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What Should We Tell the Children About our Separation or Divorce? Jul 20, 2011

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Our guest, Joan Kelly PhD., a Clinical Psychologist, is an internationally recognized expert on divorce and children’s adjustment and interventions designed to assist parents and enhance resiliency in children. Dr. Kelly has been studying the impact of divorce on children since 1968. She is an author, therapist, mediator, and parenting coordinator with four decades of experience working with high conflict parents who are separating.

Dr. Kelly shares her insights and wisdom on telling your children about your divorce-- providing script ideas and important messages. She will guide you through the conversation and preparation you need to do. Having this conversation is not one most parents want to have, as only 5% of parents actually sit down and explain to their children about this significant change in their life. Yet, telling your children about separation and divorce is critical if you truly want to do what is in your children’s best interest, and minimize the negative effects of divorce on children.

To obtain more information on talking about separation and divorce and to purchase Dr. Kelly’s booklet: What Should We Tell the Children, written for the Association of American Matrimonial Lawyers contact www.aaml.org

Topics in this program include:

Why is it so important to talk with your children at this time
Why do parents find it so difficult to talk with their children?
Preparing to talk with your children about the separation
What to say to your children and how do you say it?
What to say to your children about why you are separating

How to Co-Parent Peacefully for Your Children Jul 14, 2011

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From the "Best of DSR" series comes Co-Parenting Peacefully for Your Children. This has been one of the most listened to programs on DSR.

If you’ve decided to separate or get a divorce and have children, your next important decision should be about co-parenting. Divorce may be the end of a marriage, but it is not the end of the family. People who separate but continue to work cooperatively as parents give their children the best chances for a smooth adjustment to living in two separate households and continued growth.

Psychologist, Dr. Larry Friedberg shows us ways to communicate with your ex without hostility for the good of your children.

Learn how to:

Be respectful of your ex spouse.
Resolve conflicts and discuss major issues privately, not in front of the children.
Not confide, complain or grumble about your ex to your kids – you need family, friends or a therapist for that role.
Not use our kids as messengers between you and the other parent.
Assure our kids that both parents will listen to feelings and address needs cooperatively.

Divorce in Ireland - Perhaps our system isn't so bad after all Jul 08, 2011

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So you think divorce in America is difficult? Well, believe it or not, divorce in other countries is even more challenging than in the States.

In this program, Steve Peck speaks with Liz, from Ireland, who explains how difficult divorce is in her country. Liz speaks with first-hand experience, as she just recently received her divorce, seven years after filing.

In Ireland, women are at a tremendous disadvantage, as spousal support is rarely provided by the courts, leaving women to fend for themselves. Divorce Source Radio legal correspondent, Henry Gornbein, joins us as we explore the vast differences in our legal systems.

No Fault Divorce - Is This Good for Society? Jul 05, 2011

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Debate may never resolve whether fault based marital conduct codes once were a positive force for stability in marriage, or solely the focus of ever greater contentiousness in divorce process. One thing is certain. They are gone. Their vestiges may remain on the face of a few statutes in some states, but their force in law is no more.

Yet, marital conduct codes expressed in terms of grounds or fault were inarguably important in at least one sense. The very existence of these legally enforceable standards mitigated the risk of investing in marriage. Compliance with those minimum standards ensured that marriage would be protected by law, that the investment in marriage would be secure. Conversely no fault in its essence is a system without standards, a code without relation to conduct. Unavoidably, the process it spawned left marriage without protection. In eliminating the problems of fault based divorce, the good was thrown out with the bad, the baby with the bath water.

Divorce happens to good spouses because the rules of marriage changed; more appropriately speaking, the rules were thrown out. As such, marriage today is sacrificed on the altar of expediency in a court process that simply finds it more efficient to divorce people than to examine the merits of marital commitment. In exchange for less stress in court, we have more injustice for marriage. This is by design. Divorce happens to good spouses because the law no longer cares to distinguish between right and wrong, good and bad in marriage. - Kevin Senich

In this episode, Attorney Kevin Senich discusses no-fault divorce, divorce reform and the need for education as a means of keeping the family unit together.

Real Estate Issues During Divorce Jul 02, 2011

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One of the first things that needs to be dealt with after entering the divorce process is the division of assets. For most people, their homes and rental properties are at the top of the list and this is not an something to take lightly.

Our guest is Randy Morrow, a Certified Real Estate Divorce Specialist. Randy approaches divorce realty with a collaborative attitude. It isn’t just about helping divorcing couples sell their homes, it is about the selling experience for the clients during the divorce; and what happens to the clients after the divorce.

Having gone through the terrible ordeal of divorce himself; and then the years following as he uncovered and battled to overcome the layers of self-doubt; lack of confidence; low self-esteem; facing up to fears, etc.; Randy passes on these lessons to his clients (if they choose to talk about them) so that the healing in their lives can improve faster.

Topics in the program include:

· The difference between a typical realtor and a Certified Real Estate Divorce Specialist

· Should you keep of sell the house?

· Splitting rental propertiies in a divorce

· What happens if one of the spouses owned the home prior to the marriage?

· What to do if you owe more than the home is worth?

· Is bankruptcy an option?

And much more, including Randy's own personal wisdom learned from going this same path.

For more on Randy Morrow, visit: http://www.novapropertydivorce.com/Randy_Morrow_Realtor/Home.html

The Parental Divorce Reduction Act Jun 27, 2011

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As a specialist in family law for over 40 years, Henry Gornbein strongly believes that a divorce should be the last resort, not the first resort, and that too many people file for divorce, often for the wrong reasons. The Parental Divorce Reduction Act's purpose is to reduce unnecessary divorce, decrease parental conflict and litigation surrounding a divorce, and educate parents regarding the impact of divorce on families.

As a practitioner with extensive experience over many years specializing in family law, Henry has concerns, because many marriages have an imbalance of power between the parties. Often, one spouse is very controlling, and the other spouse feels powerless While Henry believes there is a lot that is good in the proposed legislation to reform marriage and save as many marriages as possible he discusses his concerns and reservations in this episode.

Saving Marriages and Divorce Reform Jun 09, 2011

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Our guest, Chris Gersten (http://www.divorcereform.info/), is a former high ranking official in the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, serving in both Bush administraions. He was responsible for launching the Federal government's Healthy Marriage Initiative, creating a national organization to reform divorce laws in the U.S. and educate the public about the impact of divorce.

The result is the launch of the Coalition for Divorce Reform, formed in order to increase awareness of the negative impact of divorce, encourage discussion and debate about the effect of divorce on our culture, and support passage of divorce reform legislation. Topics in this program include:

• How the Coalition for Divorce Reform is trying to make a difference • Why marriage counseling does not work; education and alternatives • The importance of marriage education and the potential to save marriage • The importance of a waiting period before filing for divorce • Understanding relationships, the impact of divorce and so much more

The Internet, Social Media and Pornography's Role in Divorce May 31, 2011

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Sex addiction is a problem that is sweeping the nation and one of the leading causes of marital conflict and divorce.

Certified Sex Addiction Therapist, Dr. Kenneth Adams, is our guest and discusses what we can do to recognize this behavior and what we need to do to seek help.

Topics in The Program Include:

Could you or your spouse be a sex addict?
What causes someone to become addicted to sex?
How sex addiction affects relationships
What to do if you are the partner of a sex addict
The clues to look for that might indicate that you or your spouse are a sex addict
Available treatment options and much more.

Lessons Learned from the Terminator - The Schwarzenegger Case May 29, 2011

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Everyone's talking about the Schwarzenegger divorce. After twenty five years, Aronol and Maria Shriver have separated and appear to be heading towards divorce.

After leaving office as Governor of California, news broke that Arnold has another child from an anfair with one of his staff members. And now as each day passes, we learn more about other alleged affairs Arnold may have had.

Affairs have played a roll in many divorces, so what can we learn from the Terminator's case? In this program, attorney Henry Gornbein provides his thoughts on this widely popular affair.

The Fight to Save a Marriage and Thoughts on Divorce Reform May 18, 2011

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When Beverly Willett was faced with divorce she did something few have tried... challenging the divorce in court. She wanted desperately to save her marriage and avoid divorce. Beverly has extensive knowledge about the judicial system, both from her research and personal experience, and is passionate about divorce reform.

Beverly www.beverlywillett.com, is an author and former attorney. Her articles about divorce, marriage and parenting have appeared in many publications, including The New York Times, Newsweek, Woman’s Day, Family Circle, Prevention, Salon.com, Parenting and The Daily Beast. She’s a regular contributor to The Huffington Post Divorce page, a former Contributing Editor to Chicken Soup for the Soul Magazine, and a long-time advisor to Parentalwisdom.com. For the past year, she has been consulting with groups and individuals about divorce reform on a pro bono basis. She is the chair of the advisory committee for the Coalition for Divorce Reform. (http://www.divorcereform.info/)

Topics in this program include:

• The Impossible Dream: The Fight to Save Beverly’s Marriage • Giving up on your career for your children • The differences and flaws between No Fault vs. Fault Divorce • When mom’s break up: Coping with the loss of friendships post divorce • How the Coalition for Divorce Reform is making a difference.

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