HEALTHY FAMILY CONNECTIONS

Parenting In A New Culture Oct 28, 2020

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What do you do when you move to a new country, work to put a roof over your child's head, only to have them say that they hate you? This week, I answer a question from a mom who is facing a challenge with her daughter after moving to a new country, and in turn, a whole new culture. The expectations of teens and the journey of adolescence vary widely among cultures. Many parents who make a move to a new country find themselves stuck in a control battle with her teens and young adults. This mom is no different. So, what can she do to mend the relationship and open up communication? Listen in for: → The difference between surviving and thriving → How to bridge the gap of understanding between you and your teenager → How culture plays a role in parenting ...and more!

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My Son Doesn't Like It When You're Around Oct 20, 2020

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What do you do when you fall in love with someone who has a young adult child at home, and they don't like you upsetting their very comfortable, dysfunctional lifestyle? This week, I address a question from a gentleman named Christopher who is dating the mother of a 20-year-old son. Christopher is concerned that his girlfriend is enabling her young adult son who abuses cannabis and doesn't work or help around the house. He cares about her son and wants to help him grow into a capable young man. But, how can he do that without becoming "the bad guy"? Listen in for: • How to know when the situation is right for getting involved in a romantic relationship with a parent • Why it's hard for parents to end their enabling behaviors in parent-young adult relationships • How to have an open and constructive conversation with a parent about their young adult child ...and more!

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I Didn't Do It! Oct 13, 2020

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What do you do when your kids won't own up to a problem and you don't know whom to hold responsible? In this week's episode, I answer a question from a mom who is trying her best to teach her sons responsibility, but is struggling to get the message across. Taking responsibility is an important value to learn. While this mom's intention and her plan is great, she's facing challenges with getting cooperation from her sons. What are her opportunities here? Listen in for: → Tips for identifying whether or not parental burnout is undermining your parenting → How to adjust the execution of your strategy → Learning whether your self-esteem injury plays a role in your parenting ...and more!

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I Can't Do Everything Oct 07, 2020

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What do you do when you have a Special Needs Child throwing fits while you are struggling to make a living and be a good mother to all your kids? This week on the podcast, I answer a question from a mother of 3 kids, one of whom has special needs. She is struggling to manage the household, work a full-time job, and teach her remote-learning children. She's facing particular challenges with her youngest son. This mom is stuck in a control battle and experiencing Pandemic Parental Burnout. Most people parenting during the pandemic can recognize and appreciate these challenges. Listen in for: → How to find solutions to parental burnout → Strategies to get everyone to do their part in the household → Tips for teaching self-regulation and ending tantrums ...and more!

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Fixing A Toxic Mother/Son Relationship Sep 22, 2020

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What do you do when you've tried to get your college graduate son, who's sheltering at home, to get a job and all you've gotten is a toxic relationship?

This week on the podcast, I address a problem from a mother with a young adult son, a problem that I've been hearing a lot about lately.

This mother has a young adult son who has just graduated college, is living at home due to the pandemic, and is not putting in the effort to get a job.

Mom and son are stuck in a Control Battle and she needs advice on how to rectify what has turned into a toxic relationship between them.

Listen in for:

• What it looks like to be in a Control Battle with a young adult child • How to draw the line between helping your young adult and enabling them • Tips on getting to the root of a Control Battle that's been going on for a long time ... and more!

Visit our website for the full show notes: https://neildbrown.com/17-blog/podcast/fixing-a-toxic-mother-son-relationship/

Our Contrary Son Is Making Life Miserable Sep 14, 2020

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Have you ever wondered how to get your teenager to cooperate and be positive when you have to fight with them to do anything?

This week on the podcast, I answer a question from a dad with a 15-year-old son whose contrary attitude is affecting the whole family.

This father is in a Control Battle with his son. It will take effective communication to help this family turn things around.

Listen in for:

Tips on ending the Control Battle
The power of communicating a healthy vision of your teenager
Words that will motivate your youth

... and more!

Visit our website for the full show notes: https://neildbrown.com/17-blog/podcast/our-contrary-son-is-making-family-life-miserable/

Am I Too Controlling? Aug 25, 2020

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How do you get your husband to stop parenting with anger when your therapist and your husband have convinced you that you're too critical? This week, I answer a question from a mom who worries she's too controlling and wants to know how she can effectively support and encourage change in her home. Listen in for:

A critical shift in parenting strategy as your child gets older
Tips on how you and your spouse can become a stronger parenting team
What the two different kinds of relationships mean for parents

...and more!

Visit our website for the full show notes: https://neildbrown.com/17-blog/podcast/am-i-too-controlling/

Let The Start Of School End Your Control Battle Aug 11, 2020

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How do you start an online school year with a daughter who's hard to motivate and has been on her phone all summer? In this week's episode, I answer a question from Mandy, a mom who is facing a challenge that many other parents can relate to right now. Mandy is in a control battle with her teenage daughter and needs to set new boundaries as they prepare for online school this semester. Listen in for:

How to re-establish benevolent parental authority
Methods to help your teen manage independence and responsibility
Tips on having "The Talk" with your teen to create change

... and more!

Visit our website for the full show notes: https://neildbrown.com/17-blog/podcast/let-the-start-of-school-end-your-control-battle/