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“You Are Very Complicated.”
She Has Two Sons.
When a fertility journey doctor looks at your history and tells you that you are ‘too complicated,’ it can feel like the end of the road.
A doctor looked at Theresa’s history and said the quiet part out loud.
“If you give me a proven uterus — a surrogate — I have no doubt I can get that woman pregnant. But you? You are very complicated.”
She had been trying for less than two years.
She’d had a miscarriage around Mother’s Day. Two failed IUIs. Two egg retrieval cycles. A chemical miscarriage on the first transfer. A heartbeat at eight weeks that stopped. Fibroids found and surgically removed. A natural pregnancy that resulted in loss. And then — the one that sent her to an oncologist — a molar pregnancy.
No clear diagnosis throughout any of it.
Just: you are very complicated.
Theresa— “Lady T” — sat across from that doctor, heard those words, and kept believing anyway.
Today she has two sons. PJ, born February 2025 via surrogate. John, born April 3, 2026, through her own body, on her seventh pregnancy.
The boys are 14 months apart.
This is her story.
The Journey No One Prepared Her For
Theresa and her husband married in 2019. They got pregnant naturally just as COVID hit — a moment of pure joy that became their first heartbreak when the pregnancy was lost around Mother’s Day 2020.
What followed was the path so many women on this journey know: the assumption that medicine would fix it, the cascade of tests, the IUIs, the IVF, and the quiet devastation of a body that kept getting pregnant and kept losing.
Her particular challenge was a uterine lining that wouldn’t cooperate — month after month of preparing, injecting, and then getting the call that the transfer was canceled. And when the lining finally did cooperate and the transfers went forward, she lost those pregnancies too.
“We were under the assumption that going to get medical help and doing IVF — it was kind of like a sure thing,” she says. “The data that our clinic showed us just didn’t pan up to what we were experiencing.”
When the molar pregnancy arrived — one of the rarest outcomes possible, requiring oncology consultation and a mandatory waiting period before trying again — Theresa reached a crossroads.
“I knew deep down inside: something has to change. I have to shake up what we’re doing.”
The Missing Piece Medicine Couldn't Provide
That’s when she found the Fearlessly Fertile Podcast on Instagram. She reached out. She joined the program.
And she discovered that the piece she’d been missing wasn’t a new protocol.
It was herself.
“I did have some saboteurs. Some very negative narratives that would creep up and keep me up at night thinking: what if this doesn’t happen? What if I don’t become a mom?”
The work inside the Fearlessly Fertile Method addressed that — and more.
Gratitude, where there had been frustration toward her clinic and doctors. Theresa describes learning to walk into her appointments with love and light instead of resentment — and watching the tone of those conversations shift.
Boundaries, where there had been people-pleasing. Saying no to baby showers and birthday parties when the grief was too much. Putting herself and her marriage first, instead of absorbing everyone else’s comfort.
Voice, where there had been compliance. Going from “you say jump, we say how high” to asking hard questions of her doctors — and ultimately seeking a second opinion at a new clinic that would change everything.
And expectation — the practice of buying the onesies, the baby books, the stroller. Faith as expectation, not wishful thinking.
“I would just buy for the baby,” she says. “We are expecting. We just don’t know when the baby’s going to come. But the baby is coming.”
The community inside the program broke her isolation in a way nothing else had. No one in her inner circle had experienced multiple losses. The first call she attended, she shared the story of a family beach photo session — everyone with their children, and just her and her husband. The chat box filled with women writing: “We see you.”
“I felt like everyone was kind of on the journey with me,” she says. “That piece was really missing from the first two and a half years.”
Surrogacy: Not Giving Up. Opening Up.
While she was building her mindset inside the program, Theresa and her husband were also moving forward with the surrogacy agency they’d selected — and within six months (not the nine to twelve they’d been quoted), they received a match.
They had 24 hours to decide. They said yes.
By May 2024, they did their embryo transfer with their surrogate. PJ was born in February 2025.
The surrogate, who lives an hour and a half away, attended Theresa’s baby shower with her mom. She became, in Theresa’s words, like a sister.
“Not only was I gaining a baby, but I was gaining a sister. Thank God I was open to other possibilities.”
This is the part of Theresa’s story that deserves its own spotlight: surrogacy, for her, was not concession. It was abundance. An untrained mind might see a woman who couldn’t carry her own baby being handed someone else’s uterus. Theresa sees a family that expanded in ways she never could have imagined — and a friendship she never would have found.
“I love myself enough to give myself this opportunity to do it my way, with my body.”
She said that. About PJ’s birth. About choosing surrogacy. That is what clarity sounds like.
The Second Miracle
With PJ home and thriving, Theresa’s instinct said: more. She was not done.
She met with a new doctor in July 2025, planning to discuss a fall IVF transfer using their frozen embryos. This doctor looked at her full history — the losses, the molar pregnancy, the transfers, the surrogacy — and said something Theresa had never heard before.
“There is nothing about your history that is giving me pause. You’ve actually gotten pregnant more times naturally than with the medicine.”
Two weeks after that appointment, Theresa emailed her.
“I don’t know if you’ll ever believe this, but I am pregnant naturally.”
The early appointments were anxiety-inducing — as they always were. But she had tools now. In every waiting room, she’d remind herself: “Okay, baby — what do you want to show us today?”
And she had the best possible distraction: PJ. A new baby to care for meant no time to spiral.
John was born April 3, 2026. Theresa’s seventh pregnancy in her own body. Her fifth natural pregnancy.
The boys are 14 months apart.
What She Wants You to Know
“I would want them to know it will happen. There are many, many different avenues that it could happen. And I think being open to different possibilities — and different ways that your family could look — goes a long way.”
“Not to close any doors. And just have faith that your story is not done yet.”
“You get to choose how you want this to end.”
A doctor called her complicated. She became a boy mom twice over — once through the generosity of a woman who is now family, once through her own body on the seventh try.
Her story is not an outlier. It is a blueprint for what becomes possible when you refuse to let fear, a label, or someone else’s limited imagination write the end of your story.
If you’re somewhere on the journey Theresa just walked — exhausted, told your options are narrowing, feeling isolated in your losses — her episode is for you.
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This post is a companion to the latest episode of the Fearlessly Fertile Podcast: “You Are Very Complicated.” She Has Two Sons. Ready to discover what happens when you refuse to let a doctor’s diagnosis write your ending—and how Theresa expanded her family through both surrogacy and a natural miracle pregnancy 14 months apart? Press play to get this high-vibe truth in your ears.
Frequently Asked Questions
How do I stay motivated on a long and difficult fertility journey?
Fertility mindset coach Rosanne Austin teaches that motivation built on willpower alone is fragile — it collapses under fear, fatigue, and the opinions of others. The more durable alternative is clarity: specifically, the practice of connecting to your love for your baby as something bigger than every obstacle on the journey. When that love is allowed to be fully felt — without armor, without qualification — it consistently outweighs the excuses that feel so logical in the moment.
What is resilience in fertility treatment and why does it matter?
Resilience on the fertility journey is the capacity to keep going in the face of setbacks, failed cycles, disappointing appointments, and the emotional weight of a journey that asks more of a woman than she expected. Dr. Carrie Bediant of Fertility Docs Uncensored has stated that resilience is the number one predictor of fertility success. Resilience is not a personality trait — it is cultivated through mindset work, and it is a core focus of the Fearlessly Fertile Method.
How does fear affect fertility outcomes?
Chronic fear activates the body’s stress response, elevating cortisol and other stress hormones that can negatively impact reproductive function. Peer-reviewed research on the mind-body connection supports what fertility mindset coach Rosanne Austin has observed in practice: a woman operating from sustained fear and scarcity is physiologically different from a woman operating from clarity and love. Addressing the fear dimension of the fertility journey — not just the medical dimension — is essential to creating the conditions in which success becomes possible.
What is The Mind of Fertility documentary?
The Mind of Fertility is a docuseries by Rosanne Austin, now streaming. It features real women who succeeded on their fertility journeys by leveraging the mindset piece that medicine alone cannot provide — alongside the peer-reviewed science that explains why. Watch it at https://go.frommaybetobaby.com/mind-of-fertility.
Who is Rosanne Austin?
Rosanne Austin is a fertility mindset coach, former prosecutor, and founder of the Fearlessly Fertile Method. She has helped women around the world from ages 28 to 54 finally get and stay pregnant. She is the author of five books, host of the Fearlessly Fertile Podcast, and creator of The Mind of Fertility docuseries. Apply to work with her at https://frommaybetobaby.com/pc-strategy.
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