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224: Why Contradicting Yourself Is Good For Your Growth Apr 05, 2018

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Today I’m talking about being a living, breathing, walking paradox. As we all grow and evolve, there’s likely been at least a handful of times where you’ve felt this way. You’ve thought you were on the right path, but suddenly something just doesn’t feel right to you. It’s like your favorite jacket. You wear it all the time, but suddenly you just don’t like it anymore. You need a change so you try a new jacket on for size.

“If you’re growing and evolving, change is a part of you.”

When resistance like this rears up, you have a choice – either keep resisting and take zero action for it, or lean in to discover what part of your authentic truth comes out. It is so freeing!

During this episode, I read a short excerpt from A Tribe Called Bliss, about my own paradoxical truths that I’ve discovered and allowed to free me. We are all multi-faceted people. We don’t need to be ONE thing. One of my paradox examples is being humble yet powerful and confident.

It feels super awkward at first and trust me, it took (and still takes) a lot of work to let these contradictions show though. But you’re only stifling your true authentic self. Share your opinions and in turn share your value with others.

What’s a paradox in your life that you can step into, own and celebrate? Even the smallest things count as big ones.

“Contradict your way to clarity.”

You will feel the most you you’ve ever felt and invite more amazing people into your life who are doing the same.

In This Episode We Talk about:

Why you should lean into resistance
Being a walking paradox
Lori’s paradoxical truths that have personally freed her

Resources:

Go to ATribeCalledBliss.com to find out the latest on Lori’s book tour.

First stop: May 15 • Los Angeles at Wanderlust Hollywood

A Tribe Called Bliss by Lori Harder

Now available for pre-order at loriharder.com/amazon

Join me on the A Tribe Called Bliss Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1571018952966750/

Check out my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

223: How Being YOU Attracts ABUNDANCE with Chris Lee Apr 02, 2018

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I’m so thankful that I stumbled across life coach, Chris Lee, on Lewis Howes’ podcast awhile back and that I since have had the honor of talking to him in person and now on Earn Your Happy! With over 27 years of experience in the arena of mindfulness and emotional intelligence, I had a feeling our conversation would be epic – and I know you won’t be disappointed.

With a childhood spent in Puerto Rico as a Jewish American, Chris’ life was not picture perfect. He was bullied and made fun of for his religion but his strong mother helped him to realize that he was able to look beyond the current situation and see how he could support his own life and make the situation better. He thought that if he could make the best out of this situation, that he could also help teach other people to do the same.

What I love about Chris’ work is that he only teaches the tools that he has experience with (you can find those 10 principles in his book noted in Resources). Furthermore, he is admittedly still a work in progress and still uses these tools to keep him living his best, most fulfilling and authentic life. I know you’re going to identify so much with Chris and the stories he’s shared. And it’s my hope that it will help you step into your own super-star authentic self as well.

Question Highlights:

Would you share what you’re doing now and what was the turning point that got you started?
What were some of the things that brought you to what you’re doing now?
What was the first level for you of opening up?
What was the first thing you needed to move through and how did you see how the tools expanded into other areas?
How do you move through issues of self-worth?
How did you find your authentic sentence/self and how does someone else find theirs?
Where do you borrow faith from, where does it come from and how do you get enough faith and courage to take the first big step and leap?
How do you stay connected to your why?
What’s making you feel the most abundant right now?
What does fun feel like to you? And why is fun productive in your life?
How do you tap into compassion without getting completely sucked in or drained?

In This Episode We Talk about:

Chris’ childhood as a Jewish American in Puerto Rico
The duality of light and dark within all of us
Shifting mindset, focus and energy to attract more good
Shifting actions to shift results
Developing authentic affirmations
Determining your why and staying connected to it
The importance of having a group of supportive, like-minded friends
How Chris creates and uses his vision board
How Chris starts every day with meditation/prayers of gratitude
Interpreting things in a way that empowers
How Chris plans to bring his wisdom to people’s homes
And much more…

Quotes:

“I don’t need to make it happen, I can attract it to happen.”

“The power within has the power to really move things in a way you never thought possible.”

“When I honor my purpose, I’m happier.”

“Create a bulletproof belief about yourself based on who you authentically are.”

“The why is the fuel.”

“True freedom is the ability to interpret.”

Chris Lee is a transformational facilitator, coach, and TV personality. For 27 years, Lee has traveled the world teaching and empowering people, including world business leaders and Hollywood celebrities, to live an extraordinary life.

Resources:

FB: facebook.com/chrisleemotivador.lee

IG: @chrismotivador

Transform Your Life: 10 Principles of Abundance and Prosperity http://a.co/gBzcAAK

Check out my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

222: UPGRADE Your MELTDOWNS Mar 29, 2018

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Yes, you read this episode’s title correctly – I’m talking about meltdowns today. I’m owning the fact that I’ve had a few more than normal lately and I want you to know that you’re entitled to have them, too.

“Meltdowns are healthy – don’t resist them.”

Right now, as you’ve heard, I’ve got a lot of amazing things happening, but all of these things are pushing me right to the edge. It’s a lot like feeling like a pressure cooker. The stress builds and builds and I feel like I’m going to burst! And… sometimes I do and that’s OK!

As a matter of fact, after my magical Bliss Project event both my husband and I had meltdowns at the end of our short two-day recharge. After we had them though, we felt better. And it’s because we allowed ourselves to move through our emotions!

Here’s where the upgrade comes in… You can have a downward spiral, but find the good in it! Don’t let it get out of control to the point where all you’re looking for is the bad. Have the meltdown, but find some good in it by making sure to have a solution-based conversation after – either with a friend, family member or co-worker.

I’m not going to lie. Different seasons of your life are going to require EVERYTHING you’ve got and it’s going to feel like it’s never-ending. You’ll likely want to throw the towel in and fly to a remote island. But it won’t always be this way. I promise if you keep going, you will make it to the other side.

So, what will make you feel better or more in control in the present moment? Whatever it is, do that. Just make sure that you’re getting super intentional by creating the time and space to recharge. And of course, having that full-out ugly cry will certainly help every now and then, too!

In This Episode We Talk about:

Why you’re entitled to have meltdowns
Why meltdowns are healthy
Getting intentional with your time and space

Resources:

A Tribe Called Bliss by Lori Harder

Now available for order at loriharder.com/amazon

Join me on the A Tribe Called Bliss Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1571018952966750/

Check out my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

221: What No One Ever Shares About Becoming Successful with Chris and Lori Harder Mar 26, 2018

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Yay! I am so excited for today's episode because we have my husband back on the podcast!

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220: The Key to Unlocking Your BLISS! Mar 22, 2018

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Today I talk about being authentic as it’s one of the most important things you can follow throughout your lives. But for a lot of us, we find ourselves struggling to attract and connect with the people who we want to connect with. Personally, I discovered later on that it was because I wasn’t showing up fully as myself.

I didn’t want others to see that I was anything but “fine” because I didn’t want to be a burden. Instead, to receive much-needed validation, I constantly put myself in the role of fixer and peacekeeper. So in order to start showing my true self, I had to get vulnerable and share more of myself to others (something I still have to make an effort to do).

“If we don’t risk vulnerability and rejection, we will never actually have authentic connection.”

It won’t always go well, but when you take the risk, you leave yourself open to attract a tribe of people who will act as a safety net for you when you do face your fears. In my book, A Tribe Called Bliss, Be Authentic is one of 7 sacred agreements to creating relationships (I read an excerpt from the book during this episode).

Becoming authentic is actually following your joy and what lights you up. When we’re not following that it often has to do with the relationships we’re in. And sometimes we have to weed out the inauthentic relationships that are keeping us tied to the version of ourselves that we think we should show up as.

“You can’t be seen if you’re not showing up fully you.”

It’s time to get vulnerable and take risks and peel back all the layers of the real you. By doing this you’re able to attract your own tribe and attract all the people you’re meant to attract. Put simply:

“Stop trying to fit in and start trying to be more YOU.”

Imagine the incredibly powerful shift and movement we can all make with we join forces for good that cannot be stopped. I’m so excited to get this shift started on May 8!

In This Episode We Talk about:

What it means to be authentic
Discovering and weeding out inauthenticity in your life
Attracting who you are meant to attract
How Lori’s A Tribe Called Bliss book works

Resources:

A Tribe Called Bliss by Lori Harder

Now available for pre-order at loriharder.com/amazon

Join me on the A Tribe Called Bliss Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1571018952966750/

Check out my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

219: Get in Flow by Stepping into Fear with Lindsay Sukornyk Mar 19, 2018

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I’m so thrilled to have my friend and fellow master-minder, Lindsay Sukornyk, back on the show! Not only is she a great coach, yoga instructor and mom, but she’s also one of the best conversationalists I know. When we talk there is never a bad conversation.

In this episode, we talk about stepping into fear and reframing it as an opportunity for growth and aliveness. Lindsay and I also discuss the impact nature has when it comes to helping you get into more of a flow state (her Alive + Awake retreats are perfect for this). Regardless, it’s about listening to the “whispers” that nudge you in the direction you’re meant to go. And generally those are the things that resonate with you and make you feel good. Don’t know about you, but I am all for more of that in my life!

I guarantee you’ll feel a little lighter after listening to the words of my unicorn friend and eager to elevate your life to the next level (perhaps in Costa Rica?).

Question Highlights:

How did you decide to move to Costa Rica and start doing retreats and other things?
What makes you this insane warrior going straight for the fear and straight for the opposite of what’s logical?
How do you allow yourself to lean in, have faith and get into the flow state at any time?
Why are we so resistant to be ourselves?
What is most exciting for you right now?

In This Episode We Talk about:

How Lindsay left her elite career because she was unsatisfied and wanted to tap into her highest potential
Yoga, mindfulness and spirituality
Working remotely and how to make it work
How Lindsay changed her perspective on fear and reframed it as an opportunity for growth and aliveness
Triggering flow states by stepping into fear
The effect nature has on transformation in all forms
How Lindsay’s Alive + Awake retreats help others step into their highest potential
Lindsay’s book-writing journey so far
And much more…

Quotes:

“Listen to the whispers.”

“This way to the good stuff.”

“This whole journey for us has been one of leaping into the unknown and making it up as we go and then ultimately listening to the whispers of our souls, but also taking the actions required.”

“When we play and have fun, everything can go way faster and far more smoothly – especially when it comes to transformation.”

“Surrender to the magic that’s available when we let go of our plans and expectations.”

Lindsay is a unicorn trainer, transformational leadership expert, master coach, writer, wanderluster, and mama of four amazing kids. She is living the dream with her family in Costa Rica, France and Canada, where she guides elite leaders from around the world through transformational activation experiences in the surf town where she lives. She is completing her first novel and screenplay, “Path of the Unicorn.” A regular Huffington Post blogger and often featured as a speaker and expert in the media, she is a certified professional co-active coach (CPCC) with CTI and a RYT 500 certified yoga teacher. Lindsay has a B. Comm from Queen’s University, where she majored in strategy and organizational behavior. She began her career at A.T. Kearney, a top-tier global management consulting firm. In the elite transformational leadership coaching space for over 15 years, Lindsay has spoken to and coached founders and influencers at global events such as Afest, the Bliss Project, and leading organizations, including Accenture, and A.T. Kearney, Starbucks, Deloitte, P&G, Blackberry and Revlon. She has been cited as an expert media such as The Globe and Mail, The National Post and Canadian Business Magazine.

Resources:

FB: facebook.com/lsukornyk

IG: @lindsaysukornyk

AliveAndAwake.com

Next Founders and Influencers Retreat is Nov. 10-17 in Costa Rica

Previous Earn Your Happy episode with Lindsay

Check out my website at http://www.loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

218: LESS Preparation, MORE Faith Mar 15, 2018

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With so many projects happening right now, I’ve had to tap into a different part of myself – a part that requires me to lean into my faith and imperfection. You see for a long time I had a story around the amount of time I needed to create. What I’m finding now is that it was just that – a story.

In the past few months, I’ve learned to create (talks, programs etc.) in a much shorter amount of time. And scheduling wise, because I didn’t have a choice, I practiced massive amounts of faith to get it all done!

“Everything can be done in the amount of time that you have.”

The truth is that we use the amount of time we have – no matter how long that time period is. For example, I took the full 30 days to write my TedTalk – and tweaked right up until the end. I wanted my message to be perfect. But what I’ve found is that my audience doesn’t want to see perfection all the time. And just because I have the time, doesn’t mean I should use it all.

“When you over-prepare, over-perfect and over-tweak, you’re not leaving space for faith or trust.”

Where in your life are you over-perfecting or over-prepping? Now, don’t get me wrong, you should prepare, but you must leave space for your divine message to come through. Try tapping into what your audience wants to hear. Chances are if you have the fears, they do too. How can you use your experiences to help them overcome them? When you authentically share like this you are inviting yourself and others to up-level and live out your purpose.

After all, it isn’t about you – it’s about your audience and the message that you were meant to share. There is so much power in your imperfections – so let them shine through and have faith that others will relate to them as well.

“Focus on less perfection and prepping in order for your message to come through.”

In This Episode We Talk about:

Upleveling and learning to create in a shorter amount of time
Why procrastination can be a gift
The power of imperfection and authenticity to change lives

Resources:

Aligned Course

Loriharder.com/aligned

A Tribe Called Bliss by Lori Harder

Now available for pre-order at loriharder.com/amazon

Join me on the A Tribe Called Bliss Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1571018952966750/

Check out my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

217: Tap In To Your Creative Flow with Hila Plitmann Mar 12, 2018

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Today’s guest, Hila Plitmann, is like me, a regular at SoulCycle. It’s no surprise that I noticed her energy right away as she was always smiling, singing or dancing. But when I heard her angelic voice, it stopped me in my tracks and I knew I had to meet her.

Hila connected with music at a very young age, landed her first opera role at age 14 and attended Julliard School of Music. Now a singer and actor, Hila is just as passionate about music now as she was years ago. And once you hear her sing (and our conversation), you’ll see the intention and light behind her.

I always love hearing about all of the various creative processes out there and I hope you’ll also enjoy hearing how Hila taps into the feelings of her body with each new project or song.

Question Highlights:

What was it for you when you were younger that made you know that you had to follow this dream of singing, and what were the consequences if you didn’t experience or follow it?
What would you say to someone who maybe doesn’t know how that creative expression can come about? How do you nurture that?
When you go into creation mode, what are you thinking when you want to put something out in the world?
Did you recognize your dream and create it? What happened after?
What do you do now when you have a lot of extra creative energy?
What new things are going on for you right now?

In This Episode We Talk about:

How Hila and I connected at SoulCycle
Not taking pain too seriously, but rather embracing it and inviting it in
Walking and writing to process feelings
Releasing self-judgment and criticism
Tapping into the feelings of your body to create
Hila’s non-structured structured life
And so much more…

Quotes:

“It’s a state of timelessness when music and stories are in my life.”

“Relish and let yourself be in this amazing experience of life.”

A Grammy Award-Winning Singer, Songwriter and Actress, Hila Plitmann is a glittering jewel on the international music scene, known worldwide for her astonishing musicianship, light and beautiful voice and the ability to perform challenging new work. She has worked with many leading conductors, performing with the likes of the Los Angeles Philharmonic, the New York Philharmonic and the London Symphony Orchestra.

Resources:

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbO2w3Bb09vJ5phl_YZeThg

FB: facebook.com/hila.plitmann.1

IG: @hilaplitmann

http://www.Hilaplitmann.com

Faith:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SjifzAioUfI

Good Night Moon:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yy8Amut53qw

Check out my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

216: What Elevating Really Feels Like Mar 08, 2018

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I’m just getting back from my Bliss Project event weekend and honestly still recharging and processing all the magical things that happened. One of the topics we discussed at length was what happens before and after breakthroughs or graduating to the next level.

In my experience as well as other Bliss beauties, I’ve found that when we’re on the verge of the next level of our lives, things start to go wrong. We doubt if we even have what it takes, things feel like they’re falling apart etc., and we want to give up. But if we stick to it and keep pushing through with full-time faith we’re rewarded.

“Full-time faith will always bring us to a higher elevation of life.”

Personally, before each new level I’ve discovered that either something from the past comes back to haunt me or my faith is tested by multiple things going the exact opposite way of what I’d planned.

We all have “rocket ship” or “coast” moments – we’re either full throttle and feeling a little unsure and sick or breaking through to enjoy the coast that comes after.

I would love to tell you that you could go on coast mode your whole life, and things will be easy all the time, but I can’t. Again this is where full-time faith comes in. We must believe that everything, even the bad stuff, is happening for us and helping us get to that next level as soon as possible.

In This Episode You Will Learn:

What it means to uplevel and what it feels like
Why challenges tend to come up right before a breakthrough
Why we don’t get to choose when we have faith

Resources:

A Tribe Called Bliss by Lori Harder

Now available for pre-order at loriharder.com/amazon

Join me on the A Tribe Called Bliss Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1571018952966750/

Check out my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

215: Take Your Relationships to the Next Level with Melissa Ambrosini Mar 05, 2018

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I’m so honored to have author and fellow podcaster, Melissa Ambrosini, back on Earn Your Happy! A lot has changed since we last chatted and I was so happy to catch up and dish about her new book, Open Wide: A Radically Real Guide to Deep Love, Rocking Relationships, and Soulful Sex.

Melissa believes that all of us are meant to have deep and fulfilling relationships with deep love however, often we’re unable to achieve them because we lack unconditional self-love for ourselves. Tune in to hear how you too can unlock your heart, be vulnerable and authentic – all while staying in your truth and within the healthy boundaries you set.

Question Highlights:

What have you been up to since our last podcast?
Did this book (Open Wide) come from not having fulfilling relationships?
What happens when one partner is completely open and the other isn’t aware, but you want to share it with your partner?
What are some things you can tell people after they get a vulnerability hangover?
Do you have anything in your life now that feels like it needs completion?
Do you have any favorite relationship lessons – one good, one bad?
How do you discuss boundaries with people?
What is something you want to let go of?
What is something you really want people to know about the book?

In This Episode We Talk about:

Melissa’s new book, Wide Open
Mastering your relationships
Unlocking your heart, being vulnerable and authentic
How looking at the relationships that trigger may help you grow
How vulnerability connects us
Speaking your truth
The relationships that Melissa is working on
Practicing crystal clear communication
Why you should ditch the words perfect and perfection
Creating and getting clear on healthy boundaries in all areas of life
Why we must love and accept ourselves to rock our relationships
And so much more…

Quotes:

“I’m not here for surface-level interactions.”

“When you meet your soulmate there is nowhere to hide.”

“Where there is discomfort, there is always growth on the other side.”

“Relationships require love, energy and attention.”

“Everything we tell ourselves is a story.”

Melissa Ambrosini is the bestselling author of Mastering Your Mean Girl and Open Wide, host of the number one podcast The Melissa Ambrosini Show, a speaker and self-love teacher.

In her signature straight-talking style, Melissa teaches women how to unlock their full potential, master their inner Mean Girl, smash through limiting beliefs, and ditch the self-doubt so that they can start living the life of their dreams. Named a 'self-help guru' by Elle Magazine her mission is to inspire women to create a heart-centered life one that’s wildly wealthy, fabulously healthy and bursting with love.

Resources:

Previous Earn Your Happy Episode with Melissa

Open Wide: A Radically Real Guide to Deep Love, Rocking Relationships, and Soulful Sex

http://melissaambrosini.com/openwide

IG: @melissaambrosini

FB: facebook.com/MelissaAmbrosiniTribe

Check out my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.