Healing Broken Trust In Your Marriage After Infidelity

Ep 76 A New Way To Look At Negative Cycles Oct 03, 2024

In episode 76 Brad and Morgan discuss a new way to look at negative cycles.

If you haven’t yet listened to episode 3 called “Why Do We Fight and Avoid Difficult Topics” that episode will help you understand negative cycles.

You can check that out HERE: https://healingbrokentrust.com/podcast-blog/ep-3-why-do-we-fight-or-avoid-talking-about-the-affair

We are available to help you heal broken trust. We have several ways to get help.

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You can call our office at 918-281-6060 Monday-Friday 9AM-6PM CST. Contact us on the web at healingbrokentrust.com. If you live out of the US talk to our staff about discussing options via zoom.

Ep 75 The Real Reason Relationships Fail Jul 01, 2024

Every couple I’ve encountered as a relationship therapist has been dealing with this specific issue, but they didn’t have a concept for it to describe or explain it. This episode will help you do that.

Before we jump into our episode I wanted to take a moment to speak to those of you who are looking for resources.

Some of you are in therapy or coaching and you’re finding:

Your therapist is nice but the issue of betrayal or trauma isn’t being addressed.
You run out of time in your sessions
A lot happens in between sessions which can feel like progress is stunted.
It takes way too long to get somewhere in therapy or coaching.

In fact, if the average couple needs around 15-30 sessions that works out to about 4-8 months if nothing big happens in between sessions. And then there are the individual needs that will often require more time.

That’s why we host monthly workshops. You can join us in person here in Tulsa, OK, or online via zoom from anywhere in the world, and you’ll even have access to a pre-recorded version as well as the master classes and small group meetings.

This workshop provides you with actionable steps you can take immediately to see huge changes in your relationship AND in how you feel.

It’s the jump start you need. We take what would be months of therapy or coaching, pull out the most useful and important parts, and deliver it to you in 2.5 days.

It is truly transformative.

But don’t take my word for it, at the end of this episode you will have the opportunity to hear from a couple who came to one of the workshops. You can also see some here>>>

These workshops allow you to get what you need without the frustration of lost time and resources.

They are private and no one has to share anything with the group to see results if you don’t want to. Although we find that many couples love that they can make new and supportive friends if they want to.

Check it out at healingbrokentrust.com

Also download "21 Things the Unfaithful Want to Tell You But Don't Know How to Say" Here>>>

Ep 74 Finding Hope After Infidelity May 20, 2024

Erik Rasmussen shares with Brad Robinson how he found hope after discovering his wife's infidelity. Erik shares what those early days were like and what he did that created the transformation he was looking for.

Get the 21 Things the Unfaithful Want to Tell You But Don't Know How to Say free download here: https://healingbrokentrust.com/21-things-the-unfaithful-want-to-tell-you

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Ep 73 How they felt about you during their affair Apr 11, 2024

This episode sheds light on what your spouse was thinking about you and your relationship during their affair. Did they love you? Did they love the affair partner? Could they have loved you both?

Enroll in our 3 day workshop here: https://healingbrokentrust.com/hbtworkshop

Ep 72 - 20 Things the Unfaithful Want the Betrayed To Know...But Don't Know How To Say Oct 13, 2022

Brad and Morgan outline 20 things the unfaithful partner want the betrayed partner to know but don't know how to say it. We can help you find your voice and that is the goal of this episode. To help you find the words you've been looking for. Listen to the very end because you'll have a chance to hear from other couples.

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Start your transformation by joining our workshop and program at healingbrokentrust.com/hbtworkshop

Ep 71 - 23 Things the Betrayed Partner Wants The Unfaithful Partner to Know After Affair(s) In Your Relationship And Marriage Sep 28, 2022

This episode is like a mini-letter to the unfaithful spouse. Our goal is to help you articulate many of the things you might be feeling but can't seem to put your finger on.

Also, you may have heard about our workshops and master class programs…

You may be listening to this wondering why would we join the Healing Broken Trust workshop and program?

“We’re already in counseling, or something else, and I mean Brad and Morgan cover everything they have to say in the podcast anyways, right?”

Well not quite.

First of all, if you’re in counseling right now you still need the workshop.

Individual counseling doesn’t solve marriage issues. And I bet your marriage counselor is working on the marriage and missing all the glaring affair recovery issues you haven’t yet dealt with.

In addition to that…we deal with so much more in the program that we’ve never covered on the podcast.

Such as:

When sharing emotions is not enough,
When being the healer doesn’t solve the trust issues,
Or when your spouse isn’t helping you heal at all,
When cutting off the affair partner isn’t simple or straightforward in your situation,
When you’ve decided to re-engage and work on the relationship but the underlying causes for the affair aren’t dealt with,
When you think you know why the affair happened and then you are given new information,
When you have blind spots and can’t see what you’re missing,
When you’re not used to sadness so you do everything not to experience it, but in the process, you loose all access to intimacy.
You’re super positive, sure of the solution, thinking everything is explainable, but do you really understand why your spouse decided to look outside the relationship for some need to be met? What need were they trying to meet?

These are just some of what we help couples deal with in our workshop and program.

So go to healingbrokentrust.com now and join us for the next workshop before it fills up.

Ep 70 - Dan and Lynns Story Feb 14, 2022

Dan and Lynn are participants in the Healing Broken Trust program and they talk about their experience healing after infidelity. A memorable moment in the conversation was when Lynn talked about how people comment on how others are noticing the changes in them. Join the HBT program at healingbrokentrustworkshop.com

3 Things You Need If You're Feeling Stuck Jan 11, 2022

Missing this one thing could mean you stay stuck unable to repair the negative cycle.

Check out our website for info about the workshop, blog, coaching, and other helpful tools: Healingbrokentrust.com

Ep 68 - Cody and Chaisley's Workshop Story Dec 22, 2021

From feeling hopeless and defeated to a completely new and fresh take on the relationship. Cody and Chaisley attended our healing broken trust workshop and now they have something to share with you about what they discovered. Learn more at healingbrokentrust.com

Ep 67 - 1 [More] Proven Way To Heal Dec 14, 2021

We hit pause on the podcast but not on the practice of helping couples heal broken trust. Since the last episode we had another baby. We call him our pandemic baby.

While we've been away from recording new content we haven't taken a break from helping couples.

In fact, we counted the number of couples Brad has worked with 1-on-1 in just the last 10 years and we found the number to be a staggering 5,800 couples!

That's not in a large group...that's FACE TO FACE, 1-on-1. That's unheard of in the counseling profession.

During this time we've developed a new way to help our couples. We've tested in out over the last few months and the results have exceeded our expectations. This new way to heal is what Brad is sharing in this episode.

So if you're looking to heal yourself and your relationship look no further. Visit our website at healingbrokentrust.com.

Ep 66 What Makes Love Last Apr 24, 2020

This episode Brad and Morgan talk about Brad's recent TEDx Talk about what makes love last. We're so excited to share this with you!

If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop HERE: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/

You can do it in person or from home. We hope to see you soon!

Ep 65 Stress and the Negative Cycle Apr 09, 2020

Discovering that your partner has been unfaithful or needing to reveal unfaithfulness to your partner is beyond STRESSFUL. But this episode doesn't ignore the very real truth that it can still cause the coolest cucumber to wilt. Listen in as Brad and Morgan talk about managing stress incredibly difficult circumstances.

At the time of this episode, we are experiencing a pandemic and we're all quarantined and practicing social distancing. We are all so stressed and now we're in close quarters with our spouse. This can make healing broken trust so difficult.

If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop HERE: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/

You can do it in person or from home. We hope to see you soon!

Ep 64 - What Happens When The Unfaithful Is Vulnerable Feb 26, 2019

Brad discusses what happens when the betrayer opens up and is vulnerable with the partner they've hurt. How this can affect the future of the relationship.

If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop HERE: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/

You can do it in person or from home. We hope to see you soon!

Ep 63 - The Challenges To Understanding Why The Affair Happened Jan 15, 2019

After an affair is discovered many people find it difficult to understand why the betrayal happened.

In Episode 63 Brad and Morgan discuss some of the challenges to healing. They outline how shock and trauma affects the way understanding the affair is interpreted.

How the big why and little whys make a difference in healing after the affair is discovered. How the level of pain affects the number of questions asked.

If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop HERE: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/

You can do it in person or from home. We hope to see you soon!

Ep 62 - The Crucial Moments After The Affair May 08, 2018

People make so many mistakes after the affair is discovered. You can avoid all the most common issues. This episode begins the discussion of what you can do to avoid the pitfalls and make sure you come out on top.

If you’re tired of feeling stuck, and you’re ready to take the next step, and you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop HERE: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/

You can do it in person or from home. We hope to see you soon!

Ep 61 - Is Your Situation Beyond Help? May 01, 2018

This episode we have a real "come to Jesus meeting" as we say in the south....we constantly hear people say that their situation must be the worst situation that we've ever heard...they're surprised when we share what we share in this episode.

If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/

Ep 60 - Are you grieving what you hoped your relationship would be? Apr 24, 2018

In this episode we cover grief in our relationship. When we've experienced hardships especially the pain of lost expectations in our marriage we grieve what could have (or should have) been.

When we are hurt or when our relationship experiences a transition...sometimes for the worse...we grieve the change. But if you get the right help you can have a new and better relationship with your mate. But there are birthing pains sometimes when you're trying to bring about this new, better, version of you relationship.

If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/

You can do it in person or from home. We hope to see you soon!

Ep 59 - Two Practical Communication Tips To Get Unstuck Apr 17, 2018

Communication is definitely a huge concern for almost every couple. We all want to be heard and to feel understood. We often intuitively know that we need to understand our partner as well.

What we need and want to say can get lost in translation. So we give two practical and simple ways to get started getting "unstuck" in your communication battle.

It can feel like a battle sometimes, right? The good news is you don't have to do it alone. You have someone in your corner.

We are here to help you and want to give you everything you need to be successful.

If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/

You can do it in person or from home. We hope to see you soon!

If you want to learn a little more about us visit our website: healingbrokentrust.com

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Ep 58 - How Self Deception Leads to Infidelity Apr 10, 2018

Are you stuck in self-deception? The answer might surprise you.

If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/

You can do it in person or from home. We hope to see you soon!

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Ep 57 - How They Finally Overcame The Mess of The Affair - Anthony and Stephanie Pt 3 Apr 06, 2018

Part 3 is all about how Anthony and Stephanie finally overcame the affair.

If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/

You can do it in person or from home. We hope to see you soon!

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Ep 56 - How Anthony and Stephanie Cut Off The Affair - Part II Dec 27, 2017

Anthony had to figure out how to cut off the affair partner even when she persisted. Listen to their story here.

If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/

You can do it in person or from home. We hope to see you soon!

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EP 55 - How Anthony and Stephanie Healed After His Affair Pt 1 Dec 08, 2017

After years of feeling their relationship was "okay" Stephanie found herself at a crossroads. Anthony admitted to an affair. They decided to work on the marriage but couldn't shake the affair partner. Even after moving state lines the affair partner was persistent! Listen to find out how they healed from broken trust.

If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/

You can do it in person or from home. We hope to see you soon!

If you want to learn a little more about us visit our website: healingbrokentrust.com

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Ep 54 - Matt and Sue's Journey To Healing Nov 24, 2017

Matt and Sue struggled after Sue discovered Matt's affair. They were split up and Matt struggled to leave the affair partner when they found our Master Class.

They tell their story here.

If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/

You can do it in person or from home. We hope to see you soon!

If you want to learn a little more about us visit our website: healingbrokentrust.com

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Ep 53 - Is Divorce Right For You? Sep 19, 2017

Many of you may be contemplating divorce. Should you divorce? Will it make you happy? We discuss whether divorce is right for you in this episode.

If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/

You can do it in person or from home. We hope to see you soon!

If you want to learn a little more about us visit our website: healingbrokentrust.com

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Ep 52 -12 Dangerous Signs They Might Be Thinking About Cheating Sep 05, 2017

We've compiled 12 warnings signs that someone is vulnerable to cheating. In this episode we talk about 3 of them.

If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/

You can do it in person or from home. We hope to see you soon!

If you want to learn a little more about us visit our website: healingbrokentrust.com

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Ep 51 - Porn and Infidelity Aug 29, 2017

Pornography many times leads to infidelity. We discuss how porn can influence a person to be unfaithful and a few ways you can protect yourself and your marriage.

If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/

You can do it in person or from home. We hope to see you soon!

If you want to learn a little more about us visit our website: healingbrokentrust.com

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Ep 50 - Pursuer's Affair Aug 22, 2017

This episode is all about the pursuer's affair. We talk a lot about the Avoider's affair but we forget that hey pursuer's have affairs too! You'll find this episode interesting as we take a look at how a pursuer can betray as well.

If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/

You can do it in person or from home. We hope to see you soon!

If you want to learn a little more about us visit our website: healingbrokentrust.com

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Ep 49 - Avoiding the Shut Down Aug 15, 2017

In this episode we talk about what research says about re-engaging the withdrawn spouse. The specific steps you can take to make sure you get the much needed feedback from the partner who traditionally withdraws and pulls away.

If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/

You can do it in person or from home. We hope to see you soon!

If you want to learn a little more about us visit our website: healingbrokentrust.com

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Ep 48 - The Secret Missing Link In Your Affair Recovery Process Aug 08, 2017

Without this missing link you will have a hard time fully recovering after infidelity. Make sure you do this for your relationship! We even give you 2 actionable things you can do right away to make it happen.

If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/

You can do it in person or from home. We hope to see you soon!

If you want to learn a little more about us visit our website: healingbrokentrust.com

Read our blog at healingbrokentrustblog.com

Ep 47 - How To Encourage The Truth Aug 01, 2017

It can be challenging to encourage the truth as a betrayed partner but in this episode we outline 3 reasons the betrayer struggles to be honest and a few ways you can encourage the truth so you get what you need.

Honesty is sometimes hard to come by but this episode is a quick reminder of how to encourage it and we briefly review the most important things to remember

If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/

You can do it in person or from home. We hope to see you soon!

If you want to learn a little more about us visit our website: healingbrokentrust.com

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Ep 46 - When They Won't End The Affair Jul 25, 2017

We talk about 2 things you can do when they won't end the affair.

If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/

You can do it in person or from home. We hope to see you soon!

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Ep 45 - Boundaries In Your Marriage After An Affair Jul 18, 2017

Boundaries are so incredibly important for healing a marriage after infidelity and are important for preventing infidelity as well.

If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/

You can do it in person or from home. We hope to see you soon!

If you want to learn a little more about us visit our website: healingbrokentrust.com

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Ep 44 - Is It Okay To Snoop? Jul 11, 2017

Is it wrong for me to check up on my spouse and look through their Facebook and bank accounts? We answer this question in this episode.

If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/

You can do it in person or from home. We hope to see you soon!

If you want to learn a little more about us visit our website: healingbrokentrust.com

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Ep 43 - Switzerland and The One Thing Jul 04, 2017

We talk about the one thing you need to know when healing after broken trust. We hope you have a wonderful 4th of July full of fun with your family. We are recording this from our hotel room and you'll never guess where we are!

If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/

You can do it in person or from home. We hope to see you soon!

If you want to learn a little more about us visit our website: healingbrokentrust.com

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Ep 42 - Does the Affair Make The Betrayer Happy? Jun 27, 2017

Many times the person who is betrayed wonders what's going on in the mind of their partner who's having an affair. It's important to deal with the reality of the (typical) affair.

If you're the betrayed partner, you may only see your partner pushing you away. It's easy to think that they really don't want to be with you....but could they be pushing you away because of their own shame and guilt? Maybe they're afraid the marriage can't change...so they do things to push you away?

Here are a few of the questions we discuss in this episode:

Does the affair partner make them happy?
Do they normally want to leave for the affair partner and why?
What are some of the things the betrayer wants?
What do they get out of the forbidden relationship?
What is the betrayer thinking when they're unsure if they want to stay married?

We answer these questions (and more) in this weeks episode.

If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/

Ep 40 - 1 Quick Way To Feeling 100% Jun 13, 2017

A listener submitted question is answered that revolves around the issue of sexual assault that results from infidelity. How do we go from here? What can be done? Will they make it?

If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/

You can do it in person or from home. We hope to see you soon!

If you want to learn a little more about us visit our website: healingbrokentrust.com

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Ep 39 - Should I Leave For The Affair Partner? Jun 06, 2017

Sometimes people contemplate leaving their spouse for the affair partner. Let's talk about if that works and a few things you'll want to consider if you are wanting to leave and possibly marry your affair partner. Can a relationship built on infidelity work?

If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/

You can do it in person or from home. We hope to see you soon!

If you want to learn a little more about us visit our website: healingbrokentrust.com

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Ep 38 - Healing Wounds Through Bonding Events May 30, 2017

Shame comes when we feel rejected. So when we feel accepted we begin to heal the shame. How do we feel accepted after infidelity? We learn to share our vulnerable feelings. How do we learn to share our vulnerable feelings?

If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/

You can do it in person or from home. We hope to see you soon!

If you want to learn a little more about us visit our website: healingbrokentrust.com

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Ep 37 - Your Approach Is Failing May 23, 2017

You're not a failure but your methods are probably failing you. Make sure to avoid these 7 things so you can be sure to succeed in healing after betrayal.

If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/

You can do it in person or from home. We hope to see you soon!

If you want to learn a little more about us visit our website: healingbrokentrust.com

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Ep 36 - Reverting Back To Old Patterns May 16, 2017

What do you do when your problems re-escalate? This can be really scary and frustrating for many couples after infidelity. What if we go back to the old life? How do we handle things when we've been to counseling or a retreat but we still go back to our old problems?

If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/

You can do it in person or from home. We hope to see you soon!

If you want to learn a little more about us visit our website: healingbrokentrust.com

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Ep 35 - Why Does The Betrayer Become So Defensive? May 09, 2017

This episode answers the questions why does the betrayer get so defensive when we need to talk about the details and when I ask simple questions about what happened?

If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/

You can do it in person or from home. We hope to see you soon!

If you want to learn a little more about us visit our website: healingbrokentrust.com

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Ep 34 - When the Affair Becomes Public May 02, 2017

It's hard enough dealing with the affair in private but Brad & Morgan provide valuable advice for when the affair becomes public. Whether you're the average person, a CEO of a large company, or a celebrity or high profile person this advice will help you navigate the pain of infidelity in the public eye.

If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/

You can do it in person or from home. We hope to see you soon!

If you want to learn a little more about us visit our website: healingbrokentrust.com

Read our blog at healingbrokentrustblog.com

Ep 33 - When Trusting the Betrayed Partner Is Hard Apr 25, 2017

You want the person who betrayed trust to become trustworthy which is completely understandable BUT what happens when the betrayer finds it hard to trust the partner they betrayed? How is this even possible? What you can do now.

It's hard enough dealing with the affair in private but Brad & Morgan provide valuable advice for when the affair becomes public. Whether you're the average person, a CEO of a large company, or a celebrity or high profile person this advice will help you navigate the pain of infidelity in the public eye.

If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/

You can do it in person or from home. We hope to see you soon!

If you want to learn a little more about us visit our website: healingbrokentrust.com

Read our blog at healingbrokentrustblog.com

EP 32 - Financial Infidelity - Are you or your partner financially unfaithful? Apr 18, 2017

Do you feel that your spouse hasn't been totally transparent with the finances? Have you considered doing something to manage your money like the Dave Ramsey method but you can't seem to get it together and you don't know why? Maybe you're the one in the relationship who just can't seem to let your partner into that part of your life and you don't know how to make them happy? This episode will really help you iron out this part of your relationship.

If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/

You can do it in person or from home. We hope to see you soon!

If you want to learn a little more about us visit our website: healingbrokentrust.com

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Ep 31 - When They Have A Baby As A Result of An Affair Apr 11, 2017

Sometimes children are born because of infidelity. In the midst of your suffering, now there is a little human reminder of your pain. What should you do in a case like this? Listen to find out.

If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/

You can do it in person or from home. We hope to see you soon!

If you want to learn a little more about us visit our website: healingbrokentrust.com

Read our blog at healingbrokentrustblog.com

Ep 30 - 2 Communication Sins To Avoid Apr 04, 2017

We talk about 2 communication traps couples fall into when they are talking about anything pertaining to their relationship. If you can avoid these 2 ways of communication you can solve a huge portion of your relationship problems.

If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/

You can do it in person or from home. We hope to see you soon!

If you want to learn a little more about us visit our website: healingbrokentrust.com

Read our blog at healingbrokentrustblog.com

Ep 29 - Childhood of a Betrayer Mar 28, 2017

How does someone become unfaithful? Is it something they are predestined to do or can it be prevented altogether? Are you raising an unfaithful child? How can you ensure that your child is able to have a healthy committed marriage even if you have not.

If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/

You can do it in person or from home. We hope to see you soon!

If you want to learn a little more about us visit our website: healingbrokentrust.com

Read our blog at healingbrokentrustblog.com

Ep 28 - Hell or Highwater Detachment and Despair After An Affair Mar 21, 2017

When do people officially throw in the towel and quit the relationship? Many people think it's the affair that causes the break up but that's not the case most of the time. There is so much more that destroys the relationship. In this episode we talk about what "done" and "checked out" really looks like.

If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/

You can do it in person or from home. We hope to see you soon!

If you want to learn a little more about us visit our website: healingbrokentrust.com

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Ep 27 - Are Some Wounds Too Big To Heal From? Mar 14, 2017

Are some wounds so big that they can't be healed? Why is it that some people heal and others don't?

If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/

You can do it in person or from home. We hope to see you soon!

If you want to learn a little more about us visit our website: healingbrokentrust.com

Read our blog at healingbrokentrustblog.com

Ep 26 - Why Do They Lie? Mar 07, 2017

Why does my spouse lie? Many who experience infidelity struggle to understand why their spouse won't come out with the full complete truth while some will spill the beans at the drop of a hat. In this episode we talk about why people lie while others don't.

If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/

You can do it in person or from home. We hope to see you soon!

If you want to learn a little more about us visit our website: healingbrokentrust.com

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Ep 25 - Brad's Favorite Topic - Events That Make Healing After An Affair Possible Feb 28, 2017

So many couples have no idea what's possible when it comes to long term healing. They merely scratch the surface when they recognize their negative cycle and understand emotion...but did you know that's only the start? In this episode we talk about super-primary emotion and what it can do for your marriage.

If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/

You can do it in person or from home. We hope to see you soon!

If you want to learn a little more about us visit our website: healingbrokentrust.com

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EP 24 - How To Move On So The Affair Doesn't Define Your Life, Strategies for Overcoming the Mental Battle Feb 21, 2017

Picking up the pieces of your life after an affair can seem impossible in some ways. But this episode will help you to alter your thought process and inoculate yourself against the crazy feelings after infidelity.

If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/

You can do it in person or from home. We hope to see you soon!

If you want to learn a little more about us visit our website: healingbrokentrust.com

Read our blog at healingbrokentrustblog.com

Ep 23 - How Can We Forgive and Be Forgiven? Should I stay with someone who hurts me? Feb 14, 2017

In this episode we talk about how to forgive. So many people think that by forgiving they are somehow weak or saying that it’s okay to cheat. We help you to understand how you can forgive without sending the message that it’s okay to hurt you.

If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/

You can do it in person or from home. We hope to see you soon!

If you want to learn a little more about us visit our website: healingbrokentrust.com

Read our blog at healingbrokentrustblog.com

Ep 22 - “If You Cheat On Me I’ll Leave You” And Other Things People Say That Challenge the Conversation Feb 07, 2017

In this episode we answer the question “Brad how do I talk to my wife about this? She told me before I had this affair; I never want you to tell me if you have ever cheated on me. I don't want to know that because I have been betrayed by someone else before in the previous marriage.”

Has your spouse said something like, “I will leave you if you ever cheat on me, if you ever sleep with anybody else, I'll leave you.” If you’ve heard this statement then this episode is a must listen episode!

If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/

You can do it in person or from home. We hope to see you soon!

If you want to learn a little more about us visit our website: healingbrokentrust.com

Read our blog at healingbrokentrustblog.com

Ep 21 - 10 Types of Affairs Jan 31, 2017

Did you know that there are 10 different types of affairs? In this episode we outline the different types of affairs that people experience and how they are alike and how they are different.

Understanding this one thing will transform the healing process for you. You will understand your partner and the situation so much better and that will expedite the healing process for you.

If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/

You can do it in person or from home. We hope to see you soon!

If you want to learn a little more about us visit our website: healingbrokentrust.com

Read our blog at healingbrokentrustblog.com

Ep 20 - Your Mind Plays Tricks On You and Replacing Destructive Thoughts Jan 24, 2017

In this episode we help you take control of the destructive thoughts that keep you stuck in unhealthy patterns that keep you from post-traumatic growth. In particular we discuss abusive labeling, blaming, unfavorable comparisons, and more.

Sometimes you need an outside source to point out what is true and what is just your mind playing tricks on you. We will give you simple things you can do to begin transforming your thoughts so you can take back your day, your week, your month, your year, and ultimately YOUR LIFE!

If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/

You can do it in person or from home. We hope to see you soon!

If you want to learn a little more about us visit our website: healingbrokentrust.com

Read our blog at healingbrokentrustblog.com

Ep 19 - Myths That Are Holding You Back, Keeping You Stuck, & Preventing You From Total Happiness Jan 17, 2017

The ABC model of thought renewal, the lies we tell ourselves, and how our thoughts make a difference in how we feel This episode talks about renewing our mind and how we can sometimes wrongly personalize, assume, and catastrophize our situation and other things you must stop right now.

If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/

You can do it in person or from home. We hope to see you soon!

If you want to learn a little more about us visit our website: healingbrokentrust.com

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Ep 18 - Stages of Trauma Recovery - How To Get Through It Once And For All Jan 10, 2017

We answer questions: I would really like to know, how do you know you are recovering and what is the process? What steps can I take to recover from the trauma?

Knowing what to expect through the healing process is really important to making sure you fully recover from infidelity. In this case, trauma is a stage of the healing process. Inside of the trauma stage there are micro steps that if you understand then you will have an easier time healing and taking back your life. Don’t miss this episode.

If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/

You can do it in person or from home. We hope to see you soon!

If you want to learn a little more about us visit our website: healingbrokentrust.com

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Ep 17 - Can I forget the affair and put it behind me?, Our past and this present betrayal, How do I handle the intrusive thoughts? Jan 03, 2017

We answer the questions of: I have been struggling with my spouse’s affair for a year now. I just can't stop thinking about it and I have nightmares. I still feel like it happened yesterday. How do I know when I need to seek individual counseling? Is it possible to forget the affair and put it behind me? Is it important to deal with our past when we’re dealing with this present betrayal? How do I handle the intrusive thoughts? Symptoms of PTSD are further explained and triggers are better understood in this episode.

If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/

You can do it in person or from home. We hope to see you soon!

If you want to learn a little more about us visit our website: healingbrokentrust.com

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Ep 16 - How to work through anger and talk about the affair without pushing each other away? Dec 27, 2016

We answer the questions of: How do we work through our anger and talk about the affair without pushing the betrayer away? What you're doing that is making the trauma worse. What is PTSD? Why does it matter when recovering from infidelity? What specifically makes PTSD so hard to recover from?

If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/

You can do it in person or from home. We hope to see you soon!

If you want to learn a little more about us visit our website: healingbrokentrust.com

Read our blog at healingbrokentrustblog.com

Ep 15 - Am I crazy? What’s wrong with me? How come I can't get over this? What to do in the first 90 days Dec 20, 2016

In this episode Brad & Morgan a listener question: "I learned about my wife's affair with her co-worker two months ago. She has since stop seeing this person and is trying to help me heal, but I still can't seem to stop thinking about her with him. I feel obsessed with knowing what happened. My wife is becoming tired of answering the same questions over and over and I feel worried that she will leave me just because of my obsession with knowing what's happened. I feel like I am going crazy, why do I feel this way?"

They address the questions of am I crazy? What’s wrong with me? How come I can't get over this? And what to do in the first 90 days.

If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/

You can do it in person or from home. We hope to see you soon!

If you want to learn a little more about us visit our website: healingbrokentrust.com

Read our blog at healingbrokentrustblog.com

Ep 14 - Romantic Love After Infidelity: Is It Possible To Have Romance Again? How Should We Handle Romance After They Cheated? Ways To Get The Romance Back. Dec 13, 2016

Brad & Morgan answer a few listener questions in this episode. One question is "I have been married to my spouse for 20 years. I would like to know how to fall back into love with my spouse." We also discuss ideas to increase romance without pushing your spouse away after infidelity.

If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/

You can do it in person or from home. We hope to see you soon!

If you want to learn a little more about us visit our website: healingbrokentrust.com

Read our blog at healingbrokentrustblog.com

Ep 13 - What Will Make Them Stay, Leave, or Want Me Again? Stuck In Ambiguity, Feeling Confused? Dec 06, 2016

Almost every couple, there is a period of ambiguity, that uncertainty that they go through. Are we going to stay together or are we going to be done?

If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/

You can do it in person or from home. We hope to see you soon!

If you want to learn a little more about us visit our website: healingbrokentrust.com

Read our blog at healingbrokentrustblog.com

Ep 12 - Should I Stay Or Go? What To Do When You're Not Sure You Want To Save The Relationship. The One Thing Holding You Back From Progress. Nov 29, 2016

So many people struggle with feelings of ambiguity after discovering infidelity in their relationship. Many people want to know should I stay with my spouse or partner or should I leave? We talk about the pros and cons of both and give you sound advice on handling the feelings of should I stay or should I leave my marriage.

If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/

You can do it in person or from home. We hope to see you soon!

If you want to learn a little more about us visit our website: healingbrokentrust.com

Read our blog at healingbrokentrustblog.com

Ep 11 - Crisis Management, How to Keep It Together When Everything's Falling Apart After The Affair Nov 22, 2016

After the affair(s) life can feel like it's ending. Sometimes you just have no idea how to get back to normal. You still have to go to work and take care of children and you can't just stay in bed and nurse your own wounds. You have to go about normal life even though you're wrecked. So this episode is all about ways to manage the crisis after infidelity.

If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/

You can do it in person or from home. We hope to see you soon!

If you want to learn a little more about us visit our website: healingbrokentrust.com

Read our blog at healingbrokentrustblog.com

Ep 10 - Why People Cheat, What Makes A Cheater?, What Leads To Infidelity? Why Did This Happen To You? Nov 15, 2016

One of the big goals of this program, along with helping your relationship heal from betrayal is to help you create secure attachments with each other.

If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/

You can do it in person or from home. We hope to see you soon!

If you want to learn a little more about us visit our website: healingbrokentrust.com

Read our blog at healingbrokentrustblog.com

Ep 9 - 6 Ground Rules for Discussing Infidelity Nov 08, 2016

We lay out 6 ground rules for making your conversations productive when discussing the infidelity.

Does Talking About The Affair Help or Hurt? Why We Loose Control When We Talk About The Affair(s)? How Much Is Too Much? Do I Want To Know The Details? Does Honesty Really Help?

We also talk about a crazy brain fact that explains why you loose control when talking about the affair and what you can do to keep your cool even when you just want to scream!

We also talk about what to expect when you talk about the affair and how to not waste your time.

If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/

Ep 8 - Did They Really End The Affair? Is It Really Over? Why Is It Important To End The Affair The Right Way? How to Cut Off The Affair Parter For Good This Time. Nov 01, 2016

So many people think they can just stop going around the affair partner and it's magically over. Some even talk to the affair partner and tell them it's over and it's not REALLY over for many reasons.

Betrayed spouses want to believe their partner when their partner tells them it's over but there is still a lingering desire and a lingering problem that the affair partner may not believe it's over.

The affair partner may not want it to be over and if you don't cut them off correctly they can pop their ugly little head up when you least expect it and cause a mountain of hurt for you.

You don't want to relive the pain of betrayal over AGAIN and AGAIN because of a simple solution that was ignored.

Listen to this week's podcast to learn more about how to cut off the affair partner once and for real this time!

If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/

You can do it in person or from home. We hope to see you soon!

If you want to learn a little more about us visit our website: healingbrokentrust.com

Read our blog at healingbrokentrustblog.com

Ep 7 - Why Do Some People Never Really Get Over Infidelity, Communicate So Poorly, Avoid, or Fight, & Never Get To The Truth? Oct 25, 2016

How to understand the best strategies for communication and connecting with your spouse after discovering infidelity in your marriage.

Often times we try to heal after betrayal with the old patterns of communication that actually contributed to the affair happening in the first place. We were caught in a negative cycle before the affair happened and before it was discovered. Then after the affair is discovered our negative cycle (or old patterns of communicating) don't improve...they simply get worse and cause us to loose control and can cost us our marriage).

So in order to completely heal after betrayal we must identify where we get stuck and learn new ways to communicate and connect with each other so you can begin to heal from the infidelity.

Until we identify our negative cycle we can't completely heal. Be sure to check out Episode 3 because it's the first part of this 2 part series.

Ep 6 - #1 Secret to Healing Oct 18, 2016

We explain a necessary and important step to healing from an affair. We take a balanced approach to affair recovery because your relationship depends on it. We are dealing with trauma and we are helping the marriage get back on track. We're not just helping one individual get back on track. And so that's what we are working for.

We talk about how we can have the betrayer become a supporter and nurturer and how that helps the betrayed or injured spouse heal. And there's a lot of things on the internet, there's a lot of services, there's a lot of different people who say after you have an affair, you lose your voice, you lose your opinions, you no longer have a right to have needs and you got to be a doormat for this person right here.

That's very short-sighted and very unhealthy because it's not taking into consideration the factors that led up to the affair. We are rebuilding more than just one person who has been broken, we are also rebuilding a marriage.....

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If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/

You can do it in person or from home. We hope to see you soon!

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Ep 5 - 1st Steps To Truly Healing And Moving On Oct 11, 2016

If you've just found out that your spouse has been cheated on you, this is what you really need to do. Unfortunately, you are not alone in affair recovery. But fortunately you have choices. You don't have to remain broken and lost.

There is a step by step process to healing after betrayal that we give you in this podcast. The choices you make right now wherever you are in the process are crucial to your longterm happiness. Be sure to listen and follow our advice! We could save you a lot of headache!

If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/

You can do it in person or from home. We hope to see you soon!

If you want to learn a little more about us visit our website: healingbrokentrust.com

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Ep 4 - How To Fall Out Of Love With The Affair Partner Oct 04, 2016

In this episode Brad & Morgan talk about the difficulties of turning off feelings for the affair partner.

Moving past the affair and getting rid of the feelings that you have for the affair partner can be a challenge many don't consider throughout the affair recovery process.

If you know someone who has gone through an affair or they are currently struggling with an affair, I would encourage you to tell them to listen to this show.

We're diving into how to pull out of limerence and infatuation and we lay the foundation to fall back in love with your spouse.

If you are interested in saving your marriage or you're just not sure what to do this podcast will be helpful to you. This is an episode you won't want to miss!

If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/

You can do it in person or from home. We hope to see you soon!

If you want to learn a little more about us visit our website: healingbrokentrust.com

Read our blog at healingbrokentrustblog.com

Ep 3 - Why Do We Fight or Avoid Talking About The Affair? Sep 27, 2016

This episode is one of the most important episodes we will do. It is crucial for you to understand negative cycles and negative patterns of communicating in order to completely transform your relationship after infidelity.

Do you find yourselves fighting or avoiding the important details of the affair? This episode will help you!

Do not miss this episode!! Find more resources at healingbrokentrust.com

Ep1 - 7 Stages Of Affair Recovery Sep 20, 2016

In this episode we explain a necessary and important step to healing after one or multiple affairs, cheating, betrayal, infidelity...whatever you feel it's best titled...honestly, they feel very similarly no matter the title.

Whether one person made the mistake of cheating or both people were unfaithful. This will really help you understand where you are in the process of recovering and where you will be going as you work through the healing process.

Ultimately we are helping you to recover from the trauma of the affair
We are helping the marriage get back on track.

NOTE: We're not just helping one individual get back on track. We are assuming you would like to heal personally and would like to see if the marriage has the potential for recovery. So we talk about how to heal the marriage as well as both individuals. And so that's what we are working for.

If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop:

https://healingbrokentrust.com/hbtworkshop

You can do it in person or from home. We hope to see you soon! If you want to learn a little more about us visit our website: healingbrokentrust.com

Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only. We can’t give you personal advice without knowing your individual situation so this program is not meant to diagnose in any way.

Ep 0 - How To Make This Podcast Work For You and Why Listen To This? Sep 20, 2016

Welcome to THE podcast that will teach you how to recover after infidelity has wrecked your relationship. Brought to you by Brad & Morgan Robinson. Brad is a national expert on affair recovery and has helped couples strengthen their relationship for nearly a decade. Morgan creates content to help you recover. You can find the resources at healingbrokentrust.com We are so incredibly humbled that you decided to download and hopefully subscribe to our healing broken trust podcast. We want to start by sharing with you what this healing broken trust podcast is all about and why we are doing it and a few other things. First, welcome to episode 0 we are really excited for you to be here because it means that you’re considering healing the broken trust in your relationship. Maybe you’re definitely sure you want to save your relationship, maybe one or both of you is not sure you want to save your marriage but you’re listening to this to see if it’s even possible to heal. You may be considering what to do or how to move past this big stain on your relationship. Before you make any definite decisions please listen to this podcast and if you can join our weekly group calls and ask questions. Whatever your situation, whether you’ve been betrayed or you’re the betrayer and you’re wanting to figure out what to do from here, we can help you. Even if there’s been multiple affairs or one person isn’t even convinced that there’s been an affair this podcast is for you. Find additional resources at healingbrokentrust.com So let’s talk about what we will be covering specifically in this podcast... So we start with a birds eye view of the healing process with episode 1. We talk about the stages of recovery. This is important because you can see and understand the normal recovery process and understand where you might be getting stuck in healing. We discuss the things that keep people from healing and how to get unstuck and make progress. We talk about falling out of love with the affair partner and how to fall back in love with your spouse. We reveal the secrets to healing and identify the one thing you need in order to heal after betrayal. We talk about how to stop fighting and avoiding important topics. We talk about how to cut off the affair partner and we establish ground rules for talking about the affair. We also make sure to answer why affairs happen and how people become vulnerable to infidelity. We give you the right questions to ask to understand why it happened to you, we talk about whether you should stay or go, and whether all affairs are created equal. We talk about forgiveness, rekindling romantic love with your spouse, we challenge the myths and false beliefs keeping you down, and finally we talk about how to live the life you really want the life full of growth, love, and happiness. So sit back and relax and unpack the Healing Broken Trust Podcast with Brad and Morgan Robinson. If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/

You can do it in person or from home. We hope to see you soon!

If you want to learn a little more about us visit our website: healingbrokentrust.com

Read our blog at healingbrokentrustblog.com

Ep2 - Why won't they stop the affair? What is Limerence? Sep 20, 2016

Love addiction can be a cruel experience for both the addicted person and their spouse. It may be why your partner hasn't stopped the affair.

How terrible it is when you can't get the love object out of your mind and every time you see them you can't stop obsessing over them.

Now not everyone experiences this and not every affair is like this necessarily...but we've all likely experienced limerence in our lives at one point or another.

As young people many of us experience the elements of infatuation as we develop shallow feelings for someone.

Make sure to listen to episode 1 where we talk about the stages of recovery. We will also have an episode specifically on the types of affairs. There are actually 10 different types of affairs. Not all are created equally.

Each type of affair will take you down its own unique winding road and each has its own special challenges.

Join us for this episode of Are They Addicted To Love? What Is Limerence?

Could this be how your spouse felt about the affair partner?

If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/

You can do it in person or from home. We hope to see you soon!

If you want to learn a little more about us visit our website: healingbrokentrust.com

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