Enneagram and Marriage

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Sacred Rest for You & Your Relationship w/Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith, MD, Type 3 Apr 01, 2024

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Rest is the most underused, safe, and chemical-free alternative to relieve stress, and it's about way more than just sleep. Today we cover seven different kinds of rest you need with our esteemed guest author, researcher, and physician, Dr. Sandra Dalton-Smith, MD, Enneagram 3 (as featured on TedX, CNN, Fox, MSNBC), to tell us how we can and must get rest (and we even offer you a free test to find your rest deficits!). Join us for a vulnerable conversation where we reveal the types of rest Christa needs most, too, as you figure yours out as well! Tune in to truly learn rest for you, your marriage, and your family right here! Watch on YoutTube here!

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Building Sexual Attraction Together in Marriage: Igniting the SX Instinct Together in Marriage Mar 27, 2024

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As you aim for a healthy and loving sexual intimacy life in your marriage, in this second installment of the Igniting Your SX Instinct Series of the Enneagram and Marriage podcast, we're not only discussing what attracts us to one another and what builds our love and chemistry up, but also about what builds desire biologically, psychologically, and emotionally for a healthy love life together just for the two of you in your marriage! Watch on YouTube here!

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The sensate focus exercise is here: https://health.cornell.edu/sites/health/files/pdf-library/sensate-focus.pdf For even more details on the research behind this episode, check out www.thepauselife.com and www.hubermanlab.com

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Connecting Authentically to Process Our Joy & Grief, w/Author Molly Stillman, 2w3 (2-8 Pairing) Mar 25, 2024

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Right now in our highly curated culture, individuals are desperately seeking authenticity, depth, and understanding together. This is because we all need connection as we process hard pieces of life and grief together if we want joy, love, and laughter to genuinely emerge from a healthy space. To tackle this huge topic with joy and depth both, Christa is joined by the highly authentic (and highly humorous) author and podcast host Molly Stillman (The Molly Stillman Show), author of the deeply personal account, If I Don't Laugh I'll Cry: How Death, Debt, and Comedy Led to a Life of Faith, Farming, and Forgetting What I Came into This Room For. Tune in to hear Molly's tips for other 2-8 couples and for all of us walking through communication issues, and life crises, including finances, losing parents, and potentially losing ourselves too, if we step into the light of connection and faith. Watch on YouTube!

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Igniting the SX Instinct in Marriage: An E + M Series Mar 20, 2024

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Marriages are often broken down by unhealthy sexual intimacy triggers and practices and in your quest to get healthy intimately together in your sexual instincts, you need to address your connection from a foundation of goodness. In this new E + M Series, you'll learn to connect through intimacy that starts with foreplay both outside and inside of the bedroom. Here we begin to ignite your passion again by laying intimacy building blocks as you and your spouse to build a safe emotional landscape together, one step at a time. Tune in as we gently and respectfully explore how to nourish your sexual intimacy life from the foundation up, bringing a baseline of goodness versus rigidity, perfectionism, and especially as you let go of hurtful practices that ultimately leave you in shame or addictive cycles. Tune in to create a baseline for true, heart-stopping intimacy goodness together here in this primer for the SX instinct new series!

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Help for Dealing with Narcissists in Relationships, w/NPD Certified Expert Melissa Thompson Mar 18, 2024

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Though compassion and gentleness are wonderful traits, when these traits are paired with codependency, enabling, and a lack of healthy boundaries, vulnerable individuals, namely empaths, often repeat familiar trauma cycles by pairing with a mate who has high narcissism markers in relationships, sometimes even pathologically so. This high tolerance for unchecked inappropriate behaviors can lead to fawning or freezing when it's time to set boundaries, get help, or leave a dangerous relationship. If you find yourself or someone you love shamed or scared to leave but being threatened and gaslighted in a marital, dating, or spiritual situation, this episode is for you! We are joined by NPD expert Melissa Thompson, Enneagram 2, who is here giving us the very best tools for healthy empowerment! Watch on YouTube!

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Typing + Lessons in Love from Jane Austen's Pride and Prejudice w/Hannah Hardin, Type 4 Mar 13, 2024

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In this just-for-fun E + M on Spring break episode, we ask you to kick back and enjoy a relaxed and endearing episode as we discuss the enemies-to-lovers trope of Jane Austen's Pride and Prejudice as well as what types we think the most romantic couple of all time are, Mr. Darcy and Elizabeth Bennet. Don’t miss this chance to explore the hilarious cast of characters we will discuss with love and fun here on this E + M meet-cute of literature and love! Watch on YouTube here!

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Finding Restful Rhythms for Your Personality Type in Marriage Mar 11, 2024

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Now that daylight savings time has come and you’re finding energy wherever you can, you'll also need rest so you can truly thrive together for the long haul. Here Christa helps each type set the tone for healthy and much-needed restful rhythms, which differ for individuals of each personality type both in life and in relationships. Listen and learn how to find healthy rest amidst the hard work for you and also your partner right here! Watch on YouiTube here!

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Improving Energy Levels for Your Relationship Type by Type Mar 06, 2024

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As humans, we desire to use our energy well so we can tend to our families, and today we talk about putting this into place practically with joy. Since each type has a very particular way of over (or under) expending their energy, in this mini-episode, you're also getting a few brief tips for you type by type. Learn to use your energy to the very fullest for your relationships to thrive here!

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Caring for the Soul of the Helper with Dr. Holly Oxhandler, Ph.D., MSW, Enneagram 2 (2-9 Pairing) Mar 04, 2024

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If you’re serving clients, patients, kids, families, students, or helping at work in a fast-paced environment, inviting in restful rhythms in life or marriage may feel audacious and impossible next to your never-ending to-do list. However, those who are natural givers often deeply struggle to thrive because of this tendency to serve until burnout. Here you're invited to lean into practices that will help you to give for the long haul as we chat with Holly Oxhandler, Ph.D., MSW, author (Soul of the Helper) Enneagram 2 (2/9 pairing), mom, wife, associate professor and associate dean at Baylor University’s school of social work. Don’t miss this chance to learn how it’s truly possible to slow down as well as love your people well. Watch on YouTube here!

Holly K. Oxhandler, PhD, LMSW, is an associate professor and the associate dean for research and faculty development at Baylor University’s Diana R. Garland School of Social Work. Dr. Oxhandler has developed various instruments to measure the integration of clients’ religion/spirituality in mental health treatment, the integration of the helping professionals’ faith in their work, as well as clients’ views toward discussing their spirituality in treatment.

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An E + M Mini: Myers-Briggs (MBTI) & Your Marriage Feb 28, 2024

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Although the Enneagram is a wonderful tool to assess our relationship depths, other personality assessments also offer us excellent insight for our relationship love styles. Here Christa introduces you to Myers Briggs (the MBTI) in this listener-requested mini episode to give you a brief tutorial on how you may grow in love and work life together using this robust system. Explore Introverting versus Extroversion (I/E), Sensing versus Intuition (S/I), Thinking versus Feeling (T/F), and Judging versus Perceiving (J/P). As you learn, allow yourself to lean into your partners' type as well as to your lesser activated styles of relating too as you consider your differences for a fuller life experience. Don’t know your types? Watch On YouTube Here

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