Enneagram in Real Life

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Obstacles Each Type Encounters When Starting a Business with Kristi Rowles Nov 28, 2023

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On this week’s episode of Enneagram IRL, we meet with Kristi Rowles, a mental health therapist turned Enneagram Coach. She launched Enneagram University in 2020 where she trains Enneagram-loving humans to be the most competent and confident coaches on the market. Kristi is known for teaching the Enneagram in a way that is accessible, practical, fun, and compassion-driven. She and her partner, Nick, call central Florida home but they love traveling. She’s got a thing for chocolate, bright colors, and fun earrings.

We discuss Kristi’s journey opening a business (and purchasing a totally unfamiliar business) as an Enneagram Six, and we discuss obstacles each type faces in opening a business.

Find Kristi Online!

Instagram: @enneagramuniversity and @heyitskristirowles

Her earring business: https://roziejune.com/

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Here are the key takeaways:

Kristi’s path into entrepreneurship
What makes entrepreneurship challenging as a 6
Why Kristi built Enneagram University
Obstacles each type faces in opening a business + how each type can shift their perspective or do something different

Resources mentioned in this episode:

Free Preview of Enneagram University

Want to keep learning about the Enneagram? Grab Steph’s new book, Enneagram in Real Life! Find the book, ebook, or audiobook wherever books are sold.

What to Do When Holidays are Hard with Jacqui Acree Nov 21, 2023

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On this week’s episode of Enneagram IRL, we meet with Jacqui Acree. As a certified Advanced EFT (Tapping) Practitioner, Jacqui Acree works with overstimulated, high achieving women to turn down the dial on your stress response so you can actually enjoy the good already in your life...and maybe even let more in.

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🔗 Connect with Jacqui!

💻 ninetypes.co/happyish-holidays

📷 Instagram: @jacqui.acree

🔗 Connect with Steph!

💻 https://ninetypes.co/

📷 Instagram: @ninetypesco

🎥Youtube: @stephbarronhall

Here are the key takeaways:

Why do the holidays feel so hard for so many of us?
You’re not alone in feeling this way
What is tapping and why does it help?
Self-care vs. Self-maintenance (a perspective shift)
Emotional boundaries and how we can use them
Being a middle school girl with curly hair
Micro tools we can use when gatherings are challenging
How laughter can help us change our perspective

Resources mentioned in this episode:

The Perfectionist’s Guide to Losing Control by Katherine Morgan Schafler
A list of micro-tools for self-regulation
Jacqui’s funny reel
Steph’s funny video

Full Show Notes Here: https://www.ninetypes.co/blog/enneagram-irl-podcast-jacqui-acree-happyish-holidays

Want to keep learning about the Enneagram? Grab Steph’s new book, Enneagram in Real Life! Find the book, ebook, or audiobook wherever books are sold.

How to Use the Enneagram in Your Marriage with Christa Hardin of Enneagram + Marriage Nov 14, 2023

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On this week’s episode of Enneagram IRL, we meet with Christa Hardin, MA, a relationship expert, author, as well as host of the popular Enneagram & Marriage Podcast. Christa has been working with and researching marriage for two decades, providing hope for couples who are struggling to find their light, love, and mission together in any season of relationship. Her most recent title, "The Enneagram in Marriage: Your Guide to Thriving Together in Your Unique Pairing," is out now from Baker Books!

Grab her book here!

🔗 Connect with Christa!

💻 www.enneagramandmarriage.com

📷 Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage

🎙️Podcast: The Enneagram + Marriage Podcast

🔗 Connect with Steph!

💻 https://ninetypes.co/

📷 Instagram: @ninetypesco

🎥Youtube: @stephbarronhall

Here are the key takeaways:

Going beyond typology
Using the Enneagram with your partner
An Enneagram perspective in therapy
What is the “Enneagram Glow,” according to Christa?
An overview of strengths & pitfalls for each type in relationship
Christa’s perspective on typing kids
Christa shares tips from her book: Type 1 & 5 pairing
How to connect with Christa

Resources mentioned in this episode:

The Birth-Mark, Short story by Nathaniel Hawthorne
The Dating Divas Date Night Kits
The Lord of the Rings by J. R.R. Tolkien

Want to keep the conversation going? Join me on Instagram @ninetypesco to keep learning and chatting about how our types show up in REAL LIFE! Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/ninetypesco/?hl=en

Learn more about subtypes! Download my free subtypes guide here.

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Not sure about your type? Get my free self-typing guide and a series of six emails to walk you through the whole process. Sign up here: https://ninetypes.co/selftyping-guide

Want to keep learning about the Enneagram? Grab Steph’s new book, Enneagram in Real Life! Find the book, ebook, or audiobook wherever books are sold.

Writing Advice for Each Enneagram Type Nov 07, 2023

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A while back, I shared an email about the top 5 things I learned while writing my last book (release date TBA!). Many of you asked for more writing tips for each Enneagram type. On this week’s episode, we’re tackling that topic!

Writing can be hard. Here are a few tips for each Enneagram type to write (and finish) your next blog post, article, book, etc. Plus, I’ve tagged on some of my favorite advice at the end, too.

You can also watch this video on YouTube here: https://youtu.be/iG3CQ4g1xAI

🔗 Connect with Steph!

💻 https://ninetypes.co/

📷 Instagram: @ninetypesco

🎥Youtube: @stephbarronhall

Want to keep learning about the Enneagram? Grab Steph’s new book, Enneagram in Real Life! Find the book, ebook, or audiobook wherever books are sold.

Leaving a Career in Law to Follow Her Novelist Dreams as an Enneagram 3 with Mary Adkins Oct 24, 2023

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On this week’s episode of Enneagram IRL, we meet with Mary Adkins, a writing coach and founder of The Book Incubator, a 12-month program to write, revise, and pitch your novel or memoir. She is author of the novels When You Read This (Indie Next Pick, “Best Book of 2019” by Good Housekeeping and Real Simple), Privilege (Today.com “Best Summer Read,” New York Post “Best Book of the Week”), and Palm Beach (recently named one of the New York Post’s “Best Books of 2021”). Her books have been published in 13 countries, and her essays and reporting have appeared in the New York Times, The Atlantic, Slate, and more.

A graduate of Yale Law School and Duke University, she helps aspiring authors finish their books with joy and clarity.

You can apply for The Book Incubator here: https://www.thebookincubator.com/

🔗 Connect with Mary!

💻 https://maryadkinswriter.com/

📷 Instagram: @adkinsmary

🎙️Podcast: The First Draft Club

🎥Youtube: @maryadkins

🔗 Connect with Steph!

💻 https://ninetypes.co/

📷 Instagram: @ninetypesco

🎥Youtube: @stephbarronhall

Here are the key takeaways:

Typing as an Enneagram Three
Mary’s journey from lawyer to writer
Patience and rejection as an Enneagram Three
The finished, published product— what’s it like?
Discussing a Type Three approach to loss and life
Working with different Enneagram Types
Mary’s goal-setting process for writing
How to connect with Mary

Resources mentioned in this episode:

Palm Beach: A Summer Beach Read by Mary Adkins
Expressive writing, according to research by James Pennebaker
Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk
Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert

Not sure about your type? Get my free self-typing guide and a series of six emails to walk you through the whole process. Sign up here: https://ninetypes.co/selftyping-guide

Want to keep learning about the Enneagram? Grab Steph’s new book, Enneagram in Real Life! Find the book, ebook, or audiobook wherever books are sold.

Talking Worst-Case Scenarios as an Enneagram 6 with Marta Gillilan Oct 17, 2023

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On this week’s episode of Enneagram IRL, we meet with Marta Gillilan. Marta has taught in public and private schools both in the US and in Europe. Marta has a Master’s degree in Global Leadership from Fuller Seminary. She has over 25 years of experience in teaching, leadership teams, small group dynamics as well as individual coaching. Marta has extensive practical experience interweaving the complexities of the Enneagram into everyday life coaching for all types of people. Marta teaches Enneagram in classes, small groups and retreats but her passion is coaching and mentoring, relationship building, and leadership development. She's traveled extensively but calls Kansas City, Missouri her home.

🔗 Connect with Marta!

💻Email: marta.gillilan@gmail.com

📷 Instagram: @smartagram

🔗 Connect with Steph!

💻 https://ninetypes.co/

📷 Instagram: @ninetypesco

🎥Youtube: @stephbarronhall

Here are the key takeaways:

Marta’s typing experience as a Six
The Type Six inner committee and self-doubt
Typing as a Sexual Six
Opposite-case scenario vs. worst-case scenario
“Grief feels like fear”
Remembering & honoring Marta’s Type Five husband
Living with grief— what worked, what didn’t?
Being in touch with your body as a Six
The transformational power of the Enneagram

Resources mentioned in this episode:

Learn more about subtypes! Download my free subtypes guide here.

Not sure about your type? Get my free self-typing guide and a series of six emails to walk you through the whole process. Sign up here: https://ninetypes.co/selftyping-guide

Want to keep learning about the Enneagram? Grab Steph’s new book, Enneagram in Real Life! Find the book, ebook, or audiobook wherever books are sold.

A Quick Overview of Enneagram Intelligence Centers Oct 10, 2023

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The #1 Thing New Enneagram Learners Miss
YOUTUBE LINK: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b4H1GSIOb3Q&t=125s
The Enneagram might seem simple at first glance: you take a quick quiz, it spits out a number, and now you know your type. That’s it, right?
Well, not quite! The truth is, there’s a lot more to the Enneagram, especially if you want to use it for growth and inner work. In this video, you’ll learn about your intelligence center and why that matters.
→ How do you see the core emotion of your intelligence center in your life?
→ If you feel disconnected from your intelligence center (for example, sometimes 9s feel disconnected from the action of the body center, and 3s feel disconnected from the emotionality of the heart center), what would it be like to tune into that more?
Thanks so much for listening! Leave your questions & future video requests as comments on the YouTube video here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b4H1GSIOb3Q&t=125s
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🔗 Connect with me!
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Want to keep learning about the Enneagram? Grab Steph’s new book, Enneagram in Real Life! Find the book, ebook, or audiobook wherever books are sold.

Learning to Slow Down and Embrace Solitude as an Enneagram 7 with Elle Pugh Oct 03, 2023

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On this week’s episode of Enneagram IRL, we meet with Elle Pugh, registered Nurse and Certified Enneagram Professional Coach, who is passionate about joining others on their journey to self-discovery, healing and liberation. Upon reaching burnout while working as a bedside nurse eight years ago, Elle transitioned to the startup space, leading a team of 30 medical professionals. It was during that time Elle learned about the Enneagram and began using it for her own personal and professional growth as well as to help her team work together more effectively. Inspired by the healing potential with the Enneagram, Elle became a Certified Enneagram Coach and Consultant through the Chestnut Paes Enneagram Academy in 2020. She now coaches individuals and teams through the lens of the Enneagram to live healthier, more integrated lives. Elle lives in Austin with her husband Reagan and their dog Lily.

Join Elle’s 1:1 9-week coaching program

Book a corporate workshop for your team with Elle

🔗 Connect with Elle!

💻 https://www.beyondyourtype.co/

📷 Instagram: @beyondenneagram

https://www.linkedin.com/in/elle-pugh-rn-bsn-35b2aa2a/

🔗 Connect with Steph!

💻 https://ninetypes.co/

📷 Instagram: @ninetypesco

🎥Youtube: @stephbarronhall

Here are the key takeaways:

Elle’s typing journey as a Social Seven
Typing differences between Two & Seven
Discussing the influences of the instincts: Self-Preservation, Social, Sexual
How has the Enneagram helped in conflict?
The Biology of Trauma
The Virtue of Sobriety as a Type Seven
How to connect with Elle

Resources mentioned in this episode:

Learn more about subtypes! Download my free subtypes guide here.

Not sure about your type? Get my free self-typing guide and a series of six emails to walk you through the whole process. Sign up here: https://ninetypes.co/selftyping-guide

Want to keep learning about the Enneagram? Grab Steph’s new book, Enneagram in Real Life! Find the book, ebook, or audiobook wherever books are sold.

A Guided Tour of Internal Family Systems (IFS) with Amanda Steed, LCSW Sep 26, 2023

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On this week’s episode of Enneagram IRL, we meet with Amanda Steed. Amanda is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) serving Texas, Colorado, and Washington through her private practice - Unfolding Collective - Therapy & Consulting. With a mission to facilitate healing and wholeness, Amanda believes in the power of establishing trusting relationships as the cornerstone of therapy.

Her therapeutic approach is rooted in trauma-informed care and attachment-focused techniques. Amanda has completed Level One IFS training, is EMDR-certified and an EMDR consultant in training. She trusts these evidence-based modalities to guide her clients through core wound healing, creating new pathways in the brain, and empowering them to regain a fulfilling life. She specializes in working with spiritual trauma, anxiety disorders, ADHD, and codependency.

While Amanda takes her work very seriously, she does not take herself seriously and enjoys being silly as often as possible.

🔗 Connect with Amanda!

💻 https://www.amandasteed.com/

📷 Instagram: @amandasteedlcsw

🔗 Connect with Steph!

💻 https://ninetypes.co/

📷 Instagram: @ninetypesco

🎥 Youtube: @stephbarronhall

Here are the key takeaways:

A dive into Amanda’s background
Amanda’s strengths as a Type Eight therapist
What is Internal Family Systems Therapy?
Discussing the “inner critic” and “inner child” parts of ourselves
Healing vulnerable parts
“We all have the ability to hold self-energy”
How can IFS help with trauma or ADHD?
Resources for Internal Family Systems Therapy
How to connect with Amanda

Resources mentioned in this episode:

Not sure about your type? Get my free self-typing guide and a series of six emails to walk you through the whole process. Sign up here: https://ninetypes.co/selftyping-guide

Want to keep learning about the Enneagram? Grab Steph’s new book, Enneagram in Real Life! Find the book, ebook, or audiobook wherever books are sold.

Relationship Dealbreakers by Enneagram Type Sep 19, 2023

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On this week’s episode of Enneagram IRL, Steph is breaking down the relationship dealbreakers of each Enneagram type. In the spirit of Parks and Rec’s Tom Haverford’s “Oh No No” list, join us as Steph shares responses collected from hundreds of individuals on Instagram!

Do you have an “Oh No No” that we didn’t mention? Send us a DM on IG and let us know!

Subscribe to catch this episode on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@stephbarronhall

🔗 Connect with Steph!

💻 https://ninetypes.co/

📷 Instagram: @ninetypesco

🎥 Youtube: @stephbarronhall

Click here to learn more about how Steph can help your team using the Enneagram!

Learn more about subtypes! Download my free subtypes guide here.

Not sure about your type? Get my free self-typing guide and a series of six emails to walk you through the whole process. Sign up here: https://ninetypes.co/selftyping-guide

Want to keep learning about the Enneagram? Grab Steph’s new book, Enneagram in Real Life! Find the book, ebook, or audiobook wherever books are sold.

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