Get Focused with Bill K. &amp; Gina Faye

Episode 103 Flow State Meditation and Living in the Moment Dec 10, 2020

In this episode, Bill checks in with Gina on her thoughts on Flow State...a very common term in use these days.

The discussion leads down the path of meditation and more.

Gina briefly describes a new approach to therapy she has recently become interested in, Internal Family Systems (IFS).

For Bill, as for many, it was as if a light bulb went off, clarifying a lot for him personally.

This was a great episode, and I hope you will enjoy it as much as we enjoyed making it.

Episode 102: From the Presidential Debate to Cats not Talking to Each Other........ Nov 30, 2020

Wow! Gina and Bill start with discussing the presidential debate and finish with cats not talking to each other. Wait till you hear what they discussed in the middle!!!!

This is an episode we will listen to often.

Episode 101: Return Visit from Our Friend,Michael Rosselein Nov 03, 2020

In this episode, we had a return visit from our friend, Michael Rosselein.

Michael shared as many details as he is able to at this point about a trailblazing and exciting new venture he is currently developing.

He plans to join us again early in the new year, once the project is made public, but for now, tune in (no spoilers) to find out what he’s up to.

It’s innovative, and an idea whose time has come.

Really good stuff!

Episode 100: The road to finding your purpose in life Oct 28, 2020

In this episode Bill explores what led Gina to follow the path of training to be a Marriage and Family therapist.

In this conversation, it became clear that not everyone knows from a young age what their purpose is, nor does everyone find that purpose.

In Gina's case, it was a long and convoluted path, as it can be for many of us.

Episode 99: Missing Family During the Pandemic Oct 20, 2020

This pandemic has had a huge effect on almost every aspect of life as we know it.

If you are anything like Bill and Gina, one impact is that you’re missing face to face contact with people you love and long to connect with, visit and hug.

In this episode, we discuss how we are dealing with this issue and alternative ways we have found to keep in touch with our family and friends.

Episode 98: Wanting Positive Experience is a Negative Oct 04, 2020

Gina found this quote on her Facebook feed the other day, and thought it might be an interesting perspective to talk about. It offers a very different perspective than most of us are used to. Have a listen, and let us know what you think!

Episode 97 The Direction of Our Show Sep 07, 2020

In this episode Bill and Gina reflect on the podcast so far, and discuss what they believe is working. We look at the direction we’d like to go in with future shows, and really welcome your input about what you’d like to listen to, and guests you’d like us to invite.

Please do let us know!

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Episode 96: First Fossil Fuel free, sustainable Agrihood (Agricultural neighborhood) in Hawaii Aug 31, 2020

Our 1st episode in a month and what a great guest and subject to start with!

Gina introduces us to Michael Whalen, an Entrepreneur for over 43 years.

Michael has owned/operated 6 businesses during that time, and employed more than 120 people.

One of those businesses was a screen printing / graphic arts / Identity services business in Hawaii which produced over 10 Million garments during a 33-year career.

Michael was an Environmental Science Major In college who has been focused on promoting Sustainable living in Hawaii. He studied and applied the USGBC’s LEED (Leadership in Energy and Environmental design) Green Building certification guidelines to create "Kuwili Lani”, Hawaii’s First Fossil Fuel free, sustainable Agrihood (Agricultural neighborhood) subdivision.

We really enjoyed this conversation and for more information click the link below!

Episode 94: Lynda Has Returned to Talk Bees & Honey Jun 26, 2020

We are always happy to have Gina’s friend Lynda join us on our podcast. She owns a cacao farm on Hawaii’s Big Island, and besides making delicious chocolate, she looks after two bee hives.

Lynda shares with us the learning curve she has been on as she figured out how to best nurture her bees. She describes the structure of hives, and the various roles each specific bee plays in the creation of honey and overall success of the hive.

A delightful conversation, with a lively and interesting woman who we are looking forward to having on our show again.

Episode 93: The Return of Roger Wyer "Communication" Jun 23, 2020

In this episode, we had the pleasure of speaking with Roger Wyer who is an Intuitive Guide and Shaman. We discuss what Roger is teaching and sharing now. It was a very entertaining and informative conversation, and we would love to hear what you thought of it.

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Episode 92: Listen to Ruth Freeman Discuss Parenting Solutions Jun 09, 2020

Ruth has been a Parenting Educator for over 30 years, and in this show, she offers a ton of great information about dealing with the challenges parenting can bring.

We look at the stressors many of us facing, with all the present unknowns, and Ruth, who is not only an expert in the field, but a dear friend of Gina’s, provides some practical down to earth advice.

She reminds us of the value of seeing different perspectives as parents, that it is never too late to begin again and see our children in a new light, and be curious about what makes them unique as people.

This is an episode we will listen to often.

Episode 91 Linda So Much More Than a Cacao Farm May 30, 2020

We are happy to introduce a good friend of Gina's, Lynda. Lynda owns a cacao farm, and manages it single handed.

The farm is only a portion of her fascinating story...in this podcast she describes how she coped with the volcanic eruptions of 2018, two miles from her farm, and came to fully embrace the Hawaiian life.

This was a delightful conversation with a lively and interesting woman.

We plan to have her back to talk about her adventures in bee keeping.

This is a must listen!

Episode 90: Milo Shapiro "The Improv Guy" May 21, 2020

Both Gina and Bill were captivated by our guest in this episode. Milo Shapiro is full of energy and good humor, and describes how he turned his dreams into reality.

He has had a very interesting journey thus far through life, and he tells us how he has used that adventure to help others expand their minds and overcome their fears.

This is a must listen!

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Episode 89: Roger Wyer Intuitive Guide & Shaman Apr 27, 2020

In this episode, we had the pleasure of meeting Roger Wyer who is an Intuitive Guide and Shaman.

We looked at the current state of the business world, and what Roger brings to his consultations with business people. It was a very entertaining and informative conversation, and we would love to hear what you thought of it.

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Episode 88: How are we dealing with COVID 19? Apr 17, 2020

We agreed that while Covid 19 seems to be all we are hearing about; it is the single most important problem facing everyone on the earth right now. We explored how people in other parts of the world are managing.

How are you managing all of these adjustments and changes we are confronted with?

What are some of your new awareness’s?

What seems to be most challenging?

Please let us hear from you.

This is a must listen!

Episode 87: Laura Wade Joins Us to Discussing Mental Health During COVID-19 Apr 10, 2020

In this episode, we had one of our favorite guests, Laura Wade who, with her partner and their dog, Tesla, is currently living a traveling quarantined life in their van.

We look at our present world situation, and the many issues that are being raised by this turn of events.

There are many different exercises we can practice to help support ourselves through this time of change and transition, and Laura guides us through one of her favorites.

We all concluded that life is an incredible learning experience, if we are able to see it from that perspective.

This is a must listen!

Contact Laura Here!

Episode 86: Special Guest Jason Treu Leadership During the COVID 19 Outbreak Apr 02, 2020

This week we had as our guest Jason Treu, Executive Coach, Best-Selling author, and Ted X speaker.

Jason discussed the importance of leadership, especially in times of crisis.

He described the process he teaches his clients, and emphasized the value of sticking with the agreed process in order to maximize its effectiveness.

We hope that this conversation provides useful information for anyone who is struggling to lead a team

This is a must listen!

Find Jason Here!

Episode 85: Timber Hawkeye, Buddhist Boot Camp: Dealing with the Corona Virus Mar 23, 2020

Timber Hawkeye is the bestselling author of Buddhist Boot Camp and Faithfully Religionless. His books and the Buddhist Boot Camp Podcast offer a secular and non-sectarian approach to being at peace with the world (both within and around us), with the intention to awaken, enlighten, enrich and inspire.

This week we were fortunate enough to have Timber as our guest.

We talked about the current situation we find ourselves in and some mindsets we could adopt to handle this, and life in general.

This is a must listen!

Standing up to the Storm: Relentless Resilience

Episode 84: Elaine Bentley Baughn Treat the 1st Responders Mar 20, 2020

Elaine Bentley Baugh, MS, LMFT, Author of Five Rules for Drama Free Living, and dear friend of Gina's was our informative guest on this episode.

We enjoyed a great discussion about how critical it is that the men and women who look after the general population are well taken care of themselves.

Elaine will be presenting at the following

This is a must listen!

Episode 83: Hitch Hiking Through Europe and More! Mar 06, 2020

In this episode, Gina shares some more personal details about her life, and extensive travels.

She also talks about the challenges she had growing up with her stepfather, isolated on a chicken farm in CT, and how eventually she was able to find peace and closure around that difficult and often painful relationship.

Looking forward to hearing more!

We are planning a contest to get input from our listeners about topics people are interested in hearing us discuss...watch this space.

Episode 82: Timber Hawkeye Quote and A Daily Approach Feb 29, 2020

At the start of our show Gina reads a piece by one of her favorite writers, Timber Hawkeye.

We spent some time talking about what the writing means to us, and how that meaning affects our approach to everyday life. Gina's approach is more based on living in the now, and taking satisfaction in that, while Bill says he feels satisfied, yet desires to learn and experience more.

Please share your thoughts on this topic with us, and any other ideas you would like to offer.

Episode 81: Gina's Story, Magic, Selfies and More Feb 18, 2020

In this episode, Gina shares one of many stories from her life that have convinced her that magic truly happens.

How about you? Do you believe in magic? Is seeing believing, or is believing seeing?

We also looked at Bill's habit of posting selfies...exploring the need underlying the behavior.

Yet another engaging and interesting conversation.

Be sure and let us know your thoughts, and any topic you'd like us to chat about!

Episode 80: Meet Margaret Webster, author of "Lessons from the Road: USA" Jan 31, 2020

Our guest this session was Margaret Webster, author of "Lessons from the Road: USA", and a dear friend of Gina's.

Margaret tells amazing stories about her travel’s cross country and the world.

We talk about couch surfing, a community based on sharing homes with hosts in most countries, free of charge.

Margaret continues to be delighted and amazed at the amount of love she has found in her travels, and we believe you will be the same when you hear her talk.

This is a must listen!

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Episode 79: Special Guest Laura Wade Jan 24, 2020

In this episode, we are joined once again by Laura Wade. She is presenting at the South by Southwest conference in March, and her talk is focused on how to heal organizations by healing the leaders of those organizations.

She describes clearly how overall effectiveness can be dramatically improved when group leaders actually lead from a position of self-awareness.

We would love to hear from you and know what you think about this approach.

SXSW Schedule

Episode 78 Holiday Let Down, and Coping with Transition and Change Jan 14, 2020

Bill and Gina look at the intensity of the December holidays, and how it feels for us now that we are in a New Year.

We agreed that there's something pleasant about being free of a regular schedule, while at the same time looking forward to getting back to that predictable routine.

What's your experience of the holiday time? Please let us know how you do when your schedule gets turned upside down.

Be sure to let us know what you think, and also what you would like us to talk about in upcoming shows.

Episode 77: The Ancient Greeks Seven Types of Love Jan 05, 2020

The ancient Greeks had a very different idea about love than we do in today's society.

In this episode, Gina shared an article about the 7 types of love as the Greeks understood them to be. She and Bill had a good time discussing their thoughts on this topic.

Be sure to let us know what you think, and also what you would like us to talk about in upcoming shows.

Episode 76: The Effects of Childhood Trauma Dec 31, 2019

Gina opens with a quote about childhood trauma that she thought would be interesting to discuss. We dived deep into this subject, and looked at how each of us dealt with trauma on our own lives.

Could be valuable if more people were willing to have a closer look at how they may have been impacted by trauma themselves. It's much more than being beaten or starved. Psychological trauma is very real and can have lasting effects.

Episode 75: Understanding Disappointment with a Partner Dec 28, 2019

The all too common issue of being disappointed in others was explored in this episode.

Bill and Gina consider the implications of being given unkept promises by a partner or business colleague, and explore how this dynamic can actually be growth enhancing.

Let us know what you think, and what your experiences have been with this behavior.

Episode 74: Empowering Questions Dec 13, 2019

In this week's episode, we played a card game specifically designed to foster deeper communication between players, whether they be family or friends.

As a result, Bill and Gina had quite an interesting discussion.

We'd like to hear from you with your answers to some of the talking points we touched on. Let us know!

073: Deep Listening by Oscar Trimboli Nov 26, 2019

We had the pleasure of speaking with Oscar Trimboli the author of Deep Listening. What an amazing conversation and all you have to do is listen.........

Be sure to let us know your thoughts on this or any other subject...you are the reason we do these podcasts!

Click Here for Everything Oscar! www.listeningmyths.com

072: Meet Angela Hale Spiritual Guide & Facilitator Nov 09, 2019

Our guest this episode was Angela Hale, a writer, down to earth spiritual guide and facilitator whose mission it is to help people everywhere connect with the truth of their hearts and their innate power.

We talked about how relationships help us grow, and so much more.

Bill makes a shadow appearance in the desert twilight!

Be sure to let us know your thoughts on this or any other subject...you are the reason we do these podcasts!

071: Death! How We Process Oct 30, 2019

This week we decided to address a topic which many of us tend to shy away from, or ignore. One of our listeners requested that we discuss death, how we deal (or don't deal) with it in our culture, and the reasons for this tendency to pretend that death isn't an inevitable part of life.

We looked at how many other words we have for death...someone "passed", "kicked the bucket", "bought the farm" to name just a few.

How do you deal with death in your friend group? Your family? And in your own mind?

Are you convinced that if you just don't talk about it, it won't happen?

We'd love to hear from you.

Be sure to let us know your thoughts on this or any other subject...you are the reason we do these podcasts!

070 - How Social Media Affects Our Minds Oct 27, 2019

This episode, Bill and Gina explore the ever-growing impact of social media on our lives.

We look at how much it affects how we think and feel about ourselves and each other. Do you have a strategy when it comes to your use of social media and whether you are or are not influenced by it?

Be sure to let us know your thoughts on this or any other subject...you are the reason we do these podcasts!

069: Voices in My Head! Oct 19, 2019

Voices in our heads! Have you ever been aware that you have them? Most of us do, and in this episode, Bill recognizes that he does, too.

Gina helps him to listen to those voices, (yes there can be multiple ones), and start to pay attention to them. Nothing unusual here, or pathological, just human. Attending to those voices can be incredibly helpful, not to mention enlightening!

Be sure to let us know your thoughts on his or any other subject...you are the reason we do these podcasts!

068: Do We Have a Choice? Oct 10, 2019

This week, we explore the question of whether we have a choice regarding our current situation, or if what we do dictated by our environment. We also look at what we understand choice to be.

The past few podcasts we have done have focused on Bill's personal thought processes...and we are hearing that lots of you can relate! These interactions have been eye opening on many levels, so, if you are ready, dive in and join us!

067: Feeding Your Ego or Loving Yourself Oct 04, 2019

Are full of ourselves or loving ourselves?

What exactly is the difference?

Gina and Bill discuss this and much more as we look at why we think of ourselves the way we do.

Be sure to let us know your thoughts on his or any other subject...you are the reason we do these podcasts!

066: Are We Honest With Ourselves Sep 30, 2019

Have you ever taken a long look in the mirror? Are you being 100% honest with yourself?

What does that even mean?

We look at these questions, and dive deep into this fascinating subject...how we sometimes avoid being honest, and some of the reasons why.

We welcome your thoughts on this or any other topic, and invite you to suggest things you'd like to have up discuss.

065: Fear of Change Sep 20, 2019

No human being is free of fear.

Question is, how well do we understand what is at the core of that fear?

Gina and Bill discuss this in this episode, and Gina guides Bill down a path towards understanding that.

Thank you for all your support...and how about you share with us what your personal fear might be?

064 - Work For Someone or Self Employed? Sep 16, 2019

Have you ever thought about working for yourself? This week Gina and Bill discuss the differences between being employed and self-employed. They have had years of experience in both situations, and look at the pros and cons involved. We agreed that there are costs and benefits with both options, and share our personal perspectives of these.

So, if you are on the fence or just curious take a listen and be sure to let us know what you think!

063: Scamming Gina Sep 06, 2019

In this episode, we discuss something that happened to Gina last week, that could have cost her thousands of dollars. We are aware that similar things happen to many people all over the country.

Thankfully, Gina's run-in with a scam had a happy ending, thanks to the excellent training an employee of a local store had received.

We are concerned about this issue, and are working to get the word out, so that others can be aware of how devious some of these scams can be, and not get hooked.

Has his happened to you, or to someone you know? Tell us about it, please!

062: Tinder, Match.com and Words with Friends?!?! Sep 03, 2019

Our topic for this episode is the world of on-line dating, and how it has evolved over the years.

Gina shares her experiences in this realm over the past 10 years, including people pretending to be what they are not, and how all too often lonely people can be preyed upon by scammers.

Bill, happily married for a very long time, shares his perspective, as someone who really has never had any experience with these apps and sites.

If you have had interesting, even happy ending stories using these sites, we would love to hear about them, and as always, welcome your suggestions and ideas about future shows.

061: Understanding Change Aug 25, 2019

Several years when Gina and Bill first started talking about doing a podcast together, Bill said he wanted to be on the receiving end of Gina's therapy.

In this session, that's what happened.

Our topic was change, and how we manage it...and with Gina, Bill explored his decision to join the military, who he shared that decision with, and basically, how he coped with the change of leaving his very close-knit family and community, and going to a completely new environment.

Have a listen, and as always, we very much welcome your ideas for topics, and your input on our podcasts!

060: Is Finding Acceptance Important? Aug 17, 2019

Hello, all!

In this episode we look at the concept of "Acceptance".

Gina had shared a post about acceptance on Facebook, and we thought it would be interesting to look at what this idea means to each of us, and the fact that the meaning of the word can be misunderstood.

Bill shared that he had, in the past, associated acceptance with complacency, and we clarified for both of us what the difference between these two ideas is.

Typically, our conversation went down several other roads, and we hope you are enjoying our meanderings, as much as we enjoy recording them.

Your feedback is very much appreciated, let us hear from you!

059: Gun Control and How Can We Make a Difference Aug 10, 2019

In this session, we dive into the question of gun control, and the wider issue of what we, as a society can do to make a difference.

We both have different perspectives on this topic, although there are areas where we agree, and this made for a fascinating discussion.

As the topic broadened, we looked at politics in general, and the value of voting...how can we really make a difference, and can we be confident that our vote actually counts?

Our conversation illustrates clearly that people who hold strong views are still able to have an open discussion, and still stay friends.

058: The Importance of Setting Boundaries Aug 05, 2019

In this episode we discuss “Setting Boundaries”

We used a post that Gina had on her Facebook page. This post outlines a number of ways we can establish boundaries, and provides food for thought about how we manage these ourselves.

Bill and Gina both share stories of how having and not having boundaries has affected them in their lives.

057: Gina & Bill Catching Up Jul 26, 2019

In this episode, we just catch up with one another, and enjoy chatting about a range of topics. The two of us challenge one another since we often have quite different perspectives on things.

Open conversation is something we value a lot, allowing the possibility of connecting with another person even if they don't see things exactly the same way we do.

Gina described a training in listening she did many years ago that taught her the tremendous benefit that can be had from listening to understand instead of listening to respond.

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056: Let's Talk About Sex! Jul 19, 2019

Probably some of the most difficult discussions we can have in our lives are to do with the topic of sex.

Whether it's talking to our partner, or to our children, most of us struggle with discomfort to one degree or another, depending on our own backgrounds.

In this episode, we have the opportunity to talk with Jill Whitney LMFT, who focuses her work on improving and supporting communication about sexuality and relationship with kids and their parents and between intimate partners.

Jill publishes a blog called "Keep the Talk Going", and offers practical, down to earth advice about addressing this subject in a helpful, non-threatening way.

Both Bill and Gina shared stories of our own personal challenges, and Jill provided a lot of useful input.

What an enlightening and interesting conversation! Please be sure to let us know what you think.

Keep the Talk Going Blog

Twitter @jillwhitneylmft

055: Michael's Transformational Journey Jul 13, 2019

This guest provided an amazing story, which is still in its early stages.

Michael shared his journey from his beginnings in Chicago to where he is now, in San Diego, and the self-awareness he had gained through the often-bumpy road that got him here.

He talked about a variety of methods he used which provided support and growth, the future of some of these methods, and his plan for helping deliver that support and access to those methods to the public.

We are sure you will enjoy this conversation as much as we did...please let us know your thoughts!

054: A Deep Dive with Laura on Psychedelics and their Benefits Jul 05, 2019

In this episode we are joined again by Laura, who is actively involved in the current research concerning psychedelics and their highly effective use in psychotherapy.

Thanks to one of our listeners, Gina had a list of questions for Laura, who answered them in detail. This gave us a great opportunity to learn even more about this fascinating, cutting edge treatment.

We covered lots of bases in this episode, thanks to Laura's extensive knowledge.

We are sure you will enjoy this conversation as much as we did. Let us know your thoughts!

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Laura’s Podcast

Laura Wade’s ruckus making is in supporting mental health providers and individuals through collaboration, experiential workshops, and education on recent research.

She has 15 years’ experience working with survivors of trauma. In her teenage years, she began researching and implementing interventions to heal her own trauma. Now emotional fitness practices hold a similar place in her life as physical fitness exercises.

She currently travels the US providing experiential group therapy training, podcasting Life Gym: Exercises for Emotional Fitness, and spending a few months each year in Hawaii as the interim director for a holistic rehab.

053: Meet Powerhouse Nancy Butler, Above All Else Jun 28, 2019

Wow!

What a delight it was to meet Nancy D. Butler. We had a fascinating conversation with this remarkable woman who lives life with full on enthusiasm.

She told us how she started as a single mother of two children, with $2,000 to her name, and moved 70 miles from home to begin again. From those humble beginnings, she created a successful business which she then sold, giving her the ability to never work again.

But Nancy didn't stop there. She is now an award-winning author of many books, a business and life coach, a national motivational speaker who in 2018 and 2019 was appointed a delegate to the United Nations for The Commission on the Status of Women, and much more.

She is an inspiration to all of us, so do yourself a favor, and listen to her story!

As always, thank you for your support, and feedback. Please send us any questions you might have, and ideas of future topics or guests for our show.

052: The Myth of the Hustle Jun 23, 2019

Okay....so what we need to do to "make it happen". (whatever that means) is to hustle...more and more and more...out hustling everyone else.

Is this true?

In this episode, we look at that belief, and question its validity.

Gina and Bill look at their personal ideas about the work ethic, and how they find a balance between working hard and working smart.

Again, Bill looks at his internal narrative which informs him that he is not good enough, and how that narrative impacts how he often strives for perfection.

Thank you all for listening, and we would love it if you would post on our Facebook page something you are challenged by and would like us to discuss on a future show.

051: Hear Laura's Story on Psychedelics and Their Benefits Jun 14, 2019

On an earlier podcast, we touched on the subject of the developing use of psychotropic and psychedelic drugs in cases of PTSD and anxiety/depression.

In this episode we have the pleasure of talking with Laura, a therapist who has done a lot of research on this topic. She shares her story, her personal experience with MDMA, and how this therapeutic treatment has helped her.

She also describes her conviction that this approach can be very useful to others.

Be sure to let us know your thoughts on this trail breaking topic.

Laura Wade’s ruckus making is in supporting mental health providers and individuals through collaboration, experiential workshops, and education on recent research.

She has 15 years’ experience working with survivors of trauma. In her teenage years, she began researching and implementing interventions to heal her own trauma. Now emotional fitness practices hold a similar place in her life as physical fitness exercises.

She currently travels the US providing experiential group therapy training, podcasting Life Gym: Exercises for Emotional Fitness, and spending a few months each year in Hawaii as the interim director for a holistic rehab.

Life Gym Blog

050: How do I Face my Inner Conflict Jun 08, 2019

One of our listeners contacted us with a concern about how to best deal with a situation she was dealing with regarding an employee.

We talked about ways to handle this, which then led us into a conversation about relationships in general. We agreed about the importance managing our own inner conflicts can have in improving our relationships with others.

We very much enjoy your feedback, and as always, welcome any questions you might want to ask Bill or Gina.

049: Experience Guided Imagery May 31, 2019

In this podcast, Gina shares a Guided Imagery with Bill and our listeners.

This is a technique she has been using throughout her practice to help clients achieve a variety of useful results.

Bill focused on his recent experiences of athletic competition and training for this, which Guided Imagery can be helpful for.

We went on to explore Bill's belief that he needs to put pressure on himself to always be "better", and came to the conclusion that ultimately, we do our best and benefit most from accepting ourselves as we are, rather than pushing ourselves to someone/something we are not.

048: Dealing with the Mental Challenge of a Competition May 24, 2019

In this episode, we talk generally about mental challenges, how we all face these, and ideas about how to manage them.

Bill specifically reflects on the mental challenges he confronted in doing his first triathlon.

Please listen, and allow yourself to be inspired about what you, too can achieve, when you get focused!

047: Bill's 1st Ever Triathlon Recap May 17, 2019

The day we recorded this episode, Bill had just completed his very first Triathlon, and we look at what this experience was like for him, from both the physical perspective, and also the personal, mental level too.

Please listen, and allow yourself to be inspired about what you, too can achieve, when you get focused!

046: MDMA, Psychedelics, Crop Circles May 10, 2019

In this episode, we introduced a conversation about the use of psychedelics for dealing with PTSD, and other often difficult to treat mental health issues.

Gina has a colleague named Laura, who is a therapist, who is currently very involved in exploring and developing treatments using these substances.

We are going to have Laura as a guest in an upcoming podcast, and invite any questions or comments you might have on this controversial and fascinating topic. Be sure and let us know so we can put your questions to Laura when she is with us.

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045: Political Correctness, Abortion and Much More May 03, 2019

In this week's episode, we ranged over several subjects. We started out by looking at an article in the news talking about two fetuses that were discovered in San Diego, and explored the notion of freedom of choice, specifically as it relates to the issue of abortion. We then moved on to look at the push these days for political correctness, and the implications that has for our interactions. As always we invite your feedback, and appreciate your listening! Want more of Bill K & Gina Faye!

044 - Health Conspiracy - Neo-Life Wellness - Escape the Medical Matrix Apr 26, 2019

In this week's episode, we get to talk with Robert Gallagher, founder of Neo-Life Wellness...Escape the Medical Matrix. They offer products and services which provide options to the highly regulated and funded traditional medical choices. We strive to bring thought provoking topics to our listeners, and this episode was no exception. We talked for well over an hour about the huge range of alternatives that exist for wellness, and were reminded how valuable it is to ask questions about healthcare. Bill was amazed to learn just how much research has been done into many of these alternatives by some of the worlds greatest minds, who actually followed these methods themselves. Rob Gallagher has always been a free thinker, but found a love for holistic health in 2014 after healing himself of a knee injury without the help of the medical system. Since then he has spent countless hours researching biochemistry, epigenetics, nutrition, detox, CBD oil, water filtration and now metaphysical study including quantum resonance as discovered by Nikola Tesla over a century ago. He's using his NEO-LIFE Wellness platform to educate people about how the body works, blogging about his own story, and promoting some amazing new products to help fund the expansion of NEO-LIFE Wellness to impact more people. www.neolife.blog www.aegea.com/neolife www.facebook.com/groups/neowell Thank you all for all the support and please if you want more CLICK HERE

043: What to Expect from a Therapist Apr 20, 2019

In this episode, we look at some of the ideas people may have about what is involved in seeing a therapist, and many of the stereotypes and misconceptions that exist regarding this. We talked about this from the perspective of the client (Bill) and the therapist(Gina). Many of these stereotypes aren't true, and in fact, the most critical thing about getting the results needed from a therapeutic relationship is open communication. Ideally, a therapist approaches every session with an open mind, and curiosity, which helps to build trust and safety on the part of the client. We hope that this interesting and informative discussion might be useful for anyone unsure of connecting with a therapist. Want more, Click Here!

042: Mental Focus Apr 13, 2019

In this episode, we discuss the difference between reality and perception. Bill uses the example of his triathlon training, and how this is being perceived by many of the people around him. We end up exploring how we can gain more self awareness by developing our ability to pay attention...both to ourselves, and what we perceive reality to be. As always, we are always excited to hear your thoughts and get feedback on our podcasts!

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041: Confronting Our Inner Child Apr 05, 2019

This week we talked about this quote that Gina shared, and what it means to us.

“I don’t think there’s any way around it. If we say healing, wholeness, healthy power, true freedom, then we’ve got to, at some point, consciously engage the young ones who continue, in various states of incompleteness, to live on inside of us…..” ‑Josh Levin

Bill wanted to explore the different aspects of our inner child, and how events of our developmental years impact us into adulthood. This is a very rich topic that no doubt will fuel many conversations to come. Stay tuned!

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040: Conspiracy Theories Do You Question Mar 28, 2019

In this episode of Get Focused, we had a special guest and a controversial conversation. We decided it would be interesting to have a look at so-called conspiracy theories and the ways they might affect our thoughts and choices. Bill and I have always said that we want to offer thought provoking topics on our podcast, and this episode certainly provides that! We look at what the word conspiracy means to us, and having done that, we look at 9-11, immunization, aliens, and more. So, buckle up, enjoy the ride, and be sure to weigh in with your thoughts and opinions!

039: Fear of Failure Mar 22, 2019

In this episode we talked about a couple of interesting subjects. The first, how to best support our kids when they are dealing with inevitable stress in their lives...and the second, on Bill's fear of failure. This is a pretty common fear many of us grapple with, and Bill put himself on the line and started to have a deeper look at his childhood, and the possible roots of this fear. It was especially interesting because Bill, like many others, struggles with recalling many memories of growing up. Gina's experience with guiding people through this process is that often painful experiences from childhood can be forgotten. This is what's called a defense mechanism. And the work of therapy is to recall those painful buried experiences, and process them, so that they no longer run us, but we are in charge of them. As always, we welcome feedback, and appreciate your listening! Want to learn more? Click Here: Getfocusedwithbillk.com

Episode 38: Addicted to Stress Mar 16, 2019

More and more science is recognizing the connection between mind and body. In this episode we talk about a quote from Gabor Mate, MD, where he points out how these two aspects of us are closely linked. Feelings release hormones in our bodies, and neuroreceptors develop to receive those hormones. When any feeling is experienced over a long stretch of time, such as stress, neuroreceptors increase to process the related hormones...and their presence can cause us to create situations that release the hormones those receptors are used to. Hence, we can become addicted biologically to situations that cause the release of those hormones. The good news is, over time, and with practice, we can chose different reactions, and support the development of other receptors that are there to receive calming hormones such as endorphins. Thanks for listening and be sure to let us know what you think!

037: The Importance of Being Open Minded Mar 08, 2019

Most of us face the issue of being bombarded with information and stories on the media, and trying to decide what is accurate,and what is not.

In this episode, we agree on the value of keeping an open mind, and not jumping to hasty conclusions before we determine , to the best of our ability, what the facts are. We looked at censorship, and briefly talked about the rights and wrongs of that practice. Given that we all have the responsibility for our own thoughts, it seems to make sense to educate ourselves and those around us to the best of our ability, always remembering that no two people will have the same thoughts, beliefs and/or values. What do you think? Do we leave it up to our government or other news sources to decide what information we receive? We would love to hear your thoughts and ideas on this topic! And as always, many thanks for listening!

The Mindset to Overcome Financial Stress Mar 04, 2019

This week we talked about the challenges of living pay check to paycheck, specifically the mental challenges this can present. We recognize that many of us try to live beyond our means, and explored the cultural beliefs that lead us to prioritizing material possessions. At the same time, we agreed that some people simply are not earning enough to cover the basic expenses of living and providing for our families needs. Ultimately, we came to the conclusion that there just isn't one answer to this issue, and that we all confront a number of challenges around this. We recalled that there are tools that help us deal with the things we can control, and remembered the value of not getting drawn into Monkey Mind chatter, but instead letting ourselves take chances in our lives, and not being discouraged before we even start. Thank you all...see you next week!

Exercising Mental Health Feb 23, 2019

In this episode we discuss a topic that Bill has been thinking about. Can we exercise and develop our mental health the same way that we exercise our bodies? Wow, what a great question! We look at how we react to particular situations and thoughts , and how focused attention to those reactions allows us to respond differently than we are used to. We then explore the idea of "Flow State", looking at what this means in general, and to each of us as individuals. Bill finds his flow state through physical training while Gina practices yoga and meditation. Self awareness is very helpful if we are hoping to find our own individual flow state, and there is no one right way, each of us has to figure out what that means for us. Gina mentioned a book called "Be Here Now" , by Ram Dass, in which the author describes many different ways to possibly achieve this state of focus. It's a book well worth reading.

What to do when you feel you are being lied to Feb 15, 2019

In this episode, Bill looks at his sense that some of the people he cares about are not always being honest with him. He acknowledges that this has been an ongoing issue with him, and something that he works at being aware of all the time. We looked at some of his own motives for not always telling the truth, to see if he could better understand the motives of others. It does seem to be true, that the things we become aware of in ourselves we do start to see more clearly in others. Thanks, as always for your wonderful support...remember you are our reason for doing this podcast, and we would love to hear from you!

Meet Linda Our Friend From Around The World Feb 08, 2019

More than 6 months ago when we started this podcast journey, it was our intention to discuss everyday life's challenges and joys with everyday people. We never follow a script, we simply chose a subject and then let the conversation flow. Our reason for choosing this approach was to provide our listeners with an open and honest experience, one that people could relate to. In this episode, we talk with one of our most dedicated listeners and learned how she found us. She also describes how listening and interacting with us has made a profound difference in her life. We reflected with Linda about how although many people might feel alone at times, the internet allows us to connect with people all over the world, and feel more connected. Doing this podcast has allowed us to learn from both the people we have interviewed, and also the many listeners who have been in touch with us. We thank you, Linda, and all our listeners, for your continued support. You can connect with Linda on Linkedin

Meet Linda Our Friend From Around The World Feb 08, 2019

More than 6 months ago when we started this podcast journey, it was our intention to discuss everyday life's challenges and joys with everyday people. We never follow a script, we simply chose a subject and then let the conversation flow. Our reason for choosing this approach was to provide our listeners with an open and honest experience, one that people could relate to. In this episode, we talk with one of our most dedicated listeners and learned how she found us. She also describes how listening and interacting with us has made a profound difference in her life. We reflected with Linda about how although many people might feel alone at times, the internet allows us to connect with people all over the world, and feel more connected. Doing this podcast has allowed us to learn from both the people we have interviewed, and also the many listeners who have been in touch with us. We thank you, Linda, and all our listeners, for your continued support. You can connect with Linda on Linkedin

5 Rules for Drama-Free Living author Elaine Bentley Baughn Feb 01, 2019

In this episode we speak with Elaine Bentley Baughn MS LMFT, author of 5 Rules for Drama-Free Living. What a great conversation! We have learned so much from so many people along this journey, and Elaine has now added to this. We know that you will enjoy this conversation and want to get your own copy of her book as soon as possible. She gave us some insight into a few of the rules and how living in different regions has influenced her. Please listen, share, and enjoy! Thank you again for all your support. We look to hearing from you all! Find Elaine: Wordpress blog called Toward a Drama-Free Life Facebook page Elaine Bentley Baughn MS LMFT You can also Google psychology today or international feng shui guild website listings with extensive detail

Our Inner Child Jan 25, 2019

In this episode we discuss an article called 5 Signs you are neglecting Your Inner Child. Gina describes what is meant when people talk about our inner child and the value that can be found in paying attention to this often neglected part of ourselves. Bill explores his own relationship to his inner child, and his childhood, and even those of his own parents. All of us deal with different thoughts and feelings, and can, at times, feel confused and overwhelmed by these. Our hope is that through this, and all of our episodes, we can help minimize confusion, and support greater understanding of ourselves and others. Thank you, as always, for all your enthusiastic feedback and love!

Left Turn and Vagina Monologues Jan 18, 2019

Right before we began recording this week, we considered what we wanted to talk about. Characteristically, once we got rolling, we took a left turn, and ended up discussing The Vagina Monologues! If you're curious about how that happened, you'll just have to listen to find out. The rest of the time was spent with Bill doing therapy with Gina...or so he says. Gina and Bill both have their own thoughts and opinions, and love challenging and sparring with each other. It's yet again a fun and interesting episode, so we hope you enjoy it, and as always, welcome your input.

New Year! Moving forward and appreciating what we have done Jan 13, 2019

In our first episode of 2019 we talk about how important it can be to look back at where we started, and how far we have come. Bill describes his recent family trip to Savannah GA to illustrate how far we have come as a society. We also touch on some different topics which we will take a closer look at in upcoming episodes. Overall. It was great to be back. We are excited at the prospect of a full year of looking closer at ourselves and sharing that, and other interesting guests with all you !

Bill & Gina Discuss Love it Forward Dec 29, 2018

This week, we had some fun discussing "Love it Forward " by Jeff Brown.

We flipped through the pages, stopped at a random quote, and shared our thoughts about the quote. In particular, the idea of Karma grabbed our interest, and we spent some time exploring that concept.

Gina and Bill also dove into the idea of self worth, and particularly Bill's personal take on that.

This was another episode filled with fascinating information and illustrates once again that Gina and Bill hold nothing back when sharing their feelings and life experiences. So please listen comment and share. We want to hear your story and the story of every person you know!

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Special Guest Tia a Licensed Acupuncturist and Certified Yoga Instructor Dec 22, 2018

This week, our guest was Tia, who describes herself as a Licensed Acupuncturist and Certified Yoga Instructor. In our conversation, we discovered that there is way more to this young woman than those titles alone reveal. She has had quite an amazing and challenging journey, one which some might describe as full of horrifying situations. Tia has chosen instead to understand that everything happens for us, rather than to us, and had decided to learn and grow from all she has been through, in order to better help others do the same. She has shared her process on this weeks podcast, and our hope if that you, our listeners, will be inspired to take a similar perspective on the trials that come our way in life. Please listen, comment and share, share, share. We would love to hear your own story, and they stories of everyone you know. The world is full of unsung heroes.

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Very Special Guest Christina, Living with Multiple Sclerosis Dec 14, 2018

JF Benoist Addicted to the Monkey Mind Dec 07, 2018

This week, we had our special guest and friend, JF Benoist. He is the author of Addicted to the Monkey Mind: Change the Programming That Sabotages Your Life. This was an enlightening conversation about how the stories we tell ourselves can really influence outcomes. To illustrate this, JF shared some of his own experiences, and Bill used the example of some issues that his 14 year old son is dealing with. JF offered some great ideas about how Bill could be most supportive to his son.

JF is truly an amazing, and informative guest. We strongly recommend reading his easy to follow book. You can contact him and also purchase his book through the links listed below.

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Anything Goes Nov 30, 2018

This week, we had to improvise, as our guest, JF Benoist had to reschedule at the last minute. JF will be joining us for our next recording, so be sure to listen. We ended up chatting about fear, setting goals, and what things can interfere with achieving those goals. We also looked at if setting goals can actually create limitations. Finally, we explored how far we have evolved as a show, and our plans for growing and expanding, including ideas for some very exciting future guests.

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Bill & Gina's Journey and What is Next Nov 24, 2018

In this episode we discuss a few different things about us where we are at and what we are up to. Bill is training to compete in a triathlon and teaming up with the wounded Warrior Project to raise money and awareness for our veterans that are facing many challenges. Gina as always helps us look at things from a different perspective and opens our minds up to new possibilities. Thank you, each and every one of you for listening to us. Hopefully our discussion has been helpful to you.

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How To Deal With Stress Around The Holidays Nov 15, 2018

Well, the holidays are fast approaching for many of us, so we decided to chat about the stress that often comes along with these times. To mention but a few sources of potential stress, travel and party plans and decisions, food, and buying or not buying gifts, for who, and the debt we can so easily get into that often plagues us into the new year. Of course, then there's the issue of simply greeting each other during these days. Can we say, Merry Christmas? Or should we say Happy Holidays? Argh!!! So, here's to political correctness, or not...have a listen, and let us know your thoughts, and challenges around the holidays! As always, we invite you to listen, review, comment and share to anyone you think might enjoy our conversation. Thank to all for listening ! Bill K & Gina Faye Facebook Find us at: Click Here Bill K. Click Here Gina Faye

Zachariah Kral A Healing and Transformation Coach Part 2 Nov 09, 2018

In part two of our amazing conversation with Zachariah Kral a healing and transformation coach. We dive deep into the mindset of a sales person and short cuts on how to overcome the fears associated with sales. We also take a turn into the world of education when we discuss a situation with my son and his school work. This is a must listen and we could have gone on for hours if Gina would have let us! Thank you all for the support! As always, please like us, share us and get in touch with any comments or ideas for future podcasts you would like to hear. Get Focused with Bill K. & Gina Faye Zachariah Kral Facebook

Interview Zachariah Kral a Healing and Transformation Coach Oct 31, 2018

In this episode we speak with Zachariah Kral who is a healing and transformation coach, among many other things. This episode is so good, and there was so much information that we ran out of time! He will be joining us again next week so we can pick up where we left off. This is a must listen, like and share episode! We look at the basis of many of our thoughts, and the limitations we put on ourselves. Zachariah talks about the possibility of opening our minds to allow us to see the world from a new and exciting perspective. Thank you all for the support! As always, please like us, share us and get in touch with any comments or ideas for future podcasts you would like to hear. Get Focused with Bill K. & Gina Faye

Communication Why Does it Sometimes Feel One Sided Oct 24, 2018

In this episode we discuss communication and I sometimes struggle with holding back based on an internal dialogue I have. Gina as always helps me with recognizing this and helping me live more in the moment. I have to say that this has been sitting with me since we recorded and I feel I need to dive back into this at some point. Thank you all for the support! As always, please like us, share us and get in touch with any comments or ideas for future podcasts you would like to hear. Get Focused with Bill K. & Gina Faye

Follow Your Heart Oct 19, 2018

Gina and I dive deeper into the conversation that we had with Melanie Williams in our last episode. Melanie spoke with us about her journey and the magic that she discovered when she listened to, and followed, her heart. We looked at what doors have opened to us when we managed to do the same thing, and what wonderful experiences come from this practice. We also talked about cats, and other animals and how they can feel our energy and love. Thank you all for the support! As always, please like us, share us and get in touch with any comments or ideas for future podcasts you would like to hear. Get Focused with Bill K. & Gina Faye

Talking to Melanie Williams about Big Waves and 100 Days in Mexico Oct 11, 2018

In this episode we talk with a friend who has experienced an amazing journey over the last year. She has gone from leaving a troubled relationship to building and finding new and amazing relationships with herself and with others. We also learn where the best BIG WAVES are in Mexico! This woman, and her story are inspiring and a must listen. So please listen review, comment and share so all can enjoy! Thank you, each and every one of you for spending time with us.

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What is Happening in our Supreme Court Nomination Oct 07, 2018

In this episode we discuss what is happening in the Supreme Court nomination process, we look at the effect it is having on us, and those around us. Gina and I talk about our different perspectives and the many deep feelings this latest development is bringing up.

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Bill K. and Gina Faye Discuss Relationships with a Special Guest Marlana Sep 27, 2018

In this episode we discuss the challenges of relationships with a dear friend Marlana. We explore many aspects, both from my own personal experience, and Marlana's. Gina, as always,helps us look at things from a different perspective and open our minds to new possibilities. Thank you, each and every one of you for listening to us. Hopefully our discussion has been helpful to you.

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Self Sabotage and How it Happens Sep 21, 2018

In this episode we discuss self-sabotage and how it happens. I talk about some recent potentially self sabotaging behaviors I was engaging in, and how, this time, I was aware of what I was doing, and could refocus my attention to be more self supporting . In the past, I would have been completely unaware of what I was doing Gina as always helps me look at things from a different perspective and opens my mind to new possibilities. Thank you, each and every one of you for listening to us. Hopefully our discussion has been helpful to you.

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What is it that motivates you and how do you keep that motivation! Sep 12, 2018

In this episode, we explore a topic that was suggested by one of our listeners...basically how to keep yourself motivated when things are not looking all that great. I have to admit, GinaFaye encourages me to dig deep in order to figure out just what it is I do to keep motivated. For me, one of the best things about doing this show is the opportunity to keep growing and learning about myself, and sharing that with all of you. Gina always surprises me with her ability to guide me more and more deeply into myself, and help me connect with my real and truest parts. This episode perfectly captures what GinaFaye and I aim to bring to our listeners. Thank you, each and every one of you for listening to us. Hopefully our discussion has been helpful to you. We welcome your questions, comments, and suggestions about what you'd like us to discuss in upcoming podcasts, and promise to respond.

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The Benefits of Cannabis Infused Massage Therapy Sep 10, 2018

Meet Zac Smith, CEO, Traveling Hands Massage In this episode we are joined by Zac Smith, CEO of Traveling Hands Massage. This innovative company offers in home massage therapy, using cannabis infused massage oil. I must say, this was a very educational conversation for me, and am looking forward to having Zac back on the show. Zac is giving our listeners a $99 special...just schedule a massage, and mention that you heard him on our podcast. Please enjoy learning about the benefits of cannabis infused massage, and hear all about how Zac met Snoop Dog!

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