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Seth and Kim Smith - Marriage Isn't For You! May 12, 2014

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Buy Seth's book, "Marriage Isn't For You" here: http://goo.gl/wFSZlR Buy the full interview here, and support the Anasazi Foundation and The Loveumentary: http://goo.gl/XopAZ2 "When you're looking for solutions, they have odd ways of making themselves appear." -Seth "You never lose by loving. You never lose out by choosing to love somebody else." -Kim "You live when you give." -Seth "To love is always going to be the right decision." -Seth "The more you understand someone, the more you love them." -Seth

Love Training with Hank and Sueann Apr 23, 2014

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I grew up playing sports. Ever since I was a kid I played soccer, basketball, ran track, and one season of little league baseball (which is how I found out I desperately needed glasses. Thanks for realizing that the reason I missed every ball was because I couldn't see it, Mr. Davis!). My favorite sport was always soccer. When I played recreation soccer my team would practice once – maybe twice a week if we were lucky. I wasn't a great player until I became a teenager and decided that I wanted to play on the high school team. I started practicing more frequently. I'd dribble and shoot the ball in the back yard, and practice using my left foot. I joined a competitive soccer league and played with a bunch of guys who played at a much higher level than I did. It pushed me outside my comfort zone, and helped me grow. Then I tried out for the high school team. By some miracle I snuck under the bar and made the team. It was immediately obvious that I was out of my comfort zone. I was smaller, in worse shape, and had less experience than almost everyone on the team. I was nervous, but I decided to just show up every day and put in the work. I've never improved so quickly. Being thrown onto a team where everyone was so much better, and expected me to be better, did wonders for my soccer skills. We practiced every day for hours. I got in shape. I learned skills like how to use my body to gain position, or how to time my runs to be the first one to the ball. I learned how to shoot with more power, and how to read the field and predict the best place to put the ball. Every noticeable improvement in my skills over the years could really be traced back to the frequency, the level of intensity, and the intentionality of my practice. You see where this is going, don't you? When talking with Hank and Sueann, Hank mentioned something that has always stayed with me. He said, In relationships, we practice at the level of the league we end up playing for. In other words, if you always want to be playing in the relationship little leagues, it requires little effort. It's not hard to swipe right on tinder, or find casual hookups every few weeks. It's easy to walk away from something when it gets hard. It's easy to find excuses to not invest every day. On the other hand, there are only a few people in the world who get to experience the World Series kind of love… but they're the ones who fall in love with the practice. They push themselves every day to be better. They work to push their partners to grow and improve. They watch each others backs and pick up each others slack without complaining. They swing for the fences when they're up to bat, and sprint to every base. There are no vacations. There are no days off. And they love it. It's not necessarily a bad thing to want to play in the little leagues… but playing at this level, you'll never know the glory of the world series. If you want that can't-eat, can't-sleep, reach-for-the-stars, over-the-fence, World Series kind of love, you have to be willing to put in the practice. What are some of the things you do regularly to put in the practice? What can you do to elevate your game?

Say Yes To Adventure with Josh and Jenny Solar Apr 10, 2014

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All the experiences that we have in our life - good, bad, neutral - they all turn us into who we are. So if you take those away, you aren't going to be the same person.

Kendall and Bradford: Ready? Set… Laugh! Mar 05, 2014

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"Your relationship could be so much easier if you just stopped expecting the other person to be who you are." -Bradford "If you're trying to get into an open, honest relationship, it has to start with you. You be open and honest in your dealings with everyone. It shouldn't start with the person you're attracted to. It should start with your everyday life." -Kendall

Dr. Wendy Walsh on The Value of Sex Feb 15, 2014

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The price of sex has dropped from, in our grandmother's generation, it was probably a year of dating, in my generation it was 3 dates. We had a thing called the 3-date Rule in the 80's. Now the price of sex has dropped down to the barrel-bottom price of one well-worded text. What it takes to grow a long term bond isn't sex. It's everything else! It's communication skills, conflict resolution skills, empathy, compassion. It's really hard to develop those when your brain is being assaulted with a dopamine rush not unlike the one you get from heroine that you get from a new sexual relationship. Men can have sex with the same woman every week for 6 months and not like her any more after 6 months than they did on the first day. Just because you're having sex, doesn't mean you're in love.

BONUS: Valentines Day Surprise! - Gary Chapman (Author of "The 5 Love Languages") Feb 14, 2014

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Valentines Day Surprise! - Gary Chapman (Author of "The 5 Love Languages") For 24 hours you can listen to, download, and enjoy this one hour interview with Gary Chapman, author of The 5 Love Languages. Sorry the sound quality is a little rough... my bad. -Nate

Ty and Terri (pt 2) on Forgiveness and Sex Jan 29, 2014

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Forgiveness isn't fair. If somebody really hurt you, you don't want to let them off the hook because what they did was wrong. And if you have a high sense of justice, you think "I can't, because it's not fair." He hasn't suffered enough. He hasn't paid for his wrongs enough. And sometimes he hasn't even admitted he's wrong and said, "forgive me." But it's not dependent on any of that. It's a choice that you make. "Unforgiveness is like drinking poison and hoping the other person dies." -Anne Graham

Ty and Terri (pt 1) Jan 14, 2014

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Favorite quote from this episode: You become what the most important person in your life thinks that you are. "At the end of Ty's life, I want him to be able to say, 'Terri was the greatest earthly blessing in my life - the best thing that ever happened to me - and that I'm a better man because of how she loved me. And that's the goal that I live with every day. That's how I want to love this man.'"

Jay And Lara Ward Jan 03, 2014

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Jay and Lara have been together for over 20 years. We met with them on Jay's 49th birthday. They took us into their home, fed us, and gave us beds to sleep in. Last year Jay retired early so he could take time to reconnect with his wife. So now they're selling their house, buying an RV, and they're going to spend a decade exploring the world, and experiencing adventure.

Episode #34 – You Get What You Settle For with Jenna McCarthy Dec 04, 2013

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What does it take to have an amazing relationship? What does it take to not only avoid a disaster, but to rise above the mediocrity and complacency that has infected most modern-day relationships? Here are two tips from Jenna McCarthy that will help you elevate your game. Click here to read the blog post for this episode: http://www.loveumentary.com/episode-34-you-get-what-you-settle-for-with-jenna-mccarthy/

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