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Your loved one can be struggling in plain sight, and somehow the whole family learns to whisper about it. We sit down with clinical psychologist Dr. Michelle Sherman, author of *Loving Someone with Mental Illness or a History of Trauma*, to talk about the hidden workload of family caregiving, the silence that grows around stigma, and the very real barriers in the US mental health system that keep people from getting support early.
We get specific about the emotional side too: ambiguous loss, resentment, and the grief of watching a “new normal” take shape. Dr. Sherman brings a research grounded view of psychosis outcomes and a recovery framework that doesn’t sugarcoat relapses but refuses to label anyone as permanently “gone.” We also talk about how to hold hope when you can’t feel it for your loved one, and why it still counts to build hope for yourself.
Then we turn practical: how to show up to short psychiatry appointments with a tight list of facts, how to advocate without getting dismissed, and why relationship and listening have to come before any hard conversation about hygiene, meds, or daily functioning. We also name the siblings and kids who become invisible in these families, and what support can look like for them.
Finally, we tackle boundaries and red lines, including what to do in acute crisis when safety is at stake and the only priority is getting yourself and your family safe. If you’re a caregiver, a partner, a parent, or a sibling trying to hold it together, this one gives you language you can use today. Subscribe, share this with someone who’s carrying it quietly, and leave a review with the boundary or tool that helped you most.
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“Loving Someone with a Mental Illness or History of Trauma: Skills, Hope, and Strength for Your Journey” (Johns Hopkins University Press, 2025)
“I’m Not Alone: A Teen’s Guide to Living with a Parent Who Has a Mental Illness or History of Trauma” (2nd edition, 2024) - there are SO few resources for these teens!
Both books strive to build resilience by providing information, practical skills, and resources. They differ from other books as we merge facts and actionable strategies with reflection questions, activities, and stories from adults and teens with lived experience. You can see the Table of Contents, sample chapters, and other resources on our website.
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I want to be there for you more deeply, but as many of you know, our private Facebook group hasn't been working. It became cluttered, it lacked real privacy, and it turned into a place for people to advertise instead of support one another.
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