted the shit out of us and it's time to move the frick on to bigger and better things (orgasms... we mean orgasms).

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82. The Art of French Kissing Mar 30, 2022

We all know the power of a good kiss, but when you add in tongues the stakes raise even higher. How do you start? What rhythm do you use? How much is too much tongue? What about saliva? These are all questions we answer with our expert guest Raquel Savage. Raquel is a sex therapist and sex worker who bridges her experience in each area to give INCREDIBLE sex advice and education. Tune in so you can give the best damn kisses around.

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81. How To Transform Your Sex Life and Get What You Want Every Time Mar 23, 2022

This week we're learning how to build our ideal sex lives from the bottom up. Alexa Bowditch (aka That Sex Chick) is walking us through the whole process, from start to finish (and yes, you will be finishing). From figuring out WHAT you want, to finding WHO you want, to keeping it spicy once you've got it all, we cover the whole shabang. You deserve the best, so why not start creating it for yourself?!

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80. Butt Plugs: Level Up Your Ass Play, Find Your Perfect Fit & Overcome The Awkward Mar 16, 2022

Alicia Sinclair, the founder and CEO of COTR, Inc (aka the parent company to B-vibe, Le WAND, and The Cowgirl) is here to give us ALL her best tips on butt plugs. From finding your PERFECT fit (whether that's textured, vibrating, thrusting, rimming or adorned with a tail), to inserting that sucker right in your behind, this episode is sure to hold your hand the whole way through. And if you're a little nervous, no need to worry because we also walk through common mishaps and how to expertly avoid them.

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79. Doing It With Herpes... Because You Probably Will Mar 09, 2022

Ella Dawson, a sex and culture critic, is here to help us break down the stigma around doing it with herpes… because the thing is, you probably will. Over two thirds of the population is herpes positive (PSA: cold sores are herpes), but we aren’t talking about it, we rarely test for it (it isn’t included in a standard STI panel), and it can start to feel like a big, scary, faceless thing. We’re here to tell you that IT’S NOT A BIG DEAL, it’s totally manageable, and that everyone with a positive diagnosis can still have amazing sex. No matter who you are or what diagnosis you do or don't have, we highly recommend tuning in, learning up, and giving yourself ALL the well-deserved pleasure.

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78. Aftercare: F*ck Me Hard, Then Tell Me You Love Me Mar 02, 2022

POV: You just got railed and aren't sure if you should just go about your day or cuddle or... Well, we've got answers and pretty much all of them are AFTERCARE. Aftercare might not sound like the sexiest thing, but trust us when we say it will CHANGE YOUR SEX LIFE. Violet C is here to share all the best tips and tricks for creating a bomb ass aftercare routine. Turns out, aftercare is RIDICULOUSLY important when it comes to building the pleasurable and satisfying sex life you deserve. And if you're someone who's thinking "but I don't want to seem too needy," we've got you covered because here at Honeydew Me we firmly believe that having needs is SUPER F*CKING COOL. So press play and get to lovin' on yourself.

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77. Subbing 101: Praise Kinks, Brat Play and Restraints Feb 23, 2022

This week we're talking all about subbing (aka being the submissive) with Lina Dune of Ask A Sub. Whether you're looking to let go, find a new role play, or figure out if you're a brat in the bedroom, we've got all the answers comin your way. We also chat about praise kinks, dirty talk, sub toys and post coital dysphoria (aka the post sex blues). Go ahead and press play babe... that's an order ;)

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76. Car Sex: Unexpected Positions, Bomb Ass Foreplay, & Sexy Road Trip Games Feb 16, 2022

Buckle up honeys, we're hittin the road and the GPS is set to ORGASMS. Dr. Donna is here to give us all the tips and tricks we need to have AMAZING car sex. She breaks down positions, prep, solo sex, and even shares a few of her favorite sexy road trip games (and they are SOOOO much better than the license plate game...)

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Legality... there's some things to consider
Location scouting
Having sex ON your car
Packing your car sex to go bag

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75. Why Your Puss Needs A Spa Day: Put A Stop To Random Itching, Smells, Ingrown Hairs, and Vulva Acne Feb 09, 2022

It’s time to give your sensitives a spa day and who better to lead us through than Therese Clark, the founder and CEO of Lady Suite. Turns out there’s a whole lot to know about vulva SKIN, including how to curate a routine that clears up the ingrowns, acne, random itches, and sweaty smells. Therese breaks down what we’re doing that’s attacking our skin barrier, while giving us alternatives to pamper the puss (or booty, or balls, or penis etc.)

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74. Blowjobs 101: How To Give The Best Performance Of Your Life Feb 02, 2022

Luna Matatas is BACK and this time we're talkin slob knobbin (lol). We're covering all the best tips and tricks for kissing that dirty D and we promise your life will never be the same. You'll learn where to focus, how to move your tongue, deep throating and how to make the sexiest eye contact of your life. If you're ready to rethink BJs and give the best performance of your life, THIS is the episode for you.

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Taint and ball play
Positions
Tips for when your jaw gets tired

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73. Emma & Cass Dew Sex Toys Jan 26, 2022

We’re back and this time we’re dewin sex toys. From vibrating butt plugs, to bathtub attachments, we’re giving you the intimate details of what worked, what didn’t, and what we’ll definitely be trying again. Whether you’re looking for the most sensual night of your life or a toy that’ll get you there in 30 seconds, we’ve got you babe.

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72. How To Use Sensuality To Have The Best Sex Of Your Life Jan 19, 2022

It's time for a little SENSUAL seduction... but here's the thing, sensuality probably doesn't mean what you think it does. In this episode we're talking with sexuality doula, sex educator, and sensualist Ev'Yan Whitney and when we say that this is the kind of stuff that can change your life WE FREAKIN MEAN IT. Your solo sex sesh will never be the same after Ev'Yan walks us through how to tap into our sensuality; even while using sex toys. We also cover partnered play and how you can take steps towards creating an AMAZING sex life while watching Netflix on the couch (sounds too good to be true right?! It's not.)

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WHY you should tap into your sensuality
Concrete steps for connecting to your sensuality
Slowing down (it's v important and Ev'Yan breaks it down SO WELL)
Ev'Yan's new book

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71. Nipplegasms 101: Everything You Need To Know To Play with Your Nips Jan 12, 2022

If you aren’t playing with your nips, you better get ready to start because Dr. Heather Bartos is here and she has ALL the tips we never knew we needed. We start out with some normalization, because YOUR NIPS ARE NORMAL, before diving into all the very specific ways to start stimulating your lovely little lumps. From mouth stuff, to hand stuff, we’ve got ya covered and let’s just say a nipple orgasm could definitely be in your future.

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How people of ALL genders can have nipple orgasms
Incorporating lube, hot wax, and ice
Combo moves (the ‘ol one, two; the ‘ol razzle dazzle)

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