In this deeply personal episode of Hold The Standard, Logan sits down with leadership psychologist and longtime mentor Dr. Cara Miller to explore a concept they are actively working to name and understand: developmental friendship
What began years ago as a professor student relationship at the University of San Diego evolved into something far more dynamic. Across changing roles, shifting power dynamics, seasons of mentorship, collaboration, and mutual growth, Logan and Cara unpack what it means to invest in a friendship that is oriented toward becoming.
Together they explore
• What developmental friendship actually is and what it is not
• How longing and ambition shape our relationships
• Why making power dynamics explicit builds trust and freedom
• The difference between accountability and soul care
• How competition and hidden comparison can quietly undermine growth
• The role of mutuality, subordination to a shared purpose, and service to something larger than the self
This conversation moves beyond productivity and performance. It asks a more timeless question: Who helps you tend your soul while you are becoming more fully yourself?
In a culture shaped by loneliness, transactional relationships, and overreliance on romantic partnership for fulfillment, this episode offers a different vision of friendship. Not as convenience. Not as networking. Not as optimization. But as a deliberate practice of love, courage, and long term reinvestment.
If you have ever wondered what it would look like to cultivate relationships that strengthen your inner life while expanding your outer capacity, this conversation is an invitation.
This is not a blueprint. It is an exploration in real time.
Welcome to the work of becoming.