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170. Keeping the Love in Our Partnerships After Kids with Sheina Schochet @loveafterbaby Feb 27, 2023

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Today’s guest is Sheina Schochet, a licensed mental health counselor who is the face behind the popular account @loveafterbaby. What we love about this interview is that she pulls in her own life experiences around how we can help partners stay connected for the long haul even after they have kids.

We know that with children comes more challenges. After listening to this episode you’ll be able to directly apply Sheina’s simple, tangible tips to start improving the love in your relationship right away.

Be sure to tag @herselfpodcast and @loveafterbaby on Instagram to show us your weekly check-ins or the date night you’re planning with your partner!

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169. A Conversation with Erica Djossa of @momwell on the Mental Load, Navigating Transitions, and Getting Your Needs Met in Parenthood Feb 20, 2023

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You guys are in for a treat today because we have Erica Djossa; formerly known as Happy as a Mother, now known as Momwell, on the show. We feel like her mission and our mission here at the HERself podcast run side by side. We both try to get women and mothers the best information possible.

Throughout this interview we nod our heads along with all the advice Erica gives on topics including the invisible load in motherhood, what causes the feeling of being on edge, toxic positivity and so much more.

At the end of the episode, Erica speaks on Dads. We get asked so often, from you, about how your partner/husband can get resources. We wanted to make sure we covered that inside this interview as well. Because we all know Dads and partners struggle too.

If you enjoyed this episode please tag both the @herselfpodcast and @momwell on Instagram!

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168. Talking Codependency and Resentment with Vanessa Bennett and Dené Logan Feb 13, 2023

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We have two awesome guests joining our show today; Vanessa Bennett and Dené Logan. They are therapists who do a deep dive into the psychology of the soul. They have their own podcast, Cheaper Than Therapy. Their whole point is to demystify, destigmatize, and desensitize what goes on both inside the therapy room and in daily life.

This is the type of episode that is going to push you. It also challenged us. Vanessa and Dené speak so vividly on why it’s important to have a sense of self throughout your entire life. They define what codependency is and how that compares to interdependence. We ask them the hard question of whether we should wait for our partners to change, should we try to change them or is it best to just accept them for who they are?

In the three years of hosting this podcast, this episode is one of my (Abby) very favorites episodes. You’re not going to want to miss it!

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167. Prioritizing Your Spending, Investing, and Financial Goals with Carly Hill Feb 06, 2023

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Today we have Carly Hill from Debt Free Mom on. If you’ve ever been resistant to the idea of budgeting because it seems archaic, we’ve been there too. But we love Carly’s approach. She gives actionable, achievable steps to help you on your financial path.

Carly is the mom of four who teaches women how budgets can help them gain more financial freedom and lower their stress. She covers whether or not we should be saving, paying off debt, and investing all at the same time or if we should be prioritizing one over the other. Carly breaks down what a budget is and why it’s important to have one.

If budgeting seems overwhelming to you, or you don’t even know where to start, Carly speaks on this as well. She talks about how money mindset comes into play with how we approach our finances and what it can look like when you are incentivized differently than your partner.

There’s a lot of numbers talk in this episode, but don’t let that overwhelm you because Carly breaks it down. This is definitely an episode you’ll want to listen to with your partner and you might even want to listen to a few parts twice, depending on where you’re at in your financial journey.

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166. A Mom's Perspective When a Child Has Delays Jan 30, 2023

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Have you ever had that feeling that your child is behind in something? This week the two of us sit down and share some insight on what has been going on in our lives when it comes to feeling like we are letting our children down.

Abby shares a personal story on the weight that can come with having a child with special needs. Amy gets vulnerable on what it felt like when she was told her kindergartener was behind in reading. Oftentimes, as women, we take the load of the heavy issues. Today we talk about what our village looks like and how we can lean on them through these tough times.

We know that in moments like this it can feel like you might want to throw in the towel. But remember, you are allowed to have these ups and downs. You’re allowed to have success and the hard days. We hope that you have a village of support where you feel like you can be honest about your relationships, parenting, and the things that are really, really tough.

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165. ALL Things Siblings with Jess from @nurturedfirst Jan 23, 2023

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Today we are so excited to have Jess from @nurturedfirst (formerly Our Mama Village) back on the show. Jess is a registered psychotherapist who shares her expertise on all things sibling relationships. This is an episode we wish we had before we had multiple children!

Navigating sibling conflicts can be exhausting. As parents we are trying to help our children thrive as individuals but we also want to foster the relationships they are developing with their brothers or sisters. Jess helps us by providing things we can do or say as parents to support these healthy relationships among our kids.

We love hearing what you as listeners are pulling from these episodes. Tag @ourmamavillage and @herselfpodcast and share something you learned from this episode.
Update March 2023: Our Mama Village is now Nurtured First! Check Jess out on Instagram @nurturedfirst, and check out her new website here: nurturedfirst.com. Together, let's create a generation of children, parents, and caregivers who are nurtured first.

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164. Cassie from The Caffeinated Clean on Decluttering and Divorce Jan 16, 2023

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We have the pleasure of speaking with Cassie from @thecaffeinatedclean this week. Whenever we talk about decluttering and organizing, we get such a positive response from this community. We know that a messy house or space leads to a messy mind. Cassie walks us through ways that we can start decluttering our lives.

She talks about cleaning our cleaners, organizing and how we can get our kids on board to make our lives more streamlined by having them step up into their own independence. We also get into details on Cassie’s recent divorce. If you are someone who is contemplating divorce or are recently separated Cassie gives her heart and helps us figure out this tough transition.

Be sure to tag both @thecaffeinatedclean and @herselfpodcast to show us all your before and afters. We love to see them!

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163. Real Partnership: How We Implemented Dr. Morgan Cutlip's Relationship Wisdom Jan 09, 2023

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This week we are talking about how we implemented some of the things Dr. Morgan Cutlip talked about in last week’s episode. We have tried a few of her tips in our own relationships and we share what is working and what is not working so well.

We hope this episode normalizes that in this season of life with all of the demands it can lead to some moments where you wish you would have acted differently or you wish your partner would have acted differently and that's just the truth of the matter with how much stuff we all have going on.

We hope that you can take something from this episode. Whether it's the strategy of using, “the story I’m telling myself is…” as a way to start tough conversations and help your partner understand you better. Or maybe it is in the idea of helping yourself and your partner feel more visible and valued by giving really specific compliments.

Whatever you need today, we hope you are able to take it with you.
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162. Dr. Morgan Cutlip Answers Our Top Relationship Questions Jan 02, 2023

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Dr. Morgan Cutlip sits down with us this week to discuss all things relationships and partnerships. She is a wife, a mom to two spirited kiddos and has a PhD in psychology.

We open up about our own struggles with our partners and this episode feels like a real time therapy session for the both of us. We are sure that the issues that we go through will apply to you as well.

Dr. Morgan walks us through what to do when our partners give us the silent treatment and when they have issues apologizing. She takes the things we know we should be doing to improve upon our relationships and adds another element to them.

You can start using Dr. Morgan’s practical relationship strategies today!

MEET Dr. Morgan Cutlip: https://www.instagram.com/drmorgancutlip/ and her FREE Gifts for Moms: https://www.mylovethinks.com/moms-gifts/

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161. Greatest Hits: HERself Expert Susie From @busytoddler on Activities, Play and How to Survive the Little Kids Years Dec 26, 2022

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It is right in the middle of the holidays so if you are traveling this week it is the perfect time to listen to one of our most downloaded, re-shared episodes of 2022. This week we are re-airing our episode with Susie from @busytoddler. The biggest takeaway you will have from this episode is to give yourself credit for making it through the hard days and to give yourself a pat on the back for the incredible job you are doing as a parent.

We could not be more excited to talk with our special guest today, because we have Susie Allison from Busy Toddler with us! Susie is a former kindergarten and first grade teacher turned stay-at-home mom. She is an author and one of Instagram’s favorite moms, because she gives us so many tangible tips to help us navigate the “little kids years” and what to do to keep our children happy, thriving, and frankly, entertained.

If you enjoyed this episode with Susie too, we would be absolutely honored if you tagged @busytoddler and @herselfpodcast so we can see you enjoying it!

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