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If there's one episode I need every woman in your life to hear, it's this one — because what Erin and I unpack together has the power to completely transform the way you show up for yourself and the women around you. Erin Gallagher is the CEO and founder of Hype Women, an inclusive network unlocking women's access to human, social, and financial capital, and the author of the book Hype Women. In this episode, we get into the real reason women are conditioned to put everyone else first, how to tell the difference between anxiety and intuition, and why you cannot build real wealth, real friendships, or a real life until you stop abandoning yourself. We walk through the three stages of metamorphosis, and break down the spectrum from mean girl to hype woman so you can finally audit the women in your life (and the woman inside your head). This episode is the pep talk you didn't know you needed.
Erin’s links:
Website: www.hypewomen.com
Visit https://herfirst100k.com/ffpod to see the show notes and read the transcript of this episode!
00:00 Intro
01:08 The Phrase That Changed Everything
02:55 Why Women Abandon Themselves
06:40 The Constant Threat Assessment
09:45 Remembering Who You Are
13:30 The Difference Between Intuition and Anxiety
17:40 Is It Still Working?
21:00 The Three Stages: Caterpillar, Cocoon, Monarch
25:10 Looking Around at 40
29:30 Renegotiating Your Life
33:15 The Mean Girl Inside of Us
37:00 You Can't Hype Others Until You Hype Yourself
41:45 Recognizing Your Conditioning
46:00 The Five Types on the Spectrum
51:00 Learning to Hype Yourself
56:00 Building Your A-Team
60:00 The Power of Women's Communities
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If you’ve been doing everything "right" financially and still feel like you’re failing, this episode is for you. In this third installment of the millionaire mindset series, I'm talking about one of the most transformative (and underrated) wealth skills there is: parenting yourself. I'm breaking down why self-discipline without self-care is just self-abandonment, how your unmet basic needs are quietly costing you money and momentum, and the practical, tactical ways you can start treating yourself like someone worth taking care of––starting right now. Because you can't out-hustle a dysregulated nervous system, and the most successful people I know aren't bullying themselves into success. They're parenting themselves into it.
Mentioned in this episode:
millionaire mindset: taking risks - https://herfirst100k.com/financial-feminist-show-notes/millionaire-mindset-taking-risks/
millionaire mindset: time wealth - https://herfirst100k.com/financial-feminist-show-notes/millionaire-mindset-time-wealth/
Amanda Goetz episode - https://herfirst100k.com/financial-feminist-show-notes/earn-more-money-without-hustle/
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00:00 Intro
00:23 What Millionaire Mindset series is about
02:08 Taking care of yourself like a child
03:35 Seeing future you as someone to take care of
06:16 Becoming someone you can rely on
07:37 Self-discipline without self-care is self abandonment
13:09 Create a bedtime routine
16:16 Building transitions into your day
17:58 Talking to yourself
19:21 Creating safety within your own brain and body
21:21 When feeling emotionally overwhelmed
23:19 Self-talk scripts to try
25:41 Finding joy and play again
28:42 Free daily reset sheet
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If you want to land a job you actually love and make more money in 2026, this episode is one you’ll come back to again and again. I’m joined by Claire Wasserman––bestselling author, founder of Ladies Get Paid, and one of the smartest people I know when it comes to navigating the job market, negotiating pay, and owning your worth at work. We break down how to position yourself for higher compensation, why everything is a negotiation, and how to stop sabotaging your own success with guilt, fear, or hustle culture. From negotiating raises and reframing your value to job searching smarter, building relationships, and redefining success on your own terms, this conversation will change how you think about your career.
Claire’s links:
Website: https://www.coachmeclaire.com/
Ladies Get Paid: https://ladiesgetpaid.com/
Visit https://herfirst100k.com/ffpod to see the show notes and read the transcript of this episode!
0:00 Intro
01:15 Knowing Your Worth Changes Everything
03:30 Being Underpaid and Taking Action
06:40 Why This Work Matters for Women
09:45 Negotiating with Yourself First
13:30 Getting Data to Confirm You're Underpaid
17:40 The LLC of Me Framework
21:00 Translating Your Value to Dollars
25:10 Mistakes Women Make in Negotiations
29:30 Beyond Your Job Description
33:15 Building Relationships at Work
37:00 Navigating a Tough Job Market
41:45 Fractional Work as an Alternative
46:00 Managing the Job Search While Working
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If you’re thinking about quitting your job in 2026 and finally starting your own business, this episode is your practical roadmap. I’m joined by lawyer-turned-entrepreneur Sam Vander Wielen, who left corporate law with multi-six-figure student loans, built a multi-seven-figure digital products company, and learned firsthand what entrepreneurship can and cannot do for your happiness. We’re talking about how to financially plan your exit from a 9-to-5, what legal steps you need (LLC, contracts, trademarks), and how to stop tying your worth to income, vanity metrics, or job titles. If you want a sustainable, smart plan for quitting your job and building a profitable business in 2026, this conversation will show you how to do it without burning your life down in the process.
Sam’s links:
Get Sam’s book: https://www.samvanderwielen.com/book/ Listen to Sam’s podcast: https://www.samvanderwielen.com/podcast
Sign up for Sam’s newsletter: https://www.samvanderwielen.com/easy-emails
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0:00 Intro
01:15 The Happiness Myth
04:30 Why We Tie Happiness to Milestones
07:30 What a Business Can (and Can’t) Give You
11:00 Money as a Tool for Safety and Choice
15:00 Sam’s Corporate Law Wake-Up Call
20:00 The Stability Myth of Corporate Jobs
25:30 Planning a Real Exit From Your 9–5
30:30 Legal Basics for Starting a Business
36:00 Why Entrepreneurship Doesn’t Fix Your Life
41:30 Redefining Success Before You Leap
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Millionaires don’t just buy things––they buy time. And if you’ve ever felt like you’re constantly busy but somehow never getting closer to the life you actually want, this episode is for you. In our second installment of the millionaire mindset series, I’m breaking down what I call time wealth. The idea that real wealth isn’t just about how much money you make, but how much of your life you get to keep. I’m sharing exactly how millionaires think about time, the sneaky ways you’re leaking it without realizing, and the small but powerful shifts you can start making right now to buy back your evenings, your energy, and your future—even if you’re not rich yet.
Catch up on episode 1 of millionaire mindset: https://herfirst100k.com/financial-feminist-show-notes/millionaire-mindset-taking-risks/
To get more resources including any freebies mentioned in this episode, head to https://herfirst100k.com/ffpod
00:00 Intro
00:44 What the millionaire mindset series is about
01:22 Time wealth: buying back your time
02:11 Time is your greatest asset, not money
05:15 Time leaks: where you're wasting time
05:36 Decision fatigue - spending too much time deciding
10:00 Doing $10 tasks with $100 goals
12:43 Reactive living - letting others' urgency dictate your day
14:26 Unpaid emotional labor
15:50 How millionaires audit their time ruthlessly
19:58 Delegating before you're ready
25:23 Habit stacking to maximize your time
30:17 Saying no early and often
33:25 Time wealth is self-respect
35:14 This week's wealth move
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If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing all the “right” money things on paper but still feel anxious, stuck, or behind, this episode is for you. In today’s conversation, I’m joined once again by Mimi Bouchard––trailblazing entrepreneur, motivational speaker, and author––to break down how to shift your money mindset in 2026 by changing your identity, your beliefs, and the way you relate to yourself long before the numbers change. We talk about the psychology of money, why not all of your thoughts are true, how to stop bracing for financial disaster, and how small, daily mindset shifts can completely transform your financial behavior. Tune in to learn how to rewire your brain to see opportunity, rebuild trust, and start showing up like your future wealthy self so you can create lasting financial security and freedom this year.
00:00 Intro
01:40 How your brain filters opportunity
03:50 Why mindset matters more than being good at math
06:10 How beliefs drive behavior before numbers ever do
08:30 Not all of your thoughts are true
11:50 The "why not me?" mindset shift
17:30 Women and the fear of wanting more
20:50 Identifying limiting beliefs in everyday moments
28:20 Bracing for impact - the low-grade money anxiety trap
35:10 The bounce back rate vs. perfectionism
42:50 Building trust with yourself around money
47:30 Adding positive habits instead of restricting
50:30 Getting comfortable with having more money
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If you’re making good money and still feel broke, stressed, or behind, something is off and it’s not you. Today, I’m joined by my friend Vivian Tu, former Wall Street trader, CEO and founder of Your Rich BFF, and New York Times bestselling author of Well Endowed, to talk about what it really takes to get rich and stay rich. We’re calling out why paying your bills and saving is not the finish line, how optimization culture keeps high earners trapped in a constant game of “never enough,” and how to start using your money as a tool to buy time, freedom, and real security instead of status symbols. This episode is about ditching performative wealth, building systems that quietly grow your money, and finally feeling powerful, calm, and in control of your financial life.
Vivian’s links:
Website: https://www.yourrichbff.com/
Grab your copy of Well Endowed: http://richbffbook.com/
Visit https://herfirst100k.com/ffpod to stay up to date and find any resources mentioned on our show!
00:00 Intro
00:51 Money traumas from childhood & the Chinese buffet story
03:17 How money narratives dictate everyday decisions
06:16 Knowing the price of everything but the value of nothing
08:14 Money as a tool to buy your best life
10:47 What comes after financial basics (Finance 2.0)
13:01 Building infrastructure vs. working harder
15:38 Strategic spending: "Do I want this or do I want people to know I have it?"
18:33 The sleep investment story
24:48 Why HENRYs (High Earners Not Rich Yet) feel stressed
28:21 The B-plus life trap & lifestyle inflation
31:24 Wasted opportunity, potential, and time
33:20 Kids will make you poorer - childcare costs
36:10 The prenup with built-in raises for childcare
37:34 Unpaid labor & the "good mom" trap
38:53 Cooking as unpaid labor vs. celebrity chef art
40:06 Speaking kindly to yourself about money
42:31 Making peace with your own financial timeline
45:07 The all-or-nothing mindset is killing progress
49:56 15 minutes is better than no minutes
50:17 Book takeaway: Chase security, stability & freedom
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If you’re over 35 and constantly feeling like you’re behind financially, you’re not alone. In today’s episode, I’m joined by Jean Chatzky––longtime financial journalist, bestselling author, and founder of HerMoney––whose work has shaped generations of women’s financial literacy, including my own. Jean opens up about starting over at 40 after divorce, job loss, and losing a parent. She shares exactly what she learned about saving, investing, and rebuilding confidence when time feels limited. We talk about why so many women feel behind no matter their age, the biggest money mistakes women 35+ make, how to course-correct without panic, and how to use tools like retirement accounts, HSAs, and investing strategies to build a future that still works, even if you didn’t start early.
Jean’s links:
Investing Club: https://join.investingfixx.com/
Website: https://hermoney.com/
HerMoney Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/hermoney-with-jean-chatzky/id1098802558
How She Does It Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-she-does-it/id1691787429
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00:00 Intro: Never too late to save
00:42 What "owning your money" means
02:00 Jean's story: Starting over at 40
03:49 What to prepare for & do differently
06:36 Biggest mistake: Too much cash, not enough invested
10:56 Why Gen X women feel behind
16:32 Financial boundaries with aging parents & adult children
21:06 HSAs as investing vehicles
27:15 Why "feeling behind" is universal
34:20 Quick-fire Q&A
42:29 Advice for women feeling paralyzed
45:51 Where to find Jean
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If money conversations keep turning into fights, it’s not because you’re bad with money, it’s because you were never taught how to talk about it together. In today’s episode I’m joined by Andy Hill, award-winning family finance coach, host of Marriage, Kids & Money, and author of Own Your Time, to talk about why money fights are rarely about money, how invisible labor and emotional labor quietly erode relationships, and what it actually takes to build a life that feels aligned instead of exhausting. We unpack how to stop repeating the same financial arguments, how to communicate more equitably with your partner, and how to redefine success so time (not just money) becomes your most valuable currency. Whether you’re partnered, parenting, or just rethinking what “having it all” really means, this conversation will help you build a life you don’t need to escape from.
Andy’s links:
Website: https://marriagekidsandmoney.com
Book: https://marriagekidsandmoney.com/book/
Visit https://herfirst100k.com/ffpod to stay up to date and find any resources mentioned on our show!
00:00 Intro
00:47 Why You Need to Dream About Your Time
01:49 The Mailbox Exercise: What Would You Stop Doing?
03:09 The FaceTime Birthday That Changed Everything
05:15 Karaoke Duets & Life Priorities
06:03 Debunking "Keep Your Head Down Until 65"
08:53 When Money Becomes Your Currency vs. Time
11:45 The Identity Crisis of Leaving Corporate
14:27 How to Know When a Role Isn't Working
16:30 Emotional Labor & Equity in Marriage
20:30 The Volcano Fight: When Money Arguments Aren't About Money
33:10 Financial Abuse & Protecting Yourself as a Stay-at-Home Parent
38:27 Prenups, Postnups & Why You Need One
41:27 The Expense That Saved Thousands Without Changing Happiness
43:38 Why Traditional FIRE Didn't Work for Our Family
48:36 The Power of Pivoting & Financial Confidence
50:26 First Steps Toward Time Freedom
55:03 Small Steps to Reclaim Your Life
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If you’ve already fallen off your New Year’s goals, or you feel like you’re constantly fighting yourself when it comes to money, health, or habits—this episode is for you. Today on Financial Feminist, I’m joined by returning guest Thais Gibson, a world-renowned expert on the subconscious mind, to explain why willpower alone doesn’t work, and what actually does. We break down how 95% of your behavior is driven by subconscious programming, why “self-sabotage” isn’t real, and how you can rewire limiting beliefs and build goals that stick in just three minutes a day. If you’re ready to start creating habits that actually stick, this conversation will completely shift how you think about motivation and success.
Thais’s links:Website: http://university.personaldevelopmentschool.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/?hl=en
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHQ4lSaKRap5HyrpitrTOhQ
To get more resources including any freebies mentioned in this episode, head to https://herfirst100k.com/ffpod
00:00 Intro
00:47 Intentional Goal Setting
01:54 Understanding Your Subconscious Mind
04:27 How Subconscious Blocks Prevent Goal Achievement
07:18 Step 1: Converting Goals into Subconscious Language
14:05 Step 2: The 21-Day Rewiring Process
20:32 Step 3: Linking Goals to Your Subconscious Needs
28:44 Step 4: Discovering Your Personal Subconscious Needs
38:38 Why Routine & Structure Matter for Habit Formation
51:00 Removing Limiting Beliefs: The 3-Step Framework
54:27 Why Avoiding Money Actually Creates More Stress
57:19 Your 3-Minute Morning/Evening Routine
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