For The Love With Jen Hatmaker Podcast

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Reinventing Yourself with Heather Land Dec 18, 2024

Show notes

This week Jen introduces Amy and the For the Love audience to her long-time friend, comedian Heather Land, who gained fame as a social media sensation through her viral I Ain’t Doin’ It videos. They discuss Heather’s journey from an early career in ministry to one in comedy, and now to her newest passion project, life coaching. Heather talks to Jen and Amy about the impact of burnout and the challenges of reinventing oneself, especially at different life stages and finding joy in her new creative project, the Dear Heathers podcast (that she co-hosts with best-friend Heather Lenard) encouraging other women to embrace their journeys and feel empowered.

In this episode:

Jen and Amy share their mixed feelings on receiving unsolicited advice.
Inspired by theDear Heathers podcast, Amy and Jen reminisce about what it was like using landline phones when they were teens. Shocker: Jen even remembers her old phone number!
The group talks about the importance of recognizing signs of burnout and how reinventing oneself is a vital part of personal growth
Heather shares how support from friends can play a crucial role in our journey, like when her friend advised her to ‘do it [comedy] afraid’.
Jen, Amy, and Heather talk about women looking to others with relatable stories when they go through difficult experiences and how community can be our greatest lifeline.

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Thought-provoking Quotes:

“What do I have to lose except my dignity?” – Heather Land

“Standup is maybe the hardest form of comedy. It’s not scripted. You don’t have directors and writers. It is a hot seat and it’s live. It’s sink or swim. You picked the hardest way to be funny.” – Jen Hatmaker

“You are in full integrity when you make a change when something is still working. That is a move that is in full alignment which is something to be proud of.” – Jen Hatmaker

“We ask kids ‘what do you want to be when you grow up?” and I don’t think we leave a lot of room for ‘What do I want to be next?’ or ‘what do I want to be when I’m 40, or 50, or 60?’.” – Heather Land

“I’m sorry, I have not hired you as my life coach.” – Amy Hardin

Resources Mentioned in This Episode:

Heather’s I Ain’t Doin’ It Playlist - https://youtu.be/slcwYADYwRc?si=Oe-m-0jf3-wDdVmH

Dear Heathers Podcast - https://www.heatherlandofficial.com/podcast

Heather Lenard - https://www.heatherlenard.com/

Life Coaching with Heather Land - https://www.heatherlandofficial.com/life-coach#book-an-appointment

Nichole Nordeman - https://www.instagram.com/nicholenordeman/

Susannah Lewis (Whoa Susannah) - https://whoasusannah.com/

Jen Hatmaker Book Club Cruise January 30-February 3, 2025 - https://shop.jenhatmaker.com/pages/cruise

Only Murders in the Building - https://www.hulu.com/series/only-murders-in-the-building

Should men take baths? - Dear Heathers: Ep. 3 Bath Time with the Swon Brothers - https://apple.co/4eI6s9b

Guest’s Links:

Heathers’s website - https://www.heatherlandofficial.com ...

Krista Tippett: Making Spiritual Conversations Relatable and Real Dec 13, 2024

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Krista Tippett's work in the realm of spirituality and human experience is unparalleled. She just has a divine gift for distilling complex topics into clear, palatable information that we can sit with, dissect, and examine. She uses her OnBeing podcast as a place to conduct honest conversations with theologians and thought leaders about what it means to be human, what it means to be alive. Curiosity is welcome in her space. She brings a sense of calm to everything around her. So during the frenzy of the holidays, which can be both joyful and stressful, we wanted to circle back to this centering conversation with Krista to decompress and be at peace with the world. This conversation feels like an oasis in what is always a chaotic month so it’s our gift to bring it back for you this week.

Segments:

Bless and Release: Rules for holiday decorating and making the holidays magical

GenXcellence: Essentials for outfitting a GenX space

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Thought-provoking Quotes:

If a thing is feeling stressful and not joyful, it needs to be re-evaluated. – Jen Hatmaker

I actually found in the Bible, reading it for myself directly, that it completely honored the questions, and it honored the anguish, and it was full of things that didn’t make sense or were contradictory. And for me that was an opening to not feel that faith had to be in opposition to what didn’t make sense or was contradictory. – Krista Tippett

There has to be a way to represent the complexity of this, and also the centrality of it, the fact that it’s more about questions than it is about answers, and the array of how we walk around with this, and what it means in our lives, and the ways we practice, and the vocabulary we have, and the different ways we pray. I wanted to show that you could talk about this and we could speak about the part of ourselves that we mean when we use language of religious or spiritual. – Krista Tippett

The sensibility, the intentionality with which something is offered, shapes the reaction that comes at it. – Krista Tippett

I do have a spiritual homeland and I do have a spiritual mother tongue. That matters. – Krista Tippett

Resources Mentioned in This Episode:

Walter Brueggeman – https://www.walterbrueggemann.com/

The Prophetic Imagination – https://onbeing.org/programs/walter-brueggemann-the-prophetic-imagination-dec2018/

Thích Nhât Hanh – https://plumvillage.org/

Desmond Tutu – https://www.tutu.org.za/

Mary Oliver – https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poets/mary-oliver

I Got Saved By the Beauty of the World – https://onbeing.org/programs/mary-oliver-i-got-saved-by-the-beauty-of-the-world/

Guest’s Links:

OnBeing Podcast - https://onbeing.org/series/podcast/

Krista’s website - https://onbeing.org/our-story/krista-tippett/

Krista’s Twitter - https://x.com/kristatippett

Connect with Jen!

Jen’s website - https://jenhatmaker.com/

Jen’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/jenhatmaker

Jen’s Twitter - https://twitter ...

Scott Erickson Paints an Honest Picture of an Advent Season of Hope Dec 11, 2024

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As we journey into this Advent season, Scott Erickson, better known to most by his moniker in the internet and art world as Scott the Painter, discusses his journey of faith and the creation of his 'Honest Advent,' project aimed at reinterpreting traditional Christmas narratives through a lens of vulnerability and authenticity. He reflects on the paradoxes of belief, the importance of community, and the need for honest conversations about faith and the human experience, particularly during the Advent season. With a great deal of compassion and humor, Scott shares insights into his creative process, the significance of connection in his work (which has resonated so deeply with his community that many have it tattooed on their bodies), and the need for honest spiritual experiences in today's world. His work is not just visually beautiful. It’s also meaningful, bringing a beautiful new approach to an old and familiar story.

Thought-provoking Quotes:

“As an artist, I love the brand of Christmas – red and green, complimentary colors. I love the music – the soundtrack, I love all of it. But I thought, is this a distraction from life or is this a hopeful message for the reality of it?” – Scott Erickson

“I want to know if I should just give up on my beliefs. If God’s not in the world and this isn’t a story that’s happening, then I just want to move on. But, if we are celebrating this thing and if it is happening, then that’s what my invitation is. By going through those things, and thinking through, and praying through, and then creating out of it, the fact that it then becomes a path for others to walk, that’s the greatest gift in making art.” – Scott Erickson

“It’s amazing, the alchemy of what happens when you hand the work over and then it becomes something new in the hands of your audience and the people that are experiencing it and they bring a story to it that you couldn’t even fathom. You’ve done your part, you did the creation part, stewarding your gift, putting it out there to the best of your ability and then they take it and it becomes something more. I’ll never get over that exchange.” – Jen Hatmaker

Resources Mentioned in This Episode:

FitBit - https://store.google.com/category/trackers

Scott’s Tattoo FAQ - https://www.scottericksonart.com/tattoo-faq

Say Yes: Discover the Surprising Life beyond the Death of a Dream by Scott Erickson - https://amzn.to/3AEVfao

Scott Erickson’s Shows - https://www.scottericksonart.com/shows

The Enneagram Institute Personality Types - https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/type-descriptions/

Honest Advent: Awakening to the Wonder of God-with-Us Then, Here, and Now by Scott Erickson - https://amzn.to/4fgK6fc

Guest’s Links:

Scott’s website - https://www.scottericksonart.com/

Scott’s Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/scottthepainter

Scott’s Twitter - https://x.com/scottthepainter

Scott’s Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/scottthepainter

Scott’s YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@scottericksonart

Scott’s Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/scottthepainter/_created/

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Ruth Reichl's Garlic & Sapphires Dec 06, 2024

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Today, Jen gets to fulfill a dream of interviewing one of her favorite influences and mentors in the food world. The iconic six-time James Beard award-winning Ruth Reichl sits down with Jen to discuss her extensive impact on food culture spanning the last several decades. They hit on everything from the alarming state of the modern food industrial complex, how we source our food and the impacts it poses to our health (as well as the hope they see for our future), to what it has been like to document the evolution of food across the changing media landscape of print media and the internet. Ruth reflects on highlights from her career as a chef, food critic, editor, tv personality, author, novelist and documentarian and discusses the challenges and joys of her various roles in the culinary world, including the emotional toll of her work which has garnered both admiration and criticism.

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Thought-provoking Quotes:

The way that we eat, the way we have handed over our health, our environment, our communities to the idea of industrialized food is truly terrifying. – Ruth Reichl

The more you say no, the more people want you. – Ruth Reichl

Almost no one likes what is written about them. No matter how flattering a portrait may be, people don’t like it. So when it’s really not flattering, people don’t like it. – Ruth Reichl

Resources Mentioned in This Episode:

Food and Country Film - https://www.foodandcountryfilm.com/

Michael Pollan - https://amzn.to/4g1bkGV

Barbara Kingsolver - https://amzn.to/3D0fv7f

White Oak Pastures - https://whiteoakpastures.com/

Gourmet Magazine - https://bit.ly/3D2LN1B

Tender at the Bone: Growing Up at the Table by Ruth Reichl - https://amzn.to/3OEwjmS

Condé Nast - https://www.cntraveler.com/contributor/ruth-reichl

New York Times - https://www.nytimes.com/by/ruth-reichl

Garlic and Sapphires: The Secret Life of a Critic in Disguise by Ruth Reichl - https://amzn.to/4ifrUo9

The Paris Novel by Ruth Reichl - https://amzn.to/3BfyUk4

Save Me the Plums: My Gourmet Memoir by Ruth Reichl - https://amzn.to/49vwfiX

Guest’s Links:

Ruth’s Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/ruth.reichl/

Ruth’s Twitter - https://x.com/ruthreichl

Ruth’s Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/@ruthreichlbooks

Ruth’s Substack - https://ruthreichl.substack.com/

Connect with Jen!

Jen’s website - https://jenhatmaker.com/

Jen’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/jenhatmaker

Jen’s Twitter - https://twitter.com/jenHatmaker/

Jen’s Facebook - https://facebook.com/jenhatmaker

Jen’s YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/user/JenHatmaker

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Laughing Through the Chaos: Finding Joy with Tig Notaro Dec 04, 2024

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In this conversation, recorded the morning after the presidential election, comedy phenom Tig Notaro joins Jen and Amy (donned head to toe in black in mourning) to unpack the events of the day and to help them find their happy place in the world again, which she accomplishes with tactical success. By the end of the show, they’ve laughed so hard, they’ve forgotten most of their cares.

In this episode, Tig regales us with her journey as an Emmy and Grammy-nominated comedian, the influence of her free-spirited mother, and how her family dynamics (and a few hilarious stories from her boys) have shaped her comedy. She also reflects on her journey of authenticity, what it means to be an icon in the LGBTQ+ community, and the significance of being true to oneself.

In Rant or Rave, Jen and Amy muse about whether or not they have the chops to make it in stand-up, and we learn that Amy definitely has a deep well of material at her disposal. Speaking of which, be sure to listen for Tig’s story about the weirdest gig she’s ever performed!

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Thought-provoking Quotes:

One of the things my mother told me growing up was to tell everyone to go to hell if they had a problem with me. And I certainly do not walk around telling everyone to go to hell but I think there’s this thing in me, whether you know I was told that or not, I think people can tell that I don’t have a desperation and I’m not going to do backflips for anybody. – Tig Notaro

I didn’t bust out of the closet. I went through my own process of figuring things out. I wasn’t born knowing I was gay. When I did come out, it was just an authentic feeling and decision of, this is who I am. – Tig Notaro

Resources Mentioned in This Episode:

Annette Benning - https://www.imdb.com/name/nm0000906/

John Travolta - https://www.imdb.com/name/nm0000237

Cher - https://www.imdb.com/name/nm0000333

Olivia Coleman - https://www.imdb.com/name/nm1469236/

Broadchurch - https://www.imdb.com/title/tt2249364/

Wicked Little Letters - https://www.imdb.com/title/tt20234774/

Taika Waititi - https://www.imdb.com/name/nm0169806/

Ryan Reynolds - https://www.imdb.com/name/nm0005351

Denzel Washington - https://www.imdb.com/name/nm0000243

Julia Roberts - https://www.imdb.com/name/nm0000210

Notting Hill - https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0125439

Jason Bateman - https://www.imdb.com/name/nm0000867

Smartless Docuseries - https://play.max.com/show/f8c800e3-7639-4883-a0f1-8eb5adbb5ced

I’m Just a Person by Tig Notaro - https://amzn.to/3ZjlfQY

Tig: A Netflix Documentary - https://www.imdb.com/title/tt3986532/

One Mississippi TV series - https://www.imdb.com/title/tt4947608/

Under a Rock with Tig Notaro - https://www.amazon.com/Under-Rock-Tig-Notaro/dp/B07SJZ4TKM

Kevin Nealon - https://www.instagram.com/kevinnealon/

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Introducing: Office Ladies 6.0 Dec 02, 2024

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The Office co-stars and best friends, Jenna Fischer and Angela Kinsey, are doing the ultimate Office-lovers podcast for you. Each week Jenna and Angela will dive deeper into The Office giving you access to even more behind the scene details, interviews and lots of stories that only two best friends who were there, can tell you.

Joyful Spaces with Bobby Berk: Design, Color, and Holiday Vibes Nov 27, 2024

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This week we welcome back a treasured friend of this show, renowned design guru and the heartbeat of the Fab Five, Bobby Berk! It’s been four years since we last talked to Bobby so we have a lot of ground to cover in this episode.

Bobby tells us about the designers like Michael Graves and Isaac Mizrahi who he drew inspiration from early in his career. He tells stories about his humble beginnings with retail gigs at stores like Bed Bath & Beyond and Restoration Hardware – maybe part of what makes him so relatable? – and how his career as a designer blossomed from there.

And with the holidays upon us, we also take the opportunity to ask Bobby about how he celebrates (or survives) the holidays. He offers some great insights on instituting some personal boundaries to maintain sanity that are not too late to put into rotation this year.

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Thought-provoking Quotes:

“At my grandparents' A-frame cabin in Colorado, every square inch was red, and I mean R-E-D shag carpet and it looked like a whole gaggle of muppets laying on the ground….and I think I liked it. I remember laying on the ground threading my fingers through the carpet.” – Jen Hatmaker

“I loved going to my friends houses where it was just cool and calm and nothing to look at. But honestly that’s not what I’m drawn to anyway. My house looks like a rainbow exploded. I have a kelly green velvet couch, a gallery wall that has every single color. I’ve got some bat shit wallpaper going on. I’ve decorated it like I’ve never seen the color gray.” – Amy Hardin

“I’m drawn to spaces that have life in them, I like color – I like it when a room is even outrageous. Whether or not I would exactly do that thing, I think, ‘I like where your head is at’”. – Jen Hatmaker

“You’re the CEO of your own instincts and design and if you love it, it’s going to work.” – Bobby Berk

Resources Mentioned in This Episode:

Queer Eye for the Straight Guy - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Queer_Eye_(2003_TV_series)

Queer Eye - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Queer_Eye_(2018_TV_series)

Queer Eye on Netflix - https://www.netflix.com/title/80160037

Series 26: Episode 02: Queer Eye’s Bobby Berk on the Fire Inside Us All - https://jenhatmaker.com/podcasts/series-26/queer-eyes-bobby-berk-and-the-fire-inside-us-all/

BobbyBerk.com - https://bobbyberk.com/

Right at Home: How Good Design Is Good for the Mind: An Interior Design Book by Bobby Berk - https://amzn.to/3A7TjXT

When Jen met Bobby in Mexico - https://www.instagram.com/p/B5HMYkUASvc/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link&igsh=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==

Tripointe Homes Style Finder Quiz - https://bobby-berk.tripointehomes.com/style-finder/

Michael Graves - https://michaelgraves.com/

Michael Graves Target Collaboration - https://michaelgraves.com/product/target-products/

Isaac Mizrahi Target Collaboration - https://www.target.com/b/isaac-mizrahi/-/N-s73qo

Jen’ ...

All Will Be Well: Lessons for Hard Times from Our Friend Amy Grant Nov 22, 2024

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We’re going deep into the archives to pull out a special conversation for this week’s bonus episode with our most beloved friend, Grammy Award-winning singer/songwriter, Amy Grant. The last time Jen and Amy sat down together, it was on the heels of an exhausting,arduous time in our county. Back then, Amy delivered some profound words of wisdom in the peaceful, soothing way that only she can. And we felt her words would be a welcome balm to soothe our weary souls today so we’ve brought it back for you to enjoy as a bonus episode!

In addition to some very timely words of wisdom from Amy, this episode covers:

Navigating life's difficulties while maintaining a positive outlook — Amy shares a touching story about the final lesson she’s learned from her parents
Amy discusses her journey of healing from unexpected open heart surgery and she and Jen talk about learning to respect their bodies and live more in balance
The importance of community and support systems, especially when enduring hard circumstances
The complexities of cancel culture which has come for Amy on more than one occasion in her career and personal life
The evolution of Contemporary Christian Music (CCM) and the “The Queen of Christian Pop’s” impact on music that transcends genres and generations

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Thought-provoking Quotes:

“Everybody brings different things to the table. Rapid-fire conversation or investigative or deep conversations might not be their comfort zone but there are other things that are. – Amy Grant

“I have my hands on my own wheel. I can’t steer anybody else’s opinions. I can’t steer anybody else’s choices. But I’ve got to own mine.” – Amy Grant

“When I was younger, I thought if I don’t say yes to everything, it’ll all stop. It’ll all dry up. It won’t keep coming. It’s my yeses that keep the energy moving forward. But I found out that’s not true at all. That was a fake story. It was just the scarcity mindset.” – Jen Hatmaker

“Ask different questions. The next step, the next opportunity, the next enlightenment, the next everything for all of us is within reach. It always has been.” – Amy Grant

Resources Mentioned in This Episode:

Jen at the Amy Grant concert in Austin 2023 - https://www.instagram.com/p/CxvoBcbujuB/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link&igsh=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==

Holiday Magic with Judy Greer: Inside The Best Christmas Pageant Ever! Nov 20, 2024

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In this special episode, Jen and Amy get a visit from a Hollywood darling we’ve loved in countless films and shows like The Descendants, Archer, 27 Dresses, Arrested Development and 13 Going on 30 to talk about her newest project based on the beloved children’s book, The Best Christmas Pageant Ever! Actress Judy Greer talks about what it’s like to collaborate on such a treasured holiday story that she somehow missed out on as a kid but was lucky enough to discover when she was cast for the role. She sets the scene for what it was like to film the movie last fall in wintry Winnipeg with a cast full of kids on set and also takes a moment to share some highlights from earlier in her career.

Also in this episode:

Amy and Jen talk about their mixed feelings toward pageants and public performances. As you might guess, one of them loves them, one hates them.
In our GenXcellence segment, Jen and Amy recount their first movie-without-parents experiences.
And we Rant or Rave about decorating the house at Christmastime.

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Thought-provoking Quotes:

“I directed so many programs with my sisters and my girl cousins, and my parents were very, very mediocre audience members. If you’re going to have four kids, guess what you get to do? You’re going to sit on the brown corduroy couch and watch our shitty programs. That’s part of the deal. We practiced for six hours. I had choreography. At one point, I gave Lindsay an umbrella that she had to open at just the right lyric in the song and the bitch could not do it and it was so upsetting.” – Jen Hatmaker

“I think what’s so beautiful about this story is that it’s about unity, and compassion, and empathy. And it’s about being welcoming.” – Judy Greer

Resources Mentioned in This Episode:

48 Hours movie (1982) - https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0083511/

Film Rating Guide - https://www.motionpictures.org/film-ratings/

Top Gun movie (1986) - https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0092099/

The Shining movie (1980) - https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0081505/

Alamo Drafthouse Cinema - https://drafthouse.com/austin

37th Street Austin Light Display - https://www.instagram.com/37thstreetlights/

Arrested Development - https://www.netflix.com/title/70140358

13 Going on 30 movie (2004) - https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0337563/

The Descendants movie (2011) - https://www.imdb.com/title/tt1033575/

I Don’t Know What You Know Me From: Confessions of a Co-Star by Judy Greer - https://amzn.to/4hiDC0y

The Best Christmas Pageant Ever: A Christmas Holiday Book for Kids by Barbara Robinson - https://amzn.to/3YzrNfh

The Best Christmas Pageant Ever movie (2024) - https://bestchristmaspageantever.movie/

Archer - https://www.imdb.com/title/tt1486217/

Citizen Ruth movie (1996) - https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0115906/?ref_=fn_al_tt_1

Dallas Jenkins - https://www.imdb.com/name/nm0420817/?ref_=tt_ov_ ...

Building Bridges, Not Walls: Tim Shriver on Dignity that Transcends Disagreements Nov 13, 2024

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Let’s be honest: there are seasons in life when things feel heavy and hard and the thought of breaking through the noise and negativity seems impossible. But with a little retooling of perspective, you can shift the conversation to one that is more productive and more hope-filled. In this episode, Timothy Shriver discusses his lifelong commitment to promoting dignity and unity through his work with the Special Olympics and the Dignity Index. He shares practical steps (and real-life examples gleaned from guests of his brand new Need A Lift? podcast) to demonstrate how you can turn a difficult conversation into an opportunity to form a connection.

And if that’s not enough, Jen and Amy dig into some of their biggest fears – the ones they want to Bless and Release.

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Thought-provoking Quotes:

“I was being invited into a world in which the pursuit of making the world better, more just, more hopeful was a joyful pursuit. It wasn’t a burden. It wasn’t a responsibility of commitment you had to keep.” – Tim Shriver

"We need people willing to take a chance – on each other, on trying again, on their communities." – Tim Shriver

“Without losing my passion, without losing my commitment to the issues, I can still treat people with dignity.” – Tim Shriver

"Contempt for each other is the problem and treating each other with dignity is the solution." – Tim Shriver

“We can’t get legislation in most states or at the Federal level that embodies either of those majority opinions [border security and gun control] because the contempt on the extremes is so dominating the conversation that our political leaders find it in their best interest not to solve the problem or too scary to try.” – Tim Shriver

Resources Mentioned in This Episode:

The Special Olympics - https://www.specialolympics.org/

Fully Alive: Discovering What Matters Most by Tim Shriver - https://amzn.to/3NXAie9

The Dignity Index - https://www.dignity.us/

Tim’s Need A Lift Podcast - https://www.timothyshriver.com/projects/need-a-lift

How Michael and Nicole Phelps Unlearned the Fear of Losing - https://apple.co/3NGKiYI

A Special Olympics Gold Medalist on Authenticity and Play: Loretta Claiborne - https://apple.co/4hhBbLF

Simon Sinek Believes that Idealism Belongs In the Workplace - https://apple.co/4dXmjj0

Taking Off Our Masks through Confession with Fr. Mike Schmitz - https://apple.co/48gAlLl

Guest’s Links:

Tim’s website - https://www.timothyshriver.com/

Tim’s Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/timothyshriver