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You might think you know the financial cost of transitioning—but what you’ll hear in this episode will completely reframe how you think about money, identity, and survival. In this episode, I spoke with Ash Perez –– Cuban-Korean-Filipino writer, director, producer, and openly trans man who’s sharing what it really takes to live authentically in a world that often doesn’t make room for that authenticity. From top surgery and hormone therapy to lost job opportunities and acne treatments during a second puberty, Ash gets incredibly honest about the hidden, ongoing expenses of transitioning—and why we need to start thinking about them as necessary, not excessive.
This is one of the most candid and enlightening conversations we’ve ever had on the show. Ash walks us through not only his journey through gender discovery, divorce, grief, and systemic hoops—but also what cisgender allies often get wrong when trying to support trans folks. If you care about queer communities, want to be a better ally, or are just ready to expand your perspective on what financial security and self-acceptance really look like, tune in.
Ash’s links:
Website: https://www.2ndtry.tv/
Substack: https://substack.com/@itsashlyperez
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What does it really mean to be a “rich girl”—and can we pursue wealth without sacrificing our values or our mental health? In this episode, I sit down with one of my favorite personal finance girlies, Katie Gatti Tassin, founder of Money with Katie and author of Rich Girl Nation. Katie and I dive into what it means to define success on your own terms and how to untangle your identity from your income. We talk about the dangers of tying self-worth to productivity, the role of privilege in financial success, and how to build wealth while still staying grounded in rest, joy, and community. This isn’t about toxic hustle or selling your soul for a dollar—it’s about building a life that’s rich in more ways than one. If you’ve ever wondered whether your drive for financial freedom is helping you thrive—or quietly burning you out—this episode is for you.
Katie’s links:
Website: https://moneywithkatie.com/
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I’ve seen it over and over again––the smartest, most capable people sabotage their financial success because of mindset traps they don’t even realize they’re falling into. In this episode, I’m walking you through 5 sneaky money mindsets that could be silently wrecking your financial goals—and more importantly, how to break free from them. These aren't just bad habits. They’re deeply-rooted beliefs that keep us playing small, procrastinating, and feeling like we’re not “cut out” for financial freedom. I’ll break down why these mental blocks are so common (especially for women and marginalized folks), how they show up in your daily life, and what to do instead. So whether you're paying off debt, saving for a big goal, or just trying to feel more in control of your money, this is the mindset reset you didn’t know you needed.
Mentioned in this episode:
How to Stop Emotional Spending: https://herfirst100k.com/financial-feminist-show-notes/stop-emotional-spending/
The #1 Mindset Holding You Back in Life: https://herfirst100k.com/financial-feminist-show-notes/142-the-1-mindset-holding-you-back-in-life/
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Let’s talk about sex baby! If you've ever wondered why sex, pleasure, and intimacy often come with guilt—you're not alone. In this episode of Financial Feminist, I’m joined by Casey Tanner, AASECT certified sex therapist and author of the book “Feel It All: A Therapist's Guide to Reimagining Your Relationship with Sex.” We dive deep into how capitalism, purity culture, and gender norms are shaping not just your finances—but your sex life too. Yep––capitalism might be in your bedroom. Casey and I unpack how productivity obsession, religious trauma, and internalized shame creep into our most intimate moments. We explore how queerness, pleasure, money, and identity intersect—and how healing from societal conditioning around sex can help us build better relationships with ourselves and others. Whether you're partnered, solo, questioning, or just curious, this conversation will blow your mind and soothe your nervous system all at once.
TW: Sexual assault , mention of suicide, eating disorders
Casey’s links:
Queer Sex Therapy’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queersextherapy/
The Expansive Group’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theexpansivegroup/
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Class is back in session! In this special ‘Study Hall’ episode, I’m breaking down one of the biggest decisions you’ll ever make––home buying. We’ve packed this episode with some of our best conversations on renting vs. buying—including insights from Ramit Sethi, Kate Wood from NerdWallet, and Redfin’s Chief Economist Daryl Fairweather. Whether you’re trying to decide if homeownership makes sense for you, want to better understand mortgages, or need permission to not buy a house right now, this episode is your comprehensive guide to one of life’s biggest financial moves. Let’s bust some myths, talk strategy, and help you decide what’s right for your real life—not someone else’s version of success.
Mentioned in this episode:
What You Need to Know About Mortgages with NerdWallet’s Kate Wood:
https://herfirst100k.com/financial-feminist-show-notes/how-to-get-a-mortgage/
How to Live Your Rich Life with Ramit Sethi: https://herfirst100k.com/financial-feminist-show-notes/rich-life-ramit-sethi/
Will the Housing Market Ever Get Better? with Daryl Fairweather: https://herfirst100k.com/financial-feminist-show-notes/162-will-the-housing-market-ever-get-better-with-daryl-fairweather-redfin-chief-economist/
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I know firsthand how heavy financial scarcity can feel—especially when you’re dealing with debt. It’s not just numbers on a screen; it’s fear, shame, and anxiety that can leave you frozen in place. In this episode, I’m joined by Natalia Brown, Chief Compliance and Consumer Affairs Officer at National Debt Relief, who not only brings professional expertise, but powerful lived experience growing up in Harlem and navigating financial hardship herself.
We talk about the real, raw emotional toll of debt—from the societal stigma to the psychological patterns that keep us stuck. Natalia breaks down predatory lending, payday loan traps, and how to know if debt consolidation or settlement is right for you. We also dive into something so many of us feel but rarely name: financial dysmorphia. This episode is full of judgment-free, actionable advice on how to reclaim your financial power and begin again—with clarity, compassion, and a solid plan.
Natalia’s links:
For more information on a variety of debt topics, feel free to visit National Debt Relief’s Resource page for more information on individual debt situations: https://www.nationaldebtrelief.com/resources/
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In today’s episode I’m sitting down with the “godfather of financial independence" aka JL Collins, to demystify investing in the most approachable way possible. JL has been in the game for over 50 years and wrote The Simple Path to Wealth—a book that’s helped nearly a million people understand how to grow their money with confidence. And today, he’s breaking it all down for you. We get real about what investing actually is, why you don’t need a finance degree to build wealth, and how the entire financial industry has tried to gatekeep this information. JL shares why index funds are his go-to, how to avoid common investing mistakes, and why market dips aren’t disasters—they’re opportunities. Whether you’re brand new to investing or just want a no-BS refresh on the basics, this conversation is for you.
JL’s Links:
The Simple Path to Wealth: https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/The-Simple-Path-to-Wealth-(Revised- Expanded-Edition)/JL-Collins/9798893310474
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In a world that’s constantly demanding more, learning how to quiet anxiety and reconnect with your purpose has never been more important. In today’s episode, I sat down with Dr. Martha Beck—bestselling author and speaker who Oprah calls “the smartest woman she knows”—to talk about something that affects so many of us: anxiety. But not just how it shows up in our lives—more importantly, how to understand it, move through it with kindness, and use it as a compass toward discovering your true purpose.
Dr. Beck drops wisdom on the neuroscience of anxiety, the traps of our left-brain-dominated society, and how small acts of kindness (toward ourselves!) can lead to massive transformation. From her radical year of living without lies to the science of shaking out stress, this episode is filled with both aha moments and practical tools to move from panic to peace.
Dr. Beck’s Links:
Website: https://marthabeck.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themarthabeck/
Book: “Beyond Anxiety”: https://marthabeck.com/beyond-anxiety/
Beyond Anxiety Exercises & Toolkit: https://marthabeck.com/exercises/
Beyond Anxiety Deep Dive [12 month course]: https://wildercommunity.com
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You have money. But what should you actually do with it? Today, I’m answering listener questions straight from our voicemail inbox—including some common (and totally relatable) money dilemmas like where to park your emergency fund, what to do when you inherit financial decisions, and whether it’s still safe to invest given our political climate.
If you've ever felt confused about what you should be doing with your money––after this episode you’ll walk away knowing exactly where your money should be right now.
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If you've been feeling burned out, emotionally drained, or like you're just going through the motions, this episode is for you. I sat down with board-certified psychiatrist and author Dr. Judith Joseph, and what started as a conversation about high-functioning depression turned into a much bigger discussion—about joy, trauma, people-pleasing, burnout, and the societal pressure to always be "on." Dr. Joseph breaks down the science of why so many of us feel stuck in cycles of overachieving and under-feeling—and how to break free from it.
We’re not just talking theory—we’re talking real, actionable practices. Dr. Joseph shares her five-part framework to help you reconnect with what truly matters and reclaim your joy, even in the middle of a busy, demanding life.
Dr. Joseph’s Links:
Website: https://drjudithjoseph.com/
High Functioning book: https://highfunctioningbook.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drjudithjoseph/
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