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250// HOW TO Respond to Never Ending Demands & Requests Wholeheartedly Sep 12, 2023

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Research indicates that preschoolers, on average, make three demands/requests per minute! Wow. It’s no wonder we feel overwhelmed. “Watch me!” “Get that!” “Where’s my dinosaur?!”

In this episode we talk about practical ideas and tools that have helped us navigate the barrage of daily requests, questions, and demands in a way that allows you to maintain calm and respect for your kids and yourself.

Books & Links we mention

Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child: The Heart of Parenting // John Gottman with Joan DeClaire

Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans // Michaeleen Doucleff

Mom Watch Compilation by Johnson Files

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230 // Pt 1: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans // Michaeleen Doucleff

Systems and Values for Easier Days and Stronger Family Connections (Entitlement Trap by Linda Eyre and Richard Eyre)

How To: Create Pockets of Peace

Time Stamps

10:00 How many requests our kids make per minute

13:15 Why we future focus and how inputs from our kids overwhelm us

14:15 Are our kids self centered?

23:18 Using body language and social cues

25:55 Mom watch this watch this!!

29:00 Do you have a hard time tuning out noise/ kids?

32:18 Good parenting does not mean responding to everything request

40:01 Ask, is my child seeking connection?

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249 // Cultivating Secure Relationships with the work of Stan Tatkin, Relationship RX Sep 05, 2023

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Having a secure relationship with our partner is the foundation for a long, happy life. Building on this relationship we create meaningful and lasting lives that support our psychological development as well as provide a strong foundation for our children, careers and physical health. We loved reading Relationship RX by Stan Tatkin and we had to distill this one for you! In this episode we discuss how knowing your attachment style can guide you to a self awareness that enhances your ability to connect, repair and forgive. We also share our favorite tactics from the book for putting your relationship first, healing past wounds and supporting each other in parenting.
Related Episodes
Putting Connection With Our Spouse First
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Time Stamps
12:00 - Attachment styles
14:05 - Anchors
16:30 - Waves
20:01 - Islands
32:33 - The relationship as an entity should be the highest priority
35:35 - Conflicts within a relationship
44:30 - Am I putting my role as a parent, or my hobby over my primary attachment?
46:17 - Supporting your spouse in parenting
51:40 - Secret password for stressful parenting moments
57:50 - Bring issues up preventatively
Sponsor:
GABB WIRELESS
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248 // Intentionally Questioning Our Parenting Choices Aug 29, 2023

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There are lots of decisions that we make as parents that are made out of guilt or a sense of obligation. In this episode we talk about how to navigate parenting questions from a place of wholeness in order to figure out what will be best for parent AND child. We talk about whether or not to do preschool and *spoiler alert* there is no one perfect decision. :)

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228 // Making Friendships, Creating Community, and How to Know When You’re Done Having Kids

Patience with Aggressive Behavior, Friendships in Motherhood and Making Peace with Your Inner Landscape

Guidance for the Changing seasons of Motherhood

Time Stamps

1:44 - To preschool or not to preschool?

3:00 - Taralyn’s experience with kids going or not going to preschool

10:30 - Felica’s experience

14:15 - the questioning of our choices because it’s the worth the wrestle

16:09 - What will be the best for you and your child?

18:55 - Eliminating the guilt

Sponsor:

GABB WIRELESS

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Review of the week from mamaErinE

So much wisdom and humility

You women are amazing, thank you

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247 // Revolutionizing Emotional & Physical Healing Postpartum with Arielle Martone Aug 22, 2023

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Healing your body and spirit postpartum is a topic that is both under talked about and misunderstood. In this episode Katelin interviews Arielle Martone, doctor of physical therapy, yoga teacher and postnatal coach turned postpartum wellness coach after having 2 kids and overcoming postpartum depression and pelvic pain herself. She has 12+ years of experience and utilizes her knowledge and background to help new moms reconnect to mind/body and actually heal postpartum so they can feel strong and confident not only in their bodies but who they are becoming.

You can learn from Arielle at the following links:

www.findyourwaymama.com

www.instagram.com/ariellemartone

Free Resources

Pelvic Floor Recovery Guide

Exhausted to Energized without Sleep Training

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HOW TO Prepare Children for a New Sibling: a Conversation with Upbringing
Prepping Kids for New Babies, Earning vs. Rewarding, Quiet Time Tips, & Our Favorite Life Hacks

Time Stamps

1:42 - Intro to Arielle and the importance of postpartum care

11:40 - The signs to be aware of with Postpartum mood disorders

13:50 - Normalize seeking help vs. normalizing the struggle

16:30 - Feeling like something is “off” is a signal

20:20 - Trust yourself

26:50 - Tips to recover if you feel like you have no time

31:27 - Pay attention to when you’re saying “should”

39:50 - Prioritize your sleep and give yourself grace

41:25 - How “bounce back culture” can be a detriment to our overall health

47:09 - Don’t rush back into physical exercise

51:05 - Trust your body

57:15 - Pelvic Floor Therapy exercises

1:03:00 - Exhausted to energized

1:05:16 - How to get back to our true selves after having kids

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246 // Tips for an Intentional Back to School Season Aug 15, 2023

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The beginning of the school year is filled with many conflicting emotions for both our kids and us as parents. In this episode we share favorite tips, ideas and traditions that will help you start the year off right and from a place of wholeness.

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210 // Navigating Tricky Transitions With Kids Ahead of Time and What to Do When Whining Feels Unbearable: Good Inside by Dr. Becky Kennedy Part 2

108 // Using Play to Diffuse Power Struggles and Connect With Your Child (based on Playful Parenting by Larence J. Cohen)

118 // Become a Child Whisperer / Parenting Your Kids True to Their Nature (based on the work of Carol Tuttle)

Links Mentioned

Weekly Clothes Organizer

Fave Books back to school

Kissing hand by Audrey Pen

I Love You All Day Long by Francesca Rusackas

Super Manny Stands up by Kelly DiPucchio

Oh the Places You’ll Go by Dr. Seuss

Time Stamps

12:25 - How to navigate the logistics of going back to school with systems

15:35 - Weekly Clothes Organizer

20:17 - Special back to school dinner with notes of encouragement from family

22:21 - Helping your kids emotionally return to school by addressing your own anxieties

25:21 - Emotional vaccination with your kids

27:24 - Visualizing mediation the night before

27:55 - Review the child whisperer to help your kids deal with the upcoming

31:42 - Reading a back to school book

34:19 - Making love bracelets

35:00 - First day special events

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245// Magic Moment Rituals for Emotional Wholeness Aug 08, 2023

Show notes

Fall is the perfect time to reset our rituals, intentions and systems. In this magic moment Felica shares 2 rituals that are resetting her emotional wellness. The first centers on grieving our losses; the small day to day things we try to push past. The second is a ritual for visualizing our intentions and future goals around parenting and reframing our day to day tasks.
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244 // Tips for Overcoming Distraction Aug 01, 2023

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Centering our minds and finding a place of peace in our days is crucial in modern parenting. Our phones are filled with demands that pull us away from ourselves, our desires and our families. On top of that the demands of our lives from appointments to chores call us away from creating connection and relationships.

In this episode we refresh our determination to keep saying yes to connection and no to superficial distraction. We share why and our favorite tips and tricks for cultivating a present life.

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How to Enhance Your Ability to Be Present

227 // Magic Moment: Recommitting to Your Phone Detox

⁠204 // Daily Life As a Spiritual Practice⁠⁠Solitude Through Digital Minimalism

Time Stamps

11:04 - How can we curb distraction?

12:15 - Delete your apps

15:00 - Set aside time for phone time

16:30 - Turn off notifications

17:33 - A box for your phone

19:23 - A key to having self control - change your environment

22:46 - How to be present when our minds are preoccupied

24:41 - Maybe lower your standards for what needs to be done

27:20 - Magical mind will serve a magical body

29:00 - Practice being still

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REVIEW OF THE WEEK:

Kimberly Br0ssi

I’ve enjoyed this podcast since 2019 and it helped me get through several hard moments. The mini magics are always awesome. All 3 hosts are so great and share how we can care of ourselves so we can better take care of others. Each are at different points in life and motherhood so there’s something for everyone. There are so many episodes that I re-listen to when I need the reminders!

Great for any woman, young or old, new mom or veteran. Thank you!
real and refreshing

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243 // Magic Moment: The Power of Play Jul 25, 2023

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Have you ever tried to teach your kid a value? Or help them stop taking toys? Or handle a conflict within a friendship or with a sibling? As parents we have a (sometimes) underutilized tool that can help us in these situations: play. In this episode Katelin walks through how to use role playing specifically to help work through these situations with our children of all ages.

Related Episodes

Using Play to Diffuse Power Struggles and Connect With Your Child (based on Playful Parenting by Lawrence J. Cohen)

Books & Articles Mentioned

6 Steps To Do A Role Play

Playful Parenting // Lawrence Cohen

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This podcast is my happy place

I am SO grateful for the time and effort that goes into this podcast. Every episode is packed with gold. There is so much education and real conversations about life and motherhood. It helps to calm my soul, reassure me, motivate me and so much more. THANK YOU!

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242 // A Balm for Summer Burnout Jul 18, 2023

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Summer is half over and with all the fun comes exhaustion and overwhelm. In this episode, we address the concept of summer burnout, which can be applied to really any season of life. This episode was inspired by a voice message we received from one of our fabulous listeners. If you’d like to send us a question in the form of a voice message, just click ⁠here⁠.Related Episodes

Authoritative Parenting / Arguably the MOST Effective Parenting Style

230 // Pt. 1 What Ancient Cultures Can Teach us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans // Michaeleen Doucleff

Discovering YOUR Life Essentials

Solitude Through Digital Minimalism

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REVIEW OF THE WEEK:

-Mandy Schuh

I have listened to this podcast for years, it is hands down my favorite podcast! It is insightful, fun and full of great ideas. I feel like I have made a friend in Felica. I appreciate the realness from these ladies and within Find The Magic. Thank you for being a breath of fresh air!

Still My Favorite!

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241 // How Delight Enhances Our Ability to Be Present Jul 11, 2023

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Stuck in a rut? Are you feeling tired or disenchanted with your life or easily frustrated with your kids? Our days are made up of small moments, small seemingly insignificant moments that add up to our lives. Are we racing through or are we practicing presence and engaging with our day day? Inspired by Ross Gay on We can do hard things; this episode we share how finding small delights each day has inspired us to be more present for ourselves, our loved ones and especially in parenting. Related Episodes

229 // Applying Our Four Pillars: Connection, Being Present, Unconditional Love, & Healthy Boundaries

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Links We Mentioned

Start a Daily Delight Practice With Abby, Glennon, and Amanda!

The Artist’s Way // Julia Cameron

We can do hard things Start a Daily Delight Practice with Abby, Glennon & Amanda!

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