Enneagram and Marriage

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Bearing Witness at Home: Learning How to Encourage Each Other Oct 07, 2026

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Encouragement is essential as you walk together through the emotional, spiritual, and physical ups and downs of your family story. Christa invites you on a journey of spiritual and psychological safety and connection-building as you learn to encourage and bear witness to one another's stories. Together you'll explore what it means to stay present to someone's story without rushing to fix or steer it, and how to remain close while honoring that each person's formation belongs to them. Christa also helps you understand and support every Enneagram type on their spiritual formation journey as a person who is both connected to you and differentiated from you. Don't miss this episode! Listen here! Watch on YouTube, and for Tyler Zach's Spiritual Formation Summit, click here!

The Type·ish Spiritual Formation Summit begins on Oct 20, 2026 and runs through Oct 23, 2026! If you’ve been meaning to register, there’s still time to get your free ticket.

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Healing the Sexual Shame Stories Inside of Us w/Dr. Dan Allender, 8 Oct 05, 2026

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Many individuals and spouses have experienced or been exposed to materials, whether explicitly sexual or suggestive, that have caused wounds in our marriages. Today we bring an important topic Christians and non-believers alike may struggle with: shame and what to do with it, when it rears its ugly head in a marriage. Whether you're more likely to fight, freeze, or fawn, this episode helps you to do the slower, worthy storywork to find out where you and your spouse have been, and as the kindness of God (Romans 2:4) gets revealed under the scars, where you also may go as you heal. Listen here! Watch on YouTube!

Here are the links for the Recovery Weeks over at The Allender Center so you can make a plan to take some time healing (there are men's weeks and women's weeks)

https://theallendercenter.org/offerings/workshops/

Here is the free sexual abuse audio series Dr. Dan Allender and those at the Allender Center walk you through:

https://online.theallendercenter.org/order?ct=a30acd8a-824b-4db2-b216-70d6b015b31d

Here is Dan's Healing the Wounded Heart virtual course: https://online.theallendercenter.org/courses/healing-the-wounded-heart

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What Grows in the Dark: Spiritual Shadows and the Enneagram with Amy Wicks, 7 Sep 30, 2026

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Just as roots do their most important work underground, much of our spiritual growth happens in the places we'd rather not look, at the understory of our Enneagram type. Together we explore the shadows we hide from ourselves and how God meets us there with grace instead of shame. Today, Christa welcomes author Amy Wicks to open the pages of her new book, Wholehearted Enneagram: From Type to Transformation, where each Enneagram type is met with a tree, a story, and a wholehearted invitation to thrive. Stay until the end, because Amy is sharing a sample chapter with listeners, too, with her beautiful vocal reader at the end of the episode as a bonus. It's a perfect conversation for spooky season, and our fall contest is part of the fun, so listen closely right here! Watch on YouTube!

Win a copy of Amy's book, Christa's book, and a Supper Sleuths Mystery Dinner Game - Winner Chosen Sun Oct 4, 3 Winners Announced Oct 5th!

Send your vote in to enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com

Spooky Season Clues:

I sit in the heart center, yet I'm the type most likely to lose track of what I actually feel.
I can read a room in three seconds and become whoever it needs.
Somewhere along the way I learned I was loved for what I did, so I kept doing.

Visit Amy here at her website! www.wholeheartedenneagram.com

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I Never Knew: Family Secrets and Shadows w/Phyllis Robertson Thomas, Type 5 Sep 28, 2026

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Past family shadows affect us in ways we may never know, and today we talk to Phyllis Robertson as she walks us through the story of when you have surprises in your family story. Today we talk about how Phyllis (now married 32 years, 5-4 pairing) found out at age forty-four, and a past that included significant trauma, that Duck Dynasty’s Phil Robertson was her father. Her life changed dramatically as the changes unfolded, and she began to deal with old trauma on new levels, which led to career change as well, becoming a trauma therapist. Today we invite listeners to deal with their own painful stories with good practices, the pacing of a logical type Five so negative feelings don't take over, and yet with redemption and hope, even in your most broken and difficult places. Her new book, I Never Knew: Finding Healing and Renewal after Trauma, is ready for order as well! Watch on YouTube!

Find Phyllis on her website: https://phyllisrobertsonthomas.com/

Get Phyllis' book also: https://www.ineverknewbook.com/

Find Phyllis on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/phyllisduckdaughter/?hl=en

You can find her on the Duck Dynasty Pod here below:

https://youtu.be/9n4Ab6mL9W0?si=YD9337YYIr5_AC6n

https://youtu.be/kA4BCl5mhbY?si=MJgoQOfNB0EXjkwk

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Attachment Healing for Every Enneagram Type Sep 23, 2026

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Friends, no where in the world is there a perfect spouse who is one hundred percent of the time securely attached, yet we all know secure attachment is what we ALL truly want. In this clarifying and practical episode, Christa walks you through every Enneagram type and ways they can move from the shadows of anxious and avoidant attachment to finding deeper security. It takes a bit of healthy risk, realistic expecations, and a bit of grit, but you'll be so happy you tuned in as you WILL find deeper and healthier connection for putting these tips into practice! Listen here! Watch on YouTube!

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Brave Love, Great Sex - Healing Attachment Shadows in the Bedroom w/Laurie Watson, Ph.D., Type 2 Sep 18, 2026

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Most couples have deep desire for sensual and intimate love in the bedroom, and today we're looking at perhaps. the biggest shadow, your attachment shadows in the bedroom with best-selling author Dr. Laurie Watson, Ph.D, (2-9 pairing). We get to talk personality a bit here as Dr. Laurie learns about the Enneagram with us but the foremost (and fascinating) conversation here is about how to bring you safer connection, whether you're anxiously or avoidantly attached. We're also bringing you Laurie's brand new and #1 release book, Brave Love, Great Sex: Harnessing Attachment Theory for Passionate Relationships on attachment and your sex life here! https://a.co/d/0dGyNQ0g. You don't want to miss this fresh and brave conversation about true intimacy! Watch on YouTube!

Laurie's podcast, Brave Love, Great Sex is Here! https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/brave-love-great-sex-couples-therapy-podcast/id1083324677

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Find Amy here at her website! www.simplywholehearted.com

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Buried, Not Gone: Rediscovering the Spark You Thought You Lost Sep 16, 2026

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To kick off a special Sexy September with Date Your Spouse and a whole collective of marriage voices, Christa reframes fading desire as something covered over rather than lost. Drawing on the dual control model of desire, she shows that most couples don't have a broken accelerator, they have a brake pressed to the floor by stress, resentment, routine, and feeling unseen, plus the hidden shadow layers of shame and old messages about sex. She names the specific things that bury the spark, the mental load, unrepaired hurt, over-familiarity, and the loss of feeling wanted, and offers real hope: buried things can be unearthed. With practical ways to start clearing even one layer this week, this episode is a hopeful, freeing start to the month. And if you want the full science of turning the spark back up, the deep dive shows you exactly how.

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Big Feelings, Safe Places: The Shadow of Emotion in Marriage, with Bailey Gillespie, 4 Sep 14, 2026

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Almost all of us carry a shadow around our own feelings, either we fear them, stuff them down, or let them flood a room until no one can hear each other anymore. In this warm and honest convo, Christa welcomes writer Bailey Gillespie to talk about the shadow of big emotions, and how to bring real containment and boundaries to our feelings without silencing them. Bailey and her husband navigate a rich, layered marriage: neurodiversity including ADHD, a ten-year age gap, and two passionate, emotionally alive temperaments as a type 4 and type 6 pairing. Together, we explore why differentiation is key when both partners feel things deeply, how to hold a big feeling without being held hostage by it, and how to actually express what's real in a way your spouse can receive! If you and your spouse keep losing each other in the storm of big feelings, this one will meet you right where you are, with real hope. Watch on YouTube!

Follow Bailey and her writing journey here: https://www.instagram.com/baileylgillespie/

FInd her Substack here: https://baileygillespie.substack.com

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The Shadows That Cost You Closeness For Every Type Sep 09, 2026

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We're deep in our month on shadow work, and this one gets personal. Your shadow is the part of you that you'd rather not look at, the old reactions, fears, and wounds running beneath the surface, formed long before you ever met your spouse. And here's the catch: what we won't look at, we tend to act out, usually on the person closest to us. In this episode Christa explores how your shadow shows up in marriage, the overreaction that's bigger than the moment, the story you tell about your spouse that's really about your old wounds, the pattern you swore you'd never repeat. Your spouse often isn't the real problem, they're the screen your shadow gets projected onto. But there's freedom here: when you own your shadow, you stop handing your spouse the blame for what's yours to heal, and the marriage you want may be closer than you think, waiting on the other side of the part of yourself you've been avoiding. Watch on YouTube!

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Couples in the Shadow of Addiction, with Caroline Beidler, MSW, Type 1w9 Sep 07, 2026

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Addiction rarely stays in one person, it touches the whole family, and it casts a long shadow over marriages, parents, children, and homes. As we continue our month on shadow work, Christa welcomes Caroline Beidler, author, speaker, and Managing Editor of Recovery.com, for an honest and hopeful conversation about loving someone in recovery, with a non-shaming yet healthy boundaried stance as needed. Drawing on her new book and her own lived experience of addiction, mental health, and trauma recovery, Caroline speaks with the warmth, grit, and insight her readers know her for in her Type 1w9 gift of goodness and active peace. Together, we explore what it means to love someone through addiction and recovery without losing yourself, how the shadow of addiction shapes a family's patterns and roles, the boundaries that protect both love and safety, and where real hope and healing take root! Whether addiction has touched your family directly or you walk alongside someone whose has, this conversation will meet you with compassion and light. Listen here! Watch on YouTube!

Get Caroline's helpful book here, When You Love Someone in Recovery! https://a.co/d/0faMBOJI

Find Caroline on www.recovery.com

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