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Gumball Love Podcast

Ever had a guy ghost you? He’s into you and suddenly he pulls away or cheats? Does he leave and come back into your life? This is a Gumball Guy. Gumball Love is attention addiction.

Attention is just like a Gumball, temporarily intense and sweet but soon the effect is gone. Guys addicted to the “Gumball” (any flavor of attention), get a high from the excitement, adoration and validation. During this cycle they appear to be falling in love. When the high is gone they pull away, ghost or cheat leaving you feeling confused, rejected and heartbroken.

I’m your host, Melissa Roberts, professional relationship coach, creator of Gumball Love and the Back to You Academy. If you’re ready to stop the cycle of toxic men, get through the break up once and for all, and finally get back to YOU, you are in the right place. This journey is about healing your heart, and you are encouraged to take the pace that is just right for you. In the process, you will build a foundation of confidence and strength that will make you unshakable, I promise. So get ready to level up your mindset and your lifestyle, as you awaken the seeds of greatness that are waiting to burst into full bloom. Let’s do this!

Find Melissa Roberts at www.GumballLove.com
Instagram: @MelissaJaneRoberts
Email: Melissa@GumballLove.com
Facebook group: Gumball Love VIP Clubhouse

Latest Episodes:

EPISODE 144: Why Playing Hard to Get is keeping you Stuck. Oct 03, 2025

Show notes

🎙 Why Playing Hard to Get Keeps You Stuck The Gumball Love Podcast with Melissa Roberts is where successful, ambitious women finally decode the mystery of why love feels so complicated. Melissa — relationship scientist, life coach, and creator of the Gumball Love Method — pulls back the curtain on patterns that keep you stuck with the wrong guys, in the wrong cycles, and questioning your worth.

Through raw stories, neuroscience, and practical coaching, you'll learn how to spot transactional relationships, escape the dopamine-hope loop, and open the door to authentic love. If you've ever wondered why the guys who come on strong end up pulling away, this is your place to get clarity, courage, and a whole new lens on love.

📌 Show Notes – Episode: The Hard-to-Get Illusion Episode summary: We've all been told the same rules: don't text first, wait three days, match his energy, be mysterious. But what if the very strategies designed to "win" his attention are the reason love keeps slipping away?

In this episode, Melissa breaks down how decades of dating advice — from The Rules to The Game — conditioned women (and men) to perform scarcity instead of connection. You'll hear how the "hard-to-get" script fuels the Gumball transaction: the craving, the quarter, the gumball, the fade, and the crash.

What you'll learn in this episode:

The cultural origins of "play hard to get" and why it's still everywhere in dating advice today
How performing scarcity creates craving but never stability
The dopamine-driven loop of quarter → gumball → fade → crash
Why attention ≠ capacity — and how to tell the difference
The ache of living in strategy mode: exhausted, unseen, and still alone
Why other coaches teach you to play the game better, but Gumball Love shows you the game itself

Resources & Next Steps: 🎯 Take the free quiz: gumballlove.com 💬 Book a one-time clarity call with Melissa ✉️ Email Melissa directly at melissa@gumballlove.com with questions or topic requests

EPISODE 143: Why Gumball Love? START HERE. Sep 26, 2025

Show notes

🎙 Why Gumball Love? Start here:

The Gumball Love Podcast with Melissa Roberts is where successful, ambitious women finally decode the mystery of why love feels so complicated. Melissa — relationship scientist, life coach, and creator of the Gumball Love Method — pulls back the curtain on patterns that keep you stuck with the wrong guys, stuck in the wrong cycles, and stuck questioning your worth. Through raw stories, neuroscience, and practical coaching, you'll learn how to spot transactional relationships, escape the dopamine-hope loop, and open the door to authentic love. If you've ever wondered why the guys who come on strong end up pulling away, this is your place to get clarity, courage, and a whole new lens on love.

📌 Show Notes – Episode: Start Here – The Gumball Love Origin Story

Episode summary: If you're new (or returning) to Gumball Love, this is your must-listen starting point. Melissa shares her personal backstory — the high-achieving "junior high boss babe" who could crush it in business but always felt confused and insecure in romance. She walks through the frustrations of books, therapy, and endless "tips and tricks" that never solved the problem, and introduces the metaphor that changed everything: the Gumball.

What you'll learn in this episode:

Why successful women feel "too much" in dating yet "not enough" in love
The turning point story behind the gumball metaphor: quarter in, gumball out
The five-step cycle of dopamine, craving, and crash that keeps relationships stuck
Examples of common gumball dynamics (Arouse Me, Chase Me) and why they feel like love at first
The "fantasy bubble paradox" — how hope and chemistry create illusions that blind you to red flags
Why you're not broken, cursed, or doomed… you've just been in a pattern you couldn't name until now

Resources & Next Steps:

🎯 Take the free quiz: gumballlove.com
💬 Book a free one-time clarity call with Melissa
✉️ Email Melissa directly at melissa@gumballlove.com with questions or topic requests

Key timestamps:

00:00 – Melissa's backstory: finance success, relationship struggles
20:00 – The gumball metaphor explained
25:00 – The five-step transactional cycle
33:00 – The "Chase Me" flavor breakdown
39:00 – The Fantasy Bubble Paradox
45:00 – The quiz and your next steps

EPISODE 142: Why Love is the one thing you can't figure out? Sep 18, 2025

Show notes

Welcome to the first episode of the new season of The Gumball Love Podcast!

If you've ever looked around at your life and thought, "Why is love the one thing I can't figure out?" — this episode is for you.

I know what it's like to feel successful in every other area, but still be single, overthinking every text, or stuck in situationships you can't talk about. I know the shame of wondering if something is wrong with you, while everyone else seems to move forward with engagements, weddings, and babies.

In this episode, I'm sharing:

My personal story of years of dating, breakups, and therapy before meeting my husband.
The hidden shame high-achieving women carry when love isn't working.
Why love feels amazing one minute and "off" the next — and what's actually happening in those patterns.
The truth: You are not broken. You're not too much. You're not behind. You've just been caught in a loop no one taught you to see.
Why there's still so much hope for your love story, no matter how late you think it is.

This episode sets the foundation for everything we'll cover going forward — from cultural myths to dating apps to the emotional patterns that keep smart women stuck.

✨ Because real intimacy doesn't feel like waiting. It feels safe. And you deserve that.

📌 Links & Next Steps

👉 Take the Gumball Love Quiz to start spotting patterns in your story.
👉 Follow me on Instagram @melissajaneroberts for daily insights.
👉 Share this episode with a friend who needs the reminder: she's not broken either.
👉Book a Free coaching call with Melissa HERE:

EPISODE 141: Why I left podcasting after getting married. Oct 17, 2024

Show notes

I am so excited to be back, and I have so much to share. This podcast is like a phone call between you and me. I tell you what happened, why I stopped podcasting, why I did not want to share my relationship online.

I also have a huge announcement and introducing a project I've been working on for a long time. It is FREE: Listen to the podcast and then come back and click the links below!

The Gumball Love ROMANTIC QUIZ:

https://gumballlove.outgrow.us/romantic

The Gumball Love NON-ROMANTIC QUIZ:

https://gumballlove.outgrow.us/non-romantic-v3

Website:

www.GumballLove.com

Email Melissa: melissa@GumballLove.com

Instagram: @melissajaneroberts

Private Facebook Group:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/GumballLovePrivateVIPClubHouse

EPISODE 140: Brittany Found Love After 8 Months of Self Discovery: Client Story Oct 17, 2022

Show notes

Are you nervous to take that step to TRULY be single, totally off the dating apps, and just focus on getting to know and love yourself? My past client Brittany is the perfect example of why doing this is SO important.

Tune in to find out how Brittany went from having no idea who she was, to being secure and confident in herself, plus happily married with two kids!

We discuss what drew Brittany to working with me, what things she did during her break from dating, how she knew her husband was the one, advice to offer anyone in a similar position, the different benefits of therapy vs. coaching, and more!

Work with Melissa

Need help stopping the cycle of toxic relationships, living happily single, and finding true love? If you're tired of being the only person in your friend group who's not in a healthy, happy relationship, I can help you! Here's how:

The Level Up for Love one-on-one coaching package, which includes taking the Gumball Love Assessment and Relationship Analysis, four coaching sessions with Melissa and one coaching session with Iain and Melissa as a couple, or,
The Elite VIP Group Coaching Masterclass sessions
Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504
Follow Melissa on Instagram: @melissajaneroberts

EPISODE 139: Single Mom: Can you date a guy with no kids? A Client Success Story: Meet Courtney Oct 10, 2022

Show notes

Courtney was a single mom with two kids, divorced for six years, single for five, who was successful in all other areas of her life like friendships, career, and health...but her love life suffered. Until she met her boyfriend, but he'd never had kids before. Does it work out? Tune in to find out!

Courtney worked with me a few years ago doing one-on-one and group coaching. We chatted to see what she learned through that process, and where she's at now.

We discuss:

What was going on in her life when she decided to work with me
How she struggled with self confidence and being triggered after the trauma of her divorce
What was different about her new love, Michael
How the struggles of her past relationships taught her lessons moving forward
How and when she decided to introduce Michael to her 12 and 10 year old kids
Michael didn't have kids..was he understanding about her situation?

and more!

Work with Melissa

Need help stopping the cycle of toxic relationships, living happily single, and finding true love? If you're tired of being the only person in your friend group who's not in a healthy, happy relationship, I can help you! Here's how:

The Level Up for Love one-on-one coaching package, which includes taking the Gumball Love Assessment and Relationship Analysis, four coaching sessions with Melissa and one coaching session with Iain and Melissa as a couple, or,
The Elite VIP Group Coaching Masterclass sessions
Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504
Follow Melissa on Instagram: @melissajaneroberts

EPISODE 138: Finance Guru Hires Dating Coach: A Client Success Story: Meet Kristy Oct 04, 2022

Show notes

Coaching results, 4 years later! Kristy didn't want to get a coach. She said, "I'm smart, I am successful, I should be able to figure this out." When her best friend told her, "We can't keep having this conversation, you need to talk to someone" It was a sign. Kristy is a total badass, finance guru (paid off over $400K in debt in 18 months), and single mom of her gorgeous teenage daughter. We sat down to talk about "Where are things now? and Do the results last?"

We also discuss:

What was the breaking point when she knew it was time to leave her marriage even though she had a one and a half year old daughter with him
How she decided it was finally time to invest in a coach
What benefits she got from coaching
What she would say to someone considering coaching but on the fence
How her life is now, four years later

Work with Kristy:

www.simplesuccessfinance.com

Work with Melissa

Need help stopping the cycle of toxic relationships, living happily single, and finding true love? If you're tired of being the only person in your friend group who's not in a healthy, happy relationship, I can help you! Here's how:

The Level Up for Love one-on-one coaching package, which includes taking the Gumball Love Assessment and Relationship Analysis, four coaching sessions with Melissa and one coaching session with Iain and Melissa as a couple, or,
The Elite VIP Group Coaching Masterclass sessions
Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504
Follow Melissa on Instagram: @melissajaneroberts

EPISODE 137: IS 40 TOO LATE TO TAKE A BREAK FROM DATING? -A CLIENT SUCCESS STORY: MEET LAUREN Sep 26, 2022

Show notes

Like many women approaching their 40's and still single, Lauren was feeling anxious, lonely, and grieving the fact that she may never get married or have kids. She was stuck in a pattern of dating the same time of guy over and over, always ending up with a broken heart...all while grieving the loss of her father.

Until she decided to commit to herself and give herself a year off from dating to focus solely on herself. That's when she started to truly see her worth and value, and now she is in a happy, healthy relationship!

Tune in to hear:

How Lauren found out about Gumball Love and what made her decide it was time to stop the cycle and work with Melissa
The moment Lauren knew it was time for a change
The type of Gumball Guy Lauren was going after
What Lauren did during her year long break from dating to discover herself and her worth
How her relationship now is different from in the past (healthy vs. Gumball Love)
What advice Lauren would give to someone struggling to find love and dating later in life
How one-on-one coaching and group coaching with Melissa helped Lauren

and more!

Work with Melissa

Need help stopping the cycle of toxic relationships, living happily single, and finding true love? If you're tired of being the only person in your friend group who's not in a healthy, happy relationship, I can help you! Here's how:

The Level Up for Love one-on-one coaching package, which includes taking the Gumball Love Assessment and Relationship Analysis, four coaching sessions with Melissa and one coaching session with Iain and Melissa as a couple, or,
The Elite VIP Group Coaching Masterclass sessions
Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504
Follow Melissa on Instagram: @melissajaneroberts

EPISODE 136: HELLO I'M MRS. ROBERTS! HOW I KNEW HE WAS THE ONE: Sep 13, 2022

Show notes

I am officially Mrs. Melissa Roberts!! After 20 years of searching for the right one and the trials and tribulations of dating many WRONG ones, I'm so proud to be a first time bride at 45. So many of you were asking for the wedding details, so here they are! But if you're in a place where it's too painful or sad to hear about someone else's wedding, I TOTALLY get it because I was the same way, so don't press play if you think it'll put you in a bad mood.

It's not just about the wedding though, I also talk about:

How to know if he's the right one
A successful client case study
What it's like to work with me in the 1-1 Level Up for Love program and group coaching
Other exciting announcements about where I'm going next with Gumball Love!

You also get exclusive access to taking the beta version of the Gumball Love quiz, which will only be released for purchase once it's live! Take it now here!

Work with Melissa

Need help stopping the cycle of toxic relationships, living happily single, and finding true love? If you're tired of being the only person in your friend group who's not in a healthy, happy relationship, I can help you! Here's how:

Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504
Follow Melissa on Instagram: @melissajaneroberts

Three Pillars to Grow Confidence from Within with Christina Lecuyer Sep 05, 2022

Show notes

Are you struggling with self worth, self love, and confidence? Christina Lecuyer was a beautiful professional golfer who seemed to have everything going for her..looks, fame, money, a relationship..but behind closed doors she was struggling far more than anyone knew. By DECIDING to be happier, she turned her life around, and you can too! Christina shares helpful strategies for anyone wanting to up-level their mindset, confidence and life.

Today we discuss:

How Christina went from professional golfer, hiding an eating disorder, to loving herself and creating an abundant life
The falsity of "I'll be happy when.. X happens"
What she did in the very beginning to start growing confidence
Christina's top tips for growing self confidence
Christina's secret to her happy, successful marriage
and more!

Connect with Christina:

Instagram: @bechristina

Podcast: Decide It's Your Turn

Work with Melissa

Need help stopping the cycle of toxic relationships, living happily single, and finding true love? If you're tired of being the only person in your friend group who's not in a healthy, happy relationship, I can help you! Here's how:

The Level Up for Love one-on-one coaching package, which includes taking the Gumball Love Assessment and Relationship Analysis, four coaching sessions with Melissa and one coaching session with Iain and Melissa as a couple, or,
The Elite VIP Group Coaching Masterclass sessions
Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504
Follow Melissa on Instagram: @themelissaleger

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