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How to Deal with Toxic Shame Dec 06, 2023

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Dec 06, 2023

Episode 113

Hosts: Michelle Broek, Karis Murray

In this episode, we delve into the depths of toxic shame, a misunderstood and complex emotion. We explore its differences from guilt and embarrassment, drawing from Brene Brown's research, highlighting the connection between shame and detrimental behaviors such as addiction, violence, and depression.

Focusing on the impact of shame on mental health, particularly those struggling with undiagnosed ADHD, we discuss how messages from significant individuals can fuel shame. We emphasize the importance of accepting one's identity and the role of professional counseling and medication in managing ADHD symptoms. The episode concludes with a call to embrace 'neurodivergence', view it as a gift, and create safe spaces for it.

We discuss the power of parental love in disengaging from shame and how modeling vulnerability can help children grow into emotionally intelligent adults.

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Racial Unity and the Church Nov 22, 2023

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Nov 22, 2023

Episode 112
Host: Karis Murray
Guest: Sam Melvin, Executive Director of Church and Race

Karis and Sam explore the deeply rooted issue of racism within the church. Sam shares his personal experiences as a black man attending a predominantly white church, and how his faith has guided him through these challenges. Our conversation delves into the interpretation of racism in the Bible, systemic racism ingrained in the U.S., and the role of the church during the Civil Rights Movement. In the latter part of the episode, Sam provides valuable insights on the importance of repentance, forgiveness, and open dialogue in the pursuit of racial unity and reconciliation. Through his powerful analogy of racial unity to a marriage, Sam underscores the need for mutual respect, submission, and understanding. We also reflect on the critical work done by the Church and Race ministry, emphasizing the importance of sticking to their mission to achieve racial unity. This episode serves as an eye-opening journey towards racial reconciliation in the church, and we invite you to join us in this essential conversation.

The Church and Race website coming soon
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Ask Tim #3 Chores, Media, and My Spouse Has Changed! Nov 08, 2023

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Nov 8, 2023

Episode 111
Host: Michelle Broek
Guest: Dr. Tim Kimmel

Q1. How can people navigate the changes and differences that inevitably occur in marriages? Michelle asks Tim to provide insights into the common challenges couples face as they evolve over time. The discussion touches on how changes can sometimes lead to disconnect, and the host asks for practical strategies to help couples manage these differences, maintain a strong bond, and promote healing and growth in the relationship. Q2. How can parents encourage their children to take on more responsibility around the home? In this question, Michelle explores the issue of instilling responsibility in children, particularly in relation to chores. The discussion seeks to understand the best approaches for motivating children to participate in household tasks and contribute to the family unit. Q3. How can parents effectively guide their children in a world heavily influenced by digital media and potentially harmful content? Michelle raises the concern about children's exposure to potentially harmful content on digital platforms and asks Tim for advice on how to manage this. The question aims to gather strategies for parents to help their children navigate the digital world responsibly and safely.

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Breaking the Cycle of Codependency Oct 25, 2023

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October 25, 2023

Episode #110
Host: Karis Murray, Michelle Broek

Michelle delves into the personal experience of growing up in a family plagued by codependency. Primarily revolving around the struggles of her brother's mental illness, she shares her journey of misunderstanding the concept of codependency, often confusing it with mere neediness. Michelle describes how she adopted a posture of self-sufficiency and people-pleasing to alleviate her family's turmoil. Michelle's personal narrative aims to highlight the roots of codependency in fear and deep concern for others, ultimately demystifying its manifestations in various relationships. The conversation transitions into the importance of setting boundaries, stressing that it is not an act of selfishness but a necessity for personal well-being. Karis & Michelle discuss common misconceptions about boundaries and address the pressure of being constantly available for others. They emphasize the importance of establishing boundaries not just with others but also with oneself. The discussion leads into the exploration of false beliefs, fear-based emotions, and the need to please others, identifying these as potent drivers behind unhealthy codependent patterns. The episode concludes on a hopeful note, underscoring the power of taking small moments of autonomy for self-care and discovering one's identity outside the context of relationships. Putting Jesus in the center of one's life can lead to healthier thinking and behavior. This episode presents an enlightening discussion on navigating codependency and setting boundaries, aiming to provide listeners with a deeper understanding of these complex concepts and their importance in maintaining personal well-being.

Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melody Beattie
Celebrate Recovery: https://www.celebraterecovery.com/resources/issue-pamphlets?view=article&id=303:ip-co-dependency&catid=117/
Parents of Addicted Loved Ones: https://palgroup.org/

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Walking Through Deconstruction Oct 11, 2023

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September 27, 2023

Episode 109
Host: Karis Kimmel
Guest: Ted Wueste, founder and director of the Spiritual Formation Society of Arizona

Karis & Ted shed light on how one can critically reassess Christian doctrine, beliefs, and practices, while still maintaining their faith. We also discuss the role of digital age in the public view of faith deconstruction, the wisdom of early church on this transformational process, and the inherent dangers and fear that come along with it. As we delve further into the conversation, we explore the challenges of parenting during faith deconstruction. Drawing from Ted's personal experiences, we discuss how to support children during their own process of deconstruction and lean on God for guidance.

Finally, we share valuable insights on maintaining relationships amid Christian faith deconstruction, creating a safe space for exploration, and celebrating the divine work happening in their lives. Whether you're wrestling with your faith or supporting someone who is, this episode offers valuable insights.

The Spiritual Formation Society of Arizona website: sfsaz.org/
Dr. Ted Wueste at Amazon.com
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Divorce and the Church Sep 27, 2023

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Sep 27, 2023

Episode 108
Host: Karis Murray
Guest: Adrienne Gibson

In this podcast episode, host Karis shares her personal experience with divorce and the often overlooked aftermath that follows. Joined by Adrienne Gibson, a licensed counselor specializing in complex trauma, they delve into the intricacies of trauma and abuse within marriages, emphasizing the importance of support networks, therapy, and the role of the church. They explore the phenomenon of complex trauma caused by chronic stress, often unnoticed, which further adds to the harm experienced by individuals.

The episode underscores the importance of recognizing and addressing trauma and advocates for professional therapeutic help. They discuss the need for a robust support group and creating a safe space during trauma recovery. The conversation further emphasizes the importance of mindful emotional processing, even when challenging, and the continuous evolution of healing. This episode is a candid exploration of the commonality of divorce, its profound impact, and the need for improved understanding and support in communities.

Adrienne's counseling group: valorcounselingaz.com
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Skipping Adolescence Sep 13, 2023

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September 13, 2023

Episode 107
Host: Karis Murray & Michelle Broek

Karis and Michelle address the modern trend of prolonged adolescence and how to navigate the fine balance between preserving childhood innocence and instilling financial responsibility. The episode provides practical strategies and insights on helping children understand the value of money, manage it wisely, and learn the difference between a helping hand and a constant handout. The importance of allowing children to fully experience their childhood while also preparing them for adulthood is also discussed. The episode is filled with advice and reassurances for parents dealing with children at different stages of maturity.

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Ask Tim #2: Bedtime Battles, Best Schooling and Alcohol in the Home Aug 30, 2023

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August 30, 2023

Episode 106
Host: Michelle Broek
Guest: Tim Kimmel

Michelle and Tim navigate some of the most challenging aspects of Christian parenting as we discuss bedtime routines, choosing schools, and addressing the topic of alcohol in a Christian home. Q1: How can parents transform the often stressful bedtime routine into a meaningful bonding time with their children? Dr. Kimmel emphasizes the need to start winding down the household early and create a bedtime ritual that fosters an environment of love, security, and purpose. He also highlights the importance of reading to your kids and viewing bedtime as a gift from God. Q2: How can parents navigate the complex task of choosing the right school for their kids? This involves weighing the trade-offs of each educational option and considering essential questions such as which school is best for a particular child, which one fits best with the family's configuration, and if the school helps your child become a truly great person. Dr. Kimmel warns against fear-based decision making and underscores the importance of raising strong, not just safe, kids. Q3: How should parents handle the controversial topic of alcohol in the home from a Christian perspective? Dr. Kimmel advises parents to explore the biblical stance on moderation and abstention, understand the dangers of teenage drinking, and have open conversations with your children on this subject. He also emphasizes the importance of prayer and self-reflection when making decisions about alcohol in the home.

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5 Things to Tell Your Kids Before They Start School Aug 16, 2023

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August 16, 2023

Episode 105
Host: Michelle Broek & Karis Kimmel

Michelle and Karis discuss strategies for preparing children for the new school year. They discuss the importance of proactive communication, balancing school with other pursuits, and nurturing individual talents. The episode also covers fostering an open dialogue with children, encouraging critical thinking skills, and supplementing school learning with real-world experiences. Chapter Summaries: (0:00:06) - Preparing Kids for the School Year (12 Minutes) Michelle and Karis discuss the emotional roller coaster that comes with the start of a new school year. They emphasize the importance of teaching kids that school is important but not the only thing that matters. (0:12:27) - Preparing Kids for School and Beyond (7 Minutes) Michelle and Karis discuss the importance of open conversations with kids where they feel that they are not being judged. They also stress the importance of teaching kids to use their imagination and critical thinking skills. (0:19:49) - Nurturing Communication With a Quiet Kindergartner (5 Minutes) Michelle and Karis discuss the importance of creating an open dialogue with kids where they feel safe to communicate their fears and doubts. (0:24:40) - Parenting Tips and Building Strong Relationships (7 Minutes) Michelle and Karis discuss how to approach sensitive topics with children, reminding them that they are loved and valued regardless of their accomplishments.

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Hurried Family Life Hacks Aug 02, 2023

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August 02, 2023

Episode 104
Host: Michelle Broek & Kelli Wert

Michelle and Kelli share life hacks designed to help you establish better rhythms and simplify your home life. Discover the advantages of using paper calendars, whiteboards, and setting focused intentions. We delve into the art of setting limits and embracing contentment in our family's creative projects while discussing the impact of social media on comparison. We also reveal our top home organization tips and the importance of meal planning.

PrepDish (https://prepdish.com/)
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Weary But Not Defeated Jul 19, 2023

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July 19, 2023

Episode 103
Host: Michelle Broek
Guest: Samantha Wright

In this episode, Samantha shares her heartbreaking story of loss in 2021, when she found her house engulfed in flames. Through the devastation, she shares her powerful journey of faith, perspective, and resilience in the face of immense adversity. Join us as we explore the transformative power of gratitude, the importance of trusting God through hardship, and how finding perspective in the wake of tragedy can lead to growth and maturity. Key Points: - Samantha's devastating house fire in 2021 and the loss of her beloved pets, Esther and Ella - Finding perspective after tragedy and the importance of trusting God even in moments of unbearable sorrow - The transformative power of gratitude and the importance of remaining positive and strong - Trusting God's plan and finding purpose in our darkest times Timestamps: (0:00:06) - Surviving a House Fire (0:13:44) - Finding Perspective After Tragedy (0:25:37) - Trusting God Through Hardship

Samantha's website: alilbirdtoldme.com
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Helping Parents Better Understand Children of Divorce Jul 05, 2023

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July 05, 2023

Episode 102
Host: Michelle Broek
Guest: Lauren Reitsema

Lauren Reitsema shares her experience of growing up with divorced parents and discusses her passion for helping families navigate divorce and preventing relationship trauma for others. She delves into the stages of grief, the challenges of adjusting to new family dynamics, and how well-intentioned optimism from those around us can actually hinder the healing process. Lauren also shares how her proactive approach to marriage and relationship education has led her and her husband to build a strong, confident partnership.

(0:00:06) - Supporting Children of Divorce (9 Minutes)

(0:09:31) - The Grief and Loss of Divorce (5 Minutes)

(0:14:32) - Stages of Grief and Blended Families (7 Minutes)

(0:21:48) - Navigating Divorce and Building Relationship Skills (12 Minutes)

Resources:

- In Their Shoes by Lauren Reitsema: A book dedicated to helping parents better understand and connect with children of divorce.

- Relationship Essentials by Lauren Reitsema: A book that helps people feel heard, fight fair, and set boundaries in all areas of life.

Learn more about the Center for Relationship Education:

- Center for Relationship Education: A nonprofit organization that provides accessible relationship skills training for people of all ages and backgrounds. Website: myrelationshipcenter.org

Find Lauren on social media: ⁠facebook.com/authorlaurenreitsema⁠/

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Ask Tim #1: Fighting Fair in Marriage, Keeping Up with the Joneses & more Jun 21, 2023

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June 21, 2023

Episode 101
Host: Michelle Broek
Guest: Tim Kimmel

Michellle and answer questions from viewers, including:

Before we got married, we had a lot in common, but now we seem so different. What do we do?
There's just a lot of pressure to maintain a wealthy status, or at least the image of it. What can we do if we can't afford to do this, or if we can afford, but it just doesn't feel right to maintain this kind of lifestyle.
When my husband and I fight, it gets ugly. How do we change this pattern?
How can we make Valentine's Day last throughout the year?

Tim's books Grace Filled Marriage, Grace Based Parenting and many more are available at shop.gracebasedfamilies.com
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Christians and Addiction Jun 07, 2023

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July 07, 2023

Episode #100
Host: Michelle Broek
Guest: Rustin Russello

Michellle and Rustin, a pastor at Scottsdale Bible Church, discuss his story of addiction and redemption.

Ruston's addiction became severe and his wife turned him over to God.
God, with the help of Alcoholics Anonymous, was able to get Rustin sober and turn his life around.
Rustin shares about his experience with alcohol addiction and the role of his marriage in his sobriety and spiritual growth.
Addiction is physical, emotional, relational or spiritual, or a combination of these.
The importance of healthy boundaries and not enabling addicts is emphasized.
Rustin shares his journey through addiction, the importance of authenticity, and doing the work to create a sober lifestyle.

The Scottsdale Bible Church website: https://scottsdalebible.com/campuses/shea/
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What Every Youth Pastor Wants You to Know May 24, 2023

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May 24, 2023

Episode #99
Host: Michelle Broek
Guest: Ethan Clark

In this podcast episode, Michelle interviews Ethan Clark, a youth pastor at Scottsdale Bible Church, who has over six years of ministry experience. Ethan and his wife Bethany have been married for 10 years and have two children. Ethan shares his experiences with youth ministry as a student and how he was inspired by his youth pastor to pursue vocational ministry.

Ethan talks about his role as a youth pastor and what his goals are for the ministry. Ethan shares his desire to outreach to the kids, disciple them, and build relationships with them. He also emphasizes the importance of ministering to families as a whole so that they can reinforce what the kids are learning at home.

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Solving the Sticky Grandparent Situations with Tim Kimmel May 10, 2023

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May 10, 2023

Episode #99
Host: Michelle Broek
Guest: Tim Kimmel [Tim is the founder and executive director of Grace Based Families. He develops resources for families and churches and conducts conferences across the globe on the unique pressures confronting today's families. He has authored many books and video studies including Grace Based Parenting and Grace Filled Marriage. Tim and his wife Darcy, have four kids and 10 grandkids.]

The relational dynamics in the world of grandparenting can create a lot of sticky situations that can wreak havoc and steal joy.
Grandparenthood plays a key role in the future generation but it also brings some big challenges. Sometimes the problem is the grandparent- what they are doing or are not doing that creates tension?
What if your parents are jamming Jesus and politics down your kid's throat in a disconnected way?
What do we do if the grandparents are spoiling our kids?
What if the grandparents are always intervening or not respecting our boundaries? All families have sticky situations. There are unrealistic expectations, personal agendas, and deep heartache.
Fortunately, the God who came up with grandparenthood also provides the ways and means to navigate its challenges.
God’s active grace wants to come to your rescue.

Grace Based Grandparenting: Solving The Sticky Situations video study.
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Teaching Your Kid to be a Great Friend Apr 26, 2023

April 26, 2023
Hosts: Michelle Broek & Kelli Wert
Episode #97

Michelle and Kelli discuss ways to model and teach intentional and impactful friendships, regardless of the personality type of your kid, their friend, or their friend's parents.

Rule #1: Never Disparage Your Friends’ Parents
Rule #2: Don’t Tease Your Friends Regarding Sensitive Topics
Rule #3: Don't Participate in Negative Behaviors
Rule #4: Give Each Other Space
Rule #5: Keep Confidences Safe
Rule #6: Encourage and Support Your Friends
Rule #7: Help Your Friends Grow and Improve
Rule #8: Be Loyal and Faithful
Rule #9: Be a Fun Friend to be Around
Rule #10: Pray for Your Friends

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Common Traps That Hinder True Greatness Apr 12, 2023

April 12,2023
Episode #96
Host: Michelle Broek & Kelli Wert

In this episode, Michelle and Kelli are

Exploring the true meaning of greatness, and how it can be achieved through faith in God and a heart of service.
Discussing the importance of instilling values such as humility, generosity, gratitude, and service to others in children
Providing tips and strategies for parents on how to cultivate these values in their children
Encouraging parents to aim higher than just money, beauty, power, fame, and success for their children

For more info on the book, see Raising Kids For True Greatness
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When Grandparents Aren't Grand with Tim Kimmel Mar 29, 2023

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March 29, 2023

Episode #95
Host: Michelle Broek
Guest: Tim Kimmel [Tim is the founder and executive director of Grace Based Families. He develops resources for families and churches and conducts conferences across the globe on the unique pressures confronting today's families. He has authored many books and video studies including Grace Based Parenting and Grace Filled Marriage. Tim and his wife Darcy, have four kids and 10 grandkids.]

Michelle and Tim discuss why “Grandparent” is far more than a title, it’s a calling.

The Assets of Effective Grandparents:

Maturity
Experience
Perspective
Assistance (time, relief, sounding board, money)
Love

The 4 Roles of Grandparents

Give a blessing to our grandchildren
Leave a solid legacy for our grandchildren to build upon
Bear a torch to illuminate our grandkids' way through a dark and treacherous culture
Set a clear standard for our grandchildren to emulate.

Extreme Grandparenting book
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How to Teach Teens Develop a Strong Faith Mar 15, 2023

Episode #94
Host: Michelle Broek & Kelli Wert

Nichelle and Kelli discussed wats to teach teens to develop a strong faith, including the advice to:

Lead by example and serve God joyfully
Encourage regular service and dependence on God
Don't solve all problems, let them turn to God
Don't place unrealistic expectations on youth leaders, promote positive presence in youth group
Allow them to process difficulties and remain calm in faith testing
Show daily Bible reading and action
Challenge them to trust and test their faith through dilemmas
Encourage big faith in God for needs in life
Inspire serving alongside others who believe in a big God
Share personal battles and journeys to following God.

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Grace in Grief Mar 01, 2023

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March 01, 2023

Episode #93
Host: Michelle Broek
Guest: Andrea Robinson

Michelle and Andrea discuss the process of dealing with loss, including acknowledging the loving presence of God, knowing the promises of God, seeking God in prayer, community, etc.

Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, M.D. Based on her years of working with terminal cancer patients, Kübler-Ross proposed the 5 stages many people experience:

Denial: “This can’t be happening to me.”
Anger: “Why is this happening? Who is to blame?”
Bargaining: “Make this not happen, and in return, I will ____.”
Depression: “I’m too sad to do anything.”
Acceptance: “I’m at peace with what has happened.”

Follow Andrea Robinson at: https://andrearobinsontv.com/
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Top 10 Ways to Teach Young Children to Put God First Feb 15, 2023

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February 15, 2023

Episode #92
Hosts: Michelle Broek & Kelli Wert
The reality is that we answer hundreds of questions every week but there are questions that we need to answer to experience the vibrant life that God wants for us.

1. Consistently read them stories at bedtime that tell about God’s mighty power and love.
2. When a frightening or troubling situation comes up, gather them around and show them how to put themselves in God’s hands through prayer.
3. Show them how to pray for those they love, as well as those who need God’s love, every night at bedtime.
4. Welcome them each morning with a positive reminder of God’s love and design for their lives.
5. Allow God’s presence to become second nature in your everyday activities (such as praying at mealtime, pointing out wonders in nature, observing how God works in people around you, singing songs to Him, etc.).
6. Avoid evoking God’s name in an intimidating manner to express displeasure with disobedience.
7. Make going to church and Sunday school a fun, happy and nonnegotiable part of your family life.
8. Help your children hide God’s Word in their hearts by memorizing key Scriptures that tell of God’s love, mercy, grace, protection, and power.
9. Make kindness, sharing, and consideration for every member of the family a neutral outgrowth of your love for God.
10. Avoid strong-arming your children to accept Christ as their Savior. Treat them the way God treats you (with grace), and let the Holy Spirit draw them to Himself on His timetable.

The Jesus Story Book Bible (https://www.sallylloyd-jones.com/books/jesus-storybook-bible/)
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5 Questions Everyone Must Answer Before They Die Feb 01, 2023

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February 01, 2023

Episode #91
Host: Michelle Broek
Guest: Marc Lucas [Marc has served as a pastor for a combined 15 years with two mega-churches in Phoenix. He has a Biblical Studies degree from Arizona Christian University. Marc is currently the Local Ministry Director at Faith Talk 1360. He has been married to his wife Tammy, for 16 years and they have 3 beautiful kids.]

The reality is that we answer hundreds of questions every week but there are questions that we need to answer to experience the vibrant life that God wants for us.

What is the goal of life? (The question of longing)
Are you living for something bigger than yourself? (The question of meaning)
Who are you? (The question of identity)
How will you grow? (The question of maturity)
What is your mission? (The question of purpose)

https://marcrlucas.com/
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The HeART of Listening Nov 30, 2022

In this episode, Karis and Michelle talk about the lost of art of truly listening to each other. When grace becomes the norm in family relationships, listening becomes a common practice.

Lin Hawthorne on Responsible Kids Nov 16, 2022

In this episode, Karis and Michelle talk with author Lin Hawthorne about helping kids take responsibility earlier for taking care of themselves and participating with the family. Her newest book, Mom's Not Wipin' Your Bum! explores practical ways to work with kids on personal responsibility and care. A long time friend of Grace Based Families, Lin merges practical strategy with grace.

Choosing Consequences that Really Work Nov 03, 2022

In this episode, Karis and Michelle tackle the very important topic of giving consequences to your kids that actually work. Listen as they discuss the role grace plays in bringing the best out of your kids through discipline and consequences.

Special Series - Grace at Work with Will Rudolphi Oct 26, 2022

In this special series of the Grace Based Podcast, Tim Kimmel and Michael Tooker team up to talk about what grace looks like lived out in the workplace. On this episode, Tim and Michael interview Will Rudolphi, Business Development Director for Atlis Motor Vehicles.

Tim Kimmel is the founder of Grace Based Families and author of several books, including the newly released Grace at Work. Michael Tooker is a long time business man currently working as a pastor and co-authored Grace at Work with Tim Kimmel. This is episode 5 of a miniseries where they interview different business leaders about how they live out grace at work.

Special Series - Grace at Work with Stephanie Flies Oct 26, 2022

In this special series of the Grace Based Podcast, Tim Kimmel and Michael Tooker team up to talk about what grace looks like lived out in the workplace. On this episode, Tim and Michael interview Stephanie Flies, Founder and CEO of City Moms Collective. Stephanie talks about the power of grace in empowering other women in her network.

Tim Kimmel is the founder of Grace Based Families and author of several books, including the newly released Grace at Work. Michael Tooker is a long time business man currently working as a pastor and co-authored Grace at Work with Tim Kimmel. This is episode 4 of a miniseries where they interview different business leaders about how they live out grace at work.

Special Series - Grace at Work with Luke Kayyem Oct 26, 2022

In this special series of the Grace Based Podcast, Tim Kimmel and Michael Tooker team up to talk about what grace looks like lived out in the workplace. On this episode, Tim and Michael interview Luke Kayyem, a high performance life coach committed to helping men find their purpose.

Tim Kimmel is the founder of Grace Based Families and author of several books, including the newly released Grace at Work. Michael Tooker is a long time business man currently working as a pastor and co-authored Grace at Work with Tim Kimmel. This is episode 3 of a miniseries where they interview different business leaders about how they live out grace at work.

Special Series - Grace at Work with Ashley Richards Oct 26, 2022

In this special series of the Grace Based Podcast, Tim Kimmel and Michael Tooker team up to talk about what grace looks like lived out in the workplace. On this episode, Tim and Michael talk to Ashley Richards, CEO and Founder of E Squared Marketing. Ashley helps connect the dots between how work can be a place to not just serve your clients, but serve your team as well with God's grace.

Tim Kimmel is the founder of Grace Based Families and author of several books, including the newly released Grace at Work. Michael Tooker is a long time business man currently working as a pastor and co-authored Grace at Work with Tim Kimmel. This is episode 2 of a miniseries where they interview different business leaders about how they live out grace at work.

Special Series - Grace at Work with Tim Kimmel and Michael Tooker Oct 26, 2022

In this special series of the Grace Based Podcast, Tim Kimmel and Michael Tooker team up to talk about what grace looks like lived out in the workplace. Tim Kimmel is the founder of Grace Based Families and author of several books, including the newly released Grace at Work. Michael Tooker is a long time business man currently working as a pastor and co-authored Grace at Work with Tim Kimmel. This is episode 1 of a miniseries where they interview different business leaders about how they live out grace at work.

Discovering the Why Behind our Children’s Behavior Oct 19, 2022

In this episode, Karis and Michelle discuss the power of understanding why a child is doing what they are doing. Often, behavior is a symptom of a deeper cause. With grace and humor, they discuss the power of uncovering what drives behavior and working to meet those challenges.

10 Ways to Teach Your Kids to be a Great Employee Oct 05, 2022

In this episode, Karis and Michelle talk about ten different ways to help your kids be better employees when they grow up.

Grace at Work with Michael Tooker: Part 2 Sep 21, 2022

In this episode, Karis and Michelle interview Michael Tooker, co-author of the upcoming book Grace at Work. They discuss how to apply grace to the workplace and bring out the best in your co-workers.

Help Your Kids Get the Most Out of Organized Sports Sep 14, 2022

Whether your child is an athlete, or just interested in trying new things, there are a lot of benefits to playing organized sports. In this episode, Karis and Michelle discuss organized sports and different ways to get the most out of them.

Grace at Work with Michael Tooker - Part 1 Sep 07, 2022

In this episode, Karis and Michelle talk with Michael Tooker, co-author of the forthcoming book Grace at Work, about what it means to live out grace in the workplace.

Club Sports, Scholarships, and Spiritual Priorities Aug 24, 2022

In this episode, Karis and Michelle discuss the world of club sports and how to balance participation decisions with grace.

*An earlier version of this podcast made a sports reference about where Tommy John, the baseball player, grew up and played in high school. Upon further research, this claim turned out to be untrue, so the episode was edited accordingly.

She Works His Way interview with Michelle Myers Aug 17, 2022

In this episode, Karis and Michelle talk with Michelle Myers, co-author of She Works His Way and co-founder of the ministry She Works His Way. They discuss everything from the myth of work life balance to how to end some of the mom wars that happen between "working moms" and "stay-at-home moms".

10 ways to be a great family member Aug 10, 2022

In this episode, Karis and Michelle talk about ten ways to be great family members.

Scarcity versus Abundant Thinking Jul 27, 2022

In this episode, Karis and Michelle discuss the difference between scarcity and abundance thinking and how grace helps navigate the strengths and weaknesses of both.

Six Common Summer Complaints and How to Respond Jul 13, 2022

In this episode, Karis Murray and Michelle Broek talk about six common summer complaints kids have and how to respond to those complaints as parents with grace.

Creative Parenting Ideas with Megan Hunt Jun 29, 2022

In this episode, Karis and Michell talk with Megan Hunt about creative ideas for directing, and re-directing, your children toward flourishing.

Seven keys to restoring a rebellious child Jun 15, 2022

In this episode, Karis Murray and Michelle Broek dive into the sensitive topic of rebellious children. It can be devastating for parents when their child grows up to push back and rebel. Karis and Michelle discuss some of the reasons why kids rebel in the first place and seven different ways to help restore a rebellious child through God's grace.

Over-controlling In-Laws Jun 01, 2022

In this episode, Karis and Michelle address the challenge of over-controlling in-laws and how grace can lead to better boundaries and relationships!

Preparing your child for an online world with special guest, Ryan Heath May 18, 2022

In this episode, Karis and Michelle talk with Ryan Heath, long time marriage and family pastor, about how to prepare your child for an online world. With both practical tips and spiritual insight, Ryan Heath discusses how to protect children from the harm of the online world, while still preparing them to utilize what is good about it.

When to take a hard stance with your kids May 04, 2022

In this episode, Michelle and Karis talk about how taking a hard stance with your kids is often the most loving and grace-filled thing you can do as a parent. Learn more about approaching discipline through the lens of grace with the Grace Based Families podcast.

Grace and Sibling Rivalry Apr 19, 2022

In this episode, Karis Kimmel Murray and Michelle Broek discuss sibling rivalry, what drives it, and how grace helps to heal it.

The Missing Piece in a Harmonious Marriage Apr 05, 2022

Karis and Michelle are back discussing how grace can make the difference in your most important relationships. In this episode, author Karis Kimmel Murray and Michelle Broek talk about the missing piece of a harmonious marriage.

The War on Christmas Dec 22, 2021

In this episode, Karis and Michelle talk about "the war on Christmas" and why there may be a better way of thinking through the holidays.

Dan Martin on talking to your children about pornography Dec 07, 2021

In this episode, Karis and Michelle talk to Dan Martin of pureHOPE about how to talk to your children about pornography and sex. Grace can help a topic like this create real freedom and protection in a home.

Thanksgiving is a verb Nov 23, 2021

In this episode, Karis and Michelle talk about the power of practicing gratitude and how it can change the way your family sees the world.

The High Cost of High Control Nov 10, 2021

In this episode, Karis and Michelle discuss the ways being a high control parent can do damage to relationships. Grace, as always, is the way to set families free from controlling tendencies.

How to talk to Gen Z about the gospel with Tanita Maddox Oct 26, 2021

In this episode, Karis and Michelle talk with Tanita Maddox, long time Young Life Regional Director and author of "Ever Changing Culture, Never Changing God," about how to talk with Generation Z about God and faith.

An Interview with Juleeta Harvey - Founder of Body Truth Oct 12, 2021

In this episode, Karis and Michelle talk to Juleeta Harvey, founder of bodytruth.org about grace and body image. Get insight into how grace can reshape the conversation about how we see our own bodies.

5 ways to prepare your kids for college Sep 28, 2021

In this episode, Karis and Michelle look at 5 different ways parents can prepare their kids for college with grace.

How to teach your kids to work hard Sep 14, 2021

In this episode, Karis and Michelle talk about how to teach your kids to work hard and have self efficacy. Join them as they share personal stories and struggles with fighting laziness in an over-scheduled world.

Abuse in Marriage with Kari Trent Stageberg Aug 31, 2021

In this episode, Karis and Michelle discuss the difficult topic of abuse in marriage with Kari Trent Stageberg, CEO of StrongFamilies and co-author of the book The Blessing: Giving the Gift of Unconditional Love and Acceptance.

Back to school: 10 ways to be a great classmate Aug 17, 2021

In this episode, Karis and Michelle discuss ten ways to help your kids be great classmates in this back to school special.

Parenting on Purpose with Amy Carney Aug 03, 2021

In this episode, Karis and Michelle interview Amy Carney, author of Parent on Purpose, to talk about the effects of over parenting and what needs to change to create stronger, healthier kids.

*Note - During recording we experienced some technical difficulties, causing a bit of audio interference and inhibiting us from videoing the episode as planned. We felt like the content was just that good and worth sharing, so please keep in mind while listening.

Moving your kids toward independence Jul 20, 2021

In this episode, Karis and Michelle discuss how to start moving your kids toward independence and how to stop over-parenting.

Keeping children safe from abuse - a conversation with Lacy Cooper Jul 06, 2021

Prosecutor Lacy Cooper, with experience in prosecuting sexual crimes committed against children and adults, gets real with Karis and Michelle. She shares some great tips to help prevent child sexual abuse. You won't want to miss this episode, so be sure to save this post and share with any parents you know.

An interview with Andrea Robinson, creator of the You Do You journal Jun 22, 2021

In this episode, Karis and Michelle interview Andrea Robinson, former news anchor and creator of the You Do You journal, about the need for grace in a world obsessed with perfection.

Summer fun for the whole family Jun 08, 2021

In this episode, Karis and Michelle discuss how to prepare for a fun, grace-filled summer with your family. Get parenting ideas and marriage tips to bring out the best in each other this summer.

Give your marriage the gift of rest May 25, 2021

In this episode, Karis and Michelle talk about how to give you marriage the gift of rest. Grace means leaving room for people to grow and rest, learn more now!

How to Fight Fair - With Tim Kimmel May 11, 2021

In this episode, Karis and Michelle talk with Tim Kimmel, author of Grace Filled Marriage, Grace Based Parenting, and Extreme Grandparenting to talk about how to fight fair in a marriage.

When All You Ever Wanted Isn't Enough Apr 27, 2021

In this episode, Karis and Michelle discuss how having it all doesn't really fix the problems you have. Maybe 'enough' isn't really what we all think.

Building Relational Equity in your Kids with Tracey Eyster Apr 13, 2021

In this episode, Karis and Michelle talk with Tracey Eyster, founder of Mom Life and nationally known speaker and author about how to build relational equity into your kids, and the long term power of grace in staying connected.

Four Tips for a Peaceful Home Mar 30, 2021

In this episode, Karis Murray and Michelle Broek discuss four ways to maintain peace at home in the midst of a hurried culture. Listen in on how grace can bring peace to your home.

An interview with Dierdre Reilly, author of The Pretend Christian Mar 23, 2021

In this episode, Karis and Michelle talk with Dierdre Reilly about how grace, particularly in the family, helps challenge our tendency to be pretend Christians. Dierdre Reilly is a nationally known writer and author of the upcoming book, the Pretend Christian, where she explores the foundation of fake Christianity and how to fight against it.

The 5 Lures of a Hurried Life Mar 02, 2021

In this episode, Karis and Michelle discuss what makes a hurried lifestyle so appealing, and what it takes to overcome it.

7 Signs Your Family is Too Hurried Feb 16, 2021

In this episode, Karis Murray and Michelle Broek talk about seven signs your life might be too hurried and how to slow down with grace.

Joy in the Chaos - An interview with Meg Marie Wallace Feb 02, 2021

In this episode, Karis Murray and Michelle Broek interview Meg Marie Wallace, author of the book With All Joy. They discuss the challenges of enjoying parenting in the midst of the chaos and practical tips for finding joy in even the hardest of circumstances.

Interview with Juli Slattery: Grace. Sex, and Purity Culture Jan 19, 2021

In this episode, Karis and Michelle talk with Juli Slattery, author of Rethinking Sexuality, president and founder of Authentic Intimacy, and host of the podcast, "Java with Juli." During the podcast, they discuss how grace should influence the understanding of sexuality and purity culture and why we often get it wrong.

An interview with Dr. Brent Bounds Jan 05, 2021

In this episode, Karis and Michelle talk with Dr. Brent Bounds, a clinical psychologist and nationally known marriage counselor on navigating relationships and the role counseling can play in developing grace based relationships.

Building a better budget in the New Year Dec 22, 2020

In this episode, Karis and Michelle discuss some budgeting principals and ideas that can help leave more room for grace in your family in the next year.

The Heart of Christmas with Tim Kimmel Dec 08, 2020

On this episode, Karis and Michelle talk to Tim Kimmel, Founder and President of Grace Based Families, as he shares a story about Christmas to bring your heart back to its true meaning.

How Gracious People Handle Difficult People during the Holidays: Interview with Megan Hunt Nov 24, 2020

In this episode, Karis and Michelle interview Megan Hunt, a first grade teacher, parent of 5, and trained professional in Trust Based Relational Intervention. Learn how giving your family the freedom and understanding of TBRI can help strengthen relationships over time.

How to Make Thanksgiving Memorable for Kids Nov 10, 2020

In this episode, Karis and Michelle talk about how to make Thanksgiving memorable for kids, and how grace can lead the way during the holidays.

An Interview with Tim Kimmel Oct 27, 2020

In this episode, Karis and Michelle interview the founder of Grace Based Families, Tim Kimmel, and talk all about the grace based message and how it relates to families.

Resolving Conflict with Grace Oct 13, 2020

On this episode, Karis and Michelle talk about how to resolve conflict with grace. Conflict can be difficult, particularly during this time, but they don't need to end relationships.

Grace and School Choice Sep 29, 2020

In this episode, Karis and Michelle talk about all the options available to parents in how to educate their children. Without grace, school choice can be both overwhelming and fraught with shame. Hear how Michelle and Karis talk about the power of grace and how it affects even the way we educate our children.

Why Kids Rebel Sep 16, 2020

In this episode, Karis Murray and Michelle Broek discuss why kids rebel and how grace can help. There are few things more painful for parents than a child who is rebelling against them. Fortunately, God is a God of second chances and grace and is there to help parents love their child through it.

Grace and Teenagers: A Conversation with Actual Teenagers Sep 01, 2020

In this episode, Karis and Michelle get to talk with Karis' two girls, Riley and Lydia, about how grace has changed their life as teenagers. Michelle learns new slang and they all talk about why raising teenagers doesn't have to be terrifying.

Raising Teenagers: An Interview with Mark Gregston Aug 18, 2020

Raising teenagers can be difficult, but not impossible. In this episode, Karis and Michelle talk with Mark Gregston, founder of Heartlight Ministries and host of Parenting Today's Teens Radio Show, to learn how grace helps turn the teenage years into some of the best years of your parenting life. You don't have to parent alone. Join Michelle and Karis in the conversation.

8 Secrets to a Happy Family Aug 04, 2020

In this episode, Karis and Michelle talk about 8 secrest that can help your family enjoy each other and increase happiness. Who doesn't want a happy family? Listen to find out more.

Storytelling and Empathy: Interview with C. C. Kimmel of the Lightcatchers Podcast Jul 21, 2020

In this episode, Karis and Michelle talk to C. C. Kimmel, writer and host of the Lightcatchers Podcast about the power of storytelling for children, the significance of empathy, and the way grace informs his podcast. C. C. Kimmel is a writer, musician, and podcaster who lives with his wife, Lauren, and four kids in Phoenix, AZ.

Grace Based Blueprint: Courage Jul 07, 2020

In this episode, Karis and Michelle talk about the importance of developing courage in your children. With usual humor and insight, they finish off the Character series wrapping everything into God's grace.

Grace Based Blueprint: Endurance Jun 23, 2020

In this episode of the Grace Based families Podcast, Karis and Michelle talk about the importance of endurance and how to develop that in your children. As always, the conversation is filled with humor and rooted in grace.

Grace in the midst of Single Parenting - An Interview with Michelle Donnelly Jun 09, 2020

In this episode, Karis and Michelle interview Michelle Donnelly and talk about the power of grace in the midst of being a single parent. As usual, Karis and Michelle have an honest, funny, and tender conversation about how grace plays out in everyday life.

Grace Based Blueprint: Self-Discipline Jun 03, 2020

Karis and Michelle continue in their conversation about the character traits they want to instill in their children by talking about self-discipline. Getting your kids to self regulate is an important part of raising healthy, strong children. Be sure to listen in and learn more about how to raise a grace based kid.

Grace Based Family Blueprint: Building Poise May 19, 2020

In this episode, Karis Murray and Michelle Broek discuss the importance of poise and how grace helps build that in children. Join them for an honest conversation about the joys and challenges of raising grace based kids.

Grace Based Blueprint: Integrity May 05, 2020

Karis and Michelle discuss the importance of integrity in building character in our children. This is part of a larger series on character and how grace helps develop kids for adulthood.

Grace Based Blueprint - Faith Apr 21, 2020

In this episode, Karis and Michelle discuss the building blocks of character, starting with faith. Faith is a cornerstone for developing character in children and essential to raising kids who can stand up in the world.

With humor and honesty, Karis and Michelle discuss the challenge of developing faith, but why it's worth it when building a grace based home.

Grief During Pandemic Apr 07, 2020

In this special episode, Karis Murray and Michelle Broek discuss the reality of grief families feel in the midst of the Coronavirus pandemic. Not only do they share about how grief is effecting their own families, they discuss resources on how grace can help in the midst of grief. Be sure to listen in and hear how families can respond to COVID-19 and all the emotions that come along with it.

Talking to your kids about COVID-19 Mar 20, 2020

In this special episode of the Grace Based Families Podcast, Karis and Michelle discuss the implications of the COVID-19 pandemic and how grace enters into a difficult situation with families.

Parenting Children with Mental Health Challenges - An Interview with John Correia Mar 10, 2020

In this episode, Karis and Michelle interview former pastor, seminary professor, and founder of Active Self Protection on parenting children who struggle with mental health. This is an incredibly important topic and on that needs grace to navigate. Not only does John share about his own history with it, but practical tools he's found to help parent his children with grace.

Parenting and the Necessity of Youth Groups Feb 26, 2020

Karis and Michelle grew up in the same youth group. For them, it was an important and formative time and essential to their upbringing as Christians. It's hard to believe, but your kids might not listen to you all the time. This is why it's essential to have other trusted adults who can speak into your children's lives. Listen as Karis and Michelle talk about why youth groups are so helpful when raising kids.

15 Ways Grace Changes the Everyday Lives of Parents Feb 11, 2020

In this episode, Karis and Michelle discuss 15 different ways grace can change the everyday life of parents and couples. It's not enough to just understand grace through the lens of saving grace. It's important for us to see the way grace happens in the day to day practical moments of parenting.

How to talk to your kids about sex. Jan 28, 2020

On this episode. Karis and Michelle discuss how to talk to your kids about sex. They share their own stories, all of the funny and challenging things that comes with the sex talk, and why it's important for parents to talk with their kids about sex. Join in on the conversation.

Karis and Michelle talk with Cynthia Ulrich Tobias Jan 14, 2020

In this episode, Karis and Michelle will talk to writer and speaker, Cynthia Ulrich Tobias, author of "You Can't Make Me (But I Can Be Persuaded), about raising strong willed children, her career as an educator and police officer, and how to allow God control in your life as a parent. Cynthia Tobias has over a 30 years of experience teaching parents and educators how to work with strong willed children. Karis and Michelle connect that with grace and how grace makes a difference in parenting.

An Interview with Stephanie Flies of City Mom Collective Dec 17, 2019

In this episode, Karis Murray and Michelle Broek interview Stephanie Flies, Founder and Director of City Mom Collective and host of Just Add Sprinkles Podcast on why it matters that parents have community. Stephanie shares about her own journey with the grace based message and how it has influenced the way she approaches business, family, and friendships. Karis, Michelle, and Stephanie discuss the challenges of being working moms and the necessity for intentional relationships.

Taking the Crazy out of Christmas Dec 03, 2019

Karis and Michelle discuss the most wonderful time of the year, and all the crazy that comes with it. Part of developing grace based families is being able to take a step back and not allow an expectation of something to ruin the thing itself. Christmas doesn't have to be a crazy time of year. Listen in to hear some practical tips on how to make holidays a time of rest and joy.

10 Tips for a Stress Free Holiday Season Nov 19, 2019

It's that time of year where families get together, laugh, share gifts and meals, and stress out! Holidays are becoming more and more stressful, which is why Karis and Michelle take the time to talk through 10 things that can make holidays stress free and bring peace and joy back to your family in this busy season.

The Power of Saying Sorry to Your Children Nov 05, 2019

Karis and Michelle discuss why it's so important to apologize to your children. No parent is perfect, but the wounds parents cause in children don't have to be forever. Apologizing and recognizing your mistakes to your children is one of the best ways to develop character and maintain connection. Karis and Michelle look at the funny things and the hard things facing parents in a modern age.

Guest Heather McFayden Discusses Motherhood and Community Oct 22, 2019

Karis and Michelle interview Heather McFayden, the host of the podcast "Don't Mom Alone" on the importance of community in motherhood. Being a mom can be an isolating reality, and Karis, Michelle, and Heather talk about different ways to fight the isolation of parenting and develop relationships that matter.

Navigating the Digital World with your Kids Oct 08, 2019

The digital world brings about new challenges and opportunities for parents. Karis and Michelle talk about how to bring the best out of your kids in a digital world without being overwhelmed by the challenges technology brings to parenting.

How to Give Your Kids the Freedom to Be Different Sep 24, 2019

Michelle and Karis, on this episode talk about why it's important to give your children (and your spouse) the freedom to be different. Sometimes what bothers you about your kids is not something they are doing wrong, but something that is just different, and how we react as parents matters. Karis and Michelle are both funny and heartfelt in their discussion and also give practical ways to bring peace into the differences in your home.

Four Myths about Parents and Back to School Sep 10, 2019

In this episode Karis and Michelle discuss four different myths and misunderstandings about how parents respond to their kids being in school. It can be hard when your kid has a teacher she doesn't like, or feels like other kids may not like him. Michelle and Karis have a conversation about how to handle challenges with grace.

Seven Back to School Hacks for Parents Aug 27, 2019

Karis and Michelle are back to talk about seven different ways to make back to school run smoothly. Between things to do the night before, and setting proper expectations, Karis and Michelle talk about how to ensure grace permeates even the most chaotic of parenting events.

Grace Based Discipline: Responding vs. Reacting Aug 04, 2019

On this episode, Karis Murray and MIchelle Broek continue a conversation about how to discipline children with grace. Exploring topics like how to respond to children instead of react and the difference between discipline and punishment, Karis and Michelle take a fresh and funny spin on a serious and challenging topic.

Age Appropriate Discipline and the Sushi Menu of Responses Jun 01, 2019

Karis Murray and Michelle Broek continue their conversation on grace based discipline by exploring the different options parents have in discipline. Every age and child requires a different, thoughtful approach. Learn more how to parent and discipline with grace in this podcast from Family Matters Ministries.

Enneagram and Understanding Your Kids Unique Personality Jun 01, 2019

Every child is made different, which can make parenting extra challenging. Listen as Karis Murray and Michelle Broek discuss this challenge and some different tools that can help with navigating these differences. Grace Based Families Podcast is a part of Family Matters Ministry.

Introduction to Grace Based Discipline Jan 04, 2019

Get to know Karis Murray and Michelle Broek as they tell you about themselves as well as talk about how grace can be at the heart of how to discipline your children. With humor and experience, Karis and Michelle bring you into a conversation relevant to any parent at any stage.

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